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diff --git a/76799-0.txt b/76799-0.txt new file mode 100644 index 0000000..3189d48 --- /dev/null +++ b/76799-0.txt @@ -0,0 +1,6740 @@ + +*** START OF THE PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK 76799 *** + + +[Illustration: + + Mrs. WALTER BOWNE + + From a miniature by Malbone, in possession of W. B. Lawrence + + ARTOTYPE, E. BIERSTADT, N. Y. +] + + + + + A GIRL’S LIFE EIGHTY YEARS AGO + SELECTIONS FROM THE LETTERS OF ELIZA SOUTHGATE BOWNE + + + WITH AN INTRODUCTION BY CLARENCE COOK + + _ILLUSTRATED WITH PORTRAITS AND VIEWS_ + + + NEW YORK + CHARLES SCRIBNER’S SONS + 1887 + + + + + Copyright, 1887, + BY CHARLES SCRIBNER’S SONS. + + + _The Riverside Press, Cambridge_: + Electrotyped and Printed by H. O. Houghton & Co. + + + + + LIST OF ILLUSTRATIONS + + + _MRS. WALTER BOWNE_ _Frontispiece_ + _Miniature by Malbone_ + + _Facing Page_ + _DR. ROBERT SOUTHGATE—MRS. SOUTHGATE_ _5_ + _From Silhouettes in the possession of W. B. + Lawrence, Esq._ + + _MRS. JOHN DERBY_ (_Eleanor Coffin_) _22_ + _Miniature by Malbone, in possession of Miss + Rogers, of Boston_ + + _RUFUS KING_ _42_ + _From a painting by Woods_ + + _MRS. RUFUS KING_ _68_ + _After a portrait by Trumbull_ + + _MR. E. HASKET DERBY, OF SALEM_ (_Æt. 28, 1794_) _110_ + _From a Miniature in possession of Dr. Hasket + Derby, of Boston_ + + _MRS. RICHARD DERBY_ (_Martha Coffin_) _116_ + _Miniature by Malbone, in possession of Mrs. + Peabody, of Boston_ + + _THE VAN RENSSELAER MANOR HOUSE_ _130_ + + _MR. WALTER BOWNE_ _140_ + _Miniature by Malbone_ + + _THE LYMAN PLACE—WALTHAM_ _148_ + + _LUCIA WADSWORTH—ZILPAH WADSWORTH_ _159_ + _From Silhouettes in the possession of W. B. + Lawrence, Esq._ + + _SUNSWICK—THE DELAFIELD HOUSE, HELL GATE, LONG ISLAND_ _167_ + + _THE BOWNE HOUSE, FLUSHING_ _195_ + _Erected 1661_ + + _JAMES GORE KING_ _206_ + _From a Miniature in the possession of A. Gracie King, Esq._ + + _CHARLES KING_ _210_ + _From a Miniature in the possession of his + daughter, Mrs. Martin._ + + + + + INTRODUCTION. + + +Eliza Southgate, the writer of the letters here collected, was the +daughter of Robert and Mary Southgate, and was born in Scarborough, Me., +September 24, 1783. She was the third in a family of twelve children. +Her father came of English stock, and was born in Leicester, Mass., +where his family had long been settled. Here he studied medicine, and +when he had finished his course he left his native place, where there +appeared to be no room for another practitioner, and settled in +Scarborough. We are told that, after the primitive fashion of the time, +he set out to seek his fortune on horseback, with all his worldly goods +in a pair of saddle-bags. In this way he entered Scarborough, where his +character and talents were not long in getting him a good position. He +had picked up some law, and in a new and small community was able to +make his knowledge useful, so that in course of time he was appointed a +Judge in the Court of Common Pleas. + +He had not been long in Scarborough before he married Mary, the daughter +of Richard King, a large landholder in the District of Maine. “Pretty +Polly King,” as Mary was familiarly called by her friends, was the +second daughter of Mr. King by his first wife. The eldest child by this +marriage was Rufus—well known for the distinguished part he played in +the early history of our country. A third child, Pauline, married Mr. +Porter; their son Moses, whose name often occurs in these letters, was a +young man of great promise. He engaged his cousin Eliza in a +correspondence, after the somewhat formal fashion of the time; only her +letters remain to indicate its character, but they are among her best. +In her lively tilting on the well-worn subject of the education of the +sexes, the lady shows herself a clever mistress of the foils, and there +are not wanting indications that the combatants did not escape from the +encounter heart-whole. But however this may have been, all was ended by +the sudden death of Mr. Porter from a fever caught in boarding an +infected vessel in the transaction of some necessary business. + +Scarborough was not a large town, but its position as a seaport gave it +some importance, and the society was far above what is ordinarily met +with in such places. The Hunnewells, Bragdons, Bacons, Emersons, +Wadsworths, names that are distinguished in the social history of New +England, belong to the early settlers of the neighborhood, and are still +represented there. Zilpah, one of the daughters of General Peleg +Wadsworth, who are frequently mentioned in these letters, married +Stephen Longfellow, a cousin of Mrs. Southgate, and became the mother of +the poet, Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. + +The Southgates gave their children the best education to be had in those +times. They were first sent to school in Scarborough; but, later, were +placed—to be “finished,” as the old phrase was—at boarding-schools near +Boston. When she was fourteen years old, Eliza was sent to a school at +Medford, and a letter written from that place gives a rather +uncomfortable notion of her surroundings. In these few childish lines, +however, the character of the woman is plainly prefigured—her +observation, her power of clear, terse statement, her playful humor, her +cheerful submission to duty, and her affection for her parents, making +her willing to put up with whatever was disagreeable rather than give +them uneasiness. However, Dr. Southgate, as a physician, could see that +a school where the pupils slept, four beds in a small chamber and two in +a bed, was not the place for a growing girl, and he therefore took his +daughter away and put her at the school at Medford, kept by Mrs. Rowson. +This, for its time, was an excellent school, and Miss Southgate remained +there until the day came when “studies” were to be thrown aside, and +“life” was to begin. She seems by her letters to have been very happy +while under Mrs. Rowson’s care—the varied and somewhat romantic life led +by that lady perhaps fitted her, better than would have been thought, to +be the guide and friend of a girl of Eliza Southgate’s peculiar +character.[1] + +Her life after she left school is so fully described in her letters that +there is no need of following it in detail. She tells her own story far +better than another could do it, and much that would inevitably be dull +and commonplace narrated in plain prose, sparkles with life under the +swift pen of this lively girl. She tells of her visit to Saratoga, with +her friends Mr. and Mrs. Hasket Derby; and no school-girl of our time, +writing from Paris or London, could describe the wonders of her tour +with greater ecstasy. She sees this new corner of the world with the +miracle-working eye of youth, and accepts everything with youth’s +unquestioning heart. Previous letters had described Salem in terms +equally ecstatic, and after her account of the country-seat of the +Derbys, there could be nothing left to say of Versailles or St. Cloud. +But what then? Was not this a fine old country-house, with its formal +garden, its provincial but still solid stateliness, and, above all, with +its hearty, cheerful hospitality? It was our heroine’s first glimpse of +the gay world of fashion of her time, and she enjoyed it to the full. + +The story of her first meeting with her future husband, of her +engagement to him, of their wedding-journey, is told with the simplicity +and unaffected candor that were characteristic of her. The letter to her +mother in which she asks her consent to the marriage, shows mother and +daughter in the happiest light; it is the highest praise that could be +awarded the training the Southgates had given their children. Perfect +love had bred perfect confidence, and it is certainly pleasant to know +that the hearts and judgments of the parents could only confirm the +decision of their daughter. Mr. Walter Bowne was everything that the +most exacting parents could wish as the husband of a daughter so dear to +them. + +But the new life of happiness thus entered upon was brief, and in a few +months more than six years it had come to an end. In 1803 Mr. Bowne and +Miss Southgate were married. In 1806 their first child, a boy, named +Walter, after his father, was born; and two years later, in July, 1808, +came their second child, a girl, named Mary, after Mrs. Bowne’s mother. +After the birth of this child, Mrs. Bowne did not recover her strength, +and as winter was coming on, the medical men recommended a sea-voyage +and a visit to a warmer climate. It was determined to send the invalid +to Charleston, S. C.; and accordingly Mrs. Bowne set out, accompanied by +her sister Octavia and her husband, Mr. Browne, leaving Mr. Bowne in New +York, where he had some business-affairs to settle before he should join +his wife later in the season. Unhappily, the sea-voyage proved a +disastrous experiment; and when the party arrived at Charleston, Mrs. +Bowne was in so enfeebled a condition from its effects that her sister +gave up all hope of saving her life. She failed rapidly, and died on the +20th of February, only two months after her arrival. Mr. Bowne, who, in +common with her family, had probably no idea of the serious nature of +his wife’s illness when she left New York, yet made all the haste he +could to follow her, but had the inexpressible grief to arrive too late. +His only consolation was in the fact that her suffering had been brief, +and that her departure was serene, while all that a sister’s +affectionate devotion could avail to comfort her had been given without +stint from a full heart; and even strangers in a strange city had been +moved, by the beauty and loveliness of this young mother, and by her +pitiful case, deprived of husband and children, to shield her and cheer +her with all that the warmhearted Southern hospitality knows so well to +bestow. She was buried in Charleston and her grave was hid in flowers +sent by the people of the town and the neighboring plantations, many of +whom had only heard her name and story. + + +There is little need for an editor’s help in following the story of the +life which these letters portray. They are, in fact, an almost complete +diary of that life, for the earliest bears date when the writer was a +child at boarding-school, and the last was written only a few days +before she died. Of the years that came between, the record is almost +uninterrupted; so that the task confided to me resolves itself into +little more than a statement of the few facts connected with the +personal and family history of their author, that naturally have no +place in the letters themselves. + +No doubt we have gained much, so far as the material convenience of the +great public life is concerned, from the inventions that, for all +practical purposes, have reduced time and space to comparative +insignificance. We have, however, lost some good things, which those who +lived in younger days must always regret, and for which there is small +compensation in the material gain we have received in exchange. Among +these losses, that of letter-writing is perhaps the most serious. A +whole world of innocent enjoyment for contemporaries and for posterity +has been blotted out, and, so far as appears, nothing is taking its +place. Is it the newspapers? But how scattered, how disjointed, how +impersonal, the record they contain! We might as well hope to recall the +charm of some old garden loved in youth, by turning over the leaves of a +_herbarium_ in which its flowers had been pressed, as to make the +domestic life of a time gone by, live again in reading the files of a +newspaper. Nor do memoirs or biographies give us what we want. They are +too formal, too self-conscious; they want the spontaneity, the vividness +of impression, the lightness of the recording hand. These things letters +give us, and letters alone. + +Science has many fairy-tales to tell us, but the most magical of all her +inventions is that toy, the phonograph, invented by our own Edison. It +listens to the words that are whispered in its ear, to the songs that +are sung to it, to the gossip that buzzes about it, and the record made +on its revolving surface, replaced at any time upon the cylinder—after +the lapse of an hour, or of a hundred years—will repeat what has been +confided to it in the very voice of the speaker, with every tone and +every inflection as clear as when first it spoke. + +Familiar letters are privileged to play the same magical part. To the +readers of successive generations, they speak with the living voice of +the writer; they recall the fugitive emotions, the joys, the sorrows, +the whims, the passions, and as we read we persuade ourselves that we +are part and parcel of the times they record. + +What a difference in our enjoyment it would make, were the letters of +Fanny Burney and Horace Walpole taken from us! Even Hannah More becomes +entertaining; for though her circle was a narrow one, there were +delightful people in it, and the letters make us at home in her little +world, as no formal biography could do. + +Nowadays no one writes letters, and no one would have time to read them +if they were written. Little notes fly back and forth, like swallows, +between friend and friend, between parent and child, carrying the news +of the day in small morsels easily digested; it is not worth while to +tell the whole story with the pen, when it can be told in a few weeks, +at the farthest, with the voice. For nobody now is more than a few weeks +from anywhere. In the spring my neighbor came home with his wife from +the Philippine Islands, to pass a few weeks with his friends and hers. +Yesterday he ran back to the islands, to buckle to business again. Why +take the trouble while here to detail the gossip of his home-circle to +his Philippine friends, in letters, when in a fortnight or so he would +be recounting it to them at their own tables? + +The letters here printed have more than the interest of contemporary +records; they paint in words, with a thousand delicate and expressive +touches, the portrait of a lively and beautiful girl, with a character +as striking and individual as the face that Malbone has drawn for us on +ivory. Never was a reigning beauty more spirited, never was a spirited +girl of fashion more truly lovable, than Eliza Bowne. Whether she be at +boarding-school, writing letters to her “honored parents,” and hiding +her little homesick heart in vain under the formal phrases dictated by +the starched decorum of the day; or stealing an hour for her pen amid +the whirl of the gay world in which she sparkled, such a cheerful star, +and rattling off to her mother the story of the day’s doings—she is +always the same generous, unselfish creature; impulsive, but with her +impulses well in hand; a heart brimming over with mirth, its clear +crystal clouded by no drop of malice; witty, but with a friendly glint +in her mischievous eyes, even when, as now and then happens, she gives +formality or presumption a fillip. Love and friendship followed her +wherever she went in her too brief span of life, and fortune heaped her +girlish lap with all good things; but she showed herself worthy of her +blessings, and kept herself unspotted from the world. + +Something should be said of the literary merit of these letters. The +name of Richardson has been mentioned; but Richardson never wrote +anything so fresh from the heart, so playful in their sincerity, as some +of the letters to her cousin, Moses Porter; nor could Richardson have +touched with so light a hand the story of the drive home in the +snow-storm after the Assembly ball, or the account of the game of Loo, +when, with a fluttering heart, she stands, divided between the eager +desire to read the letter she has just slipped into her pocket, and the +impatient calls of her partners to join them at the game. Fanny Burney, +and Fanny Burney alone, could have written letters like these. + +They are not, however, the letters of a practised writer, nor was there +ever in her mind any thought of publication. It was the age of +“epistolary correspondence:” all the girls of Miss Southgate’s +acquaintance were writing letters to their friends, long ones, often, +made up in the manner of a diary, with a week’s doings recorded day by +day; for postage was dear, and to send blank paper an extravagance, and +no doubt, like her friends, she forgot her letters as soon as they were +sent off. Her correspondents were not so indifferent, however, and they +kept her letters carefully. Her mother, to whom the most of them were +written, left those sent to herself as a bequest to her granddaughter, +Mrs. John W. Lawrence, the “little Mary” of the later letters. Mrs. +Bowne died in the same year in which this daughter was born; but her +sister-in-law, Miss Caroline Bowne, who devoted herself to the care of +the little girl after her mother’s death, instilled into her heart such +an affection for her parent’s memory that she came to cherish it with an +almost religious devotion, and guarded as a sacred relic everything that +had belonged to her. To the letters left her by her grandmother, Mrs. +Lawrence added all she could collect from other persons with whom her +mother had corresponded. They came to her in a sad state, from much +reading and passing about from hand to hand; and to preserve their +contents she copied the whole collection, with the greatest care, in her +neat, methodical handwriting, into two small books, and these, in her +turn, she bequeathed to her children, as her grandmother had bequeathed +the originals to her. + +They are now given to the public, enriched with a considerable number of +contemporary portraits and other illustrations, carefully reproduced +from original miniatures and old prints; and with an abundance of +biographical notes, industriously collected by a competent hand, which +cannot fail to be of value to the social chronicler of our time. While +the importance of these letters as illustrations of the domestic life of +our country at a most interesting time is considerable, their chief +value, after all, lies in the picture they give of the writer. It is a +picture drawn, as we have said, with a thousand graceful touches, and +the natural girlish loveliness of the portraiture shows best when it is +read from end to end. Then, as we look up from the printed page to +Malbone’s portrait, the vision takes shape: + + “A hair-brained, sentimental trace + Was strongly markèd in her face; + A wildly witty, rustic grace + Shone full upon her; + Her eye, even turned on empty space, + Beamed keen with honour.” + + CLARENCE COOK. + + FISHKILL-ON-HUDSON, + October 1, 1887. + + + + + A GIRL’S LIFE EIGHTY YEARS AGO + + + Medford, Jan. 23, 1797. + + My Mamma: + +I went to Boston last Saturday, and there I received your letter. I have +now to communicate to you only my wishes to tarry in Boston a quarter, +if convenient. In my last letter to my Father I did not say anything +respecting it because I did not wish Mrs. Wyman to know I had an +inclination to leave her school, but only because I thought you would +wish me to come home when my quarter was out. I have a great desire to +see my family, but I have a still greater desire to finish my education. + +Still I have to beg you to remind my friends and acquaintances that I +remain the same Eliza, and that I bear the same love I ever did to them, +whether they have forgotten me or not. + +Tell my little Brothers and Sisters I want to see them very much indeed. +Write me an answer as soon as you can conveniently. I shall send you +some of my work which you never have seen,—it is my Arithmetic. + +Permit me, my Honored Mother, to claim the title of + + Your affectionate daughter, + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Mrs. Mary Southgate. + + Medford, May 12, 1797. + + Honored Parents: + +With pleasure I sit down to the best of parents to inform them of my +situation, as doubtless they are anxious to hear,—permit me to tell them +something of my foolish heart. When I first came here I gave myself up +to reflection, but not pleasing reflections. When Mr. Boyd[2] left me I +burst into tears and instead of trying to calm my feelings I tried to +feel worse. I begin to feel happier and will soon gather up all my +Philosophy and think of the duty that now attends me, to think that here +I may drink freely of the fountain of knowledge, but I will not dwell +any longer on this subject. I am not doing anything but writing, +reading, and cyphering. There is a French Master coming next Monday, and +he will teach French and Dancing. William Boyd and Mr. Wyman advise me +to learn French, yet if I do at all I wish you to write me very soon +what you think best, for the school begins on Monday. Mr. Wyman says it +will not take up but a very little of my time, for it is but two days in +the week, and the lessons only 2 hours long. Mr. Wyman says I must learn +Geometry before Geography, and that I better not begin it till I have +got through my Cyphering. + +[Illustration: + + DR. ROBERT SOUTHGATE MRS. SOUTHGATE + + From Silhouettes in the possession of W. B. Lawrence, Esq. +] + +We get up early in the morning and make our beds and sweep the chamber, +it is a chamber about as large as our kitchen chamber, and a little +better finished. There’s 4 beds in the chamber, and two persons in each +bed, we have chocolate for breakfast and supper. + + Your affectionate Daughter + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Medford, May 25, 1797. + + My dear Parents: + +I hope I am in some measure sensible of the great obligation I am under +to you for the inexpressible kindness and attention which I have +received of you from the cradle to my present situation in school. Many +have been your anxious cares for the welfare of me, your child, at every +stage and period of my inexperienced life to the present moment. In my +infancy you nursed and reared me up, my inclinations you have indulged +and checked my follies—have liberally fed me with the bounty of your +table, and from your instructive lips I have been admonished to virtue, +morality, and religion. The debt of gratitude I owe you is great, yet I +hope to repay you by duly attending to your counsels and to my +improvement in useful knowledge. + + My thankful heart with grateful feelings beat, + With filial duty I my Parents greet, + Your fostering care hath reared me from my birth, + And been my Guardians, since I’ve been on earth, + With love unequalled taught the surest way, + And Check’d my passions when they went astray. + I wish and trust to glad declining years,— + Make each heart gay—each eye refrain from tears. + When days are finished and when time shall cease + May you be wafted to eternal peace + +Is the sincere wish of your dutiful Daughter, + + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Robert Southgate Esqr. & Lady. + + Medford, June 13, 1797. + + Dear Mother: + +With what pleasure did I receive your letter and hear the praises of an +approving Mother! It shall be my study to please and make you happy. You +said you hoped that I was not disappointed in learning French; I hope +you think that I have too much _love_ and _reverence_ for my Parents to +take any thing amiss that _they_ thought most proper for me. I was very +happy to hear that you had received the bonnets, and I hope they will +suit you. I have never received a letter from Horatio[3] since I have +been here. I expect to begin Geometry as soon as I have done Cyphering, +which I hope will be soon, for I have got as far as Practice. Tell +Isabella[4] and Mama[5] King, that some letters from them would give me +great pleasure and that I hope to experience it soon. I should have +written to Mama King, but I had not time, but I intend to, the first +opportunity. I have found the nubs and sent them to Portland. I received +your letter by my Brother Boyd, and was very much surprised to hear that +Octavia[6] was going to have the small-pox. Please to give my love to +Harriet Emerson, and Mary Rice, and tell them that I intend to write to +them very soon and shall expect some letters from them. Give my love to +all my friends and tell them that I often think on them, and I hope they +will not forget your affectionate daughter + + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Mrs. Mary Southgate. + + Medford, August 11, 1797. + + Dear Parents: + +It is a long time since I received a letter from home, and I have +neglected my duty in not writing to you oftener. I shall send you with +this some of my Pieces, and you will see if you think I have improved +any: the Epitaph on the Hon. Thomas Russell was the first one that I +wrote. My brother Boyd never came to see me when he was up, only called +and delivered me the letter. I have never heard any thing since from +Boston, nor seen any of my acquaintance from there. I have not been to +Boston since Election. I expected to have gone to Commencement, but I +did not. I fear that the time allotted for my stay here will be too +short for me to go so far as I wish, for I shall have to go much farther +in Arithmetic than I had an idea of, then go over it again in a large +book of my own writing; for my Instructor does not wish to give me a +superficial knowledge only. He says if I am very diligent; he thinks +that 9 months from the time I came will _do_, if I can’t stay longer; I +should feel happy, and very grateful, if you thought proper to let me +tarry that time. I have Cyphered now farther than Isabella did, for I +have been thro’ Practice, the Rule of Three and Interest and two or +three rules that I never did before. + +I would thank you to write me word if you are willing for me to stay so +long. With wishing you health and all the happiness which you are +capable of enjoying, permit me to subscribe myself + +Your affectionate and most dutiful Daughter + + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Mr. & Mrs. Southgate. + + Medford, Aug. 14, 1797. + + Dear Mother: + +I am very sorry for your trouble, and sympathize with you in it. I now +regret being from home, more than ever, for I think I might be of +service to you now the children are sick. I hope they will be as much +favored in their sickness _now_, as they were when they had the measles. +I am very sorry that Jane has broken her arm, for it generally causes a +long confinement, and I fear she has not got patience enough to bear it +without a great deal of trouble. I suppose that Isabella will be very +much worried about her babe. I would thank you to write me very often +now—for I shall be very anxious about the children. I believe I have got +some news to tell you, that is, I have found one of your acquaintance, +and relation; it is a Mrs. _Sawyer_, before she was married she was +Polly King, and she says that you kept at their house when you was in +Boston. I believe I have nothing more to request, only for you to give +my love to all the children, and _kiss_ each of them for _me_, and tell +them to be as patient as they can. Give my respects to my Father and +tell him I want to receive a letter from him very much. + +I am your affectionate and dutiful daughter + + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Mrs. Mary Southgate. + + Medford, August 25, 1797. + + Dear Mother: + +I received your packet of things the 20th inst. and was very glad of +them. If you will be so kind as to send me word whether Sarah’s[7] +ear-rings were in the basket, I will be much obliged to you. I have +forgotten whether I did or not—write me word if you like your bonnet and +the children’s, I hope you do. + +Give my love to Sarah and all the children, and kiss Arixene,[8] and +Robert for me. Never did I know the worth of good parents half so much +as now I am from them; I never missed our closet so much, and above all +things our cheese and Butter which we have but very little of, but I am +very contented. I wish you would send me up my patterns all of them for +I want them very much indeed, for I expect to work me a gown. + + I am with due respect + Your dutiful daughter + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Mrs. Mary Southgate. + + Medford, Sept. 30, 1797. + + Dear Mother: + +You mentioned in yours, of the 16th inst. that it was a long time since +you had received a letter from me; but it was owing to my studies which +took up the greater part of my time; for I have been busy in my +Arithmetic, but I finished it yesterday, and expect now to begin my +large manuscript Arithmetic. You say that you shall regret so long an +absence; not more certainly than I shall, but a strong desire to possess +more useful knowledge than I at present do, I can dispense with the +pleasure a little longer of beholding my friends and I hope I shall be +better prepared to meet my good parents towards whom my heart overflows +with gratitude. You mentioned in your letter about my Winter clothes of +which I will make out a Memorandum. I shall want a coat and you may send +it up for me to make, or you may make it your self, but I want it made +loose with a belt. I wish you to send me enough of all my slips to make +long sleeves that you can, and I wish you would pattern my dark slip to +make long sleeves. I want a flannel waist, and a petticoat, for my white +one dirts so quick that I had rather have a colored one. I have nothing +more to write, only give my love to all who ask after me. I have just +received a letter from Horatio, he is very well. + + Your ever affectionate daughter + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Mrs. Mary Southgate. + + Medford, Oct. 17, 1797. + + Dear Brother: + +Yours of the 11th of Sept. was gratefully received by your affectionate +Sister; and your excuse at first I thought not very good, but now I +think it very good, for I have been plagued very much myself. William +Boyd came from Portland about a fortnight since and by him I was +informed that Sister Isabella’s child was very sick and he was in doubt +whether it would ever get over it. I feel for Isabella much more than I +can tell you who is but just entered the bonds of Matrimony should so +soon have sickness, and perhaps Death, be one of the guests of her +family. I was also informed that the children had all got over the +hooping cough and that Octavia was much healthier than she was before +she had the small-pox. By my last letter from home Papa informed me that +I might tarry all Winter and I have concluded to. I suppose you would +like to know how I spend my time here. I shall answer, very well; my +going abroad is chiefly in Boston, for I don’t go out much in Medford. +It was vacation about a week since and I spent it in Boston very +agreeably. + +I keep at Mr. Boyd’s when I am there, and Mrs. Little’s. I go to Boston +every public day as Mr. B. is so good as to send for me. I am very fond +of that family and likewise Mrs. Little’s. You speak of my writing and +you think that I have improved. I am glad of it. I hope I shall make as +great progress in my other studies and be an “Accomplished Miss.” + +Horatio do write very soon; will you? + + Adieu! your affectionate Sister + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Horatio Southgate. + + Medford, Nov. 10, 1797. + +You mentioned in your letter, my dear mother, that Cousin Mary informed +you that I expected to go to the Ball. I did think that I should go but +I altered my mind; I had 2 or 3 invitations but I would not accept of +any of them. My cloak likewise you mentioned something about, which I +shall attend to when I go to Boston. I expect to go to Boston at +Thanksgiving, for there is a vacation of a week. I had a letter from +_Horatio_ yesterday, he was well. Isabella wrote me word that my Father +had got the Rheumatism very bad, which I am sorry to hear. If the wishes +or prayers of Eliza would heal the wound, it would not long remain +unheal’d. + +My love to all the children, tell them I don’t dare to tell them how +much I want to see them, nor even think. My love to all that ask after +me. May all the happiness that is possible for you to enjoy be +experienced is the sincere wish of + + Your affectionate Daughter + ELIZA S. + + Mrs. Mary Southgate. + + Medford, Dec. 16, 1797. + + My Dear Father: + +I received yours with pleasure and was happy to hear that you were +better. I hope you will continue growing better until the complaint is +entirely removed. I came from Boston yesterday after spending vacation +there. I went to the theater the night before for the first time, and +Mr. Turner came into the box where I was. I did not know him at first, +neither did he me, but he soon found me out. With this I shall send some +pieces. My respect is justly due to my good Mother, and my love to all +who ask after me, the children in particular. I hope to improve to your +satisfaction, which will amply reward me for all my pains. + +I must conclude with wishing you health and happiness. + + Your ever affectionate daughter, E. S. + + Medford, Jan’y 9th, 1798. + + My Good Father: + +The contents of your letter surprised me at first; it may sometimes be +of service to me, for while I have such a monitor, I never can act +contrary to such advice. No, my Father, I hope by the help of Heaven +never to cause shame or misery to attend the grey hairs of my Parents +nor myself, but on the contrary to _glad_ your declining years with +happiness and that you may never have cause to rue the day that gave me +existence. My heart feels no attachment except to my family. I respect +many of my friends but _love_ none but my Parents. Your letter shall be +my guide from home, and when I again behold our own peaceful mansion +then will I again be guided by my Parents’ happiness,—their happiness +shall be my pursuit. My heart overflows with gratitude toward you and my +good Mother. I am sensible of the innumerable obligations I am under to +you. You mention in your letter about my pieces, which you say you +imagine are purloined; I am very sorry if they are, for I set more by +them than any of my pieces; one was the Mariner’s Compass, and the other +was a Geometrical piece. I spent Thanksgiving at Mrs. Little’s and +Christmas here. I have finished my large Manuscript Arithmetic and want +to get it bound, and then I shall send it to you. I have done a small +Geometry book and shall begin a large one to-morrow, such a one as you +saw at Mr. Wyman’s if you remember. It is the beginning of a new year; +allow me then to pay you the compliments of the season.—I pray that this +year to you may prove a year of health, prosperity, and love. My quarter +will be out the 8th day of next month, it will be in about four weeks. I +wish you would write me soon how I am to come home—for I wish to know. + +I should be very glad if _you_ could make it convenient to come for me, +for I wish _you_ to come. Give my love to Irene and tell her I believe +she owes me a letter; if you please you may tell her that part of my +letter which concerns school affairs. + +My love is due to all who will take the trouble to ask after me. Tell +Mamma I have begun the turban and will send it as soon as I finish it. +When I see her I will tell her why I did not do it before. + +Accept my sincere wishes that My Parents may enjoy all the happiness +that ever mortals know. + + Still I hope I am + Your _dutiful_ Daughter, + ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Robert Southgate, Esq. + + Boston, Jan. 30, 1798. + + My Honored Father: + +By Capt. Bradbury I was informed that you wished me to come home with +him, which I should have complied with, had not I have seen my Uncle +William[9] to-day, and he informed me that you had concluded to let me +spend some time in Boston, which I was very glad to hear. I shall now +wait until I hear certain, which I wish you to send me word by the next +post.—I shall enclose in this a card of Mrs. Rawson’s terms which you +may peruse; until then I remain with the same affection, + + Your dutiful Daughter, ELIZA S. + + Boston, February 13, 1798. + + Hon. Father: + +I am again placed at school under the tuition of an amiable lady, so +mild, so good, no one can help loving her; she treats all her scholars +with such a tenderness as would win the affection of the most savage +brute, tho’ scarcely able to receive an impression of the kind. I learn +Embroidery and Geography at present and wish your permission to learn +Musick. You may justly say, my best of Fathers, that every letter of +mine is one which is asking for something more; never contented—I only +ask, if you refuse me, I know you do what you think best, and I am sure +I ought not to complain, for you have never yet refused me anything that +I have asked, my best of Parents, how shall I repay you? You answer, by +your good behaviour. Heaven grant that it may be such as may repay you. +A year will have rolled over my head before I shall see my Parents. I +have ventured from them at an early age to be so long a time absent, but +I hope I have learnt a good lesson by it—a lesson of experience, which +is the best lesson I could learn. + +I have described one of the blessings of creation in Mrs. Rawson, and +now I will describe Mrs. Wyman as the reverse: she is the worst woman I +ever knew of all that I ever saw; nobody knows what I suffered from the +treatment of that woman—I had the misfortune to be a favorite with Miss +Haskell and Mr. Wyman, she said, and she treated me as her own malicious +heart dictated; but whatever is, is right, and I learnt a good lesson by +it. I wish you, my Father, to write an answer soon and let me know if I +may learn music.—Give my best respects to my good Mother, tho’ what I +say to my Father applies to my Mother as much as to my Father. May it +please the disposer of all events to return me safe home to the bosom of +my friends in health safely. I never was happier in my life I think, and +my heart overflows toward my heavenly Father for it; and may it please +him to continue it and afford it to my Parents, is the sincere wish of + + Your ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + Robert Southgate, Esqr. + + Boston, May 12th, 1798. + + My dear Parents: + +Now at the end of the week, when my hopes are almost exhausted of seeing +my brother, I attempt to address you,—a task which was once delightful +but now painful since my Mother’s last letter. I see my errors, and if I +can hope they will no longer be remembered by my Parents, I shall again +be happy. + +My Mother’s letter greatly surprised me after having received so +different a one from my Father. Indeed, my Parents, did you think I +would any longer cherish a passion _you_ disapproved? After expressing +your disapprobation it was enough, your _wishes are_ and ever shall be +my commands. I have spent a week of painful expectation; no letter, no +brother, no father have come, and I am now in anxious expectation to +receive a letter to-night, but I dare not hope it to be so. Do, my +Father, as soon as you receive this send for me as soon as possible, for +my quarter at Mrs. Rawson’s was out last Saturday, and as circumstances +are, I thought it proper not to go to Mr. Boyd’s. I beg of you to send +for me home directly, for I only board at Mrs. Rawson’s now, for I am in +expectation of seeing or hearing every day and therefore I have not +begun any more work. My time is spending without gain. I am at Mrs. +Frazier’s and have been here ever since Thursday. I shall go back to +Mrs. Rawson’s to-night and there wait for further orders. Time hangs +more heavy than ever it did before. I am with the most sincere Respect +and affection + + Your daughter ELIZA. + + R. & M. Southgate. + + Scarborough, Dec. 16th. + +I am sorry to have given Aunt Porter such an opportunity of charging me +with neglect in executing her commission, but I can easily convince her +I did not deserve censure; for until last Friday I never received yours +of Nov. 22nd, and I shall execute that part of Aunt’s request which I +can in Scarborough—the gown patterns I shall enclose. The one with a fan +back is meant to just meet before and pin the Robings, no string belt or +any thing. The other pattern is a plain waist with strips of the same +sticked on, and for white, laced between with bobbin or cord. I have a +muslin done so with black silk cord, which looks very handsome—and I +have altered my brown silk into one like the other pattern. I was over +at Saco yesterday and saw one Mary [King] had made in Boston. It was a +separate waist, or rather the breadths did not go quite up. The waist +was plain with one stripe of cording let in behind and the rest of the +waist perfectly plain—the skirt part was plaited in box plaits 3 of a +side—which reached to the shoulder strap and only enough left to meet +strait before, as is one of the patterns I have sent. You ask so many +questions that I hardly know how to answer them. Isabella is almost +recovered—her family well. The baby I believe will be named Charles +Orlando. The assemblies begin next Thursday—as also do Saco assemblies, +and on Friday I go to the Saco assembly—probably I shall go to next +Portland assembly. You ask how Mr. Little and Laura do? A strange +question. Laura is well or was last Thursday, and Mr. Little is soon to +be married to Miss Bowman of Exeter. + +Papa has been confined to the house a week yesterday by a wound on his +leg which he made with an axe, he wounded the tendon which leads from +his great toe up, he cut it a little above the ankle—it has been very +painful. Give my love to Aunt, tell her I shall not be able to come down +this winter, for my next visit will be to Boston. Write me the next +opportunity respecting the sables, and the time and how Uncle goes to +Boston that I may be in readiness. + +Family all well. + + ELIZA. + + To Octavia. + + Boston, Feb. 7th, 1800. + +After the toil, the bustle and fatigue of the week I turn towards home +to relate the manner in which I have spent my time. I have been +continually engaged in parties, plays, balls, &c. &c. Since the first +week I came to town, I have attended all the balls and assemblies, one +one week and one the next. They have regular balls once a fortnight, so +that I have been to one or the other every Thursday. They are very +brilliant, and I have formed a number of pleasing acquaintances there; +last night, which was ball night, I drew No. 5, & 2nd sett drew a Mr. +Snow, bad partner; danced voluntarily with Mr. Oliver, Mr. Andrews, Mr. +McPherson; danced until 1 o’clock; they have charming suppers, table +laid entirely with china. I had charming partners always. To-day I +intended going to Mrs. Codman’s, engaged to a week ago, but wrote a +billett I was indisposed, but the truth of the matter was that I wanted +to go to the play to see Bunker hill, and Uncle (William King) wished I +should—therefore I shall go. I have engagements for the greater part of +next week. To-morrow we all go to hear Fisher Ames’ Eulogy. And in the +morning going to look at some instruments; however we got one picked out +that I imagine we shall take, 150 dollars—a charming toned one and not +made in this country. I am still at Mrs. Frazier’s, she treats me with +the greatest attention. Nancy is indeed a charming girl,—I have the +promise of her company the ensuing summer. I have bought me a very +handsome skirt, white satin. Richard Cutts went shopping with me +yesterday morn, engaged to go to the play next week with him. For +mourning for Washington the ladies dress as much as if for a relation, +some entirely in black, but now many wear only a ribbon with a line +painted on it. I have not yet been out to see Mrs. Rawson and Miss +Haskell, but intend to next week. Uncle William [King] has been very +attentive to me—carried me to the play 3 or 4 times and to all the balls +and assemblies excepting the last which I went with Mr. Andrews. Give my +best respects to Pappa and Mamma, and tell them I shall soon be tired of +this dissipated life and almost want to go home already. I have a line +to write to Mary Porter and must conclude. + + ELIZA. + + To Octavia. + +[Illustration: + + Mrs. JOHN DERBY. (Eleanor Coffin.) + + From a miniature by Malbone, in possession of Miss Rogers of Boston. + + ARTOTYPE, E. BIERSTADT, N. Y. +] + +Now Mamma, what do you think I am going to ask for?—a wig. Eleanor[10] +has got a new one just like my hair and only 5 dollars, Mrs. Mayo one +just like it. I must either cut my hair or have one, I cannot dress it +at all _stylish_. Mrs. Coffin bought Eleanor’s and says that she will +write to Mrs. Sumner to get me one just like it; how much time it will +save—in one year we could save it in pins and paper, besides the +_trouble_. At the assembly I was quite ashamed of my head, for nobody +has long hair. If you will consent to my having one do send me over a 5 +dollar bill by the post immediately after you receive this, for I am in +hopes to have it for the next Assembly—do send me word immediately if +you can let me have one. Tell Octavia she must write soon, and that +there are many inquiries after her. + + ELIZA. + +To Octavia Southgate—Mrs. Frazier’s. + + 12th of June, 1800. + Hanover Street, Boston. + +In the Hospital! Bless your heart, I am not there! Who told you I was? +Mr. Davis I know, if you see him tell him I shall scold him for it. +Martha has heard the same; true I had some idea of going in, but gave it +up as soon as I heard Dr. Coffin did not attend. Horatio did likewise. +Your last to Mamma is dated from Mrs. Frazier’s; how, Octavia, shall we +discharge the debt of gratitude which we owe her? it had exceeded my +hopes of payment before you went, surely it is now doubled. You mention +nothing of any letters from me; I have written several and in one told +you particularly that Mamma wished you by all means to take lessons in +music; you don’t tell us what you have done since you have been in +Medford. Martha writes me that you are to spend part of vacation at Mrs. +Sumner’s. What has become of Ann and Harriett? I am out of patience +waiting for them, why don’t they write, it is an age since I have had +one line. Col. Boyd I hope will bring some letters from all of you. I +have heard that Eleanor Coffin received attentions from Sam Davis when +in Boston, did you hear of it? Martha writes me too that Mr. Andrews is +paying attention to a young lady in Boston, but does not mention her +name, _Miss Packman_ I guess; he was said to be her swain last winter. +Mary Porter went home last week, I went with her, she has now gone to +Topsham to tarry until uncle returns. I anxiously expect a letter from +Ann or Harriett to know the reason that they don’t hasten their visit. I +am learning my 12th tune, Octavia, I almost worship my Instrument,—it +reciprocates my sorrows and joys, and is my bosom companion. How I long +to have you return! I have hardly attempted to sing since you went away. +I am sure I shall not dare to when you return. I must enjoy my triumph +while you are absent; my musical talents will be dim when compared with +the lustre of yours. Pooh, Eliza, you are not envious? no! I will excel +in something else if not in music. Oh nonsense, this spirit of emulation +in families is destructive of concord and harmony, at least I will +endeavor to excel you in _sisterly affection_. If you outshine me in +accomplishments, will it not be all in the family? Certainly. How I wish +I had a _balloon_, I would see you and all my friends in Boston in a +trice. I have not got one. Do tell me is Ann the same dear good friend +and as much my _sister romp_ as ever? Tell her I am so affronted with +her that I won’t speak to her. Sister Boyd is over, won’t go home this +week; about your work, I will go down stairs and ask Mamma,—a _mourning +piece_ with a figure in it, and two other pictures, _mates_—figures of +females I think handsomer than Landscapes. Mrs. Rawson knows what is +best,—thus says Mamma—she don’t wish any screens. Mr. Little, the bearer +of this, another beau I send you, and here is poor _I_ not a bit of a +one, _Doc. Bacon_ excepted, and even _him_, _Cousin Mary_, selfish +creature, has lugged off his _heart_ and left the remainder here, so we +might as well have a stump—poor soul, his face looks like a _Piana_,[11] +one continued blush—I suppose for fear of hearing her name mentioned, +and she, unreasonable creature! thinks he is not all perfection. +Unaccountable taste! he is very _delightsome_ surely,—how long shall I +rant at this rate. I long to go to Portland and then I shall see some +being that looks like a beau—or a monkey, or anything you please;—To +supply the loss I often look out the window, till my imagination forms +one out of a tree or anything that I see, we can imagine anything you +know. Bless my soul, Mr. L. is waiting! + + ELIZA. + +Give my love, respects, everything, to all. + + July 3rd, 1800. + +I believe, my Dear Mother, that you meant to give me a very close lesson +in Economy—when you cut out the shirts for me to make. You had measured +off the bodies of two and cut them part way in—and also the sleeves were +marked,—after I had cut them off there was a quarter of a yard left. I +now wanted the collars and all the trimmings. I made out after a great +deal of planning to get out the shoulder pieces,—wrist-bands, 1 pair of +neck gussets and one of sleeve do., are still wanting. I shall send this +on by Mrs. Smith, and if you can find out when she returns I wish you +would send some linen and some more shirts to make as I shall soon +finish these, and can as well finish making up the piece here as at +home. I was very sorry I did not wear my _habit_ down as I shall want it +when I go to Wiscassett. If you can possibly find an opportunity, I wish +you would send it to me. Aunt Porter’s child is one of the most +troublesome ones I ever saw, he cries continually, and she is at present +destitute of any help except a little girl about 12 years old. I wish, +my Dear Mother, that you would forward all letters that come to +Scarborough for me immediately. I hope you will enjoy yourself in +Portland this week. I was almost tempted to wish to stay a week +there,—there were so many parties, and so gay every body appeared—that I +longed to stay and take part. I forgot all about it before I got to +Topsham,—much as I enjoy society I never am unhappy when without it,—I +cannot but feel happy that I was brought up in retirement,—since from +habit at least, I have contracted a love for solitude, I never feel +alone when I have my pen or my book. I feel that I ought to be very +happy in the company of such a woman as Aunt Porter, for I really don’t +know any one whose mind is more improved, and which makes her both a +useful and instructing companion. Her sentiments and opinions are more +like those I have formed than any person I know of. I think my +disposition like hers, and I feel myself drawn towards her by an +irresistible impulse, not an hour but she reminds me of you and I +sincerely think her more like you than your own sister. I shall write +you when I go farther East. I don’t know what I shall do about writing +Octavia, as Mrs. Rawson told her I wrote on an improper subject when I +asked her in my letter if Mr. Davis was paying attention to Eleanor +Coffin, and she would not let her answer the question. This is +_refining_ too much, and if I can’t write as I feel, I can’t write at +all. Now I ask you, Mamma, if it is not quite a natural question when we +hear that any of our friends are paid attention to by any gentleman, to +ask a confirmation of the report from those we think most likely to know +the particulars. Never did I write a line to Octavia but I should have +been perfectly willing for you or my Father to have seen. You have +always treated me more like a companion than a daughter, and therefore +would make allowance for the volatile expressions I often make use of. I +never felt the least restraint in company with my Parents which would +induce me to stifle my gaiety, and you have kindly permitted me to rant +over all my nonsense uncorrected, and I positively believe it has never +injured. I must bid you good-night. + + ELIZA. + +Pray don’t forget to send some more shirts. + + July 17, 1800. + +I must again trouble my Dear Mother by requesting her to send on my +spotted muslin. A week from next Saturday I set out for Wiscassett, in +company with Uncle William and Aunt Porter. Uncle will fetch Ann[12] to +meet us there, and as she has some acquaintance there we shall stay some +time and aunt will leave us and return to Topsham; so long a visit in +Wiscassett will oblige me to muster all my muslins, for I am informed +they are so monstrous smart as to take no notice of any lady that can +condescend to wear a calico gown, therefore, dear mother, to ensure me a +favorable reception, pray send my spotted muslin by the next mail after +you receive this, or I shall be on my way to Wiscassett. I shall go on +horseback,—how I want my habit,—I wish it had not been so warm when I +left home and I should have worn it. I am in hopes you will find an +opportunity to send it by a private conveyance before I go, but my +muslin you must certainly send by the mail. Aunt Porter’s little Rufus +is very sick, poor child, he was born under an evil star. I believe +Pandora opened her box upon him when he first came into existence. The +mumps, I believe, now afflict him; night before last we were alarmed +about him for fear of his having the Quinsy, but I believe he is in no +danger of that now. I wish to hear from home very much. + + ELIZA. + +I shall anxiously await the arrival of the next mail after you receive +this. + + Scarborough, Sept. 14, 1800. + +I suppose I ought to commence my letter with an humble apology, begging +forgiveness for past offences and promising to do better in future, but +no, I will only tell you that I have been so much engaged since I got +home from Topsham that I could not write you. Martha tells us you were +in Boston last Sunday. Mamma thinks, Octavia, you are there too much, we +do not know how often, but we hear of you there very often indeed. I +think, my dear sister, you ought to improve every moment of your time, +which is short, very short to complete your education. In November +terminates the period of your instruction. The last you will receive +perhaps ever, only what you may gain by observation. You will never +cease to learn I hope, the world is a volume of instruction, which will +afford you continual employment,—peruse it with attention and candor and +you will never think the time thus employed misspent. I think, Octavia, +I would not leave my school again until you finally leave it. You +may—you will think this is harsh; you will not always think so; remember +those that wish it must know better what is proper than you possibly +can. Horatio will come on for you as soon as your quarter is out. We +anticipate the time with pleasure; employ your time in such a manner as +to make your improvements conspicuous. A boarding-school, I know, my +dear Sister, is not like home, but reflect a moment, is it not +necessary, _absolutely necessary_ to be more strict in the government of +20 or 30 young ladies, nearly of an age and different dispositions, than +a private family? Your good sense will easily tell you it is. No task +can be greater than the care of so many girls, it is impossible not to +be _partial_, but we may conceal our partiality. I should have a poor +opinion of any person that did not feel a love for merit, superior to +what they can for the world in general. I should never approve of such +general love. I say this not because I think you are discontented, far +from it—your letters tell us quite the reverse and I believe it. Surely, +Octavia, you must allow that no woman was ever better calculated to +govern a school than Mrs. Rawson. She governs by the love with which she +always inspires her scholars. You have been indulged, Octavia, so we +have all. I was discontented when I first went from home. I dare say you +have had some disagreeable sensations, yet your reason will convince +you, you ought not to have had. You had no idea when you left home of +any difference in your manner of living. I knew you would easily be +reconciled to it and therefore said but little to you about it. +Yesterday Miss Haskell’s letter, which I so much wished for and so +highly prize, was sent me; tell her to trust no more letters to the +politeness of Mr. Jewett,[13] for he will forget to deliver them; he has +been studying in the same office with Horatio ever since he returned and +never told him he had a letter for me till I told Horatio to ask him. I +did get it at last and will answer it as soon as I have an opportunity, +which I expect soon, my letters are of too little consequence to send by +Post. Tell Miss Haskell how highly I am obliged to her for every letter, +and how much it gratifies me to have her write thus. My love and esteem +ever awaits our good Mrs. Rawson, and hope she does not intend my last +letter shall go unanswered. Susan Wyman is still remembered as the +companion of my amusements in Medford. Irene joins me in love to her. +Betsey Bloom my love to her likewise.—Family are all well, Octavia, +Sister Boyd is here, been with us several days. Let us hear from you +when you have an opportunity. I should like to know how many tunes you +play, but you have never answered any of my enquiries of this kind, +therefore I suppose I ought not to make them. Your + + ELIZA. + + Octavia. + + Scarborough, Sept. 14, 1800. + +Tired, stupid, and sleepy, I feel that I can write nothing instructive +or amusing. Oh these _summer balls_ are not the thing, but it was much +more comfortable than I expected. My ears were continually assailed with +lamentations that you were not present. Mr. Kinsman would certainly have +gone out for you (so he said) had he ever been at our house. He really +asked one or two gentlemen to go. He is a frothy fellow. He rattles +without a spark of fancy and stuns you with his volubility, as anything +hollow or empty always makes the most noise. I told him I received a +letter from you yesterday. He gave a pious ejaculation to heaven, turned +gracefully on his heel and entreated in the most humble manner that I +would grant him a sight of one line! I refused as I thought him too +insignificant an animal to be so much honored. Col. Boyd arrived last +night, I found him in the parlor when I went down to breakfast, he +enquired for you. Mr. Derby and Mr. Coffin will leave town to-day or +to-morrow for Boston, they undoubtedly will call and see you. ’Twill be +a good opportunity to send me the money if Mamma pleases. Harriet will +sail to-morrow or next day, she sends an abundance of love. + + ELIZA. + + Octavia. + + Bath, October, Sunday. + +After a fortnight very pleasantly spent in Wiscassett I return to Bath. +In my last I mentioned that Judge Lowell’s family were expected in +Wiscassett; they came immediately after, and Eliza, the youngest, +brought letters from Ellen Coffin, thus I very readily got acquainted +with them. Judge Lowell appears to be one of the mildest, most amiable +men I ever saw. Mrs. Lowell is a fine ladylike woman, yet her manners +are such as would have been admired 50 years ago, there is too much +appearance of whalebone and buckram to please the depraved taste of the +present age. Nanny L., the oldest daughter, is animated, sensible, +enthusiastic, and very easy and pleasing in her conversation and +manners, you would be delighted with her conversation—’tis elegant and +refined, she has no airs. Eliza is a little, charming, sweet creature, +she is about 17 or 18, short, fat, and a blooming complexion, handsome +blue eyes, light hair, beautiful dimples, artless and unaffected in her +manners,—indeed I was delighted with her, she is so perfectly amiable in +her appearance. I was much pleased at an acquaintance with them. At +Wiscassett I was invited to accompany them to Bath, as they were going +in a boat. I accepted with pleasure. In the morning, which was Monday, +they called for me and I went with them as far as Tincham’s where they +kept; at last, after a long debate, it was thought too hazardous to go +by water while the wind blew so violently, ’twas determined to go by +land. Mr. Lee took the two Miss Lowells and myself in his carriage, +which holds 4 very charmingly. Judge Lowell and wife in a chaise with a +boy to carry it back. Judge Bourne in a chair with a boy, and Mr. +Merrill on horseback. About 5 miles on our way Mr. Lee took Mr. +Merrill’s horse and he sat in with us, and he sang us a number of songs; +we had a charming time. At the ferry Mr. Lee, Mr. Merrill, and the boys +with the chaise left us; we then all got into a boat and landed at +Uncle’s wharf; ’tis about 3 miles, a most charming sail, indeed we had a +very pleasant time. They went directly to Page’s, and in the evening I +went up to see them; left them at 8 and with real regret. I had passed +several pleasant hours in their society. They set out in the morning for +Portland. Only think of Eleanor going to be married; ’tis no more than I +expected and believed at the moment I heard it. Poor Mrs. Sumner, what +an afflicting loss she has met with, my heart bleeds while I think how +_very fond_ she was of the little creature, she was a lovely child. How +do all do at home? I long to get home, I never wanted to see home more +in my life, yet I am very happy here. I wish Mamma would send me two of +my cotton shifts and my habit or great-coat to ride home in; send them +by Uncle. Pray get the instrument tuned. If you see Moses[14] soon tell +him I think it impossible to find words to express my obligation to him +for his many and long letters, yet I shall endeavour to convince him I +have a due sense of them. I shall make all the return in my power. I was +going up to Topsham this week. I wish to very much, but Mamma King and +Uncle both going, Nanny would be quite alone, I must stay to comfort +her. As to Aunt Porter I believe she will think I am never coming to +Topsham. I begin to think so myself, but what am I to do? However I +must. I shall go as soon as Uncle returns and stay till I return home. I +want to see Aunt Porter very much. Write me soon and tell me what news +you hear. Love to all. Is Pappa gone to Salem? + + ELIZA. + + To Octavia Southgate. + + + To Moses Porter. + +My most charming Cousin! Most kind and condescending friend—teach me how +I may express the grateful sense I have of the obligations I owe you; +your many and long letters have chased away the spleen, they have +rendered me cheerful and happy, and I almost forgot I was so far from +home.—O shame on you! Moses, you know I hate this formality among +friends, you know how gladly I would throw all these fashionable forms +from our correspondence; but you still oppose me, you adhere to them +with as much scrupulosity as to the ten commandments, and for aught I +know you believe them equally essential to the salvation of your soul. +But, Eliza, you have not answered my last letter! True, and if I had not +have answered it, would you never have written me again—and I confess +that I believe you would not—yet I am mortified and displeased that you +value my letters so little, that the exertions to continue the +correspondence must all come from me, that if I relax my zeal in the +smallest degree it may drop to the ground without your helping hand to +raise it. I do think you are a charming fellow,—would not write because +I am in debt, well, be it so, my ceremonious friend,—I submit, and +though I transgress by sending a half sheet more than you ever did, yet +I assure you ’twas to convince you of the violence of my anger which +could _induce_ me to forget the rules of politeness. I am at Wiscassett. +I have seen Rebecca every day, she is handsome as ever, and we both of +us were in constant expectation of seeing you for 2 or 3 days, you did +not come and we were disappointed. + +I leave here for Bath next week. I have had a ranting time, and if I did +not feel so offended, I would tell you more about it. + +As I look around me I am surprised at the happiness which is so +generally enjoyed in families, and that marriages which have not love +for a foundation on more than one side at most, should produce so much +apparent harmony. I may be censured for declaring it as my opinion that +not one woman in a hundred marries for love. A woman of taste and +sentiment will surely see but a very few whom she could love, and it is +altogether uncertain whether either of them will particularly +distinguish her. If they should, surely she is very fortunate, but it +would be one of fortune’s random favors and such as we have no right to +expect. The female mind I believe is of a very pliable texture; if it +were not we should be wretched indeed. Admitting as a known truth that +few women marry those whom they would prefer to all the world if they +could be viewed by them with equal affection, or rather that there are +often others whom they could have preferred if they had felt that +affection for them which would have induced them to offer +themselves,—admitting this as a truth not to be disputed,—is it not a +subject of astonishment that happiness is not almost banished from this +connexion? Gratitude is undoubtedly the foundation of the esteem we +commonly feel for a husband. One that has preferred us to all the world, +one that has thought us possessed of every quality to render him happy, +surely merits our gratitude. If his character is good—if he is not +displeasing in his person or manners—what objection can we make that +will not be thought frivolous by the greater part of the world?—yet I +think there are many other things necessary for happiness, and the world +should never compel me to marry a man because I could not give +satisfactory reasons for not liking him. I do not esteem marriage +absolutely essential to happiness, and that it does not always bring +happiness we must every day witness in our acquaintance. A single life +is considered too generally as a reproach; but let me ask you, which is +the most despicable—she who marries a man she scarcely thinks _well_ +of—to avoid the reputation of an old maid—or she, who with more +delicacy, than marry one she could not highly esteem, preferred to live +single all her life, and had wisdom enough to despise so mean a +sacrifice, to the opinion of the rabble, as the woman who marries a man +she has not much love for—must make. I wish not to alter the laws of +nature—neither will I quarrel with the rules which custom has +established and rendered indispensably necessary to the harmony of +society. But every being who has contemplated human nature on a large +scale will certainly justify me when I declare that the inequality of +privilege between the sexes is very sensibly felt by us females, and in +no instance is it greater than in the liberty of choosing a partner in +marriage; true, we have the liberty of refusing those we don’t like, but +not of selecting those we do. This is undoubtedly as it should be. But +let me ask you, what must be that love which is altogether voluntary, +which we can withhold or give, which sleeps in dulness and apathy till +it is requested to brighten into life? Is it not a cold, lifeless +dictate of the head,—do we not weigh all the conveniences and +inconveniences which will attend it? And after a long calculation, in +which the heart never was consulted, we determine whether it is most +prudent to love or not. + +How I should despise a soul so sordid, so mean! How I abhor the heart +which is regulated by mechanical rules, which can say “thus far will I +go and no farther,” whose feelings can keep pace with their convenience, +and be awakened at stated periods,—a mere piece of clockwork which +always moves right! How far less valuable than that being who has a soul +to govern her actions, and though she may not always be coldly prudent, +yet she will sometimes be generous and noble, and that the other never +can be. After all, I must own that a woman of delicacy never will suffer +her esteem to ripen into love unless she is convinced of a return. +Though our first approaches to love may be involuntary, yet I should be +sorry if we had no power of controlling them if occasion required. There +is a happy conformity or pliability in the female mind which seems to +have been a gift of nature to enable them to be happy with so few +privileges,—and another thing, they have more gratitude in their +dispositions than men, and there is a something particularly gratifying +to the heart in being beloved, if the object is worthy; it produces a +something like, and “Pity melts the heart to love.” Added to these there +is a self-love which does more than all the rest. Our vanity (’tis an +ugly word but I can’t find a better) is gratified by the distinguished +preference given us. There must be an essential difference in the +dispositions of men and women. I am astonished when I think of +it—yet—But I have written myself into sunshine—’tis always my way when +anything oppresses me, when any chain of thoughts particularly occupies +my mind, and I feel dissatisfied at anything which I have not the power +to alter,—to sit down and unburthen them on paper; it never fails to +alleviate me, and I generally give full scope to the feelings of the +moment, and as I write all disagreeable thoughts evaporate, and I end +contented that things shall remain as they are. When I began this it +absolutely appeared to me that no woman, or rather not one in a hundred, +married the man she should prefer to all the world—not that I ever could +suppose that at the time she married him she did not prefer him to all +others,—but that she would have preferred another if he had professed to +love her as well as the one she married. Indeed, I believe no woman of +delicacy suffers herself to think she could love any one before she had +discovered an affection for her. For my part I should never ask the +question of myself—do I love such a one, if I had reason to think he +loved me—and I believe there are many who love that never confessed it +to themselves. My Pride, my delicacy, would all be hurt if I discovered +such _unasked_ for love, even in my own bosom. I would strain every +nerve and rouse every faculty to quell the first appearance of it. There +is no danger, however. I could never love without being beloved, and I +am confident in my own mind that no person whom I could love would ever +think me sufficiently worthy to love me. But I congratulate myself that +I am at liberty to refuse those I don’t like, and that I have firmness +enough to brave the sneers of the world and live an old maid, if I never +find one I can love. + +[Illustration: + + RUFUS KING + + From a painting by Woods +] + + Scarborough, Tuesday Night. + + Dear Mother: + +We have got Miranda[15] all fix’t, only her clothes to be washed, or +rather ironed. You have undoubtedly got all things ready for her, or you +would not send for her immediately. I suppose we shall send her over in +the stage, as the riding is as yet too bad to go in a chaise; she wants +some pocket handkerchiefs and a pair of cotton gloves to wear to school; +she had 3 pairs of white mitts and I have given her another pair. I +think she must have another dimity skirt; her jaconet muslin we could +not fix, for it wants a new waist and sleeves and a hem put on the +bottom, and we could get no muslin to pattern it; you can buy a piece +and it can be sent over any time, she won’t need it immediately. Charles +says you told him I must send over to you for anything I needed. I want +nothing so much as some new linen and some English stockings; excepting +the two fine pairs I have none but homespun ones. I should like a half +dozen pair, 4 at least. If you see anything that would be light and +handsome for our summer gowns, I should like you would get them. Why +can’t you go and see McLellan’s lace shades? Perhaps he may let you have +one reasonably. I think there are some for 10, 6 and 12 shillings a +yard, at 18 they would not come to more than 9 or 10 dollars; you can +look at them at least. I should like one very much. Sally Weeks has +taken one of them. We do very well here, all goes on charmingly, only +Arixene loses her thimble, her needle and anything to avoid working. +Sally Leland has been here ever since Miranda returned, and you know +when they are together there must be romping,—however, Frederic has gone +to carry her home to-day. Miranda must have my little trunk. Octavia and +I both want little trunks, my old one is a good size. How is Sister? +give my love to her, kiss the children; I really miss them, and our own +don’t seem more natural than they did. The little _Isabella_[16] (so +they say it is) is Aunt Eliza’s darling. I love that little thing +dearly. I never loved an infant more in my life, Isabella says it is +because it has blue eyes; she _will_ make me selfish. I had a letter +from Martha yesterday, the third since you have been in Portland; she +mentions Uncle Rufus[17] and family in all of them. In her last but one +she says Aunt King[18] was confined; she had dined there the Sunday +before, and they requested her in a billet to bring yours and my +Father’s profiles,[19] which I gave her some time before she went away. +She carried them, and Uncle thought them good likenesses. She admires +Uncle Rufus; she says when he first called on her he stayed two hours, +but she could have talked with him _two_ days. In her last she says she +was to have been introduced at court, but Aunt King’s confinement +prevented; as soon as she gets out she is to be introduced. She says she +shall write by the Minerva and send the fashions to me. Mr. Smith the +Russian was here last week, bro’t me some letters. I am now writing to +Martha, to send by William Weeks; ’twill be a fine opportunity, and I +shall write as much as I can; he will probably see her. Mrs. Coffin will +be delighted with such an opportunity. Don’t hurry home until you have +staid as long as you wish, for I don’t know anything at present that +requires your presence. I think I make a very good manager, and tell +Sister Boyd I am astonished to find how I have improved in my housewife +talents this last winter. The children won’t allow me absolute rule +among them, but I have the worst of it; they do pretty well, considering +what a young gay mistress they have. I sometimes get up to dance and all +of them flock up to help me, and when I am tired I find it difficult to +still them, so as I set the example I am obliged to put up with it. I +have not been out of the yard since I came home till this afternoon. I +rode a mile or two on horseback just to smell the fresh air. I never was +more contented in my life; tho’ I have not seen anybody but Mr. Smith +these 3 weeks almost, I have not had an hour hang heavily on me; ’tis +charming to get home after being gone so long! I believe you will think +I am never going to leave off. + + Your affectionate ELIZA. + + To Mrs. Mary King Southgate, Portland. + + + Portland, March 18, 1801. + +Thank you for being so particular in your description of your eastern +tour. I told you that Wiscassett would delight you; ease and sociability +you know always please you. By the bye, Jewett thought _Saco_ was the +land of milk and honey, such fine buxom girls! so easy and familiar. +Dorcas Stour charmed him much, her haughty forbidding manners +corresponded with the dignity of her sentiments, so he says, something +congenial in their dispositions I think. But he has made his +selection—Miss Weeks is handsome, censorious, animated, violent in her +prejudices, genteel, impatient of contradiction, speaks her sentiments +very freely, has many admirers and many enemies,—on the whole a pleasant +companion amongst friends.—How think they will do together? Jewett you +know. + +Last evening I was out at Broads;[20] we had only 7 in our party—a very +pleasant one. Jewett, Horatio, William Weeks, and Charles Little were +our beaux. Miss Weeks, Miss Boardman (from Exeter), and myself, the +ladies. Mr. Little is engaged to Miss Boardman; he is an open, honest, +unaffected, plain, _clever_ fellow. She has a pleasant face, an open +guileless heart, plain unaffected manners, a clumsy shape, easy in +company—but it is rather the ease which a calm, even temper produces, +than that which is acquired in polite circles. I think they are as much +alike as possible and ’twill be a pleasant couple. We played cards, +talked and wrote crambo; after we had scribbled the backs of two packs +of cards, cut half of them up, and eat our supper, we set out for home, +about one o’clock. You say in your last that if reports are true, I am +on the highway to matrimony,—you know what I always said with regard to +these things; if they are true, well and good—if they are not, let them +take their course, they will be shortlived. I despise the conduct of +those girls who think that every man who pays them any attention is +seriously in love with them, and begin to bridle up, look conscious, +fearful lest every word the poor fellow utters should be a declaration +of love. I have no idea that every gentleman that has a particular +partiality for a lady thinks seriously of being connected with her, and +I think any lady puts herself in a most awkward situation to appear in +constant fear or expectation that the gentleman is going to make love to +her. I despise coquetry,—every lady says the same, you will say,—but if +I know myself at all—my heart readily assents to its truth—I think no +lady has a right to encourage hopes that she means never to gratify, but +I think she is much to blame if she considers these little attentions as +a proof of love; they often mean nothing, and should be treated as such. +The gentleman in question I own pays me more attention than any other +gentleman, yet I say sincerely, I don’t think he means any thing more +than to please his fancy for the present. I pride myself upon my +sincerity, and if I ever am engaged, I trust it will be to one whom I +shall not be ashamed to acknowledge. Our intimacy has been of long +standing. He and Enoch Jones were Martha’s most intimate acquaintance, +they were there almost every evening. Here comes Enoch and William +[Weeks], we used to say as soon as we heard the knocker in the evening. +I was always at the Doctor’s a great part of the time I spent in +Portland, I could not but be intimate with them. I liked them both, they +were pleasant companions, and I was always glad to see them come +in;—since that time, Enoch has been gone most of the time, and William +has been left alone;—true, he has this winter been more attentive to me +than usual; he lent me books, drawings, and music; he used often to be +my gallant home from parties if I walked, and if I rode help me to the +sleigh, yet every gentleman does the same,—all have a favorite, some for +a month, some a little longer. It seems like making you a confidant to +talk thus, but I say many things which would appear ridiculous if +communicated to a third person, and I know you would have too much +delicacy to communicate any thing which might hurt my feelings. I have +heard all these stories before, yet I must act and judge for myself. I +know better than any other person can, how far they are true, and I +candidly confess that he never said a word to me which I could possibly +construe into a declaration of love, not the most faint or distant. Then +think for a moment how ridiculous it would be for me to alter my conduct +towards him! No! while he treats me as a friend, I shall treat him as +such; and let the world say what they will, I will endeavor to act in a +manner that my conscience will justify,—to steer between the rocks of +prudery and coquetry, and take my own sense of propriety as a pilot that +will conduct me safe. I should not have been thus particular, but I felt +unwilling that you should be led into error that I could easily remove +from your mind; it would seem like giving a silent assent, as I confess +to write as I think to you, and to speak openly on all occasions, I felt +that I ought to say more to you on this affair than I ever have to any +other. Let the world still have it as they will. I confess it would be +more pleasing to me if my name was not so much[21] ... what Johnson says +of an author may apply ... is much known in the world. That his name +like ... must be beat backward and forward as it falls to the ground. I +recollect in a former letter you asked why I did not say more of +particular characters, and among my acquaintance select some and give +you a few characteristic sketches. The truth is—I felt afraid to, I did +not know but you might mention many things which would make me enemies. +I am always willing to speak my opinion without reserve on any +character, because I should take care that I spoke it before those who +would not abuse the frankness; but letters may be miscarried, may fall +into hands we know not of,—but I never think of these, or I am sure I +should burn this in a moment,—another thing that it requires a quiet +discernment, a correct judgment and a thorough knowledge of the world, +of human nature, to form a just character of any one that we are not +intimately acquainted with. However, we all of us form an opinion of +every person we see, and whatever I shall say and have said you must +recollect is only the opinion of one who is oftener wrong than right, +and you can form no correct idea of my character from what I say. + + Scarborough, March, Sunday. + +P. S.—Congratulate me, I am at home at last! Come and see us,—we expect +Miss Tappan to-morrow and Paulina Porter[22] and Miranda Southgate. I +wish much to see Miss T. I think I shall like her; tell her she does not +know what she lost last week,—a young gentleman came several miles out +of his way only to see her; she was not here and he returned to Portland +with a heavy heart. Jewett says she is rather shy. + +I meant to have written more about Wiscassett, about Miss R.,[23] but I +must leave that for another letter. I have a great deal to say on that +head,—“exercise the same coolness and judgment as in choosing a horse!” +I heard a gentleman make really the same observation, and yet that very +gentleman is raving, distractedly in love,—he is a little calmer now, +but he was a madman. He, like you, always talks of his insensibility, +his coldness and discretion, and he, like you, is always upon extremes, +extravagant beyond all bounds. More hereafter. + + Mr. Moses Porter. + + + Thursday, April 8th. + +I have been thinking on that part of your letter which interests me +most, respecting the propriety of conduct, opinion of the world, etc., +etc. I don’t exactly recollect what I wrote in my last, but I am +positive you have mistaken my meaning, or at least have taken what I +said on too large a scale;—as a general rule of conduct, in so extensive +a sense as you talk about, such doctrine would indeed be pernicious. But +whatever I said I meant to apply to this particular case, and perhaps +did not express myself so clearly as I ought to have done. You have +described principles which I have ever condemned—as those I now act +upon. Perhaps I shall find it impossible fully to explain my sentiments +on this subject—it is of a delicate nature; and many things I shall say +will probably bear a misconstruction. However, I trust to your candor to +judge with lenity, and to your knowledge of my heart, to believe I would +not intentionally deviate from the laws of female delicacy and +propriety. Reputation undoubtedly is of great importance to all, but to +a female ’tis every thing,—once lost ’tis _forever_ lost. Whatever I may +have said, my heart too sensibly tells me I have none of that boasted +independence of mind which can stand collected in its own worth, and let +the censure and malice of the world pass by as the “idle wind which we +regard not.” I have ever thought that to be conscious of doing right was +insufficient; but that it must appear so to the world. How I could have +blundered upon a sentiment which I despise, or how I could have written +anything to bear such a construction as you have put upon a part of my +letter, I know not. When I said that I should let these reports pass off +without notice or pretending to vindicate myself, ’twas not because I +despised the opinion of the world, but as the most effectual method to +preserve it!—_You_ say as well as myself, that whatever we say in +vindication of ourselves, only makes the matter worse. When I said, that +I meant not to alter my conduct while my conscience did not accuse me, I +had no idea that you would suppose my conduct towards him had ever been +of a kind that required an alteration, or any thing more pointed than to +any other gentleman. I supposed you would infer from what I said that it +was such as propriety and a regard for my reputation would sanction. I +know not what you think it has been, but if I can judge of my own +actions,—their motives I know I can, but I mean the outward +appearance,—I have never treated him with any more distinction than any +other gentleman, nor have appeared more pleased with his attentions than +with another’s; believe me, I have kept constantly in view the opinion +of the world, and if you knew every circumstance of my life, you would +be convinced my feelings were “tremblingly alive” to all its slanders. +But “something too much of this”; you, who know my disposition, may +easily conceive how often I subject myself to the envenomed shafts of +censure and malice, by that gaiety and high flow of spirits, which I +sometimes think my greatest misfortune to possess,—sometimes I err in +judgment—don’t always see the right path,—sometimes I see it, yet the +warmth and ardor of my feelings force me out of it. Yet in this affair I +feel confident I have acted from right principles,—there are a thousand +trifling things which at times influenced my conduct, which you cannot +know, and you may be surprised when I say that his attentions were of a +kind that politeness obliged me to receive, nor should I ever have +suspected they meant any thing more than gallantry and politeness, had +not the babbles of the world put it into my head. You have been +misinformed in many respects, I am convinced. You mentioned his constant +visits at Sister Boyd’s. I declare to you he never was there a half +dozen times the three months I was in Portland, excepting the morning +after the assemblies, when the gentlemen all go to see their partners; +neither was I his constant partner at assemblies. I never danced but two +dances in an evening with him all winter, excepting once, and then there +was a mistake,—this surely was nothing remarkable, for I always danced +two with Mr. Smith at every assembly we were at. I danced as much with +one as the other. True, he was my partner at 2 parties at Broads. I at +the time asked Horatio, when he mentioned the party, why he would not +carry me; he said if I was asked by any other, to say I was going with +my brother, would be considered as a tacit declaration that I had an +aversion to going with him, therefore ’twould have been folly. You +cannot judge unless you know a thousand customs and every ... which they +have in Portland. But I declare to you, Cousin, I am much gratified that +you told me what you thought—had you have locked it in your bosom, I +should never have had an opportunity to vindicate myself. I beg of you +always to write with freedom, always write with the same openness you +did in your last—’tis one of the greatest advantages I expect to derive +from our correspondence—I enjoin it upon you as you value my happiness. +I told you I would show you some of Martha’s letters; I had one from her +since I wrote you, in which she says I must on no condition whatever +show her letters,—however, I will read you some passages in some of +them. You _shall_ see some parts; I will make my peace with—indeed I +know she would not object. I love to show you her letters because you +feel something as I do in reading them. You admire her or you should not +be the friend of + + ELIZA. + +P. S. I wrote this letter last night intending to keep it by me to send +whenever I please; all the family were absent, left me reading,—I read +your letter, the house was silent, and I was entirely alone. I knew I +should not have another opportunity as convenient for giving you my +sentiments—no fear of intrusion—and I therefore took my pen and +scribbled what I now send you, but I believe I must adopt your plan and +send it immediately to the office,—but I repent and burn it, and I find +on reading it that I have said not half I meant to; but I will send it +away immediately. I am almost ashamed to answer yours so soon, ’tis so +unlike the example you set me that I suppose you will say ’tis a tacit +disapprobation of your conduct. + + Scarborough, April 9th. + Mr. Moses Porter, Biddeford. + + + Sunday, Scarborough, May —, 1801. + +When one commences an action with a full conviction they shall not +acquit themselves with honor, they are sure not to succeed; imprest with +this idea I write you. I positively declare I have felt a great +reluctance ever since we concluded on the plan. I am aware of the +construction you may put on this, but call it _affectation_ or what you +will, I assure you it proceeds from different motives. When I first +proposed this correspondence, I thought only of the amusement and +instruction it would afford _me_. I almost forgot that I should have any +part to perform. Since, however, I have reflected on the scheme as it +was about to be carried into execution, I have felt a degree of +diffidence which has almost induced me to hope you would _forget_ the +engagement. Fully convinced of my inability to afford pleasure or +instruction to an enlarged mind, I rely wholly on your candor and +generosity to pardon the errors which will cloud my best efforts. When I +reflect on the severity of your criticisms in general, I shrink at the +idea of exposing to you what will never stand the test. Yet did I not +imagine you would throw aside the _critic_ and assume the _friend_, I +should never dare, with all my vanity (and I am not deficient), give you +so fine an opportunity to exercise your favorite propensity. I know you +will laugh at all this, and I must confess it appears rather a folly, +first to request your correspondence and then with so much diffidence +and false delicacy, apparently to extort a compliment, talk about my +inability and the like. You will not think I intend a compliment when I +say I have ever felt a disagreeable restraint when conversing before +you. Often, when with all the confidence I possess I have brought +forward an opinion, said all my imagination could suggest in support of +it, and viewed with pleasure the little fabric, which I imagined to be +founded on truth and justice, with one word you would crush to the +ground that which had cost me so many to erect. These things I think in +time will humble my vanity, I wish sincerely that they may. + +Yet I believe I possess decent talents and should have been quite +another being had they been properly cultivated. But as it is, I can +never get over some little prejudices which I have imbibed long since, +and which warp all the faculties of my mind. I was pushed on to the +stage of action without one principle to guide my actions,—the impulse +of the moment was the only incitement. I have never committed any +grossly imprudent action, yet I have been folly’s darling child. I trust +they were rather errors of the head than the heart, for we have all a +kind of inherent power to distinguish between right and wrong, and if +before the heart becomes contaminated by the maxims of society it is +left to act from impulse though it have no fixt principle, yet it will +not materially err. Possessing a gay lively disposition, I pursued +pleasure with ardor. I wished for admiration, and took the means which +would be most likely to obtain it. I found the mind of a female, if such +a thing existed, was thought not worth cultivating. I disliked the +trouble of thinking for myself and therefore adopted the sentiments of +others—fully convinced to adorn my person and acquire a few little +accomplishments was sufficient to secure me the admiration of the +society I frequented. I cared but little about the mind. I learned to +flutter about with a thoughtless gaiety—a mere feather which every +breath had power to move. I left school with a head full of something, +tumbled in without order or connection. I returned home with a +determination to put it in more order; I set about the great work of +culling the best part to make a few sentiments out of—to serve as a +little ready change in my commerce with the world. But I soon lost all +patience (a virtue I do not possess in an eminent degree), for the +greater part of my ideas I was obliged to throw away without knowing +where I got them or what I should do with them; what remained I pieced +as ingeniously as I could into a few patchwork opinions,—they are now +almost worn threadbare, and as I am about quilting a few more, I beg you +will send me any spare ideas you may chance to have that will answer my +turn. By this time I suppose you have found out what you have a right to +expect from this correspondence, and probably at this moment lay down +the letter with a long sage-like face to ponder on my egotism.—’Tis a +delightful employment, I will leave you to enjoy it while I eat my +dinner: And what is the result, Cousin? I suppose a few exclamations on +the girl’s vanity to think no subject could interest me but where +herself was concerned, or the barrenness of her head that could write on +no other subject. But she is a _female_, say you, with a _manly +contempt_. Oh you Lords of the world, what are you that your unhallowed +lips should dare profane the fairest part of creation! But honestly I +wish to say something by way of apology, but don’t seem to know what,—it +is true I have a kind of natural affection for myself, I find no one +more ready to pardon my faults or find excuses for my failings—it is +natural to love our friends. + +I have positively not said one single thing which I intended when I sat +down; my motive was to answer your letter, and I have not mentioned my +not having received it?—Your opinion of Story’s Poems I think very +unjust; as to the _man_, I cannot say, for I know nothing of him, but I +think you are too severe upon him; a man who had not a “fibre of +refinement in his composition” could never have written some passages in +that poem. What is refinement? I thought it was a delicacy of taste +which might be acquired, if not any thing in our nature,—true, there are +some so organized that they are incapable of receiving a delicate +impression, but we won’t say any thing of such beings. I just begin to +feel in a mood for answering your letter. What you say of Miss Rice—I +hardly know how to refuse the challenge; she possesses no quality above +mediocrity, and yet is just what a female ought to be. Now what I would +give for a little _Logic_, or for a little skill to support an argument. +But I give it up, for tho’ you might not convince me, you would +_confound_ me with so many _learned_ observations that my vanity would +oblige me to say I was convinced to prevent the mortification of saying +I did not understand you. How did you like Mr. Coffin? Write soon and +tell me. We expect you to go to the fishing party with us on Tuesday. +Mr. Coffin told us you would all come. You must be here by 9 o’clock +(not before) (in the morning). My love to the girls, and tell them—no! +I’ll tell them myself. + + ELIZA. + + To Mr. Moses Porter, Biddeford. + + + Scarborough, June 1st, 1801. + +As to the qualities of mind peculiar to each sex, I agree with you that +sprightliness is in favor of females and profundity of males. Their +education, their pursuits would create such a quality even tho’ nature +had not implanted it. The business and pursuits of men require deep +thinking, judgment, and moderation, while, on the other hand, females +are under no necessity of dipping deep, but merely “skim the surface,” +and we too commonly spare ourselves the exertion which deep researches +require, unless they are absolutely necessary to our pursuits in life. +We rarely find one giving themselves up to profound investigation for +amusement merely. Necessity is the nurse of all the great qualities of +the mind; it explores all the hidden treasures and by its stimulating +power they are “polished into brightness.” Women who have no such +incentives to action suffer all the strong energetic qualities of the +mind to sleep in obscurity; sometimes a ray of genius gleams through the +thick clouds with which it is enveloped, and irradiates for a moment the +darkness of mental night; yet, like a comet that shoots wildly from its +sphere, it excites our wonder, and we place it among the phenomenons of +nature, without searching for a natural cause. Thus it is the qualities +with which nature has endowed us, as a support amid the misfortunes of +life and a shield from the allurements of vice, are left to moulder in +ruin. In this dormant state they become enervated and impaired, and at +last die for _want of exercise_. The little airy qualities which produce +sprightliness are left to flutter about like feathers in the wind, the +sport of every breeze. + +Women have more fancy, more lively imaginations than men. That is easily +accounted for: a person of correct judgment and accurate discernment +will never have that flow of ideas which one of a different character +might,—every object has not the power to introduce into his mind such a +variety of ideas, he rejects all but those closely connected with it. On +the other hand, a person of small discernment will receive every idea +that arises in the mind, making no distinction between those nearly +related and those more distant, they are all equally welcome, and +consequently such a mind abounds with fanciful, out-of-the-way ideas. +Women have more imagination, more sprightliness, because they have less +discernment. I never was of opinion that the pursuits of the sexes ought +to be the same; on the contrary, I believe it would be destructive to +happiness, there would a degree of rivalry exist, incompatible with the +harmony we wish to establish. I have ever thought it necessary that each +should have a separate sphere of action,—in such a case there could be +no clashing unless one or the other should leap their respective bounds. +Yet to cultivate the qualities with which we are endowed can never be +called infringing the prerogatives of man. Why, my dear Cousin, were we +furnished with such powers, unless the improvement of them would conduce +to the happiness of society? Do you suppose the mind of woman the only +work of God that was “made in vain.” The cultivation of the powers we +possess, I have ever thought a privilege (or I may say duty) that +belonged to the human species, and not man’s exclusive prerogative. Far +from destroying the harmony that ought to subsist, it would fix it on a +foundation that would not totter at every jar. Women would be under the +same degree of subordination that they now are; enlighten and expand +their minds, and they would perceive the necessity of such a regulation +to preserve the order and happiness of society. Yet you require that +their conduct should be always guided by that reason which you refuse +them the power of exercising. I know it is generally thought that in +such a case women would assume the right of commanding. But I see no +foundation for such a supposition,—not a blind submission to the will of +another which neither honor nor reason dictates. It would be criminal in +such a case to submit, for we are under a prior engagement to conduct in +all things according to the dictates of reason. I had rather be the +meanest reptile that creeps the earth, or cast upon the wide world to +suffer all the ills “that flesh is heir to,” than live a slave to the +despotic will of another. + +I am aware of the censure that will ever await the female that attempts +the vindication of her sex, yet I dare to brave that censure that I know +to be undeserved. It does not follow (O what a pen!) that every female +who vindicates the capacity of the sex is a disciple of Mary +Wolstoncraft. Though I allow her to have said many things which I cannot +but approve, yet the very foundation on which she builds her work will +be apt to prejudice us so against her that we will not allow her the +merit she really deserves,—yet, prejudice set aside, I confess I admire +many of her sentiments, notwithstanding I believe should any one adopt +her principles, they would conduct in the same manner, and upon the +whole her life is the best comment on her writings. Her style is nervous +and commanding, her sentiments appear to carry conviction along with +them, but they will not bear analyzing. I wish to say something on your +_natural refinement_, but I shall only have room to touch upon it if I +begin, “therefore I’ll leave it till another time.” + +Last evening Mr. Samuel Thatcher spent with us; we had a fine “dish of +conversation” served up with great taste, fine sentiments dressed with +elegant language and seasoned with wit. He is really excellent company—a +little enthusiastic or so—but that is no matter. In compassion I entreat +you to come over here soon and make me some pens. I have got one that I +have been whittling this hour and at last have got it to make a stroke +(it liked to have given me the lie). I believe I must give up all +pretension to _profundity_, for I am much more at home in my female +character. This argumentative style is not congenial to my taste. I hate +anything that requires order or connection. I never could do anything by +rule,—when I get a subject I am incapable of reasoning upon, I play with +it as with a rattle, for what else should I do with it? But I have kept +along quite in a direct line; I caught myself “upon the wing” two or +three times, but I had power to check my nonsense. I send you my +sentiments on this subject as they really exist with me. I believe they +are not the mere impulse of the moment, but founded on what I think +truth. I could not help laughing at that part of your letter where you +said the seal of my letter deprived you of some of the most interesting +part of it. I declare positively I left a blank place on purpose for it, +that you might not lose one precious word, and now you have the +impudence to tell me that the most interesting part was the blank paper. +It has provoked my ire to such a degree that I positively declare I +never will send you any more blank paper than I possibly can avoid, to +“spite you.” + + E. S. + + To Mr. Moses Porter. + + + Portland, July 17, 1801. + +I almost at this moment wish myself in your situation, meeting old +acquaintances, shaking hands with old friends and telling over with +renewed pleasure your College frolicks. I can almost see you convulsed +with laughter, hear you recount the adventures of the last year, while +imagination brings every boyish frolic to your view, unimpaired by time. +What a world of humour! what flashes of wit! what animated descriptions! +O these social meetings! How they animate and inspire one! how they +lighten the cares and multiply the joys of life! I wish you would write +me about Commencement. I heard yesterday that Sam. Fay of Concord +delivered an oration the 4th of July. I should admire to see it. I know +it must be very fine; in my opinion he is a man of excellent talents, +capable of writing on the occasion an oration that would reflect great +honor. The sentiments must be noble and generous. He possesses so much +feeling, there must be many glowing passages in it. If it is possible I +beg you will get me a copy and I will confess myself very, very greatly +obliged. Last night I attended the _Theater_,—“Speed the plough” was +performed, and I assure you very _decently_; the characters in general +were well supported. Villiers in Fannie Ashfield really outdid himself; +he threw off the monkey and became a good honest clown, and did not, as +he usually does, outstep the bounds of nature and all other bounds. Mrs. +Powell as Miss Blandford delighted us all. How I admire that woman! She +is perfectly at home on the stage, and yet there is no levity in her +appearance; she has great energy, acts with spirit, with feeling, yet +never rants; her private character we all know is unexceptionable. Mr. +Donnee as a young buck is very pleasing, he has a most melodious voice +in speaking, and has a very easy, stylish air,—good figure, tho’ small. +As for Mrs. Harper she is my aversion—for, as Shakespeare says, she will +“tear a passion to tatters, to very rags,” and she is too indecent ever +to appear on the stage. Harper is a fine fellow; he appears best among +the common herd of Players, and has as much judgment in supporting his +part as any one I ever saw, and even in comic characters I think he +excels Villiers. He has much greater resources within himself. Villiers +gains applause by distorting his face and playing the monkey, while +Harper adheres more strictly to nature. In Villiers we cannot help +seeing the player thro’ the thin disguise,—_Villiers_, not the character +he personates, is continually in our minds. S. Powell is contemptible as +a player (and I believe as a man); he puffs and blows so incessantly +that it is enough to put one into a fever to see him; he does not know +in the least how to preserve a medium, but takes a certain pitch and +there remains; he cannot gradually bring his passion to the height, but +he thunders it out without any preparation, and the unvarying monotony +of his voice is truly disgusting. I am sure, by his strutting and +bellowing, Hamlet would think _he_ was made by one of “Nature’s +journeymen.” But it is time to have done with players, for you will +think my head turned indeed if I rant about them any longer; but it has +served to fill up a part of my letter, and I assure you that alone was a +sufficient reason why I should give them a place. Society, bustle, and +noise frustrate all my ideas. I cannot write anywhere but at home. I am +ashamed that things of so little consequence should turn my head, but +’tis a melancholy truth. O you malicious fellow, don’t talk to me about +my favorite topic “female education,” don’t tell me of your +_philosophical indifference_! O Moses, you can’t leave the subject, +every word that could any way dash at it is marked. I believe you do +_itch_ to commence the attack. Well, rail on, you shall not say it is in +compassion to me that you desist. God forbid that your greatest enemy +should ever inflict so severe a punishment as to prohibit you from +speaking of your “favorite topic.” I fancy you have forgotten that it +_is_ such, _Mr. Indifference_. Your ironical letter has had a wonderful +effect, but perhaps not the desired one. I blush not to confess myself +contemptibly inferior to my antagonist. You ought to blush, but from a +very different cause; but I had forgotten myself, and was taking the +thing too seriously. I am not slow at taking the hint, perhaps my +presumption merited the reproof. I receive it and will endeavor to +profit by it; and pray, Cousin, how does Mr. Symmes’ coat suit you? His +“haughty humility,” his “condescending pride.” You have assumed the +habit, and I hope will ever clothe yourself with it when you meet your +_superior antagonist_. + +You have a fine imagination and have pictured a chain of delightful +events which probably will exist there alone, yet I should have no +objection to your being a true prophet. We all can plan delightful +schemes, but they rarely ever become realities; but no matter, we enjoy +them in imagination. I expect from you a particular account of yourself +when you return. You will have many amusing anecdotes to tell me, if you +will take the trouble. I have just read your last and picture something +in it that at first I did not pay much attention to. You say all you +have said on the subject of education was merely the thought of the +moment, “written not to be received but laughed at.” What shall I +think?—That you think me too contemptible to know your real sentiments? +I should be very unwilling to admit such a suspicion, yet what can you +mean?—with the greatest apparent seriousness, you speak of the +_sincerity_ with which you conduct this correspondence. Was that +likewise meant to be laughed at? I had flattered myself, when I +commenced this correspondence, to reap both instruction and amusement +from an undisguised communication of sentiments. I had likewise hoped +you would not think it too great a condescension to speak to me with +that openness you would to a male friend. However, I shall begin to +think it is contrary to the nature of things that a gentleman should +speak his real sentiments to a lady, yet in our correspondence I wished +and expected to step aside from the world, speak to each other in the +plain language of sincerity. I have much to say on this subject, but +unfortunately my ideas never begin to flow until I have filled up my +paper. Do not imagine from what I have said that the most disagreeable +truths will offend me. I promise not to feel hurt at any thing you +write, if ’tis your real sentiment. But, Cousin, don’t trifle with me. +Do not make me think so contemptibly of myself as you will by not +allowing me your confidence; promise to speak as you think and I will +never scold you again. + + ELIZA. + +Cousin, I wish you would write a list of your mother’s children, names +and ages, those that have died together with the others. We are going to +send them out to Uncle Rufus, as he requested it some time since. By +Martha it will be a fine opportunity,—as soon as convenient send them +over. + + Mr. Moses Porter, + Biddeford. + + + Scarborough, August 6, 1801. + + Hon. Rufus King. + +Pardon, my dear Sir, the liberty I take in addressing you, and let my +motives shield me from the imputation of presumption. Some time since, +you requested a list of my Aunt Porter’s and our family. It has never +been sent, and as we have now a very favorable opportunity, my father +has requested me to make it out and enclose it to you. I tremble while I +write, lest I should appear disrespectful in my manner of addressing +you. Unused as I am to writing to any one so much superior in years, I +cannot but feel embarrassed. A degree of confidence in ourselves is +necessary in every undertaking to ensure success; as I feel at this +moment destitute of that confidence, I likewise despair of succeeding in +my wishes, yet I entreat you to attribute whatever may appear assuming +rather to an incapacity of expressing myself as I wish than to a want of +respect. When I consider you as a public character esteemed and +respected by your country, I would willingly shrink from observation, +lest my intruding myself on your attention should be thought +impertinence. But when I think how nearly I am allied, I flatter myself +I shall obtain that indulgence which I now earnestly solicit. Mr. and +Mrs. Derby, by whom I shall send this, intend taking the tour of Europe +after having taken that of the United States. Mrs. Derby is my +particular friend, and as she is intimately acquainted in our family, +can give you whatever information you wish respecting us. I say nothing +to remind her, for I have too high an opinion of your discernment to +suppose any recommendation necessary. My mother joins me in desiring you +would make our respects acceptable to Mrs. King, and all the family +unite in earnest wishes for the complete restoration of her health. Our +family are all in good health.... My mother really looks young! My Aunt +Porter [Pauline] is not wholly restored to her former health, but is +much better than she has been for many years past. + +[Illustration: + + Mrs. RUFUS KING. + + After a portrait by Trumbull. + + ARTOTYPE. E. BIERSTADT, N. Y. +] + +I cannot conclude this without earnestly intreating you to receive it +with the candor of an Uncle rather than the severity of a critic. I feel +I do not write as I ought to, yet I entreat you not to think me +deficient in that respect and esteem with which I shall ever remain. + + Your niece ELIZA SOUTHGATE. + + + Scarborough, August 4, 1801. + + Dr. Southgate to Rufus King in London. + +You will receive this by Mr. Richard Derby, youngest son of the late H. +Derby of Salem. His lady who accompanies him is the daughter of Dr. N. +Coffin of Portland. The Doctor’s family and mine have ever been on terms +of intimacy and friendship. Mrs. Derby in particular has ever been a +favorite of my daughters Octavia and Eliza. They can give you all +particulars about friends at home. + + Bath, Sunday, Sept. 13. + +There are some kinds of indisposition that instead of weakening the +faculties of the mind, serve only to render them more vigorous and +sprightly, and in proportion as the body is debilitated, the mind is +strengthened. I have every reason to believe that the imagination never +soars to such lofty heights as it sometimes does in sickness. But where +am I! What about—Well may _you_ ask the question. Believe me, Cousin, I +have attempted to finish this letter 4 times this day. I cannot account +for my inability to write. It used to be the joy of my life, nothing +delighted me so much as to steal into the chamber by myself and scribble +an hour, but since I received your last I have often attempted to answer +it, but in vain. I have a stubborn brain; it must be coaxed, not driven. +I find there is nothing so tedious as to write when we are not in the +mood for it. You may easily see that I am not in one at present. Now for +Heaven’s sake see what I have written—find the chain that connects. When +I began I meant to say I had been quite unwell ever since I left +Portland, that some disorders only served to give vigor to the mind, +&c., &c., but I _meant_ also to say mine was altogether of a different +nature. But as I left that out, so I had better have done the other. +Oh—’tis too, too bad! I’ll not write another till I think I can +understand it after it is written. I am low-spirited, stupid and +everything else. + + Wednesday. + +Now I shall really think I have no _soul_ if I find myself as destitute +of ideas as I was on Sunday. I have just been viewing the most +delightful prospect I have seen this long time, and if it has left no +more impression on my mind than objects passing before a mirror, I shall +think myself devoid of every quality that constitutes us rational +beings. I think nature has done everything to render Bath pleasant: the +window at which I now sit commands a most delightful water prospect; the +river is about a mile in breadth at this place, the opposite banks are +neither sublime nor beautiful. What if I for a moment should take a +poet’s license, and by the force of imagination project steep and rugged +rocks! bid them stoop with awful majesty to reflect their gloomy horrors +in the wave! See you not that enormous precipice whose awful summit was +ne’er profaned by human footsteps? Does not your blood freeze as it +creeps along your veins? Behold again that barren waste, the axe nor the +plough have never clothed it with a borrowed charm, or robbed it of +those nature bestowed upon it; it still boasts its independence of the +labor of man. But to leave fiction for reality, the surface of the water +is a perfect mirror. I never saw it so perfectly smooth; at this moment +there is a boat passing, rowed by two men—the reflection in the water is +so distinct, so very clear, it looks like two boats. I admire to see a +boat _rowed_; it seems to look like arms or wings, moving with graceful +majesty, while the boat cuts the liquid bosom of the water, leaving as +it recedes a widening track. There is always to me something very +charming in the rowing of a boat. There is music in the motion; and what +can be more graceful and majestic than the motion of a _ship under +sail_? Yesterday there was a _brig_ passed by here—’twas within +hearing—very near. I never was more forcibly struck than at the moment; +I longed to prostrate myself in humble admiration—as she approached with +a slow, commanding, _celestial_ air;—at the moment I am sure it gave me +a better idea of the awful grandeur of a deity than anything I had ever +seen. I saw Juno’s dignified gracefulness such as I had read of but +could not conceive. + +I have often in reading been disagreeably struck by the epithets used +for the motions of the gods. Sometimes they make them _glide_ thro’ the +air, sometimes approach with a solemn _step_, and many other words I do +not recollect; nor do I at present think of any words that would answer +better—yet _to glide_ seems stealing along—to move rapidly and +imperceptibly;—a bird glides thro’ the air, yet there is nothing +celestial in the flight of a bird. It seems to me properly applied to +_fairies_; something light and airy should glide,—that a fairy should +glide along seems right,—just as I have an idea of them. And then for a +god _to step_—that seems too grovelling, too like us mortals,—yet that +in my opinion is better than the other. + +The place on which this house stands seems to project in a small degree +toward the water. I believe there is not a window in the house that does +not command a view of the water. In front there is a kind of cove the +water makes in several rods; the river is broad and straight, the land +rises gradually from it a half mile;—but I think it is to be regretted +that the inhabitants have built under the _hill_, or rather that they +did not prefer climbing a little higher; however, I think it must have a +fine appearance from the water. Last year I recollect sailing along in +front of the settlement and remarked how much more compact it looked +than it really is, the houses rising one above the other in such a +manner that every one was seen distinctly. I think nothing can be more +beautiful than a town built on a sloping ground ascending from so fine a +river as this branch of the Kennebec. All the navigation belonging to +the different ports on this river above Bath, passes directly by here, +and several times I have seen 12 or 14 at a time. To one who has been +brought up amidst salt marsh and flats, this large fine river affords +much novelty and amusement, and I cannot confess but the sensations I +feel in viewing it are more pleasing than those produced by a stagnant +water in a Scarborough salt pond. I have almost filled my sheet without +saying a word of your letter, indeed I have forgotten what was in it—at +the time you gave it me I know I received it with much pleasure, as it +robbed me of some painful moments. After Horatio’s recovery I sat down +one evening to write you, but I had only written the day of the month, +when a most violent clap of thunder (the same that struck Mrs. Horper’s +house) shook the pen from my hand and my desk from my lap. I do not +imagine even by this omen that I offend the strictest laws of virtue and +propriety by continuing to write you, therefore should something equally +powerful wrest the pen from my hand, depend upon it I will seize it with +renewed vigor and dare assure you of my esteem, &c., &c. + + ELIZA. + +I shall go to Wiscassett on Monday; expect to hear from me after I +return to Bath; while there I shall have no time. I expect to have +important communications to forward—a certain pair of sparkling eyes, +which are far more eloquent than her tongue! Now I have half a mind to +be affronted. I know at this time, as soon as you have read this you are +tumbling it into your pocket as waste paper to ponder on the brilliancy +of said eyes. Is it true? Well, I shall see them soon and shall be +tempted to ask some atonement for the damages I may suffer. Write me +often while I am here, it is your _duty_. + + Mr. Moses Porter, Biddeford. + + + By Mrs. King. + +To Mr. Moses Porter at Biddeford. + +I want to write, yet I don’t want to write to you, my _ceremonious_ +Cousin, but at this time I can think of nobody else and am _compelled_ +to address you. My last was dated from Bath, so is this; since then I +have made a visit to Wiscassett. Oh I believe—yes I did write a few +lines from there by Uncle Thatcher—I had forgotten that I wrote any more +than the letter I finished before I left Bath. I wish I could give you +an account of my spending my fortnight at Wiscasset, which would amuse +you as much as the reality did me, but that is impossible. I have seen +so many new faces—(I was going to say new characters, but they were +generally such as we see every day), so many handsome ladies, so many +fine men, indeed I have seen a little of everything. Mr. Wild and Mr. +Davis (of Portland) kept at Mrs. Lee’s. Mr. Wild is a most charming man, +and sensible and genteel, apparently has one of the mildest and most +amiable dispositions in the world. Mr. Davis you know. There was a Miss +P—— spent 2 or 3 days at Mrs. Lee’s. She was—was—I can’t tell you what; +you may have heard of her, celebrated for her wit, lost a lover by +exercising it rather too severely; poor soul! it was a sad affair; she +has at length become sensible of the impropriety of her conduct, and now +hopes to atone for it by flattering every gentleman she sees—time will +show whether this plan will succeed. She talks incessantly, laughs +always at what she says herself. At table, when the judges, lawyers, and +a dozen gentlemen and ladies were seated, Miss P—— engrossed all the +conversation. I defy any person to be in the room with her and not be +compelled to converse with her, not by the irresistible force of her +charms, they are rather in the wane. If you look at her she asks what +you were going to say—“I know you were going to speak by your looks.” Of +course my gentleman walks up, how can he help it? In this manner she +draws a whole swarm around her; the poor souls rattle out their +outrageous compliments, trembling with fear, for the moment their ardor +to please appears to abate, she rouses them to a sense of their duty by +a lash of her tongue. + +Sunday.—Now I can’t bear to be hurried, and I must submit to be or not +send this by Mamma King. Last night when I began this, I felt quite +disposed to throw away an hour (for my letters to you are thrown away as +you won’t take the trouble to answer them) without consulting anything +but my feelings. I began, and soon found, to my mortification, that I +ought to have consulted my candle, for as if piqued at my neglect, it +took French leave to doze. I broke off my description of Miss P—— in the +most _striking_ part. I do not resume the subject, ’twould be a +profanation of this day to scandalize a frail sister; my mind is full of +charity and Christian love. I hope I shall not stumble against some +unlucky thought that may derange its present peaceful state. Now, +Cousin, don’t you think it unpardonable, don’t you think it a violation +of all the laws of politeness, that you should neglect writing me merely +because I owed a letter? I should not be surprised if you counted the +words in yours and my letters and settled the account by some rule in +Arithmetic. But let me entreat you not to estimate mine by the _weight_, +but the _number_; in that case I am equal to anybody; but if, unhappily +for me, you should weigh them with critical exactness, ’twill take many +of them to repay you for one of yours. I feel assured you must have +adopted this method, and sincerely ask your pardon for doubting a moment +that this was the true cause. What prevented your coming to Wiscassett? +I tho’t you had determined upon it. Rebecca and I used to expect you +every day; believe me I was asked a dozen times if you were not +absolutely engaged to Miss Rice. How such things will get about. I told +every body that asked me that I was your confidant, of course must keep +your attachment a secret, for which I am prepared to receive your +thanks. + +Mr. Kinsman has been down to Wiscassett. He attended the courts, as he +says, to acquire a better knowledge of the law; but I should imagine he +mistook the _ladies_ for the _law_, as he makes them his constant study. +But I leave so dangerous a subject, lest my feelings should deprive me +of the power to finish this sheet. I shall probably return home the +beginning of next month. If I have a letter due from you, according to +your new arrangement, I beg you to forward it as soon as possible; +however, I have not the vanity to suppose there is more than a dozen +lines as yet; perhaps when I have written half a dozen more letters I +may be _richly_ rewarded with _one_ from you. Where is Maria? How does +she do? Rebecca wrote her while I was in Wiscassett, and told her +undoubtedly she is expected to spend the winter there. I must finish: +Uncle calls. + + ELIZA. + +I believe it is about the 10th day of October. + + E. + +Ellen Coffin is going to be married to a widower and 3 children, think +of that, sir!!! I had a letter from her last week. She is not coming +home till she leaves Portland as Mrs. Derby. + + Topsham, Oct. 29, 1801. + +Why, you unaccountable wretch! you obstinate fellow! you malicious, you +vain, you—Oh, I am run out, I will e’en call in the assistance of Sir +John Fallstaff to help me exclaim against you—provoking creature! With +one scratch of your pen to banish such delightful thoughts! I was +applauding myself for my _condescension_ in writing so often without +answers. I exulted in the thought of your shame and confusion at the +proofs of my superiority,—so much above the little forms that narrowed +your own heart. How did I see you hanging your head with penitence and +sorrow, while your face glowed with conscious shame! Oh, ’twas +delicious! Every day I reflected on it with renewed pleasure. I felt +assured nothing prevented your writing but an aversion to acknowledging +how humble, how little you felt,—yet the letter at length arrived, my +heart trembled with delight, a glow of triumph flushed my face. I saw +the humiliation so grateful to my vanity, (I was at the _Lieu_ table)—I +hurried the letter into my pocket, I had no wish to read it—I knew (I +tho’t I did) what it _must_ contain. I could scarcely breathe; vanity, +exultation, revenge (sweet sensation) gave me unusual spirits. I stood +and called 5— I was sure of a Palm-flush! ’twas impossible anything +could go wrong,—’twas a frail hope—I got nothing, was lieued; never mind +it, thought I, the letter is enough. I played wrong, discarded the wrong +card, knocked over the candlestick, spilt my wine; positively, if it had +been a love-letter, a first declaration, it would not put me in a worse +flustration; but ah! ’twas so different,—I did not blush, look down, +tremble, fear to raise my eyes; my heart did not dissolve away in +melting tenderness—hey-day! I had no notion of telling you what I did +_not_ do—but what I _did_. Well then—I sat so upright, I was a foot +taller, I looked at every body for applause. I wondered I did not hear +them exclaim: Oh, generous, excellent girl! I demanded it with my +eyes—’twas all in vain, I heard nothing but—“Eliza, you must follow +suit. Why do you play that card? You will certainly be lieued!” I was +vexed; I thought of the letter, all was sunshine again. I am +called—dinner; oh, this eating seems to clog all my faculties, I never +write with half so much ease as when I’m half starved. I believe it is +true that poets ought not to live well. + +But begging your pardon for leaving you so in the lurch, I had forgotten +that the letter was as yet unopened in my pocket. Well then, we did not +break up till late; after I retired to bed out came the letter. I was +sleepy and had a great mind not to open it till morning; however I +thought I would, to have the satisfaction of the confirmation of my +hopes, not once thinking of the stroke that should annihilate them. It +came. How shall I tell you my consternation!—“description falters at the +threshold;” yet I did not rave, I did not tear my hair with a frenzy of +passion. I did not stand in mute despair,—no; I collected all my dignity +and stood fixed and immovable. I was convinced ’twas obstinacy alone, +’twas envy, ’twas a something that prevented you from giving me what you +knew I deserved. I am called again. + + Portland, Nov. 10, 1801. + +I had almost determined to light the fire with this scrawl!—but upon +second thoughts I withdrew my hand from the devouring flames and saved +it from the fate it so justly merits. Yet we have such a partiality for +our own offspring we rarely ever treat them with the severity they +deserve. But I ought to tell you where I am,—but this letter has nothing +like method in it—but never mind—I began it immediately after I received +your last. I wrote while the first impressions it made were on me; +unluckily I was called from the pleasing task while in the midst of it, +and as I never feel the same two hours together, I was unable to +continue as I began: ’twould have been cold and studied; so I left it. I +threw it into my trunk, determining not to have anything more to do with +it. I had grown amazingly wise; I wondered how I could suffer myself to +write such nonsense. To-day I have received an invitation to the +_second_ wedding of Capt. Stephenson. I shall go. I thought I would +write you a line to let you know I was still in existence and on my way +home. I could not find any paper and was compelled to tumble over my +trunk to find this. I have a world of news to tell you, but I don’t know +that you would care a farthing about any of it. Mary has been at Boston. +Capt. Stephenson told me all about it. Tell her I hear she has a heap of +fine things, at which, together with her ladyship, I hope to have a +peep. I have something of vast importance to say to _her_ likewise, a +thing on which depends the life and happiness of a fellow-creature. “Oh, +Mary! who would have thought cruelty one of the failings of your heart.” +But I shall out with this secret to you before I am aware of it. Now I +have a great mind to turn this into a letter to Mary. I have as much +again to say to her as I have to you, but she would not know what to +make of some of it. I expect to be at home on Saturday next; bring Mary +on Sunday,—mind, and don’t disobey. Horatio will be with me. I am in a +monstrous hurry. I must send more blank paper than I ever did before, +for which you will thank me, as I think you once told me that the blank +paper in my letters always afforded you the most pleasure,—not exactly +so—but something like it. Adieu. + + ELIZA. + + Mr. Moses Porter. + + + Scarborough, Dec. 4th, 1801. + +“I give you thanks,” as Parson Fletcher says, for your dissertation upon +apologies and old sayings. You have stored up enough to fill a volume, +if I should take your last as a specimen of the quantity. However, they +are things I trouble myself but little about, and I should rather be +inclined to join in railing against them than in enumerating their good +effects. I perceive that you were much more inclined to be their +advocate after supper than you were before. You had just laid down your +pen after venting all your spleen and ill-nature (occasioned by your +impatience for roast-beef) upon these poor harmless old sayings. You +return, with an entire new set of sentiments on the subject. You +commence their advocate with more vehemence than is usual with you, and +conclude by making them the very foundation of every virtue. Now I have +endeavored to find some natural cause for this sudden change, but +cannot. Was it that you heard one trickle from the lips of some favorite +fair with eloquence too powerful to be resisted? Or was it a bumper of +wine which proved so warm a friend to them? Or was it the good-natured +effects of the roast-beef, which exhilarating your spirits, made you +look with an eye of pity and compassion on these poor neglected things, +and endeavor by rubbing off the rust and polishing them anew, to +compensate for your malicious endeavors to lessen their merit? But after +all I must confess myself a great enemy to them, in conversation +particularly. I never knew a person who made frequent use of them, but I +pitied them for the scanty portion of ideas which must have driven them +to such a paltry theft; and moreover, if I must steal the idea, I would +clothe it myself, lest its garment should betray me. I dislike them +because they are in every body’s mouth, the greatest fool on earth has +sense enough to use them with as much propriety as any other, and you +will find every old beggar has his wallet stuffed full of them, ready to +launch out on every occasion. I don’t know, however, but you are +perfectly right in what you say in their defence. I am inclined to +believe what you say is just, but I have so often seen instances of +their meaning being perverted to answer some vicious purpose that I am +compelled to believe the balance is against them. “So much for old +sayings.”—But now as to apologies, I must with _due reverence_ beg leave +to differ from you in my opinion of them. I am by no means inclined to +think they are never used but when we know ourselves in fault, and that +we ought always to suspect the sincerity of any one who makes them. You +certainly must have known instances when they were essentially +necessary, and not to have made them would have proved an obstinacy of +disposition quite as disagreeable as insincerity. I hate this parade and +nonsense about _independence_, which every gentleman of _ton_ puts on; +it always proves that the reality is small, when such a fuss is made for +the appearance. I know some gentlemen who boast of never having made an +apology, yet at the same time would say and do a thousand things much +more derogatory to their dear independence than fifty apologies, such as +any man of sense might make. I should be glad to see our fine gentlemen +more careful in avoiding anything that would require an apology, and not +like cowards skulk behind their flimsy shield of independence for +defence or security. I have as great an aversion to cringing apologies, +made on every occasion, as you possibly can have, and should always +suspect the sincerity of them.—If this class are the greater part of +them,—still I can conceive, nay I _have known_ instances when an apology +has heightened my opinion of a person instead of lessening it. If we are +in fault, ought we not to confess it? If we are _not_ in fault, ought we +not to exculpate ourselves? I should think a person valued my +approbation very little, if he knew I had any reason to censure him and +yet would not by a single word convince me I had been deceived. However, +I did not mean to dip so far into this _weighty_ subject, ’twould have +been better to have just touched the edges and away. Now really, Moses, +I write in pain if I am not good-natured; you must attribute it all to +the cold which makes my fingers tingle; I can’t write below, there is +such a gabbling. ’Tis a cold, comfortless night; the rain patters +against the window and the wind whistles round the house, it sounds like +December,—oh! that was an unlucky word! I feel gloomy at the sight of +it. The storm has driven all my thoughts back to myself for shelter. I +am at this moment so selfish and cross that I would not walk ten steps +to do good to any one. Our old windows here clatter so that I can hear +nothing else. I shall begin to think the candle burns blue, and that I +hear the groans of distress between the blasts of wind, which sound +hollow and dreary; even now the shadow of my pen on the wall looked like +a man’s arm, and as true as I live, here is a winding-sheet in the +candle. Oh these hobgoblin stories! we never get rid of them. I +sometimes, when sitting alone, after all are asleep in the house, get my +imagination so roused, that I look in fearful expectation that the tall +martial ghost of Hamlet will stalk before my eyes, or that some less +dignified one will step through the keyhole, or pop down +chimney.—Ghosts, what a looking word that is!!—nonsense!—what was I +going to say, something about ghosts and all not warming my fingers. I +declare this shall be the last letter I will write from the +fire,—December, and writing in the chamber without fire. Oh—monstrous! +But here am I at the end without saying several things I meant to. I +never, when I sit down to write, say any thing I wished or intended to +when I began. You found my letter, you say—’twas not worth the finding, +as it was too late to answer the purpose I wish. Write me often. I have +been entertained with Johnson’s life. We are alone, so write me often. + + E. S. + +A man of your gallantry, cousin, surely might make a small exertion to +confer an obligation on two of the fair. Octavia and myself are very +anxious that Miss Tappan should make us a visit. My father will bring +Miranda home; but our chaise is broken so much that ’tis impossible to +use it in its present state; none to be hired or borrowed. Why can’t you +take a chaise and bring over Pauline and Betsey Tappan? Besides +gratifying me with their company, I would be very glad to see you—no +coaxing Eliza! But I am in earnest; come and see. Do come and bring them +if possible. I will show you some of Martha’s letters from London, Bath. +I will tell you everything I can think of and perhaps invent something +if all this won’t do. Lord bless me! I should not have to urge every one +so hard to come and see me. I am sure I should be discouraged; but +seriously, I wish you to come _very_ much, but if you think it +_impossible_, or rather very bad—don’t mind what I say; however, I +expect you. + + ELIZA. + + To Mr. Moses Porter. + + + Portland, Jan. 24, 1802. + +Now at this moment imagine your friend Eliza half-double with the cold, +two children teazing and playing round the table, sister and nurse +talking all the time, and you will then be prepared to receive a letter +abounding with sound reasoning, profound argument, elegant language, and +a profusion of sublime ideas; but do not stare if I intersperse, by way +of relieving your mind, a few little Jackey Horner stories which I am +obliged to gabble out by wholesale to stop the children’s mouths. If I +had not had a most retentive memory, I should have forgotten we were +correspondents. I can put up with such a tardy, indifferent, reluctant +correspondent when I myself set the example—but we ladies are so +accustomed to attention from gentlemen that I can hardly bring myself to +put up with your neglect. I have a thousand times determined to wait +just as long before I answer your letters as you do before mine are +noticed, and you have nothing to prevent—but, pshaw! I am only spending +time to give you something to laugh at. I must honestly acknowledge, +however, that your last letter was very _acceptable_, though I was +piqued at your neglecting me so long. I wish I felt adequate to giving +an opinion on your perfect character, but as I have told you before, I +cannot _think_ when all is noise and confusion around me. But I have +endeavored in vain to find fault with it. I am really sorry that your +sentiments so perfectly coincide with my own, for you have said all I +think on the subject and much more than I could have expressed, +therefore I am compelled to assent to all you have said. I am very glad +we do not agree on every subject, for our letters would (mine I mean) be +very unentertaining, indeed they have no merit to part with. I do not +mean to send your perfect character away without a more intimate +acquaintance. When I feel in a proper mood for it I will take it up and +examine every quality separately. I have the outlines impressed on my +mind, but I cannot refer to your letter for ’tis up in my trunk and I +feel no disposition to leave the fire; with your permission I will lay +it by till another time. In the meantime let us descend from these +important discussions to the trifling occurrences of the day. With great +satisfaction we at length behold the ground covered with snow, for we +are almost freezing here; it has been impossible almost to obtain wood +to keep us warm, and I declare I have thought a log-house and clay +chimney—The bell rings—I must stop!— + + Monday, Feb. 1, 1802, Portland. + +The sudden ringing of the bell last Monday stopt me in the midst of a +very homely catalogue of blessings—’tis not worth finishing, and if it +was I could not take up a broken sentence and finish it a week after it +was begun. I have in vain attempted to finish this sheet, but I find I +am entirely unfit to write. I hold my pen firm in my hand, look this +side and that side, yet still cannot think. Scarborough—desolate, dreary +Scarborough is the only place from whence I can write with ease,—nothing +present engages my attentions, and I then have leisure to turn over the +rubbish which I have collected from home—ponder on things past and +anticipate those to come: ’tis something like dreaming,—we are +insensible to everything around us,—the imagination is unchecked by the +operation of our senses, and soars beyond the boundaries of reality. +Pray read over this last half-page and see if you cannot tell how I +feel, look, and act at this moment. If your penetration does not +discover a something unlike my letters in general,—cold and studied—I +will not—I cannot write, another post must pass and no letter, yet ’tis +labor, ’tis pain to write thus. + + Sunday, Feb. 8. + +To see the dates of this sheet one would immediately conclude that my +ideas flowed periodically and that I had stated periods to “unpack the +heart,” but ’tis because I cannot take my pen and write at the moment I +feel an inclination,—not to defer it till a more convenient time when I +most probably should feel indifferent about it. Now I am aware what you +are about to infer from such a dull studied letter as this is,—The +“seven days twice run” has put something into your head that ought not +to be there, and you are laughing in your sleeve at the discovery. Now, +I am not after the manner of our sex going to protest it is false—that +there is no foundation for such a report, and counterfeit anger that I +don’t feel, for these things always are viewed as a modest confirmation +of the truth, and frequently are considered the greatest proof that can +be brought. It is folly to give importance to such stories by appearing +to feel interested, and the only way to destroy them is to hear and let +them pass with perfect indifference; time will certainly show what is +true and what is not, and the only method is to let them take their +course, they will sink to oblivion if not fed by our own folly. I own +’tis unpleasant to hear such things, but every girl must prepare herself +for such vexations. It has one good effect—that of making us more +circumspect in our conduct. I do not say I am not in love; if your +penetration has not discovered that I _am_, neither will what I say +convince you. How such a report came to you I do not know. I had hoped +it would wither and die in the hotbed of scandal from whence it sprang. +If you lived here you would not be surprised at any thing of the kind. I +declare to you I don’t know the girl in town of whom the same is not +said. The prevailing propensity this winter is _match-making_, and at +the assemblies there is no other conversation,—such and such a one will +make a match because they dance together,—another one is positively +engaged because she does _not_ dance with him. If a lady does not attend +the assembly constantly—’tis because her favorite swain is not a +member,—if she does—’tis to meet him there: if she is silent, she is +certainly in love; if she is gay and talks much, there must be a lover +in the way. If a gentleman looks at you at meeting you are suspected, if +he dances with you at the assembly it must be true, and if he _rides_ +with you—’tis “confirmation strong as proof of holy writ.” I am vext to +have spent so much time on this subject, but I care nothing about it. +’Tis well I have found something to fill my sheet, and had it not been +for that lucky seven days twice over, I should not have finished it this +month, and finishing now has been a _week’s_ work. + + ELIZA. + + To Mr. Moses Porter. + + + Sunday, Feb’y 14. + +Only think, Moses, I was from home when you passed thro’ town! I did not +expect you so soon, altho’ you said you should return on Friday. I +thought _something_ might detain you in Wiscassett longer than you +expected; but you are one of those odd fellows which nothing can turn +aside, no, not even the most sparkling pair of black eyes in the world +could detain you a moment longer than you first intended,—what a +philosopher in this age of gallantry to remain untainted! It will come +at last, Moses. Belamy says there is as much a time for love as for +death, and every one as surely one time or other will feel it. I expect +to see you throw off the Philosopher and assume the man; one more trial +and I will pronounce you invulnerable. For Miss T——, this one is +reserved. I long to see how you will look when (to use a religious +phrase) you are struck down. Pray write me as soon as you receive this +and tell me about your journey; don’t wait as long as you commonly do. + + Adieu. + + ELIZA. + + Portland, March 1, 1802. + +Such a frolic! Such a chain of adventures I never before met with, nay, +the page of romance never presented its equal. ’Tis now Monday,—but a +little more method, that I may be understood. I have just ended my +Assembly’s adventure, never got home till this morning. Thursday it +snowed violently, indeed for two days before it had been storming so +much that the snow drifts were very large; however, as it was the last +Assembly I could not resist the temptation of going, as I knew all the +world would be there. About 7 I went down-stairs and found young Charles +Coffin, the minister, in the parlor. After the usual enquiries were over +he stared awhile at my feathers and flowers, asked if I was going out,—I +told him I was going to the Assembly. “Think, Miss Southgate,” said he, +after a long pause, “think you would go out to _meeting_ in such a storm +as this?” Then assuming a tone of reproof, he entreated me to examine +well my feelings on such an occasion. I heard in silence, unwilling to +begin an argument that I was unable to support. The stopping of the +carriage roused me; I immediately slipt on my socks and coat, and met +Horatio and Mr. Motley in the entry. The snow was deep, but Mr. Motley +took me up in his arms and sat me in the carriage without difficulty. I +found a full assembly, many married ladies, and every one disposed to +end the winter in good spirits. At one we left dancing and went to the +cardroom to wait for a coach. It stormed dreadfully. The hacks were all +employed as soon as they returned, and we could not get one till 3 +o’clock, for about two they left the house, determined not to return +again for the night. It was the most violent storm I ever knew. There +were now 20 in waiting, the gentlemen scolding and fretting, the ladies +murmuring and complaining. One hack returned; all flocked to the stairs +to engage a seat. So many crowded down that ’twas impossible to get +past; luckily I was one of the first. I stept in, found a young lady, +almost a stranger in town, who keeps at Mrs. Jordan’s, sitting in the +back-seat. She immediately caught hold of me and beg’d if I possibly +could accommodate her to take her home with me, as she had attempted to +go to Mrs. Jordan’s, but the drifts were so high, the horses could not +get through; that they were compelled to return to the hall, where she +had not a single acquaintance with whom she could go home. I was +distres’t, for I could not ask her home with me, for sister had so much +company that I was obliged to go home with Sally Weeks and give my +chamber to Parson Coffin. I told her this, and likewise that she should +be provided for if my endeavors could be of any service. None but ladies +were permitted to get into the carriage; it presently was stowed in so +full that the horses could not move; the door was burst open, for such a +clamor as the closing of it occasioned I never before heard. The +universal cry was—“a gentleman in the coach, let him come out!” We all +protested there was none, as it was too dark to distinguish; but the +little man soon raised his voice and bid the coachman proceed; a dozen +voices gave contrary orders. ’Twas a proper riot, I was really alarmed. +My gentleman, with avast deal of fashionable independence, swore no +power on earth should make him quit his seat; but a gentleman at the +door jump’t into the carriage, caught hold of him, and would have +dragged him out if we had not all entreated them to desist. He squeezed +again into his seat, inwardly exulting to think he should get safe home +from such rough creatures as the men, should pass for a lady, be secure +under their protection, for none would insult him before them, mean +creature!! The carriage at length started full of ladies, and not one +gentleman to protect us, except our lady man who had crept to us for +shelter. When we found ourselves in the street, the first thing was to +find out who was in the carriage and where we were all going, who first +must be left. Luckily two gentlemen had followed by the side of the +carriage, and when it stopt took out the ladies as they got to their +houses. Our sweet little, trembling, delicate, unprotected fellow sat +immovable whilst the two gentlemen that were obliged to walk thro’ all +the snow and storm carried all the ladies from the carriage. What could +be the motive of the little wretch for creeping in with us I know not: I +should have thought ’twas his great wish to serve the ladies, if he had +moved from the seat, but ’twas the most singular thing I ever heard of. +We at length arrived at the place of our destination. Miss Weeks asked +Miss Coffin (for that was the unlucky girl’s name) to go home with her, +which she readily did. The gentlemen then proceeded to take us out. My +beau, unused to carrying such a weight of sin and folly, sank under its +pressure, and I was obliged to carry my mighty self through the snow +which almost buried me. Such a time, I never shall forget it! My +great-grandmother never told any of her youthful adventures to equal it. +The storm continued till Monday, and I was obliged to stay; but Monday I +insisted if there was any possibility of getting to Sister’s to set out. +The horse and sleigh were soon at the door, and again I sallied forth to +brave the tempestuous weather (for it still snowed) and surmount the +many obstacles I had to meet with. We rode on a few rods, when coming +directly upon a large drift, we stuck fast. We could neither get forward +nor turn round. After waiting till I was most frozen we got out, and +with the help of a truckman the sleigh was lifted up and turned towards +a cross street that led to Federal Street. We again went on; at the +corner we found it impossible to turn up or turn, but must go down and +begin where we first started, and take a new course; but suddenly +turning the corner we came full upon a pair of trucks, heavily laden; +the drift on one side was so large that it left a very narrow passage +between that and the corner house, indeed we were obliged to go so near +that the post grazed my bonnet. What was to be done? Our horses’ heads +touched before we saw them. I jump’t out, the sleigh was unfastened and +lifted round, and we again measured back our old steps. At length we +arrived at Sister Boyd’s door, and the drift before it was the greatest +we had met with; the horse was so exhausted that he sunk down, and we +really thought him dead. ’Twas some distance from the gate and no path. +The gentleman took me up in his arms and carried me till my weight +pressed him so far into the snow that he had no power to move his feet. +I rolled out of his arms and wallowed till I reached the gate; then +rising to shake off the snow, I turned and beheld my beau fixed and +immoveable; he could not get his feet out to take another step. At +length, making a great exertion to spring his whole length forward, he +made out to reach the poor horse, who lay in a worse condition than his +master. By this time all the family had gathered to the window, indeed +they saw the whole frolic; but ’twas not yet ended, for, unluckily, in +pulling off Miss Weeks’ bonnet to send to the sleigh to be carried back, +I pulled off my wig and left my head bare. I was perfectly convulsed +with laughter. Think what a ludicrous figure I must have been, still +standing at the gate, my bonnet halfway to the sleigh and my wig in my +hand. However, I hurried it on, for they were all laughing at the +window, and made the best of my way into the house. The horse was +unhitched and again set out, and left me to ponder on the incidents of +the morning. I have since heard of several events that took place that +Assembly night much more amusing than mine,—nay, Don Quixote’s most +ludicrous adventures compared with some of them will appear like the +common events of the day. + + March 12, 1802. + +William Weeks is going to Philipsburg[24] and thinks of returning by the +way of Scarborough; if so, will leave this at our house, otherwise can +return it to me. I have not yet seen Miss Jewett, but I hear she has +returned. Did your Saco party come as you expected? Give my love to Miss +Tappan, and tell her nothing but the fame of her beauty would carry this +young man so many miles out of his way. I found he was very desirous of +calling at our house, therefore wrote by him. Tell her she must answer +for the mischief done by leading young men astray from their path. I +will estimate the loss it will be to William:—he will ride 6 or 8 miles +further than necessary,—fatigue his horse,—wear out his sleigh runners, +and certainly be detained 3 hours. Now, as we know a gentleman’s time is +much more valuable than a lady’s, it must be a real loss to him. 3 +dollars a day for posting books any common accountant would have; and +allowing him but just so much, his loss would certainly amount to 4–6 on +that score. I speak merely of the loss on the score of interest;—how +deeply it may affect him otherwise may better be imagined from the +ravages she has committed in Mr. Orr’s heart than from anything I can +say. This short visit may derange all his reasoning faculties, and give +a different hue to all his future prospects,—it may give him a disrelish +for all amusements, and make him sigh for the calm serenity of domestic +life,—to sum up all together—it may make him _in love_,—but I shall have +no time to say anything else, if I run on with this any further. +To-morrow I expect to go to Gorham,—return the same evening or Sunday +morning. I am still at Mrs. Coffin’s, but shall return to Sister when I +come from Gorham. We have had a number of pleasant parties this +week,—Tuesday Mrs. Robert Boyd had a charming one. Wednesday had a large +one here, and to-day all going to Capt. Robinson’s, where we expect to +dance. To-morrow I go to Gorham. I wrote to Mamma requesting money to +buy a lace shade,—I called to look at them again and the shopkeeper told +me he was mistaken in the price, for it was 21 per yard instead of the +whole pattern, which makes a vast difference. I, of course, think no +more of lace shades, but I still think of some money, I have but 4 cents +in the world, not enough to pay the postage of a letter, pray send me a +little immediately. I shall send you a description of the Assembly—which +I believe you may read to my Mother if you wish, ’twill amuse her I +know. I wish you would look in the old desk among my papers and get a +little Drawing book,—directions for drawing printed in a pamphlet, and +give to William to bring over. I hope the snow will last till Mamma +comes over and I return home, ’tis delightful weather. How do the +daisies and jelly flowers? Mrs. Parker is going to give me some flower +seeds. I hear frequent enquiries for you—when are you coming in town? +Tell Miss Tappan I had the honor of dancing a voluntary dance with Mr. +Orr at the last assembly,—he attracted much attention by his irregular +expression—“The floor was very _unyielding_,” &c., &c. I did not tell +you any one’s adventures but my own on that eventful night. Poor Mr. +Orr, impatient to get home, plunged into the snow without waiting for a +carriage, and unfortunately turning up street instead of down, got most +to Mr. Vaughn’s before he discovered his mistake, and was obliged to +turn round and worry his way back again, he was half dead when he got to +his lodgings. Eunice Deering was tumbled over and when Mr. Little took +her from the carriage[25]. + + * * * * * + + Portland, May 23, 1802. + +I receive your apology and am satisfied—’tis not the manner of making +apologies I think most of, but that long dissertation on the subject +continually obtrudes itself on your mind whenever you feel conscious an +apology is necessary, but while I am convinced nothing but the fear of +appearing inconsistent prevents your making these said apologies, I will +not complain—let them come “edgeways” or any other way—so long as I am +convinced you feel their necessity. But I have been pondering on your +new plan of life, yet I confess it does not appear to me so delightful +as to you, it sounds well,—tickles the fancy,—cuts a pretty figure on +paper and would form a delightful chapter for a novel. Our novelists +have worn the pleasures of rural life threadbare, every lovesick swain +imagines that with the mistress of his heart he could leave the noisy +tumultuous scenes of life and in the shades of rural retirement feel all +the delightful serenity and peace ascribed to the golden age. The +Philosopher and the Poet fly to this imaginary heaven with as much +enthusiasm as the lover. Here, say they, we can contemplate the beauty +and sublimity of nature free from interruption; here the reflecting mind +can find endless subjects for contemplation! here all is peace and love! +no discord can find a place among these innocent and happy beings,—they +live but to promote the happiness of each other and their every action +teems with benevolence and love. Yet let us judge for ourselves,—we all +have seen what the pleasures of rural life are, and whatever Poets may +have ascribed to it, we must know there is as much depravity and +consequently as much discontent in the inhabitants of a country village +as in the most populous city. They are generally ignorant, illiterate, +without knowledge to discover the real blessings they enjoy by comparing +them with others, continually looking to those above them with envy and +discontent and imagine their share of happiness is proportioned to their +rank and power. I am convinced that a country life is more calculated to +produce that security and happiness we are all in pursuit of than any +other, but those who have ever been accustomed to it have no relish for +its pleasures, and those who quit the busy scenes of life, disgusted by +the duplicity or ingratitude of the world, or oppressed by the weight of +accumulated misfortune—carry with them feelings and sentiments which +cannot be reciprocated. Solitary happiness I have no idea of, ’tis only +in the delightful sympathies of friendship, similarity of sentiments, +that genuine happiness can be enjoyed. Your mind is cultivated and +enlarged, your sentiments delicate and refined, you could not expect to +find many with whom you could converse on a perfect equality,—or rather +many whose sentiments could assimilate with yours. Were I a man, I +should think it cowardly to bury myself in solitude,—nay, I should be +unwilling to confess I felt myself unable to preserve my virtue where +there were temptations to destroy it, there is no merit in being +virtuous when there is no struggle to preserve that virtue. ’Tis in the +midst of temptations and allurements that the active and generous +virtues must be exerted in their full force. One virtuous action where +there were temptations and delusions to surmount would give more delight +to my own heart, more real satisfaction than a whole life spent in more +negative goodness, he must be base indeed who can voluntarily act wrong +when no allurement draws him from the path of virtue. You say you never +dip’t much into the pleasures of _high life_ and therefore should have +but little to regret on that score. In the choice of life one ought to +consult their own dispositions and inclinations, their own powers and +talents. We all have a preference to some particular mode of life, and +we surely ought to endeavor to arrive at that which will more probably +ensure us most happiness. I have often thought what profession I should +choose were I a man. I might then think very differently from what I do +now, yet I have always thought if I felt conscious of possessing +brilliant talents, the _law_ would be my choice. Then I might hope to +arrive at an eminence which would be gratifying to my feelings. I should +then hope to be a public character, respected and admired,—but unless I +was convinced I possessed the talents which would distinguish me as a +speaker I would be anything rather than a lawyer;—from the dry sameness +of such employments as the business of an office all my feelings would +revolt, but to be an eloquent speaker would be the delight of my heart. +I thank Heaven I was _born_ a woman. I have now only patiently to wait +till some clever fellow shall take a fancy to me and place me in a +situation, I am determined to make the best of it, let it be what it +will. We ladies, you know, possess that “sweet pliability of temper” +that disposes us to enjoy any situation, and we must have no choice in +these things till we find what is to be our destiny, then we must +consider it the best in the world. But remember, I desire to be thankful +I am not a man. I should not be content with moderate abilities—nay, I +should not be content with mediocrity in any thing, but as a woman I am +equal to the generality of my sex, and I do not feel that great desire +of fame I think I should if I was a man. Should you hereafter become an +inhabitant of Boyford I make no doubt you will be very happy, because +you will weigh all the advantages and disadvantages. Yet I do not think +you qualified for the laborious life farmers generally lead, and it +requires a little fortune to live an independent farmer without labor. +Rebecca would do charmingly, I know you are imagining her the partner of +all your joys and cares,—of all your harmony and content, when you charm +yourself with your description of rural happiness. With her you imagined +you could quit the world and almost live happy in a desert. So may it +be,—I know none but a lover could paint the sweets of retirement with +such enthusiasm. ’Tis _my_ turn now to rail a little,—the world also has +linked _you_ to a certain person, as firmly—nay, _more_ so than it ever +did me; however I will not press so closely on this subject. I shall not +expect that candid confession I made you,—as your feelings and mine are, +I believe, entirely different on the two subjects. I want to ask you a +question which you may possibly think improper, but if so, do not answer +it.—Is Mary[26] really engaged to Mr. Coffin? I hear so from so many +persons and in so decided a manner I cannot doubt. I would ask her, but +in these things there is so much deception, there is no finding out,—but +however, I think I should never deny such a thing when I once was +engaged,—however, enough of this. I am now in Portland, shall return +to-morrow to Scarborough where I shall be very happy to see you and +Mary, so I depend on your bringing her over very soon. Adieu—dinner is +ready and I have nothing to say worth losing it for, write me often—I +shall be at home alone these two months to come,—remember you have it in +your power to amuse and gratify. + + ELIZA. + + +I hardly know what to say to you, Cousin, you have attacked my system +with a kind of fury that has entirely obscured your judgment, and +instead of being convinced of its impracticability, you appear to fear +its justness. You tell me of some excellent effects of my system, but +pardon me for thinking they are dictated by prejudice rather than +reason. I feel fully convinced in my own mind that no such effects could +be produced. You ask if this plan of education will render one a more +dutiful child, a more affectionate wife, &c, &c., surely it will,—those +virtues which now are merely practised from the momentary impulse of the +heart, will then be adhered to from principle, a sense of duty, and a +mind sufficiently strengthened not to yield implicitly to every impulse, +will give a degree of uniformity, of stability to the female character, +which it evidently at present does not possess. From having no fixed +guide for our conduct we have acquired a reputation for caprice, which +we justly deserve. I can hardly believe you serious when you say that +“the enlargement of the mind will inevitably produce superciliousness +and a desire of ascendancy,”—I should much sooner expect it from an +ignorant, uncultivated mind. We cannot enlarge and improve our minds +without perceiving our weakness, and wisdom is always modest and +unassuming,—on the contrary a mind that has never been exerted knows not +its deficiencies and presumes much more on its powers than it otherwise +would. You beg me to drop this crazy scheme and say no more about +enlarging the mind, as it is disagreeable, and you are too much +prejudiced ever to listen with composure to me when I write on the +subject. I quit it forever, nor will I again shock your ear with a plan +which you think has nothing for its foundation either just or durable, +which a girlish imagination gave birth to, and a presumptuous folly +cherished. I fear I have rather injured the cause than otherwise, and +what I have said may have more firmly established those sentiments in +you which I wished to destroy. Be it as it may, I believe it is a cause +that has been more injured by its friends than its enemies. I am sorry +that I have said so much, yet I said no more than I really thought, and +still think, just and true. I beg you to say no more to me on the +subject as I shall know ’twill be only a form of politeness which I will +dispense with. You undoubtedly think I am acting out of my sphere in +attempting to discuss this subject, and my presumption probably gave +rise to that idea, which you expressed in your last, that however +unqualified a woman might be she was always equipt for the discussion of +any subject and overwhelmed her hearers with her “clack.” On what +subjects shall I write you? I shall either fatigue and disgust you with +female trifles, or shock you by stepping beyond the limits you have +prescribed. As I cannot pursue a medium I fear I shall be obliged to +relinquish the hope of pleasing—of course of writing. Good night, I am +sleepy and stupid. Morning. O, how I hate this warm weather, it deprives +me of the power of using any exertion, it clogs my ideas, and I ask no +greater felicity than the pleasure of doing nothing. I intended to amuse +you with some of the trifles of the day, but I shall scarcely do them +justice this morning. Friday night we had a ball,—the hall was decorated +with much taste. ’Twas filled up for the _masons_. At the head of the +room there was a most romantic little bower, four large pillars formed +of green and interspersed with flowers, supported a kind of canopy which +was arched in front, with this inscription—“Here Peace and Silence +reign,” filled with a parcel of girls whining sentiment, and silly +fellows spouting love, it produced a most laughable scene. The deities +to whom it was dedicated withdrew from the sacred retreat, which was so +profaned, and noise and folly reigned supreme,—so sweet a place,—so fine +an opportunity for making speeches—’twas irresistible, even _you_ would +have caught a spark of inspiration from the surrounding glories,—and +felt a degree of emulation at the flashes of genius that blazed from +every quarter. Invention was on the rack, the stores of memory were +exhausted and folly blushed to be so outdone. Mr. Symmes sat down to +overwhelm me with a torrent of eloquence, yet his compassionate heart +often prompted him to hesitate that I might recover myself. Such stores +of learning did he display, such mines of wisdom did he open to my view, +that I gazed with astonishment and awe and scarce believed “That one +small head could carry all he knew.” Mr. Kinsman with a countenance that +beamed with benevolence and compassion gazed on all around, while a +benign smile played round his mouth and dimpled his polished cheek, the +laughing loves peeped from his eyes and aimed their never-failing +darts—rash girl—too, too near hast thou approached this divinity—the +poisoned dart still rankles in thy heart,—“The lingering pang of +hopeless love unpitied I endure,” and feel a wound within my heart which +death alone can cure. Monday night—You will easily perceive that I am +obliged to write when and where I can, I have not quite so much leisure +as when at Scarborough, and though in the very place to _hear news_, I +have no faculty of relating what I hear in a manner that could interest +you. Last evening I spent in talking scandal (for which God forgive me) +but was too tempting an occasion to be resisted. I wish you were +acquainted with some of the Portland ladies, I would then tell you many +things that might amuse. But I dare not introduce you to them, lest I +should entirely mistake their character, and that when personally +acquainted with them you would be confirmed in your opinion of my +wanting penetration in studying characters. Yesterday I spent with +Martha, I wish you were acquainted with her, she is truly an _original_. +I never saw one that bore any resemblance to her. She despises flattery +and is even above praise, beautiful without vanity, possessing a refined +understanding without pedantry, the most exquisite sensibility connected +with all the great and noble qualities of the mind. She knows that no +woman in America ever was more admired, she has received every attention +which could be paid and yet is exactly as before she left Portland. The +same condescension, the same elegance and unaffected simplicity of +manners, the same independent and noble sentiments. Perhaps I am blinded +to her faults, yet I think she deserves all I say of her, nay more, for +she “outstrips all praise and makes it halt behind her.” They have +determined to go to England, in two months at farthest they will leave +America, not to return for 2 years,—two years! how many, many events +will have taken place. Perhaps ere that I shall rest in the tomb of my +fathers forgotten and unknown!! Perhaps oppressed with care and borne +down with misfortune, I shall have lost all relish for life—all hopes of +pleasure may have ceased to exist and the grave of time closed over them +forever. I grow gloomy, I wish I could write anything, but I have never +felt a relish for writing since I have been in Portland,—at home it +supplies the place of _society_, but here I need no such substitute. + + ELIZA. + +Write by the post if you have no other opportunity, the players will +commence acting next Wednesday. + +I believe it is the 28th. + + Mr. Moses Porter, Biddeford. + + +This letter is the last one written by Miss Southgate to her cousin +Moses Porter. The following one from Dr. Southgate to his +brother-in-law, Rufus King, who was then living in England, tells of the +untimely death of his nephew, and its sad cause, July 26th, 1802. + + +Our brother and sister Porter of Biddeford have lost their eldest son +Moses. He dyed (sic) about fifteen days since of the yellow fever. He +had a ship arrived from the West Indies. On her passage the _cook boy_ +dyed suddenly—the rest of the crew were none of them sick, but of those +persons who went on board, five or six were taken with the yellow fever +in about four days—none of whom lived more than four or five days. Moses +is much lamented by his family and acquaintance—this month would have +completed his law education. His talents, generous and amiable +disposition formed a pleasing prospect etc. etc. Mrs. Porter’s health is +_better_, better than I ever expected she would have enjoyed tho’ she is +now only a feeble woman. + + R. SOUTHGATE. + +[Illustration: + + Mr. E. HASKET DERBY of Salem Æt 28, 1794 + From a miniature in possession of Dr. Hasket Derby of Boston. + + ARTOTYPE, E BIERSTADT, N. Y. +] + + + JOURNAL. + + Tuesday, July 6th, 1802. + +Arrived in Salem, met Mrs. Derby at the door who received us joyfully. +At tea-time saw the children, fine boys, very fond of Ellen and are +managed by their Father with great judgment. How few understand the true +art of managing children, and how often is the important task of forming +young minds left to the discretion of servants who caress or reprove as +the impulse of the moment compels them. Here are we convinced of the +great necessity that Mothers, or all ladies should have cultivated +minds, as the first rudiments of education are always received from +them, and at that early period of life when the mind is open to every +new impression and ready to receive the seeds which must form the future +principles of the character. At that time how important is it to be +judicious in your conduct towards them! In the evening Mr. Hasket Derby +came in on his return from New York; he is a fine, majestic-looking man, +tho’ he strikes you rather heavy and unwieldy on his first appearance; +he says little, yet does not appear absent,—has travelled much, and in +his manners has an easy unassuming politeness that is not the +acquirement of a day.—Wednesday morning had an agreeable tete-a-tete +with Ellen, talked over all our affairs: in the afternoon rode out to +Hersey Derby’s[27] farm, about 3 miles from Salem; a most delightful +place! The gardens superior to any I have ever seen of the kind; +cherries in perfection! We really feasted! There are 3 divisions in the +gardens, and you pass from the lower one to the upper thro’ several +arches rising one above the other. From the lower gate you have a fine +perspective view of the whole range, rising gradually until the sight is +terminated by a hermitage. The summer house in the center has an arch +thro’ it with 3 doors on each side which open into little apartments, +and one of them opens to a staircase by which you ascend into a square +room the whole size of the building; it has a fine airy appearance and +commands a view of the whole garden; two large chestnut trees on each +side almost shade it from the view when seen from the sides; the air +from the windows is always pure and cool, and the eye wanders with +delight and admiration over the extensive landscape below, so +beautifully variegated with the charms of nature. Imagination luxuriates +with delight, and as it plays o’er the beauties of an opening flower, +imperceptibly wanders to the first principles of nature, its wonderful +and surprising operation; its harmony and beauty. The room is ornamented +with some Chinese figures and seems calculated for serenity and peace. +’Tis like the pavilion of Caroline, and I almost looked around me for +the music of the Guitar and books; but I heard not the tramplings of +Lindorf’s horse, nor did I sing to hear the echo of his voice,—“Listen +to love, and thou shalt know indifference or bless the foe;” certain it +is, however, I thought of Caroline the moment I entered. We descended, +and passing thro’ the arch, proceeded to the hermitage, which terminated +the garden. It was scarcely perceptible at a distance. A large +weeping-willow swept the roof with its branches and bespoke the +melancholy inhabitant. We caught a view of the little hut as we advanced +thro’ the opening of the trees; it was covered with bark,—a small low +door, slightly latched, immediately opened at our touch. A venerable old +man was seated in the centre with a prayer-book in one hand, while the +other supported his cheek, and rested on an old table, which, like the +hermit, seemed moulding to decay; a broken pitcher, a plate and tea-pot +sat before him, and his tea-kettle sat by the chimney; a tattered +coverlit was spread over a bed of straw, which tho’ hard might be +softened by resignation and content. I left him impressed with +veneration and fear which the mystery of his situation seemed to create. +We returned to the house, which was neat and handsome, and from thence +visited the Greenhouse, where we saw oranges and lemons in +perfection,—in one orange tree there were green ones, ripe ones and +blossoms. Every plant and shrub which was beautiful and rare was +collected here, and I looked around with astonishment and delight; at +the upper end of the garden there was a beautiful arbour formed of a +mound of turf, which we ascended by several steps formed likewise of +turf, and ’twas surrounded by a thick row of poplar trees which branched +out quite to the bottom and so close together that you could not see +through,—’twas a most charming place, and I know not how long we should +have remained to admire if they had not summoned us to tea. We returned +home, and Mr. Hasket Derby asked if we should not like to walk over to +his house and see the garden,—we readily consented, as I had heard much +of the house. The evening was calm and delightful, the moon shone in its +greatest splendor. We entered the house, and the door opened into a +spacious entry; on each side were large white marble images. We passed +on by doors on each side opening into the drawing-room, dining-room, +parlor, etc., etc., and at the farther part of the entry a door opened +into a large, magnificent oval room; and another door opposite the one +we entered was thrown open and gave us a full view of the garden below. +The moon shone with uncommon splendor. The large marble _vases_, the +images, the mirrors to correspond with the windows, gave it so uniform +and finished an appearance, that I could not think it possible I viewed +objects that were real, every thing appeared like enchantment,—the +stillness of the hour, the imperfect light of the moon, the novelty of +the scene, filled my mind with sensations I never felt before. I could +not realize every thing and expected every moment that the wand of the +fairy would sweep all from before my eyes and leave me to stare and +wonder what it meant. You can scarcely conceive any thing more superb. +We descended into the garden, which is laid out with exquisite taste, an +airy irregularity seems to characterize the whole. At the foot of the +garden there was a summer house, and a row of tall poplar trees which +hid every thing beyond from the sight, and formed a kind of walk. I +arrived there and to my astonishment found thro’ the opening of the +trees that there was a beautiful terrace the whole width of the garden; +’twas twenty feet from the street, and gravelled on the top, with a +white balustrade round; ’twas almost level, and the poplar trees so +close that we could only occasionally catch a glimpse of the house. The +moon shone full upon it, and I really think this side is the most +beautiful, tho’ ’tis the back one. A large dome swells quite to the +chamber-windows and is railed round on top and forms a delightful +walk,—the magnificent pillars which support it fill the mind with +pleasure. We returned into the house; and on passing the mirrors I +involuntarily started back at seeing so much company in the other room. +We entered the drawing-room which is superb, furnished with blue and +wood color. There was the Grand Piano, the most charming Instrument I +ever heard. Mr. and Mrs. Derby, Mr. Hasket D., Frank Coffin and myself +were the party, and I was requested to play, and took my seat at the +Instrument, and had just begun playing, when a slight noise in the entry +made me turn my head. A gentleman entered and was introduced as Mr. +Grey; made a most graceful bow, took his seat, and I resumed my playing. +We rose to depart, and Mr. G. accompanied us home. I was delighted with +his conversation, which was sensible, unassuming, and agreeable. I +scarcely saw his face, as there was no light. + +Thursday at home all day. In the evening walked in the garden. The +evening was uncommonly fine. The moon shines brighter in Salem than +anywhere else; here too is an elegant garden, full of fruit trees, the +walks kept as nice as possible, and shaded on each side by plum trees; +very handsome summer house where we sat an hour or two. Rambled in the +garden all the evening, which was the finest I ever saw, so very light, +that, as Shakespeare says, “’twas but the daylight sick, only a little +paler.” There is something in a fine moonlight evening exquisitely +soothing to the soul. I have felt as if I could melt away with the +exquisite enthusiasm of my sensations. We were called into the house and +found Mrs. West, a sister of Mrs. Derby’s; but more of her by-and-bye. +Friday Dr. Coffin arrived, and Dr. Lathrop and Hasket Derby dined with +us and set out for Boston. + + +The following letter, written by Martha Coffin, Eliza’s most intimate +friend, and descriptive of a visit that she paid to Salem, will be found +of interest. + + June 29, 1800. + + My dear Ellen: + +I have never told you all about my visit to Salem. I passed my time as +you may imagine very charmingly, and had I your pen or your talent at +description I would endeavor to give you some ideas of the house, the +gardens, and the farm; but it is _Impossible_. + +_The Hermitage_ more than answered my expectations. It is everything +which we see described in novels, and which I thought was not to be +found in reality. + +The garden beyond description beautiful, does indeed exceed anything of +the kind I ever saw. Ten thousand different kinds of flowers from all +quarters of the globe. Fruit of every kind in abundance. A delightful +Summer house in the middle of the garden, furnished quite in the rural +style; and from the chamber where they sometimes drink tea is the most +beautiful prospect you can imagine. + + M. COFFIN. + +[Illustration: + + Mrs. RICHARD DERBY. (Martha Coffin) + + From a miniature by Malbone, in possession of Mrs. Peabody of Boston + + ARTOTYPE, E. BIERSTADT, N. Y. +] + + Salem, July 14, 1802. + + Dear Mother: + +I have just received my trunk with the letter and key. I perceive you +have not received my letter by Mr. Jewett. Fear not, my dear Mother, +tho’ gay and volatile in my disposition, I feel that I shall return home +with the same sentiments with which I left it. True, I was in the midst +of gaiety and splendor such as I never before witnessed, yet a something +within whispers true happiness resides not here,—in this family all is +calm contentment and peaceful pleasure. Mr. Derby is everything his best +friends can wish him, and the whole family consider him as every thing +good and benevolent; he truly is so, and appears one of the finest men I +ever knew. How is Uncle Porter’s family? I cannot even now reconcile +myself to the idea of leaving them so unexpectedly and so immediately, +yet I know not how it could be avoided. I am in the midst of amusements +and pleasure, they drive all melancholy reflection from my mind, but +when alone, my feelings warmly pay a tribute to the merit of _our +departed Moses_; yet I cannot,—do not realize, every thing contributes +to make me think it a delusion, a mere dream; how is it possible I can +realize it? Yet sometimes I feel it is, it must be true. How soon do we +reconcile ourselves to the loss of the dearest friends; what would most +distract us in anticipation we meet with calmness when it approaches; +strange, unaccountable. I surely loved Moses with sincerity. I knew of +no person so distantly connected whom I felt so interested in,—yet he is +dead,—he is gone, and I can speak of it without emotion, and I am +called. Adieu, I will write soon. + + ELIZA. + + + JOURNAL. + + Saturday, July 11, 1802. + +We rode out, Ellen and myself, with the three boys, in a hack. Went to +Danners—Parson Wadsworth’s, to see Mrs. Rickman’s children; took them in +to ride; came down by the mills and went across to Hasket Derby’s +farm,—all the cherries gone,—rambled about the gardens an hour and +returned home,—charming ride; the country round Salem is delightful, +altho’ ’tis situated rather in a plain, ’tis surrounded with beautiful +hills, handsome trees, ponds, brooks, etc. We got home at dusk and found +Mr. Coffin just returned from Boston. Mrs. Hasket Derby sent a great +basket of cherries and her compliments, she would come over in the +morning. I wished very much to see her, she had been gone 5 weeks to the +Springs. I had heard Martha say much of her and wished much that +to-morrow could come. + +Next morning—Sunday—went to Meeting. Mr. Dana of Marblehead preached; +very devout, unaffected young man; saw not a soul I had ever seen +before, excepting Mr. Grey; thought I should not have known him as I +scarcely saw his face before. Found Mrs. Hasket Derby on my return, was +disappointed in her personal appearance; instead of finding the elegant, +majestic, beautiful creature my imagination had pictured, I beheld a +little, short, plump woman dressed in black, a coarse complexion and +anxious eyes, yet I had not been in her company an hour without +confessing to myself she was the most agreeable, fascinating woman I +ever saw. She continually pleases and delights you; she appears to live +for others, nor ever bestows a thought upon herself, yet so perfectly +unconscious of it, that it seems inherent in her disposition, and to +flow without any effort. She planned parties of amusement as I was a +stranger, and we fixed upon Friday for a fishing party to Nahant; sent +to Boston for some to meet us. Monday a small party at Mrs. Derby’s came +to tea. I rode in the chaise with Mr. Grey. Mrs. Grey and a Mr. White, +an Englishman, in her carriage. Mr. Coffin and Miss Grey in another +chaise,—Mr. and Mrs. Hasket Derby. We walked on a hill near the house, +where we had the most extensive prospect I ever saw—the whole world +seemed spread before us covered with the richly variegated carpet of +nature. We returned home in the evening with a fine moon, and all went +to Mr. Grey’s to spend the evening. Most charming time; treated with +great attention by Mrs. Grey, who is, in my opinion, a fine woman, +domestic, fond of her children, and never so happy as in contributing to +their amusement, and possesses fine sense, animated, unceremonious, and +agreeable.—Tuesday, Doct. and Mrs. Coffin and Mrs. Sumner came down from +Boston; dined together, and all went to Hasket Derby’s farm in the +afternoon. Mrs. Grey and Miss Bishop of the party; glad to see Miss +Bishop—one of my old school-mates. Had a most charming ride; went in the +carriage with Mrs. Grey. All returned to Mr. John Derby’s and spent the +evening. William Grey and his father came in the evening; walked in the +garden.—Wednesday, large party of gentlemen to dine with Doct. Coffin. +In the afternoon all went to Mrs. Grey’s; danced in the evening. Miss +Bishop plays and sings charmingly. Thursday, Doct. and Mrs. Coffin went +home, and in the afternoon went to Mrs. Hasket Derby’s with a party; +every thing elegant and pleasant. Friday to Nahant, fishing—Mr. and Mrs. +Hasket Derby, Mr. and Mrs. John Derby, Mr. and Mrs. Hersey Derby, Miss +Bishop, Mr. Grey, Mr. Coffin, and myself, Miss Heller, Mr. Prince, who +looks very much like Horatio, and several others. Met there some smart +Boston beaux,—Mr. Amory Parkman, Turner, etc., etc. Spent a most +charming day; caught but few fish, and very warm, yet pleasant +notwithstanding—set out for home just as the sun was setting. I returned +in the chaise with William Grey, Frank with Miss Bishop,—rode 2 miles on +the beach, the tide down, sun just setting; ’twas charming and +delightful. Saturday went out to Hersey Derby’s farm to tea, went to the +bathing house, summer house—and saw the Rumford[28] kitchen—elegant +place, beautiful children,—rainy afternoon, we could not enjoy the +pleasures of the country so well. Sunday—went to meeting and to tea with +Mrs. Hasket Derby; met company from Boston,—two beaux, Mr. Lee and Mr. +Davis. Monday—a party of young ladies at Mrs. Grey’s; danced in the +evening, went home at eleven, spent half an hour at Hasket Derby’s on my +way; Ellen was there. Tuesday—rode out with Mrs. Grey after dinner, +returned and drank tea with Mrs. Lambert, found company at Ellen’s on my +return—Mr. and Mrs. Hasket Derby, Hersey Derby and wife, Mr. Prince and +wife,—Patty Derby that was—looks like old _Madame Milliken_[29] very +much. Mr. and Mrs. Hasket Derby wish me to go to the Springs with them; +know not what to do. Ellen says go by all means, never will have such +another opportunity; she thinks my Father and Mother would not object if +I had time to write them, which would be impossible, they go +to-morrow—what shall I do? I must go over after breakfast, I will +consult Mrs. J. Derby. I would not go for the world if I thought my +Father or Mother would not be pleased. Mr. and Mrs. Derby go alone in +their carriage. I must think of it. + + Wednesday, Salem, July, 1802. + +What will you say, my Dear Mother, when you find I am gone with Mr. and +Mrs. Hasket Derby to the Saratoga Springs? But I hasten to explain all. +Mr. and Mrs. Derby were going in their carriage alone. Mrs. Derby says +she never travelled without some lady, and urged my accompanying her. I +thought ’twas only a compliment and treated it as such, but when I found +she seriously wished it and her husband joined his influence, I began to +think how it would do. I consulted Ellen and Mr. Derby, and they both +thought I ought not to refuse an opportunity of seeing the country which +perhaps may never again occur—a better one surely can never occur. To go +with Mr. and Mrs. Derby is surely an advantage I can never hope to meet +with again. Believe me, nothing would have induced me to think of going +with them unless they had been very urgent. Ellen and Mr. Derby both say +they doubt not you would approve the plan if you were here to consult. +If I did not think so myself nothing would induce me to go—still I +regret not having it in my power to wait an answer from you, but +to-morrow afternoon we must set out. Ellen has lent me everything +necessary for my journey,—indeed I can never repay her. She is the most +generous being I ever saw. She has nothing in the house but is at my +service,—all her handsome dresses she wishes me to carry, indeed +everything that I can possibly want she has supplied me with. I am glad +that I shall not be compelled to purchase anything that would be +unnecessary after my return. I think I shall borrow some money of her, +as it is impossible I can receive any from home, and if I do not need +it, I need not spend it. You may assure yourself I shall remember to +economise as much as possible. It seems as if Ellen and Mrs. Derby tried +which should most oblige me. As I never determined to go till this +morning, Mrs. Derby said ’twas impossible to make any new clothes, nay +unnecessary, and insisted I should take any thing of hers I should want, +but Ellen would not admit of that. I know not the route we shall take, +but Mrs. Derby says we shall probably _go_ or _return_ thro’ +_Leicester_.[30] I shall be gratified very much at an opportunity of +seeing our relations there. Ellen promises to write. I never was treated +with more attention in my life. Ellen heaps me with favors, and now I +have thought of this journey, she thinks she can’t do enough. I intend +keeping a particular journal while I am gone, which you shall all peruse +on my return. We shall probably be gone four or five weeks, as it is two +or three hundred miles from here. When you write me direct your letters +to Salem and Mr. Derby will forward them as he will know where we are. +Has Octavia returned? tell her I shall leave my Salem journal to be sent +to her the first opportunity. If I go thro’ Newport I shall endeavor to +find out Miss Crary and Miss Clarke, and wish I had a letter from her. + +And now, my dear Mother, assure me you approve of my going and I shall +have nothing to trouble me. My Father, I think, would not object to it +if I could know his opinion. Mr. Grey (Wm. Grey) says he is sure he +would not disapprove of it, if he knew in what good protection I was. +By-the-bye, I have received every attention from Mr. Grey’s family, and +Mrs. Grey is a remarkably fine woman. I rode out with her yesterday +afternoon, and she sent for me to go to Wexham pond with her this +afternoon; called to excuse myself and tell her of my projected journey; +she regretted it as I was to have gone to Medford with her the next +week, and she had planned several parties for me which would be +frustrated; but she acknowledged I was perfectly right to go, and if +’twas her daughter she should be much gratified at the opportunity. Mr. +and Mrs. Derby say I must tell you they will take good _care_ of me and +they shall take the full protection of me. Write me soon, or request my +Father or Octavia; but pray if you disapprove, do not tell me till I +return, ’twill be too late to alter or retract, and I should be wretched +if I thought you disapproved my going,—do write, or ask my Father, I +shall feel uneasy. My love to all friends, and believe me, with great +affection, Your + + ELIZA. + + + Francestown (New Hampshire), + July 26, 1802. + + My dear Father: + +My letter in which I informed you of my intended journey, my motives for +it, etc., you will receive before this, I therefore think it unnecessary +to say any more, but rest with full confidence on the indulgent heart of +an affectionate Father, who I trust knows my heart too well to think me +capable of acting in opposition to what I know to be his wishes. We left +Salem on Thursday evening and slept at Ten hills in Charleston, +breakfasted in Webrion,[31] and dined in Betavia.[32] We had a fine view +of the celebrated Middlesex canal, which in future ages must do honor to +our country,—such monuments of industry and perseverance raise our +opinion of our countrymen; it will be 25 miles in length when completed, +running from Deckel[33] to Medford river,—the river of Concord supplies +it with water, boats pass every day, and parties of pleasure are always +sailing on it. In my journal I have been more particular, here I say but +little as we are in a miserable tavern and the horses almost ready. I +cannot tell you the route we are going,—Mr. Derby’s motive is to see the +most pleasant part of the country that he has not seen before. From +Bilusia we came through Chelmsford, Inigsborough where old Irving lived +and Miss Pitts, now Mrs. Brimby, the heiress of his fortune has a most +elegant tasty country house on the banks of the Merrimack—which forms a +most beautiful scene in front of the house and gives a full view of the +river in each direction,—more of this in my journal. We are on a new +turnpike road, from Amherst to Dartmouth. We shall go up to Dartmouth +College as ’tis wholly a jaunt of pleasure, and Mr. Derby is determined +to be in no haste, to enquire everything worth seeing and not to mind 6 +or 7 miles from a direct road,—they are very attentive to me and have +gone a mile from the direct road to show me something they had seen +before. Mr. Derby has been such a traveller that he is now one of the +most useful travelling companions in the world; his wife is the most +engaging, unaffected, family woman in the world, and instead of feeling +myself a burden to them, they make me feel of the utmost consequence. We +passed thro’ several pretty villages on coming here—tho’ it is almost a +new country, scarcely cleared up,—excepting a small village every 6 or 7 +miles; the most hilly, mountainous, woody country I ever was in,—here as +I look round me I see nothing but enormous high hills, covered with +trees and almost mingling with the clouds. One of them in +particular—Francestown[34] is about 12 miles from Amherst, a number of +pleasant houses and a very elegant meeting-house,—how different from our +part of the country!—here, if there is but one handsome house in town +there will be a meeting house. I have passed but one on my journey, in +these new back places, but what was painted and a steeple! From +Dartmouth we go down to Northampton and then to Lebanon Springs, then to +Ballstown and Saratoga, and return by the way of New Haven, Hartford, +etc. I shall have a fine opportunity of seeing the country on +Connecticut River. Mr. Derby does not know the route he shall go, but +shall depend on what he hears; we shall go thro’ a part of the States of +Vermont, Connecticut, and New York, so that in our tour we shall be in 5 +different States. I shall write very often, and wish you, my Dear +Father, to write me by the return of the mail, and direct to Pittsfield +in Massachusetts,—or to Mr. John Derby in Salem. If we go thro’ +Leicester I shall find out our relations. Tell Octavia and Horatio I +shall write them soon, but as I keep a particular journal which they +shall all see, ’tis not so material. I hear the carriage—love to all. + + ELIZA. + + + Ballston Springs, August 22, 1802. + + My Dearest Mother: + +I feel at this moment as if I could fly! so far from home, received no +letters, yet at Albany I expect to find them, let me at least hope what +’twill delight me so much to realize. I sometimes almost fear to receive +a letter from home,—yet my indulgent Parents will pardon the liberty I +took in coming this journey, as I trust they are convinced by my past +life, that I would not for the universe act in opposition to what I knew +they approved. I am convinced when you know Mr. and Mrs. Derby you will +feel that I was both secure and honored in their protection. I cannot +tell you half I owe them, never in my life was I treated with more +affectionate attention. They appear as much interested in all I do as if +I were their daughter. You know my heart, my dearest Mother, you know it +never was insensible to the smallest favor, what then must be its +sensation when it is thus overpowered by affectionate kindness. I long +to convince them how much I feel, but words are inadequate. My Father +has seen Mr. D., I wish he would write to him, I think it would be no +more than just to thank him for the care he has taken of his daughter. +It seems as if he had a right to expect something of the kind. They are +the finest couple I know of, so different from what I expected to find +them. I thought Mr. Derby a gay gallant man like Mr. Davis, but he is a +plain, noble-hearted, sincere, generous man,—talks very little and one +of the pleasantest dispositions in the world. In Mrs. Derby I thought to +find a gay woman of fashion, but not a soul that ever knew her could +help loving her. I never saw a person so universally beloved. We have +been here at Ballston a fortnight to-morrow. It has been one continued +scene of idleness and dissipation—have a ball every other night, ride, +walk, stroll about the piazzas, dress,—indeed we do nothing that seems +like improvement. But still I think there is no place where one may +study the different characters and dispositions to greater advantage. +You meet here the most genteel people from every part of our +country,—ceremony is thrown off and you are acquainted very soon. You +may select those you please for intimates, and among so many you +certainly will find some agreeable, amiable companions. For a week we +sat down at the table every day with 60 or 70 persons, to-day we were +all speaking of the latter being very thin because we had only 40. There +are as many more at the other boarding house, continually going and +coming, and now there is scarcely 10 persons here that were here when we +came. We went last week to _Lake George_, about 40 miles from here,—made +up a party and went on Tuesday, breakfasted at _Saratoga_, where the +Springs formerly most celebrated were, and dined about 14 miles this +side the lake, at the most beautiful place I ever saw. Perhaps you have +heard of Glens-Falls; they are said to exceed in _beauty_ the Falls of +_Niagara_—tho’ in _sublimity_ must fall far short. I never imagined +anything so picturesque, sublime and beautiful as the scenery around +this enchanting place. The rocks on the shores have exactly the +appearance of elegant, magnificent ruins, they are entirely of _slate_, +and seem piled in regular forms with shrubs and grass growing in +between. I looked around me for an hour and I every moment discovered +something new to admire,—nothing could exceed the beautiful variety of +the scenery. I left this elegant place with painful regret. About sunset +we came in view of the _Lake_, it is a most beautiful sheet of water, +Morse says 36 miles long and from one to 7 broad, full of beautiful +Islands, 365 in all and of every size and shape. It is surrounded by +very high hills and mountains rising one above the other in majestic +grandeur. In the morning we went out to fish, sailed about 4 miles on +the lake to a little Island where we went on shore,—nothing could exceed +the beautiful grandeur of the prospect; we anchored off,—I found it very +charming fishing, the water so perfectly transparent that we could see +the fish swimming around the dock. Our first intention was to sail down +the lake to Lake Champlain and visit the ruins of the fortifications at +Ticonderoga, but some of our party dissuaded us from it. We saw the +ruins of Fort George and the bloody pond—where so many poor wretches +were thrown. We stopt on our return at the field where Burgoyne +surrendered his army; it is now covered with corn and nothing to +distinguish it from the surrounding fields; we returned by a different +route, for 10 miles we rode directly on the banks of the Hudson river, +nothing could be more delightful, our road wound with the river which +was beautifully overhung with trees; we returned here Thursday night, +found them dancing. I joined, and the next night we had a ball at the +other house; there again I danced till 12 o’clock and the next morning +got up quite sick,—to-day I am finely again and have made a resolution +not to dance again whilst I stay here. This all think I can’t keep, but +they shall see I can. Col. Boyd came here last week but went away while +we were gone to Lake George—to Canada I believe. He says you had not +heard of my coming when he left Portland, so he could tell me nothing +new. We shall probably leave here on Tuesday or Wednesday, stay at +Albany a few days and go to Lebanon again, perhaps to Williamston +Commencement. We are engaged to spend the day at Mr. Rensselaer’s, the +former L Governor, and one at Mr. Rensselaer’s—his brother, who is Mayor +of the City. I know not how long ’twill be before we return to Salem, +but I really begin to think of home with a great deal of anxiety. Tell +Octavia I never go into the Ball room to dance without wishing for her; +how delighted should I be if Horatio and Octavia were here with me! How +charming will it be when I get home again! Believe me, my Dear Mother, I +shall love home more than ever. I long to sit me down by the instrument +some evening after the business of the day is over, with you, my Father, +and all round me, or to hear Octavia sing and play. This scene of +dissipation may please for a while by its novelty, but it soon +satiates—no regular employment, I have never been in the habit of +spending my time in idleness; and they say here that the Southern ladies +seem more at home here than the Northern ladies and do not appear to +think industry necessary to happiness. I hope to find many letters at +Albany. I have kept a regular journal which will assist my memory in +relating my adventures, when I return home again. I wrote Horatio last +week and told him to send the letter home for you to read. I look +forward to returning with the greatest pleasure. I suppose you are fixed +upon a house and will move by the time I return, let me know as I am +anxious to hear about it. Give my best love to all my friends and tell +Octavia I have more to say to her than I can gabble in a month. Oh I +long to get home again. I find no time to write, if I lock myself in my +chamber I have so many knocks at the door—Miss Southgate go and walk—go +down to the spring—somebody wants you below,—so many interruptions, ’tis +almost impossible. After I retire for the night I am so tired and sleepy +and my chamber is so hot, I _cannot_ write; ’tis Sunday to-day (tho’ all +days are alike here) and I have determined I would write home. I wonder +how it was possible for Martha to write so much,—I hear of her from all +the Southern people, they all speak in raptures. Give my love to Mrs. +Coffin and kiss all the children—Mamy particularly, what would I give to +hear her open my door and run in this moment. Mrs. Derby says I get +low-spirited when I write home, the only way is to think as little of it +as possible whilst I am so far off. I shall write again from Albany, +where I hope to find letters. + + Ever your affectionate ELIZA. + + To the care of Robert Southgate, + Scarborough, + (District of Maine.) + +[Illustration: + + THE VAN RENSSELAER MANOR HOUSE +] + + Albany, August 8, 1802. + +Thus far, my dear Ellen, have we proceeded without any thing to mortify +or disappoint us; I wrote you the night I arrived at Lebanon, the next +morning the bell rang and we all assembled to breakfast; there were +about thirty ladies, much dressed, looking very handsome, it seemed more +like a ball room than a breakfasting room. We were the last that came +in, and all eyes were fixed upon us. Lady Nesbert and the Allston family +from Carolina were opposite. This daughter of Col. Burr is a little, +smart-looking woman, very _learned_ they say, understands the dead +languages—not pedantic, rather reserved—Lady Nesbert,[35] a most +interesting woman, full black eyes with a wild melancholy expression and +a voice so sweet and plaintive, you would think it melancholy music. I +never heard her speak a dozen times since I have been here and rarely +ever smile. Old Mrs. Allston, the mother, is a _sour-looking_ woman, +nothing affable or condescending. Miss Allston, they say, is a romp, +though her mother restrains her so much you would not suspect it. Old +Mr. Allston[36] is affable and agreeable. We had likewise there a Mr. +Constable[37] of N. Y.; has lived in great style,—very much the +gentleman. + +Miss —— from N. Y. whom I mentioned in my last is a truly _fashionable_ +City Belle. She is a fortune, but I believe not of family. The Gentleman +she calls her father and whose name she takes ’tis said was hired by a +British officer, her real father, to marry the mother and adopt the +daughter, and a very large sum was given him. He appears an abandoned +old rake, pale and sallow. Oh! he is a horrid-looking object, in a deep +consumption I imagine; she is very attentive. But, good heavens! Ellen, +I had no idea of a fashionable girl before—one that devotes her whole +attention to fashion. I have much to tell you when I return, about the +Miss Ashleys’ french style of dress. Mr. and Mrs. Ransselear[38] left +Lebanon the day before we did with Mr. and Miss Westelo,[39] Mr. +Welsh,[40] the Miss Stevensons, and Miss Livingston the Albany +Belle,—all belong to Albany. Mr. and Miss Westelo, Miss Beakman, and Mr. +Ransselear, who is Mayor of the City, called last evening and we all +went to walk—went into Miss Westelo’s and spent a charming hour; all +returned with us, and we engaged to go to meeting with Mr. and Miss +Westelo and take tea at the Mayor’s this afternoon. Mr. Westelo is going +to Balston in company with us and a Mr. Kane[41] of N. Y. whom we met at +the Coffee House—very genteel man. Another little lawyer from +Litchfield, who came in from Lebanon with us, is likewise, on Monday; so +we shall have a very pleasant party. Mr. Kane says I shall meet one of +their genteelest N. Y. beaux at Balston, Mr. Bowne. I wonder if it is +the same I have heard you mention. I shall find out. About eleven +o’clock, or rather twelve, I was surprised by some delightful music, a +number of instruments, and most elegantly playing “Rise! Cynthia! rise!” +I jumped up and by the light of the moon saw five gentlemen under the +window. To Mr. Westelo I suppose we are indebted. “Washington March,” +“Blue Bells of Scotland,” “Taste Life’s glad moments,” “Boston March,” +and many other charming tunes—played most delightfully. I have heard no +music since I left Salem till this, and I was really charmed. The bell +will ring soon and I must finish this after meeting.—Sunday afternoon. +The dinner was brought on the table just as the bell rang for meeting, +so that we were obliged to stay at home this afternoon, and tell Mr. +Westelo and his sister, who called again for me, as Mrs. Derby did not +go out, that I would go to Mrs. Ranselear’s after meeting. In the +morning, Mr. Derby and myself went to the New Dutch Church with Mr. and +Miss Westelo and sat with them next pew to the Patroon’s, whom you saw +in Salem with his beautiful wife. + +After meeting, Mr. Westelo came with the Patroon and his wife to see us. +She is really beautiful, dressed very plain; cotton cambric morning +gown, white sarsnet cloak, hair plain, and black veil thrown carelessly +over her head. They urged our dining there to-morrow, but Mr. Derby is +determined to set out in the morning for Balston—the waters, all tell +him, will be of great service—when we return we shall go and see them. A +great number of elegant gentlemen are here in this house, many from N. +Y., some going to the springs. Your Boston Mr. Amory and Mr. Lee would +look rusty long side them. Hush, not a word!—Mr. Kane of N. Y., whose +sister married Robert Morris, is here, will set out for the springs in +company with us, Mr. Westelo and some others. We shall go to Lake George +and probably make a party from Balston. Mrs. Derby has insisted on my +wearing the sarsnet dress to-day as we shall drink tea at the Mayor’s, +where the Patroon and wife will probably be. I am every moment reminded +of your affectionate kindness, which I hope never to be insensible to. + +You wrote Mamma, I suppose. I have not received a line from anybody; +shall depend on finding letters at Pittsfield or Lebanon; do write me +everything. I have so much to tell you that I cannot write. Mrs. Derby, +I cannot tell you how much I owe her. She treats me with so much +affection, and she says she believes Mr. Derby feels as much interest in +me as if I were his daughter—wishes everything I wear should be +becoming, and indeed they both treat me with all the attention and +affection my most sanguine expectation could desire. I do not wish to be +treated with more affection; think then, dear Ellen! how sensibly I must +feel it, how gratifying to my feelings. I can never forget the +obligation I owe to you and them. My best love to your husband; tell him +when I return I shall have a whole world of news for him. I long to hear +from you, do write soon. At Balston I will write again. Many people will +be talking about my going this journey; many will censure me perhaps; if +you, dear Ellen, should hear any of their ill-natured remarks you could +not do me a greater favor than to vindicate my conduct. I have never for +one moment since I left Salem regretted I came. The affectionate +attention of Mr. and Mrs. Derby delights my very heart, ’twas more than +I had a right to expect. I have received much delight in this tour, seen +much elegant company, variety of character and manners. I am sensible it +will be a source of great improvement, as well as pleasure. I shall have +seen that style and splendor, which has so many magic charms when viewed +at a distance, divested of its false place, we find it mingled with as +many pains as any other situation in life, nay, more poignant pain. I +feel that I shall not be at all injured by this life; though I enjoy +myself highly and mingle with these people with much delight, I shall +return happy and content. Mr. Derby is quite unwell, has taken nothing +but milk since we left Salem, his stomach refuses everything else. I +have strong hopes that the Balston waters will have a good effect. +Everyone tells him so. A gentleman just from Balston says there is a +great deal of company at the Springs, dance every other night. If the +waters agree with Mr. Derby we shall stay a week or ten days. I have +written home a number of times, which together with my journal take up +all my leisure time, and that is stolen from the hrs. devoted to sleep. +I would give anything for one line from you this moment. How delighted I +shall be when I return! Any news from Martha? If any letter arrives for +me send it on to Pittsfield. How charming it would be if we were all +together going to the Springs! I have not time to write anything about +Albany fine society—I believe full of Dutch houses. Adieu, love to all +friends. + + ELIZA. + + Mrs. Eleanor Coffin. + + + Salem, September 9, 1802. + + My Dearest Mother: + +Once more I am safe in Salem and my first thoughts turn toward home. I +arrived last night. The attention I have received from Mr. and Mrs. +Derby has been of a kind that I shall look forward with delight to a +time when I may be able to return it as I wish. I am in perfect health +and spirits and have enjoyed the journey more than I can express to you. +I don’t know that I have had an unpleasant hour since I have been gone, +and what is still more pleasing, I look back on every scene without +regret or pain. At Leicester I went to Uncle Southgate’s, and Cousin +William helped me into the carriage when I left the tavern the next +morning. We did not return thro’ North-Hampton, and I consequently +missed seeing Aunt Dickenson. I regret it extremely, but Mr. Derby was +in such haste to return, that he left us at Worcester and took the +stage. I therefore could not say a word of Hadley. I found two letters +from Octavia on my return here; felt really grieved at Eliza Wait’s +death; she must feel it sensibly as they were such intimate friends, yet +time blunts the sharp pangs of affection, and when I return she will +feel that happiness has only fled for a while to make its return more +delightful. I have received more attentions at the Springs than in my +whole life before, I know not why it was, but I went under every +advantage. Mr. Derby is so well known and respected, and they are such +charming people and treated me with so much affection, it could not be +otherwise! Among the many gentlemen I have become acquainted and who +have been attentive, one I believe is serious. I know not, my dearest +Mother, how to introduce this subject, yet as I fear you may hear it +from others and feel anxious for my welfare, I consider it a duty to +tell you all. At Albany, on our way to Ballston, we put up at the same +house with a _Mr. Bowne_ from New York; he went on to the Springs the +same day we did, and from that time was particularly attentive to me; he +was always of our parties to ride, went to Lake George in company with +us, and came on to Lebanon when we did,—for 4 weeks I saw him every day +and probably had a better opportunity of knowing him than if I had seen +him as a common acquaintance in town for years. I felt cautious of +encouraging his attentions, tho’ I did not wish to _discourage_ +it,—there were so many _New Yorkers_ at the Springs who knew him +perfectly that I easily learnt his character and reputation; he is a man +of _business_, uniform in his conduct and _very much respected_; all +this we knew from report. Mr. and Mrs. Derby were very much pleased with +him, but conducted towards me with peculiar _delicacy_, left me entirely +to myself, as on a subject of so much importance they scarcely dared +give an opinion. I left myself in a situation truly embarrassing. At +such a distance from all my friends,—my Father and Mother a perfect +stranger to the person,—and prepossessed in his favor as much as so +short an acquaintance would sanction,—his conduct was such as I shall +ever reflect on with the greatest pleasure,—open, candid, generous, and +delicate. He is a man in whom I could place the most unbounded +confidence, nothing rash or impetuous in his disposition, but weighs +maturely every circumstance; he knew I was not at liberty to encourage +his addresses without the approbation of my Parents, and appeared as +solicitous that I should act with strict propriety as one of my most +disinterested friends. He advised me like a friend and would not have +suffered me to do anything improper. He only required I would not +discourage his addresses till he had an opportunity of making known to +my Parents his character and wishes—this I promised and went so far as +to tell him I approved him as far as I knew him, but the decision must +rest with my Parents, their wishes were my law. He insisted upon coming +on immediately: that I absolutely refused to consent to. But all my +persuasion to wait till winter had no effect; the first of October he +_will come_. I could not prevent it without a positive _refusal_; this I +felt no disposition to give. And now, my dearest Mother, I submit myself +wholly to the wishes of my Father and you, convinced that my happiness +is your warmest wish, and to promote it has ever been your study. That I +feel deeply interested in Mr. Bowne I candidly acknowledge, and from the +knowledge I have of his heart and character I think him better +calculated to promote my happiness than any person I have yet seen; he +is a firm, steady, serious man, nothing light or trifling in his +character, and I have every reason to think he has well weighed his +sentiments towards me,—nothing rash or premature. I have referred him +wholly to you, and you, my dearest Parents, must decide. Octavia +mentioned nothing about moving, but I am extremely anxious to know how +soon we go into Portland and what house we shall have. Write me +immediately on the subject, and let me know if you approve my conduct. +Mr. Bowne wishes me to remain here until he comes on and then let him +carry me home: this I objected to, but will depend on your advice. I +shall be obliged to stay a few weeks longer,—Harriet Howards expects me +a week in Cambridge, Mrs. Sumner a week in Boston, and Mrs. Hasket Derby +another week. I am now with Ellen and shall stay till Mrs. Coffin comes +up, then according to promise go to Mrs. Lucy Derby’s. I feel extremely +anxious to hear you have moved into town, and shall most probably be +here until then; write me immediately. If you wish any furniture, Mrs. +Sumner will assist me in purchasing whatever you wish. I mentioned in my +letter, when I set out on this journey I borrowed 15 dollars of Ellen; I +wish you to send it to me immediately after receiving this, if you have +not already sent it. I shall likewise stand in need of a little, as I +have unavoidably incurred many expenses in this journey which I should +not otherwise have done. Mr. Derby has loaded me with obligations, all +my expenses he defrayed as if I was his daughter, and in such a manner +as endears him more than I can express. You cannot imagine how +interested they both are in the subject I have been writing you upon,—my +nearest friends cannot feel more, they have witnessed the whole +progress, and if you knew them, would be convinced they would not have +let me act improperly, they both approve my conduct. I wish my Father +would write to Mr. Derby and know what he says of Mr. B.’s character. I +don’t know but ’tis a subject too delicate to give his opinion, but I +can conceive that my Father might request it without any impropriety; +and do, my Dear Mother, beg him to say any thing in his power to +convince him that we all feel sensibly their great attention to me. You +know not how anxious I feel for my Father to write him something of that +kind, not that they appear to expect it, but on the contrary insist that +they have been more obliged than I have, and really seem to think so; +but this rather strengthens than lessens the obligation, nothing should +have induced me to receive such from people who felt they were +conferring favors. I long to hear when we move into Portland, _do_ write +me. My best love to Horatio and Octavia, and tell them I shall write as +soon as possible. I found a large packet of 5 sheets from Martha, dated +Paris, June 28th; tells me every thing, speaks almost in raptures of +Buonaparte, says Uncle Rufus has a little son[42] about 12 years old at +school there, one of the finest boys she ever saw. I find most of the +Southern people whom we met at the Springs, think Uncle Rufus stands as +good a chance of being President as any one spoken of. I have listened +for hours to his praises when not one knew how much I was interested; it +was known from Mrs. Derby I was his niece, and it really gave me great +consequence. I thought of Mrs. Dewitt and laughed. Judge Sedgwick told +me had letters from him as late as June, and that he was determined on +returning in the Spring. I long to hear from home. My love to all my +friends, and believe me, with every sentiment of _duty_ and _affection_, + + Your daughter ELIZA. + +[Illustration: + + Mr. WALTER BOWNE + + From a miniature by Malbone, in possession of W. B. Lawrence + + ARTOTYPE. E BIERSTADT, N. Y. +] + + +Martha sent me a most elegant Indispensable, white lutestring spangled +with silver, and a beautiful bracelet for the arm made of her hair; she +is too good—to love me as she says, more than ever. + + Portland, Nov. — Friday, — 1802. + +Mr. Davis is going on to Boston and will have a letter for you. I am +delighted to hear that Mamma is better. I send you some of Miss Homer’s +wedding cake; married on Monday. You say Rufus Emerson has returned and +tells them a great many stories; when you write next tell me what he +says, and where he heard, and all about it, for everything interests me. +Mr. Bowne has not arrived, I am out of all patience, cannot imagine what +detains him,—4 weeks to-morrow since he took Mr. Codman’s letter. These +Quakers are governed by such a _slow spirit_—I wish the deuce had them. +I shall be really uneasy if he don’t come soon. I want some _money_, my +last dollar I gave Horatio to buy Mamma’s _oranges_. I have written to +Mrs. Derby to buy me a _winter gown_; in her last she says she has +bought it but does not mention the price. I wish the money to send to +her soon as I hear; a little likewise for occasional expenses, ’tis not +pleasant to be without. I have been in but one party since Mamma’s +sickness; shall certainly not go out more than I can possibly avoid. +Mrs. Derby is quite out at Mr. B.’s not coming. I’ll not be so +ungenerous as to condemn him without giving an opportunity of +vindicating himself, some circumstances I know not of may detain him. +All our friends are well. Send me the money as soon as possible; and +don’t forget to tell particularly what Rufus says, whom he saw, what +they told him, and when he heard all. In some cases trifles acquire +importance—mole hills become mountains. Adieu. + + ELIZA. + +Love to Mamma, and tell her I am out of all patience. + + Miss Octavia Southgate. + + + Boston, May 30, 1803. + + Here we are, my dear Octavia, at Mrs. Carter’s Boarding House, and + tho’ we have endeavored to keep ourselves as much out of the way as + possible, a great many people have called to pay their respects to Mr. + and Mrs. Bowne. The first person we met driving thro’ Salem was Mr. + _Lee_ just coming in town; he bowed very low and pass’d. We went to a + public house and had not been there 3 minutes before Mr. Lee came in + determined to be the first to call on us; he shook hands very + cordially, congratulated us, and went with us up to Ellen’s. We + promised to drive with Ellen, and went to see Mrs. H. Derby; spent a + charming hour and returned to Ellen’s, dined, and all went to Lucy + Derby’s to tea, Mr. Lee and a dozen others. Mr. Bowne and myself + called on Mrs. Grey, and after a very pleasant day returned to Ellen’s + and stayed the night, and the next morning, which was Wednesday, came + into Boston,—’twas _election day_ and all the world was in motion. I + could not bear to come to Mrs. Carter’s, but Mr. Bowne thought he + ought to. Mr. Lee got to Boston as soon as we did and came immediately + to see us and offer his services; he has been here again this morning + and is going to ride into the country with us to show us some fine + seats. Doctor Boice, Mr. Davis, Mr. Cabot, Charles Bradbury, Tom + Coffin and a dozen other gentlemen, whose names I have forgot, and who + came with the Miss Lowells and Miss Russells. We have prevented all + invitations on, by constantly saying we were going out of town + immediately. Mr. Lee insisted, when I expressed a wish to see Miss + _Wyre_, on letting her know I was in town,—he went and she came + immediately back. I was very glad to see her and she appeared so + herself at seeing me. Some ladies and gentlemen came in; and after + they were gone, Alicia, Mr. B. and myself went a-shopping;—the + fashions for bonnets, Octavia, are very ugly; Alicia had a large, + white glazed cambric one made without pasteboard. But I have not told + you how Gen. Knox[43] found us out at Newburyport. We always kept by + ourselves, but in passing the entry Gen’l Knox, who had just come in + the stage, met Mr. B. and asked where he was from—(Mr. Bowne kept here + with Mrs. Carter when Gen’l Knox was here last winter); he told him + from the Eastward.—Alone?—no.—Who is with you?—_Mrs. Bowne._ So plump + a question he could not evade, so the General insisted on being + introduced to the bride. I was walking the room and reading, perfectly + unsuspicious, when the opening of the door and Mr. Bowne’s + voice—“Gen’l Knox, my love,” quite roused me; he came up, took my hand + very gracefully, pres’t it to his lips and begged leave to + congratulate me on the event that had lately taken place. After a few + minutes’ conversation—“And pray, sir,” said he, turning to Mr. + Bowne—“when did this happy event take place?” I felt my face glow, but + Mr. Bowne, always delicate and collected, said—“’Tis not a fortnight + since, Sir.” The stage drove to the door, and after hoping to see us + at Mrs. Carter’s he took his leave, and this morning—(he was out all + day yesterday)—I found him waiting in the breakfast room to see me. He + introduced me to General Pinckney[44] and his family from + Carolina,—Gen’l Pinckney, they say, is to be our next President. “_Mr. + Bowne_,” said Gen’l Knox to Gen. P., “has done us the honor to come to + the District of Maine for a bud to transplant in New York.” He was + very polite and said “he must find us out in New York.” Only think, I + never thought of the _wedding-cake_ when I was at Salem. You would + laugh to hear “_Mrs. Bowne_” and “Miss Southgate” all in a breath—“How + do you do, Miss Southgate?”—“I beg pardon, _Mrs. Bowne_,” and do it on + purpose I believe; when I hear an old acquaintance call me “Mrs. + Bowne” it really makes me stare at first, it sounds so very odd. Mr. + B. will be in, in a moment—and if I don’t seal my letter, he will + insist on seeing it, so love to all. I depend on finding letters at + New Haven. I have a thousand things to say,—(some ladies enquire for + Mrs. Bowne, so says the servant,—I’ll tell you who they are when I + come up,)—Mrs. Bartlett and Alicia; they insist on our taking tea and + spending the evening; we promised if we did not leave town after + dinner that we would. Adieu, adieu. Mr. Bowne sends a great deal of + love. + + Your affectionate sister, + ELIZA BOWNE. + +[Illustration: + + THE LYMAN PLACE—WALTHAM +] + + New Haven, June 1, 1803. + + Your letter, my dear Octavia, was the first thing to welcome me on my + arrival at this City. I cannot describe to you my sensations when it + came. I can rarely think of home without more pain than pleasure, and + yet if there is a being on earth perfectly _blest_ ’tis your sister + Eliza. How infinitely more happy than when I left you. You cannot + imagine how delightful has been our journey. We have stop’t at every + pleasant place, enjoyed all the beauties of the Spring in the richest + and most luxuriant country I ever saw. I wrote you last from + Boston.—The afternoon following Mr. Lee called to accompany us a few + miles out of town; he had requested Mr. Lyman’s permission to go out + to his seat in Waltham that Mr. Bowne and myself might have an + opportunity to see it, as it is the most beautiful place round Boston. + We set out about 4 o’clock—had a most charming ride. Mr. Lee was + remarkably sociable, attentive and polite, both to Mr. Bowne and + myself. He talks just as sociably, and called me “Miss Southgate” and + “Mrs. B.” all in a breath as fast as he could talk. I have no time to + tell you of this elegant place of Mr. Lyman’s, great taste in laying + out the grounds. It surpasses everything of the kind I ever saw; + beautiful serpentine river or brook thickly planted with trees, and + elegant swans swimming about—you can’t imagine—’twas almost like + enchantment. After Mr. Lee had gathered me a bouquet large enough to + supply a ballroom—of the most elegant and rare flowers,—full blown + roses—buds—everything beautiful, we jumped into the carriage, he shook + us cordially by the hand, wished us every happiness, and hoped to see + us in New York ere long. Sunday morning we got to Springfield, stayed + the day, it recalled so many pleasing sensations. When we parted + there—how different were our feelings—our happiness was augmented by + the contrast. From Springfield to Hartford was charming; much pleased + with Hartford, stayed a day and night there. From Hartford to New + Haven is the most elegant ride you can possibly imagine,—a fine + turnpike about 30 miles, and such a picturesque, rich, luxuriant + country, such variety and beauty—oh ’twas charming! Mr. Bowne is + waiting for me this full hour to walk in the Mall,—What shall I do, he + hurries so? Well, I never saw a place so charming as New Haven; we + have been all over it,—visited the College, everything, and I give it + the preference to any place I know of—a particular description I + defer. I have no time to say a word of your letter; write me + immediately on receiving this to New York, where we shall be on + Saturday. Mr. Bowne’s best love with mine to all the family. Adieu—I + have ten thousand things more to say but can’t. Write me immediately. + + Ever your affectionate + ELIZA BOWNE. + + New York, June 6, 1803. + + I sit down to catch a moment to tell you all I have to before another + interruption. I have so much to say, where shall I begin—my head is + most turned, and yet I am very happy; I am enraptured with New York. + You cannot imagine anything half so beautiful as _Broadway_, and I am + sure you would say I was more romantic than ever if I should attempt + to describe the Battery,—the elegant water prospect,—you can have no + idea how refreshing in a warm evening. The gardens we have not yet + visited; indeed we have so many delightful things ’twill take me + forever; and my husband declares he takes as much pleasure in showing + them to me as I do in seeing them; you would believe it if you saw + him. Did I tell you anything of Brother John? handsome young man, + great literary taste; he is one of the family; nothing of the + appearance of a Quaker. Mrs. King, another sister, they all say looks + like me. Mrs. Murray, who is very sick now, has a daughter, a + charming, lively girl, about 19, and the little witch introduced me in + a laughing way last night to some of her friends as _Aunt Eliza_. I + protest against that; her brother Robert 17 years old too; I + positively must declare off from being Aunt to them. Caroline and I + went a-shopping yesterday, and ’tis a fact that the little white satin + quaker bonnets, cap-crowns, are the most fashionable that are + worn—lined with pink or blue or white; but I’ll not have one, for if + any of my old acquaintance should meet me in the street they would + laugh, I would if I were them. I mean to send sister Boyd a quaker + cap, the first tasty one I see; Caroline’s are too plain, but she has + promised to get me a more fashionable pattern. ’Tis the fashion. I see + nothing new or pretty,—large sheer muslin shawls put on as Sally Weeks + wears hers are much worn, they show the form thro’ and look pretty; + silk nabobs, plaided, colored and white, are much worn, very short + waists, hair very plain. Maria Denning has been to see me, I was very + happy,—several spring acquaintance. Expect Eliza Watts and Jane every + moment, they did not know where I was to be found. Last night we were + at the play—“The way to get married.” Mr. Hodgkinson[45] in _Tangent_ + is inimitable. Mrs. Johnson a sweet, interesting actress in Julia, and + Jefferson,[46] a great comic player, were all that were particularly + pleasing; house was very thin so late in the season. Mr. and Mrs. + Codman[47] came to see me. I should have known her in a moment from + her resemblance to Ellen and the family,—appeared very happy to see + me,—Mr. Codman was happy, Mrs. Codman would now have somebody to call + her friend, etc., etc. Maria Denning told me Uncle Rufus [King] was + expected every day; we have such contradictory accounts, we hardly + know what to believe. As to housekeeping, we don’t begin to talk + anything of it yet. Mr. Bowne says not till October, however you shall + hear all our plans. I anticipate so much happiness; I am sure if any + body ought to I may. My heart is _full_ sometimes when I think how + much more blest I am than most of the world. At this moment there is + not a single circumstance presents itself to my mind that I feel + unpleasant to reflect on: the sweet tranquillity of my feelings—so + different from any thing I ever before felt—such a confidence—my every + feeling reciprocated and every wish anticipated.—I write to you what + would appear singular to any other.—You can easily imagine my + feelings.—I see Mr. B. now where he is universally known and + respected, and every hour see some new proof how much he is honored + and esteemed here; the most gratifying to the heart you can imagine, + cannot but make an impression on mine. We talk of you when we get to + housekeeping, how delightful ’twill be—what a sweet domestic circle!—I + must leave you; Caty says—“Mrs. Walter (for so the servants call me to + distinguish), a gentleman below wishes to see you.” Adieu. Who can + this said gentleman be? + + Mr. Rodman was below, whom I saw at the Springs, and for these two + hours there has been so many calling I thought I should never get up + to finish my letter. Mrs. Henderson,[48] whom I mentioned to you as + one of the most elegant women in New York, and Maria Denning, her + sister, came in soon after. Engaged to Mrs. Henderson’s for Friday. + + Thursday Morning:—I have been to two of the Gardens, Columbia,[49] + near the Battery, a most romantic beautiful place; ’tis enclosed in a + circular form and little rooms and boxes all around, with tables and + chairs, these full of company; the trees all interspersed with lamps + twinkling thro’ the branches; in the centre a pretty little building + with a fountain playing continually, the rays of the lamps on the + drops of water gave it a cool sparkling appearance that was + delightful. This little building, which has a kind of canopy and + pillars all round the garden, had festoons of colored lamps that at a + distance looked like large brilliant stars seen thro’ the branches, + and placed all round are marble busts, beautiful little figures of + Diana, Cupid, Venus, by the glimmering of the lamps, which are partly + concealed by the foliage, give you an idea of enchantment. Here we + strolled among the trees and every moment meet some walking from the + thick shade unexpectedly, and come upon us before we heard a sound, + ’twas delightful! We passed a box that Miss Watts was in; she called + us, and we went in and had a charming, refreshing glass of ice cream, + which has chilled me ever since. They have a fine orchestra and have + concerts here sometimes. I can conceive of nothing more charming than + this must be. + + We went on to the Battery: this is a large promenade by the shore of + the North River; very extensive rows and clusters of trees in every + part, and a large walk along the shore, almost over the water, gives + you such a fresh, delightful air, that every evening in summer it is + crowded with company. Here too they have music playing on the water in + boats of a moonlight night. Last night we went to a garden[50] a + little out of town, Mount Vernon garden,—this too is surrounded by + boxes of the same kind, with a walk on top of them. You can see the + gardens all below; but ’tis a _summer playhouse_—pit and boxes, stage + and all, but open on top; from this there are doors opening into the + garden, which is similar to Columbia Garden, lamps among the trees, + large mineral fountain, delightful swings, two at a time,—I was in + raptures as you may imagine, and if I had not grown sober before I + came to this wonderful place ’twould have turned my head. But I have + filled my letter and not told you half—of the Park—the public + buildings,—I have so much to tell you, and of those that have called + on me—I have no room to say half. Yesterday Mrs. Henderson came again + to see me and brought two of my Aunt King’s most intimate friends to + introduce—Mrs. Delafield[51] and Miss Lucy Bull. Mr. and Mrs. + Delafield are Uncle and Aunt’s very intimate friends, she is called + the most elegant woman in New York. I was delighted with her and very + much gratified at Mrs. Henderson’s attention in coming again on + purpose to introduce them, they were so attentive, so polite, and Mrs. + Delafield said so many things of Aunt King, how delighted they would + be to find me settled near them, how much I should love them and + everything of the kind, that was very gratifying to me. Miss Denning + has been to see me 3 or 4 times; several invitations to tea, but we + declined as our family friends were visiting us this week. This + morning we go to make calls. I have got a list of names that most + frightens me. All our brothers and sisters say—“Why, Eliza does not + seem at all like a stranger to us,”—indeed I feel as easy and happy + among them as possible, which astonishes me, as I have been so + unaccustomed to Quakers, but their manners are so affectionate and + soft, you cannot help it. Mrs. King (sister) is a beauty—She would be + very handsome in a different dress; she looks so much like Alicia + Wyer, you would love her,—just such full sweet blue eyes, charming + complexion and sweet expression, and her little quaker cap gives her + such an innocent, simple appearance, I imagine Alicia with a quaker + dress—and you will see her exactly. Adieu. I am expecting to hear from + you every day. Mr. Bowne is out, would send a great deal of love if he + were here. Kiss dear little Mary and all the children. I never go by a + toy shop, or confectionery, without longing to have them here. Love to + all. Our best love to my Father and Mother, Horatio, Isabella and all. + I mean to write as soon as I am settled a little. Adieu. + + Miss Southgate. + + New York, June 18, 1803. + + I am just going to set off for Long Island and therefore promise but a + short letter. I have a mantua maker here making you a gown which I + hope to have finished to send by Mrs. Rodman. The fashions are + _remarkably plain_, sleeves much longer than ours, and half + handkerchiefs are universally worn. At Mrs. Henderson’s party there + was but one lady except myself without a handkerchief,—dressed as + plain as possible, the most fashionable women the plainest. I have got + you a pretty India spotted muslin,—’tis fashionable here. _My husband_ + sends a great deal of love, says we shall be travelling about all + Summer, settle down soberly in October, and depend on seeing you as + soon as we are at housekeeping. Sister Caroline has made Sister Boyd a + tasty quaker cap, which I shall send with the gown. How could you + mistake what I said of Caroline so much? Far from being “_stiff and + rigid_,” she is most affectionate, attentive and obliging,—nothing was + more foreign to my thoughts, and you must have taken your idea from + what I said of her dress, which, you may depend upon it, with quakers + is no criterion to judge by. I never was more disappointed in my + life—to find such a stiff, forbidding external covered so much + affability and sweetness. + + You must give my love to Miranda. I wish I had time to write to her, + Horatio, my Mother and all, but I expect the carriage every moment. + Tell Horatio he must write to me. At present my letters to you must + answer for all, till I am more settled. Mrs. Codman has promised to + call at our house and tell you all about me. Malbone[52] has just + finished my picture; I have done sitting; he was not willing I should + see it, as ’tis unfinished. When you return ’twill be done, then I’ll + tell you whether ’tis like. I have told you in a former letter we + shall go to Bethlehem, Philadelphia, and perhaps to the Springs. My + trunk arrived safe. I shall send a little ring to Cousin Mary Porter; + ’tis not the kind I wanted, but I had not time to have one made to + send by Mrs. C. Is mine with sister Mary’s hair done? Send it to her + by the first opportunity. Adieu. Best love to all friends, and all the + children. Tell mamma I mean to write her as soon as I have leisure, + that I am very, _very_ happy, that Uncle Rufus has _not_ arrived, tho’ + every day expected, and that I look to the time when we shall see her + and my Father in New York. Mr. Bowne and myself both will be + delighted. Give my best love to Lucia,[53] Zilpah and John, and ask + the latter if he has discovered on whom my _mantle rested_. Tell + Zilpah we pass her friend Mrs. Bogert’s house every day, and never + without thinking of her. The City air has not stolen my _country + bloom_ yet, for every one says—“I need not ask you how you do, Mrs. + Bowne, you look in such fine health.” Dr. Moore[54] would not + inoculate me for the Small Pox, after examining my arm, as he was sure + from what I told him I had had the Kine Pox well, and he would insure + me against the Small Pox. But Mr. Bowne seems to wish I should be + inoculated, tho’ I care nothing about it now. Adieu. My best love to + Aunt Porter and Nancy, Mary Porter and all the other friends. We are + going to _Flushing_ to see our cousins before we return; you know how + Mary laughed about the name. Yesterday we were at Belvidere, the most + beautiful place, the finest view in the world, the greatest variety. I + never shall have done. Kiss dear little Mary; I think of her every + time I see a sweet little sight. + + Your affectionate sister ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + P. S. Remember and put an S in my name to distinguish; there are 2 or + 3 Eliza Bownes in the family. + +[Illustration: + + LUCIA WADSWORTH +] + +[Illustration: + + ZILPAH WADSWORTH +] + + New York, June 30, 1803. + + Uncle Rufus[55] has just landed. The Hussas have ceased, the populace + retired, and I hasten to give you the earliest information. Several + thousand people were on the wharf when he landed, my Husband among the + number. As he stept from the vessel they gave 3 cheers and escorted + him up into Broadway to a Mr. Nicholas Lowe’s[56] (his friend); then + three more cheers as he entered the door. He stood at the door, bowed, + and they dispersed—all but a dozen particular friends, who accompanied + him into the house, and Mr. Bowne with them. Was introduced by Mr. + Watson,[57] and immediately after Mr. Henderson[58] said, “A niece of + yours, Mr. King, was lately married in New York to Mr. Bowne.” My + Uncle immediately came up to him, shook hands a second time, and said, + “_Miss Southgate_, I presume.”—He staid but a few moments; the + acclamations of the people had rather embarrassed him (uncle). Aunt + King had not landed. This evening we are going to see them. Imagine me + entering, presented by Mrs. Henderson, Miss Bull, or Mrs. + Delafield,—all her intimate friends; think what a mixture of + sensations! I’ll tell you all about it. I returned from Long Island + this morning: delightful sail, beautiful country, and pleasant visit. + Malbone has finished my picture, but is unwilling we should have it as + the likeness is not striking,—he says not handsome enough—so says Mr. + B. But I think ’tis in some things much flattered. It looks too + serious, pensive, soft,—that’s not _my_ style at all. But perhaps + ’twill look different; ’twas not quite finished when I saw it; + however, he insists on taking it again as soon as he returns from the + Southward, and told Mr. Bowne, if he _must_ have one he might keep + this till he returned and he would try again. Uncle Rufus brings news + that _war_ has actually taken place, hostilities commenced. The + King[59] on the 14th sent a message to Parliament that he was + determined to use every effort to repress the overbearing power of + France, and hoped for their united assistance and exertions.—So much + for _Father_.—The whole City seems alive, nothing else talked of but + the arrival of Mr. King and the news of War. Adieu. I’ll write again + soon. Best love to all the family. + + We are in expectation of great entertainment on fourth of + July—_Independent_ day! as they laugh at us Yankees for calling + it,—the gardens, the Battery, and every thing to be illuminated, + fire-works, music, etc., etc. Col. Boyd called to see me; and Mr. + Grelett, whom I was introduced to in Boston, brought the handsome Miss + Pemberton, whom you have heard Col. B. speak of—to call on me; she’s + from Philadelphia. I was out. I hope none of my acquaintance will come + to New York, pass thro’, or any thing, without finding me out. I just + begin to make memorandums of tables and chairs, spoons and beds, and + everything else; most turns my brain, so many things to think of; but + I am well and happy, and ’tis a pleasant task. Adieu. + + Yours affectionately, ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + 10 o’clock, evening. + + Just returned from Uncle Rufus’. Mr. B. introduced me to Uncle; he + took my hand, introduced us to his wife, and they both seemed much + pleased to see us. Uncle is so easy and graceful and pleasing, I was + delighted with him. Looks very like _Mr. Parker_ instead of _Mr. + Davis_; enquired particularly after the family; was surprised at my + being here,—said everything that was pleasant, hoped we should be very + sociable, etc., etc.; and after a pleasant half-hour we returned home. + I broke the seal of my letter to tell you; ’tis late, I can’t be + particular. + + E. S. B. + + Miss Southgate, Portland. + + + New York, July 4, 1803. + + Dear Mother: + + I have written generally to Octavia, but as I meant my letters for the + family, ’tis not much matter to whom they were directed. I wrote you + of Uncle Rufus’ arrival and our calling on them the evening after. + Sunday they called on us with Mr. and Mrs. Lowe, their friends, with + whom they are staying till their own house is ready. They both kissed + me very affectionately, said everything that pleased me, and were very + solicitous that we might get houses near each other in the winter, + that we might be sociable neighbors. Uncle Rufus says I remind him of + Martha very much; he inquired particularly after all the family, and + asked if I did not expect you would come on to see me, and both + appeared much pleased when I assured them I depended on seeing you + here. Aunt King told Mr. Bowne he must bring me to see them _very + often_, and look upon her as a _Mother_. + + July 8. + + My letter will be an old date before I finish it. You must have + perceived, my Dear Mother, from my letters, that I am much pleased + with New York. I was never in a place that I should prefer as a + situation for life, and nothing but the distance from my friends can + render it other than delightful. We have thus far spent the summer + delightfully: we have been no very long journeys, but been on a number + of little excursions of 20 or 40 miles to see whatever is pleasant in + the neighborhood. Mr. Bowne’s friends, tho’ all very plain, are very + amiable and affectionate, and I receive every attention from them I + wish. I have a great many people call on me, and shall have it in my + power to select just such a circle of acquaintance as suits my + taste,—few people whose prospects of happiness exceed mine, which I + often think of with grateful sensations. Mr. Bowne’s situation in life + is equal to my most sanguine expectations, and it is a peculiar + gratification to me to find him so much and so universally esteemed + and respected. This would be ridiculous from me to any but my Mother, + but I know it must be pleasing to you to know that I realize all the + happiness you can wish me. I have not a wish that is not gratified as + soon as ’tis known. We intend going to Bethlehem, Philadelphia, and a + watering place, similar to the Springs, about 30 miles beyond + Philadelphia; shall probably set out the latter part of this month. At + present we have done nothing toward housekeeping, and Mr. Bowne won’t + let me do the least thing towards it, lest I get my mind engaged and + not enjoy the pleasure of our journeys.—’Tis very different here from + most any place, for there is no article but you can find ready made to + your taste, excepting table linen, bedding, etc., etc. One poor bed + quilt is all I have towards housekeeping, and been married two months + almost. I am sadly off, to be sure. We have not yet found a house that + suits us. Mr. Bowne don’t like any of his own, and wishes to hire one + for the present until he can _build_, which he intends doing next + season; which I am very glad of, as I never liked living in a hired + house and changing about so often. Uncle and Aunt King want we should + get near them; they have hired a ready furnished house about 2 miles + out of the city for the summer, and intend hiring a house in town in + the winter. I have been very busy with my mantua-maker, as I am having + a dress made to wear to Mrs. Delafield’s to dine on Sunday; they have + a most superb country seat on Long Island, opposite Hell-Gate;—he is + Uncle Rufus’ most intimate friend and a very intimate one of Mr. + Bowne’s. We shall probably meet them there; I have not seen them to + ask. My picture is done, but I am disappointed in it. Malbone says he + has not done me justice, so says Mr. Bowne; but I think, tho’ the + features are striking, he has not caught the expression, particularly + of the eyes, which are excessively _pensive_: would do for Sterne’s + Maria. The mouth laughs a little and they all say is good,—all the + lower part of the face; but the eyes not the thing. He wants me to sit + again, so does Mr. Bowne. Malbone thinks he could do much better in + another position. I get so tired, I am quite reluctant about sitting + again. However, we intend showing it to some of our friends before we + determine. How do all our friends at Saco and Topsham do? I often + think of them, and Mr. Bowne and myself are talking of coming to see + you next summer very seriously. How comes on the new house? We are to + come as soon as ever that is finished. If you choose to send so far, I + will purchase any kind of furniture you wish, perhaps cheaper and + better than you can get elsewhere. Adieu. Remember me to all the + children. Dear little Mary,—I can’t help crying sometimes, with all my + pleasures and amusements; ’tis impossible to be at once reconciled to + quitting all one’s friends. I thought a great deal of the children. I + never thought I loved them so much; I never pass a toy-shop or + confectionery without wishing them here. How does Horatio succeed in + business, as well as he expected? How comes on Father’s turnpike and + diking? Tell him I yesterday met a woman full broke out with the + small-pox; I was within a yard of her before I perceived it; the first + sensation was terror, and I ran several paces before I recollected + myself. As soon as I arrived in town Doctor Moore examined my arm, + enquired the particulars, and refused to inoculate me again; that he + would venture to insure me from the small-pox; that he had inoculated + hundreds and never had one take the small-pox after the kine-pox. + Adieu. + + Your affectionate daughter + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + P. S. All the family desire to be remembered particularly. Mr. B. is + out to dine. + + Mrs. Southgate, Scarborough, District of Maine. + +[Illustration: + + SUNSWICK—THE DELAFIELD HOUSE + + Hell Gate, Long Island +] + + New York, July 14. + + Friend Greene from Portland is here and will dine with us to-day; a + fine opportunity for me to write to my friends. I have quite a packet + of newspapers which I shall send by him to amuse you; they contain all + the public amusements and shows in celebration of 4th July. The + Procession passed our house and was very elegant. In the evening we + were at Davis Hall Gardens; the entertainment there you will see by + the papers; ’twas supposed there were 4,000 people there; tickets half + a dollar; and ’tis said he made very little money, so you may think + what the entertainment was. Indeed there is every day something new + and amusing to me. Whenever we have nothing particular in view, in the + cool of the evening we walk down to the Battery, go into the garden, + sit half an hour, eat ice-cream, drink lemonade, hear fine music, see + a variety of people, and return home happy and refreshed. Sunday we + dined at Mr. Delafield’s near Hell Gate, Long Island; the most superb, + magnificent place I ever saw, situated directly on the East river, the + finest view you can imagine. I was delighted with our visit, so much + ease, elegance and hospitality. I am very glad you liked your gown. + Long sleeves are very much worn, made like mitts; crosswise, only one + seam and that in the back of the arm, and a half drawn sleeve over and + a close, very short one up high, drawn up with a cord. I have just + been having one made so. All Mrs. Delafield’s daughters, even to + little Caroline, no older than our Mary, had their frocks made exactly + like the gown I sent you, only cut open in the back, a piece of bone + each side and eyelet holes laced,—long sleeves as I mentioned above; + short sleeves and open behind. I should admire to be in Portland, now + all the Coffin family are there. Give my best love to Mrs. Coffin and + Ellen Foster; the others will have returned. I am astonished at what + you say about my calling on Mrs. Sumner, and what Mrs. Coffin said. + When I got to Boston I determined to call nowhere but at Mrs. + Sumner’s, as my intimacy in the family was such and I was fearful she + might not hear of my being in town and should not see her; accordingly + the day I got in town we went out purposely to call there, and to + prevent any one calling on us (for I did not wish to see much company) + we said we expected to go out of town immediately. However, there were + a great many called to see me notwithstanding. In Cap hill we met Mr. + Sumner. I introduced Mr. Bowne, said we were just going to call on + Mrs. Sumner, enquired how she did, etc., and Mr. Sumner said they were + just going out to ride, but if I would go immediately with him I could + see her. I was fearful of detaining them, and thought I should + certainly see her, now she knew I was in town and had set out to call + on her; and Mr. Sumner particularly asked where we were to be + found,—we told him Mrs. Carter’s, and parted. From that time, every + time I heard the bell, I supposed ’twas Mrs. Sumner. We staid 2 days, + and neither Mr. nor Mrs. Sumner called. I felt amazingly hurt, as so + many ladies I was very little acquainted with called on me + immediately. Late in the evening before we left town, Tom Coffin + called in, appeared rather formal, never mentioned Mrs. Sumner or any + reason why they did not call, nor any apology. As I could no way + account for such mysterious conduct, it greatly mortified me. This is + the true statement, which you may mention to Mrs. Coffin, and then ask + her who has a right to feel offended. The great dinner given in honor + of Uncle Rufus I have not yet mentioned; ’twas very superb, and 200 of + the most respectable citizens of New York attended. Mr. Bowne says, + tho’ he has been at many entertainments given in honor of particular + persons, yet he never saw one that was so complimentary, and never a + person conduct himself on such an occasion with such ease, elegance, + and dignity in his life. He returned quite in raptures,—such + insinuating manners—such ease in receiving those presented and + introduced,—he is a most amazing favorite here. Democrats and + Federalists and all parties attended. French Consul on his + right—English Consul on his left. When Mr. Bowne went up, he held out + his hand with all the ease of an old friend, without even bowing, and + said, “How! is it Bowne? How’s your wife?”—so familiar. I went to see + the tables: very novel and elegant—there was one the whole length of + the Hall and 4 branches from it; there was an enclosure about 2 feet + wide, filled with earth, and railed in with a little white fence, and + little gates every yard or two ran thro’ the centre of all the tables, + and on each side were the plates and dishes. In this enclosure there + were lakes, and swans swimming, little mounds covered with goats among + little trees,—some places flocks of sheep, some cows laying down, + beautiful little arches and arbors covered with green,—figures of + Apollo, Ceres, Flora, little white pyramids with earth and sprigs of + myrtle, orange, lemon, flowers in imitation of hothouse + plants,—nothing could have a more beautiful effect in the hot weather; + those opposite to you were divided, their plates quite hidden. Adieu; + some ladies have just called. We are going about 20 miles to enjoy the + sea, Rockaway, a place of fashionable resort; ’tis intensely hot, + exceeded only by Ballston Springs. We don’t go to Bethlehem till the + last of the month. Mr. Bowne’s business detains him in the City only + one or two days in a week perhaps, yet prevents a long journey just + now. We ride out every day or two, go into the baths whenever we + please, they have very fine public ones. Adieu. The ladies will think + I am Yankee. Love to all. + + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + + Sally Weeks remember me to—and all other friends; Betsey Tappan—tell + her Mr. Bowne often speaks of that sweet little Miss Tappan. How comes + on Father’s house, Octavia? We both depend on its being finished next + season. We think very seriously of coming next summer. Mr. Bowne wants + to go almost as much as myself. + + Love to Sister, hope she is well again. Uncle Rufus told me Mr. Boyd + had been very sick, but I did not mention it, lest it might alarm + sister. Adieu. Love to Zilpah and Lucia. Tell Zilpah Mrs. Bogert came + to see me last week and is in hopes she will come on with her father. + Remember me affectionately to all Mrs. Davis’ family. I sometimes + treat myself with telling my Husband all about our charming frolics. + Does not Mr. Davis talk anything of coming to New York? Louise is + quite a belle I suppose. + + Miss Southgate. + + New York, July 23, 1803. + + I have sent a few sugar toys to the children, which you must + divide,—the cradle for Mary, the basket for Arixene, etc., etc.,—pair + shoes apiece, two little dogs I put up in the music—one looks like + Sancho; a little frock I send as a pattern for Miranda, Arixene, and + Mary, long or short sleeves as you please, whalebone in the back, + laced. I have sent another box of things to Isabella’s children: the + paper box I mean for them; two little fans for Arixene and Mary, with + their names on them, you’ll find in the bottom of the box. The two + songs I sent you are all I could find that struck me; for the “Death + of Allen,” I never heard it, and bought it because it was a + composition of Floyd’s; “The Wounded Hussar” I admired and knew you + could not get it set for the Piano,—I don’t know but ’tis different + from Miss Sandford’s. I write in great haste—we are going to dine at + Uncle Rufus’ out of town; ’tis past eleven. They have a delightful + place on the North River; took tea there last week. Mr. Bowne joins me + in love to Father and Mother and all. How comes on the house, + Octavia?—we want to come very much next Summer. Adieu. + + Yours, E. S. B. + + P. S. I have some fine peaches and apricots on the table before me; + Mr. Bowne brings me a pocketful of fruit every time he comes home. I + have ate as many as I want to, and have been thinking how much I would + give to get them to you, but this early fruit won’t keep at all. I was + at the theatre night before last—at Mount Vernon Garden; Hodgkinson is + a fine fellow. We commence our Southern journey in about 10 days. Oh, + I am sorry—Mr. Bowne just came to tell me the vessel has sailed—well, + I must wait for another. Love to Mary Porter, and give her the ring I + enclose of my hair; tell her I long to see her, and ask if she means + to be _Mary Porter_ when I next come to the Eastward. Love to all + friends. + + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + Miss Octavia Southgate. + + + Bethlehem, August 9, 1803. + + I intended writing before I left New York, but was so much engaged in + preparing for our journey, I had no time. My great wish to see this + famous Bethlehem[60] is at length gratified. You can scarcely imagine + any thing more novel and delightful than every thing about here, so + entirely different from any place in New England. Indeed, in + travelling thro’ the State of Pennsylvania, the cultivation, + buildings, and every thing are entirely different from ours,—highly + cultivated country, looks like excellent farmers. Barns twice as large + as the houses, all built of _stone_; no white painted houses, as in + New England. We crossed the famous Delaware at Easton. It separates + New Jersey and Pennsylvania. We saw some beautiful little towns in New + Jersey likewise, but in Pennsylvania the villages look so many + clusters of _jails_, and the public buildings like the Bastile, or, to + come nearer home, like the New York State prison,—all of _stone_, so + strong, heavy, and gloomy, I could not bear them; the inhabitants most + all Dutch, and such _jargon_ as you hear in every entry or corner + makes you fancy yourself in a foreign country. These Bethlehemites are + all Germans, and retain many of the peculiarities of their + country—such as their great fondness for music. It is delightful: + there is scarcely a house in the place without a Piano-forte; the Post + Master has an elegant grand Piano. The Barber plays on almost every + kind of music. Sunday afternoon we went to the Young Men’s house to + hear some sacred music. We went into a hall, which was hung round with + Musical Instruments, and about 20 musicians of the Brethren were + playing in concert,—an organ, 2 bass viols, 4 violins, two flutes, two + French horns, two clarionets, bassoon, and an Instrument I never heard + before, made up the Band; they all seemed animated and interested. It + was delightful to see these men, who are accustomed to laborious + employments, all kinds of mechanics, and so perfect in so refined an + art as music. One man appeared to take the lead and played on several + different instruments, and to my great astonishment I saw the famous + musician enter the breakfast room this morning with the razor-box in + his hand to shave some of the gentlemen. Judge of my surprise; and + some one mentioned he had just been fixing a watch down-stairs. + Yesterday, Daddy Thomas (who is a head one, and who comes to the + tavern every few hours to see if there are any strangers who wish to + visit the buildings) conducted us all round. We went to the + Schools,—first was merely a _sewing school_, little children, and a + pretty single sister about 30, with her white skirt, white, short, + tight waistcoat, nice handkerchief pinned outside, a muslin apron and + a close cambric cap, of the most singular form you can imagine. I + can’t describe it; the hair is all put out of sight, turned back + before, and no border to the cap, very unbecoming but very singular, + tied under the chin with a pink ribbon,—blue for the married, white + for the widows. Here was a Piano-forte, and another sister teaching a + little girl music. We went thro’ all the different schoolrooms—some + misses of 16,—their teachers were very agreeable and easy, and in + every room was a Piano. I never saw any embroidery so beautiful; + Muslin they don’t work. Make artificial flowers very handsome, paper + baskets, etc. At the single Sisters’ house we were conducted round by + a fine lady-like woman, who answered our questions with great + intelligence and affability. I think there were 130 in this house; + their apartments were perfectly neat,—the Dormitory or sleeping-room + is a large room in the upper part of the building, with “Dormont” + opposite the whole length. A lamp suspended in the middle of the + ceiling, which is kept lighted all night; and there were 40 beds, in + rows, only one person in each,—they were of a singular shape, high and + covered, and struck me like people laid out—dreadful! the lamp and + altogether seemed more like a nunnery than any thing I had seen. One + sister walks these sleeping-rooms once an hour thro’ the night. We + went to a room where they keep their work for sale,—pocket-books, pin + balls, Toilette cushions, baskets, artificial flowers, etc., etc. We + bought a box full of things, and left them much pleased with the + neatness and order which appeared thro’out. The situation of the place + is delightful. The walks on the banks of the Lehigh and the mountains + surrounding—’tis really beautiful. The widows’ house and young men’s + is similar to the one described; there were many children at the + school, from Georgia, Montreal, and many other places as far. There + are some genteel people from Georgia at the tavern where we are, and + Philadelphia. We intended leaving here for Philadelphia to-day, but it + rains. We shall spend a few days there and go to Long Branch. If the + alarm of the fever[61] continues in New York we shall not return there + again, but go in the neighborhood. Send in for a trunk, which I packed + up for the purpose, in case I feared going in the City—and set off for + the Springs or somewhere else. ’Tis very uncertain when we go to + housekeeping; the alarm of the Fever hurried us out of town without + any arrangement towards it, and may, if it continues, keep us out till + middle of Autumn. But at any rate you must spend the winter with us, + we both depend on it. You can certainly find some opportunity. Give my + best love to all friends, and expect to hear from me frequently while + I am rambling about. My husband is so fond of roving, I don’t know but + he’ll spoil me. We both enjoy travelling very much, and surely it is + never so delightful as in company with those we love. Only think, ’tis + just _a year_ to-day since we first saw each other, and here we are, + Married, happy, and enjoying ourselves in Bethlehem. Memorable day! + Horatio’s and Frederick’s _birthday_, too; mine will soon be here. I + long to see you all more than you can imagine; hope to, next summer, + and _depend_ on your spending the winter with us. Love to Miranda, + when you write, and tell her I mean to write myself. Mr. B—— often + talks of her. Is Mr. Boyd[62] _arrived_? I want much to hear. Love to + Sister[63] and the children. Adieu. + + Affectionately, + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + Mrs. Southgate, Scarborough. + + + Ballston Springs, Sept. 4, 1803. + + Once more do I write you from the _Springs_, where I enjoyed so many + delightful moments last year. We recall so many charming things to our + recollection by this visit to the Springs that ’tis of all places the + most pleasant for us to visit. A description of the place, amusements, + etc. I gave you last year; they are the same now. We arrived yesterday + morning, found the place much crowded, and were fearful of not getting + good accommodations, but in that respect were agreeably disappointed. + They dance much as usual; a fine ball to-morrow evening. I wish you + were here to help us dance,—a great many New Yorkers have taken refuge + here from the fever. I was quite sorry when I found Mr. Derby had been + here and gone again. Tell Louise the _Bussey_ family from Boston are + here, and Miss Putnam appears as much delighted with the _picturesque + steeps_ of Ballston as she was with those of _Freeport_, and with + about as much reason. We have an abundance of queer, smart people + here. Last night at tea I found myself seated alongside _Beau + Dawson_,[64] “_Nancy Dawson_,”—our envoy to France—you remember! Gen. + Smith of Baltimore and family, who it was said would succeed Uncle + Rufus; Mr. Harper and wife—the fine speaker in Congress; _Herssa + Madame_ Somebody—French lady; and a nobleman from nobody knows where, + and a parcel of strange people, making a variety that I like once in a + while. But, let me see, I have hurried you along to the Springs from + Long Branch in a much easier manner than I got here myself. Oh the + tremendous Highlands![65] I thought to my soul I should never hold out + to get over them—such roads! But I lived over it, tho’ it made me sick + fairly, with fatigue. I went to see Maria Denning, whose father’s + country seat, Beverly, is in the midst of the Highlands—on the North + River, directly opposite _West Point_. It does not look much like + Louisa’s picture; ’twould make one of the most sublime and beautiful + pictures imaginable if the objects were selected with judgment. It + rises with sublime and picturesque grandeur directly from the North + River. Who would have thought of taking a view of it without + water?—that is the greatest beauty when united with the others. We got + to Mr. Denning’s Saturday night,—left the neighborhood of New York, + Thursday,—where we staid only one night, dined at Uncle’s, drank tea + at Sister Murray’s, and set off that evening for the Springs. The + romantic and beautiful scenery on the North River as we rode up was + most charming to me. I admire the wild diversity of nature—here we had + it in perfection. I am sure the _Hudson_ wants nothing but a Poet to + celebrate it. The Thames and the Tiber have been sung by Homers and + Popes, but I don’t believe there can be a greater variety, more + sublimity or more beauty, than are to be found on the banks of the + Hudson. The Delaware did not strike me at all—I crossed it several + times. We were in hopes Uncle and Aunt would come here with us, but + Uncle said he must go _East_ if anywhere, but he wanted to be at rest + a few months, now he was settled. Mrs. Codman told me she saw you all; + we called a moment to see her. Mrs. Sumner has a son too. Poor Mrs. + Davis, how much sickness she has! On our return from Long Branch we + went to _Passaic Falls_ with a Baltimore family; had a charming little + jaunt about 20 miles from New York. The falls—the rocks—the whole + scenery partakes more of the sublime—almost terrific—than Glens Falls, + but not so beautiful. I am much delighted to hear of Mr. Boyd’s + arrival; Sister must be very happy. Martha is coming this month; the + fever would prevent her coming to New York—I am sorry. Love to Mrs. + Coffin. My mother is quite well, Mrs. Codman tells me. + Horatio,—Miranda, there’s half a dozen wild girls here that would romp + to beat her—they are as old as you, but sad romps. We shall stay here + about a week, then go to _Lebanon_, where I wish you to direct a + letter to me immediately on the receipt of this. I want to hear much, + so does Mr. Bowne. He teases me to death to write home that we may + hear from you. We depend on your coming on this winter. When we shall + be to housekeeping Heaven knows; not even a napkin made, just getting + a woman to work,—fixed the things already, when the fever came and we + all left the city; so here I am—perfectly unprepared as possible. + Adieu. Tell Horatio he has more time than I have, he ought to write me + immediately to Lebanon. Lebanon has been quite deserted. Poor Hannah + Hamilton’s Mamma died three or four weeks since. The servants at the + other house where I kept last summer, wished me joy,—heard Miss + Southgate was married to Mr. Bowne. Oh, I have not told you!—saw the + tree Major Andre was taken under, and the house where _Arnold_ fled + from, left his wife and family,—indeed, ’tis the very house Maria + lives in. We staid two nights there and promised to go and see them on + our return; charming place, such fruit, ’tis delicious. In the + Jerseys,—don’t laugh at travellers’ stories,—but we really rode over + the peaches in the road; we always kept our case full, William brought + us some off the finest trees that hung over the road. Peaches and + cream!—they laugh and say Boston people cry out, “’tis _so_ good!” + Well, what have I not wrote about? A little of everything but + sentiment; a dash of that to complete. I am most tired of jaunting; + the mind becomes satiated with variety and description and pants for a + little respite of domestic tranquillity. I’ve done; I have most forgot + how to write sentiment. I have had no time to think since I was + married. I don’t expect to, this 2 or 3 months, so good-bye. + + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + Miss Octavia Southgate. + + + Lebanon Springs, Sept. 24, 1803. + + Your letter, my dear Octavia, has set my head to planning at a great + rate. By all means come on with Mr. Cutts; I am impatient to see you, + and I cannot give up the pleasure of having you with me this winter. + We shall be at Housekeeping as soon as _possible_ after the fever + subsides. My husband thinks the plan a very good one. I will write + immediately to Aunt King, say that it is uncertain when you arrive, + but I have taken the liberty to request Mr. Cutts to leave you with + _her_ until I demand you. This settled, I proceed. Tell my good Mother + not to be afraid. I am as anxious as herself to be settled at home. I + am most tired of roving; it begins to grow cold, and I long for a + comfortable fireside of my own. What a sweet circle! Octavia, my dear + Husband, and myself; when we are alone we’ll read, and work like old + times. I have spent a most delightful 3 weeks at Ballston and Lebanon. + We had a charming company at Ballston, danced a few nights after I + wrote you, and I was complimented as Bride again.—Manager bro’t me No. + 1,—quite time I was out of date. + + Lebanon is delightful as ever; we have a small party, ride to see the + Shakers, walk, and play at Billiards, work, read, or anything. Tell + Mamma, Eunice Loring that was, is here,—she talks a great deal of my + Mother and Aunt Porter, wants to see them very much, etc., etc. She is + married to a _Mr. Neufville_ of Carolina. She is much out of health, + talks of going to England in the Spring. She wants to see you, as she + says my Mother talk’d of naming you for _her_; she wishes she had, as + she has no children. The box I mentioned was full of sugar things, + toys for the children; two little fans—a little frock for a pattern, + and another for Isabella’s children, The Children of the Abbey, and + Caroline of Lichfield for Mamma,—all in a package together; a letter + for Mrs. Coffin and several others. When we left New York Mr. Bowne + sent it to a Commission Merchant who does business for several + Portland people, and requested him to send it by the first vessel. As + you haven’t received it, I suppose the fever which broke out + immediately after induced him to shut up his store, or perhaps + prevented any Portland vessel from coming near the City, and that it + now lies in his store. Write me when you set out, and when ’tis + probable you will be in New York; direct to New York, probably I shall + be near New York in a fortnight. I have but a few moments to write as + the stage passes the village at 11. You alarm me about Ellen; pray + enquire particularly and tell me all; go to see yourself, and tell her + I can imagine no reason why I have never received a line from her + since I have been in New York,—nor Lucy Derby, neither Mrs. Coffin. I + wrote to, but it seems she did not receive my letter; love to her and + all Portland friends. I am expecting every day to hear Martha has + arrived. My best love to Sister Boyd and husband. I wrote a line of + congratulation to her, but that too is in the package. Adieu. I shall + soon see you, and then we will talk what I have not time to write. My + husband’s best love. + + Yours, ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + New York, October 23, 1803. + + I have waited till my patience is quite exhausted. What can have kept + you so long in Boston? Mr. Bowne has been at the Stage Office a dozen + times, and I have staid at home every forenoon this week to receive + your ladyship. I expect to get to housekeeping next week; and am so + busy. Mercy on me, what work this housekeeping makes! I am half crazed + with sempstresses, waiters, chambermaids, and every thing else—calling + to be hired, enquiring characters, such a fuss. I cannot possibly + imagine why you are not here. I should have wrote immediately after + receiving your letter, but Mr. Bowne was sure you would be here in + less than a week. It is possible you may be in Boston to receive this; + if not, you will be here or on the way. If you are troubled about a + Protector, Mr. Bowne says there has been several _married_ gentlemen + come on lately, which if you had known of, would have been proper. + Perhaps Mr. Davis may hear of some one. At any rate come as soon as + possible, for I am very impatient to see you. My best love to Louisa; + tell her I should be much delighted to see her in New York this + winter, and my Husband frequently says he should like to have Mr. + Davis’ family near us in New York. I am sure I should with all my + heart. Say everything to Mr. and Mrs. Davis for me that bespeaks + esteem. + + Adieu. Yours always, + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + Miss Octavia Southgate. + + + Bloomingdale, Nov. 2, 1803.[66] + + Mr. Bowne has just bro’t me a letter from you in which you mention + coming on with Mr. Wood. I am fearful my answer will arrive too late, + as your letter has been written nearly a fortnight. At any rate, come + on with Mr. Wood if he has not set out. You should not wait for an + answer from me—I shall be ready to receive you at any time, at + housekeeping or not. We go in town next Monday, every body is moving + in; for the last 3 days there has been no death, and for 5 no new + cases. If, unfortunately, Mr. Wood should have gone and you not + accepted of his protection, come the very next opportunity without + consulting me or waiting a moment. I hope to get to housekeeping very + soon. We have just returned from Uncle’s, where we had been to meet + Mr. and Mrs. Paine (Mrs. Doble) from Boston; she is less beautiful + than I expected,—charming little daughter. I am more and more + delighted with Aunt King, she is so unaffected, easy and ladylike. + Margaret and Mr. Duncan married? I expect to hear still stranger + things from Portland—now Ellen Foster is married. I _suppose_ she is, + tho’ I have not heard. I am hourly and impatiently expecting to hear + from Martha. How unfortunate! What would I give to be nearer! Adieu: + ’tis late; come as soon as possible. Give my love to all friends. + + Yours affectionately, ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + + New York, Dec. 24, 1803.[67] + + My Dear Mother: + + Eliza received a letter yesterday from you, where you say you have not + received a letter from either of us a long time. I am really surprised + at it, as I wrote you very frequently from Boston, and am determined + to let you have a letter now every fortnight to let you know what we + are doing and whether I am happy. I begin to feel quite at home and + certainly never was happier in my life. It is true I sometimes sigh + for home, but it is generally when I am in a crowd that I am most + there in imagination. But when I am _here_ and none but our own + family, I have not a single wish ungratified. I am much more pleased + with New York on every account than with Boston. As a City it is much + superior, the situation is every way as delightful as possible. The + inhabitants to me are _much more_ pleasing, more ease, more + sociability and elegance, yet not so ostentatious,—they dress with + remarkable simplicity; and I think I could spend the winter here and + not expend half the money that I must unavoidably do in Boston. There + every one dresses, and a person would look singular not to conform; + but here there is such a variety, and the most genteel people dress so + plain that one never appears singular. To-morrow is Christmas and we + dine at Uncle’s; he is a charming man, looks amazingly like you, so + much so that I admire to look at him. She is a very affable, pleasing + woman, and they both appear to be fond of Eliza. We were at a concert + last evening; the most delightful music I ever heard. We wished for + Horatio all the evening. There is not much gaiety, they tell me, till + after the holydays, that is Christmas and New Year. We have been into + no parties yet, but have made many sociable visits, which I very much + admire. I am very much pleased with all the _friends_ we have visited. + Old Mrs. Bowne is a fine, motherly old lady; she treats Eliza with as + much affection as an own mother,—they all appear to be very glad to + see me, and I really feel sometimes as though I was at home; how I + long to see you all! How is Arixene and Mary? How I want to see them! + How is Papa this winter? Ah! if you were all here! But next spring we + shall all be with you. I am afraid you are solitary—if you are, do, my + Dear Mother, tell me, find any opportunity, and I’ll be with you as + soon as you say,—depend on it, I shall never get so attached either to + the inhabitants or the gaieties of New York, as to feel reluctant to + return home; even in my happiest hours I think of the time with + extreme pleasure. This family is the only thing that would root me to + the spot, and there is a charm in that which nothing but home can + equal. I have promised Eliza a page for you, so I suppose I must + close. Give my best love to Father and the children, and believe me + your affectionate child, + + OCTAVIA SOUTHGATE. + + + Octavia has reserved me a page in her letter which I hasten to + improve. I thank you, my Dear Mother, for yours, and beg you will + often write me, now Octavia is with me and cannot tell me about home. + I am at length settled at housekeeping very pleasantly, and do not + find it such a tremendous undertaking. I have been fortunate in + servants, which makes it much less troublesome; the house we have + taken does not altogether please us, but at any time but May ’tis + extremely difficult to get a house. In the Spring we shall be able to + suit ourselves. Mr. Bowne wishes to build and is trying to find a lot + that suits him,—if so, we shall build the next season. Almost + everybody in New York hire houses, but I think it much pleasanter + living in one’s own. I am more and more pleased with New York, there + is more ease and sociability than I expected. I admire Uncle and Aunt + more and more every day, and Mr. Bowne thinks there never was Uncle’s + equal,—such a character as he had often imagined, though not supposed + existed. I believe I shan’t go to the next Assembly; Octavia will go + with Aunt King. You say Mr. Bowne must write you, and as a subject + mention the dividends from the Insurance Office. In the Summer there + was no dividend, no profits; the next dividend will be soon. Mr. + Codman thinks there will be a tolerable one,—you shall hear as soon as + it takes place; we have received nothing as yet. Uncle and Aunt always + inquire particularly about you, and desire to be mentioned. Make my + best love to all friends, kiss the children and tell them not to + forget sister Eliza. I live in the hope of seeing you next + Autumn—Heaven grant I may not be disappointed! Remember me with my + best love to my Father and all the family. Adieu; write me soon, and + believe me + + Your affectionate ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + Mrs. Robert Southgate. + + + New York, March. + + Dear Miranda: + + I have been talking of writing to you so long that I think it is quite + time I should talk no longer, but act; but you should not have waited + for me to write. You knew both Mr. Bowne and myself would have been + very glad to have heard from you,—all about your school, your + acquaintance, amusements or anything, and I have a thousand things to + take up my attention that you have not. Do you return home this + Spring? We shall find you at home when we come. I have got one or two + trifles I want to send you, but can’t find an opportunity; there are + so few people from our way come to New York, that ’tis very difficult + to send anything. I hear a strange story about Isabella Porter: she is + a silly little girl, and when she is older, will think she acted very + foolishly,—one ought to know more of the world before she decides on a + thing of so much importance; she is a mere baby and has seen nothing + of life. Do you often hear of Caroline, Miranda? I feel anxious lest + she should not conduct with as much discretion as she ought, as she + never knew the blessing of having a kind, indulgent mother to watch + over her and guard her from harm. + + When I was in Bethlehem last summer, I got some little caps such as + the girls at school wear, and such as the sisters of members of the + Society wear. I want to find an opportunity to send them to you. Did + you ever read a description of Bethlehem? If you never did, you may + find one in some of the Boston Magazines. We had a little book called + a “Tour to Bethlehem,” which if I can find I will send you. It will + give you a very correct idea of the place, society and customs. When I + was there, there were 83 girls, from 4 to 16, at the school, from + almost every part of the United States. They all wear these little + caps tied with a pink ribbon, which looks very pretty where you see so + many of them together,—they learn music, embroidery, and all the + useful branches of education,—likewise to make artificial flowers and + many little things of that kind. Do you ever attempt painting?—’tis a + charming accomplishment, and if you have any taste for it, should + certainly cultivate it. Write me soon, and tell me when you are going + home and of anything else that interests you. Mr. Bowne often talks of + you and now desires to be particularly remembered. + + Adieu; remember me to any of my friends who enquire, and believe me + + Your affectionate sister, ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + Miranda Southgate. + + + Rockaway, August 24, 1804. + + Dear Girls: + + I enclose you a piece of Mr. Blovell’s poetry on the Miss Broomes’ + country seat at Bloomingdale; as you both know him, I think it will + amuse you. I expect Eliza and Jane Watts down here in a few days and + should be delighted if you could be here at the same time. I wrote to + you, Octavia, on Monday last a long letter,—answer it soon and tell me + how far you mean to comply with my proposals. I spent several days at + Flushing last week; they all enquired very affectionately for you; but + I don’t know but Miranda is your rival—she is a monstrous favorite + among some of them. I believe Mary Murray is engaged and all matters + settled. I met the Murrays and Mrs. Ogden at Miss Curtis’s; they came + up from New York the same day we did from Rockaway,—very fortunate + meeting them, for it rendered my visit doubly pleasant. ’Twas the + season for peaches, we feasted finely. I shall attend to your + memorandums as soon as possible. Give my best love to Horatio and + Nabby, if I may be allowed to connect the names, and tell him my plan. + Mr. Bowne says I must write another letter to urge it more strongly; + it must be so. + + Yours ever, + E. S. BOWNE. + + [New York, November 9th, 1804 (?).] + + I have been in daily expectation of a letter from you ever since my + return and none has yet come. I have not heard a word from Isabella, + tho’ I have been very anxious. The trunks arrived yesterday with an + old letter for me enclosed by Horatio in a _blank_ cover, not a word + to say how all the family did, particularly Isabella. We are still at + our Mother’s, and shall probably remain a fortnight longer; the house + would be ready in a few days, but we think it is too damp at present. + Every body expected you back, for the Murrays had told most of our + acquaintance you were to return with me. John and Hannah Murray came + to see me the day after I arrived. John rattles as usual, talks much + of getting married—his old tune, you know: he has completed his + thirtieth year now since we have been gone; he says, “I begin to feel + the approach of old age.” Mr. Newbold called to enquire particularly + after your ladyship, and Mr. Rhinelander[68] spent last evening with + us; I think he improves fast; he told me a deal of news. Miss Farquar + and Mr. Jepson[69] were married last night, Miss Blackwell and Mr. + Forbes, and one or two others. Rhinelander says half the girls in town + are to be married before Spring. Maria Denning for one; and the world + says Amelia and James Gillispie will certainly make a match,—that I + was surprised at. Miss Bunner[70] and John Duer are married; Sally + Duer is soon to be; and Fanny is positively engaged to Mr. Smith, whom + you saw several times last winter, of Princeton. So you see all the + girls are silly enough to give up their fine dancing days and become + old matrons like myself. Mrs. Kane is in town; looks older, paler, and + thinner. She has got a charming little girl,[71] fat and good-natured + as possible. Mrs. Ogden stays out of town all winter. We are engaged + at Mrs. Bogert’s this afternoon, but it storms so violently I believe + I shan’t go. She regrets very much your not coming, and Lucia + [Wadsworth] she would be delighted to have. Our things arrived + yesterday, but are not out of the vessel yet. At present there is no + gaiety, quite dull; there will be a revival soon, I suppose. Mr. + Poinsett has been to see me several mornings; he goes on Monday to + Carolina. Miss de Neufville spends the winter in New York with her + Aunt Stowton. I meant to call on her this morning, but it was stormy. + The few days I was in Boston I was constantly engaged. We dined at + Sheriff Allen’s with a very large party,—Lady Temple,[72] Mrs. + Winthrop and daughters, Mrs. Bowdoin, Mrs. G. Green, Mrs. Stouton and + daughter, and many others,—about 30; and we were at Mrs. G. Blake’s at + a tea-party, she enquired particularly after you; she is a very fine + woman I think. Our journey on was tolerably pleasant. We arrived + before Uncle and Aunt. Eliza Watts told me she had a letter from you + after I left home. Adieu; write me soon and tell me all the news. Give + my best love to Father, Mother, and all the family. I am very well and + grow fat; everybody says I am wonderfully improved. Write me soon. + + Yours ever, + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + +[Illustration: + + THE BOWNE HOUSE—FLUSHING + + Erected 1661 +] + + New York, July 30, 1804. + + I received your letter, my Dearest Mother, three days since, and every + moment of my time and attention since has been taken up with our dear + Eliza. I am grieved that you are so low-spirited about her, tho’ as + you predicted her trouble has again ended, I yet feel confident if we + once get her home, that she will gain strength and do well. Her + Physician has been in great hopes that she would get through this time + without any difficulty, indeed the first week we were in the country + she was so finely, that we all felt encouraged about her. She had been + as prudent as possible, and she can’t with any reason reflect upon + herself. The last week we were there she began to droop again, and Mr. + Bowne brought her into town with an intention of carrying her to + Flushing; now we shall set off for home as soon as she is strong + enough to travel. I am astonished at her spirits, they are as good + again as mine, and yet to-day she is so much better. I feel finely + myself. + + She has had no pain, but only suffers from weakness. We shall go in + three or four days to Flushing, which is a fine, bracing air, and stay + there a few days till Eliza is smart enough to travel 10 miles a day. + I place full confidence in this journey; I am sure that the change of + air and scene, and more than all, the prospect of home, will render it + truly beneficial. We are at Mr. Bowne’s mother’s, for we have shut our + house up. She is a fine old lady, and Caroline is perfectly amiable + and as attentive as possible. I am very glad we are here and in the + neighborhood of Mrs. Bogert, for she is all goodness. I grow more and + more anxious every hour to get home. The city is quite deserted, + though it never was more healthy. There are as few deaths as there + were in the winter. There has been two weeks of _very cool_ weather. I + go wandering about and see scarcely a face I know. I used to complain + last winter of our large acquaintance, and having the house full of + company, but now I exclaim out half a dozen times a day that “I wished + I could see some one I knew.” There are gentlemen enough, but no + ladies. Uncle and Aunt, I suppose, have nearly set out for + Scarborough. I wish we were to be there whilst they are with you. You + can have no idea how very anxious I am to return. Was I not so much + occupied I should be positively _homesick_, but I have no time to + _think_ but upon one subject. Kiss the dear children for us _all_, for + we are equally anxious to see you. Remember me very affectionately to + Sister Boyd and to the children. Before I leave here I shall be in + need of a little money. I won’t seal my letter to-night, but will + write you how she is to-morrow. + + July 31. + + I did not finish my letter this morning because Eliza did not feel as + well as usual, but this afternoon she is better. She is in charming + spirits and so very well that we are delighted. She gives her best + love to you; says _she_ don’t feel _at all_ obliged to you for your + wishes, and is determined not to join with you. The old lady desires + to be remembered, and says,—“If thee was here, thee could do no more + for thy child than we have.” Indeed she is the most tender, + affectionate of women. My best love to my Father. We are in the full + of seeing you soon. I shall not make it long before I write again. + + Yours affectionately, + O. SOUTHGATE. + + June 3, 1805. + + Dear Octavia: + + Mamma arrived safe and well on Wednesday morning to our great joy, + after having a pleasant passage from Newport, staying two days in + Boston, two in Newport, and one in Providence. We are going to Uncle’s + to dine to-day, and I can’t persuade Miranda to write a line to let + you know Mamma had come,—company coming in every minute, and can but + just steal a moment to write. Louise is with you,—I am more than half + vexed that I am to be disappointed of the charming winter I had + promised myself, with you and Louise to spend it with me, so you need + not be surprised if I am rather ill-natured at times. The secret is + out, and all your friends, beaux I mean, walk the other side of the + street when I meet them. Mary Murray called this morning; seemed + rather disappointed at not having a letter. Eliza Watts thanks you for + the wedding-cake as well as myself. Give my best love to Louise as + well as all my other friends. We go over into Jersey to-morrow,—E. + Watts and Susan go with us,—John Wadsworth. I wish you could have been + here while Mamma was. Adieu; write me soon, and expect a longer letter + as soon as I can command a little more time. + + Your affectionate + + E. S. BOWNE. + + P. S. Remember I don’t call this a _letter_, so no lectures on that + head. + + Jamaica, October 6, 1805. + + I am delighted, my Dear Octavia, to hear you are so finely, and the + more so as I hear it from _yourself_. I did not so soon expect such + fine effects from the new system of living; I am sure all will be well + now. A wedding I suppose next, for I conclude from the melancholy + pathos with which you say, you shall “neither have the independence of + a married woman, nor of a single,” that you don’t mean to try the + half-way being. However, let the man teaze if he will; do not think of + being married until your health is perfectly confirmed,—I would not + for the world. ’Tis so late in the season, ’tis not possible I can + come to see you this fall, even tho’ there should be two weddings in + November. And so you talk of spending the winter with me,—how you love + to tantalize!—and wish me to give you the pleasure of refusing me. You + know I should be delighted to have you, but you know you never mean to + visit New York as Miss Southgate again. Somebody would put on a graver + face than he did last fall on a like occasion, and as he had _as much + influence_ then as to counteract my wishes, I won’t subject myself to + the mortification of another defeat now I know his power to be much + greater. However I won’t ask, tho’ I shall be very happy to have you + with me. As for news, you give me more than I can you. We have left + Rockaway more than a week ago, still exiled from our home by this + dreadful calamity. We are at lodgings in Jamaica, where we shall + probably remain until ’tis safe removing to the City. Uncle and + Aunt,—Mr. and Mrs. Bogert,[73] have gone about 30 miles down the + Island, sporting for _Grouse_, and return to Jamaica until we can all + go in town. Mr. and Mrs. Rogers (Cruger that was) have taken a house + in Jamaica during the fever; the next door to this I lodge in. Mr. and + Mrs. Hayward[74] are with them, but leave here for Charleston this + week. I am in there half of my time. We make a snug little party at + _Brag_ in the evening frequently, and work together mornings. Mr. + Bowne goes to Greenwich, where all the business is transacted, on + Mondays and Thursdays, but returns the same night, so I am but little + alone. As to news—Miss Charlotte Manden Heard was married last week to + a _gentleman_ from _Demarara_, whom nobody knew she was engaged to + until he came a few weeks since and they were married. John Murray, I + believe, is at last really in love, tho’ ’tis not yet determined + whether the lady smiles or not. A Miss Rogers from Baltimore, whom he + met at the Springs,—a sweet interesting girl, ’tis said. Wolsey + Rogers[75] and Harriet Clarke[76] were talked of as a match at the + Springs. Mrs. Kane[77] staid at the Springs till she was so late she + could not venture to ride to Providence with her Mother, and the fever + kept her from New York, so was obliged to stop at Mrs. Gilbert + Livingstone’s[78]—Mr. Kane’s sister—at Red Hook, until able to resume + her journey home, which will probably be in November. Mrs. Fish[79] + has a daughter; great joy on the occasion. Give my love to Cousin + Pauline,[80] and tell her I congratulate her on the birth of her son. + What do Mary[81] and Paulina call their boys—Nathaniel and Enoch? I + hope not, never keep up such ugly names. Mr. B. says you must spend + the winter with us,—he will come under bonds to somebody to return you + safe. Give my best love to Sister Boyd, Horatio, and all the family at + home. Has any progress been made in the new house? I am sorry to say I + fear not—’tis pity,—I had almost said ’tis wrong. I am half mortified + when I hear of any of my acquaintance visiting Portland,—’tis true, I + declare,—tho’ Husband would scold me for saying so. Pappa is an + affectionate Father, yet therein he acts not up to his character. I + must check my pen—I am too much interested in this subject. Adieu; + make my compliments to all acquaintances and write me again soon. Love + to Miranda—tell her Mrs. Bogert talks much of her, and remind her from + me of Aunt’s sleeves; are they finished?—if they are, I hope she will + send them by Mrs. McKersen. I am working me a beautiful dress,—it will + be when ’tis done. By-the-by, any purchases for the coming occasion + will be executed with pleasure. Give my best love to (sister I had + almost said) Nabby,[82] and tell her I shall feel myself flattered by + any commission she will give me either in clothes or furniture; do + away her modesty in this thing, if you think I can be of any service + in that way, for I assure you ’twill gratify me. Tell Horatio[82] I am + impatient to thank him for giving so pleasant an acquisition to our + family, but I could do it more heartily in person in New York, if so I + might be indulged. Since you won’t be honest and tell the truth, I + won’t tell you what I’ll say to you. Do ask Papa if he could send us 6 + or 8 barrels of potatoes, there is like to be a great scarcity in New + York; put them in the hold of the vessel or anywhere. Col. Barclay has + sent to Nova Scotia for a vessel load,—a housekeeper— + + What a romantic conclusion. + + Yours, E. B. + + New York, Nov. 10, 1805. + + Horatio is really married then; and we not married; and I suppose the + next account your ladyship will be added to the list. How swimmingly + you all go on! What a tremendous _marrying_ place Portland is. New + Yorkers don’t marry—sad sett of them. I am half angry to think you are + marrying in such an out-of-the-way season, that ’tis impossible any + one can come to see you. However, I hope to come early in the summer, + if nothing happens to prevent, and spend 3 or 4 months. I shall have + so many new relations that ’twill be necessary to come often to keep + an account. Robert Murray[83] came home quite delighted with his + eastern visit, but disappointed at seeing so little of Miranda. What + has been the matter with her, any thing more than a heavy cold? I wish + she was here with all my heart. I am quite alone and require a + companion more than ever, but I suppose Mamma could not hear of that. + I wish Arixene and Mary could have found a good opportunity to come + this fall, and we could take them home in the summer,—but I suppose I + must be content. We have been in town since the 31st of October, the + day your letter was dated; it has been a long time in coming. I got it + only last evening. Mr. Bowne had found out Capt. Libby, and we were + preparing to send the sheeting and diaper by him; he sails the last of + the week; the other things you wish we will send as many as can be + procured before the vessel sails, but ’twill be impossible to get any + _plate made_ to send for several weeks,—we will order it immediately, + and as it will not be bulky, there will probably be no difficulty in + finding a conveyance. We made a sketch of the articles you wished and + of the pieces, which cannot be very incorrect, as I took them all from + our own furniture book, and we calculated that the whole of Mamma’s + plate and another suit of curtains for Nabby included would come at + about 400 dollars. Mr. B. has 340 in his hands of Pappa’s, about the + sum that would buy all the things but Mamma’s plate and Nabby’s + curtains; however, that makes not the least difference to Mr. Bowne, + as he desires me to say he shall execute the commissions with great + pleasure, and ’twill be no inconvenience to him to purchase the other + articles, and I merely mentioned it as I did not know that you knew + the real sum in Mr. Bowne’s hands. ’Tis very lucky there is so direct + an opportunity to Scarborough; we shall endeavor to send as many + things as possible. Shopping at present is a prohibited pleasure to + me, but as all the things can be better procured at wholesale stores, + and my husband has both a great deal of taste and judgment in those + things, and makes better bargains than I do, you will be no sufferer + by the loss of my services in that,—and I can have anything sent to me + to look at, and therefore ’tis quite as well as if I went for them. I + don’t mean you shall understand because I don’t go shopping that I am + confined to the house. On the contrary, I am much better than could be + expected and hope with care to do very well. I shall go out very + little until the middle or last of the winter, when I hope, if I + continue well, to be most as smart as other people. My husband does + not allow me to go into a shop. I laugh at him and tell him I don’t + believe but the health of his _purse_ is _one-half_ his concern—a fine + excuse. Mrs. Bogert is in expectation of seeing Lucia Wadsworth when + the General comes on. I have been confined to the house with a severe + cold since Thursday,—Friday and Saturday was quite sick, and to-day + feel unfit for anything almost but my bed. Adieu; my best love to all + the family. You mentioned nothing of the Cypher on the Plate: O. S. or + B.—or your crest, or William’s crest, if you can find them out,—I + suppose we could here,—or what? Mamma’s I suppose will be S. only. I + have a great mind to tell you what a saucy thing my husband said on + your anxiety—that the bowls and edges of the spoons should not be + sharp; but I leave you to guess, or if you can’t, perhaps William may + help you to an explanation. + + Adieu. Yours ever, + E. S. BOWNE. + + Miss Octavia Southgate. + + + November 14, 1805. + + Capt. Libby sails to-morrow; we have got as many things as possible. + There is not a piece of embossed Buff in New York, nor of plain + either, there is not more than 2 pair alike, therefore I have done + nothing about the trimmings. I fancy Boston is a better place for + those things than New York. The most fashionable beds have draperies + the same as my dimity window curtains. However, if you think best I + will look farther, and perhaps there will be something new open in a + week or two. There is but one barrel urn in the city. Mr. B. was two + days in pursuit of one; he purchased this and sent it back: ’twas + brown, and no plate on it except the nose. I can get you one like mine + for $25. Let me know immediately respecting these things. Yesterday + the Silversmith came for instructions respecting the plate, and bro’t + patterns for me to look at. I ordered a set of tea-things for Mamma + the same as mine; I think them handsomer than any I see. The man is to + send me some patterns to look at which he thinks are similar to your + description. On the next page I will make a list of the goods and + pieces copied from the bills. + + 1 piece Irish sheeting, 48 yards, at 5 $30.00 + 1 piece Irish sheeting, 55 yards, at 6/6 44.69 + 6 yards Fine Linen, at 7/6 5.62 + 12 Damask Napkins, at 8 12.00 + 1 piece fine Diaper 27 yards, at 5/6 18.56 + 2 Breakfast Cloths, at 14 3.50 + 1 plated Castor best kind, 12.00 + 1 plated Cake Basket silver rims, 18.00 + 2 Pearl tea-pots, 2.25; 1 Trunk, 2.50 4.75 + ——————— + $149.12 + + The sheeting is quite as cheap as mine, the fine I like very much and + think it quite a bargain. The Diaper is not quite so cheap as mine, + but it has risen; the tablecloths are cheap, the linen is high I + think. The Cake Basket is very cheap, $2 cheaper than mine, and rather + handsomer I think. I could get no crimson marking, but send you a few + skeins of cotton which I procured with much difficulty. The napkins + are not the kind I wished, but there was none of those excepting at 2 + places, and they were 18/–22/ a piece. I thought these pretty and + would answer your purpose. I enclose the marking cotton and the key of + the trunk. Adieu. + + Yours ever, E. S. BOWNE. + + P. S. The bills are in Miranda’s book in the trunk. + +[Illustration: + + JAMES GORE KING + + From a miniature in the possession of A. Gracie King, Esq. +] + + Jan. 14, 1806. + + My dear Miranda: + + Mr. Abbot is here from Brunswick and will take a letter for me to any + of my friends. I should not have been surprised any more to have seen + the cupola of the college itself walk into the room than I was to see + Mr. Abbot, I could hardly believe my eyes; but I could not but _know_ + him, as I know nobody like him: he always seems like a frightened + bird—so hurried in his manner and conversation. How much he looked + like some of Timothy Dexter’s wooden men—at commencement last year; it + came across my mind while he was sitting by me yesterday,—’twas well I + was alone, or I should have certainly laughed. Frederic,[84] I + suppose, is at home, tho’ Mr. A. could not tell me. John[85] and + Charles King have some thought of going to Portland. I have told them + they had better go some other time, as they will find Portland so dull + and none of you in quite so good spirits. James is here and they + return with him. You ask about Jane Watts—nobody sees her, she is + entirely confined to her room. Doctor Burchea attends her now; her + cough they think a little better, but she is not able to sleep at all + without laudanum. I have no expectation she will recover, the family + seem to have. + + As to news—New York is not so gay as last Winter, few balls but a + great many tea-parties. I believe I told you Mrs. Gillespie[86] has a + daughter, and still more news. You never wrote me anything about the + muslin for Arixene to work her a frock, ’tis so good an opportunity to + send it that I have a great mind to get it notwithstanding. If you + can, send the things I left to Louisa Davis in Boston. John and + Charles would bring them on to me. Walter[87] will want the shirts as + soon as the weather becomes warm. You say I have said nothing of + Walter in any of my letters; he is so hearty and well I hardly thought + of him when I wrote; he has not had a day’s sickness since I returned. + I send him out walking frequently when ’tis so cold it quite makes the + tears come; he trudges along with leading very well in the street, he + never takes cold. He goes to bed at 6 o’clock, away in the room in the + third story you used to sleep in, without fire or candle, and there he + sleeps till Phœbe goes to bed to him. You know I am a great enemy to + letting children sleep with a fire in the room; ’tis the universal + practice here, and as long as I can avoid it I never mean to practice + it; it subjects them to constant colds. They think I am very severe to + suffer such a child to be put in the third story to sleep without a + fire. I presume Aunt King and family are all well; they are going to + have a fine _waffle_ party on Tuesday. I wish you were here to go, for + the boys want to have a fine frolic. Kitty Bayard[88] is to be married + in April to Duncan Campbell; all engaged since Wolsey and Susan were + married. Mary Watts[89] is engaged to the big Doctor Romaine,—that is + quite a surprise to every one: this is rumor. And now I have written + all the trifling, I come to what is nearer my heart. You are not half + particular enough about Octavia. Does Isabella live in the same house + she did when we were there? Has Octavia nobody with her to take care + of her child? I am very glad to hear they are so cheerful. Pappa you + say has been sick but is quite recovered. How is Mamma this winter, + quite recovered her health? + + Adieu. E. S. B. + + Feb. 15. + + And so I must hear of all the important events of the family from + anybody who casually may have it in their power to communicate them. + Horatio has a fine son, I hear, of which I am very glad; congratulate + them for me—do they mean to call him the same name as their other + little boy? I suppose you have heard from John and Charles King[90] + since they have been in Boston. If you would send the little bundle + for them to bring on I should be very glad, and I wish you to get me 3 + pr. of Mr. Smith’s little white worsted socks, such as I bo’t for + Walter, only two or three sizes larger, big enough for him next + winter,—don’t neglect it, for I wish for them very much. Let them be + full large for a child 3 years old. How are all the family? Octavia, I + don’t hear from anybody; you ought to write once a fortnight + certainly. Poor Jane Watts is very low, confined to her bed,—I fear + she will never go out again. Adieu; love to all. This is my second + letter since I heard from you. I write more particularly that you may + send those things by the boys. + + Yours ever, E. S. B. + + To Mrs. Octavia Browne. + + + New York, March 30, 1806. + + My Dear Mother: + + I am most impatiently looking for Miranda and hoping, tho’ I dare not + place too much dependence on seeing my Father. I am better than when I + wrote you before, tho’ still subject to these faint turns. I have + become more used to them and they don’t alarm me. I ride frequently + and take the air every fine day in some way or other. I have been free + from a return of the nervous headache for a fortnight, till the night + before last I had a return of the numbness and pain, tho’ not so + severe as the last. I have a very good appetite and look very fat and + rosy, but really am very weak and languid. I don’t know why I look so + much better than I feel. Mary Murray is to be married a week from next + Wednesday; she is very desirous that Miranda should get here; I really + hope she may. Perhaps I may get courage enough to go myself if she + comes in time, otherwise I don’t believe I shall venture; however, + ’twill depend upon my feelings at the time. I shall look out the last + of the week for Pappa and Miranda very seriously. I hope they are on + their way now. Uncle’s oldest son, John Alsop, arrived here about a + week since; he seems a very fine young man, rather taller than his + Father,—he will be a second Uncle William, for he does not appear to + have half got his height. Charles King has gone to Holland. + + E. S. B. + + Mrs. Mary Southgate. + +[Illustration: + + CHARLES KING + + From a miniature in the possession of his daughter, Mrs. Martin +] + + New York, April 27, 1806. + + My Dear Mother: + + Before you receive this my Father will be with you. He says I need not + fear any thing, that I am in a very fair way of doing well; he will + tell you all the particulars better than I could write. He got quite + homesick, we could not prevail on him to lengthen his visit or go to + the Springs and return here. I promised to let you hear from me once a + week how I got along. For the last 3 days I have been finely, for me; + the fore part of the day I am often very faint—all the forenoon, but + generally better towards evening. ’Tis a great comfort to me to have + Miranda with me, as I am a great part of the time unfit for anything. + My head has been much more clear and comfortable for the last few days + than for some time past. Tell Father there was a meeting called last + evening of the Federalists in the city, to make some further + remonstrances on the defenceless state of the Port of New York, + occasioned by an accident that has set the whole City in an uproar. + There are 3 British Frigates at the Hook, a few miles from the City, + that fire upon all the vessels that come in or go out, and search + them. They have sent several on to Halifax, and yesterday they fired + in a most wanton manner upon a little coaster that was entering the + harbor with only three men on board, and before they had time to come + to as they were preparing to do, they fired again, and killed one of + the men dead upon the spot,—he was brought up and the body exposed to + view on one of the wharves, where several thousand people were + collected to see it,—it put the City in great confusion, and this + meeting was called in consequence—where Uncle made a very elegant + speech. I am very sorry Father had not been here, it would have + gratified him. ’Tis the first time he has spoken in public since his + return to this Country. The British Consul had sent several boats of + provisions down to the frigates—which as soon as ’twas known the + Pilot-boats went after and brought them all back,—they were loaded + upon carts and carried in procession thro’ the streets to the poor + house, attended by a prodigious mob—huzzaing, and the English and + American colors fixed on the carts; they demanded the Commander of the + frigate to be given up as a murderer by the British Consul,—he replied + he had no power over him. It has made a prodigious noise in the City, + as you may imagine. So much for Father;—I shall expect to hear + to-morrow when he got to Providence. Adieu, my dear Mother. + + Ever your affectionate E. S. BOWNE. + + May 18. + + By way of punishment, if it is any, I have denied myself the pleasure + of answering your letter till I thought you would begin really to wish + for a letter. However, I quite want to hear again, and as there is + little hope of that until I answer yours, I’ll e’en set about it at + once. William Weeks told me he saw you in Portland the day before he + left there. I wonder he did not tell you he was coming to New York. + Mr. Isaac McLellan is here too from Portland. You did not write to me + half particulars; you said nothing about Arixene. + + Sunday, May 25, 1806. + + After a week has elapsed I resume my pen to finish my letter. I was + expecting Mr. Isaac McLellan to call and let me know when he should + return, as I intended writing by him, but he has left town without my + knowing it. Now for news, which I suppose you are very anxious to + hear. In the first place—Miss Laurelia Dashaway is married to Mr. + Hawkes. On Saturday morning, 8 o’clock, Trinity Church was opened on + purpose for the occasion; something singular, as it would not be like + Miss Laurelia. But what do you think—Mr. Grellet has taken French + leave of New York—sailed for France about a fortnight ago, without + anybody’s knowing their intention till they were gone. There are many + conjectures upon the occasion not very favorable to the state of their + finances. ’Tis said his friends were very averse to her going with + him. If she had not, I suspect she must have sympathized with Madame + Jerome Buonoparte and many other poor Madames that have founded their + hopes on the fidelity of a Frenchman. Poor Mrs. Ogden has another + little petticoated little John Murray—4 daughters!—I am sorry it was + not a boy. What should you think to see me come home without Mr. + Bowne? I strongly fear he won’t have it in his power to leave the + office more than once in the Season; if so, I would much prefer him to + come for me in the Autumn. However, we have made no arrangements yet. + Walter grows such a playful little rogue, he is always in mischief; I + am just leaving off his caps; I want his hair to grow before his + Grandmamma sees him; he won’t look so pretty without his caps. He + creeps so much I find it impossible to keep him so nice as I used to. + Poor Harriet Beam I think is going rapidly in a decline, she has been + confined to her room 5 or 6 weeks. I have not seen the Wattses this + some time; they are gone to Passaic Falls with a little party,—Maria + Laight, Mr. Delort, Robert Harney, etc. My love to all; write me soon + particularly. I hope soon to be with you. How is Sister Boyd’s infant? + + Yours ever, E. S. BOWNE. + + Miss Miranda Southgate. + + + New York, Nov. 8, 1806. + + My Dear Octavia: + + I am quite anxious to hear good news from you. Miranda has been in + Jamaica this fortnight; she has taken a frock and cap along with her + to work for you; I hope she will have it finished when she returns. + Maria Denning is married, and William Duer has returned to New + Orleans; left her with her friends for the winter. Amelia was married + to Mr. Gillespie in the spring; lives at home yet. + + Miss Pell was married last week to Robert MacComb; they are making a + prodigious dash. I went to pay the bride’s visit on Friday; they had + an elegant ball and supper in the evening, as it was the last day of + seeing Company; 7 brides-maids and 7 Bride-men, most superb dresses; + the bride’s pearls cost 1,500 dollars; they spend the winter in + Charleston. Adieu! Love to all friends, and tell your husband to write + me immediately after this great event. I am looking forward to a happy + summer spent among you. Best love to Isabella and family, Horatio and + family. How is Robert Southgate junr.? That is as it ought to be. + Pappa is pleased I dare say. + + Yours ever, + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + My Dear Mother: + + I find it quite in vain to wait for a letter from Miranda, and she has + left me to chance and uncertainty to know whether she has ever arrived + at Providence, but luckily, from constant enquiries, I have learnt she + did arrive safe, and from some other accidental information, that she + was to leave Boston last Thursday for home, with Judge Thatcher. I + presume by this she is with you. As the Spring opens I begin to look + forward to my Eastern visit. Octavia’s boy is as beautiful as a + cherub, I hear. + + + Saturday, 18th. + + Miranda: + + Mrs. Derby has returned from Philadelphia, and intends leaving here + for Boston on Tuesday. She spent a long sociable day with me yesterday + and I found it quite a treat; I have seen so little of her but in + mix’t parties that it hardly seems like a visit. She is almost worn + out with dissipation, and I greatly fear her constitution has suffered + an injury from this kind of life it will never recover. She has + absolutely refused all invitations since her return, and means to rest + for a few days while she remains here; she takes one of our _belles_ + on to Boston with her,—Miss Fairlie;[91] Miranda knows her. Martha had + a letter from Mrs. Sumner yesterday, where she mentions Miranda + leaving there for home the Sunday before with Mr. and Mrs. Kinsman; I + am really hurt at her unaccountable silence. I promised to tell her + all the news and account of all the parties after she left me, but I + was quite provoked at her not writing. Tell her, however, that there + seems no end to the gaiety this Spring; it does not abate as yet at + all. The day after she left me I paid the bride’s visit to young Mrs. + Murray; there was a prodigious crowd, a hundred and fifty at least, + and many never sat down at all. Madame Moreau[92] wore a long black + velvet dress with Pearl ornaments, looking elegantly. The next day I + dined at Uncle Rufus King’s with company; on Tuesday following, went + to a ball at Mrs. Stevens’;[93] next day, a ball at Miss Murray’s, + very pleasant; they very much regretted her not being here; she was + intended to be one of the Bridesmaids; and the day after the last + Assembly, as you may suppose, was completely tired dancing three + nights in succession. Last Friday I was at a ball at the Watts’s, and + the week before at Miss Lyde’s[94] to a ball, and Mrs. Turnbull’s to a + monstrous tea-party. Yesterday at Mrs. Morris’. On Monday next Aunt + King has a very large party. On Tuesday I go to Mrs. Stoughton’s, on + Thursday to Mrs. Hopkins’, and on Friday dine at Mrs. Bogert’s, and + this evening to Mrs. Henderson’s to a _ball_. I think it will be one + of the most elegant we have had this winter. I wish Miranda was + here,—so much for Miranda. Adieu! I have promised to go shopping with + Mrs. Derby this morning and ’tis growing late. I look forward with + delight to the approaching summer spent amidst all my family. + + Give my affectionate regard to all. + + Ever yours, E. S. BOWNE. + + New York, Dec. 1, 1807. + + You won’t write a line I find without a punctual answer, letter for + letter. Could not you make any allowance for domestic engagements, + etc., etc., and write me at present two for one, or were you afraid of + the precedent; I might claim as a right hereafter what I owed merely + to your indulgence. I have anxiously wished to hear again from little + William Brown, for, notwithstanding your flattering accounts of his + returning health, I felt so fully persuaded he would never recover + that I could not but think he would relapse again. How happy I shall + be to hear that my fears are groundless! If you have not written again + before this reaches you, lose no time but write at once. I do not + write to Octavia till I know whether she is in Boston or Portland. You + must make it a rule, Miranda, to write me once a fortnight whether I + answer or not. Charles King will tell you all the news of the + fashionable world. I have been in no parties yet. The Theatre is quite + the rage. I have been several times,—you have no idea how much it is + improved, entirely altered,—looks light and gay,—a perfect contrast to + its former appearance. Cooper draws crowded houses every night—I have + been much delighted. Mr. Wolsey Rogers’ approaching nuptials seem + anticipated as the opening of the winter campaign; of course the event + is much talked of, not a mantua-maker in the city but will tell you + some particulars of the bride’s wardrobe,—length of her train, etc., + etc.;—a fine lady here, as Mustapha says, is estimated by the length + of her tail. If it was not for using a most homely proverb, I would + say “Every dog has his day.” Here was our friend John Murray and his + bride last winter, making all ring; this winter quietly settled in + Nassau St., just what I call comfortable, (you have not seen this new + play about _comfortable_.) Poor Sterlitz, who has no way to discover + his taste or judgment but by finding fault with everything, seems + quite in a _fuze_ (is there such a word?) that Mr. Murray prefers his + own comfort to dashing in high style. I suppose, Mrs. B. begins to + feel all the palpitations and trepidations of a doating anxious mother + in introducing her favorite daughter to the world. The next winter is + the all-important era for the exhibition. Miss A., in my opinion, will + make a little coquette—the bud seems expanding even now,—that extreme + simplicity, which her mother encouraged by always talking of it before + her, as if she was too young to understand, is now changing for an + affectation of simplicity. I hope she will correct it; time will + convince her that simplicity is only charming in inexperienced youth, + or rather the kind of simplicity which she possesses. There _is_ a + simplicity which gives a softness, a _tone_ (as a painter would say) + to the whole character, but it springs uncontaminated from the + guileless purity of the mind; all affectation of this serves but as a + tattered veil thro’ which you constantly penetrate to the original + deformity—Where have I rambled? Poor Mrs. Greene is dangerously ill, + her friends have little hope of her recovery. On Saturday she was not + expected to live the day,—bled several quarts at the lungs; she is a + favorite with all who know her, a most valuable woman. On + business:—Mamma told me something about getting muslin for Arixene—a + frock to work, but I have forgotten whether she afterwards told me to + get it or not. I can get very pretty for 2 dollars or 2 1–2; let me + know. Tell Octavia I received the little hat which Mr. Browne bo’t for + me in Boston, and shall send the little _tub_ and the rest of the + money, as soon as I know she is in Boston. Fashions:—Ladies wear + fawn-colored coats and bonnets of the same trimmed with velvet + trimming, same color with lappets, cape and inner waistcoat. If I + could find an opportunity I should send you a bonnet and Mamma a cap. + Adieu,—tell Arixene to write to me. James King writes to Charles King + he liked Arixene best of all the Cousins. + + To Miss Miranda Southgate. + + + New York, Dec. 13, 1807. + + I have been waiting some time to hear you were in Boston, but as I + have not heard from any of the family for some weeks I shall write you + and direct to Portland. I am rejoiced to hear that little William + continues to recover fast, for Mrs. Derby writes me still later than + Miranda that he is almost recovered. How happy you must feel! None but + those who have suffered the anxiety can conceive the happiness of such + a change. I don’t hear half often enough from you. Miranda writes but + seldom. Charles King told me last evening, in his last letter from her + she says she is going to spend part of the winter in Boston with + you,—from that I conclude you intend going to housekeeping before + Spring. I have been making a plan for you to make me a visit next + Spring. I think there can be no objection to it; your husband can make + arrangements to leave Boston for a month or a few weeks, I am sure. + The accommodations in the stage to Providence are so good, you can go + in half a day—take passage in a Packet and be in New York in three + days with ease. You can either bring William with you, which I should + wish you to, or leave him if you prefer it. Indeed I can see no + objection to the plan. Your friends in New York have made particular + enquiries respecting you. Mary Murray says you have quite given her + up, that she has not received a line from you for some time—I don’t + remember how long. I believe I told you Mrs. Ogden had lost her + youngest child, about 5 months old. Harriet Beam, whom I believe you + knew, died last week,—melancholy, so young. Mrs. Derby writes me her + Father is still far from strong and firm, tho’ much better; very + probable his constitution will never entirely recover this shock. I am + much obliged to Mr. Browne for purchasing the little hat for Walter. + It was not the kind I meant, however,—those here are worn only by + girls, square crowns altogether for boys. Give my best love to Horatio + and Nabby, Isabella and husband, Arixene—I want to send her a pattern + to work a frock in; I have a very pretty one, with but little work on. + Adieu; write me very particularly about William. + + E. S. BOWNE. + + To Mrs. Wm. Browne (Octavia Southgate). + + + New York, Jan. 13, 1808. + + I have been in daily expectation of hearing farther from you, my dear + Miranda. I received a letter from Octavia by the same mail that + brought me yours, informing me of the melancholy change in their + prospects, which I answered immediately and used every argument I + thought could console her at such a time. Her firmness and resolution + in relating the particulars, her reasoning on the subject, displayed + the real superiority of her mind. She has had severe trials; the + danger of her child, and now this stroke; I tremble when I think with + how much less firmness I should probably have acted in the same + trials. I am extremely anxious to hear all the particulars of their + failure, how Mr. Browne bears it, where they will spend their winter. + I wish with all my heart Octavia and her child would come and stay + with me until Mr. Browne could arrange his affairs a little. But I + suppose ’twould be in vain to urge her to leave her husband at this + time. You mention that you were in hopes Papa would secure Octavia’s + furniture for her. I wish you would write me particularly if he did. + Octavia writes me he attached all the personal property he knew of at + the time. Pappa too I fear will be quite a sufferer by their failure. + I hear Webster is gone,—he, I think, had money of my Father’s. Mr. + Bowne has always thought he played rather a hazardous game in letting + out money in that way. I hope he is not materially injured,—he will, + at any rate, have the consolation to know that the education of his + children is principally accomplished; he will always have enough to + live with comfort and ease, and as to leaving a great deal, I think + ’tis very immaterial. I am glad to find his stock here has produced a + very good dividend this month. I hope this won’t depress his spirits + any,—old people feel the loss of property much more than younger ones. + However, Papa’s is nothing to mention at these times, as he is not in + debt, has a good farm, and will always have all the comforts of life; + indeed, I think ’twill have a good effect. He has always been + determined on leaving such a sum untouched, and from that darling + object has deprived himself of the comfort of a comfortable house for + many years past. Accident has interfered with the fulfilment of his + plan; he will now enjoy what he has left without thinking of leaving + just so much; his children are, or soon will be grown up, and he ought + to have no other care but to enjoy what he has dearly earned, now in + his old age. I am sure all his children most heartily wish it, if he + should not leave a farthing for them. Old Mr. Codwise has failed, a + dreadful thing for so old a man. Mr. Macomb [Ann and Robert’s father] + is gone too; all the Franklins too, and a great many others I do not + now recollect. Adieu; write me immediately and tell me every + particular. My love to Arixene; is she at Miss Martin’s, for I have + never heard? + + E. S. BOWNE. + + Miss Miranda Southgate. + + + Boston, December 21, 1808. + + My best Friends: + + In consequence of a letter from Mr. Bowne, received this day, I have + to inform you that instead of proceeding to Scarborough, my next + journey is to New York. He writes me that by the advice of Mr. King + they have concluded it will be best for Eliza to go to Charleston, + South Carolina, in order to avoid the severity of our winter; that he + is under the necessity of remaining in New York till February himself, + and that he wishes me to return and go on with Eliza and Octavia as + soon as I can. As I have nothing of consequence to prevent me, I shall + leave this in a day or two for New York, and shall be fully satisfied + if I can render them the least service by my attentions. With + sentiments of the highest esteem and regard, + + I am your obedient servant W. BROWNE. + + To Mr. and Mrs. Southgate. + + + New York, Dec. 27, 1808. + + You are anxious, my Dear Mother, to hear from my own hand how I am. + Octavia has told you all my complaints: my cough is extremely + obstinate, I have occasionally a little fever, tho’ quite irregular + and sometimes a week without any. I have a new Physician to attend me; + he is a Frenchman of great celebrity, particularly in Pulmonary + complaints, and has been wonderfully successful in the cure of coughs; + he keeps me on a milk diet, but allows me to eat eggs and oysters. He + does not give any opiates; Paregoric and Laudanum he entirely + disapproves of; he gives no medicine but a decoction of Roots and + Flowers;—the _Iceland Moss_ or _Lichen_ made in a tea he gives a great + deal of, and for cough I take a white Pectoral lotion he calls it, + made principally of White Almonds, Gum Arabic, Gum Tragacanth (or + something like it), the Syrup of Muskmelon seeds. He thinks I am much + better already. I have no pain at all, and have not had any. My cough + seems to be all my disorder. He thinks he can cure that; indeed he + speaks with perfect confidence, and says he has no doubt as soon as I + get to warmer weather, my cough will soon leave me. Mr. Browne got + here last night, and we shall probably sail by Sunday at farthest. + Octavia will write particularly. You will hear from me, my Dear + Mother, often,—at present my mind seems so occupied; leaving my + children, preparing to go, and making arrangements to shut up my + house. ’Tis quite a trial to leave my little ones; I leave them at + their Grandmother’s. My little Mary[95] has a wet-nurse; she is a + fine, lively child, and thrives fast. Adieu, my Dear Mother; I did not + think I could have written half as much; love to all my friends. + + ELIZA S. BOWNE. + + + Charleston, South Carolina, Jan. 1, 1809. + + Our most esteemed Friends: + + We have now been in the City a week. We find that Eliza has gained a + little strength since she arrived, and that her cough is not quite so + distressing as before we left New York. She complains of no pain, but + her fever and night sweats continue to trouble her every other day and + night, as was the case before. She can walk about her room with ease; + and she rides when the weather is fine, which she is much pleased + with, and no doubt it is of great service to her. The streets are + entirely of sand, as smooth as possible, no pavements, not a stone to + be seen, which renders it very easy riding for her. It is as warm as + our first of May, (if not the middle,) and when the weather is fair, + the air is clear, very mild and refreshing. The change is so great + between this and New York that I cannot help thinking it must have a + great and good effect on Eliza. I find as to myself that my cough is + done away entirely, and I had a little of it most all the time at home + in winter. Octavia has certainly grown fat, and our little Frederic is + very well indeed. Eliza eats hominy, rice and milk, eggs and oysters + cooked in various ways, vegetables too, which we find in great + perfection here; fruit is plenty of almost every description. The + oranges raised here are not sweet but are very large. Their olives, + grapes, and figs are excellent. Their meats and fish are not so good + as ours. Their Poultry is fine; a great plenty of Venison, wild ducks, + and small sea-fowl; green peas we shall have in about a month; so + that, beside the change of climate, we have many of the luxuries of a + Northern summer. Uncle King gave us letters to Gen. C. C. Pinckney and + his brother Major Thomas Pinckney,—both of them being out of town at + their plantation; their sister, Mrs. Hovey, received the letters and + has been very attentive and kind to us all. She is a widow, about 55 I + should judge, of the first respectability, and appears a very + pleasant, amiable and cheerful old lady. She sends some nice things to + Eliza almost every day. Her daughters, Mrs. Rutledge, two Miss + Pinckneys (daughters of the General), Mrs. Gilchrist and daughter, Mr. + and Mrs. Mannigault, Mrs. Middleton, Mr. and Mrs. Izard,[96] Mr. and + Mrs. Dessault and Mr. Heyward make an extensive acquaintance for us. + They all seem very kind and hospitable to us, plain and open in their + manners, and yet the most genteel and easy. Eliza has seen only Mrs. + Hovey, Mrs. Rutledge, and the two Miss Pinckneys, but she thinks in a + few days to be able to receive short visits from a few of her friends, + and even thinks it may be of consequence to enliven her. She rides + whenever the weather is fine, and is very much pleased with the + appearance of everything growing in the gardens here so like our June. + We have had one visit from a Physician only; he thinks taking a little + blood from her would be of service, but she has not yet consented. He + approved of her diet and of the Iceland Moss tea which was recommended + at New York, and which is said here to have had a great effect in + removing complaints of the cough. Mrs. Mannigault told us yesterday + she found immediate relief from it after she had been sick a long + time. We expect Mr. Bowne in the course of a fortnight, and then I + expect to return toward Scarborough immediately. We hope to hear from + you in a few days; not a word have we yet from New York since we + arrived. Our darling boy we think we see every day playing about us, + without thinking who admires him at the distance of 1100 miles. + + Our best wishes attend you always. + + Affectionately, W. BROWNE. + + To Mr. and Mrs. Southgate. + + + Charleston, Jan. 28, 1809. + + Dear Caroline, I send by Capt. Crowel a little pair of shoes for Mary, + a little Cuckoo toy for Walter, and a tumbler of Orange Marmalade for + Mother. I have had only one letter from New York since I have been + here, and that from Mary Perkins, not one line from my husband. I can + tell you nothing flattering of my health: I am very miserable; at + present I have a kind of intermittent Fever; this afternoon I shall + take an emetic, and hope a good effect. How are my dear little ones?—I + hope not too troublesome. Octavia is in fine health and grows quite + fat for her. Frederic has been unusually troublesome. My dear little + Walter!—I hardly trust myself to think of them,—precious children—how + they bind me to life! Adieu. I have a bad headache and low-spirited + to-day. + + ELIZA. + + Caroline Bowne (with 2 small parcels), + No. 288 Pearl Street, + Blazing Star. New York. + + This appears to be the last letter written by Mrs. Bowne. (M. K. L.) + + + From Mrs. William Browne to Mrs. King. + + Charleston, February 2, 1809. + + I have been waiting day after day, my Dear Aunt, in the hope of having + something pleasant to communicate to you, but I do very much fear I + shall now have nothing, if ever, to say about our Dear Eliza but will + give you pain. I sat down to write to you without knowing what to say. + I have been so in the habit of dissembling lately that I can hardly + throw it off, for when I write my Father and Mother everything is so + glossed over, ’tis impossible to come at the truth. You know not how I + am affected, my Dear Aunt. I fear I am doing wrong in deceiving them, + for it is my firm opinion she never will be well. Do advise me, tell + me what I ought to do. I think to you I may say the truth—I think she + has been growing sicker every hour since she left New York. Her voyage + had a singular effect upon her: she suffered but little from + seasickness, but every bad symptom she had before seemed increased; + she coughed a great deal and very hard, her fever and night sweats + were excessive. You may imagine she was much weakened; but I hoped + this was a temporary thing, and a few days of quiet and of rest would + restore her; but instead of that, directly after our arrival a sort of + intermittent fever took place, she had a regular chill and fever every + day, she lost her strength very much, no appetite at all. This last + four or five days her disorder wears another appearance. ’Tis now + Thursday. On Sunday Dr. Irvine ordered her to take Quashy in order to + prevent a chill; she took it according to his direction—it brought on + her fever at 1 o’clock in the morning, and it never left her till 12 + o’clock at night, it absolutely raged all day. Since then she has had + no night sweats, no chill, but her cough and fever very much + increased. Her nerves are extremely disordered; such a tremor that + to-day she cannot feed herself at all. She is so weak and exhausted + that she cannot walk alone. ’Tis now 11 o’clock—I am sitting by her + side, and she is still coughing and in such a hot fever she can bear + nothing to touch her. I have not asked her Physician’s opinion + concerning her; ’tis unnecessary I feel, I know what it must be. Yet + is it not strange she keeps up her spirits? She is looking forward + with the greatest anxiety to warm weather. God grant it may not be too + late! Dr. Irvine was the Physician Mrs. Hovey recommended; he is + indisposed and has left his patients in the care of Dr. Barrow. The + exchange has pleased us very much, for Dr. Barrow is considered quite + as skilful, and is extremely kind and fatherly in his manners, indeed + he reminds us so strongly of our Dear Father that we already love him + very much. + + February 3. + + Poor Eliza had a most distressing night last night. She coughed so + long that she was entirely exhausted; her fever was very high, and she + has scarcely spoken a loud word to-day. Her nerves are in a dreadful + state. I inquired of Dr. Barrow what he thought of her situation; he + says he can say nothing encouraging. He said the disorder had taken + great hold upon her, and had shattered her nerves in a terrible + manner. He very much fears a nervous fever,—that her pulse was very + bad, as nearly as he could count up to 150. Is it not very evident + from his being so candid, my Dear Aunt, that he has but little or no + hope of her recovery? And yet so strongly do I sympathize in every + feeling of hers, that seeing her easier and more comfortable this + evening has renewed my hopes and put me quite in spirits. She has been + much better this afternoon and evening, less fever, less tremor upon + her nerves, and since she has been in bed has had no bad coughing + spell. The mail went to the Northward to-day. I have so little time to + write that I have missed it. I will let you know to-morrow how she is, + and the next day is post-day again. I know what a kind interest you + and my uncle take in our dear Eliza, and I know I cannot be too + minute. Our friends here are kinder than I can express to you. It + seems sometimes as though we were among our own relations. They think + of every little thing for Eliza’s comfort and convenience that I could + myself. + + Monday, February 6. + + This morning Eliza was better, my Dear Aunt, than she has been for a + week past. Her voice has returned and she appears stronger in every + respect. Yesterday and last night she had a little fever, this morning + is delightful and she is going to ride. You shall hear again from us + before long. I know Mrs. Bogert will need no apology, I am sure, for + my not writing. The repetition of such symptoms are distressing to me + beyond expression. + + Your affectionate niece O. S. BROWNE. + + + To Mrs. Bowne. + + New York, Feb’y 4, 1809. + + Your letter, my love, of the 13th and 14th has comforted me. You must + keep up your spirits; you will do well, Dr. Bergere says; attacks + similar to yours are not of the dangerous kind that some think; he + approves of your taking the Lychen again. I have sent a bundle from + Mr. King by Capt. Slocum, who sails to-morrow. I am distressed I + cannot go with him, but so it is. It is next to impossible I should + leave here till about the 25th of this month. Mr. Jenkins, my + assistant, is absent, and I cannot leave the office until he returns + without relinquishing it altogether, and I have most of my houses to + let this month, those I have lately built included, and which are not + finished, but I am determined to leave here in all this month. I hope + you have a comfortable place now; what abominable lodgings the first + were! Don’t mind the expense: get everything and do everything you + like, we can afford it. I wish my presence in this place could as well + be dispensed with, but so it is. I think it right you should have a + Physician. I will bring the things you mention; our children are well. + + Ever, WALTER BOWNE. + + The Ship—General Eaton—has not yet arrived, I will write to Mr. Brown + by this vessel if I have time; if not, by mail on Monday or Tuesday. + + (With a bundle of Lychen for E. S. B.) + + + The following letter from Mr. Rufus King to his nephew Horatio + Southgate, will show how much alarm was felt about Mrs. Bowne’s + health. + + New York, February 9, 1809. + + Dear Sir: + + I have to beg your excuse that I have so long delayed my answer to + your letter written I believe in November. The Plants were a long time + on their way, and did not arrive till Christmas, when we had a few + days of mild weather, which enabled us to put them in the ground. Mr. + Mars is entitled to credit for the manner and care with which the + Plants were packed, and altho’ they were much longer out of the ground + than they sh^d have been, I am in hopes that many of them were saved. + Inclosed I send you a Post-note (payable to your order) on the Boston + Branch Bank for 47 dollars, being the amount of Mars’s account, and I + beg you to accept my acknowledgments for the trouble you have given + yourself in this Business. Should there be an opportunity direct from + Portland to N. York in the Spring, any time in Ap^l or May would do + (for that is the true season, even on to the middle of June, to remove + evergreens), I wish Mars to send me a few more spruces, one moderate + sized Box, together with some of the small Evergreen shrubs found in + the woods and pastures, and which I remember abounded in the Pasture + of Knight’s Farm, and which we called laurel, or sheep poison. Any + other small plants may be added to fill up the Box. + + We yesterday heard from Mrs. Bowne, who had recovered from the fatigue + of her voyage, and thought herself something better. I am in hopes + that the soft weather of an early spring will do more for her than + medicine could have effected in the rude weather of our winter and + spring. I ought not to conceal from you, tho’ I think you sh^d not + unnecessarily increase the anxiety of your mother, that I am not free + from apprehensions regarding your Sister’s complaint; it is so + flattering and insidious, that I do not place the same Reliance upon + favorable Reports w^h in any other case I sh^d be inclined to do. I by + no means think that she has no chance of recovery. On the contrary, I + have the satisfaction to believe and expect that she will regain her + accustomed good health. Mrs. Browne’s being with her is a very + important circumstance in a case in which good nursing and careful + attention is of so much consequence. + + With sincere Regards, I remain, D^r Sir, + + Y^r obliged serv’t, RUFUS KING. + + Horatio Southgate, Esqr., Portland, Maine. + + + Charleston, February 21, 1809. + + I will permit no one but myself to transmit to you the dreadful + intelligence this letter will convey to you, my dear Parents. A good + and merciful God will not forsake you at this awful moment. Our dear + Eliza is freed from her earthly sufferings and I humbly trust is now a + blessed spirit in Heaven! I offer you no consolation; I commit you + into the hands of a Good God, who has supported me when my strength + failed me. She had her senses at intervals for the few days last of + her illness. She spoke of her approaching change with great composure, + said she had thought much of it, that she trusted in God for future + happiness with great satisfaction and confidence; wished her time + might come speedily that she might be relieved from the pain of seeing + her distressed friends. She suffered with wonderful patience; never + murmured. At the very last she looked the satisfaction she had not the + power to speak. At 2 o’clock yesterday afternoon was this most + afflicting scene. Octavia had great fortitude to sit by her when she + could speak only with her eyes. She knew us, and listened with + apparent satisfaction to a prayer I read only an hour before the sad + moment. It was a day of trial with us most severe. + + With much affection and regard to all, + W. BROWNE. + + Poor Mr. Bowne has not arrived. + + To Mr. & Mrs. Southgate. + + + Charleston, March 12, 1809. + + I hope, my dear Miranda, this will be the last letter you will receive + from me at Charleston. Poor Mr. Bowne arrived here on Thursday. Not a + word had he heard, and owing to his having left New York he had not + received a single very alarming letter. He was entirely unprepared for + the shock which awaited him; never did I pity any one so. He is indeed + borne down with the weight of his grief. But the violence I dreaded I + see nothing of. There is no judging from the effect little troubles + have upon people, how they will bear great ones. I know it by myself—I + see it in him. He is more composed to-day, and we are making + arrangements to get away. He is much gratified that we waited here for + him, which we had some doubt about on account of the great expense in + these houses. The Minerva, a very fine Packet, arrived from New York + yesterday. We shall return in her. She will go in the course of a week + or ten days. What a melancholy voyage! But yet I will not think so. I + am going to my dear father and mother, my kind sisters,—indeed, ’tis a + delightful thought. + + Your sister, + O. BROWNE. + + Among the letters which were so carefully preserved by her daughter, + Mrs. Lawrence, was found the following extract from a daily paper:— + + Died at Charleston, S. C., on the 19th ult., Mrs. Walter Bowne, + consort of Walter Bowne, Esq., of New York, and daughter of the Hon. + Robert Southgate, of Scarborough, Maine, aged 25 years. The Bereaved + Husband and infant children, the afflicted parents, Brethren and + sisters, and the numerous respectable friends and acquaintances by + whom she was so justly respected and beloved for her talents and + virtues, will deeply mourn this early signal triumph of the King of + Terrors. But they will not “sorrow as those without hope.” Her + immortal spirit, liberated from the body, is, we trust, already + admitted to a clear and perfect, an immediate and positive, a + soul-transforming and eternal vision of God and the Redeemer. Why + the most endearing ties of nature should be dissolved almost as soon + as formed, why the dreadful law of mortality should be executed on + the most worthy and dearest objects of conjugal, parental, and + social love, in the moment of sanguine expectation of reciprocal + enjoyment, is among the dark and mysterious questions in the book of + Providence. The ways of God are inscrutable to man, “clouds and + darkness are round about him, yet righteousness and judgment are the + habitation of his throne.” All afflictive events are readily + resolved into the wisdom of God. To his sovereign will, reason and + religion, duty and interest require us to bow with reverence. What a + dark and gloomy veil is spread by the early death of our friends + over our earthly enjoyments! How tenderly are we hereby admonished + not to expect satisfaction in this empty, fluctuating, and + transitory state! How strongly urged to place our affections on + things above, to secure an immediate interest in those sublime and + durable pleasures which flow from the service and favor of God and + the prospect of complete and endless felicity in His presence. + + + Inscription on the monument in Archdale Churchyard, in Archdale + Street, Charleston, S. C.:— + + SACRED + + TO THE MEMORY OF + + ELIZA S. BOWNE + + Wife of Walter Bowne of New York, + Daughter of Robert Southgate Esqr., + of Scarborough, District of Maine, + who departed this life on the 19th + day of February, 1809, aged 25 years. + +----- + +Footnote 1: + + Mrs. Rowson’s story is well known. She was an Englishwoman, Susanna + Haswell, the daughter of an officer in the navy, and was brought to + America by her father in 1767, when she was only five years old. + Their ship was wrecked on Lovell’s Island, in Boston Harbor, and + they lived at Nantasket for nearly ten years, when they went back to + England. There she married William Rowson, a musician, and went upon + the stage. In 1795–96 we find her acting in Baltimore and Boston. + She published several comedies and a number of novels; one of these, + “Charlotte Temple,” gained great popularity. She died at Boston in + 1824. She taught school in several places—at Medford, at Newton, and + at Boston, and was very successful. + +Footnote 2: + + Joseph Coffin Boyd, of Portland, Maine. Married Isabella, oldest + daughter of Dr. Southgate. + +Footnote 3: + + Horatio Southgate, Dr. Southgate’s oldest son, followed the + profession of the law in the town of Portland, Maine, and was for + twenty-one years Register of Probate for Cumberland County, Maine. + Mr. Southgate married three times. His first wife was a friend of + his sisters and was Abigail McLellan, the daughter of Hugh McLellan, + a well-known East Indian merchant. Mary Webster was Mr. Southgate’s + second wife; she was the daughter of Noah Webster, whose name is + well known in connection with the dictionary that he wrote. Mr. + Southgate’s third wife was Eliza Neal of Portland. By his three + wives Mr. Southgate had a large family of children, among them being + the Rt. Rev’d Horatio Southgate and the Rev’d William Scott + Southgate. + +Footnote 4: + + Isabella Southgate had married to Joseph Coffin Boyd. She was Dr. + Southgate’s oldest child. + +Footnote 5: + + Mary Black, the second wife of Richard King, Mrs. Southgate’s + stepmother. She had married Mr. King soon after the death of his + first wife, who was her cousin, and had been a kind and devoted + mother to his three children. + +Footnote 6: + + Octavia Southgate, Dr. Southgate’s third daughter. She married, in + 1805, William Browne. + +Footnote 7: + + Sarah Leland was the daughter of Mrs. Southgate’s half-sister Dorcas + King, Mrs. Joseph Leland. + +Footnote 8: + + Arixene and Robert Southgate, Eliza’s younger sister and brother. + Arixene married Henry Smith, of Sacarappa, Maine. + +Footnote 9: + + William King, the son of Richard King by his second wife Mary Black, + was a large land-owner near the town of Bath. Mr. King was elected + the first Governor when the District of Maine was changed into a + State with a government of its own. + +Footnote 10: + + Eleanor Coffin, afterwards Mrs. John Derby, was the daughter of Dr. + Coffin, a neighbor of Dr. Southgate’s. Martha Coffin, another + daughter, had lately married Mr. Richard Derby. The Mrs. Codman + mentioned in the previous letter was a sister of Dr. Coffin’s. + +Footnote 11: + + Peony (vulgarly called Piny). Note by M. B. L. + +Footnote 12: + + Ann, daughter of Cyrus King (Mrs. Southgate’s half-brother) and his + wife Hannah Stone. She was named after her aunt, Mrs. William King, + Ann Frazier. She afterwards married Mr. Bridge. + +Footnote 13: + + Mr. Jewett married Sally Weeks, a friend and neighbor of the Misses + Southgate. He was a grandson of Aaron Jewett, who built the first + sawmill on Algers Falls, Dunstan, in 1727, and carried on what was + then considered an extensive lumber business. + +Footnote 14: + + Moses Porter was Eliza’s cousin. He was the oldest son of Mrs. Aaron + Porter (Paulina King). + +Footnote 15: + + Miranda and Arixene Southgate were at this time aged respectively + twelve and eight years. Their cousin Sally Leland was about the same + age. Frederic Southgate, born in 1791, became a tutor in Bowdoin + College, and died unmarried in 1820. + +Footnote 16: + + _Isabella Boyd_, second child of Isabella Southgate and Joseph + Coffin Boyd. She died of consumption, the fatal disease which + carried off so many of her aunts, sisters, and cousins. + +Footnote 17: + + _Rufus King_, oldest son of Richard King and Isabella Bragdon, and + brother of Mrs. Southgate. He was born in 1755 and married Mary + Alsop. He was delegated by the State of Massachusetts to the + Convention for framing the Constitution of the United States, was a + member of Congress from Massachusetts, Senator of the United States + from New York, and at this time Minister to the Court of St. James. + +Footnote 18: + + _Mary Alsop_ was born in 1786. She was the daughter of John Alsop + and Mary Frogat. + +Footnote 19: + + Mr. and Mrs. Southgate’s “profiles” hung in Mr. King’s house at + Jamaica until about 1875, when they were given by his granddaughter + to Mrs. Southgate’s grandson, Mr. Lawrence, of Flushing, L. I. + +Footnote 20: + + _Broads_, a tavern near Portland, to which gay parties of young + people went on frolics. + +Footnote 21: + + The manuscript which was under the seal was so torn as to make this + sentence illegible. + +Footnote 22: + + _Paulina Porter_, daughter of Dr. Aaron Porter of Portland. She + married, first Enoch Jones, and then Edward Beecher. Her sister + Harriet married Lyman Beecher. + +Footnote 23: + + _Miss Rice’s_ father was Joseph Rice; he raised a company of fifty + men and, after the receipt of the news of the skirmish at Lexington, + set out as soon as possible for Cambridge and joined Colonel + Phinney’s regiment. It was the first regiment that marched into + Boston after its evacuation by the British on the 17th of March, + 1776. In a letter from Rufus King to Dr. Southgate, dated August 6, + 1776, he says: “Phinney’s regiment is ordered from Boston to + Ticonderoga. I guess the pious Elder would as lieve tarry where he + is, but he was formerly fond of action—hope now he will be + satisfied.... Gen. Gates will doubtless make a stand at + Ticonderoga.” + +Footnote 24: + + Phippsburg. + +Footnote 25: + + This letter was never finished. + +Footnote 26: + + Mary King Porter (at this time twenty years of age) married Nathan + Coffin. + +Footnote 27: + + E. Hasket Derby, Jr., was born in Salem in 1766, and died in + Londonderry, H. N., in 1826. Mr. Derby married, in 1797, Miss Lucy + Brown. He was the son of E. Hasket Derby, who married Elizabeth + Crowninshield, a leading merchant of Salem, and founder of the East + India trade; known in the annals of Salem as “King Derby.” Mr. + Derby, the father, had four sons, who married and had families. They + were E. Hasket, Jr., just mentioned; John, who married Miss Barton + and secondly Miss Eleanor Coffin; E. Hersey, who married Miss Hannah + Brown Fitch; and Richard C., who married Miss Martha Coffin. The + father of E. Hasket Derby, Sen., was Richard Derby, merchant, a + delegate to the Provincial Congress in 1774–5. + +Footnote 28: + + The Rumford kitchen or Roaster was invented by Benjamin Thompson + (Count Rumford), a native of Salem. Mr. Thompson, after passing + through various phases of existence, went to Bavaria, where by his + powers of pleasing and wonderful inventive faculties he attracted + the attention of the king, and by him was created Count Rumford. One + of Count Rumford’s particular studies was the laws which govern heat + and cold, and to him we are indebted for great improvement in our + chimneys, fireplaces, and kitchen ranges. Before his time all + cooking was done over an open wood fire. In the “Life of Count + Rumford,” by Ellis, page 240, we find the following: “The Roaster, + if not the first, was the most simple, ingenious, and effective + apparatus of the kind which, by its arrangement of flues for + conveying hot air around the food in the oven as well as by + economizing fuel, allowed of the preparation of many articles by one + fire, and greatly facilitated the labors and added to the comfort of + the cook. They were especially popular in Salem, where many of the + flourishing citizens had occasion to recall over their dinners the + ‘apprentice boy in Mr. Appleton’s shop.’” + +Footnote 29: + + Mme. Milliken, probably the daughter of John Ayer. She was the wife + of John Milliken of Boston. + +Footnote 30: + + Dr. Southgate’s family resided at Leicester. + +Footnote 31: + + Woburn. + +Footnote 32: + + Billerica. + +Footnote 33: + + Dracut. + +Footnote 34: + + _Francestown_, named so after Gov. Wentworth’s wife. + +Footnote 35: + + Lady Nesbert, wife of Sir John Nesbert, celebrated for a race ridden + against John Randolph in 1719. + +Footnote 36: + + Joseph Allston, of South Carolina, had married, February 2, 1801, + Theodosia Burr, only daughter of Aaron Burr. + +Footnote 37: + + This was Mr. William Constable, who married, February 26, 1810, Miss + Mary Elizabeth McVickar, daughter of John McVickar, Esq. + +Footnote 38: + + The Patroon Stephen Van Rensselaer had lately married his second + wife, Cornelia Patterson. Miss Southgate spelt the name as it was + then usually pronounced. + +Footnote 39: + + Rensselaer Westerlo and his sister Catherine Westerlo, who + afterwards married Mr. Woodworth. Their mother was Catherine + Livingston, oldest daughter of Philip, commonly known as the + “Signer,” he having been one of the signers of the Declaration of + Independence. Miss Livingston had first married Stephen Van + Rensselaer, Patroon of the Manor, and by him had had three children: + Stephen, who succeeded his father; Philip, mayor of the city of + Albany; and a daughter. Mrs. Van Rensselaer remarried Dominie + Westerlo. + +Footnote 40: + + Walsh (?). + +Footnote 41: + + Oliver Kane, a merchant of New York. He married, at Providence, + Rhode Island, May 22, 1803, Miss Ann Eliza Clarke, daughter of John + Innes Clarke. + +Footnote 42: + + James G. King. + +Footnote 43: + + General Henry Knox was a general in the American army during the + Revolution. He entered it at the beginning of the war as a captain + of the Boston Grenadiers. He was the first Secretary of War of the + United States. He married the daughter of Secretary Flucker. General + and Mrs. Knox grew to be enormously stout and were perhaps the + largest couple in the city of New York at the time when Washington + was inaugurated as first President of the United States. General + Knox’s home was at Thomaston, Maine. + +Footnote 44: + + General Pinckney of South Carolina had served in the American army. + He had two daughters, one of whom married Col. Francis K. Huger. + +Footnote 45: + + Hodgkinson made his first appearance in New York as _Vapid_. He was + born in Manchester, England, 1767; his father was an innkeeper named + Meadowcraft. Young Meadowcraft ran away from home, took the name of + Hodgkinson, and joined the stage. His wife, to whom he was married + on his arrival in America, by Bishop Moore, was Miss Brett of the + Bath Theatre. She died in New York of consumption, September, 1803. + Mr. and Mrs. Hodgkinson received $100 a week for their services, + which was the highest amount yet paid to any two performers in + America. + +Footnote 46: + + This Joseph Jefferson was the grandfather of the present Joseph + Jefferson. + +Footnote 47: + + Mr. and Mrs. William Codman. Mrs. Codman was a Miss Coffin. William + Codman had at that time an insurance office at No. 28 South Street, + New York. + +Footnote 48: + + Mrs. Henderson and Miss Denning were daughters of William Denning, a + well-known New York merchant. + +Footnote 49: + + _Columbia Gardens_ were on the corner of Broadway and Prince Street. + +Footnote 50: + + _Mt. Vernon_ Gardens, afterwards called Contois’s Gardens, were on + the northwest corner of Broadway and Leonard Street. + +Footnote 51: + + Mrs. Delafield was a Miss Hallett. She married, December 11th, 1784, + Mr. John Delafield, an Englishman, who had arrived in New York in + 1783. They had twelve children. Among them were Major Joseph + Delafield, who married Miss Livingston; Mr. Rufus Delafield married + Miss Bard; Dr. Edward Delafield married Miss Floyd; Henry Delafield + married Miss Munson. + +Footnote 52: + + _Malbone_, a celebrated miniature painter. He was born at Newport, + Rhode Island, and when very young showed great taste for painting. + He travelled about the then known portions of the United States, + painting portraits of people in Charleston, Boston, Philadelphia, + New York, etc., many of which are now in existence. His price for + painting a head was $50. He died of consumption in Savannah, May 7, + 1807, in the thirty-second year of his age. + +Footnote 53: + + Lucia, Zilpah, and John were the children of Genl. Peleg Wadsworth. + Zilpah afterwards married Stephen Longfellow, and was the mother of + Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. Genl. Wadsworth lived at Hiram, on the + Saco River. + +Footnote 54: + + Dr. William Moore was a celebrated physician of New York. He married + Miss Sarah Fish and had by her a numerous family. Among them being + Nathaniel Moore, President of Columbia College, and Dr. Samuel + Moore, also a favorite physician. + +Footnote 55: + + He was returning from his mission in London, where he had been + Minister to the Court of St. James from the United States. + +Footnote 56: + + Nicholas Low, a merchant in New York. Among his descendants are Mrs. + Eugene Schuyler and the wife of M. Waddington, at present ambassador + to the Court of St. James from France. + +Footnote 57: + + Mr. Watson was at this time a widower with one son, James Watson. + This son became a great beau in New York society, but died unmarried + and insane. + +Footnote 58: + + William Henderson, who had married Sarah Denning. + +Footnote 59: + + George III of England. + +Footnote 60: + + Bethlehem. This is a place originally settled by a religious sect + called Moravians. They were famous for their schools,—one for boys + kept by the Brothers, and a girls’ school kept by the Sisters. Young + ladies were sent to Bethlehem from New York, Philadelphia, and + distant parts of the country, to receive their education at this + place. In a letter from John Adams to his daughter, dated Monday, + Feb. 10th, 1823, he speaks of it: “I have seen a remarkable + institution for the education of young ladies at Bethlehem. About + 120 of them live under the same roof. They sleep all together in the + same garret. I saw 120 beds in two long rows in the same room. The + beds and bedclothes were all of excellent quality and extraordinary + neat. How should you like to live in such a nunnery?” + +Footnote 61: + + The yellow fever having broken out in New York, the city was + deserted by all who could leave it. Even the business was transacted + in the neighboring village of Greenwich, which is now incorporated + in the city itself and its boundaries lost in the surrounding + streets. The following advertisements have been copied from the + “Evening Post,” Thursday, Aug. 25, 1803, as being of interest, as + the advertisers were not only well-known New Yorkers, but personal + friends of Mrs. Bowne:— + + + Woolsey & Rogers’ Counting House is removed to No. 28 Courtlandt + Street. + + + REMOVAL. William Codman has removed his Counting House to the N. E. + corner room in the 2nd Story of the City Hotel, Broadway. + + + John G. Bogart, Attorney at law & Notary Public, has Removed his + office to the House of Judge Livingston, No. 37 Broadway, near the + Custom House. + + + John Murray & Sons have removed their Counting House to Mr. Murray’s + country seat on the Harlem Road, 3 1–2 miles from town. + + [This was at Murray Hill, about the corner of 37th Street and Fifth + Avenue.] + + + The Editor being obliged to be absent from town a few days, the + discussions respecting _yellow fever_ will, of course, be suspended + for a little time. + + +Footnote 62: + + Mr. Boyd, Mrs. Bowne’s brother-in-law, had been in England for some + months and was now expected to return to his home. + +Footnote 63: + + Mrs. Boyd, Isabella Southgate. + +Footnote 64: + + Beau Dawson, Mr. J. Dawson of Virginia. He had been sent out by + President Jefferson in April, 1801, as bearer of the Treaty or + Convention between France and the United States as ratified by the + latter. The ship in which he sailed was wrecked and the Treaty lost, + although the envoy was saved. Another treaty was drawn up and + dispatched as soon as possible, but there was great annoyance at the + delay. + +Footnote 65: + + Highlands. The hills about West Point on the Hudson are so called. + The road from Peekskill to Garrison’s over the hill called + “Anthony’s Nose” is particularly steep and stony. The Beverly Farm, + which was owned by Mr. William Denning, lay in the midst of these + hills. The house is still standing and is almost unaltered. + +Footnote 66: + + To Miranda Southgate, or, more likely, to Octavia. (M. K. L.) + +Footnote 67: + + From Octavia Southgate to Mrs. Southgate. + +Footnote 68: + + Mr. Newbold and Mr. Philip Rhinelander were well-known New Yorkers. + The latter married, December 22, 1814, Miss Mary Colden Hoffman. + +Footnote 69: + + Mr. Jephson was an Englishman who had lately arrived in New York. + +Footnote 70: + + John Duer married Miss Anne Bunner October 19, 1804, and his + brother, William Duer, soon after married Maria Denning. Mr. + Rhinelander engaged the two Miss Duers to the wrong men. Fanny + married Beverly Robinson, and Sally married, March 10, 1805, John + Witherspoon Smith, and died July 10, 1887, in the one hundred and + first year of her age. + +Footnote 71: + + Mrs. Kane’s “charming little girl” became Mrs. James King of Albany, + and the mother of many well-known New Yorkers. + +Footnote 72: + + Lady Temple was the daughter of Governor Bowdoin, and had married + Sir John Temple. Their daughter, afterwards Mrs. Winthrop, was the + mother of the Hon. Robert C. Winthrop. She was long the reigning + belle in Boston. + +Footnote 73: + + Mr. and Mrs. Bogert were intimate friends of Mr. and Mrs. Rufus + King’s, and they occupied adjoining places at Jamaica. + +Footnote 74: + + Mrs. Heyward was Mr. and Mrs. Rogers’ daughter. She married Mr. + Heyward of South Carolina. Miss Heyward married Mr. Cutting of New + York, and was the mother of Messrs. William, Heyward, and Brockholst + Cutting. + +Footnote 75: + + Wolsey Rogers married, Thursday evening, December 1, 1807, Miss + Susan Bayard. + +Footnote 76: + + Harriet Clarke, a daughter of John Innes Clarke of Providence, and + sister of Mrs. Kane. + +Footnote 77: + + Mrs. Oliver Kane had married, at Providence, R. I., May 22, 1803, + Mr. Oliver Kane, merchant of this city. Her children were Mrs. King + of Albany, Mrs. William Russel, Mrs. Nicholsen, John, De Lancey, and + Miss Lydia Kane. + +Footnote 78: + + Mrs. Gilbert R. Livingston (Martha Kane), a sister of Oliver Kane. + Her children were Mrs. Henry Beekman, Mrs. Codwise, Mrs. Constable, + the Rev. Gilbert R. Livingston, and James Kane Livingston. + +Footnote 79: + + Mrs. Fish (Miss Elizabeth Stuyvesant) had married, April 30, 1803, + Colonel Nicholas Fish. This daughter was Mrs. Daniel le Roy. The + Hon. Hamilton Fish and Mrs. Richard Morris were also children of + Colonel Fish’s. + +Footnote 80: + + _Pauline Porter_, daughter of Paulina King and Dr. Aaron Porter of + Portland, had married Edward Beecher. + +Footnote 81: + + Mary King Porter, her sister, married Nathaniel Coffin of Saco. + +Footnote 82: + + Horatio Southgate married his first wife, Nabby McLellan, September + 29, 1805. Mrs. Bowne is here alluding to her sister Octavia’s + engagement to William Browne. + +Footnote 83: + + Robert Murray, Mr. Bowne’s nephew. + +Footnote 84: + + _Frederic Southgate_, her youngest brother. + +Footnote 85: + + John, Charles, and James King, sons of Rufus King, Mrs. Bowne’s + cousins. James was at that time at Harvard College. + +Footnote 86: + + Mrs. Gillespie (Amelia Denning). This daughter died when a very + young girl of a putrid sore throat. + +Footnote 87: + + Walter Bowne, Jr. Eldest child of Walter Bowne and Eliza Southgate. + +Footnote 88: + + Kitty Bayard married Duncan Campbell. Her sister Susan had married + Woolsey Rogers, December 1, 1807. + +Footnote 89: + + Mary, oldest daughter of Robert Watts and his wife Lady Mary + Alexander, married Dr. Romaine, who left her a widow after a few + years of married life. At the age of seventy-three Mrs. Romaine + married her first love, Peter Bertram Cruger, a widower with eight + children. Miss Watts’s engagement to Dr. Romaine was a surprise to + her friends, who knew of her attachment to Mr. Cruger. + +Footnote 90: + + John Alsop King, oldest son of Rufus King and his wife Mary Alsop. + John A. King was twice governor of the State of New York. He married + in 1810 Mary Ray. Charles King, the second son of Rufus King, for + some time President of Columbia College, New York. He married twice: + first, Miss Gracie, and for his second wife Miss Low, the daughter + of his father’s intimate friend Nicholas Low. + +Footnote 91: + + Miss Fairlee was the daughter of Major Fairlee of the British army, + who was a noted wit. Many anecdotes are told of his odd sayings. One + of them was, that being on his death-bed he was told by his + physician to take yeast as medicine. “What for?” said the Major; “to + make me rise?” Miss Fairlee married Cooper the actor. + +Footnote 92: + + The wife of the French General Moreau. They came to the United + States in 1805, but he returned to fight with the Allies, and was + killed in 1813, some say by a bullet aimed by Napoleon himself. + +Footnote 93: + + Mrs. Stevens was Miss Rachel Coxe, of Philadelphia, and had married + Colonel Stevens, of Hoboken, New Jersey. + +Footnote 94: + + Miss Lyde married Jonathan Ogden. Among her children were Mrs. + Robert Goelet, Mrs. Dominick Lynch Lawrence, and Mrs. Joseph Ogden. + +Footnote 95: + + Mrs. John Lawrence. + +Footnote 96: + + Ralph Izard and his wife, the granddaughter of Etienne de Lanci, a + Huguenot nobleman who came to this country in 1686. Mr. Izard had + been appointed Commissioner from Congress to the grand-duchy of + Tuscany, and had performed other important diplomatic services. He + was one of the first United States senators from South Carolina. + Mrs. Mannigault’s husband was the grandson of Mr. and Mrs. Izard. + She was related to the Misses Watts of New York, and for their sake + was particularly attentive and kind to their friend Mrs. Bowne. Mr. + and Mrs. Heyward were the parents of the celebrated beauty Miss + Elizabeth Heyward, who married James Hamilton. + +------------------------------------------------------------------------ + + + + + TRANSCRIBER’S NOTES + + + ● Non-standard spelling and dialect retained. + ● Used numbers for footnotes, placing them all at the end of the last + chapter. + ● Enclosed italics font in _underscores_. + ● The caret (^) serves as a superscript indicator, applicable to + individual characters (like 2^d) and even entire phrases (like + 1^{st}). + + + +*** END OF THE PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK 76799 *** |
