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- Marriage as a Trade
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- BY
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- CICELY HAMILTON
-
- AUTHOR OF “DIANA OF DOBSON’S”
-
- [Illustration: Colophon]
-
- NEW YORK
-
- MOFFAT, YARD AND COMPANY
-
- 1909
-
-
-
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- COPYRIGHT, 1909, BY
-
- MOFFAT, YARD AND COMPANY
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- New York
-
- _All Rights Reserved_
-
- THE QUINN & BODEN CO. PRESS
- RAHWAY, N. J., U. S. A.
-
-
-
-
-PREFACE
-
-
-The only excuse for this book is the lack of books on the subject with
-which it deals—the trade aspect of marriage. That is to say, wifehood
-and motherhood considered as a means of livelihood for women.
-
-I shall not deny for an instant that there are aspects of matrimony
-other than the trade aspect; but upon these there is no lack of a very
-plentiful literature—the love of man and woman has been written about
-since humanity acquired the art of writing.
-
-The love of man and woman is, no doubt, a thing of infinite importance;
-but also of infinite importance is the manner in which woman earns her
-bread and the economic conditions under which she enters the family and
-propagates the race. Thus an inquiry into the circumstances under which
-the wife and mother plies her trade seems to me quite as necessary
-and justifiable as an inquiry into the conditions of other and less
-important industries—such as mining or cotton-spinning. It will not be
-disputed that the manner in which a human being earns his livelihood
-tends to mould and influence his character—to warp or to improve it.
-The man who works amidst brutalizing surroundings is apt to become
-brutal; the man from whom intelligence is demanded is apt to exercise
-it. Particular trades tend to develop particular types; the boy who
-becomes a soldier will not turn out in all respects the man he would
-have been had he decided to enter a stockbroker’s office. In the same
-way the trade of marriage tends to produce its own particular type, and
-my contention is that woman, as we know her, is largely the product of
-the conditions imposed upon her by her staple industry.
-
-I am not of those who are entirely satisfied with woman as she is; on
-the contrary, I consider that we are greatly in need of improvement,
-mental, physical and moral. And it is because I desire such
-improvement—not only in our own interests but in that of the race in
-general—that I desire to see an alteration in the conditions of our
-staple industry. I have no intention of attacking the institution of
-marriage in itself—the life companionship of man and woman; I merely
-wish to point out that there are certain grave disadvantages attaching
-to that institution as it exists to-day. These disadvantages I believe
-to be largely unnecessary and avoidable; but at present they are very
-real and the results produced by them are anything but favourable to
-the mental, physical and moral development of women.
-
-
-
-
-MARRIAGE AS A TRADE
-
-
-
-
-I
-
-
-The sense of curiosity is, as a rule, aroused in us only by the
-unfamiliar and the unexpected. What custom and long usage has made
-familiar we do not trouble to inquire into but accept without comment
-or investigation; confusing the actual with the inevitable, and
-deciding, slothfully enough, that the thing that is, is likewise the
-thing that was and is to be. In nothing is this inert and slothful
-attitude of mind more marked than in the common, unquestioning
-acceptance of the illogical and unsatisfactory position occupied by
-women. And it is the prevalence of that attitude of mind which is
-the only justification for a book which purports to be nothing more
-than the attempt of an unscientific woman to explain, honestly and
-as far as her limitations permit, the why and wherefore of some of
-the disadvantages under which she and her sisters exist—the reason
-why their place in the world into which they were born is often so
-desperately and unnecessarily uncomfortable.
-
-I had better, at the outset, define the word “woman” as I understand
-and use it, since it is apt to convey two distinct and differing
-impressions, according to the sex of the hearer. My conception of woman
-is inevitably the feminine conception; a thing so entirely unlike the
-masculine conception of woman that it is eminently needful to define
-the term and make my meaning clear; lest, when I speak of woman in
-my own tongue, my reader, being male, translate the expression, with
-confusion as the result.
-
-By a woman, then, I understand an individual human being whose life
-is her own concern; whose worth, in my eyes (worth being an entirely
-personal matter) is in no way advanced or detracted from by the
-accident of marriage; who does not rise in my estimation by reason of a
-purely physical capacity for bearing children, or sink in my estimation
-through a lack of that capacity. I am quite aware, of course, that her
-life, in many cases, will have been moulded to a great extent by the
-responsibilities of marriage and the care of children; just as I am
-aware that the lives of most of the men with whom I am acquainted have
-been moulded to a great extent by the trade or profession by which they
-earn their bread. But my judgment of her and appreciation of her are
-a personal judgment and appreciation, having nothing to do with her
-actual or potential relations, sexual or maternal, with other people.
-In short, I never think of her either as a wife or as a mother—I
-separate the woman from her attributes. To me she is an entity in
-herself; and if, on meeting her for the first time, I inquire whether
-or no she is married, it is only because I wish to know whether I am to
-address her as Mrs. or Miss.
-
-That, frankly and as nearly as I can define it, is my attitude towards
-my own sex; an attitude which, it is almost needless to say, I should
-not insist upon if I did not believe that it was fairly typical and
-that the majority of women, if they analyzed their feelings on the
-subject, would find that they regarded each other in much the same way.
-
-It is hardly necessary to point out that the mental attitude of the
-average man towards woman is something quite different from this. It
-is a mental attitude reminding one of that of the bewildered person
-who could not see the wood for the trees. To him the accidental factor
-in woman’s life is the all-important and his conception of her has
-never got beyond her attributes—and certain only of these. As far
-as I can make out, he looks upon her as something having a definite
-and necessary physical relation to man; without that definite and
-necessary relation she is, as the cant phrase goes “incomplete.” That
-is to say, she is not woman at all—until man has made her so. Until
-the moment when he takes her in hand she is merely the raw material of
-womanhood—the undeveloped and unfinished article.
-
-Without sharing in the smallest degree this estimate of her own
-destiny, any fair-minded woman must admit its advantages from the point
-of view of the male—must sympathize with the pleasurable sense of
-importance, creative power, even of artistry, which such a conviction
-must impart. To take the imperfect and undeveloped creature and, with
-a kiss upon her lips and a ring upon her finger, to make of her a
-woman, perfect and complete—surely a prerogative almost divine in its
-magnificence, most admirable, most enviable!
-
-It is this consciousness, expressed or unexpressed, (frequently the
-former) of his own supreme importance in her destiny that colours every
-thought and action of man towards woman. Having assumed that she is
-incomplete without him, he draws the quite permissible conclusion that
-she exists only for the purpose of attaining to completeness through
-him—and that where she does not so attain to it, the unfortunate
-creature is, for all practical purposes, non-existent. To him womanhood
-is summed up in one of its attributes—wifehood, or its unlegalized
-equivalent. Language bears the stamp of the idea that woman is a wife,
-actually, or in embryo. To most men—perhaps to all—the girl is some
-man’s wife that is to be; the married woman some man’s wife that is;
-the widow some man’s wife that was; the spinster some man’s wife that
-should have been—a damaged article, unfit for use, unsuitable.
-Therefore a negligible quantity.
-
-I have convinced myself, by personal observation and inquiry, that
-my description of the male attitude in this respect is in no way
-exaggerated. It has, for instance, fallen to my lot, over and over
-again, to discuss with men—most of them distinctly above the average
-in intelligence—questions affecting the welfare and conditions of
-women. And over and over again, after listening to their views for five
-minutes or so, I have broken in upon them and pulled them up with the
-remark that they were narrowing down the subject under discussion—that
-what they were considering was not the claim of women in general, but
-the claim of a particular class—the class of wives and mothers. I may
-add that the remark has invariably been received with an expression of
-extreme astonishment. And is it not on record that Henley once dashed
-across a manuscript the terse pronouncement, “I take no interest in
-childless women”? Comprehensive; and indicating a confusion in the
-author’s mind between the terms woman and breeding-machine. Did it
-occur to him, I wonder, that the poor objects of his scorn might
-venture to take some interest in themselves? Probably he did not credit
-them with so much presumption.
-
-The above has, I hope, explained in how far my idea of woman differs
-from male ideas on the same subject and has also made it clear that I
-do not look upon women as persons whose destiny it is to be married.
-On the contrary, I hold, and hold very strongly, that the narrowing
-down of woman’s hopes and ambitions to the sole pursuit and sphere of
-marriage is one of the principal causes of the various disabilities,
-economic and otherwise, under which she labours to-day. And I hold,
-also, that this concentration of all her hopes and ambitions on the
-one object was, to a great extent, the result of artificial pressure,
-of unsound economic and social conditions—conditions which forced her
-energy into one channel, by the simple expedient of depriving it of
-every other outlet, and made marriage practically compulsory.
-
-To say the least of it, marriage is no more essentially necessary to
-woman than to man—one would imagine that it was rather the other way
-about. There are a good many drawbacks attached to the fulfilment of
-a woman’s destiny; in an unfettered state of existence it is possible
-that they might weigh more heavily with her than they can do at
-present—being balanced, and more than balanced, by artificial means.
-I am inclined to think that they would. The institution of marriage by
-capture, for instance, has puzzled many inquirers into the habits of
-primitive man. It is often, I believe, regarded as symbolic; but why
-should it not point to a real reluctance to be reduced to permanent
-servitude on the part of primitive woman—a reluctance comprehensible
-enough, since, primitive woman’s wants being few and easily supplied by
-herself, there was no need for her to exchange possession of her person
-for the means of existence?
-
-It is Nietzsche, if I remember rightly, who has delivered himself of
-the momentous opinion that everything in woman is a riddle, and that
-the answer to the riddle is child-bearing. Child-bearing certainly
-explains some qualities in woman—for instance, her comparative
-fastidiousness in sexual relations—but not all. If it did, there
-would be no riddle—yet Nietzsche admits that one exists. Nor is
-he alone in his estimate of the “mysterious” nature of woman; her
-unfathomable and erratic character, her peculiar aptitude for appearing
-“uncertain, coy, and hard to please,” has been insisted upon time after
-time—insisted upon alike as a charm and a deficiency. A charm because
-of its unexpected, a deficiency because of its unreasonable, quality.
-Woman, in short, is not only a wife and mother, but a thoroughly
-incomprehensible wife and mother.
-
-Now it seems to me that a very simple explanation of this mystery which
-perpetually envelops our conduct and impulses can be found in the fact
-that the fundamental natural laws which govern them have never been
-ascertained or honestly sought for. Or rather—since the fundamental
-natural laws which govern us are the same large and simple laws which
-govern other animals, man included—though they have been ascertained,
-the masculine intellect has steadfastly and stubbornly refused to admit
-that they can possibly apply to us in the same degree as to every other
-living being. As a substitute for these laws, he suggests explanations
-of his own—for the most part flattering to himself. He believes,
-apparently, that we live in a world apart, governed by curious customs
-and regulations of our own—customs and regulations which “have no
-fellow in the universe.” Once the first principle of natural law was
-recognized as applying to us, we should cease to be so unfathomable,
-erratic, and unexpected to the wiseacres and poets who spend their
-time in judging us by rule of thumb, and expressing amazement at the
-unaccountable and contradictory results.
-
-I do not know whether it is essentially impossible for man to
-approach us in the scientific spirit, but it has not yet been done.
-(To approach motherhood or marriage in the scientific spirit is, of
-course, not in the least the same thing.) His attitude towards us
-has been by turns—and sometimes all at once—adoring, contemptuous,
-sentimental, and savage—anything, in short, but open-minded and
-deductive. The result being that different classes, generations, and
-peoples have worked out their separate and impressionistic estimates
-of woman’s meaning in the scheme of things—the said estimates
-frequently clashing with those of other classes, generations, and
-people. The Mahometan, for instance, after careful observation from
-his point of view, decided that she was flesh without a soul, and to
-be treated accordingly; the troubadour seems to have found in her a
-spiritual incentive to aspiration in deed and song. The early Fathers
-of the Church, who were in the habit of giving troubled and nervous
-consideration to the subject, denounced her, at spasmodic intervals,
-as sin personified. What the modern man understands by woman I have
-already explained; and he further expects his theory to materialize and
-embody itself in a being who combines the divergent qualities of an
-inspiration and a good general servant. He is often disappointed.
-
-All these are rule of thumb definitions, based on insufficient
-knowledge and inquiry, which, each in its turn, has been accepted,
-acted upon, and found wanting. Each of the generations and classes
-mentioned—and many more beside—has worked out its own theory of
-woman’s orbit (round man); and has subsequently found itself in the
-position of the painstaking astronomer who, after having mapped the
-pathway of a newly-discovered heavenly body to his own satisfaction,
-suddenly finds his calculations upset, and the heavenly body swerving
-off through space towards some hitherto unexpected centre of
-attraction. The theory of the early Fathers was upset before it was
-enunciated—for sin personified had wept at the foot of the Cross, and
-men adored her for it. The modern angel with the cookery-book under
-her wing has expressed an open and pronounced dislike to domestic
-service, and cheerfully discards her wings to fight her way into the
-liberal professions. And those who hold fast to the Nietzschean theory
-that motherhood is the secret and justification of woman’s existence,
-must be somewhat bewildered by latter-day episcopal lamentations
-over the unwillingness of woman to undergo the pains and penalties
-of childbirth, and by the reported intention of an American State
-Legislature to stimulate a declining birth-rate by the payment of
-one dollar for each child born. One feels that the strength of an
-instinct that has, in an appreciable number of cases, to be stimulated
-by the offer of four shillings and twopence must have been somewhat
-overestimated. No wonder woman is a mystery in her unreliability; she
-has broken every law of her existence, and does so day by day.
-
-As a matter of fact, the various explanations which have been given
-for woman’s existence can be narrowed down to two—her husband and her
-child. Male humanity has wobbled between two convictions—the one,
-that she exists for the entire benefit of contemporary mankind; the
-other, that she exists for the entire benefit of the next generation.
-The latter is at present the favourite. One consideration only male
-humanity has firmly refused to entertain—that she exists in any degree
-whatsoever for the benefit of herself. In consequence, woman is the
-one animal from whom he demands that it shall deviate from, and act in
-defiance of, the first law of nature—self-preservation.
-
-It seems baldly ridiculous, of course, to state in so many words that
-that first and iron law applies to women as well as to men, birds, and
-beetles. No one in cold blood or cold ink would contradict the obvious
-statement; but all the same, I maintain that I am perfectly justified
-in asserting that the average man does mentally and unconsciously
-except the mass of women from the workings of that universal law.
-
-To give a simple and familiar instance. Year by year there crops up in
-the daily newspapers a grumbling and sometimes acrid correspondence
-on the subject of the incursion of women into a paid labour market
-formerly monopolized by their brothers. (The unpaid labour market, of
-course, has always been open to them.) The tone taken by the objector
-is instructive and always the same. It is pointed out to us that we are
-working for less than a fair wage; that we are taking the bread out
-of the mouths of men; that we are filching the earnings of a possible
-husband and thereby lessening, or totally destroying, our chances of
-matrimony.
-
-The first objection is, of course, legitimate, and is shared by the
-women to whom it applies; from the others one can only infer that it is
-an impertinence in a woman to be hungry, and that, in the opinion of a
-large number of persons who write to the newspapers, the human female
-is a creature capable of living on air and the hopes of a possible
-husband. The principle that it is impolite to mention a certain organ
-of the body which requires to be replenished two or three times a
-day is, in the case of a woman, carried so far that it is considered
-impolite of her even to possess that organ; and as a substitute for the
-wages wherewith she buys food to fill it, she is offered the lifting
-of a hat and the resignation of a seat in a tramcar. She rejects the
-offer, obeys the first law of nature, and is rebuked for it—the human
-male, bred in the conviction that she lives for him alone, standing
-aghast. Some day he will discover that woman does not support life only
-in order to obtain a husband, but frequently obtains a husband only in
-order to support life.
-
-The above is, to my mind, a clear and familiar instance of the manner
-in which man is accustomed to take for granted our exemption from a
-law from which there is no exemption. It matters not whether or no
-he believes, in so many words, that we need not eat in order that we
-may not die; the point is, that he acts as if he believed it. (The
-extreme reluctance of local authorities to spend any of the money at
-their disposal on unemployed women is a case in point. It would be
-ridiculous to ascribe it to animosity towards the women themselves—it
-must arise, therefore, from a conviction that the need of the foodless
-woman is not so pressing as the need of the foodless man.) And it is
-because I have so often come in contact with the state of mind that
-makes such delusions possible, that I have thought it necessary to
-insist on the fact that self-preservation is the first law of our
-being. The purpose of race-preservation, which is commonly supposed
-to be the excuse for our existence, is, and must be, secondary and
-derivative; it is quite impossible for a woman to bring children into
-the world unless she has first obtained the means of supporting her own
-life. How to eat, how to maintain existence, is the problem that has
-confronted woman, as well as man, since the ages dawned for her. Other
-needs and desires may come later; but the first call of life is for the
-means of supporting it.
-
-To support life it is necessary to have access to the fruits of the
-earth, either directly—as in the case of the agriculturist—or
-indirectly, and through a process of exchange as the price of work
-done in other directions. And in this process of exchange woman,
-as compared with her male fellow-worker, has always been at a
-disadvantage. The latter, even where direct access to the earth was
-denied to him, has usually been granted some measure of choice as to
-the manner in which he would pay for the necessities the earth produced
-for him—that is to say, he was permitted to select the trade by which
-he earned his livelihood. From woman, who has always been far more
-completely excluded from direct access to the necessities of life, who
-has often been barred, both by law and by custom, from the possession
-of property, one form of payment was demanded, and one only. It was
-demanded of her that she should enkindle and satisfy the desire of the
-male, who would thereupon admit her to such share of the property he
-possessed or earned as should seem good to him. In other words, she
-exchanged, by the ordinary process of barter, possession of her person
-for the means of existence.
-
-Whether such a state of things is natural or unnatural I do not pretend
-to say; but it is, I understand, peculiar to women, having no exact
-counterpart amongst the females of other species. Its existence, at
-any rate, justifies us in regarding marriage as essentially (from the
-woman’s point of view) a commercial or trade undertaking. By marriage
-she earned her bread; and as the instinct of self-preservation drove
-man forth to hunt, to till the soil, to dig beneath it—to cultivate
-his muscles and his brain so that he might get the better of nature and
-his rivals—so brute necessity and the instinct of self-preservation
-in woman urged and enjoined on her the cultivation of those narrow and
-particular qualities of mind and body whereby desire might be excited
-and her wage obtained.
-
-A man who was also a poet has thoughtfully explained that
-
- “Man’s love is of man’s life a thing apart,
- ’Tis woman’s whole existence.”
-
-(It must be very pleasant to be a man and to entertain that
-conviction.) Translated into feminine and vulgar prose, the effusion
-runs something like this—
-
-The housekeeping trade is the only one open to us—so we enter the
-housekeeping trade in order to live. This is not always quite the same
-as entering the housekeeping trade in order to love.
-
-No one can imagine that it is the same who has ever heard one haggard,
-underpaid girl cry to another, in a burst of bitter confidence—
-
-“I would marry any one, to get out of this.”
-
-Which, if one comes to think of it, is hard on “any one.”
-
-
-
-
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-
-
-If I am right in my view that marriage for woman has always been not
-only a trade, but a trade that is practically compulsory, I have at
-the same time furnished an explanation of the reason why women, as a
-rule, are so much less romantic than men where sexual attraction is
-concerned. Where the man can be single-hearted, the woman necessarily
-is double-motived. It is, of course, the element of commerce and
-compulsion that accounts for this difference of attitude; an impulse
-that may have to be discouraged, nurtured or simulated to order—that
-is, at any rate, expected, for commercial or social reasons to put
-in an appearance as a matter of course and at the right and proper
-moment—can never have the same vigor, energy and beauty as an impulse
-that is unfettered and unforced.
-
-More than once in my life I have been struck by the beauty of a man’s
-honest conception and ideal of love and marriage—a conception and
-ideal which one comes across in unexpected and unlikely persons and
-which is by no means confined to those whose years are still few in
-number and whose hearts are still hot within them. Only a few weeks ago
-I heard an elderly gentleman of scientific attainments talk something
-which, but for its sincerity, would have seemed to me sheer sentimental
-balderdash concerning the relations of men and women. And from other
-equally respectable gentlemen I have heard opinions that were beautiful
-as well as honest on the relations of the sexes, of a kind that no
-woman, being alone with another woman, would ever venture to utter.
-For we see the thing differently. I am not so foolish as to imagine
-that theory and practice in this or any other matter are in the habit
-of walking hand in hand; I know that for men the word love has two
-different meanings, and therefore I should be sorry to have to affirm
-on oath that the various gentlemen who have, at various times, favoured
-me with their views on the marriage question have one and all lived up
-to their convictions; but at least their conception of the love and
-duty owed by man and woman to each other was a high one, honourable,
-not wanting in reverence, not wanting in romance. Over and over again
-I have heard women unreticent enough upon the same subject; but, when
-they spoke their hearts, the picturesque touch—the flash and fire of
-romance—was never nearly so strong and sometimes altogether absent.
-
-And I have never seen love—the sheer passionate and personal
-delight in and worship of a being of the other sex—so vividly and
-uncontrollably expressed on the face of a woman as on the face of a
-man. I have with me, as one of the things not to be forgotten, the
-memory of a cheap foreign hotel where, two or three years back, a
-little Cockney clerk was making holiday in worshipful attendance on the
-girl he was engaged to. At table I used to watch him, being very sure
-that he had no eyes for me; and once or twice I had the impulse that
-I should like to speak to him and thank him for what he had shown me.
-I have seen women in love time after time, but none in whom the fire
-burned as it burned in him—consumedly. I used to hope his Cockney
-goddess would have understanding at least to reverence the holy thing
-that passed the love of women....
-
-How should it be otherwise—this difference in the attitude of man
-and woman in their relations to each other? To make them see and
-feel more alike in the matter, the conditions under which they live
-and bargain must be made more alike. With even the average man love
-and marriage may be something of a high adventure, entered upon
-whole-heartedly and because he so desires. With the average woman it
-is not a high adventure—except in so far as adventure means risk—but
-a destiny or necessity. If not a monetary necessity, then a social.
-(How many children, I wonder, are born each year merely because their
-mothers were afraid of being called old maids? One can imagine no
-more inadequate reason for bringing a human being into the world.)
-The fact that her destiny, when he arrives, may be all that her heart
-desires and deserves does not prevent him from being the thing that,
-from her earliest years, she had, for quite other reasons, regarded as
-inevitable. Quite consciously and from childhood the “not impossible
-he” is looked upon, not simply as an end desirable in himself, but
-as a means of subsistence. The marriageable man may seek his elective
-affinity until he find her; the task of the marriageable woman is
-infinitely more complicated, since her elective affinity has usually to
-be combined with her bread and butter. The two do not always grow in
-the same place.
-
-What is the real, natural and unbiased attitude of woman towards love
-and marriage, it is perfectly impossible for even a woman to guess
-at under present conditions, and it will continue to be impossible
-for just so long as the natural instincts of her sex are inextricably
-interwoven with, thwarted and deflected by, commercial considerations.
-When—if ever—the day of woman’s complete social and economic
-independence dawns upon her, when she finds herself free and upright
-in a new world where no artificial pressure is brought to bear upon
-her natural inclinations or disinclinations, then, and then only, will
-it be possible to untwist a tangled skein and judge to what extent
-and what precise degree she is swayed by those impulses, sexual and
-maternal, which are now, to the exclusion of every other factor,
-presumed to dominate her existence. And not only to dominate, but to
-justify it. (A presumption, by the way, which seems to ignore the
-fact—incompatible, surely, with the theory of “incompleteness”—that
-celibacy irks the woman less than it does the man.)
-
-What, one wonders, would be the immediate result if the day of
-independence and freedom from old restrictions were to dawn suddenly
-and at once? Would it be to produce, at first and for a time, a
-rapid growth amongst all classes of women of that indifference to,
-and almost scorn of, marriage which is so marked a characteristic of
-the—alas, small—class who can support themselves in comfort by work
-which is congenial to them? Perhaps—for a time, until the revulsion
-was over and things righted themselves. (I realize, of course, that
-it is quite impossible for a male reader to accept the assertion
-that any one woman, much less any class of women, however small its
-numbers, can be indifferent to or scornful of marriage—which would be
-tantamount to admitting that she could be indifferent to, or scornful
-of, himself.—What follows, therefore, can only appear to him as an
-ineffectual attempt on the part of an embittered spinster to explain
-that the grapes are sour; and he is courteously requested to skip to
-the end of the chapter. It would be lost labour on my part to seek
-to disturb his deep-rooted conviction that all women who earn decent
-incomes in intelligent and interesting ways are too facially unpleasant
-to be placed at the head of a dinner-table. I shall not attempt
-to disturb that conviction; I make it a rule never to attempt the
-impossible.) This new-born attitude of open indifference and contempt,
-while perhaps appearing strained and unnatural, is, it seems to me, a
-natural one enough for women whose daily lives have falsified every
-tradition in which they were born and bred.
-
-For the tradition handed down from generations to those girl children
-who now are women grown was, with exceptions few and far between, the
-one tradition of marriage—marriage as inevitable as lessons and far
-more inevitable than death. Ordering dinner and keeping house: that
-we knew well, and from our babyhood was all the future had to give to
-us. For the boys there would be other things; wherefore our small
-hearts bore a secret grudge against Almighty God that He had not
-made us boys—since their long thoughts were our long thoughts, and
-together we wallowed in cannibals and waxed clamorous over engines. For
-them, being boys, there might be cannibals and engines in the world
-beyond; but for us—oh, the flat sameness of it!—was nothing but a
-husband, ordering dinner and keeping house. Therefore we dreamed of a
-settler for a husband, and of assisting him to shoot savages with a
-double-barrelled gun. So might the round of household duties be varied
-and most pleasantly enlivened.
-
-Perhaps it was the stolid companionship of the doll, perhaps the
-constant repetition of the formula “when you have children of your
-own” that precluded any idea of shirking the husband and tackling the
-savage off our own bat. For I cannot remember that we ever shirked
-him. We selected his profession with an eye to our own interests; he
-was at various times a missionary, a sailor and a circus-rider; but
-from the first we recognized that he was unavoidable. We planned our
-lives and knew that he was lurking vaguely in the background to upset
-our best-laid calculations. We were still very young, I think, when we
-realized that his shadowy personality was an actual, active factor in
-our lives; that it was because of him and his surmised desires that
-our turbulent inclinations were thwarted and compressed into narrow
-channels, and that we were tamed and curbed as the boys were never
-tamed and curbed. When that which the boys might do with impunity
-was forbidden to us as a sin of the first water, we knew that it was
-because he would not like it. The thought was not so consciously
-expressed, perhaps; but it was there and lived with us. So we grew up
-under his influence, presuming his wishes, and we learned, because
-of him, to say, “I can’t,” where our brothers said, “I can,” and to
-believe, as we had been taught, that all things, save a very few (such
-as ordering dinner and keeping house) were not for us because we were
-not men. (Yet we had our long, long thoughts—we had them, too!) That
-was one thing that he desired we should believe; and another was that
-only through him could we attain to satisfaction and achievement; that
-our every desire that was not centred upon him and upon his children
-would be barren and bitter as Dead Sea ashes in the mouth. We believed
-that for a long time....
-
-And he was certain to come: the only question was, when? When he came
-we should fall in love with him, of course—and he would kiss us—and
-there would be a wedding....
-
-Some of us—and those not a few—started life equipped for it after
-this fashion; creatures of circumstance who waited to be fallen in
-love with. That was indeed all; we stood and waited—on approval. And
-then came life itself and rent our mother’s theories to tatters. For
-we discovered—those of us, that is, who were driven out to work that
-we might eat—we discovered very swiftly that what we had been told
-was the impossible was the thing we had to do. That and no other. So
-we accomplished it, in fear and trembling, only because we had to; and
-with that first achievement of the impossible the horizon widened with
-a rush, and the implanted, hampering faith in our own poor parasitic
-uselessness began to wither at the root and die. We had learned to say,
-“I can.” And as we went on, at first with fear and then with joy, from
-impossibility to impossibility, we looked upon the world with new eyes.
-
-To no man, I think, can the world be quite as wonderful as it is to
-the woman now alive who has fought free. Those who come after her will
-enter by right of birth upon what she attains by right of conquest;
-therefore, neither to them will it be the same. The things that to
-her brother are common and handed down, to her are new possessions,
-treasured because she herself has won them and no other for her. It may
-well be that she attaches undue importance to these; it could scarcely
-be otherwise. Her traditions have fallen away from her, her standard
-of values is gone. The old gods have passed away from her, and as yet
-the new gods have spoken with no very certain voice. The world to her
-is in the experimental stage. She grew to womanhood weighed down by the
-conviction that life held only one thing for her; and she stretches out
-her hands to find that it holds many. She grew to womanhood weighed
-down by the conviction that her place in the scheme of things was the
-place of a parasite; and she knows (for necessity has taught her) that
-she has feet which need no support. She is young in the enjoyment of
-her new powers and has a pleasure that is childish in the use of them.
-By force of circumstances her faith has been wrested from her and the
-articles of her new creed have yet to be tested by experience—her own.
-Her sphere—whatever it may prove to be—no one but herself can define
-for her. Authority to her is a broken reed. Has she not heard and read
-solemn disquisitions by men of science on the essential limitations of
-woman’s nature and the consequent impossibility of activity in this or
-that direction?—knowing, all the while, that what they swear to her
-she cannot do she does, is doing day by day!
-
-Some day, no doubt, the pendulum will adjust itself and swing true; a
-generation brought up to a wider horizon as a matter of course will
-look around it with undazzled eyes and set to work to reconstruct the
-fundamental from the ruins of what was once esteemed so. But in the
-meantime the new is—new; the independence that was to be as Dead Sea
-ashes in our mouth tastes very sweet indeed; and the unsheltered
-life that we were taught to shrink from means the fighting of a good
-fight....
-
-Selfishness, perhaps—all selfishness—this pleasure in ourselves and
-in the late growth of that which our training had denied us. But then,
-from our point of view, the sin and crime of woman in the past has been
-a selflessness which was ignoble because involuntary. Our creed may be
-vague as yet, but one article thereof is fixed: there is no merit in a
-sacrifice which is compulsory, no virtue in a gift which is not a gift
-but a tribute.
-
-
-
-
-III
-
-
-I have insisted so strongly upon what I believe to be the attitude
-towards life of the independent woman mainly with the object of
-proving my assertion that there are other faculties in our nature
-besides those which have hitherto been forced under a hothouse system
-of cultivation—sex and motherhood. It is quite possible that a woman
-thinking, feeling and living in a manner I have described may be dubbed
-unsexed; but even if she be what is technically termed unsexed, it does
-not follow therefore that she is either unnatural or unwomanly. Sex is
-only one of the ingredients of the natural woman—an ingredient which
-has assumed undue and exaggerated proportions in her life owing to the
-fact that it has for many generations furnished her with the means of
-livelihood.
-
-In sexual matters it would appear that the whole trend and tendency of
-man’s relations to woman has been to make refusal impossible and to
-cut off every avenue of escape from the gratification of his desire.
-His motive in concentrating all her energy upon the trade of marriage
-was to deny it any other outlet. The original motive was doubtless
-strengthened, as time went on, by an objection to allowing her to come
-into economic competition with him; but this was probably a secondary
-or derivative cause of his persistent refusal to allow her new spheres
-of activity, having its primary root in the consciousness that economic
-independence would bring with it the power of refusal.
-
-The uncompromising and rather brutal attitude which man has
-consistently adopted towards the spinster is, to my mind, a
-confirmation of this theory. (The corresponding attitude of the married
-woman towards her unmarried sister I take to be merely servile and
-imitative.) It was not only that the creature was chaste and therefore
-inhuman. That would have justified neglect and contempt on his part,
-but not the active dislike he always appears to have entertained for
-her. That active and somewhat savage dislike must have had its origin
-in the consciousness that the perpetual virgin was a witness, however
-reluctantly, to the unpalatable fact that sexual intercourse was not
-for every woman an absolute necessity; and this uneasy consciousness
-on his part accounts for the systematic manner in which he placed
-the spinster outside the pale of a chivalry, upon which, from her
-unprotected position, one would have expected her to have an especial
-claim.
-
-If it be granted that marriage is, as I have called it, essentially a
-trade on the part of woman—the exchange of her person for the means
-of subsistence—it is legitimate to inquire into the manner in which
-that trade is carried on, and to compare the position of the worker in
-the matrimonial with the position of the worker in any other market.
-Which brings us at once to the fact—arising from the compulsory
-nature of the profession—that it is carried on under disadvantages
-unknown and unfelt by those who earn their living by other methods.
-For the regulations governing compulsory service—the institution of
-slavery and the like—are always framed, not in the interests of the
-worker, but in the interests of those who impose his work upon him.
-The regulations governing exchange and barter in the marriage market,
-therefore, are necessarily framed in the interests of the employer—the
-male.
-
-The position is this. Marriage, with its accompaniments and
-consequences—the ordering of a man’s house, the bearing and rearing
-of his children—has, by the long consent of ages, been established
-as practically the only means whereby woman, with honesty and honour,
-shall earn her daily bread. Her every attempt to enter any other
-profession has been greeted at first with scorn and opposition; her
-sole outlook was to be dependence upon man. Yet the one trade to which
-she is destined, the one means of earning her bread to which she is
-confined, she may not openly profess. No other worker stands on the
-same footing. The man who has his bread to earn, with hands, or brains,
-or tools, goes out to seek for the work to which he is trained; his
-livelihood depending on it, he offers his skill and services without
-shame or thought of reproach. But with woman it is not so; she is
-expected to express unwillingness for the very work for which she has
-been taught and trained. She has been brought up in the belief that
-her profession is marriage and motherhood; yet though poverty may be
-pressing upon her—though she may be faced with actual lack of the
-necessities of life—she must not openly express her desire to enter
-that profession, and earn her bread in the only way for which she is
-fitted. She must stand aside and wait—indefinitely; and attain to her
-destined livelihood by appearing to despise it.
-
-That, of course, is the outcome of something more than a convention
-imposed on her by man; nature, from the beginning, has made her
-more fastidious and reluctant than the male. But with this natural
-fastidiousness and reluctance the commercialism imposed upon her by
-her economic needs is constantly at clash and at conflict, urging
-her to get her bread as best she can in the only market open to her.
-Theoretically—since by her wares she lives—she has a perfect right to
-cry those wares and seek to push them to the best advantage. That is to
-say, she has a perfect right to seek, with frankness and with openness,
-the man who, in her judgment, can most fittingly provide her with the
-means of support.
-
-This freedom of bargaining to the best advantage, permitted as a matter
-of course to every other worker, is denied to her. It is, of course,
-claimed and exercised by the prostitute class—a class which has pushed
-to its logical conclusion the principle that woman exists by virtue of
-a wage paid her in return for the possession of her person; but it is
-interesting to note that the “unfortunate” enters the open market with
-the hand of the law extended threateningly above her head. The fact
-is curious if inquired into: since the theory that woman should live
-by physical attraction of the opposite sex has never been seriously
-denied, but rather insisted upon, by men, upon what principle is
-solicitation, or open offer of such attraction, made a legal offence?
-(Not because the woman is a danger to the community, since the male
-sensualist is an equal source of danger.) Only, apparently, because
-the advance comes from the wrong side. I speak under correction, but
-cannot, unaided, light upon any other explanation; and mine seems to
-be borne out by the fact that, in other ranks of life, custom, like
-the above-mentioned law, strenuously represses any open advance on the
-part of the woman. So emphatic, indeed, is this unwritten law, that
-one cannot help suspecting that it was needful it should be emphatic,
-lest woman, adapting herself to her economic position, should take the
-initiative in a matter on which her livelihood depended, and deprive
-her employer not only of the pleasure of the chase, but of the illusion
-that their common bargain was as much a matter of romance and volition
-on her part as on his.
-
-As a matter of fact, that law that the first advances must come from
-the side of the man is, as was only to be expected, broken and broken
-every day; sometimes directly, but far more often indirectly. The woman
-bent on matrimony is constantly on the alert to evade its workings,
-conscious that in her attempt to do so she can nearly always count on
-the ready, if unspoken, co-operation of her sisters. This statement
-is, I know, in flat contravention of the firmly-rooted masculine
-belief that one woman regards another as an enemy to be depreciated
-consistently in masculine eyes, and that women spend their lives in
-one long struggle to gratify an uncontrollable desire for admiration at
-each other’s expense. (I have myself been told by a man that he would
-never be so foolishly discourteous as to praise one woman in another’s
-hearing. I, on my part, desirous also of being wisely courteous, did
-not attempt to shake the magnificent belief in his own importance to
-me which the statement betrayed.) Admiration is a very real passion
-in some women, as it is a very real passion in some men; but what, in
-women, is often mistaken for it is ambition, a desire to get on and
-achieve success in life in the only way in which it is open to a woman
-to achieve it—through the favour of man. Which is only another way
-of saying what I have insisted on before—that a good many feminine
-actions which are commonly and superficially attributed to sexual
-impulse have their root in the commercial instinct.
-
-It is because women, consciously or unconsciously, recognize the
-commercial nature of the undertaking that they interest themselves so
-strongly in the business of match-making, other than their own. Men
-have admitted that interest, of course—the thing is too self-evident
-to be denied—and, as their manner is, attributed it to an exuberant
-sexuality which overflows on to its surroundings; steadfastly declining
-to take into account the “professional” element in its composition,
-since that would necessarily imply the existence of an _esprit de
-corps_ amongst women.
-
-I myself cannot doubt that there does exist a spirit of practical, if
-largely unconscious, trade unionism in a class engaged in extracting,
-under many difficulties and by devious ways, its livelihood from
-the employer, man. (I need scarcely point out that man, like every
-other wage-payer, has done his level best and utmost to suppress the
-spirit of combination, and encourage distrust and division, amongst
-the wage-earners in the matrimonial market; and that the trade of
-marriage, owing to the isolation of the workers, has offered unexampled
-opportunities for such suppression of unity and encouragement of
-distrust and division.) But, in spite of this, women in general
-recognize the economic necessity of marriage for each other, and in
-a spirit of instinctive comradeship seek to forward it by every
-means in their power. There must be something extraordinarily and
-unnaturally contemptible about a woman who, her own bargain made and
-means of livelihood secured, will not help another to secure hers; and
-it is that motive, and not a rapturous content in their own unclouded
-destiny, not an unhesitating conviction that their lot has fallen in
-a fair ground, which makes of so many married women industrious and
-confirmed match-makers. What has been termed the “huge conspiracy
-of married women” is, in fact, nothing but a huge trade union whose
-members recognize the right of others to their bread. To my mind,
-one of the best proofs of the reality of this spirit of unconscious
-trade unionism among women is the existence of that other feminine
-conspiracy of silence which surrounds the man at whom a woman, for
-purely mercenary reasons, is making a “dead set.” In such a case, the
-only women who will interfere and warn the intended victim will be his
-own relatives—a mother or a sister; others, while under no delusions
-as to the interested nature of the motives by which the pursuer is
-actuated, will hold their tongues, and even go so far as to offer
-facilities for the chase. They realize that their fellow has a right to
-her chance—that she must follow her trade as best she can, and would
-no more dream of giving her away than the average decent workman would
-dream of going to an employer and informing him that one of his mates
-was not up to his job and should, therefore, be discharged. In these
-emergencies a man must look to a man for help; the sympathies of the
-practical and unromantic sex will be on the other side.
-
-I shall not deny, of course, that there is active and bitter
-competition amongst women for the favour not only of particular men,
-but of men in general; but, from what I have said already, it will
-be gathered that I consider that competition to be largely economic
-and artificial. Where it is economic, it is produced by the same
-cause which produces active and bitter competition in other branches
-of industry—the overcrowding of the labour market. Where it is
-artificial, as distinct from purely economic, it is produced by the
-compulsory concentration of energy on one particular object, and the
-lack of facilities for dispersing that energy in other directions. It
-is not the woman with an interest in life who spends her whole time in
-competing with her otherwise unoccupied sisters for the smiles of a
-man.
-
-
-
-
-IV
-
-
-Marriage being to them not only a trade, but a necessity, it
-must follow as the night the day that the acquirement of certain
-characteristics—the characteristics required by an average man in an
-average wife—has been rendered inevitable for women in general. There
-have, of course, always been certain exceptional men who have admired
-and desired certain exceptional and eccentric qualities in their wives;
-but in estimating a girl’s chances of pleasing—on which depended
-her chances of success or a comfortable livelihood—these exceptions
-naturally, were taken into but small account, and no specialization in
-their tastes and desires was allowed for in her training. The aim and
-object of that training was to make her approximate to the standard of
-womanhood set up by the largest number of men; since the more widely
-she was admired the better were her chances of striking a satisfactory
-bargain. The taste and requirements of the average man of her class
-having been definitely ascertained, her training and education was
-carried on on the principle of cultivating those qualities which he
-was likely to admire, and repressing with an iron hand those qualities
-to which he was likely to take objection; in short, she was fitted for
-her trade by the discouragement of individuality and eccentricity and
-the persistent moulding of her whole nature into the form which the
-ordinary husband would desire it to take. Her education, unlike her
-brothers’, was not directed towards self-development and the bringing
-out of natural capabilities, but towards pleasing some one else—was
-not for her own benefit, but for that of another person.
-
-No one has better expressed the essential difference between the
-education of men and women than Mr. John Burns in a speech delivered
-to the “Children of the State” at the North Surrey District School
-on February 13, 1909. Addressing the boys the President of the Local
-Government Board said, “I want you to be happy craftsmen, because you
-are trained to be healthy men.” Addressing the girls he is reported to
-have used the following words—
-
-“To keep house, cook, nurse and delight in making others happy is your
-mission, duty and livelihood.”
-
-The boys are to be happy themselves; the girls are to make others
-happy. No doubt Mr. Burns spoke sincerely; but is he not one of the
-“others”? And it is well to note that the “making of others happy”
-is not put before the girls as an ideal, but as a duty and means of
-livelihood. They are to be self-sacrificing as a matter of business—a
-commercial necessity. It is because man realizes that self-sacrifice in
-woman is not a matter of free-will, but of necessity, that he gives her
-so little thanks for it. Her duty and means of livelihood is to make
-others happy—in other words, to please him.
-
-Whether she was trained to be useful or useless that was the object of
-her up-bringing. Men in one class of society would be likely to require
-wives able to do rough house or field work; so to do rough house or
-field work she was trained. Men in another class of society would be
-likely to require of their wives an appearance of helpless fragility;
-and girls in that particular class were educated to be incapable of
-sustained bodily effort.
-
-It is this fact—that their training was a training not in their own,
-but in some one else’s requirements—which, to my thinking, makes
-women so infinitely more interesting to watch and to analyze than men.
-Interesting, I mean, in the sense of exciting. Practically every woman
-I know has two distinct natures: a real and an acquired; that which she
-has by right of birth and heritage, and that which she has been taught
-she ought to have—and often thinks that she has attained to. And it is
-quite impossible even for another woman, conscious of the same division
-of forces in herself, to forecast which of these two conflicting
-temperaments will come uppermost at a given moment.
-
-The average man is a straightforward and simple-minded creature
-compared to the average woman, merely because he has been allowed to
-develop much more on his own natural lines. He has only one centre of
-gravity; the woman has two. To put it in plain English, he usually
-knows what he wants; she, much more often than not, does not know
-anything of the kind. She is under the impression that she wants
-certain things which she has been told from her earliest childhood,
-and is being told all the time, are the things she ought to want. That
-is as far as she can go with certainty. This also can be said with
-certainty: that her first requirement, whether she knows it or not, is
-the liberty to discover what she really does require.
-
-Once a man’s character is known and understood it can usually be
-predicted with a fair degree of accuracy how he will act in any
-particular crisis or emergency—say, under stress of strong emotion or
-temptation. With his sister on the other hand you can never foresee
-at what point artificiality will break down and nature take command;
-which makes it infinitely more difficult, however well you know
-her, to predict her course of action under the same circumstances.
-The woman whose whole existence, from early dawn to dewy eve, is
-regulated by a standard of manners imposed upon her from without, by
-a standard of morals imposed upon her from without, whose ideals are
-purely artificial and equally reflected, will suddenly, and at an
-unexpected moment, reveal another and fundamental side of her nature
-of which she herself has probably lived in entire ignorance. And on
-the other hand—so ingrained in us all has artificiality become—a
-woman of the independent type, with a moral standard and ideals of
-her own setting up, may, when the current of her life is swept out of
-its ordinary course by emergency or strong emotion, take refuge, just
-as suddenly and unexpectedly, in words and actions that are palpably
-unnatural to her and inspired by an instilled idea of what, under the
-circumstances, a properly constituted woman ought to say or do. Faced
-with a difficulty through which her own experience does not serve to
-guide her, she falls back on convention and expresses the thoughts of
-others in the stilted language that convention has put into her mouth.
-I have known this happen more than once, and seen a real human being
-of flesh and blood suddenly and unconsciously transformed into one of
-those curious creatures, invented by male writers and called women for
-lack of any other name, whose sins and whose virtues alike are the
-sins and virtues considered by male writers to be suitable and becoming
-to the opposite sex.
-
-For generation after generation the lives of women of even the
-slightest intelligence and individuality must have been one long and
-constant struggle between the forces of nature endeavouring to induce
-in them that variety which is another word for progress and their own
-enforced strivings to approximate to a single monotonous type—the
-type of the standard and ideal set up for them by man, which was the
-standard and ideal of his own comfort and enjoyment. However squarely
-uncompromising the characteristics of any given woman, the only vacant
-space for her occupation was round, and into the round hole she had to
-go. Were her soul the soul of a pirate, it had to be encased in a body
-which pursued the peaceful avocation of a cook. Even when she kicked
-over the traces and gave respectability the go-by, she could only do so
-after one particular and foregone fashion—a fashion encouraged if not
-openly approved by man. The male sinner might go to the devil in any
-way he chose; for her there was only one road to the nethermost hell,
-and, dependent even in this, she needed a man to set her feet upon the
-path. Her vices, like her virtues, were forced and stereotyped. They
-sprang from the same root; vice, with her, was simply an excess of
-virtue. Vicious or virtuous, matron or outcast, she was made and not
-born.
-
-There must be many attributes and characteristics of the general run of
-women which are not really the attributes and characteristics of their
-sex, but of their class—a class persistently set apart for the duties
-of sexual attraction, house-ordering and the bearing of children. And
-the particular qualities that, in the eyes of man, fitted them for the
-fulfilment of these particular duties, generation after generation of
-women, whatever their natural temperament and inclination, have sought
-to acquire—or if not the actual qualities themselves, at least an
-outward semblance of them. Without some semblance of those qualities
-life would be barred to them.
-
-There are very few women in whom one cannot, now and again, trace
-the line of cleavage between real and acquired, natural and class,
-characteristics. The same thing, of course, holds good of men, but
-in a far less degree since, many vocations being open to them, they
-tend naturally and on the whole to fall into the class for which
-temperament and inclinations fit them. A man with a taste for an open
-air life does not as a rule become a chartered accountant, a student
-does not take up deep-sea fishing as a suitable profession. But with
-women the endeavour to approximate to a single type has always been
-compulsory. It is ridiculous to suppose that nature, who never makes
-two blades of grass alike, desired to turn out indefinite millions of
-women all cut to the regulation pattern of wifehood: that is to say,
-all home-loving, charming, submissive, industrious, unintelligent,
-tidy, possessed with a desire to please, well-dressed, jealous of their
-own sex, self-sacrificing, cowardly, filled with a burning desire for
-maternity, endowed with a talent for cooking, narrowly uninterested in
-the world outside their own gates, and capable of sinking their own
-identity and interests in the interests and identity of a husband. I
-imagine that very few women naturally unite in their single persons
-these characteristics of the class wife; but, having been relegated
-from birth upwards to the class wife, they had to set to work, with or
-against the grain, to acquire some semblance of those that they knew
-were lacking.
-
-There being no question of a line of least resistance for woman, it
-is fairly obvious that the necessity (in many instances) of making a
-silk purse out of a sow’s ear and instilling the qualities of tidiness,
-love of home, cowardice, unintelligence, etc., etc., into persons who
-were born with quite other capacities and defects must have resulted
-in a pitiable waste of good material, sacrificed upon the altar of a
-domesticity arranged in the interests of the husband. But infinitely
-worse in its effect upon womanhood in general was the insincerity
-which, in many cases, was the prime lesson and result of a girl’s
-education and upbringing. I do not mean, of course, that the generality
-of girls were consciously, of set purpose, and in so many words taught
-to be insincere; but it seems fairly certain to me that generations of
-mothers have tacitly instructed their daughters to assume virtues (or
-the reverse) which they had not.
-
-It could not be otherwise. Success in the marriage-market demanded
-certain qualifications; and, as a matter of economic and social
-necessity, if those qualifications were lacking, their counterfeit
-presentment was assumed. When helplessness and fragility were the
-fashion amongst wives, the girl child who was naturally as plucky as
-her brothers was schooled into an affected and false timidity. Men were
-understood to admire and reverence the maternal instinct in women; so
-the girl who had no especial interest in children affected a mechanical
-delight in, petted, fondled and made much of them. (I myself have seen
-this done on more than one occasion; of course in the presence of men.)
-And—worst and most treacherous insincerity of all—since men were
-understood to dislike clever women, the girl who had brains, capacity,
-intellect, sought to conceal, denied possession of them, so that her
-future husband might enjoy, unchallenged, the pleasurable conviction of
-her mental inferiority to himself.
-
-Of all the wrongs that have been inflicted upon woman there has been
-none like unto this—the enforced arrest of her mental growth—and none
-which bears more bitter and eloquent testimony to the complete and
-essential servility of her position. For her the eleventh commandment
-was an insult—“Thou shalt not think”; and the most iniquitous
-condition of her marriage bargain this—that her husband, from the
-height of his self-satisfaction, should be permitted to esteem her a
-fool.
-
-It was not only that, from one generation to another, woman was without
-encouragement to use her higher mental qualities—that her life was
-lacking in the stimulus of emulation so far as they were concerned,
-that her own particular trade made very few demands upon them. As if
-these things in themselves were not discouragement enough, she was
-directly forbidden to cultivate the small share of intellect she was
-understood to possess. Science was closed to her and art degraded to
-a series of “parlor tricks.” It was not enough that she should be
-debarred from material possessions; from possessions that were not
-material, from the things of the spirit, she must be debarred as well.
-Nothing more plainly illustrates the fact that man has always regarded
-her as existing not for herself and for her own benefit, but for his
-use and pleasure solely. His use for her was the gratification of his
-own desire, the menial services she rendered without payment; his
-pleasure was in her flesh, not in her spirit; therefore the things of
-the spirit were not for her.
-
-One wonders what it has meant for the race—this persistent desire of
-the man to despise his wife, this economic need of countless women
-to arrest their mental growth? It has amounted to this—that one of
-the principal qualifications for motherhood has been a low standard
-of intelligence. We hear a very great deal about the beauty and
-sanctity of motherhood; we might, for a change, hear something about
-the degradation thereof—which has been very real. To stunt one’s
-brain in order that one may bear a son does not seem to me a process
-essentially sacred or noble in itself; yet millions of mothers have
-instructed their daughters in foolishness so that they, in their turn,
-might please, marry and bear children. Most of those daughters, no
-doubt—humanity being in the main slothful and indifferent—endured the
-process with equanimity; but there must always have been some, and
-those not the least worthy, who suffered piteously under the systematic
-thwarting of definite instincts and vague ambitions. In every
-generation there must have been women who desired life at first hand,
-and in whom the crushing of initiative and inquiry and the substitution
-of servile for independent qualities, must have caused infinite misery.
-In every generation there must have been women who had something to
-give to those who lived outside the narrowing walls of their home; and
-who were not permitted to give it. They soured and stifled; but they
-were not permitted to give it.
-
-But, after all, the suffering of individual women under the law of
-imposed stupidity is a very small thing compared with the effect of
-that law upon humanity as a whole. The sex which reserved to itself
-the luxury of thinking appears to have been somewhat neglectful of
-its advantages in that respect, since it failed to draw the obvious
-conclusion that sons were the sons of their mothers as well as of
-their fathers. Yet it is a commonplace that exceptional men are born
-of exceptional women—that is to say, of women in whom the natural
-instinct towards self-expansion and self-expression is too strong to be
-crushed and thwarted out of existence by the law of imposed stupidity.
-
-That law has reacted inevitably upon those who framed and imposed it;
-since it is truth and not a jest that the mission in life of many women
-has been to suckle fools—of both sexes. Women have been trained to be
-unintelligent breeding-machines until they have become unintelligent
-breeding-machines—how unintelligent witness the infant death-rate
-from improper feeding. Judging by that and other things, the process
-of transforming the natural woman into flesh without informing spirit
-would appear, in a good many instance, to have been attended by a fair
-amount of success. In some classes she still breeds brainlessly. That
-is what she is there for, not to think of the consequences. Has she
-not been expressly forbidden to think? If she is a failure as a wife
-and mother, it is because she is nothing else. And those of us who are
-now alive might be better men and women, seeing more light where now
-we strive and slip in darkness, if our fathers had not insisted so
-strongly and so steadfastly upon their right to despise the women they
-made their wives—who were our mothers.
-
-I have said that this condemnation to intellectual barrenness is the
-strongest proof of the essential servility of woman’s position in the
-eyes of man, and I repeat that statement. It cannot be repeated too
-often. So long as you deprive a human being of the right to make use
-of its own mental property, so long do you keep that human being in
-a state of serfdom. You may disguise the fact even from yourself by
-an outward show of deference and respect, the lifting of a hat or the
-ceding of a pathway; but the fact remains. Wherever and whenever man
-has desired to degrade his fellow and tread him under foot, he has
-denied him, first of all, the right to think, the means of education
-and inquiry. Every despotism since the world began has recognized
-that it can only work in secret—that its ways must not be known. No
-material tyranny can hope to establish itself firmly and for long
-unless it has at its disposal the means to establish also a tyranny
-that is spiritual and intellectual. When you hold a man’s mind in
-thrall you can do what you will with his body; you possess it and not
-he. Always those who desired power over their fellows have found it a
-sheer necessity to possess their bodies through their souls; and for
-this reason, when you have stripped a man of everything except his
-soul, you have to go on and strip him of that too, lest, having it
-left to him, he ask questions, ponder the answers and revolt. In all
-ages the aim of despotism, small or great, material or intellectual,
-has been to keep its subjects in ignorance and darkness; since, in all
-ages, discontent and rebellion have come with the spread of knowledge,
-light and understanding. So soon as a human being is intelligent enough
-to doubt, and frame the question, “Why is this?” he can no longer be
-satisfied with the answer, “Because I wish it.” That is an answer which
-inevitably provokes the rejoinder, “But I do not”—which is the essence
-and foundation of heresy and high treason.
-
-Those in high places—that is to say, those who desired power over
-others—have, as a condition of their existence in high places, fought
-steadfastly against the spread of the means of enlightenment. No
-right has been more bitterly denied than the right of a man to think
-honestly and to communicate his thoughts to his fellows. Persons who
-claimed that right have been at various times (and for the edification
-of other persons who might be tempted to go and do likewise) stoned,
-devoured by wild beasts, excommunicated, shut up in dungeons, burned at
-the stake and hanged, drawn, and quartered. In spite, however, of these
-drastic penalties—and other lesser ones too numerous to mention—there
-has always been a section of humanity which has stubbornly persisted,
-even at the risk of roasting or dismemberment, in thinking its own
-thoughts on some particular subject and saying what they were. To
-persons of this frame of mind it probably did not much matter how soon
-they had done with an existence which they had to look at through other
-people’s eyes and talk about in suitable phrases arranged for them by
-other people. So they risked the penalty and said what they wanted to.
-The history of the world has been a succession of demands, more or less
-spasmodic, more or less insistent, on the part of subjected classes,
-nations and sects, to be allowed to see things in their own way and
-with an eye to their own interests, spiritual or material. Which is why
-a free press and a free pulpit have often seemed worth dying for.
-
-Wherever civilization exists various classes, sects and nations of men
-have, one by one, claimed the right to that examination of things for
-themselves which is called education. They have never attained to it
-without opposition; and one of the most frequent and specious forms
-of that opposition is embodied in the argument that education would
-not only be useless to them, but would unfit them for their duties.
-No doubt this argument was often put forward in all honesty as the
-outcome of a conviction that was none the less sincere because it was
-prompted by self-interest. That conviction had its roots in the common
-and widespread inability to realize the actual human identity of other
-persons—in the habit of summing them up and estimating them in the
-light only of the salient (and often superficial) characteristics which
-affect ourselves. I can best explain what I mean by saying that to many
-of us the word “clerk” does not summon up the mental representation of
-an actual man who spends some of his time writing, but of something in
-the shape of a man that is continuously occupied in driving a pen. In
-other words, we lose sight of the man himself in one of his attributes;
-and the same with a miner, a sailor, etc. Thus to the persons in high
-places who opposed the education of the agricultural labourer, the
-agricultural labourer was not an actual man, but a hoe or a harrow in
-human shape; and they were quite honestly and logically unable to see
-what this animated implement of agricultural toil could want with the
-inside of a book. Practically, however, they were denying humanity to
-the labourer and sinking his identity in one particular quality—the
-physical capacity for field-work.
-
-This, as I have explained elsewhere, is the manner in which woman, as a
-rule, is still regarded—not as a human being with certain physical and
-mental qualities which enable her to bring children into the world and
-cook a dinner, but as a breeding-machine and the necessary adjunct to a
-frying-pan. So regarded, independence of thought and anything beyond a
-very limited degree of mental cultivation are unnecessary to her, even
-harmful, since they might possibly result in the acquirement of other
-attributes quite out of place in the adjunct to a frying-pan.
-
-
-
-
-V
-
-
-With the advance of civilization one subject class after another has
-risen in revolt, more or less violent, more or less peaceful, and
-asserted its right to inquire, to think in its own way—that is to
-say, it has asserted its humanity. But it is a proof of my statement
-that woman has never been regarded as fully human, that the successive
-classes of men who have, in turn, asserted their own humanity have
-totally forgotten to assert hers, have left her, whatever her rank, in
-a class apart, and continued to treat her as a domestic animal whose
-needs were only the needs of a domestic animal.
-
-The aristocratic instinct is by no means confined to those born in
-the purple. (Some of the most startlingly aristocratic sentiments I
-have ever heard came from the lips of persons believed by themselves
-to entertain ultra-democratic ideas.) The sense of power over others
-is just as attractive to the many as it is to the few; and thus it
-has happened that men, in every class, have taken a pleasure in the
-dependence and subjection of their womenfolk, and, lest their power
-over them should be undermined, have refused to their womenfolk
-the right to think for themselves. The essential cruelty of that
-refusal they disguised from themselves by explaining that women could
-not think even if they tried. We have all heard the definition of
-woman—episcopal, I think—as a creature who cannot reason and pokes
-the fire from the top.
-
-This disbelief in the existence of reasoning powers in woman is still,
-it seems to me, a very real thing—at least, I have run up against it
-a good many times in the course of my life, and I do not suppose that
-I am an exception in that respect. And the really interesting thing
-about this contemptuous attitude of mind is that it has led to the
-adoption, by those who maintain it, of a very curious subterfuge. It
-is, of course, quite impossible to deny that a woman’s mind does go
-through certain processes which control and inspire her actions and
-conclusions— sometimes very swiftly and effectively; but to these
-mental processes, which in men are called reason, they give, in woman,
-the title of intuition.
-
-Now the word “intuition,” when used in connection with woman, conveys
-to the average male mind a meaning closely akin to that of the word
-instinct—as opposed to reason. (In this insistence on the instinctive
-character of our mental processes the average man is, of course,
-quite consistent; since he imagines that we exist only for the
-gratification of two instincts, the sexual and the maternal, it does
-not seem unreasonable on his part to conclude that we also think by
-instinct.) I am certain that I am right as to this masculine habit of
-confusing intuition with instinct; since on every occasion on which I
-have been more or less politely—but always firmly—informed that I
-had no intellect, but could console myself for the deficiency by the
-reflection that I possessed the usual feminine quality of intuition, I
-have made a point of bringing the person who made the remark to book by
-insisting upon an exact definition of the term. In every single case
-within my own experience the exact definition—as I have been careful
-to point out—has been not insight, but instinct. Our mental processes,
-in short, are supposed to be on the same level as the mental process
-which starts the newly-hatched gosling on its waddle to the nearest
-pond. We are supposed to know what we want without knowing why we want
-it—just like the gosling, which does not make a bee-line for the
-water because it has carefully examined its feet, discovered that they
-are webbed, and drawn the inference that webbed feet are suitable for
-progress in water.
-
-This question of the intuitive or instinctive powers of woman is one
-that has always interested me extremely; and as soon as I realized
-that my mind was supposed to work in a different way from a man’s
-mind, and that I was supposed to arrive at conclusions by a series of
-disconnected and frog-like jumps, I promptly set to work to discover
-if that was really the case by the simple expedient of examining the
-manner in which I did arrive at conclusions. I believe that (on certain
-subjects, at any rate) I think more rapidly than most people—which
-does not mean, of course, that I think more correctly. It does mean,
-however, that I very often have to explain to other people the process
-by which I have arrived at my conclusions (which might otherwise appear
-intuitive); therefore I may be called a good subject for investigation.
-I can honestly say that I have never been at a loss for such an
-explanation. I can trace the progress of my thought, step by step, just
-as a man can trace his. I may reason wrongly, but I do not reason in
-hops. And I have yet to meet the woman who does. I have met many women
-who were in the habit of coming to conclusions that were altogether
-ridiculous and illogical; but they were conclusions—drawn from
-insufficient data—and not guesses. No sane human being regulates—or
-does not regulate—its life, as we are supposed to do, by a series of
-vague and uncontrolled guesses.
-
-I imagine that the idea that women do so control their lives must
-have had its origin in the fact that men and women usually turn their
-mental energy into entirely different channels. On subjects that are
-familiar to us we think quickly, and acquire a mental dexterity akin
-to the manual dexterity of a skilled artisan. But the subjects upon
-which women exercise this mental dexterity are not, as a rule, the same
-as those upon which men exercise theirs; the latter have usually left
-narrow social and domestic matters alone, and it is in narrow social
-and domestic matters that we are accustomed to think quickly. We are
-swifter than they are, of course, at drawing the small inferences
-from which we judge what a man will like or dislike; but then, for
-generations the business of our lives has been to find out what a man
-will like or dislike, and it would be rather extraordinary if we had
-not, in the course of ages, acquired in it a measure of that rapid
-skill which in any other business would be called mechanical, but in
-ours is called intuitive.
-
-This theory of intuition or instinct, then, I take, as I have already
-said, to be in the nature of a subterfuge on the part of the male—a
-sop to his conscience, and a plausible excuse for assuming that we have
-not the intelligence which (if it were once admitted that we possessed
-it) we should have the right to cultivate by independent thinking. But
-to admit the right of a human being to independent thinking is also to
-admit something else far more important and unpleasant—his right to
-sit in judgment upon you. That right every despotism that ever existed
-has steadily denied to its subjects; therefore, there is nothing
-extraordinary in the fact that man has steadily denied it to woman.
-He has always preferred that she should be too ignorant to sit in
-judgment upon him, punishing her with ostracism if she was rash enough
-to attempt to dispel her own ignorance. One of her highest virtues, in
-his eyes, was a childish and undeveloped quality about which he threw
-a halo of romance when he called it by the name of innocence. So far
-has this insistence on ignorance or innocence in a wife been carried,
-that even in these days many women who marry young have but a very
-vague idea of what they are doing; while certain risks attaching to the
-estate of marriage are, in some ranks of life at any rate, sedulously
-concealed from them as things which it is unfit for them to know.
-
-It is a subject that is both difficult and unpleasant to touch upon;
-but while it will always be unpleasant, it ought not to be difficult,
-and I should be false to my beliefs if I apologized for touching upon
-it. Women, like men, when they enter upon a calling, have a perfect
-right to know exactly what are the dangers and drawbacks attached
-to their calling; you do not, when you turn a man into a pottery or
-a dynamite factory, sedulously conceal from him the fact that there
-are such things as lead-poisoning or combustion. On the contrary, you
-warn him—as women are seldom warned. I have been astonished at the
-number of women I have met who seem to have hardly more than a vague
-inkling—and some not even that—of the tangible, physical consequence
-of loose living.
-
-I have not the faintest intention of inditing a sermon on masculine
-morals. If the average man chooses to dispense with morals as
-we understand them, that is his affair and a matter for his own
-conscience; if he is so constituted physically that he cannot live
-as we do, and has practically no choice in the matter, that is his
-misfortune. But I do say this: that the average woman has a perfect
-right to know what are the results of loose living in so far as those
-results may affect her and her children. If marriage is a trade we
-ought to know its risks—concerning which there exists a conspiracy of
-silence. Is the cause to which I have alluded ever mentioned, except in
-technical publications, in connection with the infant death-rate?
-
-Those of us who have discovered that there are risks attaching to the
-profession of marriage other than the natural ones of childbirth, have
-very often made the discovery by accident—which ought not to be. I
-made the discovery in that way myself while I was still very young—by
-the idle opening of a book which, because it was a book, was a thing
-to be opened and looked into. I was puzzled at first, and then the
-thing stared me in the face—a simple matter of bald statement and
-statistics. I remember the thought which flashed into my mind—we are
-told we have got to be married, but we are never told _that_! It was my
-first conscious revolt against the compulsory nature of the trade of
-marriage.
-
-
-
-
-VI
-
-
-This insistent and deliberate stunting of woman’s intellectual growth
-is, as I have already stated, the best proof of her essentially
-servile position in the household; and that being the case, it is not
-to be wondered at that her code of honour and morals is essentially
-a servile code. That is to say, its origin and guiding motive is the
-well-being, moral and material, of some one else. Like her stupidity
-woman’s morality has been imposed on her, and to a great extent is not
-morality at all, in the proper sense of the word, but a code of manners
-formulated in the interests of her master.
-
-I wish to make it clear that when I speak of morality in this
-connection I am not using the word in the narrow sense in which it is
-sometimes employed. By a standard of morality I mean a rule of life
-which we adopt as a guide to our conduct, and endeavour, more or less
-successfully, to apply to every action—to our dealings with others as
-well as to our dealings with our own hearts.
-
-I cannot better explain what I mean by the essential servility of
-woman’s code of morals than by quoting Milton’s well-known line—
-
- “He for God only; she for God in him.”
-
-That one brief verse condenses into a nutshell the difference in
-the moral position of the two sexes—expresses boldly, simply,
-straightforwardly, the man’s belief that he had the right to divert
-and distort the moral impulse and growth in woman to serve his own
-convenience. No priesthood has ever made a claim more arrogant than
-this claim of man to stand between woman and her God, and divert the
-spiritual forces of her nature into the channel that served him best.
-The real superiority of man consists in this: that he is free to obey
-his conscience and to serve his God—if it be in him so to do. Woman
-is not. She can serve Him only at second hand—can obey His commands
-not directly but only by obeying the will of the man who stands between
-her and the Highest, and who has arrogated to himself not merely the
-material control of her person and her property, but the spiritual
-control of her conscience.
-
-This is no fanciful piece of imagery. There are laws still in
-existence—laws of an earlier age—which prove how complete has been
-this moral control which we are only now shaking off, since they
-presume a man’s entire responsibility for the actions of his wife,
-be those actions good or ill. That a woman at her husband’s bidding
-should bend her conscience to his will as a reed bends; that, because
-he desired it of her, she should break and defy every commandment
-of God and man; this seemed to our forefathers a natural thing, and
-a course of action befitting her station and place in life. So far
-from blaming, they condoned it in her and have expressed that view
-of the matter in their law—sometimes with awkward and annoying
-results for a later generation. Woman, until she began to feel in
-herself the stirrings of independence—woman, when she was just the
-wife-and-mother-and-nothing-else, the domestic animal—seems to me to
-have been a creature whom you could not have described as being either
-moral or immoral. She was just unmoral. Whether she did good or evil
-was not, as far as her own individuality went, of very much account
-since the standard set up for her was not of her own setting up; it had
-been erected for the comfort and well-being of her master. Her virtues
-were second-hand virtues, instilled into her for the convenience of
-another; and she did what was right in his eyes, not in her own, after
-the manner of a child. Therefore she was neither moral nor immoral, but
-servile. The motive which guided and impelled her from childhood was
-a low one—the desire (disinterestedly or for her own advantage) of
-pleasing some one else. (To make others happy, as Mr. Burns expresses
-it.) The desire to please being the motive power of her existence,
-her code of honour and ethics was founded not on thought, conviction
-or even natural impulse, but on observation of the likes and dislikes
-of those she had to please. Hence its extraordinary and inconsistent
-character, its obvious artificiality and the manifest traces it bears
-of having been imposed upon her from without. For instance, no natural
-ethical code emanating from within could have summed up woman’s virtue
-in _a_ virtue—physical purity. That confusion of one virtue with
-virtue in general was certainly of masculine origin arising from the
-masculine habit of thinking of woman only in connection with her
-relations to himself. To other aspects of her life and character man
-was indifferent—they hardly existed for him. And of masculine origin,
-too, was that extraordinary article of the code by which it was laid
-down that a woman’s “honour” was, to all intents and purposes, a matter
-of chance—a thing which she only possessed because no unkind fate had
-thrown her in the way of a man sufficiently brutal to deprive her of it
-by force. Her honour, in short, was not a moral but a physical quality.
-
-One sees, of course, the advantage from the male point of view, of
-this peculiar provision of the code. In a world where the pickpocket
-class had the upper hand a somewhat similar regulation would, no doubt,
-be in force; and it would be enacted, by a custom stronger than law,
-that to have one’s pocket picked was in itself a disgrace which must
-on no account be cried aloud upon the housetops or communicated to
-the police. To reveal and publish the fact that your purse had been
-snatched from you by force would be to make yourself a mark of scorn
-and for hissing, to bring upon yourself an obloquy far greater than
-that accorded to the active partner in the transaction, whose doings
-would be greeted with a shrug of the shoulders and the explanation
-that pickpockets are pickpockets, and will never be anything but what
-nature has made them; and, after all, you must have dangled the purse
-temptingly before his eyes. Under these circumstances, with the thief
-at liberty to ply his trade, the fact that you had money in your pocket
-would be, strictly speaking, an accident; and, to make the parallel
-complete, the lack of your money—the fact that it had been taken
-from you even against your will—would have to be accounted a black
-disgrace, leaving a lasting smear upon your whole life. That, it seems
-to me, is the exact position with regard to what is commonly termed a
-woman’s “honour.” I should prefer to put it that a woman has no honour;
-only an accident.
-
-In such a world as I have described—a world run in the interest of the
-light-fingered class—the average and decent man would find it just as
-easy and just as difficult to take legal proceedings against the person
-who had violently deprived him of his purse as the average and decent
-woman would now find it were she to take legal proceedings against the
-man who had violently deprived her of her honour. Nominally, of course,
-justice would afford him a fair hearing and the process of law would be
-at his disposal; actually he would make himself a target for contempt
-and scorn, and the very men who tried his case, with every desire to be
-unbiassed, would be prejudiced against him because he had not hidden
-his disgrace in silence. In most cases the effect of such a public
-opinion would be to make him hold his tongue, and practically by his
-silence become an abettor and accomplice in the offence wrought upon
-himself and by which he himself had suffered. He might, if his mould
-were sensitive, choose the river rather than exposure—as women have
-done before now.
-
-Honour, as I understand it, is not physical or accidental; is not even
-reputation, which is a species of reflection of honour in the minds of
-others; it is a state of mind resulting from a voluntary and conscious
-adherence to certain rules of life and conduct. As such it is entirely
-your own possession and a creation, a thing of which no one can rob
-you but yourself; it is at no man’s mercy but your own. It is because
-woman, as a rule, has not possessed the power of giving voluntary and
-conscious adherence to rules of life and conduct, because the rules of
-life and conduct which she follows have been framed in the interests
-of others and forced upon her in the interests of others—that she has
-been denied any other than a purely physical and accidental “honour.”
-
-One’s mind goes back to two children in the school-room pondering
-seriously and in the light of their own unaided logic the puzzling
-story of Lucrece—much expurgated and newly acquired during the course
-of a Roman history lesson. The expurgated Roman history book had made
-it clear that she was a woman greatly to be admired; we sat with
-knitted brows and argued why. Something had been done to her—we were
-vague as to the nature of the something, but had gathered from the
-hurried manner of our instructress that here was a subject on which
-you must not ask for precise information. Our ignorance baffled and
-aggrieved us since fuller knowledge might have thrown light upon an
-otherwise incomprehensible case. Something had been done to her by a
-wicked man and against her will—so much we knew. She had tried all
-she could to prevent it, but he was the stronger—the expurgated Roman
-history had said, “By force.” Therefore, whatever had happened was not
-her fault. Yet the next morning she had sent posthaste for her husband
-and her father, told them all about it and stabbed herself to the heart
-before their eyes! Try as we would to sympathize with this paragon of
-Roman virtue, the action seemed inconsequent. It implied remorse where
-remorse was not only unnecessary but impossible. If she had stabbed
-Sextus Tarquinius, or if Sextus Tarquinius had stabbed himself in a fit
-of repentance for his own mysterious ill-doing.... But why needlessly
-distress your family by descending into an early grave because some one
-else had been mysteriously wicked while you yourself had done no harm
-at all? Our sense of logic and justice was shaken to its foundations.
-The verdict of admiration recorded in the history book stared us in the
-face, conflicting with our own conclusions; and it was our reverence
-for the written word alone that prevented the open and outspoken
-judgment, “She was silly.”
-
-So two small persons, to whom sex was still a matter of garments,
-seriously troubled by their own inability to appreciate a virtue held
-up to them for reverence, with views as yet level and unwarped on the
-subject of justice, and still in complete ignorance of the “economic”
-law that the cost of sin, like the cost of taxation, is always shifted
-on to the shoulders of those least able to bear or to resent it.
-
-The key to the curious and inferior position of woman with regard
-to breaches, voluntary or involuntary, of the moral law is to be
-found in this right of the strongest to avoid payment. It is a right
-that is recognized and openly acted upon in the world of business
-and of property, that has to be considered and taken into account
-by financiers and statesmen in the collection of revenue and the
-imposition of taxes. It is the general exercise of this right that
-makes the incidence of taxation a study for experts. Roughly its result
-is, the weakest pays. Tax the business man and he will set to work to
-send up prices, collecting his additional toll in farthings, pence and
-shillings from his customers, or to save it by cutting down the wages
-of his employees. Tax the landlord, and he sends up rents—perhaps in
-the slums. The stronger the position of the capitalist, the more easily
-does he avoid payment. If his position is so strong that he is an
-actual monopolist he can avoid it with complete ease, simply taking the
-amount required from the pockets of those who are unable to refuse his
-demands, handing it over to the powers that be and paying himself for
-his trouble in doing so.
-
-The incidence of blame in offences against the code which regulates
-the sexual relations of men and women is governed by laws similar to
-those which govern the incidence of taxation. The stronger party to
-the offence, taking advantage of his strength, has refused to pay;
-has simply and squarely declined to take his share of the mutual
-punishment, and has shifted a double portion thereof on the shoulders
-of the weaker party. So far as I can see that is the real and only
-reason for the preferential treatment of man under the moral code—a
-preferential treatment insisted upon by Adam in the garden of Eden
-when he anxiously explained to the Deity that the woman was to blame,
-and insisted upon ever since by his descendants. Is it not Adam who
-sniggers over spicy stories at his club, retails them to the wife of
-his bosom and then gives vent to manly and generous indignation at
-the expense of the spinster who repeats them at third hand? while
-the extreme reluctance of a purely male electorate to raise what is
-termed the age of consent in girls is perhaps the most striking example
-of this tendency of the stronger to shift the responsibility of his
-misdeeds on to any shoulders but his own,—even on to the shoulders of
-a child.
-
-Palpable and obvious hardship dealt out by men to women is usually
-defended, if not explained, by that more or less vague reference to
-natural law, which is again an attempt to shift responsibility; and
-I have heard the position of woman as scapegoat for the sins of the
-man justified by her greater importance to the race as the mother of
-the next generation. This position of trust and responsibility, it is
-urged, makes her fall more blameworthy in itself, since her offence
-is not only an offence against her own person. One would feel more
-inclined to give ear to this explanation if it could be proved that
-it was only in the case of actual infractions of the moral code that
-the male was in the habit of availing himself of his opportunities of
-shifting the blame that should be his on to the back of the weaker
-vessel. But it is not. Why, for instance, when a man who has been
-engaged to a woman changes his mind and throws her over against her
-will should the woman be regarded as to some extent humiliated and
-disgraced by the action of another person, an action over which she
-has had no control whatever, which has, in fact, been performed
-against her express desire? Yet in such circumstances the woman who
-has been left in the lurch is supposed to suffer, quite apart from
-the damage to her affection, a sort of moral damage and disgrace from
-the heartlessness or fickleness of another person—the man to whom
-she has been engaged; and this moral damage is, I believe, taken into
-account in actions for breach of promise of marriage (where there is
-no question of seduction). In these instances of fickleness on the
-side of the one party to the engagement, there is no suggestion of
-guilt or offence in the other party—the woman; yet the consequences
-of guilt and offence have been transferred to her shoulders, simply,
-it seems to me, because the guilty and offending party, being the
-stronger, declined to bear them himself. And woman’s code of honour and
-morals being essentially a servile code, designed for the benefit of
-those in authority over her, she accepts the position without protest
-and takes shame to herself for the fault of another person. The first
-provision of a wider code—a code drawn up by herself—must be that
-she will only accept responsibility for her own actions. Until she
-has taken her stand on that principle she cannot hope for a freedom
-that is real, even a material freedom. At present her position, in
-this respect, is analogous to that of the mediæval whipping-boy or
-those slaves of antiquity who were liable to be put to death for the
-sins of their masters—a position entirely incompatible with the most
-elementary ideas of liberty and justice. The chaste and virtuous
-Lucrece whose untimely fate so distraught our youthful brains was not
-so much the victim of one man’s evil passions and wrong-doing as of
-her own servile code of morals; she was (if she ever existed) a slave
-of undoubted and heroic virtue—but certainly a slave and not a free
-woman, accountable for her own acts and her own acts alone.
-
-As a matter of fact, if we come to look into them closely, we find
-that the virtues that have been enjoined upon woman for generations
-are practically all servile virtues—the virtues a man desires in and
-enjoins upon those whom he wishes to hold in subjection. Honour, in the
-proper sense of the word, truth-telling, independence of thought and
-action, self-reliance and courage are the qualities of a free people;
-and, because they are the qualities of a free people, they have not
-been required of her. Submission, suppleness, coaxing manners, a desire
-to please and ingratiate, tact and a capacity for hard work for which
-no definite return is to be expected are the qualities encouraged in
-a servile or subject race by those in authority over them; and it
-is precisely these qualities which have been required of woman. The
-ordinary male ideal of a mother is a servile ideal—a person who waits
-on others, gives way to others, drudges for others, and only lives
-for the convenience of others. The ordinary male ideal of a wife is a
-servile ideal—a person with less brains than himself, who is pleasant
-to look at, makes him comfortable at home and respects his authority.
-And it is the unfortunate fact that she is expected to live down to
-this ideal—and very often does—which accounts for that frequent
-phenomenon, the rapid mental deterioration of the woman who has
-fulfilled her destiny and attained to a completeness that is synonymous
-with stagnation.
-
-It is obvious that marriage—the companionship of two reasonable human
-beings—ought not, under natural conditions, to have a stupefying
-effect upon one of the parties to the arrangement; and, as far as I
-can see, where the woman is recognized as a responsible human being
-with an individuality and interests of her own, and with a right to her
-own opinion, it does not have that effect. The professional woman—a
-class which I know fairly well—is not, as a rule, less interesting
-and individual after marriage than before it, simply because she
-does not usually marry the type of man who would expect her to swamp
-her own ideas and personality in his; and the working woman of
-another class, who, as the manager and financier of the household,
-is obliged to keep her wits sharp, is often an extremely interesting
-person with a shrewd and characteristic outlook on life. It is the
-woman of the “comfortable” class, with narrow duties and a few petty
-responsibilities, who now-a-days most readily conforms to the servile
-type of manners and morals set up for her admiration and imitation,
-sinks into a nonentity or a busybody, and does her best to gratify and
-justify her husband’s predilection for regarding her mental capacity
-with contempt.
-
-
-
-
-VII
-
-
-One peculiarity of the trade at which so many women earn their
-livelihood I have, as yet, hardly touched upon. It is this: that
-however arduous and exacting the labour that trade entails—and the
-rough manual work of most households is done by women—it is not
-paid except by a wage of subsistence. There may be exceptions, of
-course, but, as a general rule, the work done by the wife and mother
-in the home is paid for merely by supplying her with the necessaries
-of existence—food, lodging, and clothing. She is fed and lodged on
-the same principle as a horse is fed and lodged—so that she may do
-her work, her cooking, her cleaning, her sewing, and the tending and
-rearing of her children. She may do it very well or she may do it very
-badly; but beyond food, lodging, and a certain amount of clothing,
-she can claim no wage for it. In short, her work in the home is not
-recognized either by the State or by the individual citizen (except in
-occasional instances) as work which has any commercial value.
-
-There must, of course, be some reason why such intrinsically important
-work as the rearing of children and ministering to the comfort of the
-community should be held in such poor esteem that it is paid for at the
-lowest possible rate—subsistence rate. (Which means, of course, that
-wages in that particular branch of work have been forced just as low
-as they can go, since human beings cannot continue to exist without
-the means of supporting life.) And the principal reason for this state
-of things I take to be the compulsory nature of the trade. Given a
-sufficiently large number of persons destined and educated from birth
-for one particular calling, with no choice at all in the matter, and
-with every other calling and means of livelihood sternly barred to
-them, and you have all the conditions necessary for the forcing down of
-wages to the lowest possible point to which they will go—subsistence
-point. In that calling labour will be as cheap as the heart of the
-employer could desire; and incidentally it will tend to become what
-ill-paid labour always tends to become—inefficient. Exactly the
-same condition of affairs would prevail in any other trade—mining or
-boiler-making, for instance—if immense numbers of boys were brought
-up to be miners or boiler-makers, and informed that whatever their
-needs or desires, or whatever the state of the labour market in these
-particular callings, they could not turn their abilities into any other
-direction. Under those circumstances miners and boiler-makers would
-probably work for their keep and nothing more, as the ordinary wife has
-to do.
-
-I shall be told, of course, that the position of a husband is not that
-of an ordinary employer of labour, and that the financial relations
-of a man and his wife are complicated by considerations of affection
-and mutual interest which make it quite impossible to estimate the
-exact wage-earning value of the wife’s services in the household, or
-the price which she receives for them in other things than money. Even
-if, for the sake of argument, this be admitted as a general rule, it
-does not invalidate my point, which is that the compulsory nature of
-woman’s principal trade is quite sufficient, in itself, to account
-for the fact that the workers in that trade are not deemed worthy of
-anything more than a wage of subsistence. Considerations of sentiment
-and affection may help to keep her direct monetary remuneration down;
-but to bring it down in the first instance nothing more was needed than
-compulsory overcrowding of the “domestic service” market.
-
-That the wage of subsistence—the board, lodging, and clothing—dealt
-out to a married woman is often board, lodging, and clothing on a
-very liberal and comfortable scale, does not alter the fact that it
-is essentially a wage of subsistence, regulated by the idea of what
-is necessary for subsistence in the particular class to which she may
-happen to belong. The plutocrat who wishes his wife to entertain cannot
-habitually feed her on fish and chips from round the corner, or renew
-her wardrobe in an old-clothes shop. But she does not get twelve-course
-dinners and dresses from the Rue de la Paix because she has earned them
-by extra attention to her duties as a wife and mother, but because
-they are necessary qualifications for the place in his household which
-her husband wishes her to take—because, without them, she could not
-fulfil the duties that he requires of her. The monetary reward of
-wifehood and motherhood depends entirely on the life, the good luck
-and the good nature of another person; the strictest attention to duty
-on the part of a wife and mother is of no avail without that. The
-really hard labour of housework and rearing children is done in those
-households where the wage of subsistence is lowest; and the women who
-receive most money from their husbands are precisely those who pass on
-the typical duties of a wife and mother to other persons—housekeepers,
-cooks, nurses, and governesses. Excellence in the trade is no guarantee
-of reward, which is purely a matter of luck; work, however hard, will
-not bring about that measure of independence, more or less comparative,
-which is attained by successful work in other trades. Dependence,
-in short, is the essence of wifehood as generally understood by the
-masculine mind.
-
-Under normal and favourable conditions, then, a married woman without
-private means of her own obtains a wage of subsistence for the
-fulfilment of the duties required of her in her husband’s household.
-Under unfavourable (but not very abnormal) conditions she does not
-even obtain that. In the case of the large army of married women who
-support idle or invalid husbands by paid labour outside the home, the
-additional work inside the home is carried on gratis, and without a
-suggestion of payment of any kind.
-
-I am inclined to believe that the principle that payment should be
-made for domestic service rendered does not really enter into the
-question of a wife’s wages; that those wages (of subsistence) are paid
-simply for the possession of her person, and that the other arts and
-accomplishments she may possess are not supposed to have any exchange
-value. At any rate, a mistress, from whom the domestic arts are not
-expected, is often just as expensively kept as a wife—which seems to
-point to my conclusion. What Mr. John Burns has called a woman’s “duty
-and livelihood” is, in the strict sense of the term, not her livelihood
-at all. Her livelihood, as an ordinary wife, is a precarious dependence
-upon another person’s life; should that other person die, she could
-not support herself and her children by remaining in “woman’s
-sphere”—cooking, tending the house, and looking after her young
-family. That sort of work having no commercial value, she and her young
-family would very shortly starve. The profession of the prostitute is a
-livelihood; the profession of the wife and mother is not. A woman can
-support her children by prostitution; she cannot do so by performing
-the duties ordinarily associated with motherhood.
-
-That marriage has another side than the economic I should be the last
-to deny, as I should be the last to deny that there are many households
-in which subjection and dependence in the wife are not desired by her
-husband—households in which there is a sharing of material, as well
-as of intellectual, interests. But that does not alter the fact that
-the position of a great many other married women is simply that of an
-unpaid domestic servant on the premises of a husband. The services
-that, rendered by another, would command payment, or at least thanks,
-from her are expected as a matter of course. They are supposed to be
-natural to her; she is no more to be paid for them than she is to be
-paid for breathing or feeling hungry. (One wonders why it should be
-“natural” in woman to do so many disagreeable things. Does the average
-man really believe that she has an instinctive and unquenchable craving
-for all the unpleasant and unremunerative jobs? Or is that only a
-polite way of expressing his deeply-rooted conviction that when once
-she has got a husband she ought to be so thoroughly happy that a little
-dirty work more or less really cannot matter to her?)
-
-It may be argued that in the greater number of cases marriage, for
-the husband, means the additional labour and expense of supporting a
-wife and children; and that this added labour and expense is expected
-from him as a matter of course, and that neither does he receive any
-thanks for it. Quite so; but, as I pointed out at the beginning of
-this book, marriage is a voluntary matter on the part of a man. He
-does not earn his living by it; he is under no necessity to undertake
-its duties and responsibilities should he prefer not to do so. He has
-other interests in life and no social stigma attaches to him if he does
-not take to himself a wife and beget children. He enters the marriage
-state because he wishes to enter it, and is prepared to make certain
-necessary sacrifices in order to maintain a wife and family; whereas
-the position of the woman is very different. She very often enters the
-married state because she has to—because more lucrative trades are
-barred to her, because to remain unmarried will be to confess failure.
-This state of things in itself gives the man an advantage, and enables
-him to ensure (not necessarily consciously) that his share of the
-bargain shall be advantageous to himself—to ensure, in short, that he
-gets his money’s worth. With his wife, on the other hand, it has often
-been a case of take it or leave it; since she knows that, if she does
-leave it, she will not be able to strike any more advantageous bargain
-elsewhere.
-
-These being the conditions under which, consciously or unconsciously,
-the average wife strikes her bargain, it follows that in the ensuing
-division of labour she generally gets the worst of the transaction, the
-duties assigned to her being those which her husband would prefer not
-to perform. They are handed over to her as a matter of course, and
-on the assumption that they enter into what is commonly known as her
-“sphere.” And it is this principle—that woman’s work is the kind of
-work which man prefers not to do—which regulates and defines not only
-the labour of a woman in her own household, but the labour of women
-generally.
-
-I am quite aware that this principle is not openly admitted in
-assigning to woman her share of the world’s work—that, on the
-contrary, the results of its application are explained away on the
-theory that there is a “natural” division of labour between the two
-sexes. But when one comes to examine that theory, dispassionately
-and without prejudice, one finds that it does not hold water—or
-very little—since the estimate of woman’s “natural” work is such
-an exceedingly variable quantity. One nation, people, or class,
-will esteem it “natural” in woman to perform certain duties which,
-in another nation, people, or class, are entirely left to men—so
-much so, that woman’s sphere, like morality, seems to be defined by
-considerations “purely geographical.” Unless we grasp the underlying
-principle that woman’s “natural” labour in any given community is
-the form of labour which the men of that community do not care to
-undertake, her share in the world’s work must appear to be regulated by
-sheer and arbitrary chance.
-
-
-
-
-VIII
-
-
-As soon as one comes to examine this subject of the “natural” sphere
-of woman and woman’s work with anything like an open mind, one
-discovers that in at least nine cases out of ten the word “suitable” or
-“artificial” must be substituted for the word “natural.” There are only
-two kinds of work natural to any human being: the labour by which, in
-fulfilment of the curse laid upon Adam, he needs to earn his bread; and
-what may be called the artistic or spontaneous labour which he puts of
-his own free will into his hobbies, his pleasures, and his interests.
-In some cases the two kinds—the bread-winning and the artistic or
-spontaneous form of labour—can be combined; and those who can so
-combine them, be they rich or poor, are the fortunate ones of the
-earth. To a person in actual need of the means of supporting existence
-any form of labour by which he or she can earn or obtain those means
-of existence is a perfectly natural one. A sufficiently hungry
-coal-heaver would do his best to hemstitch a silk pocket-handkerchief
-for the price of a meal, and a sufficiently hungry woman would wrestle
-with a coal-heaver’s job for the same consideration. In neither case
-could the action of the sufficiently hungry person be called unnatural;
-on the contrary, it would be prompted by the first and most urgent of
-natural laws—the law of self-preservation, which would over-ride any
-considerations of unsuitability. It does not, of course, follow from
-this example that certain forms of labour are not more suitable to
-women in general, and others not more suitable to men in general; all I
-wish to insist on is that suitable and natural are not interchangeable
-terms, and that what may be suitable at one place and under one set of
-conditions may not be suitable in another place and under another set
-of conditions.
-
-The care of young children seems to be a department of labour so
-suitable to women that one may venture to assume that it is natural
-to a good many of them, though not by any means to all. (Not the
-least serious result of compulsory marriage has been the compulsory
-motherhood of women in whom the maternal instinct is slight—of whom
-there are many.) I do not mean that men should necessarily be excluded
-altogether from the tending of children; in many men the sense of
-fatherhood is very strong, in spite of the discouragement it receives
-under present conditions. If that discouragement were removed the
-paternal instinct might manifest itself in a more personal care of
-children; but on the whole one imagines that such personal care of
-children will always come more easily to woman. On the other hand,
-as most men are stronger muscularly than women, those departments of
-labour which require the exertion of considerable muscular strength
-must, under ordinary circumstances, naturally be monopolized by man.
-But between these two extremes there lies what may be called a neutral
-or debatable ground of labour requiring the exercise of qualities
-which are the exclusive property of neither sex. It is in this
-neutral field that the law to which I have alluded above comes into
-operation—the law under which the activities of women are confined
-to those departments of the labour market into which men do not
-care, or actively object, to enter. Thus, if there were no question
-of economic competition, it seems to me that the invasion by woman of
-these departments of the labour market which were formerly monopolized
-by men would be bound to awaken a certain amount of opposition; since
-her consequent desertion of the dull, unpleasant, and monotonous tasks
-assigned to her, might mean that these tasks would have to be performed
-by those who had hitherto escaped the necessity by shifting it on to
-her shoulders. Hence a natural and comprehensible resentment.
-
-The average and unthinking man who passes his existence in a modern
-civilized town, if he were asked upon what principle the work of
-the world were shared between the men and the women who inhabit it,
-would very probably reply, in his average and unthinking way, that
-the idea underlying the division of labour between the sexes was the
-idea of sparing woman the hard bodily toil for which she was unfitted
-by her lack of physical strength. If that really were the principle
-upon which the division of labour was made, it is clear that the
-ordinary male clerk ought at once to change places with the ordinary
-housemaid or charwoman, the ordinary ticket-collector with the
-ordinary laundress. The physical labour of holding a pen or collecting
-tickets is infinitely less than the physical labour of carrying coals
-upstairs, scrubbing a floor, or wringing out a dirty garment. There
-is no particular or inevitable reason why such changes should not be
-made—and no further away than France housemaid’s duties are very
-commonly performed by men. Clerking, the duties of a ticket-collector,
-laundry-work and housework are all situated upon that neutral ground
-of labour to which I have alluded above; they are forms of work which
-do not call for the exercise of qualities peculiar to either sex, and
-which, therefore, can be equally well performed by persons of either
-sex.
-
-To take another instance. In most civilized countries the rougher
-branches of agriculture are looked upon as work which is unsuited to
-women, because making too heavy demands upon their strength. Amongst
-primitive and semicivilized peoples, on the other hand, the tilling
-of the soil is often left entirely to women; while the dweller in
-towns—who usually has most to say about these matters—would probably
-be astonished if he realized how largely women’s work is employed, even
-in Europe, in the rougher processes of agriculture. (Within less than a
-twenty-four hours’ journey from London I have seen a woman yoked to a
-plough.) In certain small communities on the Breton coast I understand
-that the work of agriculture is carried on entirely by the women of the
-community; the men—fishermen by trade—occupying themselves during
-the long periods of enforced idleness between the fishing seasons by
-dressmaking for the household, and other forms of sewing. I have before
-me, as I write, a specimen of the needlework of one of these Breton
-fishermen: a penwiper, neatly cut and sewn, and quaintly ornamented
-with a design in yellow thread—the sort of trifle that we should
-regard as an essentially feminine production. To me such a division
-of labour does not seem in the least “unnatural.” Having regard to
-the circumstances, I can well understand that the man who took needle
-and scissors to produce my penwiper—and who had his fill of stormy
-and open air toil at other times—should prefer to set his hand to a
-restful occupation which would keep him in his home, rather than to the
-plough or the spade, which would take him out of it.
-
-In the beginning of things, labour seems to have been divided between
-the sexes on a fairly simple plan. Man did most of the hunting and most
-of the fighting; and woman, only joining in the hunting and fighting
-if necessity arose, did all the rest. In savage tribes which have
-suddenly come under the domination of a civilized race—a domination
-which usually means not only the cessation of tribal warfare, but a
-rapid decrease in the raw material of the chase—the male, debarred
-from the exercise of his former avocations, frequently refuses to
-do anything at all. Deprived of the only work proper to man, and
-disinclined, at first, to undertake the work he considers proper to
-woman, he is apt to fold his hands and exist in idleness on what is, to
-all intents and purposes, the slave-labour of his female belongings.
-The distaste of certain South African races for what we esteem men’s
-work is well known, and has had political consequences before now;
-and it is said that in some primitive American tribes a man would
-consider that he demeaned himself by undertaking such strictly feminine
-work as the hewing and carrying of wood. (One is led to the conclusion
-that the idea of woman as a wife-and-mother-and-nothing-else must be
-of comparatively modern growth. “Natural” man did not think of her in
-that light at all; he had so many other uses for her. Or, perhaps, one
-might put it that his definition of the duties of a wife and mother was
-comprehensive.)
-
-The early arts and the first processes of manufacture are supposed to
-have originated with that half of the human race which is now denied
-invention and initiative—arising naturally out of her more complicated
-duties and more settled habits of living. Woman was certainly, and all
-unknown to herself, the civilizing agent in the primitive community.
-The hut, clearing, or cave where she tended the hearth and carried on
-her rude industries, and whither her man returned from his roaming
-expeditions, was the germ and nucleus of the city where her descendants
-now dwell.
-
-It was not until the world grew more crowded, less of a place to
-fight in, less of a place to hunt in, that man began to consider
-other means and take to other ways of earning his living—to dig and
-to engage in manufactures. In other words, he began to invade the
-sphere of woman (it is as well to remember this), and to parcel out
-and divide the industries hitherto monopolized by her. This process
-of parcelling out and division was carried out in accordance with the
-principle already mentioned—that woman was to keep those trades which
-men did not care to embark upon; and, roughly speaking, his preference
-in the matter has always been for those callings and professions
-which ensured him, in addition to his livelihood, and, if possible, a
-prospect of advancement, a certain amount of variety in his existence,
-and a certain amount of intercourse with his fellows. His tendency,
-therefore, has been to annex those trades which afforded him the
-desired amount of variety, intercourse, and prospect of advancement,
-and to leave to woman the monotonous, prospectless, and isolated
-callings—callings which were usually connected with the home; and
-that tendency seems to have continued with very little check until
-the beginning of the revolution in our social and industrial system
-which was brought about by the introduction of machinery—a revolution
-which, incidentally and amongst other things, is changing almost beyond
-recognition the institution known as the home, modifying the relations
-of the sexes, and completely altering the position of woman by forcing
-her, whether she likes it or not, to stand on her own feet.
-
-I have dwelt at some length upon this tendency in the dominant
-sex—the outcome of no deliberate selfishness, but of the natural and
-instinctive human impulse to take the line of least resistance and get
-what one wants in the easiest way—because it seems to me to afford the
-only reasonable explanation of the customary hard and fast division of
-labour between an ordinary man and an ordinary wife. Fundamentally, I
-can see no reason why it should be the duty of the wife, rather than
-of the husband, to clean doorsteps, scrub floors, and do the family
-cooking. Men are just as capable as women of performing all these
-duties. They can clean doorsteps and scrub floors just as well as
-women; they can cook just as well as women, sometimes better. Why,
-then, should it be assumed that it is the natural thing for a married
-woman to take over these particular departments of work, and that when
-a bride undertakes to love, honour, and obey her husband, she also
-undertakes to scrub his floors and fry his steaks? The answer to that
-question seems to be, not that it is natural for a woman to like a form
-of labour which is usually monotonous and without prospect, but that
-it is quite natural for a man to dislike it—and therefore leave it to
-some one else.
-
-One of the best examples, in a small way, of the tendency I have been
-speaking of I got not long ago from a friend of mine, a woman of the
-working-class. I happened to be one of an audience she was addressing,
-when she suddenly put to it the unexpected question—“Why does the
-father carve the joint in rich people’s houses, when in poor people’s
-houses it is the mother who carves it?” One, at least, of her audience
-was entirely at a loss for an answer to the conundrum until it was
-duly furnished by the speaker—running as follows: “In rich people’s
-houses the father carves the joint, because there is always enough
-to go round and the carver can help himself to the tit-bits. In poor
-people’s houses the mother carves the joint, because there mayn’t be
-always enough to go round and the carver gets the last helping.” I have
-no doubt that her explanation of the two customs is correct. Where the
-labour of carving is a pleasant duty, likely to bring its reward, it is
-performed by the head of the household; where it is an unpleasant duty,
-incurring penalty in the place of reward, the head of the household
-decides to pass it on to some one else. I do not mean that he decides
-it after due and selfish deliberation—he simply obeys a natural
-unthinking impulse.
-
-It will be urged, of course, that motherhood and the care of children
-being the central point and fundamental interest in a woman’s life,
-the domestic duties and arts spring naturally from that central point
-and group themselves around it; and that this, and not any question of
-masculine likes and dislikes in the matter, is the real reason why, all
-over the world, certain forms of labour, some of them of a drudging and
-unpleasant nature, are thrust upon her—by the decree of Providence,
-and not by the will of her husband.
-
-I am always suspicious of those decrees of Providence which run
-parallel to the interests of persons who have taken it upon themselves
-to expound Providential wisdom; and, as I have already explained, I
-am inclined to doubt that there exists in every woman an overpowering
-maternal instinct which swamps all other interests and desires. But
-even if, for the sake of argument, the universality of an overpowering
-maternal instinct be admitted, it is legitimate to point out that
-housework and its unpaid drudgery is not only performed in the
-interests of children. It is performed in childless households; it
-is expected, as a matter of course, by fathers from their daughters,
-by brothers from their sisters. It is performed, in short, in the
-interests of the man quite as much as in the interests of the
-child—perhaps more, since, in a busy household, the child, so far
-from being the central point and pivot of an establishment, is often
-attended to only incidentally, and in the time that can be snatched
-from other duties. Further, in the numerous households where husband
-and wife alike go out to work—perhaps at the same form of labour, as
-is the case in many factory districts—the woman on returning home
-(after working all day, just as her husband does, to contribute her
-share to the weekly expenses necessary for the support of household and
-children) has to cook, clean, sew, etc., in the time which her husband
-can employ as he chooses. In such instances the wife has taken her
-share in what are usually considered the typical duties of a husband,
-and it would be only reasonable to suppose that, in the consequent
-rearrangement of the domestic economy, the husband, as a matter of
-course, would take his share in the typical duties of a wife. In some
-cases, no doubt, he does; but as a general rule the household duties
-are left to the woman, in exactly the same manner as they would be left
-to her if she did not leave her house to work for a wage. And they
-are left to her simply because her husband considers them tiresome or
-unpleasant, and therefore declines to perform them.
-
-I have laid stress on the conditions under which woman’s work as a
-wife, mother, and housekeeper is usually carried on, because it seems
-to me that the influence of those conditions has extended far beyond
-that narrow circle of the home to which, until comparatively lately,
-her energies have been confined. It was within the four walls of the
-home that man learned to look upon her as a being whose share of work
-was always the unpleasant share, and whose wages were the lowest wages
-that could possibly be given. And—which is far worse—she learned to
-look upon herself in the same light, as a creature from whom much must
-be demanded and to whom little must be given. Small wonder, then, with
-that age-long tradition behind her, that when she is forced out into
-the world, unorganized and unprepared, she finds it hard to get even a
-living wage for the work of her head and hands—and that when you speak
-of a sweated you mean a woman’s trade.
-
-There is, so far as I can see, only one way in which woman can make
-herself more valued, and free herself from the necessity of performing
-duties for which she gets neither thanks nor payment. She must do as
-men have always done in such a situation—shirk the duties.
-
-
-
-
-IX
-
-
-There is one element in the relations between man and wife to which, as
-yet, I have hardly referred. I mean that element which is known as the
-exercise of protection by the stronger over the weaker—by the man over
-the woman. In considering the rewards of wifehood, great or small, it
-cannot, of course, be passed over without examination, since it seems
-to be assumed that a man pays his wife for services unpaid in other
-ways by defending her against perils, physical or otherwise.
-
-Now there can be no doubt that in former ages and all over the
-world—as in certain regions of the world to-day—this physical
-protection of the weaker by the stronger, of the woman by the man, was
-a thing that really counted in marriage. The women of a savage tribe
-which was constantly at war with surrounding savage tribes, would have
-to rely on the strength and skill in warfare of their men to deliver
-them from capture or death. In such a primitive state of affairs every
-man might be called upon at any moment to exercise in his own person
-duties of defence and protection which the average man now delegates
-to the paid soldier and the paid policeman. In the beginning of things
-the head of every family possessed the right of private war and private
-justice, and it was on his success in both these fields of activity
-that the lives and the welfare of his womenfolk and children would very
-largely depend. It was only by virtue of his strength that he could
-maintain possession of his property in goods or in human flesh. It was
-by virtue of his superior strength that he reduced woman to subjection,
-and in return, and as a form of payment for her toil, defended her
-from the attacks of others. So arose and originated the idea of the
-physical protection necessarily meted out by husband to wife; an idea
-real enough in the beginning. Circumstances alter cases; but they often
-take a long time to alter ideas, and this particular one continues to
-flourish luxuriantly in places where the order of things that gave it
-birth has passed into the forgotten. One still hears people talk as if
-a clerk or a greengrocer’s assistant, married in a suburban chapel and
-going to Cliftonville for his honeymoon, undertook thereby to shelter
-his better half from heaven knows what of vague and mysterious peril.
-From other times and other manners, beginning with the days when a
-stone axe formed a necessary part of a bridegroom’s wedding garment,
-into places where moral force has fought the worst of its bitter battle
-with physical force, into days when private war is called murder and
-the streets are policed, there has come down the superstition that the
-ordinary civilized man performs doughty feats of protection for the
-benefit of the ordinary civilized wife. And it seems to be accepted
-that that element of protection is a natural and unavoidable element in
-the relations of married man and woman—even of married man and woman
-living in a suburban flat.
-
-Once upon a time it was a natural and unavoidable element in
-the relations of every married couple; just as it was natural
-and unavoidable, once upon a time, that the unwarlike and
-commercially-minded burghers of a mediæval city should bargain
-with a neighbouring and predatory baron to keep at bay—for a
-consideration—other barons no less predatory but a little less
-neighbouring. That sort of arrangement, I believe, was fairly common
-in the Middle Ages when predatory barons were in a position which
-enabled them to bend the law to their own liking, and when the obvious
-thing for honest and peaceable men to do was to set a thief to catch
-a thief. A recognized institution in its day, this particular form of
-protection passed with the growth of a central authority, with the
-suppression of private warfare and the substitution of a national for
-a tribal ideal. Instead of paying blackmail to a brigand, the city, in
-its later days, organized a police force of its own and contributed
-its share towards the upkeep of a national army. And the overlord
-vanished because, his duties having been taken away from him, there was
-nothing left for him to do. Much the same sort of thing has happened in
-other directions; increasing civilization has left other than barons
-without the duties that formerly appertained to their position. Like
-the protective functions of the overlord, the protective functions of
-the husband have been centralized and nationalized, regulated by the
-community and delegated to the soldier and the policeman. Where stable
-government exists the number of men who offer up their lives each
-year in actual defence of their own hearths and their own wives is, I
-imagine, small; so small that I do not suppose the insurance companies
-take much account of it in estimating their risks. I have not the least
-intention of casting any reflection upon the courage of the average
-civilized husband or inferring that he is not willing to offer up his
-life in defence of his better half if called upon to do so; I merely
-state the obvious fact that he is not very often called upon to make
-the sacrifice. Even in those countries where universal military service
-is established, the duty of defending the national (not the individual)
-hearth and home falls last upon men who are married and have a family
-to support; it is the young, unmarried men who are called upon to form
-the first line of defence and defiance. And in ordinary every-day
-life it is the strong arm of the law and not the strong arm of the
-individual husband which secures a woman from hurt and molestation.
-If it were not so the unprotected spinster would be in a truly piteous
-plight. As a matter of fact, she usually finds that the ordinary
-constable is quite adequate for all her requirements in the protective
-line.
-
-Closely allied to this idea of individual masculine protection is
-that other, and still more vaguely nebulous, idea of chivalry or
-preferential treatment of women in general by men in general. Which
-necessitates an inquiry into what the average modern man really means
-when he talks of chivalry in this connection.
-
-Frankly, it does not seem to me that he means very much. My own
-experience leads me to define chivalry—not the real thing, but the
-term as it is commonly used, say, in the public press—to define
-chivalry as a form, not of respect for an equal, but of condescension
-to an inferior; a condescension which expresses itself in certain rules
-of behaviour where non-essentials are involved. In very few really
-essential matters between man and woman is the chivalric principle
-allowed to get so much as a hearing; in practically all such matters
-it is, as I have already pointed out, an understood thing that woman
-gets the worst of the bargain, does the unpleasant work in the common
-division of labour, and, when blame is in question, sits down under the
-lion’s share of it. In return for this attitude on her part—which,
-if voluntary, would be really chivalrous, but being involuntary is
-merely servile—man undertakes to regulate his conduct towards her by
-certain particular forms of outward deference. His attitude, so far
-as one can gather is something like this: as long as you refrain from
-coming into competition with us, as long as you will allow us to look
-down upon you, as long as you are content to regard yourselves not only
-as our dependents, but as persons sent into the world to minister to
-our comforts and our pleasures, so long shall our outward behaviour
-towards you be framed in a particular code of manners which secures
-you preferential treatment in unimportant matters. But, in order to
-secure this preferential treatment in unimportant matters, you must put
-no strain upon our courtesy, and you must defer to our wishes in more
-important things; you must not trespass upon the domain that we have
-reserved for our own use, you must not infringe the rules which have
-been laid down for your guidance and whose aim is to secure our own
-comfort.
-
-In other words what is commonly known as “chivalry” is not a
-spontaneous virtue or impulse on the part of modern man, but the form
-in which he pays his debt for value received from woman. Directly she
-fails to fulfil her own important share of the bargain, he considers
-himself at liberty to refuse payment; at least, one must conclude so
-from the frequency with which the “independent” woman of to-day is
-threatened with the extinction of chivalry if she continued to assert
-herself in a manner which may be consistent with her own desires, but
-which is not consistent with the desires of average male humanity.
-Looked at in that light, the preferential code of manners, which is all
-that is usually understood by chivalry, bears distinct resemblance to
-the sugar that attempts to veil the flavour of a pill or the jam that
-does its best to conceal the noxiousness of a lurking powder. By a
-simple process of exchange and barter outward deference on the one side
-is given in payment for real deference and subjection on the other;
-and, that being the case, it is quite open to woman to look into the
-terms of her bargain, reconsider them, and ask herself whether she is
-not paying too high a price for value received. For, with every respect
-for courtesy, the opening of a door and the lifting of a hat, however
-reverential, are among the small things of life.
-
-It will no doubt be objected that chivalry is something infinitely
-greater than what I have called outward forms of deference. I agree
-that that is not the true meaning of the word; but I maintain that, in
-general practice, the virtue of chivalry, in so far as it enters into
-the daily lives of most women, amounts to outward forms of deference
-and little more. As soon as we come to essentials, we realize that
-the counteracting principle will inevitably be brought into play—the
-principle that the woman must always be sacrificed to the interests of
-the man.
-
-There are, of course, exceptions to that rule—and noble ones. It is
-written that in common danger of death the stronger must think first,
-not of his own life, but of the lives of those weaker and dependent
-upon him; and whatever other laws a man might break with impudence and
-impunity, he would very certainly be ashamed to confess to a breach of
-this particular commandment. One respects such habitual obedience as
-fine and finely disciplined; but it is not decrying it to point out
-that not every man is called upon to exercise it and that the form of
-chivalry cultivated by most is necessarily of a less strenuous type.
-And into chivalry of the less strenuous type the idea of self-sacrifice
-in essentials does not as a rule enter, since it is, as I have already
-shown, in the nature of a reward or payment for self-sacrifice in
-others.
-
-I am quite aware that there are a great many women of the upper and
-middle classes—women, for the most part, who lead a leisured and
-comfortable existence—who attach an inordinately high value to outward
-forms of deference from the men with whom they come in contact.
-Considering their training and education, and the trend of their whole
-lives, it is perhaps only natural that they should. The aim of that
-training and education has been, as I have shown, not to develop their
-individuality and capacities, but to make themselves and their actions
-pleasing to the men with whom they may happen to come in contact; and,
-that being so, approval from the men with whom they may happen to come
-in contact is naturally a thing of the utmost importance to them. To
-lack it is to lack the whole reward of a well-spent life. By women with
-this narrow outlook on the world superficial courtesies and superficial
-deference are interpreted to mean approval and, therefore, success in
-pleasing—almost the only form of success open to them. Further, the
-lives of such women are usually sheltered, and thus they do not have
-very much opportunity of realizing that the meed of ceremony to which
-they are accustomed is largely a tribute paid, not to themselves or to
-their womanhood, but to the particular leisured class to which they
-happen to belong.
-
-Whatever the reason, it is certain that many women of the “comfortable”
-class do cling desperately and rather pathetically to the idea of
-their little privileges in this respect; I have over and over again
-heard such women oppose efforts to better their own position and that
-of others simply on the ground that “men would not treat us in the
-same way—there would be no chivalry, they would not be polite to
-us any longer.” Apparently the good souls are under the impression
-that no man is ever polite to a person he does not despise; and this
-sort of argument shows how completely those who use it have learned
-to substitute the shadow for the reality and dissociate what is
-commonly called chivalry from respect. To them masculine courtesy is
-an expression not of reverence for women, but of more or less kindly
-contempt for them—and they are quite content that it should be so.
-Personally, this attitude—an attitude of voluntary abasement assumed
-in order that man may know the pleasure of condescension—is the only
-thing that ever makes me ashamed of being a woman; since it is the
-outward and visible expression of an inward servility that has eaten
-and destroyed a soul.
-
-
-
-
-X
-
-
-Modern chivalry, then, has been narrowed down, if not in theory, at
-any rate in practice, to a code of deferential behaviour affecting
-such matters and contingencies as the opening of doors, the lifting of
-hats, and the handing of teacups; but not touching or affecting the
-pre-eminence and predominance of man in the more important interests of
-life. At its best, such a code of behaviour is a meritorious attempt to
-atone for advantage in essentials by self-abnegation in non-essentials;
-at its worst, it is simply an expression of condescension.
-
-That there is a chivalry which means something other and more than
-this—which is based upon the idea, not of condescension, but of real
-respect for women—I shall not deny; but it is comparatively rare—for
-the simple reason that the qualities encouraged and fostered in the
-ordinary woman are not the sort of qualities which command respect.
-They may have other merits, but that one they lack. For, be it noted,
-respect is a tribute to be commanded; not a reward to be won by
-supplication, by abasement, or compliance with the wishes of others. We
-do not necessarily like what we respect—for instance, the strength,
-the skill, and the resources of an enemy; and we do not necessarily
-respect in other people qualities which, in our own interests, we
-should like them to possess—qualities of subservience, submission,
-and timidity, which we are quite willing to make use of even while we
-despise them.
-
-This latter attitude, it seems to me, is the attitude of man to woman.
-For generations the training of woman has been directed towards the
-encouragement in her of certain qualities and characteristics—such
-as subservience, narrowness of mind, stupidity—all of them designed
-to promote the comfort and well-being of her owner, but none of them
-calculated to arouse in him a sensation of esteem. One may be kind to a
-person who is subservient, narrow-minded, and stupid; but one does not
-respect that person. It is no reproach whatever to a man to say that
-he does not respect women so long as he believes (and is encouraged
-to believe) that their only interests in life are the interests
-represented in a newspaper by the page entitled, _Woman’s World_,
-or the _Sphere of Woman_—a page dealing with face-powder, frilled
-nightgowns, and anchovy toast. No sane and intelligent man could feel
-any real respect for a woman whose world was summed up in these things.
-If the face-powder were applied with discretion and the directions on
-the subject of anchovy toast carried out with caution, he might find
-her an ornament as well as a convenience in his home; but it would be
-impossible for him to respect her, because she would not be, in the
-proper sense of the word, respectable. If he encourages the type, it is
-not because he respects it.
-
-It may, of course, be urged that woman’s claim to reverence and respect
-is based on far higher and surer ground than mere intelligence, or
-even character—on the fulfilment of her duties as wife and mother.
-Personally, I fail to see that any very great measure of respect or
-reverence is dealt out to her on this or any other ground—except,
-perhaps, now and again on paper; and even if it were, I should not,
-under present conditions, consider it justified. As long as the
-fulfilment of those duties is not a purely voluntary action on the
-part of woman, it gives her no claim upon any one’s respect. Heroism
-under pressure is not heroism at all; and there is, to my mind, nothing
-the least exalted or noble in bringing up children, cooking chops,
-and cleaning doorsteps merely because very few other ways of earning
-a decent living happen to be open to you. And so long as marriage and
-motherhood are not matters of perfectly free choice on the part of the
-majority of women, so long will the performance of the duties incurred
-by marriage and motherhood, however onerous and however important,
-constitute no particular title to respect.
-
-In so far as men do respect women, and not despise them, it seems
-to me that they respect them for exactly those qualities which they
-esteem in each other—and which, paradoxically enough, are for the
-most part exactly those qualities which they have done their best to
-erase and eradicate from the feminine character. The characteristics
-which make a man or a woman “respectable” are not the characteristics
-of subserviency and servility; on the contrary, those particular
-characteristics, even when encouraged for interested reasons, are
-rightly and naturally regarded with contempt. They may be more
-comfortable to live with—man evidently thinks so—but, comfortable
-or not, they are despised instinctively. They have their reward, no
-doubt; but that reward is not reverence and respect—since reverence
-and respect must be commanded, not coaxed or cringed for. A woman
-who insists on flinging aside the traditions of her early training,
-standing on her own feet, fighting her own battle, and doing that which
-is right in her own eyes, may not get from man anything more than
-respect, but, in the long run, she will certainly get that. It may be
-given grudgingly, but it will be given, all the same; since courage and
-independence of thought are qualities respectable in themselves. And,
-on the other hand, and however much he may desire to do so, it is, I
-should say, quite impossible for any thinking man to entertain a real
-reverence and esteem for a section of humanity which he believes to
-exist solely in order to perform certain animal functions connected
-with, and necessary to, the reproduction of the race. After all, it is
-not upon the performance of a purely animal function that a human being
-should found his or her title to respect; if woman is reverenced only
-because she reproduces her kind, a still higher meed of reverence is
-due to the rabbit.
-
-And in this connection it is interesting to note that the mediæval
-institution of chivalry, with its exalted, if narrow, ideal of
-reverence for, and service of, womanhood, took its rise and flourished
-in times when the housekeeping and child-bearing trade was not the
-only occupation open to women; when, on the contrary, they had, in the
-religious life, an alternative career, equally honoured with, if not
-more honoured than, marriage; and when it was not considered essential
-to the happiness and well-being of every individual woman to pair off,
-after the fashion of the animals going into the ark. Whatever the
-defects and drawbacks of conventual life, it stood for the principle,
-denied before and since, that woman had an existence of her own apart
-from man, a soul to be saved apart from man. It was a flat defiance of
-the theory that she came into the world only to marry and reproduce her
-kind; it acknowledged and admitted the importance of her individual
-life and conduct; in short, it recognized her as something besides
-a wife and a mother, and gave her other claims to respect than that
-capacity for reproduction which she shared with the lower animals.
-Further, by making celibacy an honourable instead of a despised estate,
-it must have achieved an important result from an economic point of
-view; it must have lessened the congestion in the marriage market by
-lessening the number of women who regarded spinsterhood as the last
-word in failure. It enhanced the value of the wife and mother by making
-it not only possible, but easy, for her to become something else. It
-opened up a career to an ambitious woman; since, in the heyday of the
-Church, the head of a great community of nuns was something more than
-a recluse—a power in the land, an administrator of estates. None of
-these things, of course, were in the minds of those who instituted the
-celibate, conventual life as a refuge from the world; they were its
-unforeseen results, but none the less real because unforeseen. They
-followed on the institution of the conventual life for woman because it
-represented the only organized attempt ever made to free her from the
-necessity of compulsory marriage and child-bearing.
-
-I have no bias, religious or otherwise, in favour of the conventual
-life, which, as hitherto practised, is no doubt open to objection on
-many grounds; but it seems to me that any institution or system which
-admits or implies a reason for woman’s existence other than sexual
-intercourse and the reproduction of her kind must tend inevitably to
-raise the position not only of the celibate woman, but, indirectly, of
-the wife and mother. In its palmy days, when it was a factor not only
-in the spiritual life of a religious body, but in the temporal life of
-the State, the convent, with all its defects, must have stood for the
-advancement of women; and if it had never come into existence, I very
-much doubt whether the injunctions laid upon knighthood would have
-included respect for and service of womanhood.
-
-The upheaval which we term the Reformation, whatever its other merits,
-was distinctly anti-feminist in its tendencies. Where it did not sweep
-the convent away altogether, it narrowed its scope and sapped its
-influence; and, being anti-feminist, evolved no new system to take
-the place of that which it had swept away. The necessity of replacing
-the monk by the schoolmaster was recognized, but not the necessity
-of replacing the nun by the schoolmistress; the purely physical and
-reproductive idea of woman being once again uppermost, the need for
-training her mind no longer existed. The masterful women of the
-Renaissance had few successors; and John Knox, with his _Monstrous
-Regiment of Women_, but the mouthpiece of an age which was setting
-vigorously to work to discourage individuality and originality in the
-weaker sex by condemning deviations from the common type to be burnt as
-witches.
-
-This favourite pastime of witch-burning has not, I think, been
-sufficiently taken into account in estimating the reason for the
-low standard of intelligence attained by women at a time when
-men were making considerable progress in social and intellectual
-fields. The general impression appears to be that only old, ugly,
-and decrepit hags fell victims to popular superstition or the
-ingenuity of the witch-finder; but, as a matter of fact, when the
-craze for witch-finding was at its height, any sort of peculiarity,
-even beauty of an unusual and arresting type, seems to have been
-sufficient to expose a woman to the suspicion of secret dealings
-with the Prince of Darkness. At first sight it seems curious (since
-the religious element in a people is usually the feminine element)
-that the Prince of Darkness should have confined his dealings almost
-exclusively to women—it has been estimated that wizards were done
-to death in the proportion of one to several thousand witches; but
-on further consideration one inclines to the belief that the fury of
-witch-burning by which our ancestors were possessed must have been
-prompted by motives other than purely devotional. In all probability
-those motives were largely unconscious; but the rage of persecution
-against the witch has so much in common with the customary masculine
-policy of repressing, at any cost, all deviations from the type of
-wife-and-mother-and-nothing-else, that one cannot help the suspicion
-that it was more or less unconsciously inspired by that policy.
-
-
-
-
-XI
-
-
-So far as I have treated of the various influences which have been
-brought to bear upon women with the object of fitting them for the
-trade to which the male half of humanity desired to confine them; and I
-have, I hope, made it clear that, to a certain extent, these influences
-have defeated their own ends by discouraging the intelligence which
-ought to be a necessary qualification for motherhood, even if it is not
-a necessary qualification for wifehood. It remains to be considered
-what effect this peculiar training for one particular and peculiar
-trade has had upon woman’s activity in those departments of the world’s
-work which are not connected with marriage and motherhood, how it has
-acted upon her capacity for wage-earning and bread-winning on her own
-account, how it has affected her power of achievement in every other
-direction; what, in short, has been its effect upon woman in the life
-that she leads apart from man. (I must ask the male reader to be good
-enough to assume, even if he cannot honestly believe, that woman can,
-and occasionally does, lead a life apart from man.)
-
-And one notes, to begin with, that the customary training, or lack of
-training, for marriage tends almost inevitably to induce that habit and
-attitude of mind which is known as amateurishness. And particularly, I
-should say, in the large class of society, which we describe roughly as
-the middle class; where the uncertainty with regard to the position,
-profession and consequent manner of living of the probable husband
-is so great as to make a thorough and businesslike training for the
-future nearly an impossibility. The element of chance—an element
-which plays such a very large part in the life, at any rate, of the
-average married woman—may upset all calculations based on the probable
-occupation and requirements of the husband, render carefully acquired
-accomplishments useless or unnecessary, and call for the acquirement
-of others hitherto unwanted and even undreamed of. Two sisters brought
-up in exactly the same surroundings and educated in exactly the same
-manner may marry, the one a flourishing professional or city man, who
-expects her to dress well, talk well, give good dinners and generally
-entertain his friends; the other a man whose work lies on the frontier
-of civilization where she will find it necessary to learn something of
-the management of horses and to manufacture her own soap and candles.
-While a third sister in the same family may never marry at all, but
-pass her life in furnished apartments, being waited on by landladies.
-These may be extreme, but they are not very unusual instances of the
-large part taken by sheer chance in the direction of a woman’s life
-and the consequent impossibility of mapping out and preparing for the
-future. Hence a lack of thoroughness and an attitude towards life of
-helplessness and what I have called amateurishness. (The corresponding
-male attitude is found in the unskilled labourer of the “odd job”
-type.) Hence also the common feminine habit of neglecting more solid
-attainments in order to concentrate the energies on an endeavour to be
-outwardly attractive.
-
-This concentration of energy on personal adornment, usually attributed
-to vanity or overflowing sexuality, is, so far as I can see, largely
-the outcome of a sound business instinct. For, be it remembered,
-that the one solid fact upon which an ordinary marriageable girl has
-to build the edifice of her life is the fact that men are sensitive
-to, and swayed by, that quality in woman which is called personal
-charm. What else her future husband will demand of her is more or
-less guess-work—nothing upon which to raise a solid foundation of
-preparation for his requirements and her own. He may require her to sit
-at the head of his table and talk fashionable gossip to his friends;
-he may require her to saddle horses and boil soap; the only thing she
-can be fairly certain of is that he will require her to fulfil his
-idea of personal attractiveness. As a matter of business then, and not
-purely from vanity, she specializes in personal attractiveness; and
-the care, the time and the thoroughness which many women devote to
-their own adornment, the choosing of their dresses and the curling of
-their hair is thoroughly professional and a complete contrast to their
-amateurishness in other respects.
-
-The cultivation of personal charm, sometimes to the neglect of more
-solid and valuable attainments, is the more natural, because, as I have
-already pointed out, the material rewards of wifehood and motherhood
-have no connection at all with excellence in the performance of the
-duties of wifehood and motherhood—the wage paid to a married woman
-being merely a wage for the possession of her person. That being the
-case, the one branch of woman’s work which is likely to bring her a
-material reward in the shape of an economically desirable husband is
-cultivation of a pleasing exterior and attractive manners; and to this
-branch of work she usually, when bent on marriage, applies herself in
-the proper professional spirit. A sensible, middle-class mother may
-insist on her daughter receiving adequate instruction in the drudgery
-of household work and cookery; but if the daughter should be fortunate
-enough to marry well such instruction will be practically wasted,
-since the scrubbing, the stewing, the frying and the making of beds,
-will inevitably be deputed to others. And the sensible, middle-class
-mother is quite aware that her daughter’s chance of marrying well and
-shirking disagreeable duties does not depend on the excellent manner
-in which she performs those duties, but on the quality of her personal
-attractions. The cultivation of her personal attractions, therefore, is
-really a more important and serious business for the girl who desires
-to marry than the acquirement of domestic accomplishments, which may,
-or may not, be useful in her after life, and which in themselves are
-unlikely to secure her the needful husband. This state of things is
-frankly recognized in the upper or wealthier ranks of society. There
-the typical domestic arts find practically no place in a girl’s scheme
-of training, which is directed solely towards the end of making her
-personally attractive and therefore desirable. Which means, of course,
-that those women who are in a position to do so concentrate their
-energies on the cultivation of those particular outward qualities by
-which alone they can hope to satisfy their ambition, their need for
-comfort, luxury, etc., or their desire to bring children into the
-world. They recognize that however much man may profess to admire
-the domestic and maternal qualities in woman, it is not that side of
-her which arouses in him the desire for possession, and that the most
-effective means of arousing that desire for possession is personal
-charm. We have been told that every woman is at heart a rake; it would,
-I think, be more correct to say that every woman who desires to attract
-some member of the opposite sex so that she may marry and bear children
-must, whatever she is at heart, be something of a rake on the surface.
-
-With girls of the working-class, of course, a certain amount of
-training in domestic work is usually gone through, since it is obvious
-that domestic work will be required of them in after life; but even in
-the humblest ranks of society the rule holds good that it is personal
-attractiveness and not skill in the duties required of a wife and
-mother which make a girl sought after and admired by the opposite sex.
-Consequently even working-class wives and mothers, women who have
-no chance of deputing their duties to paid servants, are frequently
-nothing but amateurs at their trade—which they have only acquired
-incidentally. In practically all ranks of society the real expert in
-housekeeping or the care and management of infants is the “unattached”
-woman who works in other people’s houses and attends to other people’s
-children. She is the professional who knows her business and earns her
-living by it; the wife and mother, as often as not, being merely the
-amateur.
-
-Human nature, and especially male human nature, being what it is, I do
-not know whether it is possible or even desirable that this state of
-things should be altered. My object in calling attention to it is not
-to suggest alteration (I have none to suggest), but simply to point
-out that women who are brought up in the expectation of marriage and
-nothing but marriage are almost of necessity imbued with that spirit of
-amateurishness which makes for inefficiency; and that this spirit has
-to be taken into account in estimating their difficulties where they
-have to turn their attention to other trades than marriage.
-
-There are several other respects in which the marriage tradition (by
-which I mean the practical identification during many generations of
-womanhood with wifehood and motherhood) acts as a drag and a hindrance
-to the woman who, married or unmarried and with or against her will,
-has been swept out of the sacred and narrow sphere of home to compete
-for a wage in the open market. (Be it remembered that she is now
-numbered not by hundreds or thousands, but by millions.) As I have
-already pointed out, the trade of marriage is, by its very nature, an
-isolated trade, permitting of practically no organization or common
-action amongst the workers; and consequently the marriage-trained woman
-(and nearly all women are marriage-trained—or perhaps it would be more
-correct to say marriage expectant) enters industrial or commercial life
-with no tradition of such organization and common action behind her.
-
-I do not think that the average man realizes how much the average woman
-is handicapped by the lack of this tradition, nor does he usually
-trouble to investigate the causes of his own undoubted superiority
-in the matter of combination and all that combination implies. In
-accordance with his usual custom of explaining the shortcomings of
-womanhood by an inferiority that is inherent and not artificial and
-induced, he assumes that women cannot combine for industrial and other
-purposes because it is “natural” for them to be jealous and distrustful
-of one another. (This assumption is, of course, an indirect compliment
-to himself, since the jealousy and distrust of women for each other
-is understood to be inspired solely by their overpowering desire to
-attract the admiration of the opposite sex.)
-
-This simple and—to man—flattering explanation of woman’s inferiority
-in this respect completely fails to take into account the fact that
-the art of combination for a common purpose has been induced in one
-half of humanity by influences which have not been brought to bear
-upon the other half. I do not suppose that even the firmest and most
-hardened believer in woman’s essential disloyalty, treachery and
-incapacity for common action, would venture to maintain that if all
-the men of past generations had been compelled to earn their living at
-isolated forms of labour—say, as lighthouse-keepers or shepherds in
-mountainous districts— the faculty of united action for common ends
-would be very highly developed amongst them. As I have already tried to
-show, in the division of labour between the two sexes man has almost
-invariably reserved for himself (having the power to do so, and because
-he considered them preferable) those particular occupations which
-brought him into frequent contact with his fellows, which entailed
-meeting others and working side by side with them; and this frequent
-contact with his fellows was, in itself, a form of education which has
-been largely denied to the other half of humanity. Woman’s intercourse
-with her kind has been much more limited in extent, and very often
-purely and narrowly social in character. Until comparatively recent
-years it was unusual for women to form one of a large body of persons
-working under similar conditions and conscious of similar interests. It
-is scarcely to be wondered at that the modern system of industrialism
-with its imperative need for co-operation and common effort should
-have found her—thanks to her training—unprepared and entirely at a
-disadvantage.
-
-It must be remembered also that the generality and mass of women have
-never come under the direct influence of two of the most potent factors
-in the social education and evolution of man as we know him—war and
-politics. However de-civilizing an agency war may appear to-day, it
-has not been without its civilizing influence, since it was through
-the necessity of standing side by side for purposes of offence and
-defence that man first learned the art of combining for a common end,
-and acquired the virtues, at first purely military, that, in course
-of time and under different circumstances, were to develop into civic
-virtues. The camp was the state in embryo, the soldier the citizen in
-embryo, and the military tradition the collective and social tradition
-of organization for a common purpose and common interests. In the face
-of a common peril, such as war, men readily forget their differences
-and work shoulder to shoulder. Hence an appeal to the fears or the
-warlike spirit of a discontented people is the instinctive refuge of
-a government in difficulties, since there is no means so effective
-for producing at least a passing phase of unity amongst the jarring
-elements of a nation.
-
-Woman, so far as one can judge, is, when occasion arises, just as much
-influenced by that necessity of common action in a common danger which
-first produced unity of effort and public spirit in man; but for her,
-as a rule, occasion has not arisen. Now and again under exceptional
-circumstances, such as a desperate and hard-fought siege, she has shown
-that the sense of peril acts upon her in exactly the same way as it
-acts upon her brethren; but the actual waging of battle has not often,
-even in the most turbulent of ages, entered into her life to teach her
-(along with other and less desirable lessons) the lesson of united
-effort and subordination of individual interest to the common weal.
-
-The exclusion of woman from the arena of politics has barred to
-her another method of acquiring the art of combination and the
-strength that inevitably springs from it; an exclusion based upon
-the deep-rooted masculine conviction that she exists not for her own
-benefit and advantage, but for the comfort and convenience of man.
-Granted that she came into the world for that purpose only, the right
-of effective combination in her own interests is clearly unnecessary
-and undesirable, since it might possibly lead to results not altogether
-conducive to the comfort and convenience of man. The masculine attitude
-in this matter seems quite logical.
-
-
-
-
-XII
-
-
-The above are not the only respects in which the peculiar training
-for, or expectation of, marriage acts disadvantageously upon woman
-as soon as she steps outside the walls of the home to earn her bread
-by other means than household work and the bearing and rearing of
-children. I have already pointed out that the wage she receives for
-her work as a wife and mother is the lowest that she can receive—a
-wage of subsistence only; and I believe that the exceedingly low rate
-at which her services inside the home are valued has had a great deal
-to do with the exceedingly low value placed upon her services outside
-the home. Because her work as a wife and mother was rewarded only by
-a wage of subsistence, it was assumed that no other form of work she
-undertook was worthy of a higher reward; because the only trade that
-was at one time open to her was paid at the lowest possible rate, it
-was assumed that in every other trade into which she gradually forced
-her way she must also be paid at the lowest possible rate. The custom
-of considering her work as worthless (from an economic point of view)
-originated in the home, but it has followed her out into the world.
-Since the important painful and laborious toil incurred by marriage and
-motherhood was not deemed worthy of any but the lowest possible wage,
-it was only natural that other duties, often far less toilsome and
-important, should also be deemed unworthy of anything much in the way
-of remuneration.
-
-It is very commonly assumed, of course, that the far higher rate of
-wage paid to a man is based on the idea that he has, or probably will
-have, a wife and children for whom he is bound to make provision.
-If this were really the case, a widow left with a young family to
-support by her labour, or even the mother of an illegitimate child,
-would be paid for her work on the same basis as a man is paid for
-performing similar duties. It is hardly needful to state that the
-mother of fatherless children is not, as a rule, paid more highly than
-her unmarried sister. Nor is the theory that the “unattached” woman
-has only herself to support, and does not contribute to the needs of
-others, borne out by facts. I believe that in all ranks of society
-there is a pronounced disposition on the part of the family to regard
-the income, earned or unearned, of its female members as something in
-the nature of common property—the income, earned or unearned, of its
-male members as much more of an individual possession. Wives who work
-for a wage in factories, workshops, etc., usually devote the whole of
-their earnings to the upkeep of the home; their husbands very commonly
-only a part. Where sons and daughters of the same family go out to
-work and live under one roof, it is customary for the girls to put
-practically the entire amount of their wage into the common domestic
-fund, while their brothers, from quite early years, pay a fixed sum to
-cover the expenses of their board and lodging, retaining, as a matter
-of course, the rest of their earnings for their own individual use.
-And, so far as my observation goes, the same rule holds good in the
-upper and middle classes. In the case of any monetary difficulty, any
-need of financial help, the appeal, in the first instance, is nearly
-always made to those women of the family who are understood to be in
-a position to respond to it; it is tacitly assumed that they must be
-the first to suffer and sacrifice themselves, the men of the family
-being appealed to only when the women are unable or unwilling to meet
-the demand. My experience may be unusual, but I have met very few
-working-women of any class who, earning a decent livelihood at their
-trade or profession, were not called upon to share their livelihood
-with others.
-
-It is not, therefore, on the ground that she has no one but herself
-to support that a woman is almost invariably paid at a rate far lower
-than the wage which would be given to a man for the performance of
-the same work. A good many causes have combined to bring about the
-sweating of women customary in most, if not all, departments of the
-labour market; but it seems to me that not the least of those causes
-is the long-established usage of regarding the work of a wife in the
-home as valueless from the economic point of view—a thing to be
-paid for (if paid for at all) by occasional gushes of sentiment.
-Woman and wife being, according to masculine ideas, interchangeable
-terms, it follows that, since the labour of a wife is valueless from
-the economic point of view, the labour of any woman is valueless.
-Naturally enough, this persistent undervaluing of her services has had
-its effect upon woman herself; having been taught for generations that
-she must expect nothing but the lowest possible wage for her work, she
-finds considerable difficulty in realizing that it is worth more—and
-undersells her male competitor. Thereupon angry objections on the part
-of the male competitor, who fails to realize that cheap female labour
-is one of the inevitable results of the complete acceptance by woman of
-the tradition of her own inferiority to himself.
-
-One wonders what sort of generation of women that would be which grew
-from childhood to maturity unhampered and unhindered by the tradition
-of its own essential inferiority to the male half of humanity. Such
-a generation, at present, is a matter of pure guesswork; at least, I
-have never yet known the woman, however independent, self-reliant,
-indulged, or admired, who was not in some way affected by that
-tradition—consciously or unconsciously. Even those of us who have
-never known what it was to have a man to lean on, who have had to
-fight our way through the world as the average male fights his, and
-(since things are made infinitely easier for him) under disadvantages
-unknown to the average man—even we find ourselves, unaccountably and
-at unexpected moments, acting in accordance with the belief in which
-we were reared, and deferring to the established tradition of inherent
-masculine superiority; deferring to it after a fashion that, being
-realized, is amusing to ourselves.
-
-The effect of this attitude of the two sexes towards each other—an
-attitude of inherent and essential superiority on the one side, of
-inherent and essential inferiority on the other—is nearly always
-apparent when men and women work together at the same trade. (Apparent,
-at least, to the women; the men, one concludes, do not really grasp the
-system by which they benefit.) What I refer to is the ordered, tacit,
-but usually quite conscious endeavour on the part of women who work
-side by side with men to defer to a superiority, real or supposed, on
-the part of their male colleagues. Thus a woman will not only decline
-to call attention to a blunder or oversight on the part of a male
-fellow-worker, but she will, if possible, cover up his mistake, even if
-she suffer by it, and, at any rate, will try to give him the impression
-that it has escaped her notice; and this under circumstances where no
-sort of injury to the blunderer would be involved, and which would not
-prevent her from calling prompt attention to a similar slip if made by
-a colleague of her own sex.
-
-I have not the slightest doubt that this tendency on the part of
-the working or business woman to pass over in silence the errors or
-mistakes of the working or business man is attributed by the latter
-(if, indeed, he notices it at all) to some mysterious operation of
-the sexual instinct; while the lack of a similar palliative attitude
-towards the errors and mistakes of a comrade of her own sex is, I
-should imagine, attributed to the natural, inevitable, and incorrigible
-“cattiness” of one woman towards another—the belief in such a natural,
-inevitable, and incorrigible “cattiness” being a comfortable article
-of the masculine faith.
-
-The practice, it seems to me, can be explained without having recourse
-to the all-pervading sexual instinct (usually understood to regulate
-every action performed by women, from the buttoning of boots to the
-swallowing of cough-drops). A similar practice, which can hardly
-have originated in the sexual instinct, obtains amongst male persons
-conscious of inferiority and desirous of standing well with their
-superiors. Junior clerks are in the habit of preserving a discreet
-silence with regard to errors of judgment traceable to employers,
-managers, and heads of firms; and the understrapper who wishes to get
-on in the world seldom makes a point of calling public attention to
-the shortcomings of foremen and others who are set in authority over
-him. On the contrary, he is usually—and wisely—tender towards their
-failings; and in the same way women are frequently tender towards the
-failings of those who, by virtue of sex and not of position, they
-believe to be set in authority over them. The attitude in this respect
-of working-woman to working-man is, as often as not, the attitude of
-a subordinate, and in itself an acknowledgment of inferiority; it has
-about it that tinge of servility which enjoins the turning of a blind
-eye to the faults of a superior.
-
-I do not mean that the practice of condoning masculine slips is always
-prompted by an unthinking and servile compliance; on the contrary, it
-is very general amongst the increasing class of women who have learned
-to consider themselves as good as their masters—no less general, I
-should say, than amongst those who accept feminine inferiority to
-the male as a decree of nature. In their case the tenderness shown
-to masculine failings, the desire to save the masculine “face,” is
-usually quite conscious—I myself have heard it frankly discussed,
-analyzed, and commented upon, time after time, by women whose
-occupations brought them into daily contact with men. And as the
-result of such frank discussion, analysis, and comment, I am inclined
-to believe that on the whole the motives which, in this particular
-class of women, induce extra consideration for the failings of a male
-fellow-worker are motives which, in man himself, would probably be
-described as chivalrous. Those of us who rub shoulders day after day
-with the ordinary man are perfectly well aware that the ordinary man
-(however much and however kindly he may seek to conceal the fact from
-us) regards us as his inferiors in mental capacity; and that hence he
-feels a peculiar and not unnatural soreness at having his errors and
-failings either exposed to us or exposed by us. To be shown up before
-your inferior brings with it, to most people, a sense of degradation;
-to be shown up by your inferior makes the sense of degradation yet more
-keenly unpleasant.
-
-Most women who have had to pit their brain against the brain of the
-ordinary man have learned to realize—sometimes with amusement,
-sometimes, perhaps, with a measure of exultation—that the ordinary
-man’s very belief in their essential inferiority has placed in their
-hands a weapon whose edge is infinitely keener than any that he
-possesses to use against them. It is just because she is regarded as
-his inferior that it is in the power of a woman to humiliate a man
-by the simple process of getting the better of him or holding his
-weaknesses up to contempt. When we quarrel or argue with an average
-man we know perfectly well that the vantage of the ground is ours; we
-know perfectly well that defeat, for us, will not bring humiliation
-in its train; that our antagonist, imbued with the conviction of his
-own intense and inherent natural superiority, will take his victory
-as a matter of course, and think it no disgrace to us that we have
-been routed by a higher intelligence than our own. We have not much to
-lose by defeat, we are not degraded by it—because we are the weaker
-side. With a man who gets the worst of it in a contest with a woman
-the case is quite different; since he suffers, in addition to actual
-defeat, all the humiliation of the stronger when beaten by the weaker,
-of the superior routed by the inferior force. With him defeat is not
-only defeat, but ignominy; his vanity is wounded and his prestige
-lowered. That being the case, the often expressed dislike of the
-clever woman—that is to say, of the woman who possesses the power to
-humiliate—is comprehensible enough.
-
-It is, I think, because so many women realize how bitterly the ordinary
-man resents and suffers under defeat by an inferior that they humour
-and are tolerant of his somewhat galling attitude of what has been
-called—I think by Mr. Bernard Shaw—intellectual condescension. They
-realize that the punishment which it is in their power to inflict
-on the offender would be out of all proportion to the unintentional
-offence—infinitely harder and sharper than it deserves. It is for this
-reason, I believe, that a woman, unless she is really stirred to strong
-indignation and consequent loss of self-control, will seldom attempt to
-“show up” a man or drive him into a corner with unanswerable argument.
-Under far less provocation she would probably “show up” or corner a
-woman; not because she bears a natural grudge against her own sex, but
-because her victory over one of her own sex is a victory over an equal,
-and does not necessarily involve wounded self-esteem and humiliation on
-the part of the vanquished. The same decent instinct which prevents a
-man from striking her with his clenched fist prevents her from striking
-too hard at his self-esteem.
-
-As far as my experience goes, this need of humouring the belief of
-the average man in his own essential intellectual superiority is—
-though not without its amusing side—a constant source of worry and
-petty hindrance to the woman who has to earn her living by any form
-of brain-work which brings her into contact with men. It means, of
-course, that she puts a drag on her natural capacities, and attempts to
-appear less efficient than she really is; it means that ideas which one
-man would reveal frankly to another, suggestions which one man would
-make openly to another, have by her to be wrapped up, hinted at, and
-brought into operation by devious ways—lest the “predominant partner”
-should take alarm at the possibility of being guided and prompted
-by an inferior intelligence. The only remedy for such a tiresome
-and unnecessary state of things seems to be the recognition by the
-“predominant partner” of the fact that the human female is not entirely
-composed of sex (inferior to his own); that the brain is not a sexual
-organ; and that there is a neutral ground of intelligence (from which
-sex and its considerations are excluded) where man and woman can meet
-and hold intercourse, mutually unhampered by etiquette and respect for
-a vulnerable masculine dignity.
-
-
-
-
-XIII
-
-
-In dealing with the training for marriage, I pointed out that the
-qualities which make for success in the matrimonial market have
-little or no connection with the qualities required for the efficient
-performance of what is supposed to be the life-work of woman—the
-care of home, of husband and of children. I pointed out that the
-characteristics which are likely to obtain for a girl a desirable
-husband are not the same characteristics which will have to be brought
-into play if the husband, when he is obtained, is to find in her a
-desirable wife from the domestic point of view; and that, as a general
-rule, she is promoted to what should be the important and responsible
-position of wife and mother on the strength of attainments which have
-nothing to do with her fitness for the duties of that position.
-
-The habit of judging a woman entirely by externals—appearance, dress,
-and manners—is not confined to the man who is in search of a wife.
-(“Judging” is, perhaps, the wrong phrase to use—it is, rather, a habit
-of resigning judgment so as to fall completely under the influence of
-externals.) It is very general amongst all classes of male employers,
-and its result is, it seems to me, a serious bar to efficiency in
-women’s work. It pays better in the marriage market to be attractive
-than to be efficient, and in a somewhat lesser degree the same rule
-holds good in certain other departments of women’s labour.
-
-To a certain degree, of course, a man’s fitness for any particular work
-is judged by externals; but never to the same degree as a woman’s.
-Further, the judgment passed upon a man who is chosen to fill a
-vacancy because his prospective employer “likes the look of him” has
-some relation to the qualities which will be required of him in the
-execution of the duties he will be called upon to perform—it is not
-biased by irrelevant considerations of sex. A merchant will like the
-looks of a clerk who has the outward appearance of being smart, well
-mannered, well educated, and intelligent; an employer who wishes to
-engage a man for work which involves the carrying of heavy sacks will
-like the looks of a man who is possessed of muscular arms and a pair of
-broad shoulders. In each case he is favourably influenced by the man’s
-externals because they seem to him to indicate the qualities which he
-requires in his prospective employé.
-
-The number of men who could engage a young woman to work under them
-on this purely commercial and unemotional basis is, I should say,
-comparatively limited. I do not mean, of course, that the element of
-sexual attraction enters consciously into the calculations of the
-ordinary male employer when engaging a woman, but it certainly enters
-unconsciously into the calculations of a good many. A man who says
-that he likes the looks of a girl whom he has engaged to fill the
-position of typist or cashier, does not usually mean at all the same
-thing that he means when he says that he likes the looks of his new
-porter or junior clerk: he does not mean that the girl strikes him as
-appearing particularly fitted for the duties of typist or cashier—more
-alert, more intelligent, or more experienced than her unsuccessful
-competitors for the post—but that she has the precise shape of nose,
-the exact shade of hair, or the particular variety of smile or manner
-that he admires and finds pleasing. That is to say, he is influenced in
-engaging her by considerations unconnected with her probable fitness
-for the duties of her post, since a straight nose, auburn hair, or
-an engaging smile have no necessary connection with proficiency in
-typewriting or accounts.
-
-I am not insisting on this intrusion of the sexual element into the
-business relations of men and women in any fault-finding spirit; I
-call attention to it merely in order to show that the conditions
-under which women obtain their bread in the labour market are not
-precisely the same as the conditions under which men obtain theirs.
-The intrusion of the sexual element into commercial relations may be
-not only unavoidable, but defensible and desirable, on other than
-commercial grounds; but it must be admitted that it does not tend to
-encourage efficiency, and the necessary discouragement of efficiency
-should be taken into account in estimating the value of woman’s
-work in many departments of the labour market. I do not know whether
-the consciousness that they are liable to be promoted or degraded
-in business matters for reasons which have nothing to do with their
-business merits or demerits is humiliating or the reverse to the
-majority of women, but I do know that it is humiliating to some. (Not
-only to those who are deficient in good looks; I have frequently
-heard it resented by those whom the system favoured.) There is, too,
-a certain amount of irritating uncertainty about the working of the
-system, one man’s taste in feminine looks varying from that of his
-next-door neighbour.
-
-As in marriage, so in other departments of the labour market, the
-result of this tendency to appraise a woman on the strength of
-externals alone has been the intellectual deterioration of the
-good-looking girl. I should be very sorry to have to maintain that
-the good-looking girl is necessarily born less intelligent than her
-plainer sister; but I do not think that it can be denied that it is
-made extremely easy for her to become so. The conspicuously attractive
-girl who enters a trade or business usually takes a very short time to
-find out that her advancement depends more on her conspicuous personal
-attractions than on the steady work and strict attendance to business
-which has to be rendered by the woman less bountifully endowed by
-nature. Hence she has every inducement to be less thorough in her work,
-less intelligent, less reliable, and less trustworthy. The deep-rooted
-masculine conviction that brains and repulsiveness invariably go
-together in woman has this much justification in fact—the unattractive
-girl has to rely on her work and intelligence for advancement and
-livelihood, and, therefore, is not exposed to the temptation to allow
-her brains to run to seed as unnecessary. There is plenty of proof that
-the temptation is often resisted by the woman born beautiful; but she
-is exposed to it all the same, and is not to be over blamed when she
-succumbs.
-
-There is one other disadvantage under which women’s work in the paid
-labour market is apt to suffer—a disadvantage from which men’s work is
-exempt, and which is directly traceable to the idea that marriage is
-woman’s only trade. I alluded to it in an earlier chapter when I spoke
-of the common masculine attitude on the subject of feminine competition
-and the common masculine conviction that woman can somehow manage to
-exist without the means of supporting existence. One result of the
-assumption that every woman is provided with the necessaries of life by
-a husband, father, or other male relative is that the atmosphere which
-surrounds the working-woman is considerably more chilling than that
-which surrounds the working-man. His right to work is recognized; hers
-is not. He is more or less helped, stimulated, and encouraged to work;
-she is not. On the contrary, her entry into the paid labour market
-is often discouraged and resented. The difference is, perhaps, most
-clearly marked in those middle-class families where sons and daughters
-alike have no expectation of independence by inheritance, but where
-money, time, and energy are spent in the anxious endeavour to train and
-find suitable openings for the sons, and the daughters left to shift
-for themselves and find openings as they can. The young man begins his
-life in an atmosphere of encouragement and help; the young woman in
-one of discouragement, or, at best, of indifference. Her brother’s
-work is recognized as something essentially important; hers despised as
-something essentially unimportant—even although it brings her in her
-bread. Efforts are made to stimulate his energy, his desire to succeed;
-no such efforts are made to stimulate hers.... And it is something, in
-starting work, to feel that you are engaged on work that matters.
-
-
-
-
-XIV
-
-
-There is one field for the activities of women upon which as yet I have
-not touched. It is a field where they come into direct competition with
-the activities of men; from which, moreover, they have not always been
-so completely and so jealously excluded as they have been from other
-spheres of the world’s work. I mean the field of art and literature.
-
-Let it be admitted, at once and without hesitation, that women have not
-made much of a mark in art and literature; that whatever we may achieve
-in the future we have given little of achievement to the past. Women
-artists of the first rank in whatever medium—in words, in music, in
-colour, in form—there have been none; and of the second rank and of
-the third rank but few—a very few. Let it be admitted that there has
-come down to us a goodly heritage of the wisdom, the aspiration and
-inspiration of our fathers, and that of the wisdom, the aspiration and
-the inspiration of our mothers (for some they must have had) there has
-come down to us practically nothing. Art, as we know it, is a masculine
-product, wrought by the hands and conceived by the brains of men; the
-works of art that have forced themselves into the enduring life of the
-world have been shaped, written, builded, painted by men. They have
-achieved and we have imitated—on the whole, pitifully. Let that be
-admitted; and then let it also be admitted that it could hardly have
-been otherwise, and that the wonder is that woman has wrought in art
-not so little, but so much.
-
-For when one comes to consider the conditions under which successive
-generations of women have lived such narrow life as was permitted to
-them, have realized such narrow ambitions as they were permitted to
-entertain, one begins to understand that it would have been something
-of a miracle if there had arisen amongst them thinkers and artists
-worthy to walk with the giants who have left their impress on the
-race. One begins to understand that it would be difficult to devise a
-better means of crushing out of the human system the individuality,
-the sincerity and the freedom of thought and expression, which is the
-very breath and inspiration of art, than the age-long training of
-woman for compulsory marriage and the compulsory duties thereof. For
-the qualities man has hitherto demanded and obtained in the woman he
-delights to honour (and incidentally to subdue) have been qualities
-incompatible with success in, or even with understanding of, art.
-
-It is better, perhaps, to pause here and explain; since one is always
-liable to misinterpretation, and in the minds of many the term “artist”
-is synonymous with a person having a tendency towards what is called
-free love. Let me explain, then, that by marriage, in this connection,
-I mean not only the estate of matrimony, but its unlegalized
-equivalent. As far as art is concerned, the deadening influences
-brought to bear upon the mistress are practically the same as those
-brought to bear upon the wife. (Both, for instance, are required to be
-attractive rather than sincere.) It is not, of course, actual sexual
-intercourse, legalized or the reverse, which renders a woman incapable
-of great creative art; it is the servile attitude of mind and soul
-induced in her by the influences brought to bear on her in order to fit
-her for the compulsory trade of marriage or its unsanctified equivalent.
-
-In earlier chapters I have dealt with these influences at considerable
-length, striven to show exactly what they are and pointed out that
-their aim was to induce the girl who would eventually become a woman
-to conform to one particular and uniform type—the type admired and
-sought after by the largest number of men. Hence the crushing out
-of individuality, the elimination of the characteristics that make
-for variety and the development of the imitative at the expense of
-the creative qualities. From generation to generation the imperative
-necessity of earning her livelihood in the only trade that was not
-barred to her—of making for herself a place in the world not by
-the grace of God but by the favour of man—has been a ceaseless
-and unrelenting factor in the process of weeding out the artistic
-products of woman’s nature. The deliberate stunting and repression
-of her intellectual faculties, the setting up for her admiration and
-imitation of the ideal of the “silly angel,” have all contributed
-to make of her not only a domestic animal, more or less sleek and
-ornamental, but a Philistine as well. Silly angels may, from the male
-point of view, be desirable and even adorable creatures; but one would
-not entrust them with the building of temples or the writing of great
-books. (Personally, I would not entrust them with the bringing up of
-children; but that is another matter.)
-
-Art that is vital demands freedom of thought and expression, wide
-liberty of outlook and unhampered liberty of communication. And what
-freedom of thought and expression can be expected from a section of
-humanity which has not even a moral standard of its own, and adds to
-every “thou shalt not” in its law the saving and unspoken clause,
-“unless my master shall desire it of me.” A man’s body may be enslaved
-and subdued and the faculties of the thinker and the artist still be
-left alive in him; but they have never been known to survive when
-once his mind has been subdued and brought down to utter subjection.
-Epictetus came of a race that had known freedom; and the nameless man
-who, by the waters of Babylon, poured out his passion in a torrent of
-hatred and desire, wore no chains on his soul when he remembered Zion.
-
-It is the systematic concentration of woman’s energies upon the
-acquirement of the particular qualities which are to procure her
-a means of livelihood by procuring her the favour of man that has
-deprived her, steadily and systematically, of the power of creation
-and artistic achievement; so much so that the commonly accepted
-ideals of what is known as a womanly woman are about as compatible
-with the ideals of an artist as oil is compatible with water. The
-methods of the one are repressive of self-development, calculated to
-ingratiate, bound by convention, servile; the methods of the other
-are self-assertive, experimental and untrammelled. The perfected type
-of wife-and-mother-and-nothing-else sees life only through another’s
-eyes; the artist through his own. Of a system designed to foster and
-encourage the creative instinct in human beings one might safely
-predict that it would have to be the exact opposite of the system still
-in force for the conversion of the natural woman into the conventional
-wife and mother.
-
-For the first and fundamental quality which such a system would aim
-at cultivating would be sincerity; which is not in itself art, but
-the foundation whereon art is laid. Without it, greatness in art or
-literature is impossible; and for this reason greatness in art or
-literature has hitherto been impossible to woman. The tendency and
-purpose of her whole training has been the repression of individuality
-and the inducement of artificiality; and even in the comparatively few
-instances where she recognizes what her training has done for her,
-when she realizes the poor thing it has made of her, and sets to work,
-deliberately and of firm resolve, to counteract its effects upon her
-life and character, it may take her the best part of a lifetime to
-struggle free of her chains. She does not know what she really needs,
-since from childhood upwards the natural bent of her inclinations
-has been twisted and thwarted; her only guide is what she has been
-told she ought to need. And thus she may waste years in attempting to
-draw inspiration from a form of love which it is not in her to feel,
-or from a passion for maternity which has no power to stir her to
-achievement.
-
-This, at least, can safely be said: that any woman who has attained
-to even a small measure of success in literature or art has done so
-by discarding, consciously or unconsciously, the traditions in which
-she was reared, by turning her back upon the conventional ideals of
-dependence that were held up for her admiration in her youth.
-
-
-
-
-XV
-
-
-In dealing with this problem of the inferior place hitherto occupied
-by woman in literature and art, let me admit, frankly and at once,
-that I have none of the qualifications of a critic. Of the technique
-of any branch of creative art I know practically nothing; nor can I
-say that I have any great measure of curiosity concerning it. I must
-confess to being one of that large mass of unenlightened persons who
-judge of works of art simply and solely by the effect such works of
-art produce upon themselves, who, where they are stirred to pleasure,
-to reverence, or to laughter, are content to enjoy, to be reverent,
-or to laugh, without too close inquiry as to the means whereby their
-emotions are produced, with still less inquiry as to whether such
-means be legitimate or the reverse. I speak, therefore, not from the
-standpoint of the instructed critic, but from that of the public, more
-or less impressionable, more or less uneducated, upon whom the artist
-works; and it follows that when I speak of woman’s inferiority to man
-in creative art I mean, not her inferiority in technique (whereon I am
-not competent to express opinion), but her incapacity to arouse in the
-ordinary human being such emotions of wonder, delight, and sorrow as
-men who have the requisite skill in creative art have power to arouse.
-I have thought it necessary to explain thus much lest my point of
-view be misunderstood, and I be credited with an attempt to usurp the
-functions of the trained critic.
-
-Speaking, then, as one of the common herd—the public—I ask myself
-why it is that as a rule woman’s art leaves me cold, woman’s
-literature unconvinced, dissatisfied, and even irritated? And the
-only answer I can find is that they are artificial; that they are not
-a representation of life or beauty seen by a woman’s eyes, but an
-attempt to render life or beauty as man desires that a woman should
-see and render it. The attempt is unconscious, no doubt; but it is
-there—thwarting, destroying, and annulling.
-
-Perhaps it is necessary to be a woman oneself in order to understand
-how weak, false, and insincere is the customary feminine attempt at
-creative art. I do not think that a man can understand how bad most of
-our work in art and literature really is, for the simple reason that
-he cannot see the lie in it. He believes, for instance, that we are
-such creatures as we represent ourselves to be in most of the books we
-write; we only try to believe it. Wherein is all the difference between
-a blunder and a lie. We cannot even draw ourselves, our passions and
-emotions—because we are accustomed to look at ourselves, our passions
-and emotions, not with our own eyes, but through the spectacles with
-which he has provided us. When we come to portray our own hearts, it
-would seem that they are almost as much of a mystery to ourselves
-as they are to him; but then we are not striving to portray our own
-hearts, but to describe beings who shall be something like what we have
-been taught women ought to be (and to account for their actions by
-motives which we have been told ought to actuate them). Because we have
-been told that we are creatures existing only for love and maternity,
-we draw creatures existing only for love and maternity—and call them
-women. It is perfectly natural that men should draw such creatures;
-they could not very well draw anything else, for they see them like
-that. Their portraits are honest, if lop-sided; ours are lop-sided
-without being honest—the result of an attempt to see ourselves through
-another’s eyes.
-
-The point of view is everything. An artist is not to be blamed for
-his natural limitations, for his inability to see beyond his range of
-vision; but I am inclined to think that he ought to be execrated when
-he proceeds to stunt his powers by imposing unnatural limitations on
-himself. A man afflicted with a colour-blindness which leads him to
-turn out a portrait of me resplendent in beetroot hair and eyes of a
-vivid green cannot help himself. As he sees me, so he paints me; the
-effect may be curious, but the thing itself is sincere. But that is no
-reason why artists endowed with normal vision should bind themselves
-down to slavish imitation of his peculiar colour-scheme. In the same
-way a person who is convinced that woman is a form of animated doll
-whereof the mechanism, when pressed on the right spot, squeaks out
-the two ejaculations of, “I love you,” and “Oh, my dear baby,” has
-a perfect right to describe her in those terms; but no woman has the
-right so to describe herself.
-
-For countless generations the thoughts, the energies, and aspirations
-of woman have been concentrated upon love and maternity; yet how many
-are the works of art in which she has immortalized either passion which
-have endured because they were stamped with the impress of her own
-individuality and experience? For all that love is her whole existence,
-no woman has ever sung of love as man has sung of it, has painted it,
-has embodied it in drama. And of her attitude towards maternity what
-has she told us in her art? Practically nothing that is illuminating,
-that is not obvious, that has not been already said for her—usually
-much better than she herself can say it. As a matter of fact, her
-description of her emotions when she is in love or bears children is
-not, as a rule, a first-hand description; it is a more or less careful,
-more or less intelligent copy of the masculine conception of her
-emotions under those particular circumstances. Thus the business-like
-aspect of love in woman, the social or commercial necessity for sexual
-intercourse is usually ignored by an imitative feminine art—because it
-is lacking in man, and is, therefore, not really grasped by him. When
-he becomes aware of it he dislikes it—and draws a Becky Sharp (who has
-the secret sympathy of every woman not an heiress in her own right—if
-also the openly-expressed contempt).
-
-Women who have treated of maternity in books or pictures have usually
-handled it in exactly the same spirit in which it is commonly handled
-by men—from what may be termed the conventional or Raphaelesque point
-of view. That is to say, they treat it from the superficial point
-of view of the outsider, the person who has no actual experience of
-the subject; yet even the most acid and confirmed of spinsters has
-an inside view of maternity unattainable by the most sympathetic and
-intuitive of men—since it has once been a possibility in her life.
-Yet from woman’s art and woman’s literature what does one learn of the
-essential difference between the masculine and feminine fashion of
-regarding that closest of all relations—the relation of mother and
-child?
-
-I do not feel that I myself am qualified to define and describe that
-difference. It will have to be defined and described by a woman who has
-had experience of maternity; but at least I know that the difference
-exists. Men are capable of being both reverent and ribald on the
-subject of maternity; I have never met a woman who was either. (I have,
-of course, met one or two women who adopted the reverent pose; but in
-all such cases which have come within my experience it has been an
-undoubted pose, a more or less unconscious imitation of the reverent
-attitude in the men—usually husbands—with whom they came in contact.)
-For us the bearing of children is a matter far too serious to be
-treated with ribaldry; while as regards the lack of extreme reverence,
-it seems to me that it is impossible for any human being to revere—in
-the proper sense of the word—the performance by him or herself of a
-physical function. No doubt it will be objected that maternity has not
-only a physical aspect; to which I can only reply that it appears to
-be the purely physical aspect thereof which calls forth reverence and
-admiration in man. The typical duties of a mother to her children are
-often performed, as efficiently and as tenderly as any mother could
-perform them, by an aunt or a nurse; but they have never, when so
-performed, called forth the flood of idealism and admiration which has
-been lavished upon the purely physical relationship of mother and child
-as typified by a woman suckling her offspring. The sight of a mother so
-engaged has meant inspiration to a good many men; I may be wrong, but I
-do not imagine that it will ever mean real inspiration to any woman.
-
-My own opinion—which I put forth in all diffidence, as one of
-the uninitiated—is, that while women, left to themselves, have
-considerably less reverence than men have for the physical aspect
-of maternity, they have a good deal more respect for its other
-aspects. Thus I have several times asked women whom I knew from the
-circumstances of their lives to have been exposed to temptation whether
-the thought that they might some day bear a child had not been a
-conscious and not merely an instinctive factor in their resistance
-to temptation and the restraint they had put upon their passions and
-emotions; and the reply has usually been in the affirmative. I do not
-know whether such a deliberate attitude towards the responsibilities
-of motherhood is general, but it seems to me essentially feminine,
-implying, as it does, the consciousness that it is not enough to bear
-a child, but that the child must be born of a clean body and come in
-contact with a clean mind—that the actual bringing of a new life into
-the world is only a small part of motherhood. It is the circumstances
-under which the child is born and the circumstances under which it is
-reared to which women attach infinitely more importance than men are
-apt to do; but, of course, where child-bearing is compulsory—and until
-very lately it has been practically compulsory upon all classes of
-wives—such an instinct does not get free play.
-
-A good many times in my life I have heard the practice of passing
-the death sentence for the common crime of infanticide discussed by
-women, sometimes in an assemblage convened for the purpose, but more
-often where the subject has come up by chance. And I have always been
-struck by the attitude of the women who have discussed it—an attitude
-which, judged by the conventional or Raphaelesque standard, might
-be described as typically unfeminine and unmaternal—since their
-sympathies were invariably and unreservedly on the side of the erring
-mother, and I cannot remember having heard a single woman’s voice
-raised in defence of the right to its life of the unwanted child. On
-the contrary, mothers of families, devoted to their own children and
-discharging their duties to them in a manner beyond reproach, have, in
-my hearing, not only pitied, but justified, the unfortunate creatures
-who, goaded by fear of shame and want of money, destroy the little life
-they themselves have given. That attitude seems to me to show that
-women recognize the comparative slightness of the mere physical tie,
-and that to them it is the other factors in the relationship of mother
-and child which really count—factors which have practically no chance
-of being brought into play in the case of the unwanted child.
-
-It is eminently characteristic of the servile, and therefore imitative,
-quality of women’s literature that the unwanted child—other than
-the illegitimate—has played practically no part in it. As long
-as child-bearing was an involuntary consequence of a compulsory
-trade—as, to a great extent, it still is—there must have been
-innumerable women who, year after year, bore children whom they did
-not desire to bear; who suffered the discomforts of pregnancy and the
-pangs of childbirth not that they might rejoice when a man was born
-into the world, but that a fresh and unwelcome burden might be added to
-their lives. And how unwelcome was that burden in many cases is proved
-by the voluntary and deliberate restriction of the modern family! Yet
-no woman, so far as I know, has ever taken up pen to write with truth
-and insight of this, the really tragic element in the life of countless
-wives—simply because man, not understanding, has never treated of
-it, because, in his ignorance, he has laid it down that woman finds
-instinctive and unending joy in the involuntary reproduction of her
-kind. One sees the advantage of such a comfortable belief to a husband
-disinclined to self-control.
-
-
-
-
-XVI
-
-
-If I have dwelt at some length upon woman’s failure to achieve
-greatness in art and literature, it is because its art and literature
-reflect the inward life of a people, and the puny, trammelled and
-almost entirely imitative art of woman is a faithful reflection of the
-artificial habit and attitude of mind induced in her by the training
-for the married state, or its equivalent outside the law. As I have
-already said, the wonder is—when the tendency of that training is
-taken into account—not that she has done so little, but that she has
-done so much; for it must be borne in mind that as long as sexual
-love and maternity are in the slightest degree compulsory upon woman
-they can never prove to her the source of inspiration which they have
-so often proved to man. It is freedom and unfettered desire, not
-inevitable duty or the prospect of monetary gain, which awakens the
-creative instinct in humanity. The commercial element has always been
-incompatible with effective expression in art; no stockbroker, however
-exultant, has burst into lyric rhapsody over a rise in Home Rails, no
-grocer lifted up a psalm of praise because his till was full. It is
-because her love has always been her livelihood that woman has never
-been inspired by it as man has been inspired. And it is just because
-it is so business-like that her interest in love is often so keen.
-For instance, her customary appreciation of a book or a work of art
-dealing with love, and nothing but love, is the outcome of something
-more than sentiment and overpowering consciousness of sex. To her a
-woman in love is not only a woman swayed by emotion, but a human being
-engaged in carving for herself a career or securing for herself a means
-of livelihood. Her interest in a love story is, therefore, much more
-complex than a man’s interest therein, and the appreciation which she
-brings to it is of a very different quality.
-
-Love and maternity, then, have failed because of their compulsory
-character to inspire woman to artistic achievement; and from
-other sources of inspiration she has, as a rule, been debarred
-systematically. One hears, over and over again, of the artist who is
-inspired by the spirit of his time, who gives effective expression to
-the life and ideals of his time; and one remembers that man has always
-desired that woman should be debarred from contact with the life and
-spirit of the world in which she lived and moved and had her being, has
-always desired that she should drift and stagnate in a backwater of
-existence. The inspiration that springs from the sense of community,
-of fellowship, from enthusiasm for great interests shared with others
-was not to be for her; she was denied part or lot or interest in the
-making of contemporary history and to the passions enkindled by it
-she must be a stranger. Art has always responded to the uprush of
-a genuine popular enthusiasm, has embodied, shaped and moulded the
-ideas tossed about from mind to mind, and from man to man in a period
-of national effervescence and progress. The men who have left behind
-them an enduring name in the annals of art and literature were not
-unconscious of the life around them, were often enough caught up in
-the swirl of contemporary interests, and played an eager part in that
-making of contemporary history which we call politics. How many works
-of art do we not owe to the civic consciousness, to a man’s pride in
-his own place, his desire to be worthy of it, his sense of comradeship
-and his glory in communal service? In every city worthy of the name, in
-every city that is anything more than an enlarged manufacturing slum,
-there stands, in brick or stone, some witness to the force and reality
-of the communal impulse in art. It was an impulse that seldom reached
-woman; who stood apart from the communal life, who knew not the service
-that brings with it sense of fellowship, who had not so much as a place
-to be proud of. Even to-day a woman takes her husband’s nationality,
-and the place that was her own is hers no longer. She has drawn no
-inspiration from the thought that she is a citizen of no mean city.
-
-We think of Milton as a poet; but to the men of his time he was
-something else. Twenty years of his life were given to politics and
-statecraft, and his verse is the product not only of his own genius,
-but of the national spirit of Puritanism—which was the desire to
-establish the kingdom of God upon earth. Dante, to us, is the man who
-ascended into heaven and descended into hell and wrote of what he saw;
-but it was not for these things, but for his partisanship of a losing
-cause, that he ate the bread of a stranger and found it salt. Few, if
-any, of the great ones of all time have stood apart in spirit from
-their own world with its hopes and its seething discontents; they spoke
-of it because they lived in it, loved it and wondered at it. It is
-significant that one of the few women whose written words have stood
-the test of centuries—St. Teresa—was one whose aspirations were not
-narrowed to the duties of a husband’s dwelling, who was passionately
-conscious of her part in the life of a great community, who made
-herself a power in the public life of the day—a woman capable of
-organization and able to bend men and systems to an indomitable will.
-
-My meaning, I hope, will not be misinterpreted or narrowed. I do not
-look upon the British House of Commons or the American House of
-Representatives, as at present instituted, as a likely forcing-ground
-for poets or composers; nor do I consider that no human being is
-qualified to produce a decent novel or paint a decent picture until his
-name is included in the electoral register. I have endeavoured to make
-it clear that it is not the letter of political life, but the spirit
-of a conscious communal life which kindles enthusiasm, arouses the
-desire of service and awakens art; that, as far as art is concerned,
-the important point is participation in ideas, not in elections. When
-women are informed that they cannot think publicly, or, as the cant
-phrase goes, think imperially, it should be borne in mind that public
-or imperial ideas have usually been labelled, “For men only.”
-
-There is, so far as I can see, no reason to suppose that the minds
-of women are naturally less accessible than the minds of men to the
-influence of what has been termed the crowd spirit. Such subordinate
-share as they have been permitted to take in the communal life of the
-various sects and churches they have availed themselves of to the
-full; at least they have understood the meaning of the term Communion
-of Saints. And the few women whose high birth has qualified them for
-the responsibilities of practical statesmanship, the guidance and
-governance of nations, have usually grasped their responsibilities with
-capability and understanding. Public spirit has been manifested in
-these exceptions to masculine rule as surely as it was manifested in
-the dreadful, hopeful crowd that once went marching to Versailles; and
-it has been written that if the men of the Paris Commune had espoused
-their cause with the desperate courage of the women, that cause had not
-been lost.
-
-
-
-
-XVII
-
-
-My object in writing so far has been to set forth reasons for my belief
-that woman, as we know her to-day, is largely a manufactured product;
-that the particular qualities which are supposed to be inherent in
-her and characteristic of her sex are often enough nothing more than
-the characteristics of a repressed class and the entirely artificial
-result of her surroundings and training. I have tried to show that,
-given such surroundings and training, the ordinary or womanly woman was
-the kind of development to be expected; that even if it be the will
-of Providence that she should occupy the lower seat, man has actively
-assisted Providence by a resolute discouragement of her attempts
-to move out of it; and that it is impossible to say whether her
-typical virtues and her typical defects are inherent and inevitable,
-or induced and artificial, until she has been placed amidst other
-surroundings and subjected to the influence and test of a different
-system of education. Until such an experiment has been tried no really
-authoritative conclusion is possible; one can only make deductions and
-point to probabilities.
-
-If, after four or five generations of freer choice and wider life,
-woman still persists in confining her steps to the narrow grooves where
-they have hitherto been compelled to walk; if she claims no life of
-her own, if she has no interests outside her home, if love, marriage
-and maternity is still her all in all; if she is still, in spite of
-equal education, of emulation and respect, the inferior of man in
-brain capacity and mental independence; if she still evinces a marked
-preference for disagreeable and monotonous forms of labour, for which
-she is paid at the lowest possible rate; if she still attaches higher
-value to the lifting of a top hat than to the liberty to direct her
-own life; if she is still untouched by public spirit, still unable to
-produce an art and a literature that is individual and sincere; if she
-is still servile, imitative, pliant—then, when those four or five
-generations have passed, the male half of humanity will have a perfect
-right to declare that woman is what he has always believed and desired
-her to be, that she is the chattel, the domestic animal, the matron or
-the mistress, that her subjection is a subjection enjoined by natural
-law, that her inferiority to himself is an ordained and inevitable
-inferiority. Then he will have that right; but not till then.
-
-Some of us believe and hope with confidence that, given such wider life
-and freer choice, he would have to admit himself mistaken, would have
-to confess that the limitations once confining us were, for the most
-part, of his own invention. And we base that belief and very confident
-hope on the knowledge that there are in us, and in our sisters, many
-qualities which we are not supposed to possess and which once were
-unsuspected by ourselves; and on the certainty that the needs and
-circumstances of modern life are encouraging, whether or no we will it,
-the development of a side of our nature which we have heretofore been
-strictly forbidden to develop—the side that comes in contact with the
-world. Economic pressure and the law of self-preservation produced the
-“womanly woman”; now, from the “womanly woman” economic pressure and
-the law of self-preservation are producing a new type. It is no use for
-a bland and fatuous conservatism to repeat the parrot cry anent the
-sphere of woman being the home; we could not listen to its chirpings
-even if we would. For our stomachs are more insistent than any parrot
-cry, and they inform us that the sphere of woman, like the sphere of
-man, is the place where daily bread can be obtained.
-
-There was a certain amount of truth in the formula once, in days when
-our social and industrial system was run on more primitive lines, when
-the factory was not, and the home was a place of trade and business
-as well as a place to live in. But the modern civilized home is, as a
-rule, and to all intents and purposes, only the shell of what it was
-before that revolution in industrial methods which began about the
-middle of the eighteenth century.
-
-The alteration in the status and scope of the home is best and most
-clearly typified by the divided life led by the modern trader,
-manufacturer or man of business; who, in the morning, arises, swallows
-his breakfast and goes forth to his shop, his factory or his office;
-and, his day’s work done, returns to the suburban residence which
-it is the duty of his wife to look after, either personally or by
-superintendence of the labour of servants. His place of business and
-his place of rest and recreation are separate institutions, situated
-miles apart; the only connection between the two is the fact that he
-spends a certain portion of the day in each, and that one provides
-the money for the upkeep of the other. But his ancestor, if in the
-same line of business, had his place of money-making and his place of
-rest under the same roof, and both were comprehended in the meaning
-of the term “home.” The primitive form of shop, though in gradual
-and inevitable process of extinction, is still plentiful enough in
-villages, in country towns and even in the by-streets of cities.
-It takes the shape of a ground-floor apartment in the proprietor’s
-dwelling-house, provided with a counter upon which the customer raps,
-with a more or less patient persistence, with the object of arousing
-the attention of some member of the hitherto invisible household.
-Eventually, in response to the summons, a man, woman or child emerges
-from behind the curtained door which separates the family place of
-business from the family sitting-room, and proceeds to purvey the
-needful string, matches or newspapers. In such an establishment no
-outside labour is engaged, the business is carried on under the same
-roof as the home and forms an integral part of the duties of the
-home; it is a family affair giving a certain amount of employment
-to members of the family. And when, owing to the erection round the
-corner of a plateglass-windowed establishment run on more business-like
-and attractive lines, it fails and has to put up its shutters, those
-members of the family who have been dependent on it for a livelihood
-will have to seek that livelihood elsewhere. The boy who has been
-accustomed to help his parents in looking after the shop, running
-errands and delivering orders, will have to turn to a trade, if he is
-to be sure of his bread; the girl who has been fulfilling duties of the
-same kind will have to enter domestic service, a factory or a shop in
-which she is a paid assistant. In other words, she, like her brother,
-will be driven out of the home because the home can no longer support
-her; and it can no longer support her because its scope has been
-narrowed. Formerly it had its bread-winning as well as its domestic
-side; now, as an inevitable consequence of the growth of collective
-industry, of specialization and centralization, the bread-winning or
-productive side has been absorbed, and nothing remains but the domestic
-or unproductive. And in the event of the failure of such a family
-business as I have described, the head of the household, however firmly
-convinced he might be that the true and only sphere of woman is the
-home, would probably do his level best to obtain for his daughter a
-situation and means of livelihood outside her proper sphere.
-
-As an example of the tendency of the home to split up into departments
-I have instanced the familiar process of the disappearance of a small
-retail business, simply because it is familiar, and a case where we
-can see the tendency at work beneath our own eyes. But, as a matter
-of fact, the division of what was formerly the home into unproductive
-and productive departments, into domestic work and work outside the
-house, has been far less thorough and complete in the retail trade than
-in other spheres of labour. The factory, which has absorbed industry
-after industry formerly carried on in the house, is a comparatively
-modern institution; so is the bake-house. Weaving and spinning were
-once domestic trades; so was brewing. Not so very long ago it was usual
-enough for the housewife, however well-to-do, to have all her washing
-done in her own home; not so very long ago she made her own pickles and
-her own jam. When the average household was largely self-supporting,
-producing food for its own consumption, and linen for its own wearing,
-it gave employment to many more persons than can be employed in it
-to-day. The women’s industries of a former date have, for the most
-part, been swallowed by the factory. They were never industries at
-which she earned much money; so far as the members of a family were
-concerned they were rewarded with nothing more than the customary wage
-of subsistence; but—and this is the real point—they were industries
-at which woman not only earned her wage of subsistence, but indirectly
-a profit for her employer, the head of the household—the husband or
-father.
-
-The displacement of labour which followed the adoption of machinery
-in crafts and manufactures formerly carried on by hand affected the
-conditions of women’s work just as it affected the work of men.
-Factories and workshops took the place of home industries; the small
-trader and the master-craftsman fell under the domination first of the
-big employer and later of the limited liability company. It was cheaper
-to produce goods in large quantities by the aid of machinery than in
-small quantities by hand; so the “little man” who ran his own business
-with the aid of his own family, being without capital to expend on
-the purchase of machinery, was apt to find competition too much for
-him and descend to the position of a wage-earner. For woman the
-serious fact was that under the new system of collective industry and
-production on a large scale her particular sphere, the home, ceased to
-be self-supporting, since its products were under-sold by the products
-of the factory. Jam and pickles could be produced more cheaply in a
-factory furnished with vats than in a kitchen supplied with saucepans;
-it was more economical to buy bread than to bake it, because the most
-economical way of baking was to bake it in the mass. A man might esteem
-the accomplishment of pickle-making or linen-weaving as an excellent
-thing in woman; but unless expense was really no object he would not
-encourage his wife and daughters to excel in these particular arts,
-since it was cheaper to buy sheets and bottled onions round the corner
-than to purchase the raw material and set the female members of his
-family to work upon it. In the redistribution of labour which followed
-upon the new order of things man, not for the first time, had invaded
-the sacred sphere of woman and annexed a share thereof.
-
-The natural and inevitable result of this new and improved state of
-things was that woman deprived of the productive industries at which
-she had formerly earned her keep and something over for her employer,
-was no longer a source of monetary profit to that employer. On the
-contrary, so far as money went and so long as she remained in the
-home, she was often a distinct loss. Instead of baking bread for her
-husband or father, her husband or father had to expend his money on
-buying bread for her to eat; she no longer wove the material for other
-people’s garments; on the contrary the material for her own had to be
-obtained at the draper’s. The position, for man, was a serious one; for
-be it remembered, he could not lower the wages of his domestic animal.
-These had always been fixed, whatever work she did, at the lowest
-possible rate—subsistence rate; so that even when her work ceased to
-be profitable her wages could not be made to go any lower—there was
-nowhere lower for them to go. One’s daughter had to be fed, clothed and
-lodged even if the narrowed scope of the home provided her with no more
-lucrative employment than dusting china dogs on the mantelpiece.
-
-Under these circumstances the daughters of a household found
-themselves, often enough, face to face with a divided duty: the duty of
-earning their keep, which would necessitate emergence from the home,
-and the duty of remaining inside the sacred sphere—and confining
-their energies to china dogs. Left to themselves the more energetic
-and ambitious would naturally adopt the first alternative, the more
-slothful and timid as naturally adopt the second; but they were not
-always left to themselves, nor were their own desires and predilections
-the sole factor in their respective decisions. The views of the head
-of the household, who now got little or no return for the outlay he
-incurred in supporting them, had also to be taken into consideration;
-and his views were usually influenced by the calls made upon his purse.
-Theoretically he might hold fast to the belief that woman’s sphere was
-the home and nothing but the home. Actually he might object to the
-monetary outlay incurred if that belief was acted upon. The father
-of five strapping girls (all hungry several times a day), who might
-or might not succeed in inducing five desirable husbands to bear the
-expense of their support, would probably discover that, even if home
-was the sphere of woman, there were times when she was better out of
-it. It is a curious fact that when women are blamed for intruding into
-departments of the labour market hitherto reserved for men, the abuse
-which is freely showered upon the intruders is in no wise poured forth
-upon the male persons appertaining to the said intruders—who have
-presumably neglected to provide the funds necessary to enable their
-female relations to pass a blameless, if unremunerative, existence
-making cakes for home consumption, or producing masterpieces in
-Berlin wool-work. The different treatment meted out to the guilty
-parties in this respect seems to be another example of the practice
-of apportioning blame only to the person least able to resent it.
-It is quite natural that man should refuse to support healthy and
-able-bodied females; but he must not turn round and be nasty when, as a
-direct consequence of his refusal, the healthy and able-bodied females
-endeavour to support themselves.
-
-For good or for evil a good many millions of us have been forced out of
-the environment which we once believed to be proper to our sex; and to
-our new environment we have to adapt ourselves—if we are to survive.
-Work in the factory or in the office, work which brings us into
-contact with the outside world, calls for the exercise of qualities
-and attainments which we had no need of before, for the abandonment
-of habits and ideas which can only hamper our progress in our changed
-surroundings. Our forefathers—those, at any rate, of the upper and
-middle class—admired fragility of health in woman; and, in order to
-please them, our foremothers fell in with the idea and appealed to
-the masculine sense of chivalry by habitual indulgence in complaints
-known as swoons and vapours. Persons subject to these tiresome and
-inconvenient diseases would stand a very poor chance of regular and
-well-paid employment as teachers, sanitary inspectors, journalists and
-typists; so teachers, sanitary inspectors, journalists and typists
-have repressed the tendency to swoons and vapours. In these classes an
-actual uncertainty prevails as to the nature of vapours, and swooning
-is practically a lost art. Instead of applying their energies to the
-cultivation of these attractive complaints, working and professional
-women are inclined to encourage a condition of rude bodily health which
-stands them in good stead in their work, and is, therefore, a valuable
-commercial asset.
-
-Just as we have been forced by contact with the outside world to
-cultivate not weakness but health, so by the same contact we have been
-forced to cultivate not folly but intelligence. The silly angel may
-be a success in the home; she is not a success in trade or business.
-Man may desire to clasp her and kiss her and call her his own; but
-there are moments when he tires of seeing her make hay of his accounts
-and correspondence. His natural predilection for her type may, and
-often does, induce him to give her the preference over her fellows in
-business matters; but he usually ends by admitting that, for certain
-purposes at least, the human being with brains is preferable to the
-seraph without them. It has been borne in upon the modern woman that
-it pays her to have brains—even although they must be handled very
-cautiously for fear of wounding the susceptibilities of her master.
-She learned that lesson not in her own sphere, but in the world
-outside it; and it is a lesson that has already had far-reaching
-consequences. Having, in the first instance, acquired a modicum of
-intelligence because she had to, she is now acquiring it in larger
-quantities because she likes it. The trades which do not require the
-qualification of stupidity are counteracting the effect upon her of the
-trade which did—the compulsory trade of marriage.
-
-
-
-
-XVIII
-
-
-If the division of the home, and the inevitable consequences that
-followed on that division, had done nothing more than teach some of us
-to value our health and respect our brains we should have very good
-cause to bless the break-up of that over-estimated institution. But,
-as a matter of fact, our contact with the wider world is doing a great
-deal more for us than that. It is testing our powers in new directions;
-it is bringing new interests into our lives; it is teaching us how very
-like we are unto our brothers—given similar environment; and, most
-important of all, it is sweeping away with a steady hand that distrust
-and ignorance of each other which was alike the curse and the natural
-result of age-long isolation in the home and immemorial training in the
-service, not of each other, but only of our masters.
-
-It may be true that women in general once disliked and meanly despised
-each other. At any rate, man has always desired that it should be
-true; so, the aim and object of woman’s life being the gratification of
-his desires, such mutual dislike and contempt was no doubt cultivated
-and affected by her. But if it was true once, it is not true now;
-except, maybe, amongst the silly angel class—a class already growing
-rarer, and soon, one hopes, to be well on the way to extinction. The
-working-woman, the woman with wider interests than her mother’s, in
-learning to respect herself is learning to respect her counterpart—the
-human being, like unto herself, who, under the same disadvantages,
-fights the same battle as her own. And recognizing the heaviness, the
-unfairness of those disadvantages, she recognizes the bond of common
-interest that unites her to her sister. In short, for the first time in
-her history she is becoming actively class-conscious.
-
-We speak best of that which we have seen with our own eyes and heard
-with our own ears; therefore I make no excuse for obtruding my personal
-experiences in this connection. For many years the women who came
-into my life intimately and closely were, with few exceptions, women
-who had to work—journalists, artists, typists, dressmakers, clerks;
-practically all of them dependent on their own work and practically all
-of them poor—some bitterly poor. And that class, because I know it so
-well, I have learned to respect. It is a class which has few pleasures
-in life, because it has so little money to spend on them; which, as a
-rule, works harder than a man would work in the same position, because
-its pay is less; which is not unexposed to temptation, but holds
-temptation as a thing to be resisted; yet which is tolerant to those
-who fail under it, knowing the excuse to be made for them. The woman
-belonging to that class does not turn away from the sinner who walks
-the street with a painted face; likely enough she remembers that she,
-too, was brought up to believe that the awakening of sexual desire must
-be her means of livelihood, and she knows that, if she had not cast
-that belief behind her, she, too, when need pressed upon her, might
-have walked the streets for hire. Wherefore she is more inclined to say
-to herself, “But for the grace of God, there go I.” She has learned to
-know men as the sheltered woman seldom knows them; to know more of
-the good in them, more of the ill; she has met and talked with them
-without compliment and without ceremony; has taken orders from and been
-rebuked by them; has been to them fellow-worker and sometimes friend;
-has sometimes met and fought the brute in them. In the same way she
-has worked with women and learned to know them; and the result of her
-experience is, that she has lost any natural distrust of her own sex
-which she may once have possessed; has come to rely upon her own sex
-for the help which she herself is willing enough to render. The sense
-of a common interest, the realization of common disabilities, have
-forced her into class-consciousness and partisanship of her class.
-I know many women of the type I have described—women who have gone
-through the mill, some married, some unmarried. And of them all I know
-hardly one whose life is not affected, to an appreciable extent, by the
-sense of fellowship with her sisters.
-
-The average man, it seems to me, fails utterly to realize how strong
-this sense of fellowship, of trade unionism, can be in us; he has (as
-I have already pointed out) explained away its manifestations in the
-match-making industry by accounting for them on other grounds. He has
-forgotten that it was a woman who, for the sake, not of a man, but of
-another woman, went out into a strange land, saying: “Whither thou
-goest I will go; thy people shall be my people and thy God my God.” To
-him, one imagines, that saying must always have been a dark one; to us
-there seems nothing strange in it.
-
-A friend of my own (who will forgive me for repeating her confidence)
-told me the other day of a happening in her life that, to my mind,
-exactly illustrates the awakening of class-consciousness amongst women.
-It was the careless speech of a man, addressed to her while she was
-still a very young girl, to the effect that all women over fifty should
-be shot. The words were lightly spoken, of course, and were probably
-intended half as a compliment to her manifest youth; certainly they
-were not intended as an insult. But their effect was to rouse in her
-a sense of insult and something akin to a passion of resentment that
-she and her like should only be supposed to exist so long as they were
-pleasing, only so long as they possessed the power of awakening sexual
-desire. She took them as an insult to herself because they were an
-insult to women in general; and, lightly spoken as they were they made
-upon her an impression which helped to mould her life.
-
-I give my friend’s experience because it seems to me to be typical;
-because amongst women of my own class I know others who have felt the
-same rush of anger at the revelation of a similar attitude towards the
-sex they belong to; who have raged inwardly as they recognized that
-character, worth, intellect were held valueless in woman, that nothing
-counted in her but the one capacity—the power of awaking desire. That
-is an attitude which we who have become conscious of our class resent
-with all our souls; since we realize that to that attitude on the
-part of man, to compliance with it on the part of woman, we owe the
-degradation of our class.
-
-Most important of all, the knowledge of each other and the custom and
-necessity of working side by side in numbers is bringing with it the
-consciousness of a new power—the power of organization. It is a power
-that we have hitherto lacked, not because we were born without the
-seed of it in our souls, but because our fenced-in, isolated lives
-have given small opportunity for its growth and development. And it
-is a power which we are now acquiring because we have been forced to
-recognize the need of it, because we can no longer do without it. It
-is being borne in on us that if we are to have fair play, if our wages
-are to rise above subsistence point, if we are to be anything more
-than hewers of wood, drawers of water, and unthinking reproducers of
-our kind, we have to stand together; that if we are to have any share
-of our own in the world into which we were born, if our part in it is
-to be anything more than that of the beggar with outstretched hand
-awaiting the crumbs that fall from another’s table, we have to work
-together. And it is work in the mill, the factory, the office that is
-teaching us the lesson of public spirit, of combination for a common
-purpose—a lesson that was never taught us in the home where we once
-lived narrowly apart.
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-
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-
-XIX
-
-
-IF what I have written has any truth in it, I have shown that we have
-good grounds for believing that the degradation of woman’s position and
-the inferiority of woman’s capacities are chiefly due to the compulsory
-restriction of her energies and ambitions to the uncertain livelihood
-and ill-paid trade of marriage. I have shown that the trade is ill
-paid simply because it is largely compulsory; that, in accordance with
-economic law, the wife and mother will be held cheap for just so long
-as she is a drug in the market. I have shown how the unsatisfactory
-position of the wife and mother, the unsatisfactory training to which
-she has been subjected from her childhood up, affects the earning and
-productive powers of woman in those other occupations which the change
-in social and industrial conditions has forced her to adopt; and I
-have shown how the new influences engendered by her new surroundings
-are gradually and inevitably counteracting the peculiar habit of
-mind acquired in the narrow precincts of the home. It remains to be
-considered how far these influences are reaching and affecting the life
-of the home itself—how far they are likely to improve the position not
-only of the woman who earns her own wage and directs her own life, but
-of the woman who has no means of augmenting the low remuneration which
-is at present considered sufficient for the duties of a wife and mother.
-
-I suppose that in the recent history of woman nothing is more striking
-than the enormous improvement that has taken place in the social
-position of the spinster. In many ranks of life the lack of a husband
-is no longer a reproach; and some of us are even proud of the fact
-that we have fought our way in the world without aid from any man’s
-arm. At any rate, we no longer feel it necessary to apologize for our
-existence; and when we are assured that we have lost the best that
-life has to offer us, we are not unduly cast down. (I am speaking,
-of course, of the independent woman with an interest in life and
-in herself; not of the poor, mateless product of tradition that
-we exist only to awaken desire in man. There are still many such,
-no doubt—the victims of a servile training. On whom may God have
-mercy—man having no use for them and they none for themselves!) By
-sheer force of self-assertion we have lifted ourselves from the dust
-where we once crawled as worms and not women; we no longer wither on
-the virgin thorn—we flourish on it; and ungarnished though we be with
-olive-boughs, we are not ashamed when we meet with our enemies in the
-gate.
-
-So far as I can see, nothing like the same improvement has taken place
-in recent years in the position of the average married woman. So far
-as I can see, the average husband, actual or to be, still entertains
-the conviction that the word helpmeet, being interpreted, means second
-fiddle; and acts in accordance with that honest conviction. He still
-feels that it is the duty of his wife to respect him on the ground
-that he did not happen to be born a woman; he still considers it
-desirable that the mother of his children should not be over wise. He
-still clings to the idea that a wife is a creature to be patronized;
-with kindness, of course—patted on the head, not thumped—but still
-patronized. While he is yet unmated his dream of the coming affinity
-still takes the shape of some one smaller than himself who asks him
-questions while he strokes her hair. On the whole, therefore, he
-tends to avoid marriage with those women who are not fit subjects for
-patronage—who, be it noted, also tend to avoid marriage with him; and
-thus, in the natural order of things, the average wife is the person
-who is willing to submit to be patronized. I do not mean that there are
-not many exceptions to this rule, but they are exceptions. And it is
-obvious that human beings, men, or women, who consider themselves fit
-subjects for patronage are not those who make for progress or possess
-any very great power of improving their own status.
-
-Myself I have not the least doubt that such improvement as has already
-been affected in the status of the wife and mother has originated
-outside herself, and is, to a great extent, the work of the formerly
-contemned spinster. I do not mean that the spinster has always laboured
-to that end intentionally; I mean, rather, that as she improves her
-own position, as she takes advantage of its greater freedom, its less
-restricted opportunities, its possibilities of pleasing herself and
-directing her own life, she inevitably, by awaking her envy, drags
-after her the married woman who once despised her and whose eyes she
-has opened to the disadvantages of her own dependent situation. It is
-the independent woman with an income, earned or unearned, at her own
-disposal, with the right to turn her energies into whatever channel
-may seem good to her, who is steadily destroying the prestige of
-marriage; and the prestige of marriage has hitherto been an important
-factor in the eagerness of women for matrimony. Once it has gone,
-once it makes absolutely no difference to the esteem in which a woman
-is held, whether she is called Mrs. or whether she is called Miss, a
-new inducement will have to be found, at any rate for the woman who
-is not obliged to look upon marriage as a means of providing her with
-bread and butter. Such women will require some additional advantage
-to replace the social prestige to which they no longer attach any
-value—that is to say, as a condition of becoming wives and mothers,
-they will require their status to be raised; and their action in
-raising their own status will tend to raise the status of married women
-in general.
-
-Not very long ago, in one of the columns which a daily paper was
-devoting to animated correspondence dealing with the rights and wrongs
-of an agitation carried on by women, I came across a brief contribution
-to the discussion which furnished me with considerable food for
-thought. It was a letter written by a palpably infuriated gentleman,
-who denounced the agitation in question as the outcome of the unmarried
-woman’s jealousy of the privileges of her married sister. This very
-masculine view of the controversy had never struck me before; and,
-being a new idea to me, I sat down to consider whether it was in any
-way justified by facts.
-
-The first step, naturally, was to ascertain what were the special
-privileges which were supposed to arouse in those deprived of them a
-sense of maddened envy. On this point I did not rely solely on my own
-conclusions; I consulted, at various times, interested friends, married
-and unmarried; with the result that I have ascertained the privileges
-of the married woman to be, at the outside, three in number. (About two
-of them there is no doubt; the third is already being invaded, and can
-no longer be esteemed the exclusive property of the matron.) They are
-as follows—
-
-1. The right to wear on the third finger of the left hand a gold ring
-of approved but somewhat monotonous pattern.
-
-2. The right to walk in to dinner in advance of women unfurnished with
-a gold ring of the approved, monotonous pattern.
-
-3. The right of the wife and mother to peruse openly and in the
-drawing-room certain forms of literature—such as French novels of an
-erotic type—which the ordinary unmarried woman is supposed to read
-only in the seclusion of her bedroom.
-
-I cannot honestly say that any one of these blessings arouses in me a
-spasm of uncontrollable envy, a mad desire to share in it at any cost.
-As a matter of fact, I have—like many of my unmarried friends—annexed
-one of the above matrimonial privileges, if not in deed, at any rate
-potentially and in thought. I have never yet felt the desire to study
-French novels of an erotic type; but if I ever do feel it, I shall have
-no hesitation whatever in perusing them in public—even on the top of a
-’bus.
-
-One does not imagine that the mere wearing of a plain gold ring
-would in itself awaken perfervid enthusiasm in any woman of ordinary
-intelligence; nor does one imagine that any woman of ordinary
-intelligence would be greatly elated or abashed by entering a
-dining-room first or seventh—provided, of course, that the table
-was furnished with enough food to go round. One feels that these
-temptations are hardly glittering enough to entice reluctant woman into
-marriage. That there has been a social pressure which has impelled her
-into it I have not denied! on the contrary, I have affirmed it. But
-that social pressure has not taken the form of a passionate desire for
-one or two small and formal distinctions, but of a fear of spinsterhood
-with its accompaniments, scorn and confession of failure in your trade.
-And as spinsterhood grows more enviable, so does the fear of it grow
-less.
-
-It may be objected that in my brief list of the matron’s privileges
-I have omitted the most important of them all—motherhood. I have
-done so deliberately and for two reasons—because under any system of
-more or less compulsory marriage there must always be an appreciable
-number of wives who look upon motherhood rather as a burden than as a
-privilege; and because motherhood does not appertain exclusively to the
-married state. There is such a thing as an illegitimate birth-rate.
-
-I myself am far from desiring that the wife and mother should not
-possess privileges; it seems to me that the work of a woman who brings
-up children decently, creditably, and honourably is of such immense
-importance that it ought to be suitably rewarded. (That, of course,
-is a very different thing from admitting that a person who has gone
-through a ceremony which entitles her to hold sexual intercourse with
-another person is thereby entitled to consider herself my superior.)
-But I am very certain that it never will be suitably rewarded until
-it is undertaken freely and without pressure, and until the wife and
-mother herself summons up courage to insist on adequate payment for
-her services. It may not be necessary that that payment should be
-made in actual money; but, in whatever form it is made, it must be of
-a more satisfactory and substantial nature than the present so-called
-privileges of the married woman, involving an all-round improvement
-in her status. And that all-round improvement she will demand—and
-get—only when it is borne in upon her that her unmarried sisters have
-placed themselves in a position to get out of life a great deal more
-than she is permitted to get out of it. When she realizes that fact to
-the full she will go on strike—and good luck to her!
-
-Meanwhile, it seems to me that there is something more than a little
-pathetic in the small airs of superiority which are still affected
-by the average unintelligent matron towards her husbandless sister.
-Personally I always feel tender towards these little manifestations of
-the right to look down on the “incomplete,” the unconsciously servile
-imitation of the masculine attitude in this respect. You watch the
-dull lives that so many of these married women lead, you realize the
-artificial limitations placed upon their powers, you pity them for the
-sapping of individuality which is the inevitable result of repression
-of their own and unquestioning acceptance of other people’s opinions,
-for the cramping of their interests, perhaps for the necessity of
-cultivating the animal side of their natures—and you do not grudge
-them such small compensations as comes their way. It will be better
-for them and for their children when they realize in what this fancied
-superiority of the married woman consists; but meanwhile let them enjoy
-it.
-
-Only a little while past I met a perfect example of this tendency
-on the part of a married woman to plume herself on marriage as
-a virtue—or rather, I met her again. She had been my friend
-once—several years ago—and I had liked her for her intelligence, her
-humour, her individual outlook on life. We knew each other well for
-some months; then we were separated, and she wrote to me that she was
-getting married; and with her marriage she gave up professional work
-and passed out of my life. I heard little and saw nothing of her for
-years, until she wrote that she was staying near me and would like us
-to meet again. I went, and she told me what her life had been since
-she married. It was a story that I can only call foul—of insult,
-brutality, and degradation. What sickened me about it was the part
-that remained unspoken—the thought that the woman I once knew, clean,
-high-minded, and self-respecting, should have consented to stand for
-so long in the relation of wife to such a man as she described. One
-could see what contact with him had done for her; it had dragged her
-down morally and spiritually; the pitch had defiled her. She had,
-I knew, a small income of her own—sufficient to live upon without
-having recourse to her husband—so I urged her bluntly to leave him.
-She refused, crying feebly; made the usual rejoinder of weak-minded
-married women run into a corner—that I was not married myself and
-could not understand; and spent another hour bewailing her lot with
-tears. I saw that her courage and character had been sapped out of her,
-that it was no use appealing to what she no longer possessed, and that
-all she asked was sympathy of the type that listens with an occasional
-pat on the shoulder or soothing stroke on the arm; so I gave of it, in
-silence, as well as I could. At the end of a good hour she dried her
-tears, and declared that she was selfish to talk about nothing but
-herself, that she must hear my news and what I had been doing. I did
-not like to refuse, for I thought it better to turn her thoughts away
-from her troubles, if only for a little; besides, she had liked me
-genuinely once, and I think her interest in me was still genuine. But
-as I complied and talked to her about myself, I felt miserably ashamed.
-For, as it happened, I was very happy then—happier, in some ways,
-than I had ever been in my life, since, almost for the first time in
-my life, I had learned the meaning of good luck. I thought of all the
-kindness, the friendliness, the consideration that was being shown to
-me—I thought of my work and my pleasure in it—of my interest in work
-done with others and the sense of comradeship it brings. And I thought
-how the poor soul who had wept her handkerchief into a rag must realize
-the contrast of our two lives, must feel how unjust it was that one
-woman should have so little and another have so much. So, as I say, I
-felt ashamed, and talked on, conscious of mental discomfort, until I
-saw her looking at me thoughtfully, as if she were about to speak. I
-stopped to hear what she had to say; and it was this—
-
-“I suppose you will never marry now?”
-
-For a moment I did not see the real purport of the question, and I dare
-say I looked astonished as I answered that it was most unlikely, and I
-had no thought of it. She surveyed me steadily, to make sure that I was
-speaking the truth; then, having apparently convinced herself that I
-was, she sighed.
-
-“It is a pity. Every woman ought to get married. Your life isn’t
-complete without it. It is an experience....”
-
-Those, as far as I remember, were the exact words she used. (There
-is no danger that she will ever read them.) They left me dumb; their
-unconscious irony was so pathetic and so dreadful. Marriage an
-experience—it had been one for her! And “your life isn’t complete
-without it.” This from a woman whose husband had threatened to knock
-pieces out of her with a poker! The situation seemed to me beyond
-tears and beyond laughter—the poor, insulted, bullied thing, finding
-her one source of pride in the fact that she had experienced sexual
-intercourse. If there had been a child I could have understood; but
-there had, I think, never been a child—at any rate, there was not one
-living. If there had been, I believe I should have said to her what
-was in my mind—for the child’s sake; I should have hated to think of
-it growing up in that atmosphere, in its mother’s squalid faith in
-the essential glory of animalism. But as there was no child, and as
-she was so dulled, so broken, I said nothing. It was all she had—the
-consciousness that she, from her vantage-ground of completeness and
-experience, had the right to look down on me—on one of the unmarried,
-a woman who “could not understand.” It was her one ewe-lamb of petty
-consolation; and I had not the heart to try and take it from her.
-
-
-
-
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-
-
-My intention in writing this book has not been to inveigh against the
-institution of marriage, the life companionship of man and woman; all
-that I have inveighed against has been the largely compulsory character
-of that institution—as far as one-half of humanity is concerned—the
-sweated trade element in it, and the glorification of certain qualities
-and certain episodes and experiences of life at the expense of all the
-others. I believe—because I have seen it in the working—that the
-companionship in marriage of self-respecting man and self-respecting
-woman is a very perfect thing; but I also believe that, under present
-conditions, it is not easy for self-respecting woman to find a mate
-with whom she can live on the terms demanded by her self-respect.
-Hence a distinct tendency on her part to avoid marriage. Those women
-who look at the matter in this light are those who, while not denying
-that matrimony may be an excellent thing in itself, realize that there
-are some excellent things which may be bought too dear. That is the
-position of a good many of us in these latter days. If we are more or
-less politely incredulous when we are informed that we are leading an
-unnatural existence, it is not because we have no passions, but because
-life to us means a great deal more than one of its possible episodes.
-If we decline to listen with becoming reverence to disquisitions on the
-broadening effect of motherhood upon our lives, the deep and miraculous
-understanding that it brings into our hearts, it is not because we
-are contemptuous of maternity, but because we have met so many silly
-persons who brought babies into the world and remained just as silly
-as they were before. We are quite aware, too, that it is, for the most
-part, women of our own unmated class, and, likely enough, of our own
-way of thinking, who spend their days in teaching bungling mothers how
-to rear the children who would otherwise only come into the world in
-order to afford employment to the undertaker by going out of it. (A
-considerable proportion of the infant population of this country would
-be in a parlous state if the “superfluous women” thereof were suddenly
-caught up into the air and dumped _en bloc_ in the Sahara.)
-
-And in this connection I feel it necessary to state that I have
-hitherto sought in vain in real life for that familiar figure in
-fiction—the unmarried woman whose withered existence is passed in
-ceaseless and embittered craving for the possession of a child of
-her own. The sufferings of this unfortunate creature, as depicted
-by masculine writers, have several times brought me to the verge of
-tears; it is difficult to believe that they are entirely the result of
-vivid masculine imagination; but honesty compels me to admit that I
-have never discovered their counterpart in life, in spite of the fact
-that my way has led me amongst spinsters of all ages. Young unmarried
-women have told me frankly that they would like to bear a child; a
-very few elderly unmarried women have told me that they would have
-preferred to marry; and quite a number of married women have told me
-that they should have done better for themselves by remaining single.
-I have known wives who desired maternity as anxiously as others
-desired to avoid it; but the spinster whose days are passed in gloomy
-contemplation of her lack of olive-branches I have not yet met. I
-started by believing in her, just as I started by believing that the
-world held nothing for me but marriage and reproduction of my kind.
-Later on I discovered that there were more things in heaven and earth
-than marriage and reproduction of my kind, and I have no reason to
-suppose that I am the only woman who has made that discovery.
-
-The women I have known who lamented their single state as a real evil
-have been actuated in their dislike of it by mixed motives. A desire to
-bear children has, perhaps, been one; but it has always been interwoven
-with the desire to improve their position socially or commercially, and
-the corresponding fear of failure or poverty implied by spinsterhood.
-So far as my experience goes, the only women who fret passionately at
-the lack of children of their own are married women whose husbands are
-desirous of children.
-
-I should be the last to deny that many unmarried women have the sense
-of maternity strongly developed; but the sense of maternity, as I see
-it, is not completely dependent on the accidents of marriage and
-child-birth. As I have already said, I believe it is not the physical
-side of maternity—the side which appeals so strongly to men—which
-appeals most strongly to women; and from the other, and, to me,
-infinitely more beautiful side, no unmarried woman is necessarily
-debarred. The spinster who devotes herself to permanent lamentation
-over her lack of descendants must (if she exists) be a person who has
-never risen above the male conception of motherhood as a physical and
-instinctive process. Some of the best mothers I have met have never
-borne a child; but one does not imagine that it will be counted to them
-for unrighteousness that the children who rise up and call them blessed
-are not their own. Nor is it childhood alone which enkindles the sense
-of maternity in women; the truest mother I know is one who enwraps with
-her love a “child” who came into the world before she was thought of.
-
-After all, there is a kinship that is not that of the flesh, and
-some of us are very little the children of our parents. The people
-who have framed and influenced the conditions under which we live,
-whose thoughts have moulded our lives, have also had a share in
-our making. It is possible that descendants of Homer walk the earth
-to-day—very worthy persons whose existence is of no particular moment
-to any but themselves. Shakespeare was married I know, and I believe
-he was the father of a family; but of how many that family consisted,
-what were their names and what became of them all, I have never even
-troubled to inquire. Did Goethe leave descendants, or did he not? I
-frankly confess that I don’t know, simply because I have never had
-the slightest curiosity on the subject. But Faust has been part of my
-life. It matters very little to the world at large what became of the
-children whom Jean Jacques Rousseau handed over to the tender mercies
-of a foundling hospital; but there are very few people alive to-day to
-whom it does not matter that the current of the world’s striving was
-turned into a new channel by the spiritual sons of Rousseau—the men
-who made the French Revolution. Reproduction is not everything; the
-men and women who have striven to shorten the hours of child-labour
-have often been possessed of a keener sense of responsibility and
-tenderness, a keener sense of fatherhood and motherhood, than the
-parents whose children they sought to protect. If I were one of those
-who have so striven, I should consider that the help I had given to the
-world was no less worthy of honour and commendation than that of the
-paterfamilias who marches a family of fourteen to church on Sundays.
-If humanity had only been created in order to reproduce its kind, we
-might still be dodging cave-bears in the intervals of grubbing up roots
-with our nails. It is not only the children who matter: there is the
-world into which they are born. Every human being who influences for
-the better, however slightly, the conditions under which he lives is
-doing something for those who come after; and thus, it seems to me,
-that those women who are proving by their lives that marriage is not
-a necessity for them, that maternity is not a necessity for them,
-are preparing a heritage of fuller humanity for the daughters of
-others—who will be daughters of their own in the spirit, if not in
-the flesh. The home of the future will be more of an abiding-place and
-less of a prison because they have made it obvious that, so far as many
-women are concerned, the home can be done without; and if the marriage
-of the future is what it ought to be—a voluntary contract on both
-sides—it will be because they have proved the right of every woman to
-refuse it if she will, by demonstrating that there are other means of
-earning a livelihood than bearing children and keeping house. It is
-the woman without a husband to support her, the woman who has no home
-but such as she makes for herself by her own efforts, who is forcing a
-reluctant masculine generation to realize that she is something more
-than the breeding factor of the race. By her very existence she is
-altering the male conception of her sex.
-
-According to latter-day notions, to speak in praise of celibacy in
-man or in woman is tantamount to committing the crime of high treason
-against the race. Other centuries—some of them with social systems
-quite as scientific as our own—have not been of that way of thinking;
-and one is half inclined to suspect that the modern dislike of the
-celibate has its root in the natural annoyance of an over-sexed and
-mentally lax generation at receiving ocular demonstration of the fact
-that the animal passions can be kept under control. It saves such
-a lot of trouble to assume at once that they cannot be kept under
-control; so, in place of the priest, we have the medicine man, whose
-business it is to make pathological excuses for original sin. Myself
-I have a good deal of respect for the celibate; not because he has no
-children, but because he is capable of self-control—which is a thing
-respectable in itself.
-
-At the same time, I do not advocate celibacy except for persons whom it
-suits; but I do not see why persons whom it does suit should be ashamed
-of acknowledging the fact. I am inclined to think that they are more
-numerous than is commonly supposed, and I will admit frankly that I am
-exceedingly glad that it seems, in these latter days, to suit so many
-women. I am glad, not because the single life appears to me essentially
-better than the married, but because I believe that the conditions of
-marriage, as they affect women, can only be improved by the women who
-do without marriage—and do without it gladly. Other generations have
-realized that particular duties could best be performed by persons
-without engrossing domestic interests; and I believe that the wives
-and mothers of this generation require the aid of women unhampered by
-such interests—women who will eventually raise the value of the wife
-and mother in the eyes of the husband and father by making it clear
-to him that she did not enter the married state solely because there
-was nothing else for her to do, and that his child was not born simply
-because its mother had no other way of earning a living. There are
-women married every day, there are children born every day, for no
-better reasons than these.
-
-
-
-
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-
-
-And the husband and father? What does he stand to gain or lose by that
-gradual readjustment of the conditions inside the home which must
-inevitably follow on the improvement of woman’s position outside the
-home, the recognition of her right to an alternative career and the
-consequent discovery that she can be put to other uses than sexual
-attraction and maternity? How will he be affected by the fact that
-marriage has become a voluntary trade?
-
-So far as one can see, he stands to lose something of his comfortable
-pride in his sex, his aristocratic pleasure in the accident of his
-birth, his aristocratic consciousness that deference is due to him
-merely because he was born in the masculine purple. The woman who has
-established her claim to humanity will no longer submit herself to
-the law of imposed stupidity; so the belief in her inherent idiocy
-will have to go, along with the belief in his own inherent wisdom.
-No longer will he take his daily enjoyment in despising the wife of
-his bosom—because nature has decreed that she shall be the wife of
-his bosom and not the husband of some one else’s. There will be a
-readjustment of the wage-scale, too—a readjustment of the conditions
-of labour. With better conditions available outside the home, the
-wife and mother—no longer under the impression that it is a sin to
-think and a shame to be single—will decline to work inside the home
-for a wage that can go no lower, will decline to take all the dirty,
-monotonous and unpleasant work merely because her husband prefers to
-get out of it. She will agree that it is quite natural that he should
-dislike such dirty, monotonous or unpleasant toil; but she will point
-out to him that it is also quite natural that she should dislike it.
-And one imagines that they will come to a compromise. So far, under
-a non-compulsory marriage system, he would stand to lose; but on the
-other hand he would stand to gain—greatly.
-
-He could be reasonably sure that his wife married him because she
-wanted to marry him, not because no other trade was open to her, not
-because she was afraid of being jeered and sneered at as an old maid.
-That in itself would be an advantage substantial enough to outweigh
-some loss of sex dignity. For it would be only his sense of sex dignity
-that would be impaired; his sense of personal dignity would be enhanced
-by the knowledge that he was a matter not of necessity but of choice.
-His wife’s attitude towards him would be a good deal less complimentary
-to his class, but a good deal more complimentary to himself. The
-attitude of the girl who would “marry any one to get out of this” is by
-no means complimentary to her future husband.
-
-The fact that, under a voluntary system of marriage, he would have to
-pay, either in money or some equivalent of money, for work which he now
-gets done for nothing—and despises accordingly—would also bring with
-it a compensatory advantage. Woman’s work in the home is often enough
-inefficient simply because it is sweated; there is a point at which
-cheap labour tends to become inefficient, and therefore the reverse
-of cheap; and that point appears to have been reached in a good many
-existing homes.
-
-There is, it seems to me, another respect in which man, as well as
-woman, would eventually be the gainer by the recognition of woman’s
-right to humanity on her own account. The custom of regarding one
-half of the race as sent into the world to excite desire in the other
-half does not appear to be of real advantage to either moiety, in
-that it has produced the over-sexed man and the over-sexed woman, the
-attitude of mind which sneers at self-control. Such an attitude the
-establishment of marriage for woman upon a purely voluntary basis ought
-to go far to correct; since it is hardly conceivable that women, who
-have other careers open to them and by whom ignorance is no longer
-esteemed as a merit, will consent to run quite unnecessary risks from
-which their unmarried sisters are exempt. When the intending wife and
-mother no longer considers it her duty to be innocent and complacent,
-the intending husband and father will learn, from sheer necessity,
-to see more virtue in self-restraint. With results beneficial to the
-race—and incidentally to himself. Humanity would seem to have paid
-rather a heavy price for the feminine habit of turning a blind eye to
-evil which it dignifies by the name of innocence.
-
-I have sufficient faith in my brethren to be in no wise alarmed
-by dismal prophecies of their rapid moral deterioration when our
-helplessness and general silliness no longer make a pathetic appeal
-to their sense of pity and authority. No doubt the consciousness of
-superiority is favourable to the cultivation of certain virtues—the
-virtues of the patron; just as the consciousness of inferiority is
-favourable to the cultivation of certain other virtues—the virtues of
-the patronized. But I will not do my brother the injustice of believing
-that the virtues of the patron are the only ones he possesses; on the
-contrary, I have found him to be possessed of many others, have seen
-him just to an equal, courteous and considerate to those whom he had
-no reason to pity or despise. When the ordinary man and the ordinary
-wife no longer stand towards each other in the attitude of patron and
-patronized the virtues of both will need overhauling—that is all.
-
-Nor does one see how the advancement of marriage to the position of a
-voluntary trade can work for anything but good upon the children born
-of marriage. Motherhood can be sacred only when it is voluntary, when
-the child is desired by a woman who feels herself fit to bear and to
-rear it; the child who is born because of his mother’s inability to
-earn her bread by any trade but marriage, because of his mother’s fear
-of the social disgrace of spinsterhood, has no real place in the world.
-He comes into it simply because the woman who gives him life was less
-capable or less courageous than her sisters; and it is not for such
-reasons that a man should be born.
-
-And I fail to see that a future generation will be in any way injured
-because the mothers of that generation are no longer required to please
-their husbands by stunting and narrowing such brains as they were
-born with, because ignorance and silliness are no longer considered
-essential qualifications for the duties of wifehood and motherhood. The
-recognition of woman’s complete humanity, apart from husband or lover,
-must mean inevitably the recognition of her right to develop every side
-of that humanity, the mental and moral as well as the physical and
-sexual; and inevitably and insensibly the old aristocratic masculine
-cruelty which, because she was an inferior, imposed stupidity upon her
-and made lack of intelligence a preliminary condition of motherhood,
-will become a thing of the past. Nor will a man be less fitted to fight
-the battle of life with honour and advantage to himself, because he was
-not born the son of a fool.
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-The male half of creation is still apt to talk (if not quite so
-confidently as of yore) as if the instinct and desire for maternity
-were the one overpowering factor in our lives. It may be so as regards
-the majority of us, though the shrinkage of the birth-rate in so far as
-it is attributable to women would seem to point the other way; but as
-I have shown it is impossible to be certain on the point until other
-instincts and desires have been given fair play. Under a voluntary
-system of marriage they would be given fair play; in a world where a
-woman might make what she would of her own life, might interest herself
-in what seemed good to her, she would hardly bear a child unless she
-desired to bear it. That is to say she would bear a child not just
-because it was the right thing for her to do—since there would be a
-great many other right things for her to do—but because the maternal
-instinct was so strong in her that it overpowered other interests,
-desires or ambitions, because she felt in her the longing to give birth
-to a son of whom she had need. And such a son would come into a world
-where his place was made ready for him; being welcome, and a hundred
-times welcome, because he was loved before he was conceived.
-
-Nor does one imagine that such a son, when he grew of an age to
-understand, would think the less of his mother because he knew that
-he was no accident in her life, but a choice; because he learned that
-his birth was something more than a necessary and inevitable incident
-in her compulsory trade. One does not imagine that he would reverence
-her the less because he saw in her not only the breeding factor in
-the family, but a being in all respects as human as himself, who had
-suffered for him and suffered of her own free will; nor that he would
-be less grateful to her because she, having the unquestioned right to
-hold life from him, had chosen instead to give it.
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-<li><a href="#IX">IX</a></li>
-<li><a href="#X">X</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XI">XI</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XII">XII</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XIII">XIII</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XIV">XIV</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XV">XV</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XVI">XVI</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XVII">XVII</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XVIII">XVIII</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XIX">XIX</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XX">XX</a></li>
-<li><a href="#XXI">XXI</a></li></ul>
-</div>
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-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-
-
-<h1>
-Marriage as a Trade</h1>
-
-<p class="center space-below"><small>BY</small><br />
-
-CICELY HAMILTON<br />
-
-<span class="xs">AUTHOR OF “DIANA OF DOBSON’S”</span></p>
-
-<div class="figcenter" >
-<img src="images/colphon.jpg" alt="Colophon" />
-</div>
-
-<p class="center small space-above">NEW YORK<br />
-MOFFAT, YARD AND COMPANY<br />
-1909
-</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-
-
-
-<p class="center space-above">
-<span class="xs"><span class="smcap">Copyright</span>, 1909, <span class="smcap">by</span></span>
-
-<small>MOFFAT, YARD AND COMPANY<br />
-
-New York<br />
-
-<i>All Rights Reserved</i></small></p>
-
-<p class="center space-above xs">
-THE QUINN &amp; BODEN CO. PRESS<br />
-RAHWAY, N. J., U. S. A.
-</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_v">v</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="PREFACE">PREFACE</h2>
-
-
-<p>The only excuse for this book is the lack of
-books on the subject with which it deals&mdash;the
-trade aspect of marriage. That is to say, wifehood
-and motherhood considered as a means of
-livelihood for women.</p>
-
-<p>I shall not deny for an instant that there are
-aspects of matrimony other than the trade
-aspect; but upon these there is no lack of a very
-plentiful literature&mdash;the love of man and woman
-has been written about since humanity acquired
-the art of writing.</p>
-
-<p>The love of man and woman is, no doubt, a
-thing of infinite importance; but also of infinite
-importance is the manner in which woman earns
-her bread and the economic conditions under
-which she enters the family and propagates the
-race. Thus an inquiry into the circumstances
-under which the wife and mother plies her trade
-seems to me quite as necessary and justifiable
-as an inquiry into the conditions of other and<span class="pagenum" id="Page_vi">vi</span>
-less important industries&mdash;such as mining or
-cotton-spinning. It will not be disputed that
-the manner in which a human being earns his
-livelihood tends to mould and influence his
-character&mdash;to warp or to improve it. The man
-who works amidst brutalizing surroundings is
-apt to become brutal; the man from whom intelligence
-is demanded is apt to exercise it.
-Particular trades tend to develop particular
-types; the boy who becomes a soldier will not
-turn out in all respects the man he would have
-been had he decided to enter a stockbroker’s
-office. In the same way the trade of marriage
-tends to produce its own particular type, and
-my contention is that woman, as we know her,
-is largely the product of the conditions imposed
-upon her by her staple industry.</p>
-
-<p>I am not of those who are entirely satisfied
-with woman as she is; on the contrary, I consider
-that we are greatly in need of improvement,
-mental, physical and moral. And it is
-because I desire such improvement&mdash;not only
-in our own interests but in that of the race in
-general&mdash;that I desire to see an alteration in the
-conditions of our staple industry. I have no<span class="pagenum" id="Page_vii">vii</span>
-intention of attacking the institution of marriage
-in itself&mdash;the life companionship of man and
-woman; I merely wish to point out that there are
-certain grave disadvantages attaching to that institution
-as it exists to-day. These disadvantages
-I believe to be largely unnecessary and <a id="avoidable"></a>avoidable;
-but at present they are very real and the
-results produced by them are anything but favourable
-to the mental, physical and moral development
-of women.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_1">1</span></p>
-
-
-<p class="half-title">MARRIAGE AS A TRADE</p>
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="I">I</h2>
-
-
-<p>The sense of curiosity is, as a rule, aroused
-in us only by the unfamiliar and the unexpected.
-What custom and long usage
-has made familiar we do not trouble to inquire
-into but accept without comment or investigation;
-confusing the actual with the inevitable,
-and deciding, slothfully enough, that the thing
-that is, is likewise the thing that was and is to
-be. In nothing is this inert and slothful attitude
-of mind more marked than in the common, unquestioning
-acceptance of the illogical and unsatisfactory
-position occupied by women. And
-it is the prevalence of that attitude of mind which
-is the only justification for a book which purports
-to be nothing more than the attempt of
-an unscientific woman to explain, honestly and
-as far as her limitations permit, the why and
-wherefore of some of the disadvantages under<span class="pagenum" id="Page_2">2</span>
-which she and her sisters exist&mdash;the reason why
-their place in the world into which they were
-born is often so desperately and unnecessarily
-uncomfortable.</p>
-
-<p>I had better, at the outset, define the word
-“woman” as I understand and use it, since it is
-apt to convey two distinct and differing impressions,
-according to the sex of the hearer. My
-conception of woman is inevitably the feminine
-conception; a thing so entirely unlike the masculine
-conception of woman that it is eminently
-needful to define the term and make my meaning
-clear; lest, when I speak of woman in my
-own tongue, my reader, being male, translate
-the expression, with confusion as the result.</p>
-
-<p>By a woman, then, I understand an individual
-human being whose life is her own concern;
-whose worth, in my eyes (worth being an entirely
-personal matter) is in no way advanced or
-detracted from by the accident of marriage;
-who does not rise in my estimation by reason
-of a purely physical capacity for bearing children,
-or sink in my estimation through a lack
-of that capacity. I am quite aware, of course,
-that her life, in many cases, will have been<span class="pagenum" id="Page_3">3</span>
-moulded to a great extent by the responsibilities
-of marriage and the care of children; just as I
-am aware that the lives of most of the men with
-whom I am acquainted have been moulded to
-a great extent by the trade or profession by
-which they earn their bread. But my judgment
-of her and appreciation of her are a personal
-judgment and appreciation, having nothing to
-do with her actual or potential relations, sexual
-or maternal, with other people. In short, I
-never think of her either as a wife or as a
-mother&mdash;I separate the woman from her attributes.
-To me she is an entity in herself; and
-if, on meeting her for the first time, I inquire
-whether or no she is married, it is only because
-I wish to know whether I am to address her as
-Mrs. or Miss.</p>
-
-<p>That, frankly and as nearly as I can define
-it, is my attitude towards my own sex; an attitude
-which, it is almost needless to say, I should not
-insist upon if I did not believe that it was fairly
-typical and that the majority of women, if
-they analyzed their feelings on the subject,
-would find that they regarded each other in
-much the same way.</p>
-
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_4">4</span></p>
-
-<p>It is hardly necessary to point out that the
-mental attitude of the average man towards
-woman is something quite different from this.
-It is a mental attitude reminding one of that of
-the bewildered person who could not see the
-wood for the trees. To him the accidental factor
-in woman’s life is the all-important and his
-conception of her has never got beyond her
-attributes&mdash;and certain only of these. As far
-as I can make out, he looks upon her as something
-having a definite and necessary physical
-relation to man; without that definite and
-necessary relation she is, as the cant phrase
-goes “incomplete.” That is to say, she is
-not woman at all&mdash;until man has made her
-so. Until the moment when he takes her in
-hand she is merely the raw material of womanhood&mdash;the
-undeveloped and unfinished
-article.</p>
-
-<p>Without sharing in the smallest degree this
-estimate of her own destiny, any fair-minded
-woman must admit its advantages from the point
-of view of the male&mdash;must sympathize with the
-pleasurable sense of importance, creative power,
-even of artistry, which such a conviction must<span class="pagenum" id="Page_5">5</span>
-impart. To take the imperfect and undeveloped
-creature and, with a kiss upon her lips
-and a ring upon her finger, to make of her a
-woman, perfect and complete&mdash;surely a prerogative
-almost divine in its magnificence, most
-admirable, most enviable!</p>
-
-<p>It is this consciousness, expressed or unexpressed,
-(frequently the former) of his own
-supreme importance in her destiny that colours
-every thought and action of man towards
-woman. Having assumed that she is incomplete
-without him, he draws the quite permissible
-conclusion that she exists only for the purpose
-of attaining to completeness through him&mdash;and
-that where she does not so attain to it, the
-unfortunate creature is, for all practical purposes,
-non-existent. To him womanhood is
-summed up in one of its attributes&mdash;wifehood,
-or its unlegalized equivalent. Language bears
-the stamp of the idea that woman is a wife,
-actually, or in embryo. To most men&mdash;perhaps
-to all&mdash;the girl is some man’s wife that is to
-be; the married woman some man’s wife that
-is; the widow some man’s wife that was; the
-spinster some man’s wife that should have been<span class="pagenum" id="Page_6">6</span>
-&mdash;a damaged article, unfit for use, unsuitable.
-Therefore a negligible quantity.</p>
-
-<p>I have convinced myself, by personal observation
-and inquiry, that my description of the
-male attitude in this respect is in no way exaggerated.
-It has, for instance, fallen to my
-lot, over and over again, to discuss with men&mdash;most
-of them distinctly above the average in
-intelligence&mdash;questions affecting the welfare and
-conditions of women. And over and over
-again, after listening to their views for five
-minutes or so, I have broken in upon them and
-pulled them up with the remark that they were
-narrowing down the subject under discussion&mdash;that
-what they were considering was not the
-claim of women in general, but the claim of a
-particular class&mdash;the class of wives and mothers.
-I may add that the remark has invariably been
-received with an expression of extreme astonishment.
-And is it not on record that Henley
-once dashed across a manuscript the terse pronouncement,
-“I take no interest in childless
-women”? Comprehensive; and indicating a
-confusion in the author’s mind between the terms
-woman and breeding-machine. Did it occur to<span class="pagenum" id="Page_7">7</span>
-him, I wonder, that the poor objects of his
-scorn might venture to take some interest in
-themselves? Probably he did not credit them
-with so much presumption.</p>
-
-<p>The above has, I hope, explained in how
-far my idea of woman differs from male ideas
-on the same subject and has also made it clear
-that I do not look upon women as persons whose
-destiny it is to be married. On the contrary, I
-hold, and hold very strongly, that the narrowing
-down of woman’s hopes and ambitions to the
-sole pursuit and sphere of marriage is one of
-the principal causes of the various disabilities,
-economic and otherwise, under which she labours
-to-day. And I hold, also, that this concentration
-of all her hopes and ambitions on the one
-object was, to a great extent, the result of artificial
-pressure, of unsound economic and social
-conditions&mdash;conditions which forced her energy
-into one channel, by the simple expedient of
-depriving it of every other outlet, and made
-marriage practically compulsory.</p>
-
-<p>To say the least of it, marriage is no more
-essentially necessary to woman than to man&mdash;one
-would imagine that it was rather the other<span class="pagenum" id="Page_8">8</span>
-way about. There are a good many drawbacks
-attached to the fulfilment of a woman’s destiny;
-in an unfettered state of existence it is possible
-that they might weigh more heavily with her
-than they can do at present&mdash;being balanced,
-and more than balanced, by artificial means. I
-am inclined to think that they would. The institution
-of marriage by capture, for instance,
-has puzzled many inquirers into the habits of
-primitive man. It is often, I believe, regarded
-as symbolic; but why should it not point to a
-real reluctance to be reduced to permanent servitude
-on the part of primitive woman&mdash;a reluctance
-comprehensible enough, since, primitive
-woman’s wants being few and easily supplied
-by herself, there was no need for her to exchange
-possession of her person for the means
-of existence?</p>
-
-<p>It is Nietzsche, if I remember rightly, who
-has delivered himself of the momentous opinion
-that everything in woman is a riddle, and that
-the answer to the riddle is child-bearing. Child-bearing
-certainly explains some qualities in
-woman&mdash;for instance, her comparative fastidiousness
-in sexual relations&mdash;but not all. If it<span class="pagenum" id="Page_9">9</span>
-did, there would be no riddle&mdash;yet Nietzsche
-admits that one exists. Nor is he alone in his
-estimate of the “mysterious” nature of woman;
-her unfathomable and erratic character, her
-peculiar aptitude for appearing “uncertain, coy,
-and hard to please,” has been insisted upon time
-after time&mdash;insisted upon alike as a charm and
-a deficiency. A charm because of its unexpected,
-a deficiency because of its unreasonable, quality.
-Woman, in short, is not only a wife and mother,
-but a thoroughly incomprehensible wife and
-mother.</p>
-
-<p>Now it seems to me that a very simple explanation
-of this mystery which perpetually
-envelops our conduct and impulses can be found
-in the fact that the fundamental natural laws
-which govern them have never been ascertained
-or honestly sought for. Or rather&mdash;since the
-fundamental natural laws which govern us are
-the same large and simple laws which govern
-other animals, man included&mdash;though they have
-been ascertained, the masculine intellect has
-steadfastly and stubbornly refused to admit that
-they can possibly apply to us in the same degree
-as to every other living being. As a substitute<span class="pagenum" id="Page_10">10</span>
-for these laws, he suggests explanations of his
-own&mdash;for the most part flattering to himself.
-He believes, apparently, that we live in a world
-apart, governed by curious customs and regulations
-of our own&mdash;customs and regulations which
-“have no fellow in the universe.” Once the
-first principle of natural law was recognized
-as applying to us, we should cease to be so
-unfathomable, erratic, and unexpected to the
-wiseacres and poets who spend their time in
-judging us by rule of thumb, and expressing
-amazement at the unaccountable and contradictory
-results.</p>
-
-<p>I do not know whether it is essentially impossible
-for man to approach us in the scientific
-spirit, but it has not yet been done. (To approach
-motherhood or marriage in the scientific
-spirit is, of course, not in the least the same
-thing.) His attitude towards us has been by
-turns&mdash;and sometimes all at once&mdash;adoring, contemptuous,
-sentimental, and savage&mdash;anything,
-in short, but open-minded and deductive. The
-result being that different classes, generations,
-and peoples have worked out their separate and
-impressionistic estimates of woman’s meaning in<span class="pagenum" id="Page_11">11</span>
-the scheme of things&mdash;the said estimates frequently
-clashing with those of other classes,
-generations, and people. The Mahometan, for
-instance, after careful observation from his point
-of view, decided that she was flesh without a soul,
-and to be treated accordingly; the troubadour
-seems to have found in her a spiritual incentive
-to aspiration in deed and song. The early
-Fathers of the Church, who were in the habit
-of giving troubled and nervous consideration to
-the subject, denounced her, at spasmodic intervals,
-as sin personified. What the modern man
-understands by woman I have already explained;
-and he further expects his theory to materialize
-and embody itself in a being who combines the
-divergent qualities of an inspiration and a good
-general servant. He is often disappointed.</p>
-
-<p>All these are rule of thumb definitions, based
-on insufficient knowledge and inquiry, which,
-each in its turn, has been accepted, acted upon,
-and found wanting. Each of the generations
-and classes mentioned&mdash;and many more beside&mdash;has
-worked out its own theory of woman’s orbit
-(round man); and has subsequently found itself
-in the position of the painstaking astronomer<span class="pagenum" id="Page_12">12</span>
-who, after having mapped the pathway of a
-newly-discovered heavenly body to his own satisfaction,
-suddenly finds his calculations upset,
-and the heavenly body swerving off through
-space towards some hitherto unexpected centre
-of attraction. The theory of the early Fathers
-was upset before it was enunciated&mdash;for sin
-personified had wept at the foot of the Cross,
-and men adored her for it. The modern angel
-with the cookery-book under her wing has expressed
-an open and pronounced dislike to domestic
-service, and cheerfully discards her wings to
-fight her way into the liberal professions. And
-those who hold fast to the Nietzschean theory
-that motherhood is the secret and justification
-of woman’s existence, must be somewhat bewildered
-by latter-day episcopal lamentations over
-the unwillingness of woman to undergo the pains
-and penalties of childbirth, and by the reported
-intention of an American State Legislature to
-stimulate a declining birth-rate by the payment
-of one dollar for each child born. One feels
-that the strength of an instinct that has, in an
-appreciable number of cases, to be stimulated
-by the offer of four shillings and twopence must<span class="pagenum" id="Page_13">13</span>
-have been somewhat overestimated. No wonder
-woman is a mystery in her unreliability;
-she has broken every law of her existence, and
-does so day by day.</p>
-
-<p>As a matter of fact, the various explanations
-which have been given for woman’s existence
-can be narrowed down to two&mdash;her husband and
-her child. Male humanity has wobbled between
-two convictions&mdash;the one, that she exists
-for the entire benefit of contemporary mankind;
-the other, that she exists for the entire benefit
-of the next generation. The latter is at present
-the favourite. One consideration only male humanity
-has firmly refused to entertain&mdash;that she
-exists in any degree whatsoever for the benefit
-of herself. In consequence, woman is the one
-animal from whom he demands that it shall
-deviate from, and act in defiance of, the first
-law of nature&mdash;self-preservation.</p>
-
-<p>It seems baldly ridiculous, of course, to state
-in so many words that that first and iron law
-applies to women as well as to men, birds, and
-beetles. No one in cold blood or cold ink would
-contradict the obvious statement; but all the
-same, I maintain that I am perfectly justified<span class="pagenum" id="Page_14">14</span>
-in asserting that the average man does mentally
-and unconsciously except the mass of women
-from the workings of that universal law.</p>
-
-<p>To give a simple and familiar instance. Year
-by year there crops up in the daily newspapers
-a grumbling and sometimes acrid correspondence
-on the subject of the incursion of women into
-a paid labour market formerly monopolized by
-their brothers. (The unpaid labour market, of
-course, has always been open to them.) The
-tone taken by the objector is instructive and
-always the same. It is pointed out to us that
-we are working for less than a fair wage; that
-we are taking the bread out of the mouths of
-men; that we are filching the earnings of a
-possible husband and thereby lessening, or totally
-destroying, our chances of matrimony.</p>
-
-<p>The first objection is, of course, legitimate,
-and is shared by the women to whom it applies;
-from the others one can only infer that it is an
-impertinence in a woman to be hungry, and that,
-in the opinion of a large number of persons who
-write to the newspapers, the human female is a
-creature capable of living on air and the hopes
-of a possible husband. The principle that it is<span class="pagenum" id="Page_15">15</span>
-impolite to mention a certain organ of the body
-which requires to be replenished two or three
-times a day is, in the case of a woman, carried
-so far that it is considered impolite of her even
-to possess that organ; and as a substitute for the
-wages wherewith she buys food to fill it, she is
-offered the lifting of a hat and the resignation
-of a seat in a tramcar. She rejects the offer,
-obeys the first law of nature, and is rebuked
-for it&mdash;the human male, bred in the conviction
-that she lives for him alone, standing aghast.
-Some day he will discover that woman does not
-support life only in order to obtain a husband,
-but frequently obtains a husband only in order
-to support life.</p>
-
-<p>The above is, to my mind, a clear and familiar
-instance of the manner in which man is accustomed
-to take for granted our exemption from
-a law from which there is no exemption. It
-matters not whether or no he believes, in so
-many words, that we need not eat in order that
-we may not die; the point is, that he acts as if
-he believed it. (The extreme reluctance of local
-authorities to spend any of the money at their
-disposal on unemployed women is a case in point.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_16">16</span>
-It would be ridiculous to ascribe it to animosity
-towards the women themselves&mdash;it must arise,
-therefore, from a conviction that the need of the
-foodless woman is not so pressing as the need
-of the foodless man.) And it is because I have
-so often come in contact with the state of mind
-that makes such delusions possible, that I have
-thought it necessary to insist on the fact that
-self-preservation is the first law of our being.
-The purpose of race-preservation, which is commonly
-supposed to be the excuse for our existence,
-is, and must be, secondary and derivative;
-it is quite impossible for a woman to bring
-children into the world unless she has first obtained
-the means of supporting her own life.
-How to eat, how to maintain existence, is the
-problem that has confronted woman, as well
-as man, since the ages dawned for her. Other
-needs and desires may come later; but the first
-call of life is for the means of supporting it.</p>
-
-<p>To support life it is necessary to have access
-to the fruits of the earth, either directly&mdash;as in
-the case of the agriculturist&mdash;or indirectly, and
-through a process of exchange as the price of
-work done in other directions. And in this<span class="pagenum" id="Page_17">17</span>
-process of exchange woman, as compared with
-her male fellow-worker, has always been at a
-disadvantage. The latter, even where direct
-access to the earth was denied to him, has usually
-been granted some measure of choice as to the
-manner in which he would pay for the necessities
-the earth produced for him&mdash;that is to say, he
-was permitted to select the trade by which he
-earned his livelihood. From woman, who has
-always been far more completely excluded from
-direct access to the necessities of life, who has
-often been barred, both by law and by custom,
-from the possession of property, one form of
-payment was demanded, and one only. It was
-demanded of her that she should enkindle and
-satisfy the desire of the male, who would thereupon
-admit her to such share of the property he
-possessed or earned as should seem good to him.
-In other words, she exchanged, by the ordinary
-process of barter, possession of her person for
-the means of existence.</p>
-
-<p>Whether such a state of things is natural or
-unnatural I do not pretend to say; but it is, I
-understand, peculiar to women, having no exact
-counterpart amongst the females of other species.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_18">18</span>
-Its existence, at any rate, justifies us in regarding
-marriage as essentially (from the woman’s point
-of view) a commercial or trade undertaking.
-By marriage she earned her bread; and as the
-instinct of self-preservation drove man forth to
-hunt, to till the soil, to dig beneath it&mdash;to
-cultivate his muscles and his brain so that he
-might get the better of nature and his rivals&mdash;so
-brute necessity and the instinct of self-preservation
-in woman urged and enjoined on her the
-cultivation of those narrow and particular qualities
-of mind and body whereby desire might be
-excited and her wage obtained.</p>
-
-<p>A man who was also a poet has thoughtfully
-explained that</p>
-
-<div class="poetry-container"><div class="poetry"><div class="stanza">
-<div class="verse">“Man’s love is of man’s life a thing apart,</div>
-<div class="verse indent2">’Tis woman’s whole existence.”</div>
-</div></div></div>
-
-<p>(It must be very pleasant to be a man and
-to entertain that conviction.) Translated into
-feminine and vulgar prose, the effusion runs
-something like this&mdash;</p>
-
-<p>The housekeeping trade is the only one open
-to us&mdash;so we enter the housekeeping trade in
-order to live. This is not always quite the same<span class="pagenum" id="Page_19">19</span>
-as entering the housekeeping trade in order to
-love.</p>
-
-<p>No one can imagine that it is the same who
-has ever heard one haggard, underpaid girl cry
-to another, in a burst of bitter confidence&mdash;</p>
-
-<p>“I would marry any one, to get out of this.”</p>
-
-<p>Which, if one comes to think of it, is hard
-on “any one.”</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_20">20</span></p>
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="II">II</h2>
-
-
-<p>If I am right in my view that marriage for
-woman has always been not only a trade,
-but a trade that is practically compulsory, I
-have at the same time furnished an explanation
-of the reason why women, as a rule, are so
-much less romantic than men where sexual attraction
-is concerned. Where the man can be single-hearted,
-the woman necessarily is double-motived.
-It is, of course, the element of commerce
-and compulsion that accounts for this difference
-of attitude; an impulse that may have to be discouraged,
-nurtured or simulated to order&mdash;that
-is, at any rate, expected, for commercial or social
-reasons to put in an appearance as a matter of
-course and at the right and proper moment&mdash;can
-never have the same vigor, energy and beauty
-as an impulse that is unfettered and unforced.</p>
-
-<p>More than once in my life I have been struck
-by the beauty of a man’s honest conception and<span class="pagenum" id="Page_21">21</span>
-ideal of love and marriage&mdash;a conception and
-ideal which one comes across in unexpected and
-unlikely persons and which is by no means confined
-to those whose years are still few in number
-and whose hearts are still hot within them.
-Only a few weeks ago I heard an elderly gentleman
-of scientific attainments talk something
-which, but for its sincerity, would have seemed
-to me sheer sentimental balderdash concerning
-the relations of men and women. And from
-other equally respectable gentlemen I have heard
-opinions that were beautiful as well as honest
-on the relations of the sexes, of a kind that no
-woman, being alone with another woman, would
-ever venture to utter. For we see the thing
-differently. I am not so foolish as to imagine
-that theory and practice in this or any other
-matter are in the habit of walking hand in hand;
-I know that for men the word love has two
-different meanings, and therefore I should be
-sorry to have to affirm on oath that the various
-gentlemen who have, at various times, favoured
-me with their views on the marriage question
-have one and all lived up to their convictions;
-but at least their conception of the love and duty<span class="pagenum" id="Page_22">22</span>
-owed by man and woman to each other was a
-high one, honourable, not wanting in reverence,
-not wanting in romance. Over and over again
-I have heard women unreticent enough upon the
-same subject; but, when they spoke their hearts,
-the picturesque touch&mdash;the flash and fire of
-romance&mdash;was never nearly so strong and sometimes
-altogether absent.</p>
-
-<p>And I have never seen love&mdash;the sheer passionate
-and personal delight in and worship of
-a being of the other sex&mdash;so vividly and uncontrollably
-expressed on the face of a woman as
-on the face of a man. I have with me, as one
-of the things not to be forgotten, the memory
-of a cheap foreign hotel where, two or three
-years back, a little Cockney clerk was making
-holiday in worshipful attendance on the girl
-he was engaged to. At table I used to watch
-him, being very sure that he had no eyes for
-me; and once or twice I had the impulse that
-I should like to speak to him and thank him
-for what he had shown me. I have seen women
-in love time after time, but none in whom the
-fire burned as it burned in him&mdash;consumedly.
-I used to hope his Cockney goddess would have<span class="pagenum" id="Page_23">23</span>
-understanding at least to reverence the holy thing
-that passed the love of women....</p>
-
-<p>How should it be otherwise&mdash;this difference
-in the attitude of man and woman in their relations
-to each other? To make them see and
-feel more alike in the matter, the conditions
-under which they live and bargain must be made
-more alike. With even the average man love
-and marriage may be something of a high adventure,
-entered upon whole-heartedly and because
-he so desires. With the average woman
-it is not a high adventure&mdash;except in so far as
-adventure means risk&mdash;but a destiny or necessity.
-If not a monetary necessity, then a social.
-(How many children, I wonder, are born each
-year merely because their mothers were afraid
-of being called old maids? One can imagine
-no more inadequate reason for bringing a human
-being into the world.) The fact that her destiny,
-when he arrives, may be all that her heart
-desires and deserves does not prevent him from
-being the thing that, from her earliest years,
-she had, for quite other reasons, regarded as
-inevitable. Quite consciously and from childhood
-the “not impossible he” is looked upon,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_24">24</span>
-not simply as an end desirable in himself, but
-as a means of subsistence. The marriageable
-man may seek his elective affinity until he find
-her; the task of the marriageable woman is
-infinitely more complicated, since her elective
-affinity has usually to be combined with her
-bread and butter. The two do not always grow
-in the same place.</p>
-
-<p>What is the real, natural and unbiased attitude
-of woman towards love and marriage, it is
-perfectly impossible for even a woman to guess
-at under present conditions, and it will continue
-to be impossible for just so long as the natural
-instincts of her sex are inextricably interwoven
-with, thwarted and deflected by, commercial
-considerations. When&mdash;if ever&mdash;the day of
-woman’s complete social and economic independence
-dawns upon her, when she finds herself free
-and upright in a new world where no artificial
-pressure is brought to bear upon her natural inclinations
-or disinclinations, then, and then only,
-will it be possible to untwist a tangled skein and
-judge to what extent and what precise degree she
-is swayed by those impulses, sexual and maternal,
-which are now, to the exclusion of every other<span class="pagenum" id="Page_25">25</span>
-factor, presumed to dominate her existence.
-And not only to dominate, but to justify it. (A
-presumption, by the way, which seems to ignore
-the fact&mdash;incompatible, surely, with the theory
-of “incompleteness”&mdash;that celibacy irks the
-woman less than it does the man.)</p>
-
-<p>What, one wonders, would be the immediate
-result if the day of independence and freedom
-from old restrictions were to dawn suddenly
-and at once? Would it be to produce, at first
-and for a time, a rapid growth amongst all
-classes of women of that indifference to, and
-almost scorn of, marriage which is so marked a
-characteristic of the&mdash;alas, small&mdash;class who
-can support themselves in comfort by work which
-is congenial to them? Perhaps&mdash;for a time,
-until the revulsion was over and things righted
-themselves. (I realize, of course, that it is
-quite impossible for a male reader to accept the
-assertion that any one woman, much less any
-class of women, however small its numbers, can
-be indifferent to or scornful of marriage&mdash;which
-would be tantamount to admitting that she could
-be indifferent to, or scornful of, himself.&mdash;What
-follows, therefore, can only appear to him as<span class="pagenum" id="Page_26">26</span>
-an ineffectual attempt on the part of an embittered
-spinster to explain that the grapes are
-sour; and he is courteously requested to skip
-to the end of the chapter. It would be lost
-labour on my part to seek to disturb his deep-rooted
-conviction that all women who earn
-decent incomes in intelligent and interesting ways
-are too facially unpleasant to be placed at the
-head of a dinner-table. I shall not attempt to
-disturb that conviction; I make it a rule never
-to attempt the impossible.) This new-born attitude
-of open indifference and contempt, while
-perhaps appearing strained and unnatural, is,
-it seems to me, a natural one enough for women
-whose daily lives have falsified every tradition
-in which they were born and bred.</p>
-
-<p>For the tradition handed down from generations
-to those girl children who now are women
-grown was, with exceptions few and far between,
-the one tradition of marriage&mdash;marriage as inevitable
-as lessons and far more inevitable than
-death. Ordering dinner and keeping house:
-that we knew well, and from our babyhood was
-all the future had to give to us. For the boys
-there would be other things; wherefore our small<span class="pagenum" id="Page_27">27</span>
-hearts bore a secret grudge against Almighty
-God that He had not made us boys&mdash;since their
-long thoughts were our long thoughts, and together
-we wallowed in cannibals and waxed
-clamorous over engines. For them, being boys,
-there might be cannibals and engines in the world
-beyond; but for us&mdash;oh, the flat sameness of it!&mdash;was
-nothing but a husband, ordering dinner
-and keeping house. Therefore we dreamed of
-a settler for a husband, and of assisting him to
-shoot savages with a double-barrelled gun. So
-might the round of household duties be varied
-and most pleasantly enlivened.</p>
-
-<p>Perhaps it was the stolid companionship of
-the doll, perhaps the constant repetition of the
-formula “when you have children of your
-own” that precluded any idea of shirking the
-husband and tackling the savage off our own
-bat. For I cannot remember that we ever
-shirked him. We selected his profession with
-an eye to our own interests; he was at various
-times a missionary, a sailor and a circus-rider;
-but from the first we recognized that he was
-unavoidable. We planned our lives and knew
-that he was lurking vaguely in the background<span class="pagenum" id="Page_28">28</span>
-to upset our best-laid calculations. We were
-still very young, I think, when we realized that
-his shadowy personality was an actual, active
-factor in our lives; that it was because of him
-and his surmised desires that our turbulent inclinations
-were thwarted and compressed into
-narrow channels, and that we were tamed and
-curbed as the boys were never tamed and curbed.
-When that which the boys might do with impunity
-was forbidden to us as a sin of the first
-water, we knew that it was because he would
-not like it. The thought was not so consciously
-expressed, perhaps; but it was there and lived
-with us. So we grew up under his influence,
-presuming his wishes, and we learned, because
-of him, to say, “I can’t,” where our brothers
-said, “I can,” and to believe, as we had been
-taught, that all things, save a very few (such
-as ordering dinner and keeping house) were not
-for us because we were not men. (Yet we had
-our long, long thoughts&mdash;we had them, too!)
-That was one thing that he desired we should
-believe; and another was that only through him
-could we attain to satisfaction and achievement;
-that our every desire that was not centred upon<span class="pagenum" id="Page_29">29</span>
-him and upon his children would be barren and
-bitter as Dead Sea ashes in the mouth. We believed
-that for a long time....</p>
-
-<p>And he was certain to come: the only question
-was, when? When he came we should fall in
-love with him, of course&mdash;and he would kiss
-us&mdash;and there would be a wedding....</p>
-
-<p>Some of us&mdash;and those not a few&mdash;started
-life equipped for it after this fashion; creatures
-of circumstance who waited to be fallen in love
-with. That was indeed all; we stood and waited&mdash;on
-approval. And then came life itself and
-rent our mother’s theories to tatters. For we
-discovered&mdash;those of us, that is, who were driven
-out to work that we might eat&mdash;we discovered
-very swiftly that what we had been told was
-the impossible was the thing we had to do.
-That and no other. So we accomplished it, in
-fear and trembling, only because we had to; and
-with that first achievement of the impossible
-the horizon widened with a rush, and the implanted,
-hampering faith in our own poor parasitic
-uselessness began to wither at the root
-and die. We had learned to say, “I can.”
-And as we went on, at first with fear and<span class="pagenum" id="Page_30">30</span>
-then with joy, from impossibility to impossibility,
-we looked upon the world with new
-eyes.</p>
-
-<p>To no man, I think, can the world be quite
-as wonderful as it is to the woman now alive
-who has fought free. Those who come after
-her will enter by right of birth upon what she
-attains by right of conquest; therefore, neither
-to them will it be the same. The things that
-to her brother are common and handed down,
-to her are new possessions, treasured because
-she herself has won them and no other for her.
-It may well be that she attaches undue importance
-to these; it could scarcely be otherwise.
-Her traditions have fallen away from her, her
-standard of values is gone. The old gods have
-passed away from her, and as yet the new gods
-have spoken with no very certain voice. The
-world to her is in the experimental stage. She
-grew to womanhood weighed down by the conviction
-that life held only one thing for her;
-and she stretches out her hands to find that it
-holds many. She grew to womanhood weighed
-down by the conviction that her place in the
-scheme of things was the place of a parasite;<span class="pagenum" id="Page_31">31</span>
-and she knows (for necessity has taught her)
-that she has feet which need no support. She
-is young in the enjoyment of her new powers
-and has a pleasure that is childish in the use of
-them. By force of circumstances her faith has
-been wrested from her and the articles of her
-new creed have yet to be tested by experience&mdash;her
-own. Her sphere&mdash;whatever it may prove
-to be&mdash;no one but herself can define for her.
-Authority to her is a broken reed. Has she
-not heard and read solemn disquisitions by men
-of science on the essential limitations of woman’s
-nature and the consequent impossibility of activity
-in this or that direction?&mdash;knowing, all the
-while, that what they swear to her she cannot
-do she does, is doing day by day!</p>
-
-<p>Some day, no doubt, the pendulum will adjust
-itself and swing true; a generation brought up
-to a wider horizon as a matter of course will
-look around it with undazzled eyes and set to
-work to reconstruct the fundamental from the
-ruins of what was once esteemed so. But in the
-meantime the new is&mdash;new; the independence
-that was to be as Dead Sea ashes in our mouth
-tastes very sweet indeed; and the unsheltered<span class="pagenum" id="Page_32">32</span>
-life that we were taught to shrink from means
-the fighting of a good fight....</p>
-
-<p>Selfishness, perhaps&mdash;all selfishness&mdash;this
-pleasure in ourselves and in the late growth of
-that which our training had denied us. But
-then, from our point of view, the sin and crime
-of woman in the past has been a selflessness
-which was ignoble because involuntary. Our
-creed may be vague as yet, but one article thereof
-is fixed: there is no merit in a sacrifice which is
-compulsory, no virtue in a gift which is not a
-gift but a tribute.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_33">33</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="III">III</h2>
-
-
-<p>I have insisted so strongly upon what I
-believe to be the attitude towards life of
-the independent woman mainly with the
-object of proving my assertion that there are
-other faculties in our nature besides those which
-have hitherto been forced under a hothouse
-system of cultivation&mdash;sex and motherhood. It
-is quite possible that a woman thinking, feeling
-and living in a manner I have described may be
-dubbed unsexed; but even if she be what is
-technically termed unsexed, it does not follow
-therefore that she is either unnatural or unwomanly.
-Sex is only one of the ingredients of
-the natural woman&mdash;an ingredient which has
-assumed undue and exaggerated proportions in
-her life owing to the fact that it has for many
-generations furnished her with the means of
-livelihood.</p>
-
-<p>In sexual matters it would appear that the
-whole trend and tendency of man’s relations to<span class="pagenum" id="Page_34">34</span>
-woman has been to make refusal impossible and
-to cut off every avenue of escape from the gratification
-of his desire. His motive in concentrating
-all her energy upon the trade of marriage
-was to deny it any other outlet. The original
-motive was doubtless strengthened, as time went
-on, by an objection to allowing her to come into
-economic competition with him; but this was
-probably a secondary or derivative cause of his
-persistent refusal to allow her new spheres of
-activity, having its primary root in the consciousness
-that economic independence would bring
-with it the power of refusal.</p>
-
-<p>The uncompromising and rather brutal attitude
-which man has consistently adopted towards
-the spinster is, to my mind, a confirmation of this
-theory. (The corresponding attitude of the
-married woman towards her unmarried sister I
-take to be merely servile and imitative.) It was
-not only that the creature was chaste and therefore
-inhuman. That would have justified neglect
-and contempt on his part, but not the active
-dislike he always appears to have entertained
-for her. That active and somewhat savage dislike
-must have had its origin in the consciousness<span class="pagenum" id="Page_35">35</span>
-that the perpetual virgin was a witness, however
-reluctantly, to the unpalatable fact that sexual
-intercourse was not for every woman an absolute
-necessity; and this uneasy consciousness on his
-part accounts for the systematic manner in which
-he placed the spinster outside the pale of a
-chivalry, upon which, from her unprotected position,
-one would have expected her to have an
-especial claim.</p>
-
-<p>If it be granted that marriage is, as I have
-called it, essentially a trade on the part of woman&mdash;the
-exchange of her person for the means of
-subsistence&mdash;it is legitimate to inquire into the
-manner in which that trade is carried on, and
-to compare the position of the worker in the
-matrimonial with the position of the worker in
-any other market. Which brings us at once to
-the fact&mdash;arising from the compulsory nature
-of the profession&mdash;that it is carried on under
-disadvantages unknown and unfelt by those who
-earn their living by other methods. For the
-regulations governing compulsory service&mdash;the
-institution of slavery and the like&mdash;are always
-framed, not in the interests of the worker, but
-in the interests of those who impose his work<span class="pagenum" id="Page_36">36</span>
-upon him. The regulations governing exchange
-and barter in the marriage market, therefore,
-are necessarily framed in the interests of the
-employer&mdash;the male.</p>
-
-<p>The position is this. Marriage, with its accompaniments
-and consequences&mdash;the ordering
-of a man’s house, the bearing and rearing of
-his children&mdash;has, by the long consent of ages,
-been established as practically the only means
-whereby woman, with honesty and honour, shall
-earn her daily bread. Her every attempt to
-enter any other profession has been greeted at
-first with scorn and opposition; her sole outlook
-was to be dependence upon man. Yet the one
-trade to which she is destined, the one means of
-earning her bread to which she is confined, she
-may not openly profess. No other worker
-stands on the same footing. The man who has
-his bread to earn, with hands, or brains, or
-tools, goes out to seek for the work to which
-he is trained; his livelihood depending on it, he
-offers his skill and services without shame or
-thought of reproach. But with woman it is not
-so; she is expected to express unwillingness for
-the very work for which she has been taught<span class="pagenum" id="Page_37">37</span>
-and trained. She has been brought up in the
-belief that her profession is marriage and
-motherhood; yet though poverty may be pressing
-upon her&mdash;though she may be faced with
-actual lack of the necessities of life&mdash;she must
-not openly express her desire to enter that
-profession, and earn her bread in the only
-way for which she is fitted. She must stand
-aside and wait&mdash;indefinitely; and attain to
-her destined livelihood by appearing to despise
-it.</p>
-
-<p>That, of course, is the outcome of something
-more than a convention imposed on her by man;
-nature, from the beginning, has made her more
-fastidious and reluctant than the male. But
-with this natural fastidiousness and reluctance
-the commercialism imposed upon her by her
-economic needs is constantly at clash and at
-conflict, urging her to get her bread as best
-she can in the only market open to her. Theoretically&mdash;since
-by her wares she lives&mdash;she has
-a perfect right to cry those wares and seek to
-push them to the best advantage. That is to
-say, she has a perfect right to seek, with frankness
-and with openness, the man who, in her<span class="pagenum" id="Page_38">38</span>
-judgment, can most fittingly provide her with
-the means of support.</p>
-
-<p>This freedom of bargaining to the best advantage,
-permitted as a matter of course to every
-other worker, is denied to her. It is, of course,
-claimed and exercised by the prostitute class&mdash;a
-class which has pushed to its logical conclusion
-the principle that woman exists by virtue of a
-wage paid her in return for the possession of
-her person; but it is interesting to note that the
-“unfortunate” enters the open market with the
-hand of the law extended threateningly above
-her head. The fact is curious if inquired into:
-since the theory that woman should live by
-physical attraction of the opposite sex has never
-been seriously denied, but rather insisted upon,
-by men, upon what principle is solicitation, or
-open offer of such attraction, made a legal
-offence? (Not because the woman is a danger
-to the community, since the male sensualist is an
-equal source of danger.) Only, apparently, because
-the advance comes from the wrong side.
-I speak under correction, but cannot, unaided,
-light upon any other explanation; and mine
-seems to be borne out by the fact that, in other<span class="pagenum" id="Page_39">39</span>
-ranks of life, custom, like the above-mentioned
-law, strenuously represses any open advance on
-the part of the woman. So emphatic, indeed,
-is this unwritten law, that one cannot help suspecting
-that it was needful it should be emphatic,
-lest woman, adapting herself to her economic
-position, should take the initiative in a matter
-on which her livelihood depended, and deprive
-her employer not only of the pleasure of the
-chase, but of the illusion that their common
-bargain was as much a matter of romance and
-volition on her part as on his.</p>
-
-<p>As a matter of fact, that law that the first
-advances must come from the side of the man
-is, as was only to be expected, broken and broken
-every day; sometimes directly, but far more often
-indirectly. The woman bent on matrimony is
-constantly on the alert to evade its workings,
-conscious that in her attempt to do so she can
-nearly always count on the ready, if unspoken,
-co-operation of her sisters. This statement is,
-I know, in flat contravention of the firmly-rooted
-masculine belief that one woman regards another
-as an enemy to be depreciated consistently
-in masculine eyes, and that women spend their<span class="pagenum" id="Page_40">40</span>
-lives in one long struggle to gratify an uncontrollable
-desire for admiration at each other’s
-expense. (I have myself been told by a man
-that he would never be so foolishly discourteous
-as to praise one woman in another’s hearing.
-I, on my part, desirous also of being wisely
-courteous, did not attempt to shake the magnificent
-belief in his own importance to me which
-the statement betrayed.) Admiration is a very
-real passion in some women, as it is a very real
-passion in some men; but what, in women, is
-often mistaken for it is ambition, a desire to get
-on and achieve success in life in the only way
-in which it is open to a woman to achieve it&mdash;through
-the favour of man. Which is only another
-way of saying what I have insisted on
-before&mdash;that a good many feminine actions
-which are commonly and superficially attributed
-to sexual impulse have their root in the commercial
-instinct.</p>
-
-<p>It is because women, consciously or unconsciously,
-recognize the commercial nature of the
-undertaking that they interest themselves so
-strongly in the business of match-making, other
-than their own. Men have admitted that in<span class="pagenum" id="Page_41">41</span>terest,
-of course&mdash;the thing is too self-evident
-to be denied&mdash;and, as their manner is, attributed
-it to an exuberant sexuality which overflows on
-to its surroundings; steadfastly declining to take
-into account the “professional” element in its
-composition, since that would necessarily imply
-the existence of an <i lang="fr">esprit de corps</i> amongst
-women.</p>
-
-<p>I myself cannot doubt that there does exist
-a spirit of practical, if largely unconscious, trade
-unionism in a class engaged in extracting, under
-many difficulties and by devious ways, its livelihood
-from the employer, man. (I need scarcely
-point out that man, like every other wage-payer,
-has done his level best and utmost to suppress
-the spirit of combination, and encourage distrust
-and division, amongst the wage-earners in the
-matrimonial market; and that the trade of marriage,
-owing to the isolation of the workers, has
-offered unexampled opportunities for such suppression
-of unity and encouragement of distrust
-and division.) But, in spite of this, women in
-general recognize the economic necessity of
-marriage for each other, and in a spirit of instinctive
-comradeship seek to forward it by every<span class="pagenum" id="Page_42">42</span>
-means in their power. There must be something
-extraordinarily and unnaturally contemptible
-about a woman who, her own bargain made and
-means of livelihood secured, will not help another
-to secure hers; and it is that motive, and
-not a rapturous content in their own unclouded
-destiny, not an unhesitating conviction that their
-lot has fallen in a fair ground, which makes of
-so many married women industrious and confirmed
-match-makers. What has been termed
-the “huge conspiracy of married women” is,
-in fact, nothing but a huge trade union whose
-members recognize the right of others to their
-bread. To my mind, one of the best proofs of
-the reality of this spirit of unconscious trade
-unionism among women is the existence of that
-other feminine conspiracy of silence which surrounds
-the man at whom a woman, for purely
-mercenary reasons, is making a “dead set.” In
-such a case, the only women who will interfere
-and warn the intended victim will be his own
-relatives&mdash;a mother or a sister; others, while
-under no delusions as to the interested nature of
-the motives by which the pursuer is actuated,
-will hold their tongues, and even go so far as to<span class="pagenum" id="Page_43">43</span>
-offer facilities for the chase. They realize that
-their fellow has a right to her chance&mdash;that she
-must follow her trade as best she can, and
-would no more dream of giving her away than
-the average decent workman would dream of
-going to an employer and informing him that
-one of his mates was not up to his job and
-should, therefore, be discharged. In these
-emergencies a man must look to a man for help;
-the sympathies of the practical and unromantic
-sex will be on the other side.</p>
-
-<p>I shall not deny, of course, that there is active
-and bitter competition amongst women for the
-favour not only of particular men, but of men
-in general; but, from what I have said already,
-it will be gathered that I consider that competition
-to be largely economic and artificial. Where
-it is economic, it is produced by the same cause
-which produces active and bitter competition in
-other branches of industry&mdash;the overcrowding
-of the labour market. Where it is artificial, as
-distinct from purely economic, it is produced
-by the compulsory concentration of energy on
-one particular object, and the lack of facilities
-for dispersing that energy in other directions.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_44">44</span>
-It is not the woman with an interest in life who
-spends her whole time in competing with her
-otherwise unoccupied sisters for the smiles of
-a man.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_45">45</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="IV">IV</h2>
-
-
-<p>Marriage being to them not only a
-trade, but a necessity, it must follow
-as the night the day that the acquirement
-of certain characteristics&mdash;the characteristics
-required by an average man in an average
-wife&mdash;has been rendered inevitable for women
-in general. There have, of course, always been
-certain exceptional men who have admired and
-desired certain exceptional and eccentric qualities
-in their wives; but in estimating a girl’s chances
-of pleasing&mdash;on which depended her chances of
-success or a comfortable livelihood&mdash;these exceptions
-naturally, were taken into but small
-account, and no specialization in their tastes and
-desires was allowed for in her training. The
-aim and object of that training was to make
-her approximate to the standard of womanhood
-set up by the largest number of men; since the
-more widely she was admired the better were
-her chances of striking a satisfactory bargain.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_46">46</span>
-The taste and requirements of the average man
-of her class having been definitely ascertained,
-her training and education was carried on on
-the principle of cultivating those qualities which
-he was likely to admire, and repressing with an
-iron hand those qualities to which he was likely
-to take objection; in short, she was fitted for
-her trade by the discouragement of individuality
-and eccentricity and the persistent moulding of
-her whole nature into the form which the
-ordinary husband would desire it to take. Her
-education, unlike her brothers’, was not directed
-towards self-development and the bringing out
-of natural capabilities, but towards pleasing
-some one else&mdash;was not for her own benefit,
-but for that of another person.</p>
-
-<p>No one has better expressed the essential
-difference between the education of men and
-women than Mr. John Burns in a speech delivered
-to the “Children of the State” at the
-North Surrey District School on February 13,
-1909. Addressing the boys the President of
-the Local Government Board said, “I want
-you to be happy craftsmen, because you are
-trained to be healthy men.” Addressing the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_47">47</span>
-girls he is reported to have used the following
-words&mdash;</p>
-
-<p>“To keep house, cook, nurse and delight in
-making others happy is your mission, duty and
-livelihood.”</p>
-
-<p>The boys are to be happy themselves; the
-girls are to make others happy. No doubt Mr.
-Burns spoke sincerely; but is he not one of the
-“others”? And it is well to note that the
-“making of others happy” is not put before
-the girls as an ideal, but as a duty and means
-of livelihood. They are to be self-sacrificing as
-a matter of business&mdash;a commercial necessity.
-It is because man realizes that self-sacrifice in
-woman is not a matter of free-will, but of necessity,
-that he gives her so little thanks for
-it. Her duty and means of livelihood is to
-make others happy&mdash;in other words, to please
-him.</p>
-
-<p>Whether she was trained to be useful or
-useless that was the object of her up-bringing.
-Men in one class of society would be likely to
-require wives able to do rough house or field
-work; so to do rough house or field work she
-was trained. Men in another class of society<span class="pagenum" id="Page_48">48</span>
-would be likely to require of their wives an
-appearance of helpless fragility; and girls in
-that particular class were educated to be incapable
-of sustained bodily effort.</p>
-
-<p>It is this fact&mdash;that their training was a training
-not in their own, but in some one else’s requirements&mdash;which,
-to my thinking, makes
-women so infinitely more interesting to watch
-and to analyze than men. Interesting, I mean,
-in the sense of exciting. Practically every
-woman I know has two distinct natures: a real
-and an acquired; that which she has by right
-of birth and heritage, and that which she has
-been taught she ought to have&mdash;and often thinks
-that she has attained to. And it is quite impossible
-even for another woman, conscious of
-the same division of forces in herself, to forecast
-which of these two conflicting temperaments
-will come uppermost at a given moment.</p>
-
-<p>The average man is a straightforward and
-simple-minded creature compared to the average
-woman, merely because he has been allowed to
-develop much more on his own natural lines.
-He has only one centre of gravity; the woman
-has two. To put it in plain English, he usually<span class="pagenum" id="Page_49">49</span>
-knows what he wants; she, much more often
-than not, does not know anything of the kind.
-She is under the impression that she wants certain
-things which she has been told from her
-earliest childhood, and is being told all the
-time, are the things she ought to want. That
-is as far as she can go with certainty. This also
-can be said with certainty: that her first requirement,
-whether she knows it or not, is the liberty
-to discover what she really does require.</p>
-
-<p>Once a man’s character is known and understood
-it can usually be predicted with a fair
-degree of accuracy how he will act in any particular
-crisis or emergency&mdash;say, under stress of
-strong emotion or temptation. With his sister
-on the other hand you can never foresee at
-what point artificiality will break down and nature
-take command; which makes it infinitely
-more difficult, however well you know her, to
-predict her course of action under the same circumstances.
-The woman whose whole existence,
-from early dawn to dewy eve, is regulated by
-a standard of manners imposed upon her from
-without, by a standard of morals imposed upon
-her from without, whose ideals are purely arti<span class="pagenum" id="Page_50">50</span>ficial
-and equally reflected, will suddenly, and at
-an unexpected moment, reveal another and
-fundamental side of her nature of which she herself
-has probably lived in entire ignorance. And
-on the other hand&mdash;so ingrained in us all has
-artificiality become&mdash;a woman of the independent
-type, with a moral standard and ideals of
-her own setting up, may, when the current of
-her life is swept out of its ordinary course by
-emergency or strong emotion, take refuge, just
-as suddenly and unexpectedly, in words and
-actions that are palpably unnatural to her and
-inspired by an instilled idea of what, under the
-circumstances, a properly constituted woman
-ought to say or do. Faced with a difficulty
-through which her own experience does not serve
-to guide her, she falls back on convention and
-expresses the thoughts of others in the stilted
-language that convention has put into her mouth.
-I have known this happen more than once, and
-seen a real human being of flesh and blood suddenly
-and unconsciously transformed into one
-of those curious creatures, invented by male
-writers and called women for lack of any other
-name, whose sins and whose virtues alike are the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_51">51</span>
-sins and virtues considered by male writers to
-be suitable and becoming to the opposite sex.</p>
-
-<p>For generation after generation the lives of
-women of even the slightest intelligence and
-individuality must have been one long and constant
-struggle between the forces of nature endeavouring
-to induce in them that variety which
-is another word for progress and their own
-enforced strivings to approximate to a single
-monotonous type&mdash;the type of the standard and
-ideal set up for them by man, which was the
-standard and ideal of his own comfort and enjoyment.
-However squarely uncompromising the
-characteristics of any given woman, the only
-vacant space for her occupation was round, and
-into the round hole she had to go. Were her
-soul the soul of a pirate, it had to be encased
-in a body which pursued the peaceful avocation
-of a cook. Even when she kicked over the
-traces and gave respectability the go-by, she
-could only do so after one particular and foregone
-fashion&mdash;a fashion encouraged if not
-openly approved by man. The male sinner
-might go to the devil in any way he chose; for
-her there was only one road to the nethermost<span class="pagenum" id="Page_52">52</span>
-hell, and, dependent even in this, she needed
-a man to set her feet upon the path. Her vices,
-like her virtues, were forced and stereotyped.
-They sprang from the same root; vice, with
-her, was simply an excess of virtue. Vicious
-or virtuous, matron or outcast, she was made
-and not born.</p>
-
-<p>There must be many attributes and characteristics
-of the general run of women which are
-not really the attributes and characteristics of
-their sex, but of their class&mdash;a class persistently
-set apart for the duties of sexual attraction,
-house-ordering and the bearing of children.
-And the particular qualities that, in the eyes of
-man, fitted them for the fulfilment of these
-particular duties, generation after generation of
-women, whatever their natural temperament and
-inclination, have sought to acquire&mdash;or if not the
-actual qualities themselves, at least an outward
-semblance of them. Without some semblance
-of those qualities life would be barred to them.</p>
-
-<p>There are very few women in whom one
-cannot, now and again, trace the line of cleavage
-between real and acquired, natural and class,
-characteristics. The same thing, of course,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_53">53</span>
-holds good of men, but in a far less degree
-since, many vocations being open to them, they
-tend naturally and on the whole to fall into the
-class for which temperament and inclinations fit
-them. A man with a taste for an open air life
-does not as a rule become a chartered accountant,
-a student does not take up deep-sea fishing as
-a suitable profession. But with women the endeavour
-to approximate to a single type has always
-been compulsory. It is ridiculous to suppose
-that nature, who never makes two blades
-of grass alike, desired to turn out indefinite
-millions of women all cut to the regulation pattern
-of wifehood: that is to say, all home-loving,
-charming, submissive, industrious, unintelligent,
-tidy, possessed with a desire to please, well-dressed,
-jealous of their own sex, self-sacrificing,
-cowardly, filled with a burning desire for
-maternity, endowed with a talent for cooking,
-narrowly uninterested in the world outside their
-own gates, and capable of sinking their own
-identity and interests in the interests and identity
-of a husband. I imagine that very few women
-naturally unite in their single persons these
-characteristics of the class wife; but, having been<span class="pagenum" id="Page_54">54</span>
-relegated from birth upwards to the class wife,
-they had to set to work, with or against the
-grain, to acquire some semblance of those that
-they knew were lacking.</p>
-
-<p>There being no question of a line of least
-resistance for woman, it is fairly obvious that
-the necessity (in many instances) of making a
-silk purse out of a sow’s ear and instilling the
-qualities of tidiness, love of home, cowardice,
-unintelligence, etc., etc., into persons who were
-born with quite other capacities and defects
-must have resulted in a pitiable waste of good
-material, sacrificed upon the altar of a domesticity
-arranged in the interests of the husband.
-But infinitely worse in its effect upon womanhood
-in general was the insincerity which, in many
-cases, was the prime lesson and result of a girl’s
-education and upbringing. I do not mean, of
-course, that the generality of girls were consciously,
-of set purpose, and in so many words
-taught to be insincere; but it seems fairly certain
-to me that generations of mothers have tacitly
-instructed their daughters to assume virtues (or
-the reverse) which they had not.</p>
-
-<p>It could not be otherwise. Success in the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_55">55</span>
-marriage-market demanded certain qualifications;
-and, as a matter of economic and social
-necessity, if those qualifications were lacking,
-their counterfeit presentment was assumed.
-When helplessness and fragility were the fashion
-amongst wives, the girl child who was naturally
-as plucky as her brothers was schooled into an
-affected and false timidity. Men were understood
-to admire and reverence the maternal instinct
-in women; so the girl who had no especial
-interest in children affected a mechanical delight
-in, petted, fondled and made much of them.
-(I myself have seen this done on more than one
-occasion; of course in the presence of men.)
-And&mdash;worst and most treacherous insincerity
-of all&mdash;since men were understood to dislike
-clever women, the girl who had brains, capacity,
-intellect, sought to conceal, denied possession
-of them, so that her future husband might enjoy,
-unchallenged, the pleasurable conviction of her
-mental inferiority to himself.</p>
-
-<p>Of all the wrongs that have been inflicted upon
-woman there has been none like unto this&mdash;the
-enforced arrest of her mental growth&mdash;and none
-which bears more bitter and eloquent testimony<span class="pagenum" id="Page_56">56</span>
-to the complete and essential servility of her
-position. For her the eleventh commandment
-was an insult&mdash;“Thou shalt not think”; and
-the most iniquitous condition of her marriage
-bargain this&mdash;that her husband, from the height
-of his self-satisfaction, should be permitted to
-esteem her a fool.</p>
-
-<p>It was not only that, from one generation
-to another, woman was without encouragement
-to use her higher mental qualities&mdash;that her life
-was lacking in the stimulus of emulation so far
-as they were concerned, that her own particular
-trade made very few demands upon them. As
-if these things in themselves were not discouragement
-enough, she was directly forbidden to
-cultivate the small share of intellect she was
-understood to possess. Science was closed to
-her and art degraded to a series of “parlor
-tricks.” It was not enough that she should be
-debarred from material possessions; from possessions
-that were not material, from the things
-of the spirit, she must be debarred as well.
-Nothing more plainly illustrates the fact that
-man has always regarded her as existing not
-for herself and for her own benefit, but for<span class="pagenum" id="Page_57">57</span>
-his use and pleasure solely. His use for her
-was the gratification of his own desire, the
-menial services she rendered without payment;
-his pleasure was in her flesh, not in her spirit;
-therefore the things of the spirit were not for
-her.</p>
-
-<p>One wonders what it has meant for the race&mdash;this
-persistent desire of the man to despise his
-wife, this economic need of countless women to
-arrest their mental growth? It has amounted
-to this&mdash;that one of the principal qualifications
-for motherhood has been a low standard of
-intelligence. We hear a very great deal about
-the beauty and sanctity of motherhood; we
-might, for a change, hear something about the
-degradation thereof&mdash;which has been very real.
-To stunt one’s brain in order that one may bear
-a son does not seem to me a process essentially
-sacred or noble in itself; yet millions of mothers
-have instructed their daughters in foolishness
-so that they, in their turn, might please, marry
-and bear children. Most of those daughters,
-no doubt&mdash;humanity being in the main slothful
-and indifferent&mdash;endured the process with equanimity;
-but there must always have been some,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_58">58</span>
-and those not the least worthy, who suffered
-piteously under the systematic thwarting of
-definite instincts and vague ambitions. In every
-generation there must have been women who
-desired life at first hand, and in whom the crushing
-of initiative and inquiry and the substitution
-of servile for independent qualities, must have
-caused infinite misery. In every generation
-there must have been women who had something
-to give to those who lived outside the
-narrowing walls of their home; and who were
-not permitted to give it. They soured and
-stifled; but they were not permitted to give it.</p>
-
-<p>But, after all, the suffering of individual
-women under the law of imposed stupidity is a
-very small thing compared with the effect of
-that law upon humanity as a whole. The sex
-which reserved to itself the luxury of thinking
-appears to have been somewhat neglectful of
-its advantages in that respect, since it failed
-to draw the obvious conclusion that sons were
-the sons of their mothers as well as of their
-fathers. Yet it is a commonplace that exceptional
-men are born of exceptional women&mdash;that
-is to say, of women in whom the natural<span class="pagenum" id="Page_59">59</span>
-instinct towards self-expansion and self-expression
-is too strong to be crushed and thwarted
-out of existence by the law of imposed stupidity.</p>
-
-<p>That law has reacted inevitably upon those
-who framed and imposed it; since it is truth and
-not a jest that the mission in life of many women
-has been to suckle fools&mdash;of both sexes.
-Women have been trained to be unintelligent
-breeding-machines until they have become unintelligent
-breeding-machines&mdash;how unintelligent
-witness the infant death-rate from improper
-feeding. Judging by that and other things, the
-process of transforming the natural woman
-into flesh without informing spirit would appear,
-in a good many instance, to have been attended
-by a fair amount of success. In some classes
-she still breeds brainlessly. That is what she is
-there for, not to think of the consequences.
-Has she not been expressly forbidden to think?
-If she is a failure as a wife and mother, it is
-because she is nothing else. And those of us
-who are now alive might be better men and
-women, seeing more light where now we strive
-and slip in darkness, if our fathers had not insisted
-so strongly and so steadfastly upon their<span class="pagenum" id="Page_60">60</span>
-right to despise the women they made their
-wives&mdash;who were our mothers.</p>
-
-<p>I have said that this condemnation to intellectual
-barrenness is the strongest proof of the
-essential servility of woman’s position in the
-eyes of man, and I repeat that statement. It
-cannot be repeated too often. So long as you
-deprive a human being of the right to make use
-of its own mental property, so long do you
-keep that human being in a state of serfdom.
-You may disguise the fact even from yourself
-by an outward show of deference and respect,
-the lifting of a hat or the ceding of a pathway;
-but the fact remains. Wherever and whenever
-man has desired to degrade his fellow and tread
-him under foot, he has denied him, first of all,
-the right to think, the means of education and
-inquiry. Every despotism since the world began
-has recognized that it can only work in secret&mdash;that
-its ways must not be known. No material
-tyranny can hope to establish itself firmly and
-for long unless it has at its disposal the means
-to establish also a tyranny that is spiritual and
-intellectual. When you hold a man’s mind in
-thrall you can do what you will with his body;<span class="pagenum" id="Page_61">61</span>
-you possess it and not he. Always those who
-desired power over their fellows have found it
-a sheer necessity to possess their bodies through
-their souls; and for this reason, when you have
-stripped a man of everything except his soul,
-you have to go on and strip him of that too,
-lest, having it left to him, he ask questions,
-ponder the answers and revolt. In all ages the
-aim of despotism, small or great, material or
-intellectual, has been to keep its subjects in
-ignorance and darkness; since, in all ages, discontent
-and rebellion have come with the spread
-of knowledge, light and understanding. So
-soon as a human being is intelligent enough to
-doubt, and frame the question, “Why is this?”
-he can no longer be satisfied with the answer,
-“Because I wish it.” That is an answer which
-inevitably provokes the rejoinder, “But I do
-not”&mdash;which is the essence and foundation of
-heresy and high treason.</p>
-
-<p>Those in high places&mdash;that is to say, those
-who desired power over others&mdash;have, as a
-condition of their existence in high places, fought
-steadfastly against the spread of the means of
-enlightenment. No right has been more bitterly<span class="pagenum" id="Page_62">62</span>
-denied than the right of a man to think honestly
-and to communicate his thoughts to his fellows.
-Persons who claimed that right have been at
-various times (and for the edification of other
-persons who might be tempted to go and do
-likewise) stoned, devoured by wild beasts, excommunicated,
-shut up in dungeons, burned
-at the stake and hanged, drawn, and quartered.
-In spite, however, of these drastic penalties&mdash;and
-other lesser ones too numerous to mention&mdash;there
-has always been a section of humanity
-which has stubbornly persisted, even at the risk
-of roasting or dismemberment, in thinking its
-own thoughts on some particular subject and
-saying what they were. To persons of this
-frame of mind it probably did not much matter
-how soon they had done with an existence which
-they had to look at through other people’s eyes
-and talk about in suitable phrases arranged for
-them by other people. So they risked the penalty
-and said what they wanted to. The history
-of the world has been a succession of demands,
-more or less spasmodic, more or less insistent,
-on the part of subjected classes, nations and
-sects, to be allowed to see things in their own<span class="pagenum" id="Page_63">63</span>
-way and with an eye to their own interests,
-spiritual or material. Which is why a free
-press and a free pulpit have often seemed worth
-dying for.</p>
-
-<p>Wherever civilization exists various classes,
-sects and nations of men have, one by one,
-claimed the right to that examination of things
-for themselves which is called education. They
-have never attained to it without opposition; and
-one of the most frequent and specious forms
-of that opposition is embodied in the argument
-that education would not only be useless to
-them, but would unfit them for their duties.
-No doubt this argument was often put forward
-in all honesty as the outcome of a conviction
-that was none the less sincere because it was
-prompted by self-interest. That conviction had
-its roots in the common and widespread inability
-to realize the actual human identity of other
-persons&mdash;in the habit of summing them up and
-estimating them in the light only of the salient
-(and often superficial) characteristics which
-affect ourselves. I can best explain what I mean
-by saying that to many of us the word “clerk”
-does not summon up the mental representation<span class="pagenum" id="Page_64">64</span>
-of an actual man who spends some of his time
-writing, but of something in the shape of a man
-that is continuously occupied in driving a pen.
-In other words, we lose sight of the man himself
-in one of his attributes; and the same with a
-miner, a sailor, etc. Thus to the persons in
-high places who opposed the education of the
-agricultural labourer, the agricultural labourer
-was not an actual man, but a hoe or a harrow in
-human shape; and they were quite honestly and
-logically unable to see what this animated implement
-of agricultural toil could want with the
-inside of a book. Practically, however, they
-were denying humanity to the labourer and sinking
-his identity in one particular quality&mdash;the
-physical capacity for field-work.</p>
-
-<p>This, as I have explained elsewhere, is the
-manner in which woman, as a rule, is still regarded&mdash;not
-as a human being with certain
-physical and mental qualities which enable her
-to bring children into the world and cook a
-dinner, but as a breeding-machine and the necessary
-adjunct to a frying-pan. So regarded, independence
-of thought and anything beyond a
-very limited degree of mental cultivation are<span class="pagenum" id="Page_65">65</span>
-unnecessary to her, even harmful, since they
-might possibly result in the acquirement of other
-attributes quite out of place in the adjunct to
-a frying-pan.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_66">66</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="V">V</h2>
-
-
-<p>With the advance of civilization one
-subject class after another has risen
-in revolt, more or less violent, more
-or less peaceful, and asserted its right to inquire,
-to think in its own way&mdash;that is to say, it has
-asserted its humanity. But it is a proof of my
-statement that woman has never been regarded
-as fully human, that the successive classes of
-men who have, in turn, asserted their own
-humanity have totally forgotten to assert hers,
-have left her, whatever her rank, in a class
-apart, and continued to treat her as a domestic
-animal whose needs were only the needs of a
-domestic animal.</p>
-
-<p>The aristocratic instinct is by no means confined
-to those born in the purple. (Some of
-the most startlingly aristocratic sentiments I have
-ever heard came from the lips of persons believed
-by themselves to entertain ultra-democratic
-ideas.) The sense of power over others<span class="pagenum" id="Page_67">67</span>
-is just as attractive to the many as it is to the
-few; and thus it has happened that men, in
-every class, have taken a pleasure in the dependence
-and subjection of their womenfolk,
-and, lest their power over them should be undermined,
-have refused to their womenfolk the
-right to think for themselves. The essential
-cruelty of that refusal they disguised from themselves
-by explaining that women could not think
-even if they tried. We have all heard the
-definition of woman&mdash;episcopal, I think&mdash;as a
-creature who cannot reason and pokes the fire
-from the top.</p>
-
-<p>This disbelief in the existence of reasoning
-powers in woman is still, it seems to me, a
-very real thing&mdash;at least, I have run up against
-it a good many times in the course of my life,
-and I do not suppose that I am an exception in
-that respect. And the really interesting thing
-about this contemptuous attitude of mind is that
-it has led to the adoption, by those who maintain
-it, of a very curious subterfuge. It is, of
-course, quite impossible to deny that a woman’s
-mind does go through certain processes which
-control and inspire her actions and conclusions&mdash;<span class="pagenum" id="Page_68">68</span>
-sometimes very swiftly and effectively; but to
-these mental processes, which in men are called
-reason, they give, in woman, the title of intuition.</p>
-
-<p>Now the word “intuition,” when used in connection
-with woman, conveys to the average
-male mind a meaning closely akin to that of the
-word instinct&mdash;as opposed to reason. (In this
-insistence on the instinctive character of our mental
-processes the average man is, of course, quite
-consistent; since he imagines that we exist only
-for the gratification of two instincts, the sexual
-and the maternal, it does not seem unreasonable
-on his part to conclude that we also think by
-instinct.) I am certain that I am right as to
-this masculine habit of confusing intuition with
-instinct; since on every occasion on which I have
-been more or less politely&mdash;but always firmly&mdash;informed
-that I had no intellect, but could console
-myself for the deficiency by the reflection
-that I possessed the usual feminine quality of intuition,
-I have made a point of bringing the
-person who made the remark to book by insisting
-upon an exact definition of the term. In
-every single case within my own experience the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_69">69</span>
-exact definition&mdash;as I have been careful to point
-out&mdash;has been not insight, but instinct. Our
-mental processes, in short, are supposed to be on
-the same level as the mental process which starts
-the newly-hatched gosling on its waddle to the
-nearest pond. We are supposed to know what
-we want without knowing why we want it&mdash;just
-like the gosling, which does not make a bee-line
-for the water because it has carefully examined
-its feet, discovered that they are webbed,
-and drawn the inference that webbed feet are
-suitable for progress in water.</p>
-
-<p>This question of the intuitive or instinctive
-powers of woman is one that has always interested
-me extremely; and as soon as I realized
-that my mind was supposed to work in a different
-way from a man’s mind, and that I was
-supposed to arrive at conclusions by a series of
-disconnected and frog-like jumps, I promptly
-set to work to discover if that was really the
-case by the simple expedient of examining the
-manner in which I did arrive at conclusions. I
-believe that (on certain subjects, at any rate) I
-think more rapidly than most people&mdash;which
-does not mean, of course, that I think more cor<span class="pagenum" id="Page_70">70</span>rectly.
-It does mean, however, that I very often
-have to explain to other people the process by
-which I have arrived at my conclusions (which
-might otherwise appear intuitive); therefore I
-may be called a good subject for investigation.
-I can honestly say that I have never been at a
-loss for such an explanation. I can trace the
-progress of my thought, step by step, just as a
-man can trace his. I may reason wrongly, but
-I do not reason in hops. And I have yet to
-meet the woman who does. I have met many
-women who were in the habit of coming to
-conclusions that were altogether ridiculous and
-illogical; but they were conclusions&mdash;drawn
-from insufficient data&mdash;and not guesses. No
-sane human being regulates&mdash;or does not regulate&mdash;its
-life, as we are supposed to do, by a
-series of vague and uncontrolled guesses.</p>
-
-<p>I imagine that the idea that women do so
-control their lives must have had its origin in
-the fact that men and women usually turn their
-mental energy into entirely different channels.
-On subjects that are familiar to us we think
-quickly, and acquire a mental dexterity akin to
-the manual dexterity of a skilled artisan. But<span class="pagenum" id="Page_71">71</span>
-the subjects upon which women exercise this
-mental dexterity are not, as a rule, the same as
-those upon which men exercise theirs; the latter
-have usually left narrow social and domestic
-matters alone, and it is in narrow social and
-domestic matters that we are accustomed to
-think quickly. We are swifter than they are,
-of course, at drawing the small inferences from
-which we judge what a man will like or dislike;
-but then, for generations the business of our
-lives has been to find out what a man will like
-or dislike, and it would be rather extraordinary
-if we had not, in the course of ages, acquired in
-it a measure of that rapid skill which in any
-other business would be called mechanical, but in
-ours is called intuitive.</p>
-
-<p>This theory of intuition or instinct, then, I
-take, as I have already said, to be in the nature
-of a subterfuge on the part of the male&mdash;a sop
-to his conscience, and a plausible excuse for
-assuming that we have not the intelligence which
-(if it were once admitted that we possessed it)
-we should have the right to cultivate by independent
-thinking. But to admit the right of a
-human being to independent thinking is also to<span class="pagenum" id="Page_72">72</span>
-admit something else far more important and unpleasant&mdash;his
-right to sit in judgment upon you.
-That right every despotism that ever existed has
-steadily denied to its subjects; therefore, there is
-nothing extraordinary in the fact that man has
-steadily denied it to woman. He has always preferred
-that she should be too ignorant to sit in
-judgment upon him, punishing her with ostracism
-if she was rash enough to attempt to dispel
-her own ignorance. One of her highest virtues,
-in his eyes, was a childish and undeveloped
-quality about which he threw a halo of romance
-when he called it by the name of innocence. So
-far has this insistence on ignorance or innocence
-in a wife been carried, that even in these days
-many women who marry young have but a very
-vague idea of what they are doing; while certain
-risks attaching to the estate of marriage
-are, in some ranks of life at any rate, sedulously
-concealed from them as things which it is unfit
-for them to know.</p>
-
-<p>It is a subject that is both difficult and unpleasant
-to touch upon; but while it will always
-be unpleasant, it ought not to be difficult, and I
-should be false to my beliefs if I apologized<span class="pagenum" id="Page_73">73</span>
-for touching upon it. Women, like men, when
-they enter upon a calling, have a perfect right
-to know exactly what are the dangers and drawbacks
-attached to their calling; you do not, when
-you turn a man into a pottery or a dynamite factory,
-sedulously conceal from him the fact that
-there are such things as lead-poisoning or combustion.
-On the contrary, you warn him&mdash;as
-women are seldom warned. I have been astonished
-at the number of women I have met who
-seem to have hardly more than a vague inkling&mdash;and
-some not even that&mdash;of the tangible,
-physical consequence of loose living.</p>
-
-<p>I have not the faintest intention of inditing
-a sermon on masculine morals. If the average
-man chooses to dispense with morals as we understand
-them, that is his affair and a matter for his
-own conscience; if he is so constituted physically
-that he cannot live as we do, and has practically
-no choice in the matter, that is his misfortune.
-But I do say this: that the average woman has a
-perfect right to know what are the results of
-loose living in so far as those results may affect
-her and her children. If marriage is a trade
-we ought to know its risks&mdash;concerning which<span class="pagenum" id="Page_74">74</span>
-there exists a conspiracy of silence. Is the cause
-to which I have alluded ever mentioned, except
-in technical publications, in connection with the
-infant death-rate?</p>
-
-<p>Those of us who have discovered that there
-are risks attaching to the profession of marriage
-other than the natural ones of childbirth, have
-very often made the discovery by accident&mdash;which
-ought not to be. I made the discovery
-in that way myself while I was still very young&mdash;by
-the idle opening of a book which, because it
-was a book, was a thing to be opened and looked
-into. I was puzzled at first, and then the thing
-stared me in the face&mdash;a simple matter of bald
-statement and statistics. I remember the thought
-which flashed into my mind&mdash;we are told we
-have got to be married, but we are never told
-<em>that</em>! It was my first conscious revolt against the
-compulsory nature of the trade of marriage.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_75">75</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="VI">VI</h2>
-
-
-<p>This insistent and deliberate stunting of
-woman’s intellectual growth is, as I have
-already stated, the best proof of her
-essentially servile position in the household; and
-that being the case, it is not to be wondered at
-that her code of honour and morals is essentially
-a servile code. That is to say, its origin and
-guiding motive is the well-being, moral and material,
-of some one else. Like her stupidity
-woman’s morality has been imposed on her, and
-to a great extent is not morality at all, in the
-proper sense of the word, but a code of manners
-formulated in the interests of her master.</p>
-
-<p>I wish to make it clear that when I speak of
-morality in this connection I am not using the
-word in the narrow sense in which it is sometimes
-employed. By a standard of morality I
-mean a rule of life which we adopt as a guide
-to our conduct, and endeavour, more or less successfully,
-to apply to every action&mdash;to our deal<span class="pagenum" id="Page_76">76</span>ings
-with others as well as to our dealings with
-our own hearts.</p>
-
-<p>I cannot better explain what I mean by the
-essential servility of woman’s code of morals
-than by quoting Milton’s well-known line&mdash;</p>
-
-<p>
-“He for God only; she for God in him.”<br />
-</p>
-
-<p>That one brief verse condenses into a nutshell
-the difference in the moral position of the two
-sexes&mdash;expresses boldly, simply, straightforwardly,
-the man’s belief that he had the right to
-divert and distort the moral impulse and growth
-in woman to serve his own convenience. No
-priesthood has ever made a claim more arrogant
-than this claim of man to stand between woman
-and her God, and divert the spiritual forces of
-her nature into the channel that served him best.
-The real superiority of man consists in this: that
-he is free to obey his conscience and to serve his
-God&mdash;if it be in him so to do. Woman is not.
-She can serve Him only at second hand&mdash;can
-obey His commands not directly but only by
-obeying the will of the man who stands between
-her and the Highest, and who has arrogated
-to himself not merely the material control of<span class="pagenum" id="Page_77">77</span>
-her person and her property, but the spiritual
-control of her conscience.</p>
-
-<p>This is no fanciful piece of imagery. There
-are laws still in existence&mdash;laws of an earlier
-age&mdash;which prove how complete has been this
-moral control which we are only now shaking
-off, since they presume a man’s entire responsibility
-for the actions of his wife, be those actions
-good or ill. That a woman at her husband’s
-bidding should bend her conscience to his will as
-a reed bends; that, because he desired it of her,
-she should break and defy every commandment
-of God and man; this seemed to our forefathers
-a natural thing, and a course of action befitting
-her station and place in life. So far from blaming,
-they condoned it in her and have expressed
-that view of the matter in their law&mdash;sometimes
-with awkward and annoying results for a later
-generation. Woman, until she began to feel in
-herself the stirrings of independence&mdash;woman,
-when she was just the wife-and-mother-and-nothing-else,
-the domestic animal&mdash;seems to me
-to have been a creature whom you could not have
-described as being either moral or immoral. She
-was just unmoral. Whether she did good or<span class="pagenum" id="Page_78">78</span>
-evil was not, as far as her own individuality
-went, of very much account since the standard
-set up for her was not of her own setting up;
-it had been erected for the comfort and well-being
-of her master. Her virtues were second-hand
-virtues, instilled into her for the convenience
-of another; and she did what was right in
-his eyes, not in her own, after the manner of a
-child. Therefore she was neither moral nor
-immoral, but servile. The motive which guided
-and impelled her from childhood was a low one&mdash;the
-desire (disinterestedly or for her own advantage)
-of pleasing some one else. (To make
-others happy, as Mr. Burns expresses it.) The
-desire to please being the motive power of her
-existence, her code of honour and ethics was
-founded not on thought, conviction or even natural
-impulse, but on observation of the likes and
-dislikes of those she had to please. Hence its
-extraordinary and inconsistent character, its obvious
-artificiality and the manifest traces it bears
-of having been imposed upon her from without.
-For instance, no natural ethical code emanating
-from within could have summed up
-woman’s virtue in <em>a</em> virtue&mdash;physical purity.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_79">79</span>
-That confusion of one virtue with virtue in general
-was certainly of masculine origin arising
-from the masculine habit of thinking of woman
-only in connection with her relations to himself.
-To other aspects of her life and character man
-was indifferent&mdash;they hardly existed for him.
-And of masculine origin, too, was that extraordinary
-article of the code by which it was laid
-down that a woman’s “honour” was, to all intents
-and purposes, a matter of chance&mdash;a thing
-which she only possessed because no unkind fate
-had thrown her in the way of a man sufficiently
-brutal to deprive her of it by force. Her
-honour, in short, was not a moral but a physical
-quality.</p>
-
-<p>One sees, of course, the advantage from the
-male point of view, of this peculiar provision of
-the code. In a world where the pickpocket class
-had the upper hand a somewhat similar regulation
-would, no doubt, be in force; and it would
-be enacted, by a custom stronger than law, that
-to have one’s pocket picked was in itself a disgrace
-which must on no account be cried aloud
-upon the housetops or communicated to the
-police. To reveal and publish the fact that<span class="pagenum" id="Page_80">80</span>
-your purse had been snatched from you by force
-would be to make yourself a mark of scorn and
-for hissing, to bring upon yourself an obloquy
-far greater than that accorded to the active
-partner in the transaction, whose doings would
-be greeted with a shrug of the shoulders and the
-explanation that pickpockets are pickpockets, and
-will never be anything but what nature has made
-them; and, after all, you must have dangled the
-purse temptingly before his eyes. Under these
-circumstances, with the thief at liberty to ply his
-trade, the fact that you had money in your pocket
-would be, strictly speaking, an accident; and, to
-make the parallel complete, the lack of your
-money&mdash;the fact that it had been taken from you
-even against your will&mdash;would have to be accounted
-a black disgrace, leaving a lasting smear
-upon your whole life. That, it seems to me, is
-the exact position with regard to what is commonly
-termed a woman’s “honour.” I should
-prefer to put it that a woman has no honour;
-only an accident.</p>
-
-<p>In such a world as I have described&mdash;a world
-run in the interest of the light-fingered class&mdash;the
-average and decent man would find it just as<span class="pagenum" id="Page_81">81</span>
-easy and just as difficult to take legal proceedings
-against the person who had violently deprived
-him of his purse as the average and decent
-woman would now find it were she to take legal
-proceedings against the man who had violently
-deprived her of her honour. Nominally, of
-course, justice would afford him a fair hearing
-and the process of law would be at his disposal;
-actually he would make himself a target for
-contempt and scorn, and the very men who tried
-his case, with every desire to be unbiassed, would
-be prejudiced against him because he had not
-hidden his disgrace in silence. In most cases
-the effect of such a public opinion would be to
-make him hold his tongue, and practically by his
-silence become an abettor and accomplice in the
-offence wrought upon himself and by which he
-himself had suffered. He might, if his mould
-were sensitive, choose the river rather than
-exposure&mdash;as women have done before now.</p>
-
-<p>Honour, as I understand it, is not physical or
-accidental; is not even reputation, which is a
-species of reflection of honour in the minds of
-others; it is a state of mind resulting from a
-voluntary and conscious adherence to certain<span class="pagenum" id="Page_82">82</span>
-rules of life and conduct. As such it is entirely
-your own possession and a creation, a thing of
-which no one can rob you but yourself; it is at
-no man’s mercy but your own. It is because
-woman, as a rule, has not possessed the power of
-giving voluntary and conscious adherence to
-rules of life and conduct, because the rules of
-life and conduct which she follows have been
-framed in the interests of others and forced
-upon her in the interests of others&mdash;that she has
-been denied any other than a purely physical and
-accidental “honour.”</p>
-
-<p>One’s mind goes back to two children in the
-school-room pondering seriously and in the light
-of their own unaided logic the puzzling story of
-Lucrece&mdash;much expurgated and newly acquired
-during the course of a Roman history lesson.
-The expurgated Roman history book had made
-it clear that she was a woman greatly to be
-admired; we sat with knitted brows and argued
-why. Something had been done to her&mdash;we
-were vague as to the nature of the something, but
-had gathered from the hurried manner of our
-instructress that here was a subject on which you
-must not ask for precise information. Our igno<span class="pagenum" id="Page_83">83</span>rance
-baffled and aggrieved us since fuller knowledge
-might have thrown light upon an otherwise
-incomprehensible case. Something had been
-done to her by a wicked man and against her
-will&mdash;so much we knew. She had tried all she
-could to prevent it, but he was the stronger&mdash;the
-expurgated Roman history had said, “By force.”
-Therefore, whatever had happened was not her
-fault. Yet the next morning she had sent posthaste
-for her husband and her father, told them
-all about it and stabbed herself to the heart before
-their eyes! Try as we would to sympathize
-with this paragon of Roman virtue, the action
-seemed inconsequent. It implied remorse where
-remorse was not only unnecessary but impossible.
-If she had stabbed Sextus Tarquinius, or
-if Sextus Tarquinius had stabbed himself in a
-fit of repentance for his own mysterious ill-doing....
-But why needlessly distress your
-family by descending into an early grave because
-some one else had been mysteriously wicked
-while you yourself had done no harm at all?
-Our sense of logic and justice was shaken to
-its foundations. The verdict of admiration recorded
-in the history book stared us in the face,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_84">84</span>
-conflicting with our own conclusions; and it was
-our reverence for the written word alone that
-prevented the open and outspoken judgment,
-“She was silly.”</p>
-
-<p>So two small persons, to whom sex was still
-a matter of garments, seriously troubled by their
-own inability to appreciate a virtue held up to
-them for reverence, with views as yet level and
-unwarped on the subject of justice, and still in
-complete ignorance of the “economic” law that
-the cost of sin, like the cost of taxation, is always
-shifted on to the shoulders of those least able to
-bear or to resent it.</p>
-
-<p>The key to the curious and inferior position
-of woman with regard to breaches, voluntary or
-involuntary, of the moral law is to be found in
-this right of the strongest to avoid payment. It
-is a right that is recognized and openly acted
-upon in the world of business and of property,
-that has to be considered and taken into account
-by financiers and statesmen in the collection of
-revenue and the imposition of taxes. It is the
-general exercise of this right that makes the incidence
-of taxation a study for experts. Roughly
-its result is, the weakest pays. Tax the business<span class="pagenum" id="Page_85">85</span>
-man and he will set to work to send up prices,
-collecting his additional toll in farthings, pence
-and shillings from his customers, or to save it
-by cutting down the wages of his employees.
-Tax the landlord, and he sends up rents&mdash;perhaps
-in the slums. The stronger the position of
-the capitalist, the more easily does he avoid payment.
-If his position is so strong that he is an
-actual monopolist he can avoid it with complete
-ease, simply taking the amount required from
-the pockets of those who are unable to refuse his
-demands, handing it over to the powers that be
-and paying himself for his trouble in doing so.</p>
-
-<p>The incidence of blame in offences against the
-code which regulates the sexual relations of men
-and women is governed by laws similar to those
-which govern the incidence of taxation. The
-stronger party to the offence, taking advantage
-of his strength, has refused to pay; has simply
-and squarely declined to take his share of the
-mutual punishment, and has shifted a double
-portion thereof on the shoulders of the weaker
-party. So far as I can see that is the real and
-only reason for the preferential treatment of
-man under the moral code&mdash;a preferential treat<span class="pagenum" id="Page_86">86</span>ment
-insisted upon by Adam in the garden of
-Eden when he anxiously explained to the Deity
-that the woman was to blame, and insisted upon
-ever since by his descendants. Is it not Adam
-who sniggers over spicy stories at his club, retails
-them to the wife of his bosom and then
-gives vent to manly and generous indignation at
-the expense of the spinster who repeats them at
-third hand? while the extreme reluctance of a
-purely male electorate to raise what is termed
-the age of consent in girls is perhaps the most
-striking example of this tendency of the stronger
-to shift the responsibility of his misdeeds on to
-any shoulders but his own,&mdash;even on to the
-shoulders of a child.</p>
-
-<p>Palpable and obvious hardship dealt out by
-men to women is usually defended, if not explained,
-by that more or less vague reference
-to natural law, which is again an attempt to
-shift responsibility; and I have heard the position
-of woman as scapegoat for the sins of the
-man justified by her greater importance to the
-race as the mother of the next generation. This
-position of trust and responsibility, it is urged,
-makes her fall more blameworthy in itself, since<span class="pagenum" id="Page_87">87</span>
-her offence is not only an offence against her own
-person. One would feel more inclined to give
-ear to this explanation if it could be proved that
-it was only in the case of actual infractions of the
-moral code that the male was in the habit of
-availing himself of his opportunities of shifting
-the blame that should be his on to the back of the
-weaker vessel. But it is not. Why, for instance,
-when a man who has been engaged to a
-woman changes his mind and throws her over
-against her will should the woman be regarded
-as to some extent humiliated and disgraced by
-the action of another person, an action over
-which she has had no control whatever, which
-has, in fact, been performed against her express
-desire? Yet in such circumstances the woman
-who has been left in the lurch is supposed to
-suffer, quite apart from the damage to her affection,
-a sort of moral damage and disgrace from
-the heartlessness or fickleness of another person&mdash;the
-man to whom she has been engaged; and
-this moral damage is, I believe, taken into account
-in actions for breach of promise of marriage
-(where there is no question of seduction).
-In these instances of fickleness on the side of the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_88">88</span>
-one party to the engagement, there is no suggestion
-of guilt or offence in the other party&mdash;the
-woman; yet the consequences of guilt and offence
-have been transferred to her shoulders, simply,
-it seems to me, because the guilty and offending
-party, being the stronger, declined to bear them
-himself. And woman’s code of honour and
-morals being essentially a servile code, designed
-for the benefit of those in authority over her,
-she accepts the position without protest and takes
-shame to herself for the fault of another person.
-The first provision of a wider code&mdash;a code
-drawn up by herself&mdash;must be that she will only
-accept responsibility for her own actions. Until
-she has taken her stand on that principle she
-cannot hope for a freedom that is real, even a
-material freedom. At present her position, in
-this respect, is analogous to that of the mediæval
-whipping-boy or those slaves of antiquity who
-were liable to be put to death for the sins of their
-masters&mdash;a position entirely incompatible with
-the most elementary ideas of liberty and justice.
-The chaste and virtuous Lucrece whose untimely
-fate so distraught our youthful brains was not
-so much the victim of one man’s evil passions<span class="pagenum" id="Page_89">89</span>
-and wrong-doing as of her own servile code of
-morals; she was (if she ever existed) a slave of
-undoubted and heroic virtue&mdash;but certainly a
-slave and not a free woman, accountable for
-her own acts and her own acts alone.</p>
-
-<p>As a matter of fact, if we come to look into
-them closely, we find that the virtues that have
-been enjoined upon woman for generations are
-practically all servile virtues&mdash;the virtues a man
-desires in and enjoins upon those whom he wishes
-to hold in subjection. Honour, in the proper
-sense of the word, truth-telling, independence of
-thought and action, self-reliance and courage are
-the qualities of a free people; and, because they
-are the qualities of a free people, they have not
-been required of her. Submission, suppleness,
-coaxing manners, a desire to please and ingratiate,
-tact and a capacity for hard work for which
-no definite return is to be expected are the qualities
-encouraged in a servile or subject race by
-those in authority over them; and it is precisely
-these qualities which have been required of
-woman. The ordinary male ideal of a mother
-is a servile ideal&mdash;a person who waits on others,
-gives way to others, drudges for others, and<span class="pagenum" id="Page_90">90</span>
-only lives for the convenience of others. The
-ordinary male ideal of a wife is a servile ideal&mdash;a
-person with less brains than himself, who is
-pleasant to look at, makes him comfortable at
-home and respects his authority. And it is the
-unfortunate fact that she is expected to live
-down to this ideal&mdash;and very often does&mdash;which
-accounts for that frequent phenomenon, the
-rapid mental deterioration of the woman who
-has fulfilled her destiny and attained to a completeness
-that is synonymous with stagnation.</p>
-
-<p>It is obvious that marriage&mdash;the companionship
-of two reasonable human beings&mdash;ought
-not, under natural conditions, to have a stupefying
-effect upon one of the parties to the arrangement;
-and, as far as I can see, where the woman
-is recognized as a responsible human being with
-an individuality and interests of her own, and
-with a right to her own opinion, it does not have
-that effect. The professional woman&mdash;a class
-which I know fairly well&mdash;is not, as a rule,
-less interesting and individual after marriage
-than before it, simply because she does not usually
-marry the type of man who would expect her
-to swamp her own ideas and personality in his;<span class="pagenum" id="Page_91">91</span>
-and the working woman of another class, who,
-as the manager and financier of the household, is
-obliged to keep her wits sharp, is often an extremely
-interesting person with a shrewd and
-characteristic outlook on life. It is the woman
-of the “comfortable” class, with narrow duties
-and a few petty responsibilities, who now-a-days
-most readily conforms to the servile type of
-manners and morals set up for her admiration
-and imitation, sinks into a nonentity or a busybody,
-and does her best to gratify and justify
-her husband’s predilection for regarding her
-mental capacity with contempt.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_92">92</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="VII">VII</h2>
-
-
-<p>One peculiarity of the trade at which so
-many women earn their livelihood I
-have, as yet, hardly touched upon. It is
-this: that however arduous and exacting the
-labour that trade entails&mdash;and the rough manual
-work of most households is done by women&mdash;it is
-not paid except by a wage of subsistence. There
-may be exceptions, of course, but, as a general
-rule, the work done by the wife and mother in
-the home is paid for merely by supplying her
-with the necessaries of existence&mdash;food, lodging,
-and clothing. She is fed and lodged on the same
-principle as a horse is fed and lodged&mdash;so that
-she may do her work, her cooking, her cleaning,
-her sewing, and the tending and rearing of her
-children. She may do it very well or she may do
-it very badly; but beyond food, lodging, and a
-certain amount of clothing, she can claim no wage
-for it. In short, her work in the home is not
-recognized either by the State or by the in<span class="pagenum" id="Page_93">93</span>dividual
-citizen (except in occasional instances)
-as work which has any commercial value.</p>
-
-<p>There must, of course, be some reason why
-such intrinsically important work as the rearing
-of children and ministering to the comfort of
-the community should be held in such poor esteem
-that it is paid for at the lowest possible
-rate&mdash;subsistence rate. (Which means, of
-course, that wages in that particular branch of
-work have been forced just as low as they can
-go, since human beings cannot continue to exist
-without the means of supporting life.) And the
-principal reason for this state of things I take
-to be the compulsory nature of the trade. Given
-a sufficiently large number of persons destined
-and educated from birth for one particular calling,
-with no choice at all in the matter, and with
-every other calling and means of livelihood
-sternly barred to them, and you have all the conditions
-necessary for the forcing down of wages
-to the lowest possible point to which they will
-go&mdash;subsistence point. In that calling labour
-will be as cheap as the heart of the employer
-could desire; and incidentally it will tend to
-become what ill-paid labour always tends to be<span class="pagenum" id="Page_94">94</span>come&mdash;inefficient.
-Exactly the same condition
-of affairs would prevail in any other trade&mdash;mining
-or boiler-making, for instance&mdash;if immense
-numbers of boys were brought up to be
-miners or boiler-makers, and informed that whatever
-their needs or desires, or whatever the state
-of the labour market in these particular callings,
-they could not turn their abilities into any other
-direction. Under those circumstances miners
-and boiler-makers would probably work for their
-keep and nothing more, as the ordinary wife has
-to do.</p>
-
-<p>I shall be told, of course, that the position of
-a husband is not that of an ordinary employer
-of labour, and that the financial relations of a
-man and his wife are complicated by considerations
-of affection and mutual interest which make
-it quite impossible to estimate the exact wage-earning
-value of the wife’s services in the household,
-or the price which she receives for them in
-other things than money. Even if, for the sake
-of argument, this be admitted as a general rule,
-it does not invalidate my point, which is that
-the compulsory nature of woman’s principal
-trade is quite sufficient, in itself, to account for<span class="pagenum" id="Page_95">95</span>
-the fact that the workers in that trade are not
-deemed worthy of anything more than a wage
-of subsistence. Considerations of sentiment and
-affection may help to keep her direct monetary
-remuneration down; but to bring it down in the
-first instance nothing more was needed than compulsory
-overcrowding of the “domestic service”
-market.</p>
-
-<p>That the wage of subsistence&mdash;the board,
-lodging, and clothing&mdash;dealt out to a married
-woman is often board, lodging, and clothing on
-a very liberal and comfortable scale, does not
-alter the fact that it is essentially a wage of subsistence,
-regulated by the idea of what is necessary
-for subsistence in the particular class to
-which she may happen to belong. The plutocrat
-who wishes his wife to entertain cannot
-habitually feed her on fish and chips from round
-the corner, or renew her wardrobe in an old-clothes
-shop. But she does not get twelve-course
-dinners and dresses from the Rue de la Paix
-because she has earned them by extra attention
-to her duties as a wife and mother, but because
-they are necessary qualifications for the place in
-his household which her husband wishes her to<span class="pagenum" id="Page_96">96</span>
-take&mdash;because, without them, she could not fulfil
-the duties that he requires of her. The
-monetary reward of wifehood and motherhood
-depends entirely on the life, the good luck and
-the good nature of another person; the strictest
-attention to duty on the part of a wife and
-mother is of no avail without that. The really
-hard labour of housework and rearing children
-is done in those households where the wage
-of subsistence is lowest; and the women who receive
-most money from their husbands are precisely
-those who pass on the typical duties of a
-wife and mother to other persons&mdash;housekeepers,
-cooks, nurses, and governesses. Excellence
-in the trade is no guarantee of reward, which is
-purely a matter of luck; work, however hard,
-will not bring about that measure of independence,
-more or less comparative, which is attained
-by successful work in other trades. Dependence,
-in short, is the essence of wifehood as generally
-understood by the masculine mind.</p>
-
-<p>Under normal and favourable conditions,
-then, a married woman without private means of
-her own obtains a wage of subsistence for the
-fulfilment of the duties required of her in her<span class="pagenum" id="Page_97">97</span>
-husband’s household. Under unfavourable (but
-not very abnormal) conditions she does not even
-obtain that. In the case of the large army of
-married women who support idle or invalid husbands
-by paid labour outside the home, the additional
-work inside the home is carried on
-gratis, and without a suggestion of payment of
-any kind.</p>
-
-<p>I am inclined to believe that the principle that
-payment should be made for domestic service
-rendered does not really enter into the question
-of a wife’s wages; that those wages (of subsistence)
-are paid simply for the possession of
-her person, and that the other arts and accomplishments
-she may possess are not supposed
-to have any exchange value. At any rate, a
-mistress, from whom the domestic arts are not
-expected, is often just as expensively kept as a
-wife&mdash;which seems to point to my conclusion.
-What Mr. John Burns has called a woman’s
-“duty and livelihood” is, in the strict sense of
-the term, not her livelihood at all. Her livelihood,
-as an ordinary wife, is a precarious dependence
-upon another person’s life; should that
-other person die, she could not support herself<span class="pagenum" id="Page_98">98</span>
-and her children by remaining in “woman’s
-sphere”&mdash;cooking, tending the house, and looking
-after her young family. That sort of work
-having no commercial value, she and her young
-family would very shortly starve. The profession
-of the prostitute is a livelihood; the profession
-of the wife and mother is not. A woman
-can support her children by prostitution; she
-cannot do so by performing the duties ordinarily
-associated with motherhood.</p>
-
-<p>That marriage has another side than the economic
-I should be the last to deny, as I should
-be the last to deny that there are many households
-in which subjection and dependence in the
-wife are not desired by her husband&mdash;households
-in which there is a sharing of material, as well as
-of intellectual, interests. But that does not alter
-the fact that the position of a great many other
-married women is simply that of an unpaid domestic
-servant on the premises of a husband.
-The services that, rendered by another, would
-command payment, or at least thanks, from her
-are expected as a matter of course. They are
-supposed to be natural to her; she is no more to
-be paid for them than she is to be paid for<span class="pagenum" id="Page_99">99</span>
-breathing or feeling hungry. (One wonders
-why it should be “natural” in woman to do so
-many disagreeable things. Does the average
-man really believe that she has an instinctive
-and unquenchable craving for all the unpleasant
-and unremunerative jobs? Or is that only a
-polite way of expressing his deeply-rooted conviction
-that when once she has got a husband
-she ought to be so thoroughly happy that a little
-dirty work more or less really cannot matter
-to her?)</p>
-
-<p>It may be argued that in the greater number
-of cases marriage, for the husband, means the
-additional labour and expense of supporting a
-wife and children; and that this added labour
-and expense is expected from him as a matter of
-course, and that neither does he receive any
-thanks for it. Quite so; but, as I pointed out at
-the beginning of this book, marriage is a voluntary
-matter on the part of a man. He does not
-earn his living by it; he is under no necessity to
-undertake its duties and responsibilities should
-he prefer not to do so. He has other interests
-in life and no social stigma attaches to him if
-he does not take to himself a wife and beget<span class="pagenum" id="Page_100">100</span>
-children. He enters the marriage state because
-he wishes to enter it, and is prepared to make
-certain necessary sacrifices in order to maintain
-a wife and family; whereas the position of the
-woman is very different. She very often enters
-the married state because she has to&mdash;because
-more lucrative trades are barred to her, because
-to remain unmarried will be to confess failure.
-This state of things in itself gives the man an
-advantage, and enables him to ensure (not necessarily
-consciously) that his share of the bargain
-shall be advantageous to himself&mdash;to ensure, in
-short, that he gets his money’s worth. With his
-wife, on the other hand, it has often been a
-case of take it or leave it; since she knows
-that, if she does leave it, she will not be able
-to strike any more advantageous bargain elsewhere.</p>
-
-<p>These being the conditions under which, consciously
-or unconsciously, the average wife
-strikes her bargain, it follows that in the ensuing
-division of labour she generally gets the worst
-of the transaction, the duties assigned to her
-being those which her husband would prefer
-not to perform. They are handed over to her as<span class="pagenum" id="Page_101">101</span>
-a matter of course, and on the assumption that
-they enter into what is commonly known as her
-“sphere.” And it is this principle&mdash;that
-woman’s work is the kind of work which man
-prefers not to do&mdash;which regulates and defines
-not only the labour of a woman in her own
-household, but the labour of women generally.</p>
-
-<p>I am quite aware that this principle is not
-openly admitted in assigning to woman her share
-of the world’s work&mdash;that, on the contrary, the
-results of its application are explained away on
-the theory that there is a “natural” division of
-labour between the two sexes. But when one
-comes to examine that theory, dispassionately
-and without prejudice, one finds that it does
-not hold water&mdash;or very little&mdash;since the estimate
-of woman’s “natural” work is such an
-exceedingly variable quantity. One nation, people,
-or class, will esteem it “natural” in woman
-to perform certain duties which, in another nation,
-people, or class, are entirely left to men&mdash;so
-much so, that woman’s sphere, like morality,
-seems to be defined by considerations “purely
-geographical.” Unless we grasp the underlying
-principle that woman’s “natural” labour in<span class="pagenum" id="Page_102">102</span>
-any given community is the form of labour
-which the men of that community do not care
-to undertake, her share in the world’s work must
-appear to be regulated by sheer and arbitrary
-chance.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_103">103</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="VIII">VIII</h2>
-
-
-<p>As soon as one comes to examine this subject
-of the “natural” sphere of woman
-and woman’s work with anything like an
-open mind, one discovers that in at least nine
-cases out of ten the word “suitable” or “artificial”
-must be substituted for the word “natural.”
-There are only two kinds of work natural
-to any human being: the labour by which, in fulfilment
-of the curse laid upon Adam, he needs
-to earn his bread; and what may be called the
-artistic or spontaneous labour which he puts of
-his own free will into his hobbies, his pleasures,
-and his interests. In some cases the two kinds&mdash;the
-bread-winning and the artistic or spontaneous
-form of labour&mdash;can be combined; and
-those who can so combine them, be they rich or
-poor, are the fortunate ones of the earth. To a
-person in actual need of the means of supporting
-existence any form of labour by which he or
-she can earn or obtain those means of existence<span class="pagenum" id="Page_104">104</span>
-is a perfectly natural one. A sufficiently hungry
-coal-heaver would do his best to hemstitch a silk
-pocket-handkerchief for the price of a meal, and
-a sufficiently hungry woman would wrestle with
-a coal-heaver’s job for the same consideration.
-In neither case could the action of the sufficiently
-hungry person be called unnatural; on the contrary,
-it would be prompted by the first and most
-urgent of natural laws&mdash;the law of self-preservation,
-which would over-ride any considerations
-of unsuitability. It does not, of course, follow
-from this example that certain forms of labour
-are not more suitable to women in general, and
-others not more suitable to men in general; all I
-wish to insist on is that suitable and natural are
-not interchangeable terms, and that what may be
-suitable at one place and under one set of conditions
-may not be suitable in another place and
-under another set of conditions.</p>
-
-<p>The care of young children seems to be a department
-of labour so suitable to women that
-one may venture to assume that it is natural to
-a good many of them, though not by any means
-to all. (Not the least serious result of compulsory
-marriage has been the compulsory<span class="pagenum" id="Page_105">105</span>
-motherhood of women in whom the maternal
-instinct is slight&mdash;of whom there are many.) I
-do not mean that men should necessarily be excluded
-altogether from the tending of children;
-in many men the sense of fatherhood is very
-strong, in spite of the discouragement it receives
-under present conditions. If that discouragement
-were removed the paternal instinct might
-manifest itself in a more personal care of children;
-but on the whole one imagines that such
-personal care of children will always come more
-easily to woman. On the other hand, as most
-men are stronger muscularly than women, those
-departments of labour which require the exertion
-of considerable muscular strength must, under
-ordinary circumstances, naturally be monopolized
-by man. But between these two extremes
-there lies what may be called a neutral or
-debatable ground of labour requiring the exercise
-of qualities which are the exclusive property
-of neither sex. It is in this neutral field
-that the law to which I have alluded above
-comes into operation&mdash;the law under which the
-activities of women are confined to those departments
-of the labour market into which men do<span class="pagenum" id="Page_106">106</span>
-not care, or actively object, to enter. Thus,
-if there were no question of economic competition,
-it seems to me that the invasion by woman
-of these departments of the labour market which
-were formerly monopolized by men would be
-bound to awaken a certain amount of opposition;
-since her consequent desertion of the dull,
-unpleasant, and monotonous tasks assigned to
-her, might mean that these tasks would have to
-be performed by those who had hitherto escaped
-the necessity by shifting it on to her shoulders.
-Hence a natural and comprehensible resentment.</p>
-
-<p>The average and unthinking man who passes
-his existence in a modern civilized town, if he
-were asked upon what principle the work of the
-world were shared between the men and the
-women who inhabit it, would very probably
-reply, in his average and unthinking way, that
-the idea underlying the division of labour between
-the sexes was the idea of sparing woman
-the hard bodily toil for which she was unfitted
-by her lack of physical strength. If that really
-were the principle upon which the division of
-labour was made, it is clear that the ordinary
-male clerk ought at once to change places with<span class="pagenum" id="Page_107">107</span>
-the ordinary housemaid or charwoman, the ordinary
-ticket-collector with the ordinary laundress.
-The physical labour of holding a pen or collecting
-tickets is infinitely less than the physical
-labour of carrying coals upstairs, scrubbing a
-floor, or wringing out a dirty garment. There
-is no particular or inevitable reason why such
-changes should not be made&mdash;and no further
-away than France housemaid’s duties are very
-commonly performed by men. Clerking, the
-duties of a ticket-collector, laundry-work and
-housework are all situated upon that neutral
-ground of labour to which I have alluded above;
-they are forms of work which do not call for the
-exercise of qualities peculiar to either sex, and
-which, therefore, can be equally well performed
-by persons of either sex.</p>
-
-<p>To take another instance. In most civilized
-countries the rougher branches of agriculture
-are looked upon as work which is unsuited to
-women, because making too heavy demands upon
-their strength. Amongst primitive and semicivilized
-peoples, on the other hand, the tilling
-of the soil is often left entirely to women;
-while the dweller in towns&mdash;who usually has<span class="pagenum" id="Page_108">108</span>
-most to say about these matters&mdash;would probably
-be astonished if he realized how largely
-women’s work is employed, even in Europe, in
-the rougher processes of agriculture. (Within
-less than a twenty-four hours’ journey from
-London I have seen a woman yoked to a
-plough.) In certain small communities on the
-Breton coast I understand that the work of
-agriculture is carried on entirely by the women
-of the community; the men&mdash;fishermen by trade&mdash;occupying
-themselves during the long periods
-of enforced idleness between the fishing seasons
-by dressmaking for the household, and other
-forms of sewing. I have before me, as I write, a
-specimen of the needlework of one of these
-Breton fishermen: a penwiper, neatly cut and
-sewn, and quaintly ornamented with a design
-in yellow thread&mdash;the sort of trifle that we
-should regard as an essentially feminine production.
-To me such a division of labour does
-not seem in the least “unnatural.” Having regard
-to the circumstances, I can well understand
-that the man who took needle and scissors to
-produce my penwiper&mdash;and who had his fill of
-stormy and open air toil at other times&mdash;should<span class="pagenum" id="Page_109">109</span>
-prefer to set his hand to a restful occupation
-which would keep him in his home, rather than
-to the plough or the spade, which would take
-him out of it.</p>
-
-<p>In the beginning of things, labour seems to
-have been divided between the sexes on a fairly
-simple plan. Man did most of the hunting and
-most of the fighting; and woman, only joining
-in the hunting and fighting if necessity arose,
-did all the rest. In savage tribes which have
-suddenly come under the domination of a civilized
-race&mdash;a domination which usually means
-not only the cessation of tribal warfare, but a
-rapid decrease in the raw material of the chase&mdash;the
-male, debarred from the exercise of his
-former avocations, frequently refuses to do anything
-at all. Deprived of the only work proper
-to man, and disinclined, at first, to undertake
-the work he considers proper to woman, he is
-apt to fold his hands and exist in idleness on
-what is, to all intents and purposes, the slave-labour
-of his female belongings. The distaste
-of certain South African races for what we
-esteem men’s work is well known, and has had
-political consequences before now; and it is<span class="pagenum" id="Page_110">110</span>
-said that in some primitive American tribes
-a man would consider that he demeaned himself
-by undertaking such strictly feminine work
-as the hewing and carrying of wood. (One is
-led to the conclusion that the idea of woman as
-a wife-and-mother-and-nothing-else must be of
-comparatively modern growth. “Natural”
-man did not think of her in that light at all; he
-had so many other uses for her. Or, perhaps,
-one might put it that his definition of the duties
-of a wife and mother was comprehensive.)</p>
-
-<p>The early arts and the first processes of manufacture
-are supposed to have originated with that
-half of the human race which is now denied invention
-and initiative&mdash;arising naturally out of
-her more complicated duties and more settled
-habits of living. Woman was certainly, and all
-unknown to herself, the civilizing agent in the
-primitive community. The hut, clearing, or cave
-where she tended the hearth and carried on her
-rude industries, and whither her man returned
-from his roaming expeditions, was the germ and
-nucleus of the city where her descendants now
-dwell.</p>
-
-<p>It was not until the world grew more crowded,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_111">111</span>
-less of a place to fight in, less of a place to hunt
-in, that man began to consider other means and
-take to other ways of earning his living&mdash;to dig
-and to engage in manufactures. In other words,
-he began to invade the sphere of woman (it is
-as well to remember this), and to parcel out
-and divide the industries hitherto monopolized
-by her. This process of parcelling out and
-division was carried out in accordance with the
-principle already mentioned&mdash;that woman was
-to keep those trades which men did not care to
-embark upon; and, roughly speaking, his preference
-in the matter has always been for those
-callings and professions which ensured him, in
-addition to his livelihood, and, if possible, a
-prospect of advancement, a certain amount of
-variety in his existence, and a certain amount of
-intercourse with his fellows. His tendency,
-therefore, has been to annex those trades which
-afforded him the desired amount of variety, intercourse,
-and prospect of advancement, and to
-leave to woman the monotonous, prospectless,
-and isolated callings&mdash;callings which were usually
-connected with the home; and that tendency
-seems to have continued with very little check<span class="pagenum" id="Page_112">112</span>
-until the beginning of the revolution in our social
-and industrial system which was brought about
-by the introduction of machinery&mdash;a revolution
-which, incidentally and amongst other things, is
-changing almost beyond recognition the institution
-known as the home, modifying the relations
-of the sexes, and completely altering the position
-of woman by forcing her, whether she likes
-it or not, to stand on her own feet.</p>
-
-<p>I have dwelt at some length upon this tendency
-in the dominant sex&mdash;the outcome of no
-deliberate selfishness, but of the natural and instinctive
-human impulse to take the line of least
-resistance and get what one wants in the easiest
-way&mdash;because it seems to me to afford the only
-reasonable explanation of the customary hard
-and fast division of labour between an ordinary
-man and an ordinary wife. Fundamentally, I
-can see no reason why it should be the duty of
-the wife, rather than of the husband, to clean
-doorsteps, scrub floors, and do the family cooking.
-Men are just as capable as women of performing
-all these duties. They can clean doorsteps
-and scrub floors just as well as women;
-they can cook just as well as women, sometimes<span class="pagenum" id="Page_113">113</span>
-better. Why, then, should it be assumed that it
-is the natural thing for a married woman to take
-over these particular departments of work, and
-that when a bride undertakes to love, honour,
-and obey her husband, she also undertakes to
-scrub his floors and fry his steaks? The answer
-to that question seems to be, not that it is natural
-for a woman to like a form of labour which
-is usually monotonous and without prospect, but
-that it is quite natural for a man to dislike it&mdash;and
-therefore leave it to some one else.</p>
-
-<p>One of the best examples, in a small way, of
-the tendency I have been speaking of I got not
-long ago from a friend of mine, a woman of
-the working-class. I happened to be one of an
-audience she was addressing, when she suddenly
-put to it the unexpected question&mdash;“Why does
-the father carve the joint in rich people’s houses,
-when in poor people’s houses it is the mother
-who carves it?” One, at least, of her audience
-was entirely at a loss for an answer to the
-conundrum until it was duly furnished by the
-speaker&mdash;running as follows:<span class="pagenum" id="Page_114">114</span> “In rich people’s
-houses the father carves the joint, because there
-is always enough to go round and the carver can
-help himself to the tit-bits. In poor people’s
-houses the mother carves the joint, because there
-mayn’t be always enough to go round and the
-carver gets the last helping.” I have no doubt
-that her explanation of the two customs is correct.
-Where the labour of carving is a pleasant
-duty, likely to bring its reward, it is performed
-by the head of the household; where it is an unpleasant
-duty, incurring penalty in the place of
-reward, the head of the household decides to
-pass it on to some one else. I do not mean that
-he decides it after due and selfish deliberation&mdash;he
-simply obeys a natural unthinking impulse.</p>
-
-<p>It will be urged, of course, that motherhood
-and the care of children being the central point
-and fundamental interest in a woman’s life, the
-domestic duties and arts spring naturally from
-that central point and group themselves around
-it; and that this, and not any question of masculine
-likes and dislikes in the matter, is the real
-reason why, all over the world, certain forms of
-labour, some of them of a drudging and unpleasant
-nature, are thrust upon her&mdash;by the decree
-of Providence, and not by the will of her husband.</p>
-
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_115">115</span></p>
-
-<p>I am always suspicious of those decrees of
-Providence which run parallel to the interests of
-persons who have taken it upon themselves to
-expound Providential wisdom; and, as I have already
-explained, I am inclined to doubt that
-there exists in every woman an overpowering
-maternal instinct which swamps all other interests
-and desires. But even if, for the sake of
-argument, the universality of an overpowering
-maternal instinct be admitted, it is legitimate to
-point out that housework and its unpaid drudgery
-is not only performed in the interests of
-children. It is performed in childless households;
-it is expected, as a matter of course, by
-fathers from their daughters, by brothers from
-their sisters. It is performed, in short, in the
-interests of the man quite as much as in the interests
-of the child&mdash;perhaps more, since, in a
-busy household, the child, so far from being the
-central point and pivot of an establishment, is
-often attended to only incidentally, and in the
-time that can be snatched from other duties.
-Further, in the numerous households where husband
-and wife alike go out to work&mdash;perhaps at
-the same form of labour, as is the case in many<span class="pagenum" id="Page_116">116</span>
-factory districts&mdash;the woman on returning home
-(after working all day, just as her husband
-does, to contribute her share to the weekly
-expenses necessary for the support of household
-and children) has to cook, clean, sew, etc., in
-the time which her husband can employ as he
-chooses. In such instances the wife has taken
-her share in what are usually considered the
-typical duties of a husband, and it would be only
-reasonable to suppose that, in the consequent rearrangement
-of the domestic economy, the husband,
-as a matter of course, would take his share
-in the typical duties of a wife. In some cases,
-no doubt, he does; but as a general rule the
-household duties are left to the woman, in exactly
-the same manner as they would be left to
-her if she did not leave her house to work for a
-wage. And they are left to her simply because
-her husband considers them tiresome or unpleasant,
-and therefore declines to perform
-them.</p>
-
-<p>I have laid stress on the conditions under
-which woman’s work as a wife, mother, and
-housekeeper is usually carried on, because it
-seems to me that the influence of those condi<span class="pagenum" id="Page_117">117</span>tions
-has extended far beyond that narrow circle
-of the home to which, until comparatively lately,
-her energies have been confined. It was within
-the four walls of the home that man learned to
-look upon her as a being whose share of work
-was always the unpleasant share, and whose
-wages were the lowest wages that could possibly
-be given. And&mdash;which is far worse&mdash;she
-learned to look upon herself in the same light,
-as a creature from whom much must be demanded
-and to whom little must be given. Small
-wonder, then, with that age-long tradition behind
-her, that when she is forced out into the
-world, unorganized and unprepared, she finds
-it hard to get even a living wage for the work of
-her head and hands&mdash;and that when you speak
-of a sweated you mean a woman’s trade.</p>
-
-<p>There is, so far as I can see, only one way in
-which woman can make herself more valued,
-and free herself from the necessity of performing
-duties for which she gets neither thanks nor
-payment. She must do as men have always done
-in such a situation&mdash;shirk the duties.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_118">118</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="IX">IX</h2>
-
-
-<p>There is one element in the relations between
-man and wife to which, as yet, I
-have hardly referred. I mean that element
-which is known as the exercise of protection
-by the stronger over the weaker&mdash;by the
-man over the woman. In considering the rewards
-of wifehood, great or small, it cannot, of
-course, be passed over without examination,
-since it seems to be assumed that a man pays his
-wife for services unpaid in other ways by defending
-her against perils, physical or otherwise.</p>
-
-<p>Now there can be no doubt that in former
-ages and all over the world&mdash;as in certain
-regions of the world to-day&mdash;this physical protection
-of the weaker by the stronger, of the
-woman by the man, was a thing that really
-counted in marriage. The women of a savage
-tribe which was constantly at war with surrounding
-savage tribes, would have to rely on the
-strength and skill in warfare of their men to<span class="pagenum" id="Page_119">119</span>
-deliver them from capture or death. In such
-a primitive state of affairs every man might be
-called upon at any moment to exercise in his
-own person duties of defence and protection
-which the average man now delegates to the paid
-soldier and the paid policeman. In the beginning
-of things the head of every family possessed
-the right of private war and private justice, and
-it was on his success in both these fields of activity
-that the lives and the welfare of his womenfolk
-and children would very largely depend.
-It was only by virtue of his strength that he could
-maintain possession of his property in goods or in
-human flesh. It was by virtue of his superior
-strength that he reduced woman to subjection,
-and in return, and as a form of payment for her
-toil, defended her from the attacks of others. So
-arose and originated the idea of the physical
-protection necessarily meted out by husband to
-wife; an idea real enough in the beginning.
-Circumstances alter cases; but they often take
-a long time to alter ideas, and this particular
-one continues to flourish luxuriantly in places
-where the order of things that gave it birth
-has passed into the forgotten. One still hears<span class="pagenum" id="Page_120">120</span>
-people talk as if a clerk or a greengrocer’s
-assistant, married in a suburban chapel and going
-to Cliftonville for his honeymoon, undertook
-thereby to shelter his better half from heaven
-knows what of vague and mysterious peril.
-From other times and other manners, beginning
-with the days when a stone axe formed a necessary
-part of a bridegroom’s wedding garment,
-into places where moral force has fought the
-worst of its bitter battle with physical force,
-into days when private war is called murder
-and the streets are policed, there has come down
-the superstition that the ordinary civilized man
-performs doughty feats of protection for the
-benefit of the ordinary civilized wife. And it
-seems to be accepted that that element of protection
-is a natural and unavoidable element in
-the relations of married man and woman&mdash;even
-of married man and woman living in a suburban
-flat.</p>
-
-<p>Once upon a time it was a natural and unavoidable
-element in the relations of every
-married couple; just as it was natural and unavoidable,
-once upon a time, that the unwarlike
-and commercially-minded burghers of a medi<span class="pagenum" id="Page_121">121</span>æval
-city should bargain with a neighbouring
-and predatory baron to keep at bay&mdash;for a consideration&mdash;other
-barons no less predatory but
-a little less neighbouring. That sort of arrangement,
-I believe, was fairly common in the Middle
-Ages when predatory barons were in a position
-which enabled them to bend the law to their own
-liking, and when the obvious thing for honest
-and peaceable men to do was to set a thief
-to catch a thief. A recognized institution in its
-day, this particular form of protection passed
-with the growth of a central authority, with
-the suppression of private warfare and the substitution
-of a national for a tribal ideal. Instead
-of paying blackmail to a brigand, the
-city, in its later days, organized a police force
-of its own and contributed its share towards the
-upkeep of a national army. And the overlord
-vanished because, his duties having been taken
-away from him, there was nothing left for him
-to do. Much the same sort of thing has happened
-in other directions; increasing civilization
-has left other than barons without the duties
-that formerly appertained to their position.
-Like the protective functions of the overlord, the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_122">122</span>
-protective functions of the husband have been
-centralized and nationalized, regulated by the
-community and delegated to the soldier and the
-policeman. Where stable government exists the
-number of men who offer up their lives each year
-in actual defence of their own hearths and
-their own wives is, I imagine, small; so small
-that I do not suppose the insurance companies
-take much account of it in estimating their risks.
-I have not the least intention of casting any
-reflection upon the courage of the average civilized
-husband or inferring that he is not willing
-to offer up his life in defence of his better half
-if called upon to do so; I merely state the obvious
-fact that he is not very often called upon
-to make the sacrifice. Even in those countries
-where universal military service is established,
-the duty of defending the national (not the
-individual) hearth and home falls last upon men
-who are married and have a family to support;
-it is the young, unmarried men who are called
-upon to form the first line of defence and defiance.
-And in ordinary every-day life it is
-the strong arm of the law and not the strong
-arm of the individual husband which secures<span class="pagenum" id="Page_123">123</span>
-a woman from hurt and molestation. If it
-were not so the unprotected spinster would be
-in a truly piteous plight. As a matter of fact,
-she usually finds that the ordinary constable is
-quite adequate for all her requirements in the
-protective line.</p>
-
-<p>Closely allied to this idea of individual masculine
-protection is that other, and still more
-vaguely nebulous, idea of chivalry or preferential
-treatment of women in general by men in
-general. Which necessitates an inquiry into
-what the average modern man really means
-when he talks of chivalry in this connection.</p>
-
-<p>Frankly, it does not seem to me that he means
-very much. My own experience leads me to
-define chivalry&mdash;not the real thing, but the term
-as it is commonly used, say, in the public press&mdash;to
-define chivalry as a form, not of respect for
-an equal, but of condescension to an inferior;
-a condescension which expresses itself in certain
-rules of behaviour where non-essentials are involved.
-In very few really essential matters
-between man and woman is the chivalric principle
-allowed to get so much as a hearing; in
-practically all such matters it is, as I have<span class="pagenum" id="Page_124">124</span>
-already pointed out, an understood thing that
-woman gets the worst of the bargain, does the
-unpleasant work in the common division of
-labour, and, when blame is in question, sits
-down under the lion’s share of it. In return
-for this attitude on her part&mdash;which, if voluntary,
-would be really chivalrous, but being involuntary
-is merely servile&mdash;man undertakes to
-regulate his conduct towards her by certain particular
-forms of outward deference. His attitude,
-so far as one can gather is something like
-this: as long as you refrain from coming into
-competition with us, as long as you will
-allow us to look down upon you, as long as
-you are content to regard yourselves not only
-as our dependents, but as persons sent into the
-world to minister to our comforts and our
-pleasures, so long shall our outward behaviour
-towards you be framed in a particular code of
-manners which secures you preferential treatment
-in unimportant matters. But, in order to
-secure this preferential treatment in unimportant
-matters, you must put no strain upon our courtesy,
-and you must defer to our wishes in more
-important things; you must not trespass upon<span class="pagenum" id="Page_125">125</span>
-the domain that we have reserved for our own
-use, you must not infringe the rules which have
-been laid down for your guidance and whose
-aim is to secure our own comfort.</p>
-
-<p>In other words what is commonly known as
-“chivalry” is not a spontaneous virtue or impulse
-on the part of modern man, but the form
-in which he pays his debt for value received from
-woman. Directly she fails to fulfil her own important
-share of the bargain, he considers himself
-at liberty to refuse payment; at least, one
-must conclude so from the frequency with which
-the “independent” woman of to-day is threatened
-with the extinction of chivalry if she continued
-to assert herself in a manner which may
-be consistent with her own desires, but which
-is not consistent with the desires of average male
-humanity. Looked at in that light, the preferential
-code of manners, which is all that is
-usually understood by chivalry, bears distinct
-resemblance to the sugar that attempts to veil
-the flavour of a pill or the jam that does its
-best to conceal the noxiousness of a lurking
-powder. By a simple process of exchange and
-barter outward deference on the one side is<span class="pagenum" id="Page_126">126</span>
-given in payment for real deference and subjection
-on the other; and, that being the case,
-it is quite open to woman to look into the terms
-of her bargain, reconsider them, and ask herself
-whether she is not paying too high a price for
-value received. For, with every respect for
-courtesy, the opening of a door and the lifting
-of a hat, however reverential, are among the
-small things of life.</p>
-
-<p>It will no doubt be objected that chivalry is
-something infinitely greater than what I have
-called outward forms of deference. I agree
-that that is not the true meaning of the word;
-but I maintain that, in general practice, the
-virtue of chivalry, in so far as it enters into
-the daily lives of most women, amounts to outward
-forms of deference and little more. As
-soon as we come to essentials, we realize that
-the counteracting principle will inevitably be
-brought into play&mdash;the principle that the woman
-must always be sacrificed to the interests of the
-man.</p>
-
-<p>There are, of course, exceptions to that rule&mdash;and
-noble ones. It is written that in common
-danger of death the stronger must think first,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_127">127</span>
-not of his own life, but of the lives of those
-weaker and dependent upon him; and whatever
-other laws a man might break with impudence
-and impunity, he would very certainly be
-ashamed to confess to a breach of this particular
-commandment. One respects such habitual
-obedience as fine and finely disciplined; but it
-is not decrying it to point out that not every
-man is called upon to exercise it and that the
-form of chivalry cultivated by most is necessarily
-of a less strenuous type. And into chivalry
-of the less strenuous type the idea of self-sacrifice
-in essentials does not as a rule enter,
-since it is, as I have already shown, in the nature
-of a reward or payment for self-sacrifice in
-others.</p>
-
-<p>I am quite aware that there are a great many
-women of the upper and middle classes&mdash;women,
-for the most part, who lead a leisured and
-comfortable existence&mdash;who attach an inordinately
-high value to outward forms of deference
-from the men with whom they come in contact.
-Considering their training and education, and
-the trend of their whole lives, it is perhaps only
-natural that they should. The aim of that<span class="pagenum" id="Page_128">128</span>
-training and education has been, as I have
-shown, not to develop their individuality and
-capacities, but to make themselves and their
-actions pleasing to the men with whom they
-may happen to come in contact; and, that being
-so, approval from the men with whom they
-may happen to come in contact is naturally a
-thing of the utmost importance to them. To
-lack it is to lack the whole reward of a well-spent
-life. By women with this narrow outlook
-on the world superficial courtesies and
-superficial deference are interpreted to mean
-approval and, therefore, success in pleasing&mdash;almost
-the only form of success open to them.
-Further, the lives of such women are usually
-sheltered, and thus they do not have very much
-opportunity of realizing that the meed of ceremony
-to which they are accustomed is largely
-a tribute paid, not to themselves or to their
-womanhood, but to the particular leisured class
-to which they happen to belong.</p>
-
-<p>Whatever the reason, it is certain that many
-women of the “comfortable” class do cling
-desperately and rather pathetically to the idea
-of their little privileges in this respect; I have<span class="pagenum" id="Page_129">129</span>
-over and over again heard such women oppose
-efforts to better their own position and that of
-others simply on the ground that “men would
-not treat us in the same way&mdash;there would be
-no chivalry, they would not be polite to us any
-longer.” Apparently the good souls are under
-the impression that no man is ever polite to a
-person he does not despise; and this sort of
-argument shows how completely those who use
-it have learned to substitute the shadow for the
-reality and dissociate what is commonly called
-chivalry from respect. To them masculine
-courtesy is an expression not of reverence for
-women, but of more or less kindly contempt
-for them&mdash;and they are quite content that it
-should be so. Personally, this attitude&mdash;an attitude
-of voluntary abasement assumed in order
-that man may know the pleasure of condescension&mdash;is
-the only thing that ever makes me
-ashamed of being a woman; since it is the outward
-and visible expression of an inward servility
-that has eaten and destroyed a soul.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_130">130</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="X">X</h2>
-
-
-<p>Modern chivalry, then, has been narrowed
-down, if not in theory, at any
-rate in practice, to a code of deferential
-behaviour affecting such matters and contingencies
-as the opening of doors, the lifting of hats,
-and the handing of teacups; but not touching
-or affecting the pre-eminence and predominance
-of man in the more important interests of life.
-At its best, such a code of behaviour is a meritorious
-attempt to atone for advantage in essentials
-by self-abnegation in non-essentials; at its
-worst, it is simply an expression of condescension.</p>
-
-<p>That there is a chivalry which means something
-other and more than this&mdash;which is based
-upon the idea, not of condescension, but of real
-respect for women&mdash;I shall not deny; but it is
-comparatively rare&mdash;for the simple reason that
-the qualities encouraged and fostered in the
-ordinary woman are not the sort of qualities<span class="pagenum" id="Page_131">131</span>
-which command respect. They may have other
-merits, but that one they lack. For, be it noted,
-respect is a tribute to be commanded; not a reward
-to be won by supplication, by abasement,
-or compliance with the wishes of others. We
-do not necessarily like what we respect&mdash;for instance,
-the strength, the skill, and the resources
-of an enemy; and we do not necessarily respect
-in other people qualities which, in our own
-interests, we should like them to possess&mdash;qualities
-of subservience, submission, and timidity,
-which we are quite willing to make use of even
-while we despise them.</p>
-
-<p>This latter attitude, it seems to me, is the
-attitude of man to woman. For generations the
-training of woman has been directed towards
-the encouragement in her of certain qualities
-and characteristics&mdash;such as subservience, narrowness
-of mind, stupidity&mdash;all of them designed
-to promote the comfort and well-being of her
-owner, but none of them calculated to arouse in
-him a sensation of esteem. One may be kind
-to a person who is subservient, narrow-minded,
-and stupid; but one does not respect that person.
-It is no reproach whatever to a man to say that<span class="pagenum" id="Page_132">132</span>
-he does not respect women so long as he believes
-(and is encouraged to believe) that their only
-interests in life are the interests represented in
-a newspaper by the page entitled, <cite>Woman’s
-World</cite>, or the <cite>Sphere of Woman</cite>&mdash;a page dealing
-with face-powder, frilled nightgowns, and
-anchovy toast. No sane and intelligent man
-could feel any real respect for a woman whose
-world was summed up in these things. If the
-face-powder were applied with discretion and
-the directions on the subject of anchovy toast
-carried out with caution, he might find her an
-ornament as well as a convenience in his home;
-but it would be impossible for him to respect
-her, because she would not be, in the
-proper sense of the word, respectable. If
-he encourages the type, it is not because he
-respects it.</p>
-
-<p>It may, of course, be urged that woman’s
-claim to reverence and respect is based on far
-higher and surer ground than mere intelligence,
-or even character&mdash;on the fulfilment of her
-duties as wife and mother. Personally, I fail
-to see that any very great measure of respect
-or reverence is dealt out to her on this or any<span class="pagenum" id="Page_133">133</span>
-other ground&mdash;except, perhaps, now and again
-on paper; and even if it were, I should not,
-under present conditions, consider it justified.
-As long as the fulfilment of those duties is not
-a purely voluntary action on the part of woman,
-it gives her no claim upon any one’s respect.
-Heroism under pressure is not heroism at all;
-and there is, to my mind, nothing the least exalted
-or noble in bringing up children, cooking
-chops, and cleaning doorsteps merely because
-very few other ways of earning a decent living
-happen to be open to you. And so long as
-marriage and motherhood are not matters of
-perfectly free choice on the part of the majority
-of women, so long will the performance of the
-duties incurred by marriage and motherhood,
-however onerous and however important, constitute
-no particular title to respect.</p>
-
-<p>In so far as men do respect women, and not
-despise them, it seems to me that they respect
-them for exactly those qualities which they esteem
-in each other&mdash;and which, paradoxically
-enough, are for the most part exactly those
-qualities which they have done their best to
-erase and eradicate from the feminine character.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_134">134</span>
-The characteristics which make a man or a
-woman “respectable” are not the characteristics
-of subserviency and servility; on the contrary,
-those particular characteristics, even when
-encouraged for interested reasons, are rightly
-and naturally regarded with contempt. They
-may be more comfortable to live with&mdash;man evidently
-thinks so&mdash;but, comfortable or not, they
-are despised instinctively. They have their reward,
-no doubt; but that reward is not reverence
-and respect&mdash;since reverence and respect must
-be commanded, not coaxed or cringed for. A
-woman who insists on flinging aside the traditions
-of her early training, standing on her own
-feet, fighting her own battle, and doing that
-which is right in her own eyes, may not get
-from man anything more than respect, but, in
-the long run, she will certainly get that. It may
-be given grudgingly, but it will be given, all
-the same; since courage and independence of
-thought are qualities respectable in themselves.
-And, on the other hand, and however much he
-may desire to do so, it is, I should say, quite
-impossible for any thinking man to entertain a
-real reverence and esteem for a section of hu<span class="pagenum" id="Page_135">135</span>manity
-which he believes to exist solely in order
-to perform certain animal functions connected
-with, and necessary to, the reproduction of the
-race. After all, it is not upon the performance
-of a purely animal function that a human being
-should found his or her title to respect; if
-woman is reverenced only because she reproduces
-her kind, a still higher meed of reverence
-is due to the rabbit.</p>
-
-<p>And in this connection it is interesting to note
-that the mediæval institution of chivalry, with
-its exalted, if narrow, ideal of reverence for, and
-service of, womanhood, took its rise and flourished
-in times when the housekeeping and child-bearing
-trade was not the only occupation open
-to women; when, on the contrary, they had, in
-the religious life, an alternative career, equally
-honoured with, if not more honoured than,
-marriage; and when it was not considered essential
-to the happiness and well-being of every
-individual woman to pair off, after the fashion
-of the animals going into the ark. Whatever
-the defects and drawbacks of conventual life, it
-stood for the principle, denied before and since,
-that woman had an existence of her own apart<span class="pagenum" id="Page_136">136</span>
-from man, a soul to be saved apart from man.
-It was a flat defiance of the theory that she came
-into the world only to marry and reproduce her
-kind; it acknowledged and admitted the importance
-of her individual life and conduct; in
-short, it recognized her as something besides a
-wife and a mother, and gave her other claims
-to respect than that capacity for reproduction
-which she shared with the lower animals.
-Further, by making celibacy an honourable instead
-of a despised estate, it must have achieved
-an important result from an economic point of
-view; it must have lessened the congestion in
-the marriage market by lessening the number
-of women who regarded spinsterhood as the
-last word in failure. It enhanced the value of
-the wife and mother by making it not only
-possible, but easy, for her to become something
-else. It opened up a career to an ambitious
-woman; since, in the heyday of the Church, the
-head of a great community of nuns was something
-more than a recluse&mdash;a power in the land,
-an administrator of estates. None of these
-things, of course, were in the minds of those
-who instituted the celibate, conventual life as<span class="pagenum" id="Page_137">137</span>
-a refuge from the world; they were its unforeseen
-results, but none the less real because unforeseen.
-They followed on the institution of
-the conventual life for woman because it represented
-the only organized attempt ever made
-to free her from the necessity of compulsory
-marriage and child-bearing.</p>
-
-<p>I have no bias, religious or otherwise, in
-favour of the conventual life, which, as hitherto
-practised, is no doubt open to objection on many
-grounds; but it seems to me that any institution
-or system which admits or implies a reason for
-woman’s existence other than sexual intercourse
-and the reproduction of her kind must tend inevitably
-to raise the position not only of the
-celibate woman, but, indirectly, of the wife and
-mother. In its palmy days, when it was a factor
-not only in the spiritual life of a religious body,
-but in the temporal life of the State, the convent,
-with all its defects, must have stood for the
-advancement of women; and if it had never
-come into existence, I very much doubt whether
-the injunctions laid upon knighthood would
-have included respect for and service of womanhood.</p>
-
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_138">138</span></p>
-
-<p>The upheaval which we term the Reformation,
-whatever its other merits, was distinctly
-anti-feminist in its tendencies. Where it did
-not sweep the convent away altogether, it narrowed
-its scope and sapped its influence; and,
-being anti-feminist, evolved no new system to
-take the place of that which it had swept away.
-The necessity of replacing the monk by the
-schoolmaster was recognized, but not the necessity
-of replacing the nun by the schoolmistress;
-the purely physical and reproductive idea of
-woman being once again uppermost, the need
-for training her mind no longer existed. The
-masterful women of the Renaissance had few
-successors; and John Knox, with his <cite>Monstrous
-Regiment of Women</cite>, but the mouthpiece
-of an age which was setting vigorously
-to work to discourage individuality and
-originality in the weaker sex by condemning
-deviations from the common type to be burnt
-as witches.</p>
-
-<p>This favourite pastime of witch-burning has
-not, I think, been sufficiently taken into account
-in estimating the reason for the low standard
-of intelligence attained by women at a time<span class="pagenum" id="Page_139">139</span>
-when men were making considerable progress
-in social and intellectual fields. The general
-impression appears to be that only old, ugly,
-and decrepit hags fell victims to popular superstition
-or the ingenuity of the witch-finder; but,
-as a matter of fact, when the craze for witch-finding
-was at its height, any sort of peculiarity,
-even beauty of an unusual and arresting type,
-seems to have been sufficient to expose a woman
-to the suspicion of secret dealings with the Prince
-of Darkness. At first sight it seems curious
-(since the religious element in a people is usually
-the feminine element) that the Prince of Darkness
-should have confined his dealings almost
-exclusively to women&mdash;it has been estimated that
-wizards were done to death in the proportion
-of one to several thousand witches; but on
-further consideration one inclines to the belief
-that the fury of witch-burning by which our
-ancestors were possessed must have been
-prompted by motives other than purely devotional.
-In all probability those motives were
-largely unconscious; but the rage of persecution
-against the witch has so much in common with
-the customary masculine policy of repressing, at<span class="pagenum" id="Page_140">140</span>
-any cost, all deviations from the type of wife-and-mother-and-nothing-else,
-that one cannot
-help the suspicion that it was more or less unconsciously
-inspired by that policy.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_141">141</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XI">XI</h2>
-
-
-<p>So far as I have treated of the various influences
-which have been brought to bear
-upon women with the object of fitting
-them for the trade to which the male half of
-humanity desired to confine them; and I have,
-I hope, made it clear that, to a certain extent,
-these influences have defeated their own ends
-by discouraging the intelligence which ought to
-be a necessary qualification for motherhood,
-even if it is not a necessary qualification for
-wifehood. It remains to be considered what
-effect this peculiar training for one particular
-and peculiar trade has had upon woman’s activity
-in those departments of the world’s work
-which are not connected with marriage and
-motherhood, how it has acted upon her capacity
-for wage-earning and bread-winning on her own
-account, how it has affected her power of achievement
-in every other direction; what, in short,
-has been its effect upon woman in the life that<span class="pagenum" id="Page_142">142</span>
-she leads apart from man. (I must ask the
-male reader to be good enough to assume, even
-if he cannot honestly believe, that woman can,
-and occasionally does, lead a life apart from
-man.)</p>
-
-<p>And one notes, to begin with, that the customary
-training, or lack of training, for marriage
-tends almost inevitably to induce that habit
-and attitude of mind which is known as amateurishness.
-And particularly, I should say,
-in the large class of society, which we describe
-roughly as the middle class; where the uncertainty
-with regard to the position, profession
-and consequent manner of living of the probable
-husband is so great as to make a thorough and
-businesslike training for the future nearly an
-impossibility. The element of chance&mdash;an element
-which plays such a very large part in the
-life, at any rate, of the average married woman&mdash;may
-upset all calculations based on the probable
-occupation and requirements of the husband,
-render carefully acquired accomplishments useless
-or unnecessary, and call for the acquirement
-of others hitherto unwanted and even undreamed
-of. Two sisters brought up in exactly the same<span class="pagenum" id="Page_143">143</span>
-surroundings and educated in exactly the same
-manner may marry, the one a flourishing professional
-or city man, who expects her to dress
-well, talk well, give good dinners and generally
-entertain his friends; the other a man whose
-work lies on the frontier of civilization where
-she will find it necessary to learn something of
-the management of horses and to manufacture
-her own soap and candles. While a third sister
-in the same family may never marry at all, but
-pass her life in furnished apartments, being
-waited on by landladies. These may be extreme,
-but they are not very unusual instances
-of the large part taken by sheer chance in the
-direction of a woman’s life and the consequent
-impossibility of mapping out and preparing for
-the future. Hence a lack of thoroughness and
-an attitude towards life of helplessness and what
-I have called amateurishness. (The corresponding
-male attitude is found in the unskilled
-labourer of the “odd job” type.) Hence also
-the common feminine habit of neglecting more
-solid attainments in order to concentrate the
-energies on an endeavour to be outwardly attractive.</p>
-
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_144">144</span></p>
-
-<p>This concentration of energy on personal
-adornment, usually attributed to vanity or overflowing
-sexuality, is, so far as I can see, largely
-the outcome of a sound business instinct. For,
-be it remembered, that the one solid fact upon
-which an ordinary marriageable girl has to
-build the edifice of her life is the fact that men
-are sensitive to, and swayed by, that quality
-in woman which is called personal charm. What
-else her future husband will demand of her is
-more or less guess-work&mdash;nothing upon which to
-raise a solid foundation of preparation for his
-requirements and her own. He may require
-her to sit at the head of his table and talk
-fashionable gossip to his friends; he may require
-her to saddle horses and boil soap; the
-only thing she can be fairly certain of is that
-he will require her to fulfil his idea of personal
-attractiveness. As a matter of business then,
-and not purely from vanity, she specializes in
-personal attractiveness; and the care, the time
-and the thoroughness which many women
-devote to their own adornment, the choosing
-of their dresses and the curling of their hair
-is thoroughly professional and a complete<span class="pagenum" id="Page_145">145</span>
-contrast to their amateurishness in other
-respects.</p>
-
-<p>The cultivation of personal charm, sometimes
-to the neglect of more solid and valuable attainments,
-is the more natural, because, as I have
-already pointed out, the material rewards of
-wifehood and motherhood have no connection
-at all with excellence in the performance of the
-duties of wifehood and motherhood&mdash;the wage
-paid to a married woman being merely a wage
-for the possession of her person. That being
-the case, the one branch of woman’s work which
-is likely to bring her a material reward in the
-shape of an economically desirable husband is
-cultivation of a pleasing exterior and attractive
-manners; and to this branch of work she usually,
-when bent on marriage, applies herself in the
-proper professional spirit. A sensible, middle-class
-mother may insist on her daughter receiving
-adequate instruction in the drudgery of
-household work and cookery; but if the daughter
-should be fortunate enough to marry well
-such instruction will be practically wasted, since
-the scrubbing, the stewing, the frying and the
-making of beds, will inevitably be deputed to<span class="pagenum" id="Page_146">146</span>
-others. And the sensible, middle-class mother
-is quite aware that her daughter’s chance of
-marrying well and shirking disagreeable duties
-does not depend on the excellent manner in which
-she performs those duties, but on the quality
-of her personal attractions. The cultivation of
-her personal attractions, therefore, is really a
-more important and serious business for the
-girl who desires to marry than the acquirement
-of domestic accomplishments, which may, or
-may not, be useful in her after life, and which
-in themselves are unlikely to secure her the needful
-husband. This state of things is frankly
-recognized in the upper or wealthier ranks of
-society. There the typical domestic arts find
-practically no place in a girl’s scheme of training,
-which is directed solely towards the end of
-making her personally attractive and therefore
-desirable. Which means, of course, that those
-women who are in a position to do so concentrate
-their energies on the cultivation of those particular
-outward qualities by which alone they
-can hope to satisfy their ambition, their need for
-comfort, luxury, etc., or their desire to bring
-children into the world. They recognize that<span class="pagenum" id="Page_147">147</span>
-however much man may profess to admire the
-domestic and maternal qualities in woman, it
-is not that side of her which arouses in him the
-desire for possession, and that the most effective
-means of arousing that desire for possession is
-personal charm. We have been told that every
-woman is at heart a rake; it would, I think,
-be more correct to say that every woman who
-desires to attract some member of the opposite
-sex so that she may marry and bear children
-must, whatever she is at heart, be something of
-a rake on the surface.</p>
-
-<p>With girls of the working-class, of course,
-a certain amount of training in domestic work
-is usually gone through, since it is obvious that
-domestic work will be required of them in after
-life; but even in the humblest ranks of society
-the rule holds good that it is personal attractiveness
-and not skill in the duties required of
-a wife and mother which make a girl sought
-after and admired by the opposite sex. Consequently
-even working-class wives and mothers,
-women who have no chance of deputing their
-duties to paid servants, are frequently nothing
-but amateurs at their trade&mdash;which they have<span class="pagenum" id="Page_148">148</span>
-only acquired incidentally. In practically all
-ranks of society the real expert in housekeeping
-or the care and management of infants is the
-“unattached” woman who works in other
-people’s houses and attends to other people’s
-children. She is the professional who knows
-her business and earns her living by it; the wife
-and mother, as often as not, being merely the
-amateur.</p>
-
-<p>Human nature, and especially male human
-nature, being what it is, I do not know whether
-it is possible or even desirable that this state of
-things should be altered. My object in calling
-attention to it is not to suggest alteration (I have
-none to suggest), but simply to point out that
-women who are brought up in the expectation
-of marriage and nothing but marriage are almost
-of necessity imbued with that spirit of amateurishness
-which makes for inefficiency; and that
-this spirit has to be taken into account in estimating
-their difficulties where they have to turn
-their attention to other trades than marriage.</p>
-
-<p>There are several other respects in which the
-marriage tradition (by which I mean the practical
-identification during many generations of<span class="pagenum" id="Page_149">149</span>
-womanhood with wifehood and motherhood)
-acts as a drag and a hindrance to the woman
-who, married or unmarried and with or against
-her will, has been swept out of the sacred and
-narrow sphere of home to compete for a wage
-in the open market. (Be it remembered that
-she is now numbered not by hundreds or thousands,
-but by millions.) As I have already
-pointed out, the trade of marriage is, by its
-very nature, an isolated trade, permitting of
-practically no organization or common action
-amongst the workers; and consequently the marriage-trained
-woman (and nearly all women are
-marriage-trained&mdash;or perhaps it would be more
-correct to say marriage expectant) enters industrial
-or commercial life with no tradition of
-such organization and common action behind
-her.</p>
-
-<p>I do not think that the average man realizes
-how much the average woman is handicapped
-by the lack of this tradition, nor does he usually
-trouble to investigate the causes of his own undoubted
-superiority in the matter of combination
-and all that combination implies. In accordance
-with his usual custom of explaining the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_150">150</span>
-shortcomings of womanhood by an inferiority
-that is inherent and not artificial and induced, he
-assumes that women cannot combine for industrial
-and other purposes because it is “natural”
-for them to be jealous and distrustful of one
-another. (This assumption is, of course, an
-indirect compliment to himself, since the jealousy
-and distrust of women for each other is understood
-to be inspired solely by their overpowering
-desire to attract the admiration of the opposite
-sex.)</p>
-
-<p>This simple and&mdash;to man&mdash;flattering explanation
-of woman’s inferiority in this respect completely
-fails to take into account the fact that
-the art of combination for a common purpose
-has been induced in one half of humanity by
-influences which have not been brought to bear
-upon the other half. I do not suppose that
-even the firmest and most hardened believer in
-woman’s essential disloyalty, treachery and incapacity
-for common action, would venture to
-maintain that if all the men of past generations
-had been compelled to earn their living at isolated
-forms of labour&mdash;say, as lighthouse-keepers
-or shepherds in mountainous districts&mdash;<span class="pagenum" id="Page_151">151</span>
-the faculty of united action for common ends
-would be very highly developed amongst them.
-As I have already tried to show, in the division
-of labour between the two sexes man has almost
-invariably reserved for himself (having the
-power to do so, and because he considered them
-preferable) those particular occupations which
-brought him into frequent contact with his fellows,
-which entailed meeting others and working
-side by side with them; and this frequent
-contact with his fellows was, in itself, a form
-of education which has been largely denied to
-the other half of humanity. Woman’s intercourse
-with her kind has been much more limited
-in extent, and very often purely and narrowly
-social in character. Until comparatively recent
-years it was unusual for women to form one
-of a large body of persons working under similar
-conditions and conscious of similar interests.
-It is scarcely to be wondered at that the modern
-system of industrialism with its imperative need
-for co-operation and common effort should have
-found her&mdash;thanks to her training&mdash;unprepared
-and entirely at a disadvantage.</p>
-
-<p>It must be remembered also that the generality<span class="pagenum" id="Page_152">152</span>
-and mass of women have never come under the
-direct influence of two of the most potent factors
-in the social education and evolution of man as
-we know him&mdash;war and politics. However de-civilizing
-an agency war may appear to-day, it
-has not been without its civilizing influence,
-since it was through the necessity of standing
-side by side for purposes of offence and defence
-that man first learned the art of combining for
-a common end, and acquired the virtues, at
-first purely military, that, in course of time and
-under different circumstances, were to develop
-into civic virtues. The camp was the state in
-embryo, the soldier the citizen in embryo, and
-the military tradition the collective and social
-tradition of organization for a common purpose
-and common interests. In the face of a common
-peril, such as war, men readily forget their
-differences and work shoulder to shoulder.
-Hence an appeal to the fears or the warlike
-spirit of a discontented people is the instinctive
-refuge of a government in difficulties, since there
-is no means so effective for producing at least a
-passing phase of unity amongst the jarring elements
-of a nation.</p>
-
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_153">153</span></p>
-
-<p>Woman, so far as one can judge, is, when
-occasion arises, just as much influenced by that
-necessity of common action in a common danger
-which first produced unity of effort and public
-spirit in man; but for her, as a rule, occasion
-has not arisen. Now and again under exceptional
-circumstances, such as a desperate and
-hard-fought siege, she has shown that the sense
-of peril acts upon her in exactly the same way
-as it acts upon her brethren; but the actual
-waging of battle has not often, even in the most
-turbulent of ages, entered into her life to teach
-her (along with other and less desirable lessons)
-the lesson of united effort and subordination of
-individual interest to the common weal.</p>
-
-<p>The exclusion of woman from the arena of
-politics has barred to her another method of
-acquiring the art of combination and the strength
-that inevitably springs from it; an exclusion
-based upon the deep-rooted masculine conviction
-that she exists not for her own benefit and advantage,
-but for the comfort and convenience of
-man. Granted that she came into the world
-for that purpose only, the right of effective
-combination in her own interests is clearly un<span class="pagenum" id="Page_154">154</span>necessary
-and undesirable, since it might possibly
-lead to results not altogether conducive to
-the comfort and convenience of man. The
-masculine attitude in this matter seems quite
-logical.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_155">155</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XII">XII</h2>
-
-
-<p>The above are not the only respects in
-which the peculiar training for, or expectation
-of, marriage acts disadvantageously
-upon woman as soon as she steps outside
-the walls of the home to earn her bread
-by other means than household work and the
-bearing and rearing of children. I have already
-pointed out that the wage she receives for her
-work as a wife and mother is the lowest that
-she can receive&mdash;a wage of subsistence only;
-and I believe that the exceedingly low rate at
-which her services inside the home are valued
-has had a great deal to do with the exceedingly
-low value placed upon her services outside the
-home. Because her work as a wife and mother
-was rewarded only by a wage of subsistence,
-it was assumed that no other form of work she
-undertook was worthy of a higher reward; because
-the only trade that was at one time open
-to her was paid at the lowest possible rate, it<span class="pagenum" id="Page_156">156</span>
-was assumed that in every other trade into
-which she gradually forced her way she must
-also be paid at the lowest possible rate. The
-custom of considering her work as worthless
-(from an economic point of view) originated in
-the home, but it has followed her out into the
-world. Since the important painful and laborious
-toil incurred by marriage and motherhood
-was not deemed worthy of any but the lowest
-possible wage, it was only natural that other
-duties, often far less toilsome and important,
-should also be deemed unworthy of anything
-much in the way of remuneration.</p>
-
-<p>It is very commonly assumed, of course, that
-the far higher rate of wage paid to a man is
-based on the idea that he has, or probably
-will have, a wife and children for whom he is
-bound to make provision. If this were really
-the case, a widow left with a young family to
-support by her labour, or even the mother of
-an illegitimate child, would be paid for her
-work on the same basis as a man is paid for
-performing similar duties. It is hardly needful
-to state that the mother of fatherless children
-is not, as a rule, paid more highly than her un<span class="pagenum" id="Page_157">157</span>married
-sister. Nor is the theory that the “unattached”
-woman has only herself to support,
-and does not contribute to the needs of others,
-borne out by facts. I believe that in all ranks
-of society there is a pronounced disposition on
-the part of the family to regard the income,
-earned or unearned, of its female members as
-something in the nature of common property&mdash;the
-income, earned or unearned, of its male
-members as much more of an individual possession.
-Wives who work for a wage in factories,
-workshops, etc., usually devote the whole of
-their earnings to the upkeep of the home; their
-husbands very commonly only a part. Where
-sons and daughters of the same family go out
-to work and live under one roof, it is customary
-for the girls to put practically the entire amount
-of their wage into the common domestic fund,
-while their brothers, from quite early years, pay
-a fixed sum to cover the expenses of their
-board and lodging, retaining, as a matter of
-course, the rest of their earnings for their own
-individual use. And, so far as my observation
-goes, the same rule holds good in the upper
-and middle classes. In the case of any monetary<span class="pagenum" id="Page_158">158</span>
-difficulty, any need of financial help, the appeal,
-in the first instance, is nearly always made to
-those women of the family who are understood
-to be in a position to respond to it; it is tacitly
-assumed that they must be the first to suffer
-and sacrifice themselves, the men of the family
-being appealed to only when the women are
-unable or unwilling to meet the demand. My
-experience may be unusual, but I have met very
-few working-women of any class who, earning
-a decent livelihood at their trade or profession,
-were not called upon to share their livelihood
-with others.</p>
-
-<p>It is not, therefore, on the ground that she
-has no one but herself to support that a woman
-is almost invariably paid at a rate far lower
-than the wage which would be given to a man
-for the performance of the same work. A good
-many causes have combined to bring about the
-sweating of women customary in most, if not
-all, departments of the labour market; but it
-seems to me that not the least of those causes
-is the long-established usage of regarding the
-work of a wife in the home as valueless from
-the economic point of view&mdash;a thing to be paid<span class="pagenum" id="Page_159">159</span>
-for (if paid for at all) by occasional gushes
-of sentiment. Woman and wife being, according
-to masculine ideas, interchangeable terms,
-it follows that, since the labour of a wife is
-valueless from the economic point of view, the
-labour of any woman is valueless. Naturally
-enough, this persistent undervaluing of her services
-has had its effect upon woman herself;
-having been taught for generations that she
-must expect nothing but the lowest possible wage
-for her work, she finds considerable difficulty
-in realizing that it is worth more&mdash;and undersells
-her male competitor. Thereupon angry
-objections on the part of the male competitor,
-who fails to realize that cheap female labour
-is one of the inevitable results of the complete
-acceptance by woman of the tradition of her
-own inferiority to himself.</p>
-
-<p>One wonders what sort of generation of
-women that would be which grew from childhood
-to maturity unhampered and unhindered
-by the tradition of its own essential inferiority
-to the male half of humanity. Such a generation,
-at present, is a matter of pure guesswork;
-at least, I have never yet known the woman,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_160">160</span>
-however independent, self-reliant, indulged, or
-admired, who was not in some way affected by
-that tradition&mdash;consciously or unconsciously.
-Even those of us who have never known what
-it was to have a man to lean on, who have
-had to fight our way through the world as the
-average male fights his, and (since things are
-made infinitely easier for him) under disadvantages
-unknown to the average man&mdash;even
-we find ourselves, unaccountably and at unexpected
-moments, acting in accordance with the
-belief in which we were reared, and deferring
-to the established tradition of inherent masculine
-superiority; deferring to it after a fashion
-that, being realized, is amusing to ourselves.</p>
-
-<p>The effect of this attitude of the two sexes
-towards each other&mdash;an attitude of inherent and
-essential superiority on the one side, of inherent
-and essential inferiority on the other&mdash;is nearly
-always apparent when men and women work
-together at the same trade. (Apparent, at least,
-to the women; the men, one concludes, do not
-really grasp the system by which they benefit.)
-What I refer to is the ordered, tacit, but usually
-quite conscious endeavour on the part of women<span class="pagenum" id="Page_161">161</span>
-who work side by side with men to defer to a
-superiority, real or supposed, on the part of
-their male colleagues. Thus a woman will not
-only decline to call attention to a blunder or
-oversight on the part of a male fellow-worker,
-but she will, if possible, cover up his mistake,
-even if she suffer by it, and, at any rate, will
-try to give him the impression that it has escaped
-her notice; and this under circumstances where
-no sort of injury to the blunderer would be
-involved, and which would not prevent her from
-calling prompt attention to a similar slip if
-made by a colleague of her own sex.</p>
-
-<p>I have not the slightest doubt that this tendency
-on the part of the working or business
-woman to pass over in silence the errors or
-mistakes of the working or business man is
-attributed by the latter (if, indeed, he notices
-it at all) to some mysterious operation of the
-sexual instinct; while the lack of a similar
-palliative attitude towards the errors and mistakes
-of a comrade of her own sex is, I should
-imagine, attributed to the natural, inevitable,
-and incorrigible “cattiness” of one woman towards
-another&mdash;the belief in such a natural, in<span class="pagenum" id="Page_162">162</span>evitable,
-and incorrigible “cattiness” being a
-comfortable article of the masculine faith.</p>
-
-<p>The practice, it seems to me, can be explained
-without having recourse to the all-pervading
-sexual instinct (usually understood to regulate
-every action performed by women, from the
-buttoning of boots to the swallowing of cough-drops).
-A similar practice, which can hardly
-have originated in the sexual instinct, obtains
-amongst male persons conscious of inferiority
-and desirous of standing well with their superiors.
-Junior clerks are in the habit of preserving
-a discreet silence with regard to errors
-of judgment traceable to employers, managers,
-and heads of firms; and the understrapper who
-wishes to get on in the world seldom makes a
-point of calling public attention to the shortcomings
-of foremen and others who are set in
-authority over him. On the contrary, he is
-usually&mdash;and wisely&mdash;tender towards their failings;
-and in the same way women are frequently
-tender towards the failings of those who, by
-virtue of sex and not of position, they believe
-to be set in authority over them. The attitude
-in this respect of working-woman to working<span class="pagenum" id="Page_163">163</span>-man
-is, as often as not, the attitude of a subordinate,
-and in itself an acknowledgment of
-inferiority; it has about it that tinge of servility
-which enjoins the turning of a blind eye to the
-faults of a superior.</p>
-
-<p>I do not mean that the practice of condoning
-masculine slips is always prompted by an unthinking
-and servile compliance; on the contrary,
-it is very general amongst the increasing class
-of women who have learned to consider themselves
-as good as their masters&mdash;no less general,
-I should say, than amongst those who accept
-feminine inferiority to the male as a decree of
-nature. In their case the tenderness shown to
-masculine failings, the desire to save the masculine
-“face,” is usually quite conscious&mdash;I myself
-have heard it frankly discussed, analyzed,
-and commented upon, time after time, by women
-whose occupations brought them into daily contact
-with men. And as the result of such frank
-discussion, analysis, and comment, I am inclined
-to believe that on the whole the motives which,
-in this particular class of women, induce extra
-consideration for the failings of a male fellow-worker
-are motives which, in man himself, would<span class="pagenum" id="Page_164">164</span>
-probably be described as chivalrous. Those of
-us who rub shoulders day after day with the
-ordinary man are perfectly well aware that the
-ordinary man (however much and however
-kindly he may seek to conceal the fact from
-us) regards us as his inferiors in mental capacity;
-and that hence he feels a peculiar and not unnatural
-soreness at having his errors and failings
-either exposed to us or exposed by us.
-To be shown up before your inferior brings
-with it, to most people, a sense of degradation;
-to be shown up by your inferior makes the sense
-of degradation yet more keenly unpleasant.</p>
-
-<p>Most women who have had to pit their brain
-against the brain of the ordinary man have
-learned to realize&mdash;sometimes with amusement,
-sometimes, perhaps, with a measure of exultation&mdash;that
-the ordinary man’s very belief in
-their essential inferiority has placed in their
-hands a weapon whose edge is infinitely keener
-than any that he possesses to use against them.
-It is just because she is regarded as his inferior
-that it is in the power of a woman to humiliate
-a man by the simple process of getting the better
-of him or holding his weaknesses up to contempt.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_165">165</span>
-When we quarrel or argue with an average man
-we know perfectly well that the vantage of
-the ground is ours; we know perfectly well that
-defeat, for us, will not bring humiliation in its
-train; that our antagonist, imbued with the conviction
-of his own intense and inherent natural
-superiority, will take his victory as a matter of
-course, and think it no disgrace to us that we
-have been routed by a higher intelligence than
-our own. We have not much to lose by defeat,
-we are not degraded by it&mdash;because we are the
-weaker side. With a man who gets the worst
-of it in a contest with a woman the case is quite
-different; since he suffers, in addition to actual
-defeat, all the humiliation of the stronger when
-beaten by the weaker, of the superior routed by
-the inferior force. With him defeat is not only
-defeat, but ignominy; his vanity is wounded and
-his prestige lowered. That being the case, the
-often expressed dislike of the clever woman&mdash;that
-is to say, of the woman who possesses the
-power to humiliate&mdash;is comprehensible enough.</p>
-
-<p>It is, I think, because so many women realize
-how bitterly the ordinary man resents and suffers
-under defeat by an inferior that they humour<span class="pagenum" id="Page_166">166</span>
-and are tolerant of his somewhat galling attitude
-of what has been called&mdash;I think by Mr. Bernard
-Shaw&mdash;intellectual condescension. They
-realize that the punishment which it is in their
-power to inflict on the offender would be out
-of all proportion to the unintentional offence&mdash;infinitely
-harder and sharper than it deserves.
-It is for this reason, I believe, that a woman,
-unless she is really stirred to strong indignation
-and consequent loss of self-control, will seldom
-attempt to “show up” a man or drive him
-into a corner with unanswerable argument.
-Under far less provocation she would probably
-“show up” or corner a woman; not because
-she bears a natural grudge against her own sex,
-but because her victory over one of her own sex
-is a victory over an equal, and does not necessarily
-involve wounded self-esteem and humiliation
-on the part of the vanquished. The same
-decent instinct which prevents a man from
-striking her with his clenched fist prevents her
-from striking too hard at his self-esteem.</p>
-
-<p>As far as my experience goes, this need of
-humouring the belief of the average man in
-his own essential intellectual superiority is&mdash;<span class="pagenum" id="Page_167">167</span>
-though not without its amusing side&mdash;a constant
-source of worry and petty hindrance to
-the woman who has to earn her living by any
-form of brain-work which brings her into contact
-with men. It means, of course, that she
-puts a drag on her natural capacities, and attempts
-to appear less efficient than she really is;
-it means that ideas which one man would reveal
-frankly to another, suggestions which one man
-would make openly to another, have by her to
-be wrapped up, hinted at, and brought into
-operation by devious ways&mdash;lest the “predominant
-partner” should take alarm at the possibility
-of being guided and prompted by an
-inferior intelligence. The only remedy for such
-a tiresome and unnecessary state of things seems
-to be the recognition by the “predominant partner”
-of the fact that the human female is not
-entirely composed of sex (inferior to his own);
-that the brain is not a sexual organ; and that
-there is a neutral ground of intelligence (from
-which sex and its considerations are excluded)
-where man and woman can meet and hold intercourse,
-mutually unhampered by etiquette and
-respect for a vulnerable masculine dignity.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_168">168</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XIII">XIII</h2>
-
-
-<p>In dealing with the training for marriage,
-I pointed out that the qualities which
-make for success in the matrimonial
-market have little or no connection with the
-qualities required for the efficient performance
-of what is supposed to be the life-work of
-woman&mdash;the care of home, of husband and of
-children. I pointed out that the characteristics
-which are likely to obtain for a girl a desirable
-husband are not the same characteristics which
-will have to be brought into play if the husband,
-when he is obtained, is to find in her a desirable
-wife from the domestic point of view; and that,
-as a general rule, she is promoted to what should
-be the important and responsible position of
-wife and mother on the strength of attainments
-which have nothing to do with her fitness for
-the duties of that position.</p>
-
-<p>The habit of judging a woman entirely by
-externals&mdash;appearance, dress, and manners&mdash;is<span class="pagenum" id="Page_169">169</span>
-not confined to the man who is in search of a
-wife. (“Judging” is, perhaps, the wrong
-phrase to use&mdash;it is, rather, a habit of resigning
-judgment so as to fall completely under the
-influence of externals.) It is very general
-amongst all classes of male employers, and its
-result is, it seems to me, a serious bar to efficiency
-in women’s work. It pays better in the marriage
-market to be attractive than to be efficient, and
-in a somewhat lesser degree the same rule holds
-good in certain other departments of women’s
-labour.</p>
-
-<p>To a certain degree, of course, a man’s fitness
-for any particular work is judged by externals;
-but never to the same degree as a woman’s.
-Further, the judgment passed upon a man who
-is chosen to fill a vacancy because his prospective
-employer “likes the look of him” has some
-relation to the qualities which will be required
-of him in the execution of the duties he will be
-called upon to perform&mdash;it is not biased by
-irrelevant considerations of sex. A merchant
-will like the looks of a clerk who has the outward
-appearance of being smart, well mannered,
-well educated, and intelligent; an employer who<span class="pagenum" id="Page_170">170</span>
-wishes to engage a man for work which involves
-the carrying of heavy sacks will like the looks
-of a man who is possessed of muscular arms
-and a pair of broad shoulders. In each case
-he is favourably influenced by the man’s externals
-because they seem to him to indicate the
-qualities which he requires in his prospective
-employé.</p>
-
-<p>The number of men who could engage a
-young woman to work under them on this purely
-commercial and unemotional basis is, I should
-say, comparatively limited. I do not mean, of
-course, that the element of sexual attraction
-enters consciously into the calculations of the
-ordinary male employer when engaging a
-woman, but it certainly enters unconsciously into
-the calculations of a good many. A man who
-says that he likes the looks of a girl whom he
-has engaged to fill the position of typist or
-cashier, does not usually mean at all the same
-thing that he means when he says that he likes
-the looks of his new porter or junior clerk:
-he does not mean that the girl strikes him as
-appearing particularly fitted for the duties of
-typist or cashier&mdash;more alert, more intelligent,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_171">171</span>
-or more experienced than her unsuccessful competitors
-for the post&mdash;but that she has the precise
-shape of nose, the exact shade of hair, or
-the particular variety of smile or manner that
-he admires and finds pleasing. That is to say,
-he is influenced in engaging her by considerations
-unconnected with her probable fitness for
-the duties of her post, since a straight nose,
-auburn hair, or an engaging smile have no necessary
-connection with proficiency in typewriting
-or accounts.</p>
-
-<p>I am not insisting on this intrusion of the
-sexual element into the business relations of men
-and women in any fault-finding spirit; I call
-attention to it merely in order to show that the
-conditions under which women obtain their bread
-in the labour market are not precisely the same
-as the conditions under which men obtain theirs.
-The intrusion of the sexual element into commercial
-relations may be not only unavoidable,
-but defensible and desirable, on other than commercial
-grounds; but it must be admitted that
-it does not tend to encourage efficiency, and the
-necessary discouragement of efficiency should be
-taken into account in estimating the value of<span class="pagenum" id="Page_172">172</span>
-woman’s work in many departments of the labour
-market. I do not know whether the consciousness
-that they are liable to be promoted or
-degraded in business matters for reasons which
-have nothing to do with their business merits
-or demerits is humiliating or the reverse to the
-majority of women, but I do know that it is
-humiliating to some. (Not only to those who
-are deficient in good looks; I have frequently
-heard it resented by those whom the system
-favoured.) There is, too, a certain amount of
-irritating uncertainty about the working of the
-system, one man’s taste in feminine looks varying
-from that of his next-door neighbour.</p>
-
-<p>As in marriage, so in other departments of
-the labour market, the result of this tendency
-to appraise a woman on the strength of externals
-alone has been the intellectual deterioration of
-the good-looking girl. I should be very sorry
-to have to maintain that the good-looking girl
-is necessarily born less intelligent than her
-plainer sister; but I do not think that it can be
-denied that it is made extremely easy for her
-to become so. The conspicuously attractive girl
-who enters a trade or business usually takes a<span class="pagenum" id="Page_173">173</span>
-very short time to find out that her advancement
-depends more on her conspicuous personal attractions
-than on the steady work and strict
-attendance to business which has to be rendered
-by the woman less bountifully endowed by nature.
-Hence she has every inducement to be
-less thorough in her work, less intelligent, less
-reliable, and less trustworthy. The deep-rooted
-masculine conviction that brains and repulsiveness
-invariably go together in woman has this
-much justification in fact&mdash;the unattractive girl
-has to rely on her work and intelligence for
-advancement and livelihood, and, therefore, is
-not exposed to the temptation to allow her brains
-to run to seed as unnecessary. There is plenty
-of proof that the temptation is often resisted
-by the woman born beautiful; but she is exposed
-to it all the same, and is not to be over
-blamed when she succumbs.</p>
-
-<p>There is one other disadvantage under which
-women’s work in the paid labour market is apt
-to suffer&mdash;a disadvantage from which men’s
-work is exempt, and which is directly traceable
-to the idea that marriage is woman’s only trade.
-I alluded to it in an earlier chapter when I spoke<span class="pagenum" id="Page_174">174</span>
-of the common masculine attitude on the subject
-of feminine competition and the common masculine
-conviction that woman can somehow manage
-to exist without the means of supporting existence.
-One result of the assumption that every
-woman is provided with the necessaries of life
-by a husband, father, or other male relative is
-that the atmosphere which surrounds the working-woman
-is considerably more chilling than
-that which surrounds the working-man. His
-right to work is recognized; hers is not. He
-is more or less helped, stimulated, and encouraged
-to work; she is not. On the contrary, her
-entry into the paid labour market is often discouraged
-and resented. The difference is, perhaps,
-most clearly marked in those middle-class
-families where sons and daughters alike have
-no expectation of independence by inheritance,
-but where money, time, and energy are spent
-in the anxious endeavour to train and find suitable
-openings for the sons, and the daughters
-left to shift for themselves and find openings
-as they can. The young man begins his life
-in an atmosphere of encouragement and help;
-the young woman in one of discouragement, or,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_175">175</span>
-at best, of indifference. Her brother’s work is
-recognized as something essentially important;
-hers despised as something essentially unimportant&mdash;even
-although it brings her in her
-bread. Efforts are made to stimulate his energy,
-his desire to succeed; no such efforts are
-made to stimulate hers.... And it is something,
-in starting work, to feel that you are
-engaged on work that matters.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_176">176</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XIV">XIV</h2>
-
-
-<p>There is one field for the activities of
-women upon which as yet I have not
-touched. It is a field where they come
-into direct competition with the activities of men;
-from which, moreover, they have not always
-been so completely and so jealously excluded as
-they have been from other spheres of the world’s
-work. I mean the field of art and literature.</p>
-
-<p>Let it be admitted, at once and without hesitation,
-that women have not made much of a
-mark in art and literature; that whatever we
-may achieve in the future we have given little
-of achievement to the past. Women artists of
-the first rank in whatever medium&mdash;in words,
-in music, in colour, in form&mdash;there have been
-none; and of the second rank and of the third
-rank but few&mdash;a very few. Let it be admitted
-that there has come down to us a goodly heritage
-of the wisdom, the aspiration and inspiration
-of our fathers, and that of the wisdom, the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_177">177</span>
-aspiration and the inspiration of our mothers
-(for some they must have had) there has come
-down to us practically nothing. Art, as we
-know it, is a masculine product, wrought by the
-hands and conceived by the brains of men; the
-works of art that have forced themselves into
-the enduring life of the world have been shaped,
-written, builded, painted by men. They have
-achieved and we have imitated&mdash;on the whole,
-pitifully. Let that be admitted; and then let
-it also be admitted that it could hardly have
-been otherwise, and that the wonder is that
-woman has wrought in art not so little, but so
-much.</p>
-
-<p>For when one comes to consider the conditions
-under which successive generations of women
-have lived such narrow life as was permitted to
-them, have realized such narrow ambitions as
-they were permitted to entertain, one begins to
-understand that it would have been something
-of a miracle if there had arisen amongst them
-thinkers and artists worthy to walk with the
-giants who have left their impress on the race.
-One begins to understand that it would be
-difficult to devise a better means of crushing out<span class="pagenum" id="Page_178">178</span>
-of the human system the individuality, the sincerity
-and the freedom of thought and expression,
-which is the very breath and inspiration of
-art, than the age-long training of woman for
-compulsory marriage and the compulsory duties
-thereof. For the qualities man has hitherto demanded
-and obtained in the woman he delights
-to honour (and incidentally to subdue) have
-been qualities incompatible with success in, or
-even with understanding of, art.</p>
-
-<p>It is better, perhaps, to pause here and explain;
-since one is always liable to misinterpretation,
-and in the minds of many the term “artist”
-is synonymous with a person having a tendency
-towards what is called free love. Let me explain,
-then, that by marriage, in this connection,
-I mean not only the estate of matrimony, but its
-unlegalized equivalent. As far as art is concerned,
-the deadening influences brought to bear
-upon the mistress are practically the same as
-those brought to bear upon the wife. (Both,
-for instance, are required to be attractive rather
-than sincere.) It is not, of course, actual sexual
-intercourse, legalized or the reverse, which renders
-a woman incapable of great creative art;<span class="pagenum" id="Page_179">179</span>
-it is the servile attitude of mind and soul induced
-in her by the influences brought to
-bear on her in order to fit her for the compulsory
-trade of marriage or its unsanctified
-equivalent.</p>
-
-<p>In earlier chapters I have dealt with these
-influences at considerable length, striven to show
-exactly what they are and pointed out that their
-aim was to induce the girl who would eventually
-become a woman to conform to one particular
-and uniform type&mdash;the type admired and sought
-after by the largest number of men. Hence the
-crushing out of individuality, the elimination of
-the characteristics that make for variety and the
-development of the imitative at the expense of the
-creative qualities. From generation to generation
-the imperative necessity of earning her livelihood
-in the only trade that was not barred to
-her&mdash;of making for herself a place in the world
-not by the grace of God but by the favour of
-man&mdash;has been a ceaseless and unrelenting factor
-in the process of weeding out the artistic
-products of woman’s nature. The deliberate
-stunting and repression of her intellectual faculties,
-the setting up for her admiration and imi<span class="pagenum" id="Page_180">180</span>tation
-of the ideal of the “silly angel,” have
-all contributed to make of her not only a domestic
-animal, more or less sleek and ornamental,
-but a Philistine as well. Silly angels may, from
-the male point of view, be desirable and even
-adorable creatures; but one would not entrust
-them with the building of temples or the writing
-of great books. (Personally, I would not entrust
-them with the bringing up of children;
-but that is another matter.)</p>
-
-<p>Art that is vital demands freedom of thought
-and expression, wide liberty of outlook and
-unhampered liberty of communication. And
-what freedom of thought and expression can be
-expected from a section of humanity which has
-not even a moral standard of its own, and adds
-to every “thou shalt not” in its law the saving
-and unspoken clause, “unless my master shall
-desire it of me.” A man’s body may be enslaved
-and subdued and the faculties of the thinker and
-the artist still be left alive in him; but they have
-never been known to survive when once his mind
-has been subdued and brought down to utter
-subjection. Epictetus came of a race that had
-known freedom; and the nameless man who,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_181">181</span>
-by the waters of Babylon, poured out his
-passion in a torrent of hatred and desire, wore
-no chains on his soul when he remembered
-Zion.</p>
-
-<p>It is the systematic concentration of woman’s
-energies upon the acquirement of the particular
-qualities which are to procure her
-a means of livelihood by procuring her the
-favour of man that has deprived her, steadily
-and systematically, of the power of creation and
-artistic achievement; so much so that the commonly
-accepted ideals of what is known as a
-womanly woman are about as compatible with
-the ideals of an artist as oil is compatible with
-water. The methods of the one are repressive
-of self-development, calculated to ingratiate,
-bound by convention, servile; the methods of the
-other are self-assertive, experimental and untrammelled.
-The perfected type of wife-and-mother-and-nothing-else
-sees life only through
-another’s eyes; the artist through his own. Of
-a system designed to foster and encourage the
-creative instinct in human beings one might
-safely predict that it would have to be the exact
-opposite of the system still in force for the con<span class="pagenum" id="Page_182">182</span>version
-of the natural woman into the conventional
-wife and mother.</p>
-
-<p>For the first and fundamental quality which
-such a system would aim at cultivating would
-be sincerity; which is not in itself art, but the
-foundation whereon art is laid. Without it,
-greatness in art or literature is impossible; and
-for this reason greatness in art or literature has
-hitherto been impossible to woman. The tendency
-and purpose of her whole training has
-been the repression of individuality and the inducement
-of artificiality; and even in the comparatively
-few instances where she recognizes
-what her training has done for her, when she
-realizes the poor thing it has made of her,
-and sets to work, deliberately and of firm resolve,
-to counteract its effects upon her life and
-character, it may take her the best part of a
-lifetime to struggle free of her chains. She
-does not know what she really needs, since from
-childhood upwards the natural bent of her inclinations
-has been twisted and thwarted; her
-only guide is what she has been told she ought
-to need. And thus she may waste years in
-attempting to draw inspiration from a form of<span class="pagenum" id="Page_183">183</span>
-love which it is not in her to feel, or from a
-passion for maternity which has no power to
-stir her to achievement.</p>
-
-<p>This, at least, can safely be said: that any
-woman who has attained to even a small measure
-of success in literature or art has done so
-by discarding, consciously or unconsciously, the
-traditions in which she was reared, by turning
-her back upon the conventional ideals of dependence
-that were held up for her admiration
-in her youth.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_184">184</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XV">XV</h2>
-
-
-<p>In dealing with this problem of the inferior
-place hitherto occupied by woman in literature
-and art, let me admit, frankly and at
-once, that I have none of the qualifications of
-a critic. Of the technique of any branch of
-creative art I know practically nothing; nor can
-I say that I have any great measure of curiosity
-concerning it. I must confess to being one of
-that large mass of unenlightened persons who
-judge of works of art simply and solely by the
-effect such works of art produce upon themselves,
-who, where they are stirred to pleasure,
-to reverence, or to laughter, are content to enjoy,
-to be reverent, or to laugh, without too close
-inquiry as to the means whereby their emotions
-are produced, with still less inquiry as to whether
-such means be legitimate or the reverse. I speak,
-therefore, not from the standpoint of the instructed
-critic, but from that of the public, more
-or less impressionable, more or less uneducated,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_185">185</span>
-upon whom the artist works; and it follows that
-when I speak of woman’s inferiority to man in
-creative art I mean, not her inferiority in technique
-(whereon I am not competent to express
-opinion), but her incapacity to arouse in the
-ordinary human being such emotions of wonder,
-delight, and sorrow as men who have the requisite
-skill in creative art have power to arouse.
-I have thought it necessary to explain thus much
-lest my point of view be misunderstood, and I be
-credited with an attempt to usurp the functions
-of the trained critic.</p>
-
-<p>Speaking, then, as one of the common herd&mdash;the
-public&mdash;I ask myself why it is that as a rule
-woman’s art leaves me cold, woman’s literature
-unconvinced, dissatisfied, and even irritated?
-And the only answer I can find is that they are
-artificial; that they are not a representation of
-life or beauty seen by a woman’s eyes, but an
-attempt to render life or beauty as man desires
-that a woman should see and render it. The attempt
-is unconscious, no doubt; but it is there&mdash;thwarting,
-destroying, and annulling.</p>
-
-<p>Perhaps it is necessary to be a woman oneself
-in order to understand how weak, false, and<span class="pagenum" id="Page_186">186</span>
-insincere is the customary feminine attempt at
-creative art. I do not think that a man can
-understand how bad most of our work in art and
-literature really is, for the simple reason that
-he cannot see the lie in it. He believes, for instance,
-that we are such creatures as we represent
-ourselves to be in most of the books we write;
-we only try to believe it. Wherein is all the difference
-between a blunder and a lie. We cannot
-even draw ourselves, our passions and emotions&mdash;because
-we are accustomed to look at ourselves,
-our passions and emotions, not with our
-own eyes, but through the spectacles with which
-he has provided us. When we come to portray
-our own hearts, it would seem that they are almost
-as much of a mystery to ourselves as they
-are to him; but then we are not striving to portray
-our own hearts, but to describe beings who
-shall be something like what we have been taught
-women ought to be (and to account for their
-actions by motives which we have been told
-ought to actuate them). Because we have been
-told that we are creatures existing only for love
-and maternity, we draw creatures existing only
-for love and maternity&mdash;and call them women.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_187">187</span>
-It is perfectly natural that men should draw such
-creatures; they could not very well draw anything
-else, for they see them like that. Their
-portraits are honest, if lop-sided; ours are lop-sided
-without being honest&mdash;the result of an attempt
-to see ourselves through another’s eyes.</p>
-
-<p>The point of view is everything. An artist is
-not to be blamed for his natural limitations, for
-his inability to see beyond his range of vision;
-but I am inclined to think that he ought to be
-execrated when he proceeds to stunt his powers
-by imposing unnatural limitations on himself. A
-man afflicted with a colour-blindness which leads
-him to turn out a portrait of me resplendent in
-beetroot hair and eyes of a vivid green cannot
-help himself. As he sees me, so he paints me;
-the effect may be curious, but the thing itself is
-sincere. But that is no reason why artists endowed
-with normal vision should bind themselves
-down to slavish imitation of his peculiar
-colour-scheme. In the same way a person who
-is convinced that woman is a form of animated
-doll whereof the mechanism, when pressed on
-the right spot, squeaks out the two ejaculations
-of, “I love you,” and “Oh, my dear baby,” has<span class="pagenum" id="Page_188">188</span>
-a perfect right to describe her in those terms;
-but no woman has the right so to describe
-herself.</p>
-
-<p>For countless generations the thoughts, the
-energies, and aspirations of woman have been
-concentrated upon love and maternity; yet how
-many are the works of art in which she has immortalized
-either passion which have endured
-because they were stamped with the impress of
-her own individuality and experience? For all
-that love is her whole existence, no woman has
-ever sung of love as man has sung of it, has
-painted it, has embodied it in drama. And of
-her attitude towards maternity what has she
-told us in her art? Practically nothing that is
-illuminating, that is not obvious, that has not
-been already said for her&mdash;usually much better
-than she herself can say it. As a matter of fact,
-her description of her emotions when she is in
-love or bears children is not, as a rule, a first-hand
-description; it is a more or less careful,
-more or less intelligent copy of the masculine
-conception of her emotions under those particular
-circumstances. Thus the business-like aspect
-of love in woman, the social or commercial neces<span class="pagenum" id="Page_189">189</span>sity
-for sexual intercourse is usually ignored by
-an imitative feminine art&mdash;because it is lacking
-in man, and is, therefore, not really grasped by
-him. When he becomes aware of it he dislikes
-it&mdash;and draws a Becky Sharp (who has the
-secret sympathy of every woman not an heiress
-in her own right&mdash;if also the openly-expressed
-contempt).</p>
-
-<p>Women who have treated of maternity in
-books or pictures have usually handled it in
-exactly the same spirit in which it is commonly
-handled by men&mdash;from what may be termed the
-conventional or Raphaelesque point of view.
-That is to say, they treat it from the superficial
-point of view of the outsider, the person
-who has no actual experience of the subject; yet
-even the most acid and confirmed of spinsters
-has an inside view of maternity unattainable by
-the most sympathetic and intuitive of men&mdash;since
-it has once been a possibility in her life.
-Yet from woman’s art and woman’s literature
-what does one learn of the essential difference
-between the masculine and feminine fashion of
-regarding that closest of all relations&mdash;the relation
-of mother and child?</p>
-
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_190">190</span></p>
-
-<p>I do not feel that I myself am qualified to
-define and describe that difference. It will have
-to be defined and described by a woman who has
-had experience of maternity; but at least I know
-that the difference exists. Men are capable of
-being both reverent and ribald on the subject of
-maternity; I have never met a woman who was
-either. (I have, of course, met one or two
-women who adopted the reverent pose; but in
-all such cases which have come within my experience
-it has been an undoubted pose, a more
-or less unconscious imitation of the reverent
-attitude in the men&mdash;usually husbands&mdash;with
-whom they came in contact.) For us the bearing
-of children is a matter far too serious to be
-treated with ribaldry; while as regards the lack
-of extreme reverence, it seems to me that it is
-impossible for any human being to revere&mdash;in
-the proper sense of the word&mdash;the performance
-by him or herself of a physical function. No
-doubt it will be objected that maternity has not
-only a physical aspect; to which I can only reply
-that it appears to be the purely physical aspect
-thereof which calls forth reverence and admiration
-in man. The typical duties of a mother to<span class="pagenum" id="Page_191">191</span>
-her children are often performed, as efficiently
-and as tenderly as any mother could perform
-them, by an aunt or a nurse; but they have never,
-when so performed, called forth the flood of
-idealism and admiration which has been lavished
-upon the purely physical relationship of mother
-and child as typified by a woman suckling her
-offspring. The sight of a mother so engaged
-has meant inspiration to a good many men; I
-may be wrong, but I do not imagine that it will
-ever mean real inspiration to any woman.</p>
-
-<p>My own opinion&mdash;which I put forth in all
-diffidence, as one of the uninitiated&mdash;is, that
-while women, left to themselves, have considerably
-less reverence than men have for the physical
-aspect of maternity, they have a good deal
-more respect for its other aspects. Thus I have
-several times asked women whom I knew from
-the circumstances of their lives to have been
-exposed to temptation whether the thought that
-they might some day bear a child had not been
-a conscious and not merely an instinctive factor
-in their resistance to temptation and the restraint
-they had put upon their passions and emotions;
-and the reply has usually been in the affirmative.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_192">192</span>
-I do not know whether such a deliberate attitude
-towards the responsibilities of motherhood is
-general, but it seems to me essentially feminine,
-implying, as it does, the consciousness that it is
-not enough to bear a child, but that the child
-must be born of a clean body and come in contact
-with a clean mind&mdash;that the actual bringing of
-a new life into the world is only a small part of
-motherhood. It is the circumstances under
-which the child is born and the circumstances
-under which it is reared to which women attach
-infinitely more importance than men are apt to
-do; but, of course, where child-bearing is compulsory&mdash;and
-until very lately it has been practically
-compulsory upon all classes of wives&mdash;such
-an instinct does not get free play.</p>
-
-<p>A good many times in my life I have heard
-the practice of passing the death sentence for
-the common crime of infanticide discussed by
-women, sometimes in an assemblage convened
-for the purpose, but more often where the subject
-has come up by chance. And I have always
-been struck by the attitude of the women who
-have discussed it&mdash;an attitude which, judged by
-the conventional or Raphaelesque standard,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_193">193</span>
-might be described as typically unfeminine and
-unmaternal&mdash;since their sympathies were invariably
-and unreservedly on the side of the erring
-mother, and I cannot remember having heard a
-single woman’s voice raised in defence of the
-right to its life of the unwanted child. On the
-contrary, mothers of families, devoted to their
-own children and discharging their duties to
-them in a manner beyond reproach, have, in my
-hearing, not only pitied, but justified, the unfortunate
-creatures who, goaded by fear of
-shame and want of money, destroy the little life
-they themselves have given. That attitude
-seems to me to show that women recognize the
-comparative slightness of the mere physical tie,
-and that to them it is the other factors in the
-relationship of mother and child which really
-count&mdash;factors which have practically no chance
-of being brought into play in the case of the
-unwanted child.</p>
-
-<p>It is eminently characteristic of the servile,
-and therefore imitative, quality of women’s literature
-that the unwanted child&mdash;other than the
-illegitimate&mdash;has played practically no part in it.
-As long as child-bearing was an involuntary con<span class="pagenum" id="Page_194">194</span>sequence
-of a compulsory trade&mdash;as, to a great
-extent, it still is&mdash;there must have been innumerable
-women who, year after year, bore children
-whom they did not desire to bear; who
-suffered the discomforts of pregnancy and the
-pangs of childbirth not that they might rejoice
-when a man was born into the world, but that a
-fresh and unwelcome burden might be added to
-their lives. And how unwelcome was that burden
-in many cases is proved by the voluntary and
-deliberate restriction of the modern family!
-Yet no woman, so far as I know, has ever taken
-up pen to write with truth and insight of this,
-the really tragic element in the life of countless
-wives&mdash;simply because man, not understanding,
-has never treated of it, because, in his ignorance,
-he has laid it down that woman finds instinctive
-and unending joy in the involuntary reproduction
-of her kind. One sees the advantage of such
-a comfortable belief to a husband disinclined to
-self-control.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_195">195</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XVI">XVI</h2>
-
-
-<p>If I have dwelt at some length upon
-woman’s failure to achieve greatness in art
-and literature, it is because its art and literature
-reflect the inward life of a people, and
-the puny, trammelled and almost entirely imitative
-art of woman is a faithful reflection of
-the artificial habit and attitude of mind induced
-in her by the training for the married state, or
-its equivalent outside the law. As I have already
-said, the wonder is&mdash;when the tendency
-of that training is taken into account&mdash;not that
-she has done so little, but that she has done
-so much; for it must be borne in mind that as
-long as sexual love and maternity are in the
-slightest degree compulsory upon woman they
-can never prove to her the source of inspiration
-which they have so often proved to man.
-It is freedom and unfettered desire, not inevitable
-duty or the prospect of monetary gain,
-which awakens the creative instinct in humanity.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_196">196</span>
-The commercial element has always been incompatible
-with effective expression in art; no
-stockbroker, however exultant, has burst into
-lyric rhapsody over a rise in Home Rails, no
-grocer lifted up a psalm of praise because his
-till was full. It is because her love has always
-been her livelihood that woman has never been
-inspired by it as man has been inspired. And
-it is just because it is so business-like that her
-interest in love is often so keen. For instance,
-her customary appreciation of a book or a work
-of art dealing with love, and nothing but love,
-is the outcome of something more than sentiment
-and overpowering consciousness of sex.
-To her a woman in love is not only a woman
-swayed by emotion, but a human being engaged
-in carving for herself a career or securing
-for herself a means of livelihood. Her interest
-in a love story is, therefore, much more
-complex than a man’s interest therein, and the
-appreciation which she brings to it is of a very
-different quality.</p>
-
-<p>Love and maternity, then, have failed because
-of their compulsory character to inspire
-woman to artistic achievement; and from other<span class="pagenum" id="Page_197">197</span>
-sources of inspiration she has, as a rule, been
-debarred systematically. One hears, over and
-over again, of the artist who is inspired by the
-spirit of his time, who gives effective expression
-to the life and ideals of his time; and one remembers
-that man has always desired that
-woman should be debarred from contact with
-the life and spirit of the world in which she lived
-and moved and had her being, has always desired
-that she should drift and stagnate in a
-backwater of existence. The inspiration that
-springs from the sense of community, of fellowship,
-from enthusiasm for great interests
-shared with others was not to be for her; she
-was denied part or lot or interest in the making
-of contemporary history and to the passions
-enkindled by it she must be a stranger. Art
-has always responded to the uprush of a genuine
-popular enthusiasm, has embodied, shaped
-and moulded the ideas tossed about from mind
-to mind, and from man to man in a period
-of national effervescence and progress. The
-men who have left behind them an enduring
-name in the annals of art and literature were
-not unconscious of the life around them, were<span class="pagenum" id="Page_198">198</span>
-often enough caught up in the swirl of contemporary
-interests, and played an eager part
-in that making of contemporary history which
-we call politics. How many works of art do
-we not owe to the civic consciousness, to a
-man’s pride in his own place, his desire to be
-worthy of it, his sense of comradeship and his
-glory in communal service? In every city
-worthy of the name, in every city that is anything
-more than an enlarged manufacturing
-slum, there stands, in brick or stone, some witness
-to the force and reality of the communal
-impulse in art. It was an impulse that seldom
-reached woman; who stood apart from the communal
-life, who knew not the service that brings
-with it sense of fellowship, who had not so
-much as a place to be proud of. Even to-day
-a woman takes her husband’s nationality, and
-the place that was her own is hers no longer.
-She has drawn no inspiration from the thought
-that she is a citizen of no mean city.</p>
-
-<p>We think of Milton as a poet; but to the men
-of his time he was something else. Twenty
-years of his life were given to politics and statecraft,
-and his verse is the product not only of<span class="pagenum" id="Page_199">199</span>
-his own genius, but of the national spirit of
-Puritanism&mdash;which was the desire to establish
-the kingdom of God upon earth. Dante, to
-us, is the man who ascended into heaven and
-descended into hell and wrote of what he saw;
-but it was not for these things, but for his
-partisanship of a losing cause, that he ate the
-bread of a stranger and found it salt. Few,
-if any, of the great ones of all time have stood
-apart in spirit from their own world with its
-hopes and its seething discontents; they spoke
-of it because they lived in it, loved it and wondered
-at it. It is significant that one of the few
-women whose written words have stood the test
-of centuries&mdash;St. Teresa&mdash;was one whose aspirations
-were not narrowed to the duties of a
-husband’s dwelling, who was passionately conscious
-of her part in the life of a great community,
-who made herself a power in the public
-life of the day&mdash;a woman capable of organization
-and able to bend men and systems
-to an indomitable will.</p>
-
-<p>My meaning, I hope, will not be misinterpreted
-or narrowed. I do not look upon the
-British House of Commons or the American<span class="pagenum" id="Page_200">200</span>
-House of Representatives, as at present instituted,
-as a likely forcing-ground for poets or
-composers; nor do I consider that no human
-being is qualified to produce a decent novel or
-paint a decent picture until his name is included
-in the electoral register. I have endeavoured
-to make it clear that it is not the
-letter of political life, but the spirit of a conscious
-communal life which kindles enthusiasm,
-arouses the desire of service and awakens art;
-that, as far as art is concerned, the important
-point is participation in ideas, not in elections.
-When women are informed that they cannot
-think publicly, or, as the cant phrase goes, think
-imperially, it should be borne in mind that public
-or imperial ideas have usually been labelled,
-“For men only.”</p>
-
-<p>There is, so far as I can see, no reason to
-suppose that the minds of women are naturally
-less accessible than the minds of men to the
-influence of what has been termed the crowd
-spirit. Such subordinate share as they have
-been permitted to take in the communal life of
-the various sects and churches they have availed
-themselves of to the full; at least they have<span class="pagenum" id="Page_201">201</span>
-understood the meaning of the term Communion
-of Saints. And the few women whose high
-birth has qualified them for the responsibilities
-of practical statesmanship, the guidance and
-governance of nations, have usually grasped
-their responsibilities with capability and understanding.
-Public spirit has been manifested in
-these exceptions to masculine rule as surely as
-it was manifested in the dreadful, hopeful crowd
-that once went marching to Versailles; and it
-has been written that if the men of the Paris
-Commune had espoused their cause with the
-desperate courage of the women, that cause had
-not been lost.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_202">202</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XVII">XVII</h2>
-
-
-<p>My object in writing so far has been to
-set forth reasons for my belief that
-woman, as we know her to-day, is
-largely a manufactured product; that the particular
-qualities which are supposed to be inherent
-in her and characteristic of her sex are
-often enough nothing more than the characteristics
-of a repressed class and the entirely artificial
-result of her surroundings and training.
-I have tried to show that, given such surroundings
-and training, the ordinary or womanly
-woman was the kind of development to be expected;
-that even if it be the will of Providence
-that she should occupy the lower seat, man has
-actively assisted Providence by a resolute discouragement
-of her attempts to move out of it;
-and that it is impossible to say whether her
-typical virtues and her typical defects are inherent
-and inevitable, or induced and artificial,
-until she has been placed amidst other sur<span class="pagenum" id="Page_203">203</span>roundings
-and subjected to the influence and
-test of a different system of education. Until
-such an experiment has been tried no really
-authoritative conclusion is possible; one can only
-make deductions and point to probabilities.</p>
-
-<p>If, after four or five generations of freer
-choice and wider life, woman still persists in
-confining her steps to the narrow grooves where
-they have hitherto been compelled to walk; if
-she claims no life of her own, if she has no
-interests outside her home, if love, marriage and
-maternity is still her all in all; if she is still,
-in spite of equal education, of emulation and
-respect, the inferior of man in brain capacity
-and mental independence; if she still evinces
-a marked preference for disagreeable and
-monotonous forms of labour, for which she is
-paid at the lowest possible rate; if she still attaches
-higher value to the lifting of a top hat
-than to the liberty to direct her own life; if she
-is still untouched by public spirit, still unable to
-produce an art and a literature that is individual
-and sincere; if she is still servile, imitative,
-pliant&mdash;then, when those four or five generations
-have passed, the male half of humanity<span class="pagenum" id="Page_204">204</span>
-will have a perfect right to declare that woman
-is what he has always believed and desired her
-to be, that she is the chattel, the domestic animal,
-the matron or the mistress, that her subjection
-is a subjection enjoined by natural law,
-that her inferiority to himself is an ordained
-and inevitable inferiority. Then he will have
-that right; but not till then.</p>
-
-<p>Some of us believe and hope with confidence
-that, given such wider life and freer choice, he
-would have to admit himself mistaken, would
-have to confess that the limitations once confining
-us were, for the most part, of his own invention.
-And we base that belief and very
-confident hope on the knowledge that there are
-in us, and in our sisters, many qualities which
-we are not supposed to possess and which once
-were unsuspected by ourselves; and on the certainty
-that the needs and circumstances of modern
-life are encouraging, whether or no we will
-it, the development of a side of our nature
-which we have heretofore been strictly forbidden
-to develop&mdash;the side that comes in contact
-with the world. Economic pressure and the
-law of self-preservation produced the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_205">205</span> “womanly
-woman”; now, from the “womanly
-woman” economic pressure and the law of self-preservation
-are producing a new type. It is
-no use for a bland and fatuous conservatism
-to repeat the parrot cry anent the sphere of
-woman being the home; we could not listen to
-its chirpings even if we would. For our stomachs
-are more insistent than any parrot cry, and
-they inform us that the sphere of woman, like
-the sphere of man, is the place where daily bread
-can be obtained.</p>
-
-<p>There was a certain amount of truth in the
-formula once, in days when our social and industrial
-system was run on more primitive lines,
-when the factory was not, and the home was a
-place of trade and business as well as a place
-to live in. But the modern civilized home is,
-as a rule, and to all intents and purposes, only
-the shell of what it was before that revolution
-in industrial methods which began about the
-middle of the eighteenth century.</p>
-
-<p>The alteration in the status and scope of the
-home is best and most clearly typified by the
-divided life led by the modern trader, manufacturer
-or man of business; who, in the morn<span class="pagenum" id="Page_206">206</span>ing,
-arises, swallows his breakfast and goes forth
-to his shop, his factory or his office; and, his
-day’s work done, returns to the suburban residence
-which it is the duty of his wife to look
-after, either personally or by superintendence
-of the labour of servants. His place of business
-and his place of rest and recreation are separate
-institutions, situated miles apart; the only connection
-between the two is the fact that he spends
-a certain portion of the day in each, and that
-one provides the money for the upkeep of the
-other. But his ancestor, if in the same line of
-business, had his place of money-making and
-his place of rest under the same roof, and both
-were comprehended in the meaning of the term
-“home.” The primitive form of shop, though
-in gradual and inevitable process of extinction,
-is still plentiful enough in villages, in country
-towns and even in the by-streets of cities. It
-takes the shape of a ground-floor apartment in
-the proprietor’s dwelling-house, provided with
-a counter upon which the customer raps, with
-a more or less patient persistence, with the object
-of arousing the attention of some member
-of the hitherto invisible household. Eventually,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_207">207</span>
-in response to the summons, a man, woman or
-child emerges from behind the curtained door
-which separates the family place of business
-from the family sitting-room, and proceeds to
-purvey the needful string, matches or newspapers.
-In such an establishment no outside
-labour is engaged, the business is carried on
-under the same roof as the home and forms an
-integral part of the duties of the home; it is a
-family affair giving a certain amount of employment
-to members of the family. And when,
-owing to the erection round the corner of a
-plateglass-windowed establishment run on more
-business-like and attractive lines, it fails and has
-to put up its shutters, those members of the
-family who have been dependent on it for a
-livelihood will have to seek that livelihood elsewhere.
-The boy who has been accustomed to
-help his parents in looking after the shop, running
-errands and delivering orders, will have to
-turn to a trade, if he is to be sure of his bread;
-the girl who has been fulfilling duties of the
-same kind will have to enter domestic service, a
-factory or a shop in which she is a paid assistant.
-In other words, she, like her brother,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_208">208</span>
-will be driven out of the home because the home
-can no longer support her; and it can no longer
-support her because its scope has been narrowed.
-Formerly it had its bread-winning as
-well as its domestic side; now, as an inevitable
-consequence of the growth of collective industry,
-of specialization and centralization, the
-bread-winning or productive side has been absorbed,
-and nothing remains but the domestic or
-unproductive. And in the event of the failure
-of such a family business as I have described,
-the head of the household, however firmly convinced
-he might be that the true and only
-sphere of woman is the home, would probably
-do his level best to obtain for his daughter a
-situation and means of livelihood outside her
-proper sphere.</p>
-
-<p>As an example of the tendency of the home
-to split up into departments I have instanced
-the familiar process of the disappearance of a
-small retail business, simply because it is familiar,
-and a case where we can see the tendency
-at work beneath our own eyes. But, as a matter
-of fact, the division of what was formerly
-the home into unproductive and productive de<span class="pagenum" id="Page_209">209</span>partments,
-into domestic work and work outside
-the house, has been far less thorough and
-complete in the retail trade than in other
-spheres of labour. The factory, which has absorbed
-industry after industry formerly carried
-on in the house, is a comparatively modern institution;
-so is the bake-house. Weaving and
-spinning were once domestic trades; so was
-brewing. Not so very long ago it was usual
-enough for the housewife, however well-to-do,
-to have all her washing done in her own home;
-not so very long ago she made her own pickles
-and her own jam. When the average household
-was largely self-supporting, producing
-food for its own consumption, and linen for its
-own wearing, it gave employment to many more
-persons than can be employed in it to-day. The
-women’s industries of a former date have, for
-the most part, been swallowed by the factory.
-They were never industries at which she earned
-much money; so far as the members of a family
-were concerned they were rewarded with nothing
-more than the customary wage of subsistence;
-but&mdash;and this is the real point&mdash;they were industries
-at which woman not only earned her<span class="pagenum" id="Page_210">210</span>
-wage of subsistence, but indirectly a profit for
-her employer, the head of the household&mdash;the
-husband or father.</p>
-
-<p>The displacement of labour which followed
-the adoption of machinery in crafts and manufactures
-formerly carried on by hand affected
-the conditions of women’s work just as it affected
-the work of men. Factories and workshops
-took the place of home industries; the
-small trader and the master-craftsman fell under
-the domination first of the big employer and
-later of the limited liability company. It was
-cheaper to produce goods in large quantities
-by the aid of machinery than in small quantities
-by hand; so the “little man” who ran his
-own business with the aid of his own family,
-being without capital to expend on the purchase
-of machinery, was apt to find competition too
-much for him and descend to the position of
-a wage-earner. For woman the serious fact
-was that under the new system of collective
-industry and production on a large scale her
-particular sphere, the home, ceased to be self-supporting,
-since its products were under-sold by
-the products of the factory. Jam and pickles<span class="pagenum" id="Page_211">211</span>
-could be produced more cheaply in a factory
-furnished with vats than in a kitchen supplied
-with saucepans; it was more economical to buy
-bread than to bake it, because the most economical
-way of baking was to bake it in the mass. A
-man might esteem the accomplishment of pickle-making
-or linen-weaving as an excellent thing in
-woman; but unless expense was really no object
-he would not encourage his wife and daughters
-to excel in these particular arts, since it was
-cheaper to buy sheets and bottled onions round
-the corner than to purchase the raw material and
-set the female members of his family to work
-upon it. In the redistribution of labour which
-followed upon the new order of things man, not
-for the first time, had invaded the sacred sphere
-of woman and annexed a share thereof.</p>
-
-<p>The natural and inevitable result of this new
-and improved state of things was that woman
-deprived of the productive industries at which
-she had formerly earned her keep and something
-over for her employer, was no longer a source
-of monetary profit to that employer. On the
-contrary, so far as money went and so long as
-she remained in the home, she was often a dis<span class="pagenum" id="Page_212">212</span>tinct
-loss. Instead of baking bread for her husband
-or father, her husband or father had to
-expend his money on buying bread for her to
-eat; she no longer wove the material for other
-people’s garments; on the contrary the material
-for her own had to be obtained at the draper’s.
-The position, for man, was a serious one; for
-be it remembered, he could not lower the wages
-of his domestic animal. These had always been
-fixed, whatever work she did, at the lowest possible
-rate&mdash;subsistence rate; so that even when
-her work ceased to be profitable her wages could
-not be made to go any lower&mdash;there was nowhere
-lower for them to go. One’s daughter
-had to be fed, clothed and lodged even if the
-narrowed scope of the home provided her with
-no more lucrative employment than dusting
-china dogs on the mantelpiece.</p>
-
-<p>Under these circumstances the daughters of a
-household found themselves, often enough, face
-to face with a divided duty: the duty of earning
-their keep, which would necessitate emergence
-from the home, and the duty of remaining inside
-the sacred sphere&mdash;and confining their energies
-to china dogs. Left to themselves the more<span class="pagenum" id="Page_213">213</span>
-energetic and ambitious would naturally adopt
-the first alternative, the more slothful and timid
-as naturally adopt the second; but they were
-not always left to themselves, nor were their
-own desires and predilections the sole factor in
-their respective decisions. The views of the
-head of the household, who now got little or
-no return for the outlay he incurred in supporting
-them, had also to be taken into consideration;
-and his views were usually influenced by
-the calls made upon his purse. Theoretically
-he might hold fast to the belief that woman’s
-sphere was the home and nothing but the home.
-Actually he might object to the monetary outlay
-incurred if that belief was acted upon. The
-father of five strapping girls (all hungry several
-times a day), who might or might not succeed
-in inducing five desirable husbands to bear the
-expense of their support, would probably discover
-that, even if home was the sphere of
-woman, there were times when she was better
-out of it. It is a curious fact that when women
-are blamed for intruding into departments of
-the labour market hitherto reserved for men, the
-abuse which is freely showered upon the in<span class="pagenum" id="Page_214">214</span>truders
-is in no wise poured forth upon the
-male persons appertaining to the said intruders&mdash;who
-have presumably neglected to provide
-the funds necessary to enable their female relations
-to pass a blameless, if unremunerative,
-existence making cakes for home consumption,
-or producing masterpieces in Berlin wool-work.
-The different treatment meted out to the guilty
-parties in this respect seems to be another
-example of the practice of apportioning blame
-only to the person least able to resent it. It is
-quite natural that man should refuse to support
-healthy and able-bodied females; but he must
-not turn round and be nasty when, as a direct
-consequence of his refusal, the healthy and
-able-bodied females endeavour to support
-themselves.</p>
-
-<p>For good or for evil a good many millions of
-us have been forced out of the environment
-which we once believed to be proper to our sex;
-and to our new environment we have to adapt
-ourselves&mdash;if we are to survive. Work in the
-factory or in the office, work which brings us
-into contact with the outside world, calls for the
-exercise of qualities and attainments which we<span class="pagenum" id="Page_215">215</span>
-had no need of before, for the abandonment of
-habits and ideas which can only hamper our
-progress in our changed surroundings. Our
-forefathers&mdash;those, at any rate, of the upper
-and middle class&mdash;admired fragility of health in
-woman; and, in order to please them, our foremothers
-fell in with the idea and appealed to
-the masculine sense of chivalry by habitual indulgence
-in complaints known as swoons and
-vapours. Persons subject to these tiresome
-and inconvenient diseases would stand a very
-poor chance of regular and well-paid employment
-as teachers, sanitary inspectors, journalists
-and typists; so teachers, sanitary inspectors, journalists
-and typists have repressed the tendency
-to swoons and vapours. In these classes an
-actual uncertainty prevails as to the nature of
-vapours, and swooning is practically a lost art.
-Instead of applying their energies to the cultivation
-of these attractive complaints, working and
-professional women are inclined to encourage
-a condition of rude bodily health which
-stands them in good stead in their work,
-and is, therefore, a valuable commercial
-asset.</p>
-
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_216">216</span></p>
-
-<p>Just as we have been forced by contact with
-the outside world to cultivate not weakness but
-health, so by the same contact we have been
-forced to cultivate not folly but intelligence.
-The silly angel may be a success in the home;
-she is not a success in trade or business. Man
-may desire to clasp her and kiss her and call her
-his own; but there are moments when he tires of
-seeing her make hay of his accounts and correspondence.
-His natural predilection for her
-type may, and often does, induce him to give her
-the preference over her fellows in business matters;
-but he usually ends by admitting that, for
-certain purposes at least, the human being with
-brains is preferable to the seraph without them.
-It has been borne in upon the modern woman
-that it pays her to have brains&mdash;even although
-they must be handled very cautiously for fear of
-wounding the susceptibilities of her master. She
-learned that lesson not in her own sphere, but in
-the world outside it; and it is a lesson that has
-already had far-reaching consequences. Having,
-in the first instance, acquired a modicum of intelligence
-because she had to, she is now acquiring
-it in larger quantities because she likes it.<span class="pagenum" id="Page_217">217</span>
-The trades which do not require the qualification
-of stupidity are counteracting the effect upon her
-of the trade which did&mdash;the compulsory trade
-of marriage.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_218">218</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XVIII">XVIII</h2>
-
-
-<p>If the division of the home, and the inevitable
-consequences that followed on that division,
-had done nothing more than teach some of
-us to value our health and respect our brains
-we should have very good cause to bless the
-break-up of that over-estimated institution. But,
-as a matter of fact, our contact with the wider
-world is doing a great deal more for us than that.
-It is testing our powers in new directions; it is
-bringing new interests into our lives; it is teaching
-us how very like we are unto our brothers&mdash;given
-similar environment; and, most important
-of all, it is sweeping away with a steady hand
-that distrust and ignorance of each other which
-was alike the curse and the natural result of
-age-long isolation in the home and immemorial
-training in the service, not of each other, but
-only of our masters.</p>
-
-<p>It may be true that women in general once
-disliked and meanly despised each other. At<span class="pagenum" id="Page_219">219</span>
-any rate, man has always desired that it should
-be true; so, the aim and object of woman’s life
-being the gratification of his desires, such mutual
-dislike and contempt was no doubt cultivated
-and affected by her. But if it was true once,
-it is not true now; except, maybe, amongst the
-silly angel class&mdash;a class already growing rarer,
-and soon, one hopes, to be well on the way to extinction.
-The working-woman, the woman with
-wider interests than her mother’s, in learning to
-respect herself is learning to respect her counterpart&mdash;the
-human being, like unto herself, who,
-under the same disadvantages, fights the same
-battle as her own. And recognizing the heaviness,
-the unfairness of those disadvantages, she
-recognizes the bond of common interest that
-unites her to her sister. In short, for the first
-time in her history she is becoming actively class-conscious.</p>
-
-<p>We speak best of that which we have seen
-with our own eyes and heard with our own ears;
-therefore I make no excuse for obtruding my
-personal experiences in this connection. For
-many years the women who came into my life
-intimately and closely were, with few exceptions,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_220">220</span>
-women who had to work&mdash;journalists, artists,
-typists, dressmakers, clerks; practically all of
-them dependent on their own work and practically
-all of them poor&mdash;some bitterly poor.
-And that class, because I know it so well, I have
-learned to respect. It is a class which has few
-pleasures in life, because it has so little money to
-spend on them; which, as a rule, works harder
-than a man would work in the same position,
-because its pay is less; which is not unexposed
-to temptation, but holds temptation as a thing
-to be resisted; yet which is tolerant to those who
-fail under it, knowing the excuse to be made for
-them. The woman belonging to that class does
-not turn away from the sinner who walks the
-street with a painted face; likely enough she
-remembers that she, too, was brought up to believe
-that the awakening of sexual desire must
-be her means of livelihood, and she knows that,
-if she had not cast that belief behind her, she,
-too, when need pressed upon her, might have
-walked the streets for hire. Wherefore she is
-more inclined to say to herself, “But for the
-grace of God, there go I.” She has learned to
-know men as the sheltered woman seldom knows<span class="pagenum" id="Page_221">221</span>
-them; to know more of the good in them, more
-of the ill; she has met and talked with them
-without compliment and without ceremony; has
-taken orders from and been rebuked by them;
-has been to them fellow-worker and sometimes
-friend; has sometimes met and fought the brute
-in them. In the same way she has worked with
-women and learned to know them; and the result
-of her experience is, that she has lost any
-natural distrust of her own sex which she may
-once have possessed; has come to rely upon her
-own sex for the help which she herself is willing
-enough to render. The sense of a common interest,
-the realization of common disabilities,
-have forced her into class-consciousness and partisanship
-of her class. I know many women of
-the type I have described&mdash;women who have
-gone through the mill, some married, some unmarried.
-And of them all I know hardly one
-whose life is not affected, to an appreciable extent,
-by the sense of fellowship with her sisters.</p>
-
-<p>The average man, it seems to me, fails utterly
-to realize how strong this sense of fellowship,
-of trade unionism, can be in us; he has (as I
-have already pointed out) explained away its<span class="pagenum" id="Page_222">222</span>
-manifestations in the match-making industry by
-accounting for them on other grounds. He has
-forgotten that it was a woman who, for the sake,
-not of a man, but of another woman, went out
-into a strange land, saying: “Whither thou
-goest I will go; thy people shall be my people
-and thy God my God.” To him, one imagines,
-that saying must always have been a dark one;
-to us there seems nothing strange in it.</p>
-
-<p>A friend of my own (who will forgive me for
-repeating her confidence) told me the other day
-of a happening in her life that, to my mind,
-exactly illustrates the awakening of class-consciousness
-amongst women. It was the careless
-speech of a man, addressed to her while she was
-still a very young girl, to the effect that all
-women over fifty should be shot. The words
-were lightly spoken, of course, and were probably
-intended half as a compliment to her manifest
-youth; certainly they were not intended as
-an insult. But their effect was to rouse in her a
-sense of insult and something akin to a passion
-of resentment that she and her like should only
-be supposed to exist so long as they were pleasing,
-only so long as they possessed the power of<span class="pagenum" id="Page_223">223</span>
-awakening sexual desire. She took them as an
-insult to herself because they were an insult to
-women in general; and, lightly spoken as they
-were they made upon her an impression which
-helped to mould her life.</p>
-
-<p>I give my friend’s experience because it seems
-to me to be typical; because amongst women of
-my own class I know others who have felt the
-same rush of anger at the revelation of a similar
-attitude towards the sex they belong to; who
-have raged inwardly as they recognized that
-character, worth, intellect were held valueless in
-woman, that nothing counted in her but the one
-capacity&mdash;the power of awaking desire. That is
-an attitude which we who have become conscious
-of our class resent with all our souls; since we
-realize that to that attitude on the part of man,
-to compliance with it on the part of woman, we
-owe the degradation of our class.</p>
-
-<p>Most important of all, the knowledge of each
-other and the custom and necessity of working
-side by side in numbers is bringing with it the
-consciousness of a new power&mdash;the power of
-organization. It is a power that we have
-hitherto lacked, not because we were born with<span class="pagenum" id="Page_224">224</span>out
-the seed of it in our souls, but because our
-fenced-in, isolated lives have given small opportunity
-for its growth and development. And
-it is a power which we are now acquiring because
-we have been forced to recognize the need of it,
-because we can no longer do without it. It is
-being borne in on us that if we are to have fair
-play, if our wages are to rise above subsistence
-point, if we are to be anything more than hewers
-of wood, drawers of water, and unthinking reproducers
-of our kind, we have to stand together;
-that if we are to have any share of our
-own in the world into which we were born, if
-our part in it is to be anything more than that
-of the beggar with outstretched hand awaiting
-the crumbs that fall from another’s table, we
-have to work together. And it is work in the
-mill, the factory, the office that is teaching us the
-lesson of public spirit, of combination for a
-common purpose&mdash;a lesson that was never
-taught us in the home where we once lived narrowly
-apart.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_225">225</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XIX">XIX</h2>
-
-
-<p>IF what I have written has any truth in it,
-I have shown that we have good grounds
-for believing that the degradation of woman’s
-position and the inferiority of woman’s
-capacities are chiefly due to the compulsory restriction
-of her energies and ambitions to the
-uncertain livelihood and ill-paid trade of marriage.
-I have shown that the trade is ill paid
-simply because it is largely compulsory; that, in
-accordance with economic law, the wife and
-mother will be held cheap for just so long as she
-is a drug in the market. I have shown how the
-unsatisfactory position of the wife and mother,
-the unsatisfactory training to which she has been
-subjected from her childhood up, affects the
-earning and productive powers of woman in
-those other occupations which the change in social
-and industrial conditions has forced her to
-adopt; and I have shown how the new influences
-engendered by her new surroundings are gradu<span class="pagenum" id="Page_226">226</span>ally
-and inevitably counteracting the peculiar
-habit of mind acquired in the narrow precincts
-of the home. It remains to be considered how
-far these influences are reaching and affecting the
-life of the home itself&mdash;how far they are likely
-to improve the position not only of the woman
-who earns her own wage and directs her own
-life, but of the woman who has no means of
-augmenting the low remuneration which is at
-present considered sufficient for the duties of a
-wife and mother.</p>
-
-<p>I suppose that in the recent history of woman
-nothing is more striking than the enormous improvement
-that has taken place in the social
-position of the spinster. In many ranks of life
-the lack of a husband is no longer a reproach;
-and some of us are even proud of the fact that
-we have fought our way in the world without
-aid from any man’s arm. At any rate, we no
-longer feel it necessary to apologize for our
-existence; and when we are assured that we have
-lost the best that life has to offer us, we are not
-unduly cast down. (I am speaking, of course,
-of the independent woman with an interest in
-life and in herself; not of the poor, mateless<span class="pagenum" id="Page_227">227</span>
-product of tradition that we exist only to awaken
-desire in man. There are still many such, no
-doubt&mdash;the victims of a servile training. On
-whom may God have mercy&mdash;man having no use
-for them and they none for themselves!) By
-sheer force of self-assertion we have lifted ourselves
-from the dust where we once crawled as
-worms and not women; we no longer wither on
-the virgin thorn&mdash;we flourish on it; and ungarnished
-though we be with olive-boughs, we
-are not ashamed when we meet with our enemies
-in the gate.</p>
-
-<p>So far as I can see, nothing like the same improvement
-has taken place in recent years in
-the position of the average married woman. So
-far as I can see, the average husband, actual
-or to be, still entertains the conviction that the
-word helpmeet, being interpreted, means second
-fiddle; and acts in accordance with that honest
-conviction. He still feels that it is the duty of
-his wife to respect him on the ground that he did
-not happen to be born a woman; he still considers
-it desirable that the mother of his children
-should not be over wise. He still clings to the
-idea that a wife is a creature to be patronized;<span class="pagenum" id="Page_228">228</span>
-with kindness, of course&mdash;patted on the head,
-not thumped&mdash;but still patronized. While he is
-yet unmated his dream of the coming affinity
-still takes the shape of some one smaller than
-himself who asks him questions while he strokes
-her hair. On the whole, therefore, he tends to
-avoid marriage with those women who are not
-fit subjects for patronage&mdash;who, be it noted, also
-tend to avoid marriage with him; and thus, in
-the natural order of things, the average wife
-is the person who is willing to submit to be
-patronized. I do not mean that there are not
-many exceptions to this rule, but they are exceptions.
-And it is obvious that human beings,
-men, or women, who consider themselves fit
-subjects for patronage are not those who make
-for progress or possess any very great power
-of improving their own status.</p>
-
-<p>Myself I have not the least doubt that such
-improvement as has already been affected in the
-status of the wife and mother has originated
-outside herself, and is, to a great extent, the
-work of the formerly contemned spinster. I
-do not mean that the spinster has always laboured
-to that end intentionally; I mean, rather,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_229">229</span>
-that as she improves her own position, as she
-takes advantage of its greater freedom, its less
-restricted opportunities, its possibilities of pleasing
-herself and directing her own life, she inevitably,
-by awaking her envy, drags after her
-the married woman who once despised her and
-whose eyes she has opened to the disadvantages
-of her own dependent situation. It is the independent
-woman with an income, earned or unearned,
-at her own disposal, with the right to
-turn her energies into whatever channel may
-seem good to her, who is steadily destroying the
-prestige of marriage; and the prestige of marriage
-has hitherto been an important factor in the
-eagerness of women for matrimony. Once it
-has gone, once it makes absolutely no difference
-to the esteem in which a woman is held, whether
-she is called Mrs. or whether she is called Miss,
-a new inducement will have to be found, at any
-rate for the woman who is not obliged to look
-upon marriage as a means of providing her with
-bread and butter. Such women will require
-some additional advantage to replace the social
-prestige to which they no longer attach any
-value&mdash;that is to say, as a condition of becoming<span class="pagenum" id="Page_230">230</span>
-wives and mothers, they will require their status
-to be raised; and their action in raising their
-own status will tend to raise the status of married
-women in general.</p>
-
-<p>Not very long ago, in one of the columns
-which a daily paper was devoting to animated
-correspondence dealing with the rights and
-wrongs of an agitation carried on by women,
-I came across a brief contribution to the discussion
-which furnished me with considerable
-food for thought. It was a letter written by a
-palpably infuriated gentleman, who denounced
-the agitation in question as the outcome of the
-unmarried woman’s jealousy of the privileges of
-her married sister. This very masculine view
-of the controversy had never struck me before;
-and, being a new idea to me, I sat down to consider
-whether it was in any way justified by facts.</p>
-
-<p>The first step, naturally, was to ascertain
-what were the special privileges which were supposed
-to arouse in those deprived of them a sense
-of maddened envy. On this point I did not rely
-solely on my own conclusions; I consulted, at
-various times, interested friends, married and
-unmarried; with the result that I have ascer<span class="pagenum" id="Page_231">231</span>tained
-the privileges of the married woman to be,
-at the outside, three in number. (About two of
-them there is no doubt; the third is already being
-invaded, and can no longer be esteemed the exclusive
-property of the matron.) They are as
-follows&mdash;</p>
-
-<p>1. The right to wear on the third finger of
-the left hand a gold ring of approved but somewhat
-monotonous pattern.</p>
-
-<p>2. The right to walk in to dinner in advance
-of women unfurnished with a gold ring of the
-approved, monotonous pattern.</p>
-
-<p>3. The right of the wife and mother to peruse
-openly and in the drawing-room certain forms
-of literature&mdash;such as French novels of an erotic
-type&mdash;which the ordinary unmarried woman is
-supposed to read only in the seclusion of her
-bedroom.</p>
-
-<p>I cannot honestly say that any one of these
-blessings arouses in me a spasm of uncontrollable
-envy, a mad desire to share in it at any cost.
-As a matter of fact, I have&mdash;like many of my
-unmarried friends&mdash;annexed one of the above
-matrimonial privileges, if not in deed, at any
-rate potentially and in thought. I have never<span class="pagenum" id="Page_232">232</span>
-yet felt the desire to study French novels of an
-erotic type; but if I ever do feel it, I shall have
-no hesitation whatever in perusing them in public&mdash;even
-on the top of a ’bus.</p>
-
-<p>One does not imagine that the mere wearing
-of a plain gold ring would in itself awaken perfervid
-enthusiasm in any woman of ordinary intelligence;
-nor does one imagine that any woman
-of ordinary intelligence would be greatly elated
-or abashed by entering a dining-room first or
-seventh&mdash;provided, of course, that the table was
-furnished with enough food to go round. One
-feels that these temptations are hardly glittering
-enough to entice reluctant woman into marriage.
-That there has been a social pressure which has
-impelled her into it I have not denied! on the
-contrary, I have affirmed it. But that social
-pressure has not taken the form of a passionate
-desire for one or two small and formal distinctions,
-but of a fear of spinsterhood with its accompaniments,
-scorn and confession of failure
-in your trade. And as spinsterhood grows more
-enviable, so does the fear of it grow less.</p>
-
-<p>It may be objected that in my brief list of the
-matron’s privileges I have omitted the most im<span class="pagenum" id="Page_233">233</span>portant
-of them all&mdash;motherhood. I have done
-so deliberately and for two reasons&mdash;because
-under any system of more or less compulsory
-marriage there must always be an appreciable
-number of wives who look upon motherhood
-rather as a burden than as a privilege; and because
-motherhood does not appertain exclusively
-to the married state. There is such a thing as
-an illegitimate birth-rate.</p>
-
-<p>I myself am far from desiring that the wife
-and mother should not possess privileges; it
-seems to me that the work of a woman who
-brings up children decently, creditably, and honourably
-is of such immense importance that it
-ought to be suitably rewarded. (That, of
-course, is a very different thing from admitting
-that a person who has gone through a ceremony
-which entitles her to hold sexual intercourse with
-another person is thereby entitled to consider herself
-my superior.) But I am very certain that it
-never will be suitably rewarded until it is undertaken
-freely and without pressure, and until the
-wife and mother herself summons up courage to
-insist on adequate payment for her services. It
-may not be necessary that that payment should<span class="pagenum" id="Page_234">234</span>
-be made in actual money; but, in whatever form
-it is made, it must be of a more satisfactory and
-substantial nature than the present so-called
-privileges of the married woman, involving an
-all-round improvement in her status. And that
-all-round improvement she will demand&mdash;and
-get&mdash;only when it is borne in upon her that her
-unmarried sisters have placed themselves in a
-position to get out of life a great deal more than
-she is permitted to get out of it. When she
-realizes that fact to the full she will go on strike&mdash;and
-good luck to her!</p>
-
-<p>Meanwhile, it seems to me that there is something
-more than a little pathetic in the small airs
-of superiority which are still affected by the
-average unintelligent matron towards her husbandless
-sister. Personally I always feel tender
-towards these little manifestations of the right
-to look down on the “incomplete,” the unconsciously
-servile imitation of the masculine attitude
-in this respect. You watch the dull lives
-that so many of these married women lead, you
-realize the artificial limitations placed upon their
-powers, you pity them for the sapping of individuality
-which is the inevitable result of re<span class="pagenum" id="Page_235">235</span>pression
-of their own and unquestioning acceptance
-of other people’s opinions, for the cramping
-of their interests, perhaps for the necessity
-of cultivating the animal side of their natures&mdash;and
-you do not grudge them such small compensations
-as comes their way. It will be better
-for them and for their children when they realize
-in what this fancied superiority of the married
-woman consists; but meanwhile let them enjoy it.</p>
-
-<p>Only a little while past I met a perfect example
-of this tendency on the part of a married
-woman to plume herself on marriage as a virtue&mdash;or
-rather, I met her again. She had been my
-friend once&mdash;several years ago&mdash;and I had liked
-her for her intelligence, her humour, her individual
-outlook on life. We knew each other
-well for some months; then we were separated,
-and she wrote to me that she was getting married;
-and with her marriage she gave up professional
-work and passed out of my life. I heard
-little and saw nothing of her for years, until she
-wrote that she was staying near me and would
-like us to meet again. I went, and she told me
-what her life had been since she married. It
-was a story that I can only call foul&mdash;of insult,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_236">236</span>
-brutality, and degradation. What sickened me
-about it was the part that remained unspoken&mdash;the
-thought that the woman I once knew, clean,
-high-minded, and self-respecting, should have
-consented to stand for so long in the relation of
-wife to such a man as she described. One could
-see what contact with him had done for her; it
-had dragged her down morally and spiritually;
-the pitch had defiled her. She had, I knew, a
-small income of her own&mdash;sufficient to live upon
-without having recourse to her husband&mdash;so
-I urged her bluntly to leave him. She refused,
-crying feebly; made the usual rejoinder of weak-minded
-married women run into a corner&mdash;that
-I was not married myself and could not understand;
-and spent another hour bewailing her lot
-with tears. I saw that her courage and character
-had been sapped out of her, that it was no
-use appealing to what she no longer possessed,
-and that all she asked was sympathy of the type
-that listens with an occasional pat on the
-shoulder or soothing stroke on the arm; so I
-gave of it, in silence, as well as I could. At the
-end of a good hour she dried her tears, and
-declared that she was selfish to talk about noth<span class="pagenum" id="Page_237">237</span>ing
-but herself, that she must hear my news and
-what I had been doing. I did not like to refuse,
-for I thought it better to turn her thoughts away
-from her troubles, if only for a little; besides,
-she had liked me genuinely once, and I think her
-interest in me was still genuine. But as I complied
-and talked to her about myself, I felt miserably
-ashamed. For, as it happened, I was very
-happy then&mdash;happier, in some ways, than I had
-ever been in my life, since, almost for the first
-time in my life, I had learned the meaning of
-good luck. I thought of all the kindness, the
-friendliness, the consideration that was being
-shown to me&mdash;I thought of my work and my
-pleasure in it&mdash;of my interest in work done with
-others and the sense of comradeship it brings.
-And I thought how the poor soul who had wept
-her handkerchief into a rag must realize the
-contrast of our two lives, must feel how unjust
-it was that one woman should have so little and
-another have so much. So, as I say, I felt
-ashamed, and talked on, conscious of mental discomfort,
-until I saw her looking at me thoughtfully,
-as if she were about to speak. I stopped
-to hear what she had to say; and it was this&mdash;</p>
-
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_238">238</span></p>
-
-<p>“I suppose you will never marry now?”</p>
-
-<p>For a moment I did not see the real purport
-of the question, and I dare say I looked astonished
-as I answered that it was most unlikely,
-and I had no thought of it. She surveyed me
-steadily, to make sure that I was speaking the
-truth; then, having apparently convinced herself
-that I was, she sighed.</p>
-
-<p>“It is a pity. Every woman ought to get
-married. Your life isn’t complete without it.
-It is an experience....”</p>
-
-<p>Those, as far as I remember, were the exact
-words she used. (There is no danger that she
-will ever read them.) They left me dumb; their
-unconscious irony was so pathetic and so dreadful.
-Marriage an experience&mdash;it had been one
-for her! And “your life isn’t complete without
-it.” This from a woman whose husband
-had threatened to knock pieces out of her with a
-poker! The situation seemed to me beyond
-tears and beyond laughter&mdash;the poor, insulted,
-bullied thing, finding her one source of pride in
-the fact that she had experienced sexual intercourse.
-If there had been a child I could have
-understood; but there had, I think, never been a<span class="pagenum" id="Page_239">239</span>
-child&mdash;at any rate, there was not one living. If
-there had been, I believe I should have said to
-her what was in my mind&mdash;for the child’s sake;
-I should have hated to think of it growing up in
-that atmosphere, in its mother’s squalid faith in
-the essential glory of animalism. But as there
-was no child, and as she was so dulled, so
-broken, I said nothing. It was all she had&mdash;the
-consciousness that she, from her vantage-ground
-of completeness and experience, had the
-right to look down on me&mdash;on one of the unmarried,
-a woman who “could not understand.”
-It was her one ewe-lamb of petty consolation;
-and I had not the heart to try and take it from
-her.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_240">240</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XX">XX</h2>
-
-
-<p>My intention in writing this book has not
-been to inveigh against the institution of
-marriage, the life companionship of man
-and woman; all that I have inveighed against has
-been the largely compulsory character of that institution&mdash;as
-far as one-half of humanity is concerned&mdash;the
-sweated trade element in it, and the
-glorification of certain qualities and certain episodes
-and experiences of life at the expense of all
-the others. I believe&mdash;because I have seen it in
-the working&mdash;that the companionship in marriage
-of self-respecting man and self-respecting
-woman is a very perfect thing; but I also believe
-that, under present conditions, it is not
-easy for self-respecting woman to find a mate
-with whom she can live on the terms demanded
-by her self-respect. Hence a distinct tendency
-on her part to avoid marriage. Those women
-who look at the matter in this light are those
-who, while not denying that matrimony may be<span class="pagenum" id="Page_241">241</span>
-an excellent thing in itself, realize that there
-are some excellent things which may be bought
-too dear. That is the position of a good many
-of us in these latter days. If we are more or less
-politely incredulous when we are informed that
-we are leading an unnatural existence, it is not
-because we have no passions, but because life
-to us means a great deal more than one of its
-possible episodes. If we decline to listen with
-becoming reverence to disquisitions on the broadening
-effect of motherhood upon our lives, the
-deep and miraculous understanding that it brings
-into our hearts, it is not because we are contemptuous
-of maternity, but because we have
-met so many silly persons who brought babies
-into the world and remained just as silly as they
-were before. We are quite aware, too, that it
-is, for the most part, women of our own unmated
-class, and, likely enough, of our own way
-of thinking, who spend their days in teaching
-bungling mothers how to rear the children who
-would otherwise only come into the world in
-order to afford employment to the undertaker
-by going out of it. (A considerable proportion
-of the infant population of this country would<span class="pagenum" id="Page_242">242</span>
-be in a parlous state if the “superfluous women”
-thereof were suddenly caught up into the air and
-dumped <i lang="fr">en bloc</i> in the Sahara.)</p>
-
-<p>And in this connection I feel it necessary to
-state that I have hitherto sought in vain in real
-life for that familiar figure in fiction&mdash;the unmarried
-woman whose withered existence is
-passed in ceaseless and embittered craving for
-the possession of a child of her own. The sufferings
-of this unfortunate creature, as depicted
-by masculine writers, have several times brought
-me to the verge of tears; it is difficult to believe
-that they are entirely the result of vivid masculine
-imagination; but honesty compels me to admit
-that I have never discovered their counterpart
-in life, in spite of the fact that my way has
-led me amongst spinsters of all ages. Young
-unmarried women have told me frankly that they
-would like to bear a child; a very few elderly
-unmarried women have told me that they would
-have preferred to marry; and quite a number of
-married women have told me that they should
-have done better for themselves by remaining
-single. I have known wives who desired maternity
-as anxiously as others desired to avoid<span class="pagenum" id="Page_243">243</span>
-it; but the spinster whose days are passed in
-gloomy contemplation of her lack of olive-branches
-I have not yet met. I started by believing
-in her, just as I started by believing that
-the world held nothing for me but marriage and
-reproduction of my kind. Later on I discovered
-that there were more things in heaven and earth
-than marriage and reproduction of my kind, and
-I have no reason to suppose that I am the only
-woman who has made that discovery.</p>
-
-<p>The women I have known who lamented their
-single state as a real evil have been actuated in
-their dislike of it by mixed motives. A desire to
-bear children has, perhaps, been one; but it has
-always been interwoven with the desire to improve
-their position socially or commercially, and
-the corresponding fear of failure or poverty implied
-by spinsterhood. So far as my experience
-goes, the only women who fret passionately at
-the lack of children of their own are married
-women whose husbands are desirous of children.</p>
-
-<p>I should be the last to deny that many unmarried
-women have the sense of maternity strongly
-developed; but the sense of maternity, as I see it,
-is not completely dependent on the accidents of<span class="pagenum" id="Page_244">244</span>
-marriage and child-birth. As I have already
-said, I believe it is not the physical side of
-maternity&mdash;the side which appeals so strongly
-to men&mdash;which appeals most strongly to women;
-and from the other, and, to me, infinitely more
-beautiful side, no unmarried woman is necessarily
-debarred. The spinster who devotes herself
-to permanent lamentation over her lack of descendants
-must (if she exists) be a person who
-has never risen above the male conception of
-motherhood as a physical and instinctive process.
-Some of the best mothers I have met have never
-borne a child; but one does not imagine that it
-will be counted to them for unrighteousness that
-the children who rise up and call them blessed
-are not their own. Nor is it childhood alone
-which enkindles the sense of maternity in
-women; the truest mother I know is one who
-enwraps with her love a “child” who came
-into the world before she was thought of.</p>
-
-<p>After all, there is a kinship that is not that
-of the flesh, and some of us are very little the
-children of our parents. The people who have
-framed and influenced the conditions under which
-we live, whose thoughts have moulded our lives,<span class="pagenum" id="Page_245">245</span>
-have also had a share in our making. It is possible
-that descendants of Homer walk the earth
-to-day&mdash;very worthy persons whose existence is
-of no particular moment to any but themselves.
-Shakespeare was married I know, and I believe
-he was the father of a family; but of how many
-that family consisted, what were their names
-and what became of them all, I have never even
-troubled to inquire. Did Goethe leave descendants,
-or did he not? I frankly confess that I
-don’t know, simply because I have never had the
-slightest curiosity on the subject. But Faust has
-been part of my life. It matters very little to the
-world at large what became of the children
-whom Jean Jacques Rousseau handed over to
-the tender mercies of a foundling hospital; but
-there are very few people alive to-day to whom
-it does not matter that the current of the world’s
-striving was turned into a new channel by the
-spiritual sons of Rousseau&mdash;the men who made
-the French Revolution. Reproduction is not
-everything; the men and women who have
-striven to shorten the hours of child-labour have
-often been possessed of a keener sense of responsibility
-and tenderness, a keener sense of father<span class="pagenum" id="Page_246">246</span>hood
-and motherhood, than the parents whose
-children they sought to protect. If I were one
-of those who have so striven, I should consider
-that the help I had given to the world was no
-less worthy of honour and commendation than
-that of the paterfamilias who marches a family
-of fourteen to church on Sundays. If humanity
-had only been created in order to reproduce its
-kind, we might still be dodging cave-bears in the
-intervals of grubbing up roots with our nails.
-It is not only the children who matter: there is
-the world into which they are born. Every
-human being who influences for the better, however
-slightly, the conditions under which he lives
-is doing something for those who come after;
-and thus, it seems to me, that those women who
-are proving by their lives that marriage is not a
-necessity for them, that maternity is not a necessity
-for them, are preparing a heritage of fuller
-humanity for the daughters of others&mdash;who will
-be daughters of their own in the spirit, if not in
-the flesh. The home of the future will be more
-of an abiding-place and less of a prison because
-they have made it obvious that, so far as many
-women are concerned, the home can be done<span class="pagenum" id="Page_247">247</span>
-without; and if the marriage of the future is
-what it ought to be&mdash;a voluntary contract on
-both sides&mdash;it will be because they have proved
-the right of every woman to refuse it if she
-will, by demonstrating that there are other means
-of earning a livelihood than bearing children and
-keeping house. It is the woman without a husband
-to support her, the woman who has no
-home but such as she makes for herself by her
-own efforts, who is forcing a reluctant masculine
-generation to realize that she is something more
-than the breeding factor of the race. By her
-very existence she is altering the male conception
-of her sex.</p>
-
-<p>According to latter-day notions, to speak in
-praise of celibacy in man or in woman is tantamount
-to committing the crime of high treason
-against the race. Other centuries&mdash;some of them
-with social systems quite as scientific as our own&mdash;have
-not been of that way of thinking; and
-one is half inclined to suspect that the modern
-dislike of the celibate has its root in the natural
-annoyance of an over-sexed and mentally lax
-generation at receiving ocular demonstration
-of the fact that the animal passions can be kept<span class="pagenum" id="Page_248">248</span>
-under control. It saves such a lot of trouble to
-assume at once that they cannot be kept under
-control; so, in place of the priest, we have the
-medicine man, whose business it is to make
-pathological excuses for original sin. Myself I
-have a good deal of respect for the celibate; not
-because he has no children, but because he is
-capable of self-control&mdash;which is a thing respectable
-in itself.</p>
-
-<p>At the same time, I do not advocate celibacy
-except for persons whom it suits; but I do not see
-why persons whom it does suit should be
-ashamed of acknowledging the fact. I am inclined
-to think that they are more numerous than
-is commonly supposed, and I will admit frankly
-that I am exceedingly glad that it seems, in these
-latter days, to suit so many women. I am glad,
-not because the single life appears to me essentially
-better than the married, but because I believe
-that the conditions of marriage, as they affect
-women, can only be improved by the women
-who do without marriage&mdash;and do without it
-gladly. Other generations have realized that
-particular duties could best be performed by persons
-without engrossing domestic interests; and I<span class="pagenum" id="Page_249">249</span>
-believe that the wives and mothers of this generation
-require the aid of women unhampered by
-such interests&mdash;women who will eventually raise
-the value of the wife and mother in the eyes of
-the husband and father by making it clear to
-him that she did not enter the married state
-solely because there was nothing else for her to
-do, and that his child was not born simply because
-its mother had no other way of earning a living.
-There are women married every day, there are
-children born every day, for no better reasons
-than these.</p>
-
-<hr class="chap" />
-<div class="chapter"></div>
-<p><span class="pagenum" id="Page_250">250</span></p>
-
-
-
-
-<h2 class="nobreak" id="XXI">XXI</h2>
-
-
-<p>And the husband and father? What does
-he stand to gain or lose by that gradual
-readjustment of the conditions inside the
-home which must inevitably follow on the improvement
-of woman’s position outside the
-home, the recognition of her right to an alternative
-career and the consequent discovery that she
-can be put to other uses than sexual attraction
-and maternity? How will he be affected by the
-fact that marriage has become a voluntary
-trade?</p>
-
-<p>So far as one can see, he stands to lose something
-of his comfortable pride in his sex, his
-aristocratic pleasure in the accident of his birth,
-his aristocratic consciousness that deference is
-due to him merely because he was born in the
-masculine purple. The woman who has established
-her claim to humanity will no longer submit
-herself to the law of imposed stupidity; so<span class="pagenum" id="Page_251">251</span>
-the belief in her inherent idiocy will have to go,
-along with the belief in his own inherent wisdom.
-No longer will he take his daily enjoyment in
-despising the wife of his bosom&mdash;because nature
-has decreed that she shall be the wife of his
-bosom and not the husband of some one else’s.
-There will be a readjustment of the wage-scale,
-too&mdash;a readjustment of the conditions of labour.
-With better conditions available outside the
-home, the wife and mother&mdash;no longer under the
-impression that it is a sin to think and a shame
-to be single&mdash;will decline to work inside the
-home for a wage that can go no lower, will decline
-to take all the dirty, monotonous and unpleasant
-work merely because her husband prefers
-to get out of it. She will agree that it is
-quite natural that he should dislike such dirty,
-monotonous or unpleasant toil; but she will point
-out to him that it is also quite natural that she
-should dislike it. And one imagines that they
-will come to a compromise. So far, under a
-non-compulsory marriage system, he would stand
-to lose; but on the other hand he would stand to
-gain&mdash;greatly.</p>
-
-<p>He could be reasonably sure that his wife<span class="pagenum" id="Page_252">252</span>
-married him because she wanted to marry him,
-not because no other trade was open to her, not
-because she was afraid of being jeered and
-sneered at as an old maid. That in itself would
-be an advantage substantial enough to outweigh
-some loss of sex dignity. For it would be only
-his sense of sex dignity that would be impaired;
-his sense of personal dignity would be enhanced
-by the knowledge that he was a matter not of
-necessity but of choice. His wife’s attitude towards
-him would be a good deal less complimentary
-to his class, but a good deal more complimentary
-to himself. The attitude of the girl
-who would “marry any one to get out of this”
-is by no means complimentary to her future
-husband.</p>
-
-<p>The fact that, under a voluntary system of
-marriage, he would have to pay, either in money
-or some equivalent of money, for work which
-he now gets done for nothing&mdash;and despises accordingly&mdash;would
-also bring with it a compensatory
-advantage. Woman’s work in the home is
-often enough inefficient simply because it is
-sweated; there is a point at which cheap labour
-tends to become inefficient, and therefore the<span class="pagenum" id="Page_253">253</span>
-reverse of cheap; and that point appears to have
-been reached in a good many existing homes.</p>
-
-<p>There is, it seems to me, another respect in
-which man, as well as woman, would eventually
-be the gainer by the recognition of woman’s right
-to humanity on her own account. The custom of
-regarding one half of the race as sent into the
-world to excite desire in the other half does not
-appear to be of real advantage to either moiety,
-in that it has produced the over-sexed man and
-the over-sexed woman, the attitude of mind
-which sneers at self-control. Such an attitude
-the establishment of marriage for woman upon a
-purely voluntary basis ought to go far to correct;
-since it is hardly conceivable that women, who
-have other careers open to them and by whom
-ignorance is no longer esteemed as a merit, will
-consent to run quite unnecessary risks from which
-their unmarried sisters are exempt. When the
-intending wife and mother no longer considers
-it her duty to be innocent and complacent, the
-intending husband and father will learn, from
-sheer necessity, to see more virtue in self-restraint.
-With results beneficial to the race&mdash;and
-incidentally to himself. Humanity would<span class="pagenum" id="Page_254">254</span>
-seem to have paid rather a heavy price for the
-feminine habit of turning a blind eye to evil
-which it dignifies by the name of innocence.</p>
-
-<p>I have sufficient faith in my brethren to be
-in no wise alarmed by dismal prophecies of their
-rapid moral deterioration when our helplessness
-and general silliness no longer make a pathetic
-appeal to their sense of pity and authority. No
-doubt the consciousness of superiority is favourable
-to the cultivation of certain virtues&mdash;the
-virtues of the patron; just as the consciousness of
-inferiority is favourable to the cultivation of
-certain other virtues&mdash;the virtues of the patronized.
-But I will not do my brother the injustice
-of believing that the virtues of the patron are
-the only ones he possesses; on the contrary, I
-have found him to be possessed of many others,
-have seen him just to an equal, courteous and
-considerate to those whom he had no reason to
-pity or despise. When the ordinary man and the
-ordinary wife no longer stand towards each other
-in the attitude of patron and patronized the
-virtues of both will need overhauling&mdash;that is
-all.</p>
-
-<p>Nor does one see how the advancement of<span class="pagenum" id="Page_255">255</span>
-marriage to the position of a voluntary trade
-can work for anything but good upon the children
-born of marriage. Motherhood can be
-sacred only when it is voluntary, when the child
-is desired by a woman who feels herself fit to
-bear and to rear it; the child who is born because
-of his mother’s inability to earn her bread by any
-trade but marriage, because of his mother’s fear
-of the social disgrace of spinsterhood, has no real
-place in the world. He comes into it simply because
-the woman who gives him life was less
-capable or less courageous than her sisters; and
-it is not for such reasons that a man should be
-born.</p>
-
-<p>And I fail to see that a future generation will
-be in any way injured because the mothers of
-that generation are no longer required to please
-their husbands by stunting and narrowing such
-brains as they were born with, because ignorance
-and silliness are no longer considered essential
-qualifications for the duties of wifehood and
-motherhood. The recognition of woman’s complete
-humanity, apart from husband or lover,
-must mean inevitably the recognition of her right
-to develop every side of that humanity, the men<span class="pagenum" id="Page_256">256</span>tal
-and moral as well as the physical and sexual;
-and inevitably and insensibly the old aristocratic
-masculine cruelty which, because she was an inferior,
-imposed stupidity upon her and made
-lack of intelligence a preliminary condition of
-motherhood, will become a thing of the past.
-Nor will a man be less fitted to fight the battle
-of life with honour and advantage to himself,
-because he was not born the son of a fool.</p>
-
-<p>The male half of creation is still apt to talk
-(if not quite so confidently as of yore) as if the
-instinct and desire for maternity were the one
-overpowering factor in our lives. It may be so
-as regards the majority of us, though the shrinkage
-of the birth-rate in so far as it is attributable
-to women would seem to point the other way;
-but as I have shown it is impossible to be certain
-on the point until other instincts and desires have
-been given fair play. Under a voluntary system
-of marriage they would be given fair play;
-in a world where a woman might make what she
-would of her own life, might interest herself in
-what seemed good to her, she would hardly bear
-a child unless she desired to bear it. That is to
-say she would bear a child not just because it<span class="pagenum" id="Page_257">257</span>
-was the right thing for her to do&mdash;since there
-would be a great many other right things for
-her to do&mdash;but because the maternal instinct was
-so strong in her that it overpowered other interests,
-desires or ambitions, because she felt in her
-the longing to give birth to a son of whom she
-had need. And such a son would come into a
-world where his place was made ready for him;
-being welcome, and a hundred times welcome,
-because he was loved before he was conceived.</p>
-
-<p>Nor does one imagine that such a son, when
-he grew of an age to understand, would think
-the less of his mother because he knew that he
-was no accident in her life, but a choice; because
-he learned that his birth was something more
-than a necessary and inevitable incident in her
-compulsory trade. One does not imagine that
-he would reverence her the less because he saw in
-her not only the breeding factor in the family,
-but a being in all respects as human as himself,
-who had suffered for him and suffered of her own
-free will; nor that he would be less grateful to
-her because she, having the unquestioned right to
-hold life from him, had chosen instead to give it.</p>
-
-<div class="transnote">
-
-<h3>Transcriber's Notes</h3>
-
-<p>Obvious typographical errors have been silently corrected.</p> Variations
-in hyphenation, spelling and punctuation remain unchanged.
-
-<p>In the Preface “largely unnecessary and <a href="#avoidable">unavoidable</a>” has been changed
-to “largely unnecessary and avoidable”</p>
-
-<p>The table of contents has been added by the transcriber.</p>
-
-</div>
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