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If you are not located in the United States, you'll have -to check the laws of the country where you are located before using this ebook. - - - -Title: Stop! - A Handy Monitor, Pocket Conscience and Portable Guardian - against the World, the Flesh and the Devil - -Author: Nathan Dean Urner - -Release Date: November 3, 2016 [EBook #53443] - -Language: English - -Character set encoding: UTF-8 - -*** START OF THIS PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK STOP! *** - - - - -Produced by Anita Hammond, Wayne Hammond and the Online -Distributed Proofreading Team at http://www.pgdp.net (This -file was produced from images generously made available -by The Internet Archive) - - - - - - -[Transcriber's Note: - -This project uses utf-8 encoded characters. If some characters are not -readable, check your settings of your text reader to ensure you have a -font installed that can display utf-8 characters. - -Italics delimited by underscores.] - - - - - Stop! - - _A Handy Monitor and - Pocket Conscience._ - - THE NEW “COLTON’S LACON.” - - By Author of NEVER and ALWAYS. - - - - - MRS. MARY J. HOLMES’ NOVELS - - Over a MILLION Sold - - THE NEW BOOK - - Queenie Hetherton - - _JUST OUT_. - - For Sale Everywhere - - Price, $1.50. - - - - - STOP! - - _A Handy Monitor, Pocket Conscience - and Portable Guardian - against the World, - the Flesh and the - Devil._ - -“Stop! To pause, knock off, let up, cheese it, switch off, give it a -rest, cut short, stand like a rock, kick against, shut down, bring up -with a round turn, hold hard,” etc.--THESAURUS. - -“What would you, sir? I pray you _stop_, nor yield a hair to vicious -promptings!”--MOLIERE. - - BY MENTOR. - - AUTHOR OF “NEVER” AND “ALWAYS.” - - [Illustration] - - NEW YORK: - - COPYRIGHT, 1884, BY - - _G. W. Carleton & Co., Publishers_. - - LONDON: S. LOW & CO. - - MDCCCLXXXIV. - - Stereotyped by - SAMUEL STODDER, - 42 DEY STREET, N. Y. - -[Illustration] - - - - -_Introduction._ - - -[Illustration] - -_THE pining need of a work of this kind--an instructive sharpener in -book-form, as it were, of the moral faculty--has long been so seriously -felt that the author eagerly hastens to supply it._ - -_In_ “NEVER” _and_ “ALWAYS,” _his appeal was rather -to the externalities of life. In_ “STOP,” _his aim is to -regulate the very springs of impulse, deliberation and resolve. In -other words, there is not a temptation that he would not strip of its -disguise, not an unworthy motive that he would not pulverize as with a -corrective club, not a misleading conceit that he would not skewer to -its squirming source._ - -_Although the pearls of thought and monitory gems herewith presented -are intended mainly for young men just entering upon the great work of -life, there is neither man nor maid, stripling nor patriarch, saphead -nor sage who may not scramble for them with avidity, and glory in their -possession._ - -_Young man, are you hesitating in the choice of a vocation? A reference -to the admonitions under this head in_ “STOP” _may be the -means of your becoming a Millionaire, a Police Magistrate or an -ornament to society. Are you in love, or willing to be? A consultation -of the advice at your command may place you in such hobnobbing, -soul-wedded relations with the rosy god as shall cause you to charm, -to captivate, and finally to wrest the rapt, responsive throb from -Beauty’s battlemented heart. Are you a driveling idiot in money -matters? Imbibe, and be wise. And so on, through all the departments of -existence._ - -_Thus, panoplied, as it were, against the World, the Flesh and the -Devil, you might eventually, in an agony of gratitude and wonderment, -eulogize the author in the significant words of Hamlet, slightly -altered, to the following effect:_ - -_“’Sblood! he plays on me easier than on a pipe! He would seem to know -my_ STOPS; _he would pluck out the heart of my mystery; he -would sound me from my lowest notes to the top of my compass; there is -so much music, excellent voice and incomparable counsel in this little -book!”_ - -[Illustration] - -[Illustration] - - - - -_Contents._ - - -[Illustration] - - In Choosing a Vocation 9 - - In General Deportment 19 - - In Love Affairs 27 - - In Money Matters 39 - - In Guarding Against Bad Habits 48 - - In Judging Others 55 - - In Recreations 64 - - In the Domestic Relations 73 - - In Business Life 84 - - In Thought, Word and Deed 91 - -[Illustration] - - - - -Stop! - - -[Illustration] - - - - -In Choosing a Vocation. - - -Stop, first, and reflect what you are fit for. To rush recklessly into -an occupation of which you are as ignorant as a horse is of music, is -not to be thought of. - -Stop, next, and consider if what you have in view is respectable. Or, -if too much of an ass to distinguish between banking and bunco, for -instance, read up carefully on horse-sense. - -Stop, again, and be sure that your choice is in keeping with your -capacity. To essay one of the learned professions if wholly uneducated, -speculative pursuits if a natural born fool, or hod-carrying if -lily-handed, spindle-propped and wasp-waisted, is hardly a proof of -intellectuality. - -Stop, your career being chosen, to master its rudiments before essaying -its higher walks. Rome was not built in a day, nor is any vocation a -spring-board to waft you into the empyrean at the primary bounce. - -Stop long enough to master the rule of “addition, division and -silence,” if seeking political preferrment, or employment as a -confidential clerk. - -Stop long enough in one vocation to give it a fair trial. -Jacks-of-all-trades--men who are studying law in the morning, -counter-hopping after dinner, peddling soap to-day, starting a bank -to-morrow--are seldom successful. - -Stop, and ponder deeply, before becoming that pitiable object, a -professional office-seeker. Rather sink your independence of thought -and action at once by marrying for money, or toadying upon a rich -relative. - -Stop, if a lawyer’s office-boy, before intruding your legal views upon -your employer’s graver consultations. Think! Should you excite his -professional envy at the outset? - -Stop, if beginning as a dry-goods clerk, before imagining yourself a -silent partner in the concern, with your four dollars a week as its -chief investment. Self-respect is one thing, unmitigated, idiotic -asininity another. - -Stop, if at the tape-and-shoestrings counter, before aspiring to -the glittering generalities of the ribbons and laces, or the grave -responsibilities of the white-goods department. The cares of these high -functions may surpass your conception, and we must creep before we -climb. - -Stop before entering the ministry, if without religious convictions, a -sacrilegious scoffer, and morally depraved. - -Stop on the ragged edge of the fallacy that your place, or any man’s -cannot be filled by another. When men die, as they all must, are their -places not always filled? - -Stop on the brink of blatant, unaccredited, irresponsible quackery -in anything, but especially if desirous of becoming a disciple of -Hippocrates. - -Stop, if contemplating a banking career, and inquire if you have a -mathematical mind and attainments. A vague acquaintance with the rule -of three, together with a mouth-watering desire for colossal wealth, -cannot alone enable you to rival the wizards of finance. - -Stop before setting up on your own account, unless thoroughly in -earnest. Even a peanut-stand may be dignified by business energy and -perseverance. - -Stop short, bring up with a round turn, at any inducement, however -dazzling, that is not strictly honest. You can better afford to be -mediocre than obnoxious. - -Stop, and consider well, before taking up a patent lightning-rod. -Agents are already numerous, and farmers’ dogs on the alert. - -Stop, before joining the army of commercial drummers, and be sure that -you possess three qualifications in a superlative degree, _i.e._: cheek, -pertinacity and the gift of gab. - -Stop, should you become a drummer, at the nineteenth lie in support of -one line of goods. Mendacity hath its limits, and even the credulity of -a yokel may be gorged. - -Stop on the giddy verge of over-estimate in any business. “Hope,” says -_Lacon_, “is a prodigal young heir, and experience is his banker; but -his drafts are seldom honored, because he draws largely on a small -capital, is not yet in possession, and if he were, would _die_.” - -Stop, indignantly repel, all inducements on the part of advertising -sharks. Their name is legion, and they seek but to devour. - -Stop, howsoever tempted, at the allurements of roguery, embezzlement, -rascality, and satanic suggestions of every description. If you must be -a cutpurse let it be on the broad highway, pistol in hand, dime-novel -at heart, and the gallows in sight. - -Stop, if contemplating a political career, and distinctly settle this -question in your mind: Am I to boss the party, or is the party to boss -me? There is nothing like avoiding a confusion of ideas. - -Stop, next, and be certain that your ambition is not o’erleaping its -aim. Pluck bright honor from the pale-faced moon, if possible, but -to make a dead set for the Presidency and bring up as a police-court -janitor, or coroner’s assistant, is apt to prove discouraging. - -Stop, even if rich, before entering upon pleasure as a business. Few -constitutions can long stand the racket, _ennui_ is the result, and -premature death its bourne. - -Stop before entering the literary profession, if devoid of imagination, -a proverbial fool, and with but a lazy comprehension of orthography, -grammar and syntax. - -Stop, next, and ask yourself, what great author, dead or living, shall -I emulate? Then, be your model Shakespeare or Bartley Campbell, -Thackeray or Tupper, Byron or the _Burlington Hawkeye_, stick to your -ideal, revel in ink and starve for glory. - -Stop, if of a dramatic turn, before absolutely forcing a manager to -produce your play. There are, unfortunately, legal safeguards for even -this species of credulous, unsophisticated, professionals. - -Stop, and reflect profoundly, before adopting pugilism as a vocation, -if constitutionally weak in the back, color-blind, short-winded, and -timid to pusillanimity. - -Stop before deciding upon a histrionic career, until satisfied that you -are not better fitted for an auction-room or a junk-shop. - -Stop, in any calling, long enough to become familiar with the foot of -the ladder before clawing ineffectually at the top-round. Beginning -at the top, to come down with a rush, is reserved for millionaires’ -sons, holders of winning lottery-tickets and cat’s-paws of nominating -conventions. - -[Illustration] - -[Illustration] - - - - -In General Deportment. - - -Stop at the assumption of a supercilious, ducal air, especially if -small of stature, monkey-brained and impecunious. This is solely the -privilege of floor-walkers, brained midgets and actresses’ husbands. - -Stop, on the other hand, if tall and commanding, before cultivating a -creeping, crushed demeanor, unless you are a colporteur or dog-stealer. - -Stop on the brink of wholly disregarding the prevailing fashions. -Knee-breeches, shoe-buckles, a powdered wig, and a swallow-tailed coat, -with the waist-buttons between the shoulder-blades, would stamp you as -an eccentric at the present day. - -Stop before despising the requirements of the seasons. A straw-hat in a -snow-storm, for instance, would excite remark. - -Stop when vanity counsels an excess of ornament. To exhibit a jewel or -two with judgment is one thing, to groan under a clanking avoirdupois -of gauds and trinkets another. - -Stop at the claims of both a cadaverous gravity and a causeless -facetiousness of demeanor. Neither the belfry owl nor the proverbial -basket of chips should be your model in this regard. - -Stop on the verge of unnecessary violence in word and deed. Resent, if -you must, without preliminary roaring. The deadly submarine torpedo is -terrible in its explosion, but less noisy than the harmless bursting of -an inflated paper-bag. - -Stop before criticising what you do not understand. The bore indulging -in this species of idiocy is deserving of an enforced association with -numerous mothers-in-law in a whisper-gallery. - -Stop, indeed, snap your jaws to like a spring-trap, at the very -suggestion of an oath or low expression. “Profanity,” says _Lacon_, -“never yet dignified wrath nor emphasized a great purpose.” - -Stop before indulging in covert sneers. Indeed, “a good, mouth-filling -oath” is preferable, because less hypocritical, but an ungarnished -assertion is better than either. - -Stop before meanly insinuating what should be plainly spoken. Even if -a man owes you money, which you think he ought to pay, tell him so, or -ask for an explanation, instead of conveying your meaning through an -allusion to his current expense or new clothes. This is the course of a -sneak and a coward. - -Stop, rather, and bewail the abolition of imprisonment for debt, -or tell him that he ought to live cheaply and go in rags until he -liquidates. - -Stop before assuming a rasping, file-edged, whip-in-hand demeanor -toward your dependents or inferiors. Apart from its villainously -bad taste, the whirligig of time may bring about a transposition of -relations, and then where are you? - -Stop, on the other hand, ere adopting a groveling, sycophantic, -ultra-ingratiating manner with your superiors. “The flavor that can -only be won by fawning servility is seldom of great worth.” - -Stop before persisting in a style of laugh that can betray your motives -to your disadvantage. The “He, he, he!” of hypocrisy is as patent as -the “Haw, haw, haw!” of the windbag. - -Stop at an unwarranted ostentation of speech and bearing. The -dung-hill bird is distinguished quite as much by his strut as by his -vociferousness. - -Stop, in addressing a woman, and consider the privilege of her sex, -even if she may have aggrieved you. - -Stop, on the other hand, before over-whelming her with an excess of -courtesy. Over-attentiveness to women always inspires a suspicion as -to its motive. - -Stop before retailing a scandal, even if convinced of its truth. This -is the province of the incorrigible gossip and the newspaper reporter, -with neither of whom you can hope to cope. - -Stop on the threshold of a temptation to distort the truth. -Plausibility in lying is an art in which but few can earn distinction. - -Stop before disputing a fact, however distasteful, that can be proved -by statistical evidence. Figures are not apt to lie, save on gas-metres. - -Stop before adhering to an error through a mistaken sense of shame. -“Who acknowledgeth his error showeth an increase of wisdom; who -stubbornly adhereth to what hath been disproved confesseth himself a -fool.” - -Stop short of the conceit that irresistibility with the fair sex -depends on good-looks alone. The manners make the man. - -Stop before aping the characteristics of another, however exalted. -The gesticulations of the Frenchman would be unseemly in the staid -Hidalgo, and that which would be a pleasing originality in one might be -a preposterous parody in the imitator. - -Stop short of the notion that wiseacre looks and frigidity of manner -will always be indicative of reserved force and intellectual acumen. -The owl is the solemnest and likewise the stupidest of birds. - -Stop, whenever in moral doubt or distress, and consult the masterly -advice and sage promptings of this jewel of a book. It shall be unto -you “as rivers of water in a dry place, or the shadow of a great rock -in a weary land.” - -[Illustration] - -[Illustration] - - - - -In Love Affairs. - - -Stop!--That burning thought--that delirium in thy heart--as to the -lovely being whose image is before thee night and day--is it such as -her modesty and virtue, her seraphic guilelessness should inspire? if -not, away with it--blot it out! - -Stop! Was she rather plain than peerless, and is it the thought of her -father’s bonds and shekels that now summons the enamored hectic to thy -virile cheek? Away with it, likewise, and for shame! Shall blood with -boodle blend--emotion cringe at Mammon’s beck--and Love be unavenged? - -Stop! Stay yet again thy headlong plunge! Was she yet lovely, an houri -of a dream, but still beneath thee in family, station, fortune, and -didst therefore smile but to deceive? If so, hold hard, hug this sweet -volume to thy heart of hearts, and sin no more! - -Stop, and meditate upon the three foregoing paragraphs, for in them are -embodied the cardinal principles in making love: Purity of purpose, -Disinterestedness and Truth. - -Stop for some encouragement before rendering your attentions -universally conspicuous. A glance of the eye, a tremor of the lip, the -merest shadow of a blush upon the seashell-tinted cheek, will suffice. - -Stop, if such subtle signs are wanting or withheld, and plan some -deep-laid scheme to unveil heart’s predilection, indifference, or -dislike. Oysters and ice-cream are still available in their respective -seasons. - -Stop before mistaking a passing fancy for a wild, consuming maddening, -over-mastering, star-jostling passion. This mistake has evoked more -paternal walking-sticks and breach-of-promise suits than would keep a -French novelist in subject-matter for a twelvemonth. - -Stop, after falling head over ears in love, to collect your senses -and formulate your plans. An inconsiderate, maniacal rush into a -declaration is often repented at leisure. - -Stop, if not certain of your ground, before wholly unmasking your -batteries. Delicate attentions, even worshiping, awe-struck glances -from afar, are time-old preliminaries, but none the less effective. - -Stop, however, on the threshold of feverish demonstration at the -outset. Furnace-like sighs, dazed, dumb-founded looks, like those of an -expiring calf, and frenzied bodily contortions may be brought to bear -in their own good time. - -Stop short of opposing her tastes and convictions. To gently chime -with them, whether you have any of your own or not, while preserving -a vigorous masculinity in favor of quail-gorging, head-punching and -kindred noble sports, is in the main commendable. - -Stop before vaunting a wild, atheistical or Ingersollian contempt -for all things sacred, if she should be of a deeply religious turn. -However, this is not to prescribe a regular biblical course, a very -little of which goes a great way in the wooing o’t. - -Stop before disclaiming all love for music, or suggesting the banjo or -bagpipe as your favorite instrument, should she dote on the opera, sing -divinely and be a piano-pounder of no mean ability in her own person. - -Stop before depreciating anything the dear creature does, or tries to -do. Eagerly demand another song, even if the screech of her first has -ruined your tympanum, call her verses divine, if they are no better -than Tennyson’s latest senility, swear that her favorite scent is -yours, even if ’tis musk or garlic, and build, build as with a wand, -the shining edifice of love! - -Stop right off at the idea that there may be anything hypocritical or -insincere advised in the foregoing paragraph. If really in love, you -will religiously believe everything you tell her, and more too. - -Stop, first, however, and study the character of your enchantress. All -women are no more to be wooed alike than are all fish to be tempted -with the same kind of bait. - -Stop before addressing a brainy, well-read penetrative divinity as you -would a laughing elf, a careless, careless fay, a butterfly of mirth -and joy. An Hypatia is not a Hebe, and reflect! Would you tempt an -eagle with a moth-light, or a striped-bass with an eel-bob? - -Stop, if she be intellectual, and study up to an equality with her -tastes, should you be her inferior. Then scientific discussions, -with poetry as a side-dish, may gradually lead up to the delicious -desideratum of two hearts that beat as one. - -Stop, however, at the error of preferring her intellectual to her -physical charms. She is a lovely liar if she pretends to a desire for -such preference, and your sin will be unpardonable, should you take her -at her word. - -Stop, in any case, before praising another woman’s good-looks in the -adored one’s presence. In fact, you can afford her no pleasanter -flattery than by a systematic depreciation of a prettier woman’s -charms. - -Stop, if she be a Hebe, we will say, and plunge recklessly amid her -paucity of ideas. Flounder in folly, palpitate with persiflage, at her -giggling beck; and here is ample opportunity for the silent eloquence -of the nosegay, the oyster, or the iced refreshment, not less than -for the princely prodigality of the opera, the midnight coupe and the -church fair lottery. - -Stop short of any display of fear in her presence, even if you are -timorous to the core. Let her do the shrieking at the onset of a mouse, -but stand you as the rugged rock, the beaten anvil, or the rooted oak! -You might even trample out a croton-bug occasionally, with a cold, -feelingless laugh. Imperturbability in peril was never yet a masculine -fault in gentle woman’s eyes. - -Stop before incurring the dislike of the fair one’s little brothers or -sisters. The malapert maliciousness of _l’enfant terrible_ may occasion -mortifications without number. - -Stop before losing your temper with a rival in your charmer’s presence. -If you must come to blows, let it be in a retired spot, but it were -far better to sit him out, beat him on bouquets, gum drops and -theatre-tickets, or otherwise defeat him in the rosy lists. - -Stop at the one thousandth kiss, after receiving the coveted “Yes” -from the adored one’s lips. Byron, it is true, in one of his callow -effusions, counsels a million, but, as a conscientious Mentor, we -prefer to draw the line somewhere even in such an emotional proceeding. - -Stop, discontinue the siege altogether, in case of a downright -rejection, howsoever reluctant, howsoever tearful. Don’t put up with -the sisterly substitute, either; but just float out grandly on the -ebb-tide of broken hopes, until brighter eyes a welcome shine to solace -and to cheer. - -Stop before imagining, if accepted, that your ordeal is now nearly at -an end. Why, gentle sir, it hath just begun. You are now owned. - -Stop short at the idea that even your former devotion is still in -order. If it was a bouquet or two per week before, it is now a -cart-load per day; your male familiars must sigh for you in vain--your -off-nights are things of the past; you are on exhibition, not only to -your _fiancée’s_ family, but to the world at large; you are an engaged -man! - -Stop on the verge of suicidal despair as a result of your first -lovers’ quarrel. This is but the pepper-sauce of passion, the curry of -courtship, the horse-radish of happiness, without which that crowning -reflection, the kiss-gilt, teardrop-rainbowed making-up were banished -forever from Love’s golden feast! - -Stop, in a general way, before making love for the fun of the thing. -There is no meaner, more reptilian creature in society than the -professional male flirt. - -Stop before yielding an iota to the allurements of a notorious -coquette. Heartlessness is her dower, emotional misery her delight, -falseness her stock in trade, and the ashen Dead Sea fruit the only -reward in her power, even if she love at last. - -Stop before permitting your admiration of an actress, or ballet dancer, -to glide into a master passion. Disenchantment, if desired, is mostly -within easy reach, and you can console yourself with the reflection -that there is far more beauty off the stage than on it. - -Stop short of making love at all, if you are not of an affectionate -disposition; or, when too late--that is, when married, love will be -likely to stop short of you. - -[Illustration] - - - - -In Money Matters. - - -Stop, first, and understand the value of money--the importance of never -being without _some_ money, even if a very little. - -Stop, next, and understand that money is nothing in itself alone, but -valuable and powerful only in what it will purchase and _can_ purchase. -A pure love of it for itself, and not for what it represents, develops -a loathsome disease--the disease of miserliness. - -Stop short of envying the rich, even if penniless yourself. A -philosophical reflection as to the causes of your bad fortune, -together with a resolve to mend it by a more enlightened course, is -your only remedy. - -Stop, however, yet shorter of the vulgar, pigheaded notion that money, -even by the ton-weight, can be everything without moral or intellectual -backing. If this were so, wealth would be more glorious than wisdom, -which happily, it is not. - -Stop before parting with money, even to an insignificant amount, -without some sort of equivalent. This rule need not render you either -parsimonious or uncharitable, since even alms-giving brings a return in -the consciousness of having yielded to a kindly impulse. - -Stop before cultivating a hoarding spirit, and remember that, -logically, as between the miser and the spendthrift, the latter has -the best of the bargain. For, while the spendthrift has the selfish -satisfaction of squandering his fortune in his own person, the miser -is the dupe of his own self-denial, for the benefit of others who come -after him. - -Stop, however, before emulating the spendthrift any more than the -miser. If there is never any love for the scheming parsimony of the -one, neither is there ever any gratitude for the thoughtless largesse -of the other. - -Stop, and reflect well, before borrowing money under any circumstances. -To an honest man, indebtedness is ever a double torture--self-torture -in the haunting possibility of not being able to keep his word, and the -torture of imagining what, in that case, will be thought of him. - -Stop, dead, before borrowing money that you are not sure of being able -to repay. As for the man who borrows without the _intention_ to repay, -he is even worse than a professional thief, and as fully deserving of -social ostracism. - -Stop before becoming that unmitigated bore, a chronic borrower. He is -at best a pitiful creature, shunned even when commiserated, and the -strongest ties of friendship cannot long withstand the wrench of his -proximity. - -Stop, even before lending money to a friend, and reflect that -non-liquidation must cost you your money, and _may_ cost you--your -friend. - -Stop, however, if you mean to grant a request for a loan, and grant it -freely. To produce it as if extracting a wisdom-tooth, or accompany it -with a stereotyped moral lecture on the hardness of the times, etc., is -much like placing his request on a level with mendicancy. - -Stop short--indeed, as abruptly as you please--of lending money to a -known profligate or spendthrift. The proverbial blood from a turnip may -be sooner expected than genuine thankfulness for an accommodation from -such a source, and the probability is that he will secretly laugh at -you for a fool. - -Stop, however, and reflect well before adopting a general and -irrevocable rule of never lending money under any circumstances. Many -eminent men, the reverse of hard-hearted, have conscientiously adopted -this rule, but whether it is the best, as the world goes, is a question. - -Stop before compromising with such a rule by offering as a gift that -which is entreated as a loan. This is the course usually pursued by the -eminent men alluded to above; but such a proffer is always humiliating, -and often insulting. - -Stop before running in debt, even for groceries or beer, for that for -which you can pay on the spot. It is a pernicious habit that must -steadily engender looser and looser notions about money matters. - -Stop before adopting honesty as your standard merely on the immorally -aphoristic grounds of its being the best policy. True integrity should -stand on its merits, win or lose; whereas any shrewd rascal would be -honest on occasion, if satisfied that he would _make_ by it. - -Stop, rather, and fortify your uprightness on the broad grounds, “that -_honesty is not only the deepest policy, but the highest wisdom_; since -however difficult it may be for integrity to get on, it is a thousand -times more difficult for knavery to _get off_.” - -Stop before cultivating an inordinate desire to get rich in haste. In -ninety-nine cases out of a hundred it will develop into a species of -frenzy that must over-reach and defeat its aims. - -Stop, rather, and understand that in speculation, the prizes of the few -are only rendered possible by the ruin of the many. - -Stop before setting up financial comets--that is suddenly-rich men--as -your exemplars. The exceptional boldness, or unscrupulousness which -constituted their _open sesame_ to dazzling fortune, may but fling -wide, for the mediocre imitator, the doors of poverty or of the state -prison. - -Stop when you have achieved a comfortable competence, and devote -yourself to the rational enjoyment thereof. To be stacking up dollars -and securities to the last gasp is worse than making a hell on earth; -since it is a perversity so obtuse as to imagine that as heaven which -is in truth a hell. - -Stop, and remember, that the accumulation of wealth, as a sole pursuit, -is a diseased passion, just as much as is the craving for strong -drink, or for the excitement of gambling. - -Stop, therefore, in the headlong race for money, and so intersperse -that pursuit with knowledge and unselfish deeds, with moral and -intellectual recreations, as shall render it the chief means, rather -than the chief end, of a useful existence. - -[Illustration] - -[Illustration] - - - - -In Guarding Against Bad Habits. - - -Stop before cultivating an inordinate self-conceit, and remember that -real worth is mostly modest, while those persons are the vainest who -have the least to be vain of. - -Stop before contracting a habit of exaggeration. This is the -stock-in-trade of the cheap penny-a-liner, while the strength of the -true historian lies in conscientious statement. - -Stop short of fancying that such exaggeration can impress others with -your imaginative powers. Were this true, the grimaces of a baboon -might be ascribed to emotional fine frenzy. - -Stop before contracting the habit of lying, even in a harmless way. But -this fault is as naturally the outgrowth of extravagance or looseness -of statement, as is the noxious weed of the miscellaneous muck that -stimulates it into useless being. - -Stop short of listlessness in word, look and deed. A perfunctory person -is never in demand, and Rip Van Winkle only indemnified society in -sleeping out his twenty years. - -Stop, and do nothing, rather than procrastinate indefinitely. -Untrustworthiness is the final result of procrastination, and a -reputation for that is tantamount to elimination from the world’s -employment. - -Stop far short of any indulgence that can affect your general -reputation. “The two most precious things this side the grave,” says -_Lacon_, “are our reputation and our life; the most contemptible -whisper may deprive us of the one, the weakest weapon of the other.” - -Stop the use of tobacco, if addicted to it, but especially in the form -of chewing, the vileness of this practice is in no wise mitigated by -its prevalence. - -Stop smoking, also, at its first threatened inroad upon the general -health. To persist in it thereafter is a confession of both moral and -mental weakness. - -Stop on the threshold of gambling of every description, and, if already -in the toils, shut down on the practice with all the ponderosity at -your command. - -Stop, moreover, and understand that gambling--the worship of -chance--is death to the soul, to faith in human nature, to man’s -nobler attributes. In this regard, it is more literally demoralizing -than alcoholic drunkenness; and there is yet to be found the veteran -professional gambler who is not a materialistic atheist. - -Stop, once more, and remember that every man who will play cards for -money, will in time, cheat. He may set out honestly enough, but it is -only a question of time before he will take an unfair advantage in -_self-defense_. What, then, can be thought of a practice that almost -necessitates dishonesty? - -Stop--hold! That “D--n!” upon thy lips! Would not “Confound it!” “The -deuce take it!” or simply “Bless me!” emphasize resentment or annoyance -equally well? Or, still better, is there any need for emphasis at all? - -Stop, above all, before falling into the profane habit, upon no -provocation. A passionless, half-conscious interlarding of speech with -oaths and epithets is as idiotic as it is disgusting. - -Stop on the verge of becoming anecdotal to excess. Second only to the -confirmed scandal-bearer is the friend whose encounter one must dodge -for fear of being made the repository of some long-winded anecdote, or -pointless pun. - -Stop short of narrating indecent stories. Unfortunately, nearly all -stories of much point that are interchanged among men are of this -description; _ergo_, eschew the retailing of them, on your own part, -altogether. - -Stop before becoming the slave of any depraved appetite. To take -the appetite for strong drink as an illustration, it is a terrible -enchantress--siren, bacchante, or task-mistress, at will. One can -seldom coquette with but he marries her at last; when, like the Lamia -of the legend, she turns to a serpent in the embrace, and her dalliance -is despair and death. - -Stop before contracting a habit of belittling or sneering at what you -do not understand. This is but the pasteboard buckler with which the -fool would shield his self-love. - -Stop before habitually ascribing mean or sordid motives to others upon -mere conjecture. - -Stop short of any habit that can fruitlessly waste one’s time or -substance, since the one is more than money, because, once dissipated, -it can never be replaced, and the other is the very means of life. - -[Illustration] - -[Illustration] - - - - -In Judging Others. - - -Stop before gauging a person’s capacity solely by his physiognomy. -Lafayette’s forehead suggested idiocy, Keats, the poet, had the jaws of -a prize-fighter, and warriors of the Salvation Army have been mistaken -(before opening their mouths) for men of intelligence. - -Stop, however, before judging people altogether on antithetic grounds. -To invariably accept a monkey-jawed, rat-eyed, ear-shadowed countenance -as a criterion for mental profundity, for instance, or crime-sodden, -sin-exhaling bulldog traits as suggestive of ethical culture or -religious zeal, is hardly to be recommended. - -Stop before judging others, especially men, wholly by their dress and -manners. A millionaire may be “shabby-genteel” and retiring to excess, -whereas professional scoundrels are often notorious for a fashionable -exterior and distinction of bearing “as to the manner born.” - -Stop on the verge of taking dress and ornament as a sure indication -of a woman’s character or station. You might regret mistaking a -quietly-attired unadorned heiress for a shirt-maker in distress; or a -fourth-class pawnbroker’s wife, beringed and bediamonded from bang to -belt, for a sorceress of fashion. - -Stop before judging people disparagingly by their eccentricities. A -poet, for instance, may indulge in long hair, without necessarily being -an _æsthete_ or a cowboy; the habit of talking to one’s-self is no -proof of a guilty conscience; and absent-mindedness in many forms has -accompanied the possession of exceptional capacity. - -Stop, however, before accepting such betrayals as positive indications -of either genius, talent or brains. To do this would be to libel the -ordinarily well-behaved people who have some respect for the amenities -of existence. - -Stop, for instance, ere ascribing pure benevolence to the -absent-mindedness that mistakes your silk umbrella for a mislaid -gingham one, shaky in the ribs, feruled with long service, and filtery -at the seams. - -Stop and draw a line likewise, at the abstraction that finds its hand -in your pocket, or creeps in at your bedroom window, or is blandly -oblivious as to whether it owes you money, or _vice versa_. - -Stop, and turn the question over in your mind: True enough, there is a -chance of such eccentricities being the concomitants of a certain sort -of talent, but is it exactly the sort that ought to be encouraged? - -Stop, if naturally dishonest or vicious yourself, and inquire if -you can fairly judge others according to your own corrupt standard. -This may prevent your giving yourself away, besides leavening your -collective baseness with a grain or two of charity. - -Stop, however, if honest and well-meaning--and, indeed, it is mainly -for such that this symposium of golden precepts is prepared--and -remember, as a stimulant to careful discrimination in these things, -that your own superficialities may be constantly and cruelly misjudged. - -Stop short of supposing that you have no superficialities, or but few, -to be judged by. The visibility of existence is largely made up of -them; it is, perhaps even well that the heart is not often worn upon -the sleeve; and equally well that our externals are but deceptive -indices of the springs of action, the blots and foibles they disguise, -else were the wisest of us each other’s sport. - -Stop before taking mildness and retirement of manner for a want -of resolution or courage. True greatness in anything is seldom -self-celebrating, and it is as true as proverbial that “still waters -run deep.” - -Stop, on the other hand, before setting down a strutting -self-importance as invariably betokening a wind-bag or a nincompoop. -Modesty is, unfortunately, not always the hand-maid of merit. - -Stop before mistaking ostentation for generosity, or calm acceptance -for ingratitude. “As the mean have a calculating avarice that sometimes -inclines them to give, so the magnanimous have a condescending -generosity that sometimes inclines them to receive.” - -Stop before despising in another the demonstrativeness that you would -despise in yourself. The babble of the brook is as natural as the -stillness of the pool and temperamental differences are always to be -considered. - -Stop before regarding extreme particularity in dress as an invariable -evidence of intellectual insignificance. It often is so, but -nine-tenths of the shabbily-attired men of brains would dress better if -they could afford to. - -Stop on the dizzy verge of mistaking an excessive and painstaking -courtesy for a genuine and heartfelt interest. It should rather put you -on your guard. - -Stop short of the old-time cynicism of regarding every man as a rascal -until he shall have afforded proofs to the contrary. Such a wholesale -distrust of human nature is creditable to neither the head nor the -heart. - -Stop before sweepingly condemning a discreditable action the -temptations to which are outside your own experience. Even to “put -yourself in his place” is not always available for the formation of -intelligent criticism in such cases. - -Stop before lightly assigning reasons for another’s domestic troubles. -The closet-skeleton is a strictly local spectre that is not the less -terrible by reason of the narrowness of its haunting powers. - -Stop short of disparaging the charity that methodizes and calculates -its smallest alms. There is an enlightened self-interest that relieves -more real distress than all the off-handed gratuities that are bestowed. - -Stop before impugning self-seeking motives to a good deed that redounds -to the doer’s advantage. Even if partly premeditated to this end, the -result, if humanitarian in its general influence, is not the less -useful and noble. - -Stop before judging a man solely by his errors or misfortunes. The -former may have been circumstantially unavoidable, as the latter may -have been undeserved. - -Stop before adopting the stereotyped, canting -“I-might-have-told-you-so” criticism in the case of a friend who has -fallen. The helping hand is then in order, if ever at all; and he is -doubtless aware of the cause of his disgrace, without your telling him. - -[Illustration] - - - - -In Recreation. - - -Stop before making a regular business of any form of diversion, which -then ceases to be either recreative or relaxing, and but adds to the -tissue-waste that should be restored. - -Stop, next, and consider that recreation, in its literal and best -sense, is something more than relaxation. More than to merely loosen, -slacken and remit, to recreate is to revive, reanimate, recuperate and -build up afresh. - -Stop, therefore, before playing billiards or pool every night for five -or six hours at a stretch, under the mistaken notion that you are -combining recreation with amusement. - -Stop, rather, and consider if the nervous tension produced by an -unremitting desire to win, and thus saddle your adversary with the cost -of the game, may not be greater than the wear and tear of the routine -business from which you are seeking relief. - -Stop short of the error that billiards in public is a wholly innocent -diversion, when candid reflection must convince you to the contrary. -The associations are mostly the reverse of refined, the gambling -principle is necessarily involved, and say what you will, non-success -is ever attended by a sense of exasperation. - -Stop wondering why you don’t feel freshened up for business after a -ten hours’ siege of whisky-poker, uninterrupted cigars, and consequent -loss of sleep. - -Stop before fancying chess-playing as any sort of relaxation whatever -from mental exertion. The game, being a constant mental exercise, -in itself should form a diversion from physical, rather than from -intellectual, over-work. - -Stop short of daily conviviality after business hours. The idea that -regular rum or beer-guzzling, even with the merriest of companions, can -be sooner or latter anything but injurious is either hypocritical or -ridiculous. - -Stop, likewise, short of spreeing as a relief from business cares. -Indeed, as between the hebdomadal hurrah and the diurnal hoist, the -distinction is so thoroughly relative to the confessedly evil effects -in both cases as not to be worthy of consideration. - -Stop before seeking recreation in low resorts. Give them all a wide -berth--concert-saloons, dives, dens, hells, houses of ill-repute, -bucket-shops, slums, cribs, joints--all! and remember that what is -essentially debasing can never reanimate exhaustion or repair fatigue. - -Stop before patronizing a low performance of any description. -Dog-fights, rat-baitings, cocking-mains, _et al._, are happily -surreptitious now, but there are equally immoral exhibitions still in -vogue to tempt the thoughtless and unwary. - -Stop before seeking recreation in sensuous performances or spectacles. -True, the ballet is often fascinating, but--Well, let the line be -drawn sharply just after the ballet, at all events. - -Stop before attempting either skating, bicycling, or horse-back -exercise in public, as a gentle and graceful relaxation, when wholly -inexperienced, if you would both corruscate and career. - -Stop before making a specialty of any kind of recreation that is beyond -your means. Otherwise, you may not infrequently exclaim, with _Hamlet_, -“For O, for O, the hobby-horse is forgot!” - -Stop at the yawning abyss of resorting to opium, or any similar drug, -as a relief from care. As the alcoholic habit has been likened to an -enchantress, a circean witch, so the opium habit is a dream-woman, the -sorceress of a phantom realm, elysian at first, but changing at last -into a horror-haunted sphere that appals the spirit while it tortures -and consumes the frame. - -Stop before applying yourself to excessive gymnastics as a relaxation, -if a horse-car conductor or a letter-carrier. Variety is the spice of -life. - -Stop, if engaged in wholly intellectual pursuits, before reading dry -and statistical books, such as Patent Reports, as a pleasing and -hilarious change. - -Stop before joining a club with whose objects you are unfamiliar. To -find yourself unawares, for instance, in the bosom of a hoodlum coterie -when in search of Christian refinement, or unexpectedly affiliated -with a Bible society when thirsting for roaring and convivial -companionship, would be alike uncongenial. - -Stop before seeking recreation in travel, if without money. True, -commercial drummers and tramps have attained some success in this -field, but neither the talents of the one class nor the methods of the -other are to be cordially recommended. - -Stop before indulging in the rougher athletic sports for which you are -physically unqualified. Study your capacities well--take in the entire -athletic range, from jackstraws to Indian clubs, from the bean-bag to -foot-ball--and discriminate for all you are worth. - -Stop before instituting any home-amusement that shall bind you to the -house of evenings forever thereafter. You might really want to go -out and “see a man,” but the excuse would avail you little with the -charming home-game awaiting your patronage. - -Stop before frequenting any lounging place, be it beer-saloon or -cigar-shop, so much as to become a figure-head of the premises. Not to -loaf at all is an excellent general rule. - -Stop before attempting recreation “on the road” in an ultra-economical -way. A livery-stable plug, hobbling ambitiously before a battered -sleigh or antediluvian buggy, in the midst of swell turn-outs and -speeding teams, would doubtless cause something of a sensation, but -would it be of the most enviable kind? - -Stop short of seeking mental repose by attending “excursions” in which -bibulous feats and glee-club improvisations bid fair to make up the -chief fund of amusement. - -Stop short of practical jokes as a relief for the work-oppressed brain. -As between jok_er_ and jok_ee_, the entertainment is mostly altogether -with the former, and one-sided or top-heavy diversions are both selfish -and untimely. - -Stop, and be sure that you have a work-oppressed brain, before rushing -wildly into any recreation whatever. The former is often imaginary, -or a hypocritical excuse for demanding a pastime, which is then, as a -consequence, apt to prove much harder work than play. - -[Illustration] - - - - -In The Domestic Relations. - - -Stop short of thinking that marriage and settlement in life can acquit -you of the tenderness and reverence due your parents, even if they -are well-to-do. It is a moral obligation which, contracted at your -birth, should cease not even with their death, but live on and on, an -evergreen of the memory, an amaranth of the heart. - -Stop before reserving for the bosom of your own family the fits of -ill-temper that you would be ashamed of if public. This is putting your -own household on a level with a private bear-garden, whose limited -spectators cannot be over-grateful for the privilege accorded. - -Stop short of supposing that your wife is anything less than an equal -partner in the hymeneal firm. Even if she came to you penniless, the -idea that she is thenceforth indebted to you for home, position or -freedom from care, is a barbarism fortunately obsolete in this country. - -Stop, likewise, short of the imported notion, also obsolete, that -she _belongs_ to you other than by the free heart-gift that inspired -her marriage vows, or that she is in any sense your property. The -cherishing of such a sentiment is degrading alike to husband and wife. - -Stop before denying to your wife the right to have little secrets of -her own, if you claim the same privilege for yourself. A loving and -trusted wife will have no important secrets apart from her husband. - -Stop short of altogether distrusting her in money matters. Even if -she have but little common sense in such things, her wifehood is a -responsibility for which you are responsible, and which cannot be -wholly nullified without humiliating her. - -Stop short of denying her the possession of some pocket-money of her -own, if but very little. “During my married life,” said a prominent -lecturer on woman’s rights, “I never had a cent of pocket-money that I -was not forced to _steal_ from my husband.” And this statement will -evoke more reflection than censure in the thoughtful mind. - -Stop before grumblingly supplying the household demands. This practice -of growling over a domestic expenditure, which is but a tithe of what -your next “good time with the boys” will cost you, is more prevalent -than sensible. - -Stop before placing any one over your wife’s head in her own house. Be -it mother-in-law, sister-in-law, or any one else, the course is alike -risky and unwise. - -Stop before cultivating a dislike or niggardliness for your wife’s -passion for dress, if it is accompanied by a refined taste and an -earnest desire to be within what you can afford. Fine feathers may not -always make fine birds, but a naturally attractive woman is undeniably -more lovable and attractive when tastefully attired than otherwise. - -Stop long before relinquishing, after marriage, the delicate little -attentions and sacrifices that were so acceptable during your -courtship. A lover-husband will make a sweetheart-wife, and for such -the honey-moon need have no wane. - -Stop, however, dead short of uxoriousness to a degree that shall excite -a smile or comment. The former is apt to be exasperating, and the -latter of a nature the reverse of soothing to your _amour propre_. - -Stop before developing a womanish desire to interfere with domestic -arrangements outside of your province. In other words, never be what -your wife might call a “cock-biddy,” and your cook “an intermiddling -mon.” - -Stop before developing a fault-finding disposition with the cooking -or other accommodations, or first be sure that you are not more -responsible for the faults than your wife. - -Stop short of concealing the fact from your wife, if she is falling -unconsciously into slovenly and unkempt personal habits when only in -your presence. Let her but comprehend that this is a wifely neglect -that has driven many a husband into neater but unscrupulous feminine -society, and speedy amendment must follow. - -Stop before holding your wife accountable for every little smile or -frankness accorded to her antenuptial admirers. ’Tis the watched fire -that languishes; and, should she meditate treason, she would not hint -it by so much as a rush-light. - -Stop before letting her know it, if you find out that your marriage -has been a mistake. Doubtless this will make itself felt, despite your -utmost precautions, and her sufferings in making the sad discovery will -then challenge your compunction, your pity and your redoubled devotion, -if you are a true man. - -Stop before laughing at piety in your wife, even if an infidel -yourself. “Wise men like to have pious wives,” says Emerson, “and it is -well for all concerned that it should be so.” - -Stop before betraying your weaknesses to your children. Even a -hypocritical assumption of a morality that you do not always practice -is preferable to self-exposure in this regard. - -Stop before correcting them in the presence of outsiders. The -self-respect of a little child, once wounded to the quick, is long in -healing; and some consideration is due, moreover, to the outsiders. - -Stop before punishing a child when influenced by anger. The punishment -then ceases to be corrective, and is only resentful; whereas the -helplessness of the child should of itself evoke but magnanimity. - -Stop, when thus impelled by anger, and reflect if you would as readily -seek to gratify it, were no such disparity existent--that is, where -the child as big and powerful as yourself. - -Stop before threatening a chastisement that you don’t intend to -inflict. Or, if you must persist in this course, don’t ascribe the -continued disobedience, which is its inevitable outgrowth, to anything -but your own weakness. - -Stop short of deception or untruth in your dealings with your children, -if you would impress them with the opposite sentiments. - -Stop, in this regard, and reflect that, if the childish mind is wax -to early impressions, it is of a kind that hardens with the imprint, -and that from the hardening process spring the imitation and the -_emulation_, which must gradually corrupt or ennoble, as the case may -be. - -Stop before assuming a bullying tone or attitude toward your family or -your domestics. Vaporings of this description are always in wretched -taste, and a home-circle that must needs be terrorized is little to be -envied. - -Stop before living beyond, or even quite up to your means, and be not -ambitious to make an outside show at the expense of internal comfort. - -Stop short of lessening the significance of old-time festivities, such -as Thanksgiving Day, Christmas, New Year’s and birth-day observances, -simply because you have yourself outgrown their zest. - -Stop before repressing any innocent propensity to _gush_ on the part -of your wife or children. It is a chill home-fountain that will not -occasionally overflow. - -Stop, if possible, before ever disturbing your family peace with even -so much as an unkind or hasty word. The pretty lines, - - “We have greeting words for the stranger, - And smiles for the sometime guest, - But oft for Our Own the bitter tone. - Though we love Our Own the best,” - -should never be pertinent in a wise man’s household. - -Stop before assuming an oracular or infallible attitude--in other -words, setting yourself up as a small god--before your own family. Ten -to one, it is an assumption that you cannot maintain with any degree -of consistency, and one which may entail a humiliating back-down when -least expected. - -[Illustration] - - - - -In Business Life. - - -Stop short of attempting a business enterprise wholly beyond -your mental and financial equipment. To attempt the _rôle_ of a -railroad magnate, for instance, when you have the soul of a licensed -fish-vender, or the manipulation of a government loan with hardly -enough capital for a fruit-stand, would be more ambitious than wise. - -Stop before adopting rigorous and unbending methods that, under a -change of fortune, can be quoted against you to your disadvantage. -Thus, to never lend money, on principle, when prosperous, but be -perfectly willing to borrow it when broke, might subject you to -unpleasant comment. - -Stop before assuming a domineering, Jovian tone toward those with less -money than you, even if you have a corner on the market. Men are often -like rats in this, that they fight when they are cornered. - -Stop when already so deep into a hopeless speculation that you can’t -beg or borrow another cent, when certain ruin stares you in the face, -and even your pawn-tickets are at a discount. Forlorn hopes are only -practicable in serial stories and war. - -Stop, even at the height of prosperity, and make sure of the future by -settling upon your family a competence that shall thenceforth forever -be secured to them, come what may. This prudent course, feasible and -honorable during prosperity, would be just the reverse if deferred -until after business disaster may have come. - -Stop short of imagining that there is any more _luck_ in a legitimate -business than in games of chance--in other words, that there is any at -all. Or, if there is any, it consists of superior energy, foresight, -shrewdness and application, wherein, of course, the stronger wins while -the weaker goes to the wall. - -Stop, and reflect well, before venturing outside of a legitimate, -fairly-paying business upon the sea of speculation, which is in reality -but gambling under another name. - -Stop before cultivating a reputation for either over-credulity or -relentless hard bargaining in business life. The one will be abused, -while the other will foster enmities through the abuse it practices. - -Stop short of uncompromising martinetism toward your employees. -Our clerks, for instance, can no longer be treated as apprentices; -many of them are rich men in embryo; and with what satisfaction and -gratitude do powerful millionaires often recall slight kindnesses and -encouragements received from their employers when they were nothing but -obscure clerks or office-boys! - -Stop before choosing business quarters of a magnitude and pretension -wholly out of keeping with your trade and custom. There is a laughable -case in point, in the upper part of New York, where a diminutive, -tumble-down junk-shop displays a flaring sign with the preposterous -legend: “Great American Mammoth Junk Emporium.” - -Stop before advertising your commodities for something better than they -really are. This is to cheat yourself in the long run, for the average -of public buyers rarely allow themselves to be deliberately swindled -twice by the same liar. - -Stop short of supposing that the hackneyed phrase, “Business is -business,” can ever excuse a downright dishonest transaction in the -opinion of _all_ your business acquaintances. - -Stop, therefore, before setting the majority of them down as secretly -unprincipled, and vaunting their uprightness as a mask. Money-loving as -they are, the majority of those whose good opinion is worth having are -personally honest at the core. - -Stop short of being dazzled by mere business success, irrespective of -questionable or dangerous methods by which it may have been achieved. -Unless the means shall have justified the result, there can be no -praiseworthy success. - -Stop short of supposing that spasmodic cleverness can ever take the -place of solid method, organized effort and settled application in any -respectable calling. - -Stop, and go easy before provoking a powerful business hostility, -if possible, but never to the sacrifice of a true principle; -and, war being fully declared (_i.e._, competition, ruthless and -uncompromising), let it be to the knife, to the bitter end, till the -last pecuniary sinew snaps! - -[Illustration] - -[Illustration] - - - - -In Thought, Word and Deed. - - -Stop before even thinking unworthily. Not to entertain in the mind what -you would blush to speak or put in writing is an excellent general rule -of ethics. - -Stop before nourishing a pride of nationality. This is even more -unreasonable than the pride of ancestry, for the greatness of the -latter may be in some degree inherited, while for the mere accident of -birth-_place_ a man is as irresponsible as he is unentitled to plume -himself upon historical greatness in the abstract. - -Stop, also, before cherishing even a pride of race. This is wholly -distinct from the virtue of Patriotism, in its best sense; is opposed -to the enlightened spirit of the age; and is one of the narrowest of -prejudices. - -Stop short of despising public spirit in others, or eliminating it from -your own calculations. The most insignificant pot-house politician -is of more worldly use than the most gifted misanthrope. No amount -of selfish seclusion or isolation can absolve one from his duty of -fellowship. - -Stop before making butts of others, especially by reason of personal -peculiarities for which they are in no wise responsible. The old -aphorism about stone-throwing in relation to glass domiciles is always -in order; and even a natural-born fool is more to be pitied than -ridiculed. - -Stop putting in words that which you would not do, or putting in -writing that which you would not sign. - -Stop, and remember that an ill-considered angry word may, on the breath -of hearsay, become a winged seed, from which shall spring a poisonous -upas growth, whose deadly influence could not have been dreamed of at -its inception. - -Stop before falling into apathy, before becoming a do-nothing, through -discouragements. “A great mind,” says _Lacon_, “may change its objects, -but it cannot relinquish them; it must have something to pursue. -Variety is its relaxation, and amusement its repose.” - -Stop short of being painstaking to excess in what you would pass off -as improvised. Over-elaboration in this regard may be likened to -the dishabille in which a coquette would wish you to think you have -surprised her, after spending hours at her toilet. - -Stop short of supposing that rascality can be as uniformly logical -as honesty. Villains are usually the worst casuists, and rush into -_greater_ crimes to avoid _less_. - -Stop, in combating the World, and reflect that by resisting its -temptations you master the secret of ultimately possessing its noblest -prizes, the respect of your fellows, and the proudest self-respect in -having successfully withstood not in order to achieve, but from a sense -of moral duty. - -Stop, in resisting the allurements of the Flesh, and consider that -by subjecting them to the yoke of reason, your capacity for rational -fleshly enjoyment is both intensified and prolonged. - -Stop, in fighting the Devil (_i.e._, moral perverseness,) and remember -that your victory will be evidence of moral balance on your own part, -rather than of faint-heartedness on His Inky Majesty’s. And you may -likewise recall with complacency Emerson’s indictment, where he says, -“It stands to reason that the Devil is an ass.” - -Stop, after having fairly floored the Machiavellian triumvirate, the -World, the Flesh and the Devil, and candidly confess that you might -have fared worse but for the precepts and injunctions laid down in this -little book. - - -THE END. - - - - - A GREAT HIT. - - A NAUGHTY GIRL’S DIARY - - ---BY--- - - AUTHOR OF - - “A Bad Boy’s Diary.” - - _FULL OF FUN._ - - Price 50 cents. - - -[Transcriber’s Note: - -Inconsistent spelling and hyphenation are as in the original.] - - - - - -End of the Project Gutenberg EBook of Stop!, by Nathan Dean Urner - -*** END OF THIS PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK STOP! *** - -***** This file should be named 53443-0.txt or 53443-0.zip ***** -This and all associated files of various formats will be found in: - http://www.gutenberg.org/5/3/4/4/53443/ - -Produced by Anita Hammond, Wayne Hammond and the Online -Distributed Proofreading Team at http://www.pgdp.net (This -file was produced from images generously made available -by The Internet Archive) - - -Updated editions will replace the previous one--the old editions will -be renamed. - -Creating the works from print editions not protected by U.S. copyright -law means that no one owns a United States copyright in these works, -so the Foundation (and you!) can copy and distribute it in the United -States without permission and without paying copyright -royalties. 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If you are not located in the United States, you'll have -to check the laws of the country where you are located before using this ebook. - - - -Title: Stop! - A Handy Monitor, Pocket Conscience and Portable Guardian - against the World, the Flesh and the Devil - -Author: Nathan Dean Urner - -Release Date: November 3, 2016 [EBook #53443] - -Language: English - -Character set encoding: UTF-8 - -*** START OF THIS PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK STOP! *** - - - - -Produced by Anita Hammond, Wayne Hammond and the Online -Distributed Proofreading Team at http://www.pgdp.net (This -file was produced from images generously made available -by The Internet Archive) - - - - - - -</pre> - -<div class="figcenter"> -<img id="coverpage" src="images/cover.jpg" alt="" /> -</div> - -<h1> -Stop!<br /> - -<span class="large table"><i>A Handy Monitor and<br /> -Pocket Conscience.</i></span><br /> - -<span class="large">THE NEW “COLTON’S LACON.”</span><br /> - -<span class="medium">By Author of NEVER and ALWAYS.</span> -</h1> - -<p class="ph1"> -<span class="x-large">MRS. MARY J. HOLMES’ NOVELS</span><br /> - -<span class="large">Over a MILLION Sold</span><br /> - -<span class="large">THE NEW BOOK</span><br /> - -Queenie Hetherton<br /> - -<span class="large"><i>JUST OUT</i>.</span><br /> - -<span class="large gesperrt">For Sale Everywhere</span><br /> - -<span class="large">Price, $1.50.</span><br /> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_1">1</span></p> - -<div class="ph1"> -STOP!<br /> - -<span class="x-large table"><i>A Handy Monitor, Pocket Conscience<br /> -and Portable Guardian<br /> -against the World,<br /> -the Flesh and the<br /> -Devil.</i></span><br /> - -<p class="medium table">“Stop! To pause, knock off, let up, cheese it, switch off, give -it a rest, cut short, stand like a rock, kick against, shut down, bring up -with a round turn, hold hard,” etc.—<span class="smcap">Thesaurus</span>.</p> - -<p class="medium">“What would you, sir? I pray you <i>stop</i>, nor yield a hair to vicious -promptings!”—<span class="smcap">Moliere</span>.</p> - -<span class="large smcap">By MENTOR.</span><br /> -<span class="medium">AUTHOR OF “NEVER” AND “ALWAYS.”</span><br /> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/colophon.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<span class="copy table">NEW YORK:<br /> -COPYRIGHT, 1884, BY<br /> -<i>G. W. Carleton & Co., Publishers</i>.<br /> -LONDON: S. LOW & CO.<br /> -MDCCCLXXXIV.</span> -</div> -<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_2">2</span></p> - -<p class="copy"> -Stereotyped by<br /> -<span class="smcap">Samuel Stodder,<br /> -42 Dey Street, N. Y.</span><br /> -</p> -<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_3">3</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i005.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - - -<h2 id="Introduction"><i>Introduction.</i></h2> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/tb.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<p class="drop"><i><span class="uppercase">The</span> pining need of a work of this kind—an -instructive sharpener in book-form, as it -were, of the moral faculty—has long been so -seriously felt that the author eagerly hastens to -supply it.</i></p> - -<p><i>In</i> “<span class="smcap">Never</span>” <i>and</i> “<span class="smcap">Always</span>,” <i>his appeal -was rather to the externalities of life. In</i> -“<span class="smcap">Stop</span>,” <i>his aim is to regulate the very springs -of impulse, deliberation and resolve. In other</i> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_4">4</span> -<i>words, there is not a temptation that he would -not strip of its disguise, not an unworthy motive -that he would not pulverize as with a corrective -club, not a misleading conceit that he would -not skewer to its squirming source.</i></p> - -<p><i>Although the pearls of thought and monitory -gems herewith presented are intended mainly for -young men just entering upon the great work of -life, there is neither man nor maid, stripling nor -patriarch, saphead nor sage who may not scramble -for them with avidity, and glory in their possession.</i></p> - -<p><i>Young man, are you hesitating in the choice -of a vocation? A reference to the admonitions -under this head in</i> “<span class="smcap">Stop</span>” <i>may be the means of -your becoming a Millionaire, a Police Magistrate</i> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_5">5</span> -<i>or an ornament to society. Are you in love, or -willing to be? A consultation of the advice at -your command may place you in such hobnobbing, -soul-wedded relations with the rosy god as shall -cause you to charm, to captivate, and finally to -wrest the rapt, responsive throb from Beauty’s -battlemented heart. Are you a driveling idiot -in money matters? Imbibe, and be wise. And -so on, through all the departments of existence.</i></p> - -<p><i>Thus, panoplied, as it were, against the -World, the Flesh and the Devil, you might eventually, -in an agony of gratitude and wonderment, -eulogize the author in the significant words of -Hamlet, slightly altered, to the following effect:</i></p> - -<p><i>“’Sblood! he plays on me easier than on a -pipe! He would seem to know my</i> <span class="smcap">Stops</span>; <i>he</i> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_6">6</span> -<i>would pluck out the heart of my mystery; he -would sound me from my lowest notes to the top -of my compass; there is so much music, excellent -voice and incomparable counsel in this little -book!”</i></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i008.jpg" alt="" /> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_7">7</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i009.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="Contents"><i>Contents.</i></h2> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/tb.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<table> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_Choosing_a_Vocation">In Choosing a Vocation</a></td> - <td class="tdr">9</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_General_Deportment">In General Deportment</a></td> - <td class="tdr">19</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_Love_Affairs">In Love Affairs</a></td> - <td class="tdr">27</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_Money_Matters">In Money Matters</a></td> - <td class="tdr">39</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_Guarding_Against_Bad">In Guarding Against Bad Habits</a></td> - <td class="tdr">48</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_Judging_Others">In Judging Others</a></td> - <td class="tdr">55</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_Recreation">In Recreations</a></td> - <td class="tdr">64</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_The_Domestic_Relations">In the Domestic Relations</a></td> - <td class="tdr">73</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_Business_Life">In Business Life</a></td> - <td class="tdr">84</td> - </tr> - <tr> - <td><a href="#In_Thought_Word_and">In Thought, Word and Deed</a></td> - <td class="tdr">91</td> - </tr> -</table> -<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_8">8</span></p> -<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_9">9</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i011.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<p class="ph1">Stop!</p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/tb.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_Choosing_a_Vocation">In Choosing a Vocation.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop, first, and reflect what you are fit -for. To rush recklessly into an occupation -of which you are as ignorant as -a horse is of music, is not to be thought -of.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, next, and consider if what you have -in view is respectable. Or, if too much -of an ass to distinguish between banking -and bunco, for instance, read up -carefully on horse-sense. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_10">10</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, again, and be sure that your choice -is in keeping with your capacity. To -essay one of the learned professions if -wholly uneducated, speculative pursuits -if a natural born fool, or hod-carrying -if lily-handed, spindle-propped -and wasp-waisted, is hardly a proof of -intellectuality.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, your career being chosen, to master -its rudiments before essaying its higher -walks. Rome was not built in a day, -nor is any vocation a spring-board to -waft you into the empyrean at the -primary bounce.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop long enough to master the rule of -“addition, division and silence,” if seeking -political preferrment, or employment -as a confidential clerk.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop long enough in one vocation to give -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_11">11</span> -it a fair trial. Jacks-of-all-trades—men -who are studying law in the morning, -counter-hopping after dinner, peddling -soap to-day, starting a bank to-morrow—are -seldom successful.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and ponder deeply, before becoming -that pitiable object, a professional office-seeker. -Rather sink your independence -of thought and action at once by marrying -for money, or toadying upon a -rich relative.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if a lawyer’s office-boy, before intruding -your legal views upon your employer’s -graver consultations. Think! -Should you excite his professional envy -at the outset?</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if beginning as a dry-goods clerk, -before imagining yourself a silent partner -in the concern, with your four dollars -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_12">12</span> -a week as its chief investment. -Self-respect is one thing, unmitigated, -idiotic asininity another.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if at the tape-and-shoestrings counter, -before aspiring to the glittering -generalities of the ribbons and laces, or -the grave responsibilities of the white-goods -department. The cares of these -high functions may surpass your conception, -and we must creep before we -climb.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before entering the ministry, if without -religious convictions, a sacrilegious -scoffer, and morally depraved.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the ragged edge of the fallacy -that your place, or any man’s cannot be -filled by another. When men die, as -they all must, are their places not always -filled? -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_13">13</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the brink of blatant, unaccredited, -irresponsible quackery in anything, but -especially if desirous of becoming a -disciple of Hippocrates.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if contemplating a banking career, -and inquire if you have a mathematical -mind and attainments. A vague acquaintance -with the rule of three, together -with a mouth-watering desire for -colossal wealth, cannot alone enable -you to rival the wizards of finance.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before setting up on your own account, -unless thoroughly in earnest. -Even a peanut-stand may be dignified -by business energy and perseverance.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short, bring up with a round turn, at -any inducement, however dazzling, that -is not strictly honest. You can better -afford to be mediocre than obnoxious. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_14">14</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and consider well, before taking up -a patent lightning-rod. Agents are already -numerous, and farmers’ dogs on -the alert.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, before joining the army of commercial -drummers, and be sure that you -possess three qualifications in a superlative -degree, <i>i.e.</i>: cheek, pertinacity and -the gift of gab.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, should you become a drummer, at -the nineteenth lie in support of one line -of goods. Mendacity hath its limits, -and even the credulity of a yokel may -be gorged.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the giddy verge of over-estimate -in any business. “Hope,” says <i>Lacon</i>, -“is a prodigal young heir, and experience -is his banker; but his drafts are -seldom honored, because he draws -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_15">15</span> -largely on a small capital, is not yet in -possession, and if he were, would <i>die</i>.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, indignantly repel, all inducements -on the part of advertising sharks. Their -name is legion, and they seek but to -devour.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, howsoever tempted, at the allurements -of roguery, embezzlement, rascality, -and satanic suggestions of every -description. If you must be a cutpurse -let it be on the broad highway, pistol -in hand, dime-novel at heart, and the -gallows in sight.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if contemplating a political career, -and distinctly settle this question in -your mind: Am I to boss the party, or -is the party to boss me? There is -nothing like avoiding a confusion of -ideas. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_16">16</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, next, and be certain that your ambition -is not o’erleaping its aim. Pluck -bright honor from the pale-faced moon, -if possible, but to make a dead set for -the Presidency and bring up as a police-court -janitor, or coroner’s assistant, is -apt to prove discouraging.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, even if rich, before entering upon -pleasure as a business. Few constitutions -can long stand the racket, <i>ennui</i> -is the result, and premature death its -bourne.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before entering the literary profession, -if devoid of imagination, a proverbial -fool, and with but a lazy comprehension -of orthography, grammar and -syntax.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, next, and ask yourself, what great -author, dead or living, shall I emulate? -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_17">17</span> -Then, be your model Shakespeare or -Bartley Campbell, Thackeray or Tupper, -Byron or the <i>Burlington Hawkeye</i>, -stick to your ideal, revel in ink and -starve for glory.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if of a dramatic turn, before absolutely -forcing a manager to produce -your play. There are, unfortunately, -legal safeguards for even this species of -credulous, unsophisticated, professionals.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and reflect profoundly, before -adopting pugilism as a vocation, if constitutionally -weak in the back, color-blind, -short-winded, and timid to pusillanimity.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before deciding upon a histrionic -career, until satisfied that you are not -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_18">18</span> -better fitted for an auction-room or a -junk-shop.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, in any calling, long enough to become -familiar with the foot of the ladder -before clawing ineffectually at the -top-round. Beginning at the top, to -come down with a rush, is reserved for -millionaires’ sons, holders of winning -lottery-tickets and cat’s-paws of nominating -conventions.</p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i020.jpg" alt="" /> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_19">19</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i021.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_General_Deportment">In General Deportment.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop at the assumption of a supercilious, -ducal air, especially if small of stature, -monkey-brained and impecunious. This -is solely the privilege of floor-walkers, -brained midgets and actresses’ husbands.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, on the other hand, if tall and commanding, -before cultivating a creeping, -crushed demeanor, unless you are a colporteur -or dog-stealer.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the brink of wholly disregarding -the prevailing fashions. Knee-breeches, -shoe-buckles, a powdered wig, and a -swallow-tailed coat, with the waist-buttons -between the shoulder-blades, would -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_20">20</span> -stamp you as an eccentric at the present -day.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before despising the requirements of -the seasons. A straw-hat in a snow-storm, -for instance, would excite remark.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop when vanity counsels an excess of -ornament. To exhibit a jewel or two -with judgment is one thing, to groan -under a clanking avoirdupois of gauds -and trinkets another.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop at the claims of both a cadaverous -gravity and a causeless facetiousness of -demeanor. Neither the belfry owl nor -the proverbial basket of chips should be -your model in this regard.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the verge of unnecessary violence -in word and deed. Resent, if you must, -without preliminary roaring. The deadly -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_21">21</span> -submarine torpedo is terrible in its -explosion, but less noisy than the harmless -bursting of an inflated paper-bag.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before criticising what you do not -understand. The bore indulging in -this species of idiocy is deserving of an -enforced association with numerous -mothers-in-law in a whisper-gallery.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, indeed, snap your jaws to like a -spring-trap, at the very suggestion of -an oath or low expression. “Profanity,” -says <i>Lacon</i>, “never yet dignified -wrath nor emphasized a great purpose.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before indulging in covert sneers. -Indeed, “a good, mouth-filling oath” is -preferable, because less hypocritical, -but an ungarnished assertion is better -than either.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before meanly insinuating what -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_22">22</span> -should be plainly spoken. Even if a -man owes you money, which you think -he ought to pay, tell him so, or ask for -an explanation, instead of conveying -your meaning through an allusion to -his current expense or new clothes. -This is the course of a sneak and a -coward.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, rather, and bewail the abolition of -imprisonment for debt, or tell him that -he ought to live cheaply and go in rags -until he liquidates.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before assuming a rasping, file-edged, -whip-in-hand demeanor toward your dependents -or inferiors. Apart from its -villainously bad taste, the whirligig of -time may bring about a transposition of -relations, and then where are you?</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, on the other hand, ere adopting a -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_23">23</span> -groveling, sycophantic, ultra-ingratiating -manner with your superiors. “The -flavor that can only be won by fawning -servility is seldom of great worth.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before persisting in a style of laugh -that can betray your motives to your -disadvantage. The “He, he, he!” of -hypocrisy is as patent as the “Haw, -haw, haw!” of the windbag.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop at an unwarranted ostentation of -speech and bearing. The dung-hill -bird is distinguished quite as much by -his strut as by his vociferousness.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, in addressing a woman, and consider -the privilege of her sex, even if she may -have aggrieved you.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, on the other hand, before over-whelming -her with an excess of courtesy. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_24">24</span> -Over-attentiveness to women always inspires -a suspicion as to its motive.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before retailing a scandal, even if -convinced of its truth. This is the province -of the incorrigible gossip and the -newspaper reporter, with neither of -whom you can hope to cope.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the threshold of a temptation to -distort the truth. Plausibility in lying -is an art in which but few can earn distinction.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before disputing a fact, however distasteful, -that can be proved by statistical -evidence. Figures are not apt to -lie, save on gas-metres.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before adhering to an error through -a mistaken sense of shame. “Who acknowledgeth -his error showeth an increase -of wisdom; who stubbornly adhereth -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_25">25</span> -to what hath been disproved confesseth -himself a fool.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of the conceit that irresistibility -with the fair sex depends on good-looks -alone. The manners make the -man.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before aping the characteristics of another, -however exalted. The gesticulations -of the Frenchman would be unseemly -in the staid Hidalgo, and that -which would be a pleasing originality -in one might be a preposterous parody -in the imitator.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of the notion that wiseacre -looks and frigidity of manner will always -be indicative of reserved force and intellectual -acumen. The owl is the -solemnest and likewise the stupidest of -birds. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_26">26</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, whenever in moral doubt or distress, -and consult the masterly advice and -sage promptings of this jewel of a book. -It shall be unto you “as rivers of water -in a dry place, or the shadow of a great -rock in a weary land.”</p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i028.jpg" alt="" /> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_27">27</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i029.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_Love_Affairs">In Love Affairs.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop!—That burning thought—that delirium -in thy heart—as to the lovely -being whose image is before thee night -and day—is it such as her modesty and -virtue, her seraphic guilelessness should -inspire? if not, away with it—blot it -out!</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop! Was she rather plain than peerless, -and is it the thought of her father’s -bonds and shekels that now summons -the enamored hectic to thy virile cheek? -Away with it, likewise, and for shame! -Shall blood with boodle blend—emotion -cringe at Mammon’s beck—and Love -be unavenged? -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_28">28</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop! Stay yet again thy headlong -plunge! Was she yet lovely, an houri -of a dream, but still beneath thee in -family, station, fortune, and didst therefore -smile but to deceive? If so, hold -hard, hug this sweet volume to thy -heart of hearts, and sin no more!</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and meditate upon the three foregoing -paragraphs, for in them are embodied -the cardinal principles in making -love: Purity of purpose, Disinterestedness -and Truth.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop for some encouragement before -rendering your attentions universally -conspicuous. A glance of the eye, a -tremor of the lip, the merest shadow of -a blush upon the seashell-tinted cheek, -will suffice.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if such subtle signs are wanting or -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_29">29</span> -withheld, and plan some deep-laid -scheme to unveil heart’s predilection, -indifference, or dislike. Oysters and -ice-cream are still available in their respective -seasons.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before mistaking a passing fancy for -a wild, consuming maddening, over-mastering, -star-jostling passion. This -mistake has evoked more paternal -walking-sticks and breach-of-promise -suits than would keep a French novelist -in subject-matter for a twelvemonth.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, after falling head over ears in love, -to collect your senses and formulate -your plans. An inconsiderate, maniacal -rush into a declaration is often repented -at leisure.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if not certain of your ground, before -wholly unmasking your batteries. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_30">30</span> -Delicate attentions, even worshiping, -awe-struck glances from afar, are time-old -preliminaries, but none the less -effective.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, on the threshold of feverish -demonstration at the outset. Furnace-like -sighs, dazed, dumb-founded -looks, like those of an expiring calf, and -frenzied bodily contortions may be -brought to bear in their own good -time.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of opposing her tastes and convictions. -To gently chime with them, -whether you have any of your own or -not, while preserving a vigorous masculinity -in favor of quail-gorging, head-punching -and kindred noble sports, is -in the main commendable.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before vaunting a wild, atheistical -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_31">31</span> -or Ingersollian contempt for all things -sacred, if she should be of a deeply religious -turn. However, this is not to -prescribe a regular biblical course, a -very little of which goes a great way in -the wooing o’t.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before disclaiming all love for music, -or suggesting the banjo or bagpipe as -your favorite instrument, should she -dote on the opera, sing divinely and be -a piano-pounder of no mean ability in -her own person.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before depreciating anything the -dear creature does, or tries to do. -Eagerly demand another song, even if -the screech of her first has ruined your -tympanum, call her verses divine, if -they are no better than Tennyson’s -latest senility, swear that her favorite -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_32">32</span> -scent is yours, even if ’tis musk or garlic, -and build, build as with a wand, the -shining edifice of love!</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop right off at the idea that there may -be anything hypocritical or insincere -advised in the foregoing paragraph. -If really in love, you will religiously -believe everything you tell her, and more -too.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, first, however, and study the character -of your enchantress. All women -are no more to be wooed alike than -are all fish to be tempted with the same -kind of bait.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before addressing a brainy, well-read -penetrative divinity as you would a -laughing elf, a careless, careless fay, a -butterfly of mirth and joy. An Hypatia -is not a Hebe, and reflect! Would -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_33">33</span> -you tempt an eagle with a moth-light, -or a striped-bass with an eel-bob?</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if she be intellectual, and study up -to an equality with her tastes, should -you be her inferior. Then scientific -discussions, with poetry as a side-dish, -may gradually lead up to the delicious -desideratum of two hearts that beat as -one.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, at the error of preferring -her intellectual to her physical charms. -She is a lovely liar if she pretends to a -desire for such preference, and your sin -will be unpardonable, should you take -her at her word.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, in any case, before praising another -woman’s good-looks in the adored one’s -presence. In fact, you can afford her -no pleasanter flattery than by a systematic -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_34">34</span> -depreciation of a prettier woman’s -charms.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if she be a Hebe, we will say, and -plunge recklessly amid her paucity of -ideas. Flounder in folly, palpitate with -persiflage, at her giggling beck; and -here is ample opportunity for the silent -eloquence of the nosegay, the oyster, or -the iced refreshment, not less than for -the princely prodigality of the opera, -the midnight coupe and the church fair -lottery.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of any display of fear in her -presence, even if you are timorous to -the core. Let her do the shrieking at -the onset of a mouse, but stand you as -the rugged rock, the beaten anvil, or -the rooted oak! You might even trample -out a croton-bug occasionally, with -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_35">35</span> -a cold, feelingless laugh. Imperturbability -in peril was never yet a masculine -fault in gentle woman’s eyes.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before incurring the dislike of the -fair one’s little brothers or sisters. The -malapert maliciousness of <i>l’enfant terrible</i> -may occasion mortifications without -number.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before losing your temper with a -rival in your charmer’s presence. If -you must come to blows, let it be in a -retired spot, but it were far better to -sit him out, beat him on bouquets, gum -drops and theatre-tickets, or otherwise -defeat him in the rosy lists.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop at the one thousandth kiss, after -receiving the coveted “Yes” from the -adored one’s lips. Byron, it is true, in -one of his callow effusions, counsels a -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_36">36</span> -million, but, as a conscientious Mentor, -we prefer to draw the line somewhere -even in such an emotional proceeding.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, discontinue the siege altogether, in -case of a downright rejection, howsoever -reluctant, howsoever tearful. -Don’t put up with the sisterly substitute, -either; but just float out grandly -on the ebb-tide of broken hopes, until -brighter eyes a welcome shine to solace -and to cheer.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before imagining, if accepted, that -your ordeal is now nearly at an end. -Why, gentle sir, it hath just begun. -You are now owned.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short at the idea that even your -former devotion is still in order. If it -was a bouquet or two per week before, -it is now a cart-load per day; your male -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_37">37</span> -familiars must sigh for you in vain—your -off-nights are things of the past; -you are on exhibition, not only to your -<i>fiancée’s</i> family, but to the world at -large; you are an engaged man!</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the verge of suicidal despair as a -result of your first lovers’ quarrel. This -is but the pepper-sauce of passion, the -curry of courtship, the horse-radish of -happiness, without which that crowning -reflection, the kiss-gilt, teardrop-rainbowed -making-up were banished forever -from Love’s golden feast!</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, in a general way, before making -love for the fun of the thing. There is -no meaner, more reptilian creature in -society than the professional male -flirt.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before yielding an iota to the allurements -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_38">38</span> -of a notorious coquette. Heartlessness -is her dower, emotional misery -her delight, falseness her stock in trade, -and the ashen Dead Sea fruit the only -reward in her power, even if she love at -last.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before permitting your admiration of -an actress, or ballet dancer, to glide -into a master passion. Disenchantment, -if desired, is mostly within easy reach, -and you can console yourself with the -reflection that there is far more beauty -off the stage than on it.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of making love at all, if you -are not of an affectionate disposition; -or, when too late—that is, when married, -love will be likely to stop short of -you. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_39">39</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i041.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_Money_Matters">In Money Matters.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop, first, and understand the value of -money—the importance of never being -without <i>some</i> money, even if a very -little.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, next, and understand that money is -nothing in itself alone, but valuable and -powerful only in what it will purchase -and <i>can</i> purchase. A pure love of it -for itself, and not for what it represents, -develops a loathsome disease—the disease -of miserliness.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of envying the rich, even if -penniless yourself. A philosophical -reflection as to the causes of your bad -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_40">40</span> -fortune, together with a resolve to mend -it by a more enlightened course, is your -only remedy.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, yet shorter of the vulgar, -pigheaded notion that money, even by -the ton-weight, can be everything without -moral or intellectual backing. If -this were so, wealth would be more -glorious than wisdom, which happily, it -is not.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before parting with money, even to -an insignificant amount, without some -sort of equivalent. This rule need not -render you either parsimonious or -uncharitable, since even alms-giving -brings a return in the consciousness of -having yielded to a kindly impulse.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before cultivating a hoarding spirit, -and remember that, logically, as between -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_41">41</span> -the miser and the spendthrift, the latter -has the best of the bargain. For, while -the spendthrift has the selfish satisfaction -of squandering his fortune in his -own person, the miser is the dupe of -his own self-denial, for the benefit of -others who come after him.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, before emulating the -spendthrift any more than the miser. -If there is never any love for the -scheming parsimony of the one, neither -is there ever any gratitude for the -thoughtless largesse of the other.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and reflect well, before borrowing -money under any circumstances. To -an honest man, indebtedness is ever a -double torture—self-torture in the -haunting possibility of not being able -to keep his word, and the torture of -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_42">42</span> -imagining what, in that case, will be -thought of him.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, dead, before borrowing money that -you are not sure of being able to repay. -As for the man who borrows without -the <i>intention</i> to repay, he is even worse -than a professional thief, and as fully -deserving of social ostracism.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before becoming that unmitigated -bore, a chronic borrower. He is at best -a pitiful creature, shunned even when -commiserated, and the strongest ties of -friendship cannot long withstand the -wrench of his proximity.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, even before lending money to a -friend, and reflect that non-liquidation -must cost you your money, and <i>may</i> -cost you—your friend.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, if you mean to grant a -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_43">43</span> -request for a loan, and grant it freely. -To produce it as if extracting a wisdom-tooth, -or accompany it with a stereotyped -moral lecture on the hardness of -the times, etc., is much like placing his -request on a level with mendicancy.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short—indeed, as abruptly as you -please—of lending money to a known -profligate or spendthrift. The proverbial -blood from a turnip may be -sooner expected than genuine thankfulness -for an accommodation from such a -source, and the probability is that he -will secretly laugh at you for a fool.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, and reflect well before -adopting a general and irrevocable rule -of never lending money under any circumstances. -Many eminent men, the -reverse of hard-hearted, have conscientiously -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_44">44</span> -adopted this rule, but whether -it is the best, as the world goes, is a -question.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before compromising with such a -rule by offering as a gift that which is -entreated as a loan. This is the course -usually pursued by the eminent men -alluded to above; but such a proffer is -always humiliating, and often insulting.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before running in debt, even for -groceries or beer, for that for which you -can pay on the spot. It is a pernicious -habit that must steadily engender looser -and looser notions about money matters.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before adopting honesty as your -standard merely on the immorally aphoristic -grounds of its being the best -policy. True integrity should stand on -its merits, win or lose; whereas any -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_45">45</span> -shrewd rascal would be honest on occasion, -if satisfied that he would <i>make</i> by -it.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, rather, and fortify your uprightness -on the broad grounds, “that <i>honesty is -not only the deepest policy, but the highest -wisdom</i>; since however difficult it may -be for integrity to get on, it is a thousand -times more difficult for knavery to -<i>get off</i>.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before cultivating an inordinate desire -to get rich in haste. In ninety-nine -cases out of a hundred it will develop -into a species of frenzy that must over-reach -and defeat its aims.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, rather, and understand that in speculation, -the prizes of the few are only -rendered possible by the ruin of the -many. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_46">46</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before setting up financial comets—that -is suddenly-rich men—as your exemplars. -The exceptional boldness, -or unscrupulousness which constituted -their <i>open sesame</i> to dazzling fortune, -may but fling wide, for the mediocre -imitator, the doors of poverty or of the -state prison.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop when you have achieved a comfortable -competence, and devote yourself -to the rational enjoyment thereof. To -be stacking up dollars and securities to -the last gasp is worse than making a -hell on earth; since it is a perversity so -obtuse as to imagine that as heaven -which is in truth a hell.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and remember, that the accumulation -of wealth, as a sole pursuit, is a -diseased passion, just as much as is the -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_47">47</span> -craving for strong drink, or for the excitement -of gambling.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, therefore, in the headlong race for -money, and so intersperse that pursuit -with knowledge and unselfish deeds, -with moral and intellectual recreations, -as shall render it the chief means, rather -than the chief end, of a useful existence.</p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i049.jpg" alt="" /> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_48">48</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i050.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_Guarding_Against_Bad">In Guarding Against Bad -Habits.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop before cultivating an inordinate self-conceit, -and remember that real worth is -mostly modest, while those persons are -the vainest who have the least to be -vain of.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before contracting a habit of exaggeration. -This is the stock-in-trade -of the cheap penny-a-liner, while the -strength of the true historian lies in -conscientious statement.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of fancying that such exaggeration -can impress others with your imaginative -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_49">49</span> -powers. Were this true, the -grimaces of a baboon might be ascribed -to emotional fine frenzy.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before contracting the habit of lying, -even in a harmless way. But this -fault is as naturally the outgrowth of -extravagance or looseness of statement, -as is the noxious weed of the miscellaneous -muck that stimulates it into -useless being.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of listlessness in word, look -and deed. A perfunctory person is -never in demand, and Rip Van Winkle -only indemnified society in sleeping out -his twenty years.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and do nothing, rather than procrastinate -indefinitely. Untrustworthiness -is the final result of procrastination, -and a reputation for that is tantamount -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_50">50</span> -to elimination from the world’s -employment.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop far short of any indulgence that can -affect your general reputation. “The -two most precious things this side the -grave,” says <i>Lacon</i>, “are our reputation -and our life; the most contemptible -whisper may deprive us of the one, the -weakest weapon of the other.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop the use of tobacco, if addicted to it, -but especially in the form of chewing, -the vileness of this practice is in no wise -mitigated by its prevalence.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop smoking, also, at its first threatened -inroad upon the general health. To -persist in it thereafter is a confession of -both moral and mental weakness.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the threshold of gambling of -every description, and, if already in the -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_51">51</span> -toils, shut down on the practice with all -the ponderosity at your command.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, moreover, and understand that -gambling—the worship of chance—is -death to the soul, to faith in human -nature, to man’s nobler attributes. In -this regard, it is more literally demoralizing -than alcoholic drunkenness; and -there is yet to be found the veteran -professional gambler who is not a materialistic -atheist.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, once more, and remember that every -man who will play cards for money, will -in time, cheat. He may set out honestly -enough, but it is only a question of time -before he will take an unfair advantage -in <i>self-defense</i>. What, then, can be -thought of a practice that almost necessitates -dishonesty? -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_52">52</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop—hold! That “D—n!” upon thy -lips! Would not “Confound it!” “The -deuce take it!” or simply “Bless me!” -emphasize resentment or annoyance -equally well? Or, still better, is there -any need for emphasis at all?</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, above all, before falling into the -profane habit, upon no provocation. A -passionless, half-conscious interlarding -of speech with oaths and epithets is as -idiotic as it is disgusting.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the verge of becoming anecdotal -to excess. Second only to the confirmed -scandal-bearer is the friend whose -encounter one must dodge for fear of -being made the repository of some long-winded -anecdote, or pointless pun.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of narrating indecent stories. -Unfortunately, nearly all stories of much -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_53">53</span> -point that are interchanged among men -are of this description; <i>ergo</i>, eschew the -retailing of them, on your own part, -altogether.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before becoming the slave of any depraved -appetite. To take the appetite -for strong drink as an illustration, it -is a terrible enchantress—siren, bacchante, -or task-mistress, at will. One -can seldom coquette with but he marries -her at last; when, like the Lamia of -the legend, she turns to a serpent in the -embrace, and her dalliance is despair -and death.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before contracting a habit of belittling -or sneering at what you do not -understand. This is but the pasteboard -buckler with which the fool would shield -his self-love. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_54">54</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before habitually ascribing mean or -sordid motives to others upon mere -conjecture.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of any habit that can fruitlessly -waste one’s time or substance, since the -one is more than money, because, once -dissipated, it can never be replaced, and -the other is the very means of life.</p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i056.jpg" alt="" /> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_55">55</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i057.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_Judging_Others">In Judging Others.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop before gauging a person’s capacity -solely by his physiognomy. Lafayette’s -forehead suggested idiocy, Keats, the -poet, had the jaws of a prize-fighter, -and warriors of the Salvation Army -have been mistaken (before opening -their mouths) for men of intelligence.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, before judging people altogether -on antithetic grounds. To -invariably accept a monkey-jawed, rat-eyed, -ear-shadowed countenance as a -criterion for mental profundity, for -instance, or crime-sodden, sin-exhaling -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_56">56</span> -bulldog traits as suggestive of ethical -culture or religious zeal, is hardly to be -recommended.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before judging others, especially -men, wholly by their dress and manners. -A millionaire may be “shabby-genteel” -and retiring to excess, whereas professional -scoundrels are often notorious -for a fashionable exterior and distinction -of bearing “as to the manner -born.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the verge of taking dress and -ornament as a sure indication of a -woman’s character or station. You -might regret mistaking a quietly-attired -unadorned heiress for a shirt-maker in -distress; or a fourth-class pawnbroker’s -wife, beringed and bediamonded from -bang to belt, for a sorceress of fashion. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_57">57</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before judging people disparagingly -by their eccentricities. A poet, for -instance, may indulge in long hair, without -necessarily being an <i>æsthete</i> or a -cowboy; the habit of talking to one’s-self -is no proof of a guilty conscience; -and absent-mindedness in many forms -has accompanied the possession of -exceptional capacity.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, before accepting such -betrayals as positive indications of -either genius, talent or brains. To do -this would be to libel the ordinarily -well-behaved people who have some -respect for the amenities of existence.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, for instance, ere ascribing pure -benevolence to the absent-mindedness -that mistakes your silk umbrella for a -mislaid gingham one, shaky in the -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_58">58</span> -ribs, feruled with long service, and filtery -at the seams.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop and draw a line likewise, at the abstraction -that finds its hand in your -pocket, or creeps in at your bedroom -window, or is blandly oblivious as to -whether it owes you money, or <i>vice -versa</i>.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and turn the question over in your -mind: True enough, there is a chance -of such eccentricities being the concomitants -of a certain sort of talent, but is -it exactly the sort that ought to be -encouraged?</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if naturally dishonest or vicious -yourself, and inquire if you can fairly -judge others according to your own corrupt -standard. This may prevent your -giving yourself away, besides leavening -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_59">59</span> -your collective baseness with a grain -or two of charity.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, if honest and well-meaning—and, -indeed, it is mainly for such that -this symposium of golden precepts is -prepared—and remember, as a stimulant -to careful discrimination in these -things, that your own superficialities -may be constantly and cruelly misjudged.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of supposing that you have no -superficialities, or but few, to be judged -by. The visibility of existence is -largely made up of them; it is, perhaps -even well that the heart is not often -worn upon the sleeve; and equally well -that our externals are but deceptive indices -of the springs of action, the blots -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_60">60</span> -and foibles they disguise, else were the -wisest of us each other’s sport.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before taking mildness and retirement -of manner for a want of resolution -or courage. True greatness in anything -is seldom self-celebrating, and it is as -true as proverbial that “still waters -run deep.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, on the other hand, before setting -down a strutting self-importance as invariably -betokening a wind-bag or a -nincompoop. Modesty is, unfortunately, -not always the hand-maid of merit.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before mistaking ostentation for -generosity, or calm acceptance for ingratitude. -“As the mean have a calculating -avarice that sometimes inclines -them to give, so the magnanimous have -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_61">61</span> -a condescending generosity that sometimes -inclines them to receive.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before despising in another the demonstrativeness -that you would despise -in yourself. The babble of the brook -is as natural as the stillness of the pool -and temperamental differences are always -to be considered.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before regarding extreme particularity -in dress as an invariable evidence of -intellectual insignificance. It often is -so, but nine-tenths of the shabbily-attired -men of brains would dress better -if they could afford to.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop on the dizzy verge of mistaking an -excessive and painstaking courtesy for -a genuine and heartfelt interest. It -should rather put you on your guard.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of the old-time cynicism of regarding -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_62">62</span> -every man as a rascal until he -shall have afforded proofs to the contrary. -Such a wholesale distrust of human -nature is creditable to neither the -head nor the heart.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before sweepingly condemning a discreditable -action the temptations to -which are outside your own experience. -Even to “put yourself in his place” is -not always available for the formation -of intelligent criticism in such cases.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before lightly assigning reasons for -another’s domestic troubles. The closet-skeleton -is a strictly local spectre that -is not the less terrible by reason of the -narrowness of its haunting powers.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of disparaging the charity that -methodizes and calculates its smallest -alms. There is an enlightened self-interest -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_63">63</span> -that relieves more real distress -than all the off-handed gratuities that -are bestowed.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before impugning self-seeking motives -to a good deed that redounds to -the doer’s advantage. Even if partly -premeditated to this end, the result, if -humanitarian in its general influence, is -not the less useful and noble.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before judging a man solely by his -errors or misfortunes. The former may -have been circumstantially unavoidable, -as the latter may have been undeserved.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before adopting the stereotyped, -canting “I-might-have-told-you-so” criticism -in the case of a friend who has -fallen. The helping hand is then in -order, if ever at all; and he is doubtless -aware of the cause of his disgrace, -without your telling him. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_64">64</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i066.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_Recreation">In Recreation.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop before making a regular business of -any form of diversion, which then ceases -to be either recreative or relaxing, and -but adds to the tissue-waste that should -be restored.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, next, and consider that recreation, -in its literal and best sense, is something -more than relaxation. More than -to merely loosen, slacken and remit, to -recreate is to revive, reanimate, recuperate -and build up afresh.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, therefore, before playing billiards or -pool every night for five or six hours -at a stretch, under the mistaken notion -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_65">65</span> -that you are combining recreation with -amusement.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, rather, and consider if the nervous -tension produced by an unremitting -desire to win, and thus saddle your adversary -with the cost of the game, may -not be greater than the wear and tear -of the routine business from which you -are seeking relief.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of the error that billiards in -public is a wholly innocent diversion, -when candid reflection must convince -you to the contrary. The associations -are mostly the reverse of refined, the -gambling principle is necessarily involved, -and say what you will, non-success -is ever attended by a sense of exasperation.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop wondering why you don’t feel freshened -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_66">66</span> -up for business after a ten hours’ -siege of whisky-poker, uninterrupted -cigars, and consequent loss of sleep.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before fancying chess-playing as any -sort of relaxation whatever from mental -exertion. The game, being a constant -mental exercise, in itself should form a -diversion from physical, rather than -from intellectual, over-work.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of daily conviviality after business -hours. The idea that regular rum -or beer-guzzling, even with the merriest -of companions, can be sooner or latter -anything but injurious is either hypocritical -or ridiculous.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, likewise, short of spreeing as a relief -from business cares. Indeed, as between -the hebdomadal hurrah and the -diurnal hoist, the distinction is so -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_67">67</span> -thoroughly relative to the confessedly -evil effects in both cases as not to be -worthy of consideration.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before seeking recreation in low resorts. -Give them all a wide berth—concert-saloons, -dives, dens, hells, -houses of ill-repute, bucket-shops, slums, -cribs, joints—all! and remember that -what is essentially debasing can never -reanimate exhaustion or repair fatigue.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before patronizing a low performance -of any description. Dog-fights, -rat-baitings, cocking-mains, <i>et al.</i>, are -happily surreptitious now, but there are -equally immoral exhibitions still in -vogue to tempt the thoughtless and -unwary.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before seeking recreation in sensuous -performances or spectacles. True, -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_68">68</span> -the ballet is often fascinating, but—Well, -let the line be drawn sharply just -after the ballet, at all events.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before attempting either skating, -bicycling, or horse-back exercise in public, -as a gentle and graceful relaxation, -when wholly inexperienced, if you would -both corruscate and career.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before making a specialty of any -kind of recreation that is beyond your -means. Otherwise, you may not infrequently -exclaim, with <i>Hamlet</i>, “For -O, for O, the hobby-horse is forgot!”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop at the yawning abyss of resorting to -opium, or any similar drug, as a relief -from care. As the alcoholic habit has -been likened to an enchantress, a circean -witch, so the opium habit is a -dream-woman, the sorceress of a phantom -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_69">69</span> -realm, elysian at first, but changing -at last into a horror-haunted sphere that -appals the spirit while it tortures and -consumes the frame.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before applying yourself to excessive -gymnastics as a relaxation, if a horse-car -conductor or a letter-carrier. Variety -is the spice of life.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if engaged in wholly intellectual -pursuits, before reading dry and statistical -books, such as Patent Reports, as -a pleasing and hilarious change.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before joining a club with whose -objects you are unfamiliar. To find -yourself unawares, for instance, in the -bosom of a hoodlum coterie when in -search of Christian refinement, or unexpectedly -affiliated with a Bible society -when thirsting for roaring and convivial -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_70">70</span> -companionship, would be alike uncongenial.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before seeking recreation in travel, -if without money. True, commercial -drummers and tramps have attained -some success in this field, but neither -the talents of the one class nor the -methods of the other are to be cordially -recommended.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before indulging in the rougher -athletic sports for which you are physically -unqualified. Study your capacities -well—take in the entire athletic range, -from jackstraws to Indian clubs, from -the bean-bag to foot-ball—and discriminate -for all you are worth.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before instituting any home-amusement -that shall bind you to the house -of evenings forever thereafter. You -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_71">71</span> -might really want to go out and “see a -man,” but the excuse would avail you -little with the charming home-game -awaiting your patronage.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before frequenting any lounging -place, be it beer-saloon or cigar-shop, so -much as to become a figure-head of the -premises. Not to loaf at all is an excellent -general rule.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before attempting recreation “on the -road” in an ultra-economical way. A -livery-stable plug, hobbling ambitiously -before a battered sleigh or antediluvian -buggy, in the midst of swell turn-outs -and speeding teams, would doubtless -cause something of a sensation, but -would it be of the most enviable kind?</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of seeking mental repose by -attending “excursions” in which bibulous -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_72">72</span> -feats and glee-club improvisations -bid fair to make up the chief fund of -amusement.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of practical jokes as a relief -for the work-oppressed brain. As between -jok<i>er</i> and jok<i>ee</i>, the entertainment -is mostly altogether with the -former, and one-sided or top-heavy -diversions are both selfish and untimely.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and be sure that you have a work-oppressed -brain, before rushing wildly -into any recreation whatever. The -former is often imaginary, or a hypocritical -excuse for demanding a pastime, -which is then, as a consequence, apt to -prove much harder work than play. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_73">73</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i075.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_The_Domestic_Relations">In The Domestic Relations.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of thinking that marriage and -settlement in life can acquit you of the -tenderness and reverence due your parents, -even if they are well-to-do. It is -a moral obligation which, contracted at -your birth, should cease not even with -their death, but live on and on, an -evergreen of the memory, an amaranth -of the heart.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before reserving for the bosom of -your own family the fits of ill-temper -that you would be ashamed of if public. -This is putting your own household -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_74">74</span> -on a level with a private bear-garden, -whose limited spectators cannot be -over-grateful for the privilege accorded.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of supposing that your wife -is anything less than an equal partner -in the hymeneal firm. Even if she came -to you penniless, the idea that she is -thenceforth indebted to you for home, -position or freedom from care, is a -barbarism fortunately obsolete in this -country.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, likewise, short of the imported -notion, also obsolete, that she <i>belongs</i> to -you other than by the free heart-gift -that inspired her marriage vows, or that -she is in any sense your property. The -cherishing of such a sentiment is degrading -alike to husband and wife.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before denying to your wife the -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_75">75</span> -right to have little secrets of her own, -if you claim the same privilege for yourself. -A loving and trusted wife will -have no important secrets apart from -her husband.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of altogether distrusting her in -money matters. Even if she have but -little common sense in such things, her -wifehood is a responsibility for which -you are responsible, and which cannot -be wholly nullified without humiliating -her.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of denying her the possession -of some pocket-money of her own, if -but very little. “During my married -life,” said a prominent lecturer on -woman’s rights, “I never had a cent of -pocket-money that I was not forced to -<i>steal</i> from my husband.” And this -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_76">76</span> -statement will evoke more reflection -than censure in the thoughtful mind.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before grumblingly supplying the -household demands. This practice of -growling over a domestic expenditure, -which is but a tithe of what your next -“good time with the boys” will cost -you, is more prevalent than sensible.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before placing any one over your -wife’s head in her own house. Be it -mother-in-law, sister-in-law, or any one -else, the course is alike risky and unwise.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before cultivating a dislike or niggardliness -for your wife’s passion for -dress, if it is accompanied by a refined -taste and an earnest desire to be within -what you can afford. Fine feathers -may not always make fine birds, but a -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_77">77</span> -naturally attractive woman is undeniably -more lovable and attractive when -tastefully attired than otherwise.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop long before relinquishing, after marriage, -the delicate little attentions and -sacrifices that were so acceptable during -your courtship. A lover-husband will -make a sweetheart-wife, and for such -the honey-moon need have no wane.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, however, dead short of uxoriousness -to a degree that shall excite a smile or -comment. The former is apt to be -exasperating, and the latter of a nature -the reverse of soothing to your <i>amour -propre</i>.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before developing a womanish desire -to interfere with domestic arrangements -outside of your province. In other -words, never be what your wife might -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_78">78</span> -call a “cock-biddy,” and your cook “an -intermiddling mon.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before developing a fault-finding -disposition with the cooking or other -accommodations, or first be sure that -you are not more responsible for the -faults than your wife.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of concealing the fact from your -wife, if she is falling unconsciously into -slovenly and unkempt personal habits -when only in your presence. Let her -but comprehend that this is a wifely -neglect that has driven many a husband -into neater but unscrupulous feminine -society, and speedy amendment must -follow.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before holding your wife accountable -for every little smile or frankness -accorded to her antenuptial admirers. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_79">79</span> -’Tis the watched fire that languishes; -and, should she meditate treason, she -would not hint it by so much as a rush-light.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before letting her know it, if you -find out that your marriage has been -a mistake. Doubtless this will make -itself felt, despite your utmost precautions, -and her sufferings in making the -sad discovery will then challenge your -compunction, your pity and your redoubled -devotion, if you are a true -man.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before laughing at piety in your wife, -even if an infidel yourself. “Wise men -like to have pious wives,” says Emerson, -“and it is well for all concerned -that it should be so.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before betraying your weaknesses to -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_80">80</span> -your children. Even a hypocritical assumption -of a morality that you do not -always practice is preferable to self-exposure -in this regard.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before correcting them in the presence -of outsiders. The self-respect of -a little child, once wounded to the -quick, is long in healing; and some -consideration is due, moreover, to the -outsiders.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before punishing a child when influenced -by anger. The punishment -then ceases to be corrective, and is only -resentful; whereas the helplessness of -the child should of itself evoke but -magnanimity.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, when thus impelled by anger, and -reflect if you would as readily seek to -gratify it, were no such disparity existent—that -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_81">81</span> -is, where the child as big and -powerful as yourself.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before threatening a chastisement -that you don’t intend to inflict. Or, if -you must persist in this course, don’t -ascribe the continued disobedience, -which is its inevitable outgrowth, to -anything but your own weakness.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of deception or untruth in your -dealings with your children, if you -would impress them with the opposite -sentiments.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, in this regard, and reflect that, if the -childish mind is wax to early impressions, -it is of a kind that hardens with -the imprint, and that from the hardening -process spring the imitation and -the <i>emulation</i>, which must gradually -corrupt or ennoble, as the case may be. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_82">82</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before assuming a bullying tone or -attitude toward your family or your domestics. -Vaporings of this description -are always in wretched taste, and a -home-circle that must needs be terrorized -is little to be envied.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before living beyond, or even quite -up to your means, and be not ambitious -to make an outside show at the expense -of internal comfort.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of lessening the significance of -old-time festivities, such as Thanksgiving -Day, Christmas, New Year’s and -birth-day observances, simply because -you have yourself outgrown their zest.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before repressing any innocent propensity -to <i>gush</i> on the part of your wife -or children. It is a chill home-fountain -that will not occasionally overflow. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_83">83</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, if possible, before ever disturbing -your family peace with even so much as -an unkind or hasty word. The pretty -lines,</p> - -<div class="poetry"><div class="poem"><div class="stanza"> -<span class="i0">“We have greeting words for the stranger,<br /></span> -<span class="i2">And smiles for the sometime guest,<br /></span> -<span class="i0">But oft for Our Own the bitter tone.<br /></span> -<span class="i2">Though we love Our Own the best,”<br /></span> -</div></div></div> - -<p class="i4">should never be pertinent in a wise -man’s household.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before assuming an oracular or infallible -attitude—in other words, setting -yourself up as a small god—before -your own family. Ten to one, it is an -assumption that you cannot maintain -with any degree of consistency, and one -which may entail a humiliating back-down -when least expected. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_84">84</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i086.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_Business_Life">In Business Life.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of attempting a business enterprise -wholly beyond your mental and -financial equipment. To attempt the -<i>rôle</i> of a railroad magnate, for instance, -when you have the soul of a licensed -fish-vender, or the manipulation of a -government loan with hardly enough -capital for a fruit-stand, would be more -ambitious than wise.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before adopting rigorous and unbending -methods that, under a change -of fortune, can be quoted against you -to your disadvantage. Thus, to never -lend money, on principle, when prosperous, -but be perfectly willing to borrow -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_85">85</span> -it when broke, might subject you to unpleasant -comment.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before assuming a domineering, -Jovian tone toward those with less -money than you, even if you have a corner -on the market. Men are often like -rats in this, that they fight when they -are cornered.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop when already so deep into a hopeless -speculation that you can’t beg or -borrow another cent, when certain ruin -stares you in the face, and even your -pawn-tickets are at a discount. Forlorn -hopes are only practicable in serial -stories and war.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, even at the height of prosperity, -and make sure of the future by settling -upon your family a competence that -shall thenceforth forever be secured to -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_86">86</span> -them, come what may. This prudent -course, feasible and honorable during -prosperity, would be just the reverse if -deferred until after business disaster -may have come.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of imagining that there is -any more <i>luck</i> in a legitimate business -than in games of chance—in other -words, that there is any at all. Or, if -there is any, it consists of superior -energy, foresight, shrewdness and application, -wherein, of course, the stronger -wins while the weaker goes to the -wall.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and reflect well, before venturing -outside of a legitimate, fairly-paying -business upon the sea of speculation, -which is in reality but gambling under -another name. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_87">87</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before cultivating a reputation for -either over-credulity or relentless hard -bargaining in business life. The one -will be abused, while the other will -foster enmities through the abuse it -practices.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of uncompromising martinetism -toward your employees. Our -clerks, for instance, can no longer be -treated as apprentices; many of them -are rich men in embryo; and with -what satisfaction and gratitude do -powerful millionaires often recall slight -kindnesses and encouragements received -from their employers when they -were nothing but obscure clerks or -office-boys!</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before choosing business quarters of -a magnitude and pretension wholly out -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_88">88</span> -of keeping with your trade and custom. -There is a laughable case in point, in -the upper part of New York, where a -diminutive, tumble-down junk-shop displays -a flaring sign with the preposterous -legend: “Great American Mammoth -Junk Emporium.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before advertising your commodities -for something better than they really -are. This is to cheat yourself in the -long run, for the average of public -buyers rarely allow themselves to be -deliberately swindled twice by the same -liar.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of supposing that the hackneyed -phrase, “Business is business,” -can ever excuse a downright dishonest -transaction in the opinion of <i>all</i> your -business acquaintances. -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_89">89</span></p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, therefore, before setting the majority -of them down as secretly unprincipled, -and vaunting their uprightness -as a mask. Money-loving as they are, -the majority of those whose good -opinion is worth having are personally -honest at the core.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of being dazzled by mere business -success, irrespective of questionable -or dangerous methods by which it may -have been achieved. Unless the means -shall have justified the result, there can -be no praiseworthy success.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of supposing that spasmodic -cleverness can ever take the place of -solid method, organized effort and settled -application in any respectable -calling.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and go easy before provoking a -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_90">90</span> -powerful business hostility, if possible, -but never to the sacrifice of a true principle; -and, war being fully declared (<i>i.e.</i>, -competition, ruthless and uncompromising), -let it be to the knife, to the -bitter end, till the last pecuniary sinew -snaps!</p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i092.jpg" alt="" /> -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_91">91</span></p> - -<p class="figcenter"> -<img src="images/i093.jpg" alt="" /> -</p> - -<h2 id="In_Thought_Word_and">In Thought, Word and -Deed.</h2> - -<p class="hang">Stop before even thinking unworthily. -Not to entertain in the mind what you -would blush to speak or put in writing -is an excellent general rule of -ethics.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before nourishing a pride of nationality. -This is even more unreasonable -than the pride of ancestry, for the greatness -of the latter may be in some degree -inherited, while for the mere accident -of birth-<i>place</i> a man is as irresponsible -as he is unentitled to plume himself -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_92">92</span> -upon historical greatness in the abstract.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, also, before cherishing even a pride -of race. This is wholly distinct from -the virtue of Patriotism, in its best -sense; is opposed to the enlightened -spirit of the age; and is one of the narrowest -of prejudices.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of despising public spirit in -others, or eliminating it from your own -calculations. The most insignificant -pot-house politician is of more worldly -use than the most gifted misanthrope. -No amount of selfish seclusion or isolation -can absolve one from his duty of -fellowship.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before making butts of others, -especially by reason of personal peculiarities -for which they are in no wise -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_93">93</span> -responsible. The old aphorism about -stone-throwing in relation to glass domiciles -is always in order; and even a -natural-born fool is more to be pitied -than ridiculed.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop putting in words that which you -would not do, or putting in writing that -which you would not sign.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, and remember that an ill-considered -angry word may, on the breath of hearsay, -become a winged seed, from which -shall spring a poisonous upas growth, -whose deadly influence could not have -been dreamed of at its inception.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop before falling into apathy, before becoming -a do-nothing, through discouragements. -“A great mind,” says <i>Lacon</i>, -“may change its objects, but it cannot -relinquish them; it must have something -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_94">94</span> -to pursue. Variety is its relaxation, -and amusement its repose.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of being painstaking to excess -in what you would pass off as improvised. -Over-elaboration in this regard -may be likened to the dishabille in -which a coquette would wish you to -think you have surprised her, after -spending hours at her toilet.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop short of supposing that rascality can -be as uniformly logical as honesty. -Villains are usually the worst casuists, -and rush into <i>greater</i> crimes to avoid -<i>less</i>.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, in combating the World, and reflect -that by resisting its temptations you -master the secret of ultimately possessing -its noblest prizes, the respect of -your fellows, and the proudest self-respect -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_95">95</span> -in having successfully withstood -not in order to achieve, but from a -sense of moral duty.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, in resisting the allurements of the -Flesh, and consider that by subjecting -them to the yoke of reason, your capacity -for rational fleshly enjoyment is -both intensified and prolonged.</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, in fighting the Devil (<i>i.e.</i>, moral -perverseness,) and remember that your -victory will be evidence of moral balance -on your own part, rather than of -faint-heartedness on His Inky Majesty’s. -And you may likewise recall with complacency -Emerson’s indictment, where -he says, “It stands to reason that the -Devil is an ass.”</p> - -<p class="hang">Stop, after having fairly floored the Machiavellian -triumvirate, the World, the -<span class="pagenum" id="Page_96">96</span> -Flesh and the Devil, and candidly confess -that you might have fared worse -but for the precepts and injunctions -laid down in this little book.</p> - -<h3>THE END.</h3> -<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_97">97</span></p> - -<div class="ph1"> -<span class="x-large">A GREAT HIT.</span><br /> - -<span class="smcap">A Naughty Girl’s Diary</span><br /> - -<span class="medium">—BY—</span><br /> - -<span class="large">AUTHOR OF</span><br /> - -<span class="large">“A Bad Boy’s Diary.”</span><br /> - -<span class="large"><i>FULL OF FUN.</i></span><br /> - -<span class="large gesperrt">Price 50 cents.</span><br /> -</div> - - - - - - - - -<pre> - - - - - -End of the Project Gutenberg EBook of Stop!, by Nathan Dean Urner - -*** END OF THIS PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK STOP! *** - -***** This file should be named 53443-h.htm or 53443-h.zip ***** -This and all associated files of various formats will be found in: - http://www.gutenberg.org/5/3/4/4/53443/ - -Produced by Anita Hammond, Wayne Hammond and the Online -Distributed Proofreading Team at http://www.pgdp.net (This -file was produced from images generously made available -by The Internet Archive) - - -Updated editions will replace the previous one--the old editions will -be renamed. - -Creating the works from print editions not protected by U.S. copyright -law means that no one owns a United States copyright in these works, -so the Foundation (and you!) can copy and distribute it in the United -States without permission and without paying copyright -royalties. 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